1 00:00:02,120 --> 00:00:05,799 Let me give everybody a formula that I think could help on the golf course 2 00:00:05,839 --> 00:00:10,800 and in life. E plus R equals oh. Because oftentimes we have an 3 00:00:10,839 --> 00:00:14,039 event and say it's not a great event, all its license into the woods. 4 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:17,800 We have to remember there's a plus R before the outcome, and it's 5 00:00:17,839 --> 00:00:24,000 how you respond, and if your response is in a more positive leading way, 6 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:27,160 things like I've got this, I can do this, well, how 7 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:30,800 can I best move forward? How can I still achieve the goals that I 8 00:00:30,879 --> 00:00:34,960 want in this situation? What do I need to do? Here's an event 9 00:00:35,039 --> 00:00:41,200 that affects so many people in golf. E slow play outcome oftentimes ruins my 10 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:46,439 tempo. My game fell apart. So we're blaming something outside of ourselves which 11 00:00:46,439 --> 00:00:49,880 we have no control over on our game. Well, guess what happens the 12 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:54,399 next time you play slow play outcome, lose my tempo, there goes my 13 00:00:54,479 --> 00:00:59,399 game. The R is the key. Hi. This is Bob Ferris from 14 00:00:59,439 --> 00:01:04,280 Meridian, Idaho, and I play at Centennial Golf Course. This is Golf 15 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:12,680 Smarter number nine hundred three. The fastest and easiest way to consistency is through 16 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:19,840 flow state golf with Debbie O'Connell This is Golf Smarter, sharing stories, tips 17 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:25,599 and insights from great golf minds to help you lower your score and raise your 18 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:30,560 golf IQ. Here's your host, Fred Green. Welcome to the Golf Smarter 19 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:34,319 Podcast, Debbie, Fred, thank you so much. I'm excited to be 20 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:42,040 here with you. I love I have a natural tendency to be attracted to 21 00:01:42,079 --> 00:01:46,280 overachievers, so you and I are going to be really good friends. We 22 00:01:46,879 --> 00:01:52,159 thank you. You are you are. Reading your resume and everything you've done 23 00:01:52,799 --> 00:01:57,319 just makes me want to ask a lot of questions. You're quite remarkable. 24 00:01:57,879 --> 00:02:00,040 Well, thank you so much. I hope I can deliver for your audience 25 00:02:00,079 --> 00:02:05,079 and help everybody learn some great things that they can implement in their lives. 26 00:02:06,159 --> 00:02:08,159 Well, one of the things I've been saying about Golf Smarter since the very 27 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:15,240 beginning is that I really believe that if you have an understanding of strategy or 28 00:02:15,319 --> 00:02:19,800 what we call a course management, and have a strong metal game, that 29 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:23,159 you can lower your scores faster than if you just work on your swing mechanics 30 00:02:23,879 --> 00:02:30,280 and in reading your ebook, which I really enjoyed. Thank you. You 31 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:35,800 even say spending time on mindset is the fastest and easiest way to improve your 32 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,439 game. So we're already in sync. We are. And it's so true 33 00:02:39,599 --> 00:02:44,400 because when you step up to any shot, and I think everybody would agree 34 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:50,400 with confidence, you increase your chances of hitting a better shot when you have 35 00:02:50,479 --> 00:02:53,719 that belief in yourself, when you can visualize the shot so clearly the way 36 00:02:53,759 --> 00:03:00,840 you want it, you will step up to it and perform measurably better than 37 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:05,520 if you don't. And what's great, Fred is you can improve every part 38 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:08,080 of your game with the mindset shift. So it's not like, Okay, 39 00:03:08,159 --> 00:03:14,039 let's go work on mindset for putting and then we spend hours working on that, 40 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:17,759 and now let's go spend mindset on chipping. It's not We improve mindset 41 00:03:19,159 --> 00:03:23,840 and every area of your game, and ultimately, truly your life will also 42 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:30,280 improve. So tell me and please give me long answers. I have no 43 00:03:30,319 --> 00:03:34,159 problem with long answers. People think they need to give soundbites. You don't 44 00:03:34,159 --> 00:03:40,280 need to do that here. But let's talk about what your ebook. Let's 45 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:45,199 share what it's all about, and what the flow state is and how to 46 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:50,560 get there. It's it's a fascinating state of mind. There is a researcher, 47 00:03:51,039 --> 00:03:53,360 me Hi Chick sent me. High is his name. I think he 48 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:57,319 has every letter in the alphabet in his name. Back in nineteen in the 49 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:02,840 nineteen seventies, he went on this world tour and researched people who were really 50 00:04:02,879 --> 00:04:09,840 happy and excelling in life, and excelling in terms of fulfillment and joy as 51 00:04:09,879 --> 00:04:15,319 opposed to just success as sometimes we look at it in terms of maybe dollars 52 00:04:15,479 --> 00:04:19,399 or homes or cars, but it was encompassing and those who were also excelling 53 00:04:19,519 --> 00:04:25,720 in their hobbies and their sports. What he found was they would get to 54 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:30,959 this certain state of mind where pretty much the conscious mind shutdown and the unconscious 55 00:04:30,959 --> 00:04:35,879 mind would take over, and all of the training that they put in would 56 00:04:36,439 --> 00:04:42,319 automatically take over and they could play to their best ability. They could live 57 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:46,560 life in the present moment, which allowed them to feel the most fulfilled. 58 00:04:47,319 --> 00:04:54,720 And after years of studying this, he found there were certain things that everyone 59 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:59,920 needed to do to invite flow state. Now here's the key with flow state. 60 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:03,079 You can't try to get into it. You can't force yourself to get 61 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:08,839 into it. You have to set yourself up to invite it, because, 62 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:13,399 after all, it is flow. So we want to have flow and you've 63 00:05:13,399 --> 00:05:16,120 all been in flow state. Imagine the time that you were driving your car 64 00:05:16,920 --> 00:05:23,120 and you arrived home and you just thought for a moment, oh my goodness, 65 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:29,519 I don't remember driving home at all. You can't even picture what you 66 00:05:29,639 --> 00:05:32,639 were doing, what you were thinking, almost like you just drove the car. 67 00:05:32,759 --> 00:05:35,800 Or you realize you were thinking about something else and you arrived tom or 68 00:05:35,879 --> 00:05:41,120 you went on one of those automatics and left your driveway with an intention of 69 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:46,800 going one direction and then turned to the direction that you would naturally go, 70 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:50,920 the old habit. So you've all been in flow state because we can recognize 71 00:05:50,959 --> 00:05:56,399 that. So what happened in that state, Your unconscious mind, which takes 72 00:05:56,439 --> 00:06:02,959 in about eleven million bits of information every second, was literally watching and observing 73 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:08,839 and doing all the great techniques that you know and strategies to drive a car 74 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:13,839 as your conscious mind was somewhere else. And that is truly flow staked. 75 00:06:14,639 --> 00:06:17,959 But so many golfers, recreational golfers. I don't want to talk about elite 76 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:24,240 level golfers because it's too hard to relate to them. I'm sorry, because 77 00:06:24,959 --> 00:06:29,519 they're at that space that we're trying to find, and we watch TV and 78 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:33,360 think, oh, I can get there, But for the recreational golfer, 79 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:40,439 there's no trust in what they're doing. I mean, I play that's who 80 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:45,000 I am, that's who I play with, and you just you could just 81 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:48,720 see it and especially hear it. I've played with some people the other day 82 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:50,759 and after the first hole, I was like, Oh, this is gonna 83 00:06:50,759 --> 00:06:55,959 be a long day. It's like, dude, give yourself a Break's that 84 00:06:56,079 --> 00:06:59,199 triple bogeye is out of your system now, Okay, just let it go. 85 00:07:00,199 --> 00:07:05,959 But how does the recreational golfer believe in themselves to let that go? 86 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:11,600 Such a great question. I remember I was a head golf professional for fifteen 87 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:15,439 years at a couple of different clubs, and the member would come in and 88 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:18,519 I'd say, hey, mister or miss whomever it was, how are you 89 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,519 today? Well, I don't know, I haven't hit a golf shot yet. 90 00:07:21,519 --> 00:07:26,839 It was oftentimes the answer. And I would always think, oh my 91 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:30,199 gosh, if you would be in a happy, positive state and get ready 92 00:07:30,199 --> 00:07:34,319 to have an amazing day, you probably will go out and play better rather 93 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:40,439 than having your golf game influence how you feel and what the rest of your 94 00:07:40,519 --> 00:07:45,519 day is going to be like. So it truly is mindset, and there 95 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:49,959 are conscious strategies. And when you know, most golf professionals teach the mental 96 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:56,439 game of golf. It is basically conscious strategies, which I agree and I 97 00:07:56,680 --> 00:08:01,199 teach it, and it is so appolutely empowering. One is your thoughts. 98 00:08:01,959 --> 00:08:05,480 I also go deeper with my coaching as well, and we'll get to that. 99 00:08:05,519 --> 00:08:09,079 But it does start with your thoughts. Your thoughts influence your emotions and 100 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:13,639 then your body language. So if you know, I think many people have 101 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:16,040 heard about the power posing all right, if you just stand in a confident 102 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:22,120 way, you literally can start to shift the hormones in your body and feel 103 00:08:22,199 --> 00:08:24,800 more confidently. I mean most people know about body language. The other way. 104 00:08:24,879 --> 00:08:30,120 You can look at someone and see how their body reacted to their emotions. 105 00:08:30,600 --> 00:08:35,480 Wells are also our emotions react to our bodies. So one is standing 106 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:39,200 more confidently thinking positive thoughts. I don't know if you remember the story about 107 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:46,720 Amy Brocker step She played the sixteenth hole at the Waste Management Golf Tournament and 108 00:08:46,759 --> 00:08:52,720 Phoenix, Arizona, and during the practice round with Gary Woodland and Matt Coucher 109 00:08:52,799 --> 00:08:58,240 was there as well, but Gary really Amy the sixteenth hole during the part 110 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:05,600 three the Yeah, so I imagine it wasn't completely packed during the practice round, 111 00:09:05,600 --> 00:09:11,600 but there were still hundreds of people in the stands. And Amy has 112 00:09:11,639 --> 00:09:16,639 down syndrome, but she is a golfer who has a nice golf swing, 113 00:09:16,759 --> 00:09:20,879 plays a great game. She's been involved in LPGA programs for a long time, 114 00:09:20,919 --> 00:09:26,799 so she had this opportunity. And when she started, the PGA put 115 00:09:26,879 --> 00:09:31,960 a microphone on her so you hear her talking to her dad on the first 116 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:33,759 hole and he says, she got this. She said, I got this, 117 00:09:33,039 --> 00:09:37,519 and you could tell she was back there picturing her shot. She hits 118 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:41,519 the t shot, it goes in the greenside bunker and Gary's you know, 119 00:09:41,639 --> 00:09:43,759 saying, wow, what a great shot, because she really has an impressive 120 00:09:43,799 --> 00:09:48,679 swing. And as she's walking, she's looking at everybody in their waving in 121 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:52,919 their clap and she's like, oh my gosh, they love me. You 122 00:09:52,960 --> 00:09:56,679 know. She is so in the present moment. So everyone can learn from 123 00:09:56,720 --> 00:10:00,120 this because imagine yourself in that situation and you have, you know, of 124 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:03,759 quite a few hundred people in this huge grandstand, you're playing with two tour 125 00:10:03,879 --> 00:10:09,039 professionals. How many people would start to think and worry about what others are 126 00:10:09,039 --> 00:10:13,600 going to think and don't embarrass herself. So think of that language and what 127 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:18,039 it does to then your performance compared to Amy in thinking I've got this. 128 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:20,799 So she goes and Gary says, do you want to hit out the bunker? 129 00:10:20,960 --> 00:10:26,200 And she says yes, and so she proceeds to walk towards the monker, 130 00:10:26,240 --> 00:10:28,840 is saying I've got this, I can do this, i can do 131 00:10:28,879 --> 00:10:31,360 this, and she steps You're listening to her the whole time. You hear 132 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:35,120 her the whole time because she's miked up. It's I mean, it's a 133 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:39,679 tear jerker. So she hits it out of the monker to about ten feet. 134 00:10:39,799 --> 00:10:43,519 The crowd goes crazy, Gary and the caddy they're high five and her 135 00:10:43,639 --> 00:10:46,759 way to go, well, an awesome, Amy, You're awesome. This 136 00:10:46,919 --> 00:10:50,759 is great, and she's like thank you. So she's just also, how 137 00:10:50,799 --> 00:10:54,240 many of you out there don't accept compliments? Well, she says thank you 138 00:10:54,679 --> 00:11:00,720 and she takes the compliment. Then she steps up. Gary had a little 139 00:11:00,799 --> 00:11:03,679 right to left, and she says yes, and he says, you got 140 00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:05,799 this, and she said I got this, and then you hear I can 141 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:09,200 do this, I've got this. I've got this. She steps up. 142 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:13,600 Now the crowd just quiets. Gary helped her read it. She's over the 143 00:11:13,639 --> 00:11:18,240 pot, about a ten footer. She strokes, it breaks a little left 144 00:11:18,279 --> 00:11:20,559 or right, goes in the cup. I mean, I have chills telling 145 00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:26,639 you. The story goes crazy. Gary's like, oh my god, you're 146 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:30,879 amazing. You're amazing, and they're all high five and hugging Amy. Thank 147 00:11:30,919 --> 00:11:33,960 you so much. This was great, all right, and it was just 148 00:11:35,519 --> 00:11:41,279 so such a learning experience for everyone. The video went viral. Now Gary, 149 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:45,919 this is this is what is so neat. Gary then is playing later 150 00:11:45,960 --> 00:11:50,360 that year in the US Open, never won a major. On the last 151 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:54,559 day, he kept saying, I got this, I can do this. 152 00:11:54,879 --> 00:11:58,480 I've got this because he learned it from Amy, and he went and he 153 00:11:58,519 --> 00:12:05,120 credited Amy with that last day that he was able to handle the nerves of 154 00:12:05,159 --> 00:12:07,799 the day because of course, and everyone out there, you will get nervous 155 00:12:07,799 --> 00:12:11,360 when you have an exciting opportunity that means a lot to you. You're about 156 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:15,600 to shoot your lowest score ever, you're about to win the club championship. 157 00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:20,120 You start off your round and you're playing way better than you expect, and 158 00:12:20,159 --> 00:12:22,399 you're on the sixth hole and you'll look and you're like, oh my gosh, 159 00:12:22,519 --> 00:12:24,679 or someone says, wow, you're playing great today. If you start 160 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:30,799 to feel the nerves and you know it's okay because you're excited for the opportunity 161 00:12:30,799 --> 00:12:35,120 and it means a lot. So that's what Gary was going through and he 162 00:12:35,279 --> 00:12:39,799 ends up winning the US Open, and afterwards he did he credited Amy for 163 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:43,519 helping him get through that last day. And Fred, what brings this home 164 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:48,200 to me is Amy, who, as they said, has Down syndrome. 165 00:12:48,399 --> 00:12:54,840 She went on to get a golf scholarship. She played first person with Down 166 00:12:54,200 --> 00:13:01,759 syndrome to play in a national athletic competition, and they started a foundation called 167 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:09,080 You've Got This Foundation and she helps other people with Down syndrome and other emotional 168 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:13,559 disorders and helps them to empower them. And where I met Amy the first 169 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:18,559 time was in a program we have called the LPGA Leadership Academy. I actually 170 00:13:18,600 --> 00:13:22,600 co wrote the curriculum and I was the lead instructor when Amy was in our 171 00:13:22,639 --> 00:13:28,039 class in Phoenix, Arizona, and we talked about your thoughts and body language 172 00:13:28,159 --> 00:13:33,679 and believing in yourself and what I taught her in the entire class that day 173 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:39,399 was you can say things like I've got this, and she took that and 174 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:48,399 ran with it and then impacted millions of people Gary Woodland personally and had helped 175 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:52,519 her to achieve all the success that she's achieved in her world. So it 176 00:13:52,639 --> 00:14:00,639 starts with the mind for sure that yeah, but you know what they've got 177 00:14:00,720 --> 00:14:03,159 this. This is time for a commercial break. We'll be right back, 178 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:13,519 Okay, I'm still recovering. Um. That was a phenomenal story. And 179 00:14:13,399 --> 00:14:20,879 I actually, you know, I played I played tpc's Godsdale the week after 180 00:14:22,519 --> 00:14:26,120 the waste management and the grand stands were still up and I'll never forget even 181 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:31,279 though they were empty, how intimidating it was to tee off at the sixteenth 182 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:37,840 ball. It was incredible, all right. But back to you know, 183 00:14:39,519 --> 00:14:43,440 people not accepting it. You know, there's this acceptance that doesn't happen, 184 00:14:43,919 --> 00:14:50,080 and that is so important in golf because even though you've made a good golf 185 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:56,480 swing, or maybe you didn't but got a good result, why do we 186 00:14:56,600 --> 00:15:01,720 have to blame things versus just accepting Okay, that's what happens in golf. 187 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:05,279 How do you deal with it? Worry about the next shot, not what 188 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:09,000 just happened? Right, Well, Fred, That is such a great question. 189 00:15:09,080 --> 00:15:13,000 And this is where my coaching takes the mental game of golf to a 190 00:15:13,039 --> 00:15:18,720 whole different level called mindset, because it's all about the meaning that you put 191 00:15:18,799 --> 00:15:24,240 to the shot. So when you hit a poor shot, what is the 192 00:15:24,360 --> 00:15:28,960 meaning you put to it? And it goes actually back to unconscious beliefs. 193 00:15:28,480 --> 00:15:33,080 Think of a perfectionist who when they were a kid, if they got a 194 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:39,519 ninety nine on a test and brought their test home and their parents said, 195 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:43,919 well, what happened on the one you got wrong and never praised them for 196 00:15:43,639 --> 00:15:50,240 the ninety nine questions they answered, well and got the right answer. What 197 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:54,159 happens is we start to develop a belief that I have to be perfect to 198 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:58,360 get recognized, to be to feel worthy, to feel good enough. And 199 00:15:58,519 --> 00:16:03,320 so many people out there have that belief I'm not good enough, and then 200 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:07,440 the meaning they put to a poor golf shot goes to see I'm not good 201 00:16:07,519 --> 00:16:11,000 enough or if I'm not perfect, they feel worse about it. Then, 202 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:17,799 Really, the golf shot warrants and what our brain doesn't really know the difference 203 00:16:17,879 --> 00:16:21,960 between a bad golf shot and when they were maybe a kid, and they 204 00:16:22,039 --> 00:16:26,080 felt unworthy or not cared for. They're like, oh no, what does 205 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:27,559 this mean? I didn't do it well? I do it perfectly. Your 206 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:32,720 brain works so fast and go boom. So I have other clients who hold 207 00:16:32,759 --> 00:16:37,799 the club too tightly most people do, so loosen up your grip as great 208 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:42,559 advice I can give you. If you find that you can't, you want 209 00:16:42,559 --> 00:16:48,080 to start to examine what is it about control? When how do I feel 210 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:52,080 if I let go of control? And many of my clients we get to 211 00:16:52,159 --> 00:16:59,279 they feel unsafe and again, your brain doesn't recognize some out of control situation 212 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:03,359 from the path asked that made someone feel unsafe, or maybe a bunch of 213 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:11,519 fear came up to feeling an effortless golf swing where it's less control and it's 214 00:17:11,559 --> 00:17:17,079 fluid. So it's to get into flow state. What I do, along 215 00:17:17,079 --> 00:17:21,359 with my master certified coaches, is we go into the unconscious mind and figure 216 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:23,119 out, Okay, what is the meaning you put to that poor shot or 217 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:27,000 that triple bogie, or when you're on the first team people are watching and 218 00:17:27,039 --> 00:17:32,000 you're all a sunna worried about what people think rather than focusing on your target, 219 00:17:32,039 --> 00:17:34,599 What is the meaning you put to when they're slow play? I'll give 220 00:17:34,599 --> 00:17:41,799 you an example. One of my clients would never step away from a shot, 221 00:17:41,839 --> 00:17:45,799 even though her thoughts maybe went somewhere else, and she felt like she 222 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:48,920 had to hurry up and didn't want to make people wait, so when people 223 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:55,799 were behind her. It also influenced how she played. She's a single digit 224 00:17:56,119 --> 00:18:02,400 handicap player, so she explained this one situation to me, and she said, 225 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:06,119 oh my god, Debbie, I was a dog leg right and I 226 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:08,839 couldn't hit driver because I'd hit it through the fairway. So I had a 227 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:14,039 hybrid in my hand, and I rushed the shot. I even take a 228 00:18:14,119 --> 00:18:15,640 practice when because we were a little behind, and I get up there and 229 00:18:15,640 --> 00:18:19,640 I could top it. And she said, I walked up to the next 230 00:18:19,640 --> 00:18:26,079 shot without thinking because I didn't want to make my group wait or anyone else. 231 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:29,279 And I stepped up and I hit it. It was the wrong club. 232 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:33,640 I hit it through the fairway. And she said, I don't know 233 00:18:33,680 --> 00:18:36,680 why. It always seems I'm aware of it, but I can't seem to 234 00:18:36,720 --> 00:18:41,519 stop myself. Well, when we started digging and asking what's the meaning you 235 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:45,319 put to having people wait? You know, I asked her a bunch of 236 00:18:45,359 --> 00:18:49,240 other questions to get to this. But we got to the meaning that she 237 00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:56,519 put to it was really she was valued and unworthy because and not love. 238 00:18:56,640 --> 00:19:00,240 Because when she was a kid, her parents were divorced and her dad would 239 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:03,240 say to her, if you're not here, if you're not outside when I'm 240 00:19:03,319 --> 00:19:07,599 come to pick you up, I'm leaving you. So she could never make 241 00:19:07,680 --> 00:19:12,519 her dad wait, and her brain, our unconscious mind doesn't know the difference. 242 00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:17,680 So making people wait on the golf course compared to make in your dad 243 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:22,880 wait, it seems the same unconsciously. So she said, I am always 244 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:29,400 early for everything. I never make people wait because it represents that dad leaves, 245 00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:32,920 I'm abandoned. Even so we go in and figure that out, we 246 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:37,519 release it. So there's nero linguistic programming, timeline therapy. We literally can 247 00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,920 shift the belief on that. And now she was so funny. I was 248 00:19:40,960 --> 00:19:42,920 talking to her. She said, I can't believe this. I'll even step 249 00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:48,160 away into and start my pre shot routine over now if I'm out of sync 250 00:19:48,519 --> 00:19:53,440 or if I if I'm distracted. So it's totally shifted the way she plays. 251 00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:57,319 She's not a slow player in general at all, but now she can 252 00:19:57,359 --> 00:20:02,240 actually a situation where maybe she hits a poor shot, she can take the 253 00:20:02,279 --> 00:20:04,519 time and think through it, make sure she has the right club, take 254 00:20:04,559 --> 00:20:08,680 a practice wing, and be in her own rhythm. Now that makes her 255 00:20:08,839 --> 00:20:12,759 helps her to play her best golf. So it's fascinating. When I got 256 00:20:14,000 --> 00:20:18,039 deeper into this, I was even more fascinated because for years I did the 257 00:20:18,039 --> 00:20:22,880 conscious reframes. Now I do the unconscious work along with the conscious. It's 258 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:27,240 both. I work both side the conscious and unconscious mind, and I'm getting 259 00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:32,759 the fastest, easiest results. And it also helps to welcome flow state because 260 00:20:32,759 --> 00:20:36,960 when we're in flow state, we lose our self consciousness. We're not worried 261 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:40,400 at all what people think. Our ego is not there, you know, 262 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:44,599 we're just totally immersed in the present moment. Yeah you wrote that in the 263 00:20:44,599 --> 00:20:48,319 book Conscious Mind Shuts Down. Yes, yeah, yeah. It's interesting because 264 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:56,079 mulligans are not encouraged, they're not legal. But I've always said you can 265 00:20:56,119 --> 00:21:00,359 step away from the shot and take a mental mulligan and it doesn't on your 266 00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:07,720 scorecard, and people will hopefully be understanding of like, wait, I need 267 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:11,960 to reframe this because but it's so hard to do because now all of a 268 00:21:11,039 --> 00:21:15,119 sudden, Oh wait, my foot's in a divot here. I'm thinking, 269 00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:18,440 that's all you're thinking about now is your foot, and you're not focused on 270 00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:22,640 what you're there to do, and that distracks you away from making a good 271 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:26,680 golf shot. And most people think, oh, hit it anyway, right 272 00:21:26,839 --> 00:21:29,240 right, I've done that. I used to do that. Oh just so 273 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:33,160 yeah, of course, Or some noise distracts you from your focus, or 274 00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:37,680 right you feel off balance, something comes up, or all of a sudden 275 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:40,000 you doubt the club you have and then you're like, you're over the ball 276 00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:42,240 in what we call the playbox and you're like, yeah, oh wow, 277 00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:44,960 that wind. I don't know if this is right. Go now, this 278 00:21:45,039 --> 00:21:48,160 is the right club, Go ahead and swank so instead of stepping away it 279 00:21:48,319 --> 00:21:56,480 Really that does take someone you know, unconscious mind reframes possibly and conscious mind 280 00:21:56,480 --> 00:22:00,000 awareness, and just start to do it. Do it once or twice, 281 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:03,680 and you'll start to develop a better habit. I now can literally be ready 282 00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:07,720 to swing and I'll start my backswing and go nope, nope, nope, 283 00:22:07,759 --> 00:22:10,359 and I just keep walking with it, and I'm gad to do this over 284 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:14,440 just because all of a sudden, I really recognize it. So it's that 285 00:22:14,559 --> 00:22:19,079 awareness and if all of you could recognize your own thoughts and your own emotions 286 00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:23,240 and then when they're not serving you shift them. So that's what you can 287 00:22:23,279 --> 00:22:27,839 do while you play. While you play, shift things. And it starts 288 00:22:27,839 --> 00:22:33,400 with awareness that, oh my gosh, I'm just everything I'm thinking is negative 289 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:36,720 right now, I'm totally criticizing myself. We have this voice called the inner 290 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:41,400 critic that comes out often and golf, and that inner critic is just nailing 291 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:45,799 you to recognize that and say no, I don't deserve that, and then 292 00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:49,599 shift it. And then between rounds, get get with another coach, you 293 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:52,720 know, and you're all welcome to reach out to me. And I have 294 00:22:52,079 --> 00:22:56,279 a team of master certified coaches you know where we can help. Go. 295 00:22:56,359 --> 00:23:00,640 Okay, what's coming up that you have a tendency to criticize yourself so much, 296 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:04,519 so do that work between on the golf course. Take charge of your 297 00:23:04,559 --> 00:23:08,759 mental state, take charge of you know where your thoughts are. Here's here's 298 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:12,480 one of the greatest tips that everyone really pay attention to this because it will 299 00:23:12,519 --> 00:23:18,640 help your golf game every round. Go to gratitude. You literally cannot be 300 00:23:18,799 --> 00:23:26,920 stressed and thankful at the same time. So they've tested people and they put 301 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:29,920 them in the stressful situation and they're there, you know, all the electrodes 302 00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:32,799 on, they've all the monitors and everything, and they say, okay, 303 00:23:32,799 --> 00:23:36,279 now, think of things that you really appreciate, and they'd start going to 304 00:23:36,319 --> 00:23:38,359 a gratitude, you know, think about family or people they love, or 305 00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:41,839 that they can see, that they can walk. Imagine if you're out on 306 00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:45,000 the course and it's like, wow, what a beautiful day I'm experienced. 307 00:23:45,039 --> 00:23:48,079 Wow, how so thankful I can walk, I can see. I mean, 308 00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:52,119 blind people play golf, so if you can see, you know, 309 00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:55,319 people in wheelchairs play golf. So if you can walk, we can be 310 00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:59,119 grateful. And if you can't, thankful for the chair or the cart that 311 00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:02,799 allows you to play. You know, what can you be grateful for when 312 00:24:02,799 --> 00:24:07,319 you're out on the golf course The beauty of golf, the game of golf, 313 00:24:07,759 --> 00:24:11,160 that you're healthy enough to be out there golfing, and all of a 314 00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:15,720 sudden, your stress, the negative emotions that that pit in your gut. 315 00:24:15,839 --> 00:24:18,880 Sometimes right, we all feel that we're so frustrated and angry because Fred, 316 00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:22,799 you asked, how do we get rid of that triple bogeye. Well, 317 00:24:22,839 --> 00:24:26,000 as you're walking to the next whole, go to gratitude and it'll you'll I've 318 00:24:26,039 --> 00:24:30,759 done it. It eases that angst that was there, and all of a 319 00:24:30,799 --> 00:24:34,519 sudden, your shoulders can drop. Put a smile on your face. Number 320 00:24:34,519 --> 00:24:37,960 two, put a smile on your face. Literally, you release your own 321 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:45,279 happy drug serotone and dopamine, and everything will shift physically and mentally for you, 322 00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,319 and then you'll be able to get back to your own rhythm and tempo 323 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:55,200 and timing and get focused and play back to your ability use those things while 324 00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,400 you're out on the golf course. So incredibly powerful, and you're in charge 325 00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:00,400 of it. So when I teach this, I I remind people you are 326 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:04,480 in charge of how you feel. You are in charge, you know, 327 00:25:04,559 --> 00:25:10,119 don't give in to that inner critic and the angst or the frustration, or 328 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:12,440 the anger you might feel, or the embarrassment, whatever comes up. Don't 329 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:18,839 give into it. Shift it, change your thoughts, change your body language. 330 00:25:18,079 --> 00:25:21,839 Go to gratitude, put a smile on your face, and you will 331 00:25:22,079 --> 00:25:26,079 notice a major shift in your body and you'll pay You'll get back to playing 332 00:25:26,079 --> 00:25:30,359 great golf. It's hard to feel fill in the blank here, frustrated, 333 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:36,119 being a victim, feeling anxious, as long as you have gratitude. It's 334 00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:41,599 something that well, we talked about a few weeks ago and my wife was 335 00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:45,519 on the show and about her book, and let's take another time out and 336 00:25:45,599 --> 00:26:00,000 we'll talk about that more. But we'll right back. The pressure of performance, 337 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:07,160 The pressure of a short put anytime, let alone on the eighteenth hole 338 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:12,039 when it means something is something we all have a sense of. M We 339 00:26:12,079 --> 00:26:17,519 all understand the pressure. But you've had it in so many different sports. 340 00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:26,680 You've really achieved such incredible things. What was harder that final strike bowling three 341 00:26:26,839 --> 00:26:33,119 hundred, or a short put knowing that this could win, or any length 342 00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:40,680 put that could win a tournament for you, You're you're amazing. But you've 343 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:45,119 achieved both, right, Yeah, And I've hit the free throw. I've 344 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:48,319 hit the free throw. And you were in the final four right in college? 345 00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:52,599 Yeah, I've played in the final four. We actually had a game 346 00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:57,160 when I was a freshman against Old Dominion in Rop Arena in Kentucky. I 347 00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:03,799 went to Western Kentucky University, so the Red Tawel tradition and Diddal Arena. 348 00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:10,720 We had a packed house over fifteen thousand people for a regular season women's basketball 349 00:27:10,759 --> 00:27:14,240 game. We set the record in Kentucky for attendance for a women's game. 350 00:27:14,759 --> 00:27:18,759 And I was a freshman and coming down the stretch, they it was a 351 00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:23,720 very close game. They were fouling me because I was a freshman, So 352 00:27:23,799 --> 00:27:30,200 I missed the first one, and then from then on every time they found 353 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:33,000 me. I made the rest of them down the stretch. And I tell 354 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:41,279 you, breathing is a key and then the focus on your target. So 355 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:42,720 yeah, that one. Those are good. But here's the difference. In 356 00:27:44,799 --> 00:27:48,759 basketball. You're running around, so you don't really feel the nerves. You 357 00:27:48,799 --> 00:27:51,440 know, all of a sudden you're in the situation, but your hearts pounding 358 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:55,279 because you've been running around anyway, and all that adrenaline that you get running 359 00:27:55,319 --> 00:28:00,000 around and the neurochemicals that are released for exercise, they actually help you to 360 00:28:00,079 --> 00:28:03,400 stay calm or calm or in that situation. Even though it's a pressure situation. 361 00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:08,799 You know it and it's important, you know It's it's not as physically 362 00:28:10,319 --> 00:28:15,000 noticeable. When I had eleven strikes in a row and I stepped on that 363 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:21,960 the lanes and everyone's behind me, no one else is bowling in the entire 364 00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:26,079 place. No way, is this a competition or just some random It was 365 00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:29,559 league. It was a league. It was league. Okay, so everybody 366 00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:33,960 every every week's competition. For sure. I didn't need it for the competition. 367 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:40,119 It was just something that I desired for so long, and I kept 368 00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:41,720 blowing it. And here's what, you know, how I talk about the 369 00:28:41,759 --> 00:28:45,599 unconscious beliefs. I would get nerves. My heart would start pounding when I'd 370 00:28:45,599 --> 00:28:48,480 get seven in a row, and if I was lucky enough to get the 371 00:28:48,519 --> 00:28:52,240 eighth, it was really pounding. And I would start to focus on these 372 00:28:52,319 --> 00:28:56,079 nerves and try not not to feel so nervous. Because when I was a 373 00:28:56,160 --> 00:29:00,319 kid, I would watch wide world of sports. Do you re memor? 374 00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:07,960 They thrill, the victory, the you know? So I would watch watching 375 00:29:08,039 --> 00:29:12,119 on TV. We get Yeah, I'd watch these sports, and inevitably, 376 00:29:12,759 --> 00:29:19,319 if an athlete had a pressure situation and they failed to in this situation, 377 00:29:19,519 --> 00:29:23,480 the announcer would say, all the nerves got to them, the pressure really 378 00:29:23,519 --> 00:29:29,079 got to them. And if they succeeded, I remember hearing, wow, 379 00:29:29,359 --> 00:29:33,720 he or she has ice in their veins, you know. So I was 380 00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:38,720 I had a belief that if you felt nervous, you couldn't perform just by 381 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:45,519 watching and taking that in and how the commentators would analyze the situation. I 382 00:29:45,599 --> 00:29:48,599 didn't know that it's okay to feel nervous. You just had to switch your 383 00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:52,160 focus instead of focusing on the nerves, let your body do what it's going 384 00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:59,400 to do. It's natural to feel nervous in a situation where it's important to 385 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:03,920 you. So here I am. And now I went to a sports psychologist 386 00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:06,759 because I kept failing, and all of a sudden, I was like, 387 00:30:06,839 --> 00:30:08,359 maybe I get too nervous to have a three hundred game. I'll never have 388 00:30:08,519 --> 00:30:11,759 one, okay, And I went no, I got to figure this out. 389 00:30:11,759 --> 00:30:15,680 So and then I went to a sports psychologist. I was doing meditations. 390 00:30:15,799 --> 00:30:21,240 She was a certified licensed hypnotherapist, and so I was doing meditation. 391 00:30:21,279 --> 00:30:26,400 So I was worried reframing my unconscious mind beliefs as well as learning consciously what 392 00:30:26,519 --> 00:30:30,559 to do in that situation. I also took bowling lessons from Nelson Burton Junior, 393 00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:34,960 who was a PBA Hall of Famer. So between asking him those questions 394 00:30:36,119 --> 00:30:41,039 my sports psychologist, the meditations, I was ready for this moment, didn't 395 00:30:41,039 --> 00:30:42,799 me and I didn't feel nervous. I was shaking everywhere. I wasn't even 396 00:30:42,799 --> 00:30:45,920 sure I could walk. I mean, my heart was pounding. I got 397 00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:48,400 up, I took the breath, and I just said, me in my 398 00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:52,200 spot. I'm a spot bowler. I had a spot in the lanes and 399 00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:56,400 fred I threw as good a ball on that twelve ball as I did the 400 00:30:56,400 --> 00:31:02,880 first one. I actually threw twelve that were so it flows state exactly the 401 00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:07,559 same rhythm temp bow timing. It felt so good coming off my hand, 402 00:31:07,559 --> 00:31:08,440 and I'm doing one of these, and I'm like, oh my gosh, 403 00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:11,279 Oh my gosh. And I watched to go in and I just jumped up 404 00:31:11,279 --> 00:31:15,359 and down because you know, all of you remember this. Sometimes the more 405 00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:19,720 challenging it is to succeed in the goal, the more meaningful the goal will 406 00:31:19,759 --> 00:31:25,680 be when you finally achieve it. And I cried, and I just it 407 00:31:26,319 --> 00:31:29,880 was an incredible moment. But that you know, and you can all do 408 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:33,759 that. Just make sure you focus on the result, that you won't imagine 409 00:31:33,799 --> 00:31:37,759 that, and then in the moment, breathe and have a very narrow focus 410 00:31:37,799 --> 00:31:41,400 and stay present. Because it's different than anxiety, which is fear of the 411 00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:45,079 future. I wasn't afraid if I didn't get it. It was just important 412 00:31:45,079 --> 00:31:48,279 to me. So I was nervous to get it, but I was in 413 00:31:48,319 --> 00:31:52,079 the present moment. And that's a huge key for all of you to succeed 414 00:31:52,119 --> 00:31:55,519 in the situation now in golf, I actually a lot of times will put 415 00:31:55,559 --> 00:31:59,359 a smile on my face when I'm about to put so I'm in that pressure 416 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:01,440 situation. I look down, I get it. I feel my heart pounding, 417 00:32:01,920 --> 00:32:06,039 I take my breath, I have the picture of the hole in my 418 00:32:06,079 --> 00:32:08,960 mind as I look at the ball. I've literally smiled because and then I 419 00:32:09,079 --> 00:32:14,160 just had that little extra between the breath and the smile. My body just 420 00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:17,559 got relaxed enough to perform it. And it keeps you from clenching your jaw 421 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,880 and adding that tension right that might be in your shoulders and your jaw and 422 00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:29,759 your neck. Smiling is going to release all that, right well, absolutely, 423 00:32:29,799 --> 00:32:32,799 And a great drill for everybody is take a potato chip when you're practicing. 424 00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:37,680 Put it between your teeth so you like this Tata chip, and swing 425 00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:43,519 and don't break that chip. So that means you're swinging effortless. Because so 426 00:32:43,559 --> 00:32:47,720 many people have power less efforts, and what you want in the golf swing 427 00:32:47,799 --> 00:32:52,319 is effortless power. You know that swing where you swing you're like, I 428 00:32:52,319 --> 00:32:55,200 didn't feel like I did anything, and it went better than ever. It's 429 00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:59,960 because you used your entire body, used and you were in perfect rhythm temper 430 00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:02,920 timing. That's what golf is. It's a dance. Just get your rhythm 431 00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:07,680 and tempo in timing. Let the ball get in the way of your beautiful 432 00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:16,000 move. Um the pre shot routine. Well, I eat peanut butter pretzels 433 00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:19,839 when I play, so I'm definitely gonna put one door in my mouth next 434 00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,359 time I take a drive and see if I crush it and leave crumbs all 435 00:33:22,359 --> 00:33:28,400 over the place. But the drive, fred crush the drive, don't crush 436 00:33:28,759 --> 00:33:35,720 the peanut butter pretzel. Don't. Yes, we'll do We'll do. Um 437 00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:39,440 a pre shot routine. We talk about it a lot and the importance of 438 00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:44,279 it and the people. I don't know if everyone understands the value of it. 439 00:33:44,440 --> 00:33:47,640 You must have an incredible pre shot routine. I would think for bowling 440 00:33:49,279 --> 00:33:52,759 as well, because it'll get you into a place where you're like, I 441 00:33:52,839 --> 00:33:55,559 need to be comfortable here, So preshot routine will do that. Even shooting 442 00:33:55,559 --> 00:34:00,359 free throws. Now, obviously can have a pre shot routine when you're in 443 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:05,240 the flow of a basketball game and everything's reactionary. But I would think that 444 00:34:05,279 --> 00:34:10,440 those three spots, golf, bowling and free throws a pre shot routine is 445 00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:17,639 critically important one hundred percent, and not enough amateurs put enough time into this. 446 00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:25,840 Your brain loves familiarity, and that's why sometimes we stay in places in 447 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:31,280 our world that are familiar that may not be the best, because our brain's 448 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:34,599 like, no, at least, this is familiar. It may not be 449 00:34:34,639 --> 00:34:37,719 the best, but it's familiar. So when you get into a preshot routine, 450 00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:43,599 it doesn't matter the situation, whether it's high pressure or not. You 451 00:34:43,639 --> 00:34:47,280 start your preshot routine, your unconscious mind is like, oh, this is 452 00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:51,719 familiar. Oh yeah, this is what we do. This is our routine, 453 00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,519 and there's a calming effect to that, and it helps you get into 454 00:34:54,559 --> 00:34:59,239 the present moment. You watch any sport on TV. You know, tennis 455 00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:02,039 players will bounce the ball the same amount of times. Do the same move 456 00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:06,239 basketball players on a free throw, Like you said, well, do the 457 00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:09,960 same thing. I would bounce the ball three times, take it up and 458 00:35:10,039 --> 00:35:13,639 then I'd shoot. So that was my routine. I mean, I know 459 00:35:13,679 --> 00:35:15,760 I haven't played, you know, I've graduated college a while ago, but 460 00:35:16,599 --> 00:35:21,000 so I had that routine. There is a colleague of mine told me a 461 00:35:21,079 --> 00:35:30,960 story about Jack Nicholas and his routines. His putting routine never changed. And 462 00:35:30,079 --> 00:35:34,800 he actually saw a video of Jack early in his career and late in his 463 00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:40,280 career, and they started two videos at the same exact moment they hit play, 464 00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:45,079 and then occasionally they would hit pause on both of them, and he 465 00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:51,239 was in the exact position if he was taking a step and his right leg 466 00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:53,880 was in the air three inches on the one video, it was the right 467 00:35:53,960 --> 00:36:00,119 leg in the air three inches on the other. That's how precise Jack Nicholas 468 00:36:00,199 --> 00:36:05,639 was. So that leads me to believe that we can all get better. 469 00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:07,559 So many people say, yeah, I stand behind the ball, I take 470 00:36:07,599 --> 00:36:10,000 my practice swaying, and then I set up, I look at the target 471 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:15,840 and I swing. Well, how many steps do you actually take between the 472 00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:20,760 time you take your practice swing and walk into what we call the playbox. 473 00:36:21,599 --> 00:36:24,320 So if you start like do it take the right, right, left, 474 00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:29,880 right? Do you turn? Then do you have your feet together and step 475 00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:32,280 out left right? How many wiggles do you do? You know, if 476 00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:38,239 you get more precise with it, it's actually going to help you stay in 477 00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:43,599 a flow state or get into a flow state. Welcome the flow state. 478 00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:46,719 It will help you in pressure situations to just get into your routine and then 479 00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:52,280 get focused in the present moment. It is so powerful, and I encourage 480 00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:59,400 every one of you to make sure you have appreciat routine and then literally practice. 481 00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:01,239 And I'm not say you have to be as good as Jack Nicholas tomorrow. 482 00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:06,639 What I'm saying is start to have one and then say, okay, 483 00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:08,840 then start to notice how far back you stand, how many steps does it 484 00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:13,519 take me? Okay, I'm really comfortable with this event like it's a process. 485 00:37:14,119 --> 00:37:15,960 It's a process. Take your time, but have one, and it 486 00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:22,199 may be different. Mine is different for putting and different for chipping than it 487 00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:25,400 is for my full swing because in putting and chipping I like to stand right 488 00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:30,880 next to the ball and feel the pace. In my full swing, I 489 00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:34,199 stand behind it and I like to swing down the line. So I don't 490 00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:37,559 stand next to the ball. But you choose for you what works that I 491 00:37:37,639 --> 00:37:42,760 do encourage a point in your practicing where you visualize the shot, because the 492 00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:46,199 more clear you are with your outcome and the intention you have for the shot, 493 00:37:47,719 --> 00:37:52,000 the more your brain can help you achieve it. So I encourage that. 494 00:37:52,119 --> 00:37:57,559 I encourage a practice swing because our club's way different things. They have 495 00:37:57,599 --> 00:38:00,360 different lengths, so you want to just feel and let your body know here's 496 00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:01,920 the club I have in my hand. So I do encourage those two things 497 00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:07,480 for sure somewhere, but develop your own And about that visualizing, here's what 498 00:38:07,519 --> 00:38:13,480 I tell people with visualizing shot, Visualize it like it means the world. 499 00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:17,119 Be precise on a chip shot, how high is it going to fly? 500 00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:21,840 Where is it landing? How much is rolling? On your full swing shots? 501 00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:23,519 See what kind of shape is it going to be? Where is it 502 00:38:23,639 --> 00:38:29,599 landing? See it rolling your put see it rolling down the line as precise 503 00:38:29,679 --> 00:38:31,519 as you can get. And then when you get into what we call the 504 00:38:31,599 --> 00:38:37,400 playbox, now swing like you don't care where it goes. And that's the 505 00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:40,199 tricky part of golf, because now you have to release the outcome, get 506 00:38:40,199 --> 00:38:45,039 in the present moment, and then let your talents take over. All right, 507 00:38:45,159 --> 00:38:49,159 another time out, Let's find out what's happening on golf Smarter Mulligans this 508 00:38:49,199 --> 00:38:52,320 Week. This Week on Golf, Smarter Mulligans is the first of two consecutive 509 00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:59,239 episodes from twenty eleven that made such an impact on me that twelve years later 510 00:38:59,679 --> 00:39:04,880 I still consciously incorporated into my swing today. I've even tried to get this 511 00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:07,679 guy or his son on the show for the last few years for an update, 512 00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:13,440 but they've kind of disappeared from the internet, even though the book and 513 00:39:13,559 --> 00:39:17,679 the app are still available. Our guest is John Novicel, who created two 514 00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:22,880 ur Tempo after years of talking about the importance of the three to one swing 515 00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:30,480 tempo. His theories were picked up and confirmed by researchers at Yale University. 516 00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:35,239 But the more I looked at swings, good players came out to this three 517 00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,760 to one. And how we did it was by frame counts. As you 518 00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:44,360 watched video on your TV, there are thirty still frames per second of video, 519 00:39:44,559 --> 00:39:46,320 so when you're off a couple of frames, it can really mess up 520 00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:51,679 your swing. And our best example of that ever is Tiger Woods and the 521 00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:54,519 two thousand and two opened at Bethpage that he won by a mile. He 522 00:39:54,599 --> 00:39:59,920 was consistently twenty four eight on all his full swing it's just twenty four, 523 00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:02,519 twenty four eight, twenty four eight, just kept doing it. And guess 524 00:40:02,599 --> 00:40:07,599 what if you read our article in Sports Illustrated about Tiger that we put out 525 00:40:07,639 --> 00:40:12,199 in September, and it's also the first chapter of the new book. Is 526 00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:15,960 now Tiger's the most screwed up of anybody on the tour. For Tempo, 527 00:40:16,599 --> 00:40:22,039 that's Golf Smarter Mulligan's episode two hundred nineteen, the first of two featuring John 528 00:40:22,119 --> 00:40:28,639 Novisel of Tour Tempo, in an episode we call why you Don't Swing like 529 00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:31,920 a Pro and how to Change It. Please subscribe for free to both of 530 00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:37,519 our golf podcasts, Golf Smarter, published every Tuesday since two thousand and five, 531 00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:43,159 and our sister podcast that revisits the best of the Golf Smarter podcasts that's 532 00:40:43,199 --> 00:40:46,719 just no longer available anywhere else. It's called Golf Smarter Mulligans, being released 533 00:40:47,039 --> 00:40:58,239 every Friday from wherever you're listening right now. You mentioned multiple times the playbox, 534 00:40:58,559 --> 00:41:01,440 the shot the thought box. I always called it the thought box in 535 00:41:01,519 --> 00:41:07,639 the shot box. But it all comes from Vision fifty four, Lynn Marriott, 536 00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:13,360 Pia Neilson, who are amazing teachers and get referred to almost as much 537 00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:19,360 as Manolo, but it's a different conversation. Tell me about your preshot routine 538 00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:25,239 and your use of the thought box in the playbox, Oh absolutely, And 539 00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:30,800 it even goes to right brain, left brain right, So our left brain 540 00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:36,599 that thinking brain right, So it goes from checking out the lie looking at 541 00:41:36,639 --> 00:41:42,519 the wind, so you're literally thinking and analyzing and choosing your club. Now, 542 00:41:42,639 --> 00:41:45,960 something that I teach you know, when I'm working with professional athletes with 543 00:41:46,559 --> 00:41:51,440 I do a lot of work in corporate America as well and executives. I 544 00:41:51,599 --> 00:41:54,119 help people, you know, in preparation of their day in their round. 545 00:41:54,199 --> 00:42:00,079 So I think pre shot starts pre round and with a meditation to invite your 546 00:42:00,119 --> 00:42:05,480 intuition to be your loudest voice, because I think when you're making those decisions 547 00:42:05,519 --> 00:42:10,639 in the conscious way, your intuition can also help you because how often do 548 00:42:10,679 --> 00:42:15,039 you hit the right club with the right yardage and you just blasted over the 549 00:42:15,039 --> 00:42:21,840 green, It's because your adrenaline was going. So I encourage and that's why 550 00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:28,400 I was certified and hypnosis and I do meditations because I so believe in inviting 551 00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:32,719 that intuition rather than the inner critic, to be your loudest voice and literally 552 00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:36,519 help you in those decisions. So there you are in there, and there 553 00:42:36,559 --> 00:42:38,239 are times that I will literally put my hand on the club and I was 554 00:42:38,239 --> 00:42:43,480 the intuition, is this the right club? Because I'm between clubs or the 555 00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:46,880 wind or it's uphill and I'm deciding and your intuition is right. Then that's 556 00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:51,519 that you all know your intuition. It's that voice that that one day said 557 00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:55,960 take the umbrella and you looked at side. You're thinking it's sunny skies and 558 00:42:57,039 --> 00:43:00,159 the weather. I don't see a prediction of rain. And then about five 559 00:43:00,199 --> 00:43:02,639 o'clock you're like, darn, I knew something told me I needed to bring 560 00:43:02,639 --> 00:43:07,440 my umbrella today. Well, that was your intuition. And it does it 561 00:43:07,559 --> 00:43:10,960 either it's a feeling inside or a little voice in your mind that tells you. 562 00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:15,880 Sometimes it's it's that time you said I should have done I knew I 563 00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:19,760 should have I knew something told me. And that that that's a voice to 564 00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,320 listen to on the golf course. So pre round, I encourage I have 565 00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:27,599 a pre pre golf meditation that I have all my clients use and it truly 566 00:43:27,599 --> 00:43:30,519 does help them to get in a great mental state. Before the round, 567 00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:34,119 and then the think box that's when you make all those decisions. And then 568 00:43:34,159 --> 00:43:37,559 you step over what we call the decision line, you know, blend and 569 00:43:37,679 --> 00:43:40,960 be a great friends of mine and colleagues and love learning from them. And 570 00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:45,480 then I'm sharing with them what I'm doing on the unconscious mind and they're loving 571 00:43:45,519 --> 00:43:50,039 what I'm doing as well. So it's a it's a great it's great to 572 00:43:50,079 --> 00:43:53,119 have those colleagues that we can have these conversations with whom we can. So 573 00:43:53,159 --> 00:43:58,159 then you step into the playbox and now it's time to play. You want 574 00:43:58,159 --> 00:44:01,639 to go right brain, you want to be that creative mind and just visualize 575 00:44:01,679 --> 00:44:07,480 the target and get yourself in that present moment, totally immersed in that moment, 576 00:44:07,519 --> 00:44:10,480 and it's you in that golf ball and like I said, in that 577 00:44:10,679 --> 00:44:14,800 thing box, visualize a shot like it means the world. And now you 578 00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:19,280 step in and let yourself perform. You know, Mickey Wright, this has 579 00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:22,119 one of the best had one of the best golf swings ever. She was 580 00:44:22,159 --> 00:44:28,199 back in the nineteen fifties early on in the LPGA, had over eighty two 581 00:44:28,199 --> 00:44:32,079 wins on the tour. Many say she's well, I think her a Anica 582 00:44:32,199 --> 00:44:36,920 probably the two best players. She retired a little bit young, like Anica, 583 00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:40,199 and people would ask her. The reporters would say, Mickey, it's 584 00:44:40,239 --> 00:44:45,079 amazing we watch you play and the ball seems to go at your target every 585 00:44:45,079 --> 00:44:49,079 time. What is your secret? She said, I don't care where it 586 00:44:49,079 --> 00:44:52,159 goes. That's how I hit it where I want it. I don't care 587 00:44:52,199 --> 00:44:57,280 where it goes. So it's again, instead of getting ahead of yourself and 588 00:44:57,320 --> 00:45:01,039 being fearful of the outcome of that water, of the bunker or where the 589 00:45:01,039 --> 00:45:06,519 ball might go. Now you're ahead of yourself, and that can cause anxiety 590 00:45:06,559 --> 00:45:09,880 because you're fearing this outcome, or you're trying to force the outcome. You 591 00:45:10,079 --> 00:45:13,840 picture it, so you tell your brain what you want and then you let 592 00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:17,159 it go and you get back to the present moment. I had a student 593 00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:21,840 one time who he hit the greatest shot he'd ever hit in his life, 594 00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:24,880 and he's like, oh my gosh. The next shot it was one of 595 00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:29,000 his worst. And I said to him, I said, did you try 596 00:45:29,039 --> 00:45:31,159 to hit that shot again? He said, yeah, I loved it. 597 00:45:31,159 --> 00:45:35,360 It was great, And these were the words I said to him. I 598 00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:38,599 said, here's the key. Don't try to do what you did just do 599 00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:42,719 what you did? And I said, does that make any sense? And 600 00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:44,920 he was a lawyer and he was great with words, and he said, 601 00:45:45,119 --> 00:45:50,199 I think what you're saying is repeat the process, don't try to repeat the 602 00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:53,360 outcome. Is how many stories have you heard about someone having the lowest round 603 00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:58,840 ever, their greatest or even the best front nine ever, and now they 604 00:45:58,960 --> 00:46:01,039 try to repeat it, or the next time they play that course, they're 605 00:46:01,079 --> 00:46:02,920 like, oh, yeah, I made birdie on this, let me make 606 00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:07,679 that birdie again. So they're trying to repeat the outcome instead of just doing 607 00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:13,000 what they did. Do the process. Stay in the present moment, make 608 00:46:13,039 --> 00:46:15,000 your shot, and then wherever it goes, now go find it and hit 609 00:46:15,079 --> 00:46:19,239 it again. So that's the key, and I think that's probably one of 610 00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:22,440 the most challenging things for people to do because we want to visualize the shot. 611 00:46:22,519 --> 00:46:27,159 You want to have that outcome, but then when you're about to hit 612 00:46:27,199 --> 00:46:30,280 it, you've got to release that outcome, get in the present moment and 613 00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:35,960 allow your skills to take over. Wow, repeat the process, don't try 614 00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:43,480 to repeat the outcome. That's pretty amazing. Whoam tell me about? You 615 00:46:43,519 --> 00:46:49,920 know, one of the most incredible things about your ebook seven principles of lowering 616 00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:54,320 your handicap with flow state Golf is the subtitle, which is the key for 617 00:46:54,480 --> 00:47:04,119 every golfer, the fastest and easiest way to play consistent golf. Consistent everybody's 618 00:47:04,320 --> 00:47:07,679 trying to find. And you know, I played with the guy the other 619 00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:08,960 day. I said, hey, you know, you're very consistent today. 620 00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:12,599 He goes, I was terrible. I said, you shot a fifty seven. 621 00:47:12,719 --> 00:47:15,960 Fifty seven. That seems consistent to me. You know, there's a 622 00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:21,679 couple obviously, there's things you have to work on, but you're you're you 623 00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:25,320 know, you're not all over the map, right like you're you're you're the 624 00:47:25,639 --> 00:47:29,840 lawyer who were playing with who had the two different shots. We call it. 625 00:47:29,920 --> 00:47:31,440 You know that's Ray Ray golf, right, you know Ray Ray Golf. 626 00:47:32,079 --> 00:47:37,000 Let's Ray Ray golf. Rid the first shot you hit like Ray Floyd 627 00:47:37,039 --> 00:47:39,039 and the next one you hit like Ray Charles. Oh, yes, that's 628 00:47:39,159 --> 00:47:45,960 right. I love it. That is great. Let's talk about consistent consistency. 629 00:47:46,679 --> 00:47:52,199 Is it a myth? Is it real? Uh? Well, here's 630 00:47:52,199 --> 00:47:55,760 the thing. One you you're correct. Everyone wants to be consistent and they 631 00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:59,559 want to be consistent. This is the part they don't clarify all the time 632 00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:06,400 with the best shot they've ever hit, so you're but absolutely good, but 633 00:48:06,519 --> 00:48:09,519 it wasn't. He's like what but if he hit if he was consistent with 634 00:48:09,679 --> 00:48:14,079 two low rounds, and then he'd be like, yes, I was consistent 635 00:48:14,440 --> 00:48:16,079 with my best shot. So people will say this to me, what are 636 00:48:16,119 --> 00:48:20,119 your goals for or a lesson today? I want to be more consistent and 637 00:48:20,159 --> 00:48:23,239 I said, well, with the best shot you've ever hit, and they're 638 00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:27,079 like, oh yeah, yeah, with that shot, I want to hit 639 00:48:27,119 --> 00:48:30,440 it well more often and more consistently. So that's when it comes out. 640 00:48:30,639 --> 00:48:37,400 I believe it's possible. And the key though is mindset and the unconscious mind 641 00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:44,480 in particular, So it's it comes down to allowing yourself to get out of 642 00:48:44,519 --> 00:48:46,320 your own way. People would ask me for years, what is your philosophy 643 00:48:46,320 --> 00:48:50,719 and teaching golf? I said, basically, I help people get out of 644 00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:55,320 their own way. So when it's just the pure physical components and performance skills, 645 00:48:55,800 --> 00:49:01,639 getting people more relaxed, letting the tension allow them to trust gravity centrifugal 646 00:49:01,679 --> 00:49:07,559 force to get out of the way of what will help them play their best 647 00:49:07,079 --> 00:49:12,440 physically as well get them in a really good setup and get them started to 648 00:49:13,079 --> 00:49:17,039 create a great backswing, to allow the swing to happen, to allow the 649 00:49:17,079 --> 00:49:22,320 techniques, and then mentally, it's getting out of your own way, because 650 00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:25,119 I believe, if you can hit that one great shot, why can't you 651 00:49:25,199 --> 00:49:31,079 repeat it? Why can't you what's different? Something's different in your mindset, 652 00:49:31,159 --> 00:49:35,679 which maybe creates a little more attension, creates a little lack of focus. 653 00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:39,760 But if we start to train that part and we get rid of the self 654 00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:45,679 consciousness by getting rid of those unconscious limiting beliefs, and we get rid of 655 00:49:46,199 --> 00:49:51,559 major negative emotions, because even negative emotions, it's like what they call a 656 00:49:51,599 --> 00:49:55,159 gastalt in psychology, where it builds, Like if you have a lot of 657 00:49:55,199 --> 00:50:01,079 anger from your life, it's not surprising that you may overreact and have more 658 00:50:01,199 --> 00:50:07,159 anger in a golf shot than really that it warrants. So if you literally 659 00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:13,760 release the anger and then start with a clean slate, now your anger will 660 00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:16,679 just be warranted for life situations. And really, how angry should you get 661 00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:20,079 at a golf shot? You just want to say to people all the time, 662 00:50:20,119 --> 00:50:25,400 you know you're not that good to get that angry shots? Right? 663 00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:30,519 Why? Yeah? Why? You know if you didn't train it. You 664 00:50:30,559 --> 00:50:36,719 know, it take someone like Tiger Woods and and he he trained unconsciously. 665 00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:43,039 His dad took him to a hip hypnosis. Hip learned hypnosis from self hypnosis 666 00:50:43,119 --> 00:50:47,480 from Navy seals a buddy of his, and they would literally hypnotize Tiger and 667 00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:52,320 then have him go play golf and then take him out of the hypnotic state. 668 00:50:52,639 --> 00:50:57,760 So he literally learned how to be to get and flow state through hypnosis 669 00:50:57,760 --> 00:51:00,119 in a in a way. And I saw a great interview a Tiger and 670 00:51:00,119 --> 00:51:05,159 he said, I don't actually remember many of the greatest shots I've ever hit. 671 00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:07,320 I don't remember hitting it because what he would do, he'd be in 672 00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:10,159 his think box and he'd choose his club. He said, I remember picking 673 00:51:10,159 --> 00:51:15,360 the club out of the bag, and then the next thing I literally can 674 00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:19,280 remember consciously is watching the ball fly to the hole. So what would happen 675 00:51:19,360 --> 00:51:22,920 His unconscious mind would take over. And if we could get ourselves in that 676 00:51:22,000 --> 00:51:27,239 flow state more often, welcome it. Now, I say, get ourselves 677 00:51:27,960 --> 00:51:31,880 fall into flow state, flow into it more often than we can do it. 678 00:51:31,920 --> 00:51:38,320 And it does take that unconscious mind, those beliefs. Also knowing you 679 00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:43,320 know the mental game strategies that we learned the breath, the target, and 680 00:51:43,400 --> 00:51:46,039 the think box playbox, and then your post shot reaction is also a key. 681 00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:50,480 How you react to the shot will influence the next shot as well, 682 00:51:51,280 --> 00:51:53,920 and you want to be neutral or positive. So everybody remember that how you 683 00:51:53,960 --> 00:52:00,760 react. Let me give everybody a formula FRED that I think could help on 684 00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:06,599 the golf course and in life. E plus R equals O. Everybody write 685 00:52:06,599 --> 00:52:09,880 that down. E plus our equals OZ because oftentimes we have an event and 686 00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:13,440 say it's not a great event. It all goes, you know, slices 687 00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:17,360 into the woods, or a world pandemic comes along. There's an event and 688 00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:21,119 we're like, oh, and then we think that's the outcome, it's going 689 00:52:21,199 --> 00:52:25,440 to be negative. We have to remember there's a plus r before the outcome, 690 00:52:25,639 --> 00:52:31,440 and it's how you respond. And if your response is in a more 691 00:52:31,639 --> 00:52:37,719 positive leading way, things like I've got this, I can do this well, 692 00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:40,400 how can I best move forward? How can I still achieve the goals 693 00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:45,480 that I want in this situation? What do I need to do? You 694 00:52:45,519 --> 00:52:51,679 know, here's an event that affects so many people in golf. E slow 695 00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:58,440 play outcome oftentime is ruins my tempo, my game fell apart. So we're 696 00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:04,239 blaming something outside of ourselves which we have no control over on our game. 697 00:53:04,679 --> 00:53:08,920 Well, guess what happens the next time you play slow play outcome lose my 698 00:53:08,960 --> 00:53:14,920 tempo? There goes my game. Right, So the r is the key, 699 00:53:15,119 --> 00:53:19,880 and you want to take that responsibility and empower yourself to say, okay, 700 00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:22,800 slow play, What can I do to maintain my tempo? Can I 701 00:53:22,840 --> 00:53:27,480 go to gratitude? Can I have more conversations with my playing partners? Can 702 00:53:27,519 --> 00:53:30,480 I just ignore them? And then when it's my turn taken extra practice, 703 00:53:30,519 --> 00:53:35,480 wing, take more breaths? How can I keep my rhythm, timing and 704 00:53:35,519 --> 00:53:40,119 tempo going even though this event is happening that used to impact me? So 705 00:53:40,400 --> 00:53:45,920 that's called being in cause that's you causing the next moment of your life by 706 00:53:45,960 --> 00:53:51,559 taking the responsibility on you. Because too many people in golf blame they're poor 707 00:53:51,679 --> 00:53:53,559 golf on things outside of them. Well, the ranger came along, he's 708 00:53:53,599 --> 00:53:58,920 following me again. What's the meaning you put to the ranger? Oh, 709 00:53:59,000 --> 00:54:01,119 he probably thinks we're playing slow, right, If that's the meaning you put, 710 00:54:01,199 --> 00:54:04,599 maybe he just likes your golf swing and he wants to see you play 711 00:54:04,679 --> 00:54:07,000 and he happened to be head and by you he stopped. You know, 712 00:54:07,239 --> 00:54:10,920 so what are the meanings you put to things? Is one, and take 713 00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:16,639 the responsibility event plus how you respond truly is how you get the outcome, 714 00:54:17,320 --> 00:54:22,000 So that is really important. I don't remember your initial question. I know 715 00:54:22,039 --> 00:54:24,840 I went on ATEN just so I wanted to make sure I served everybody as 716 00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:30,840 best I can today and then deliver as much as I can tell people they 717 00:54:31,119 --> 00:54:37,559 I gotta say the e book is quick, it's direct, it's the sinct, 718 00:54:37,119 --> 00:54:40,880 it's worth reading, it's not a tough read at all, and tell 719 00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:45,000 people how they can get a hold of it. Oh, absolutely, thank 720 00:54:45,039 --> 00:54:49,719 you for asking. I want to give it to all of your listeners for 721 00:54:49,719 --> 00:54:52,159 for full account, to just give it to everybody, because I love sharing 722 00:54:52,159 --> 00:54:57,559 this. I've and I've been that struggling athlete who never felt like she was 723 00:54:57,599 --> 00:55:00,880 reaching her full potential. And it was fresh, and I'd say, am 724 00:55:00,880 --> 00:55:02,960 I afraid of success? Am I afraid of failure? What's going on? 725 00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:08,320 And I would be frustrated that I wasn't getting there and I felt like and 726 00:55:08,440 --> 00:55:14,280 I felt short of my potential. So I've dug so deep. I'm obsessed 727 00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:16,639 with our brains and how they work and how they influence our daily performance and 728 00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:21,440 our lives for sure. So I want to give this to everybody, and 729 00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:25,119 here's the text number. You just have to text flow to this number seven 730 00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:36,039 two seven three three nine zero one zero six seven two seven three three nine 731 00:55:36,199 --> 00:55:42,199 zero one zero six text the word flow flow and you will get a link 732 00:55:42,320 --> 00:55:45,239 to then download the free copy of the book. And I hope you really 733 00:55:45,320 --> 00:55:47,920 enjoy it. I hope it serves you well. There's some stories in there. 734 00:55:49,199 --> 00:55:52,719 I love to teach in stories. I love to learn in stories myself, 735 00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:57,079 So there's some stories from which everyone can learn. And wishing all of 736 00:55:57,079 --> 00:56:01,559 you just amazing golf, consistently playing your best. It's possible, believe it. 737 00:56:01,880 --> 00:56:07,679 You can do it. Absolutely. That number and the word will be 738 00:56:07,760 --> 00:56:09,320 in the show notes. So if you didn't write it down, I have 739 00:56:09,559 --> 00:56:14,400 and I'll give it to you. Debbie, this has really been an inspiration. 740 00:56:14,480 --> 00:56:17,480 I truly appreciate sharing this time with you. Thank you, Yay. 741 00:56:17,599 --> 00:56:22,760 I'm so glad to hear it. I just I love to share I've created 742 00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,800 a masterclassic. If you can give everybody my website to look forward keys to 743 00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:30,280 being a champion on my website. I do that course about four times a 744 00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:35,559 year, so watch for the next upcoming course for you. What is the 745 00:56:35,559 --> 00:56:38,079 website? Tell us, Oh, it's Debbie D E B B I E. 746 00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:44,239 Hyphen O'Connell O C O N N E L L dot com. So 747 00:56:44,440 --> 00:56:50,000 Debbie hyphen O'Connell dot com. And then look under Golf Positive Courses, Keys 748 00:56:50,039 --> 00:56:52,880 to being a Champion and uh and I'd love to serve you and help you 749 00:56:53,199 --> 00:57:00,400 play your best golf. I hope you enjoyed that conversation. We've got some 750 00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:05,440 pretty interesting guests coming up over this summer. Next week, John LaGG Ericson 751 00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:08,840 he's been on the show before, a former PGA Tour winner and purveyor of 752 00:57:09,320 --> 00:57:15,559 Advanced Ballstriking dot com, will be joining us for a long discussion on many 753 00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:19,960 topics, including why he doesn't think we need to grow the game, just 754 00:57:20,079 --> 00:57:24,679 sustain it. We'll get to hear all about a new book called Learning the 755 00:57:24,760 --> 00:57:31,119 Golf Swing through Physics with June Shen Wang, and a conversation I'll be recording 756 00:57:31,159 --> 00:57:37,960 next week with both doctor Bob Jones, the fourth grandson of Bobby Jones, 757 00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:43,800 and another doctor I introduced him too recently, doctor Joseph Parent, author of 758 00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:49,320 Zen Golf, not exactly sure which direction that interview will go, but if 759 00:57:49,360 --> 00:57:52,639 you have any specific questions or topics you want to make sure that we cover, 760 00:57:52,840 --> 00:57:57,519 please let me know before July twenty first, when we're recording that conversation. 761 00:57:58,519 --> 00:58:01,559 And you may have noticed in the last month that we have really increased 762 00:58:01,559 --> 00:58:07,760 our presence on social media, including articles in LinkedIn and Facebook, short videos 763 00:58:07,800 --> 00:58:14,199 on YouTube, TikTok and Instagram, and tips videos and insights on Twitter. 764 00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:19,440 If you've seen some of these new posts and are checking out golf Smarter for 765 00:58:19,440 --> 00:58:23,079 the first time, welcome to the team. 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This show was one of the first I 773 00:59:00,360 --> 00:59:05,960 added to my rotation and really got hooked during this series of interviews with Tony 774 00:59:06,000 --> 00:59:09,960 Manzoni and later he goes on to say, if you're looking for an entertaining 775 00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:15,719 and educational golf podcast that covers a wide variety of the golfing world, I'd 776 00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:19,559 recommend Golf Smarter. Thank you, Steve. That was very kind of you. 777 00:59:20,280 --> 00:59:22,400 Now, the other way to become a Golf Smarter ambassador is to do 778 00:59:22,480 --> 00:59:27,280 with Bob Ferris. If Meridian, Idaho did at the beginning of the show 779 00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:31,159 share with us where you live, where you play, and then introduce the 780 00:59:31,239 --> 00:59:37,079 episode number. 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One more quick story. 789 01:00:14,320 --> 01:00:16,760 This weekend, I went out to play and it was the first time with 790 01:00:16,840 --> 01:00:22,519 a new golf bag. I did a lot of research before deciding on which 791 01:00:22,519 --> 01:00:27,079 one to get. Is for years, I've had a bag that was actually 792 01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:31,239 it was wearing out. It needed to be replaced. And since I walk 793 01:00:31,320 --> 01:00:36,639 with a pushcart and never carry my bag because of the pressure and strain it 794 01:00:36,679 --> 01:00:39,079 puts on my back, I got a bag that works well on either a 795 01:00:39,159 --> 01:00:45,760 driving cart or the pushcart. Now I'm still trying to decide where to position 796 01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:51,199 each club because this bag has fourteen separate slots because I did it that way 797 01:00:51,199 --> 01:00:54,239 because I really do not like the sound of clubs banging against one another. 798 01:00:54,280 --> 01:00:59,480 One. I'm when I'm walking along the road the course, and wouldn't you 799 01:00:59,519 --> 01:01:02,599 know it, around the fifteenth hole, I realized that my seven iron was 800 01:01:02,679 --> 01:01:08,159 missing. Now that does not happen to me. I don't remember ever going 801 01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:13,280 ah, I can't find my club. No, it does not happen. 802 01:01:13,960 --> 01:01:16,480 And I asked the three groups behind me if they found it, and the 803 01:01:16,559 --> 01:01:21,239 Marshal nope, no luck. So after the round, I grabbed a cart 804 01:01:21,239 --> 01:01:23,639 from the pro shop started driving around the course, starting at eighteen and working 805 01:01:23,679 --> 01:01:28,519 backwards. Luckily, a nice guy picked it up and was waiting for me 806 01:01:28,599 --> 01:01:31,800 to arrive. Moral of the story. If you carry an extra club to 807 01:01:31,880 --> 01:01:37,559 the green or to your next shot, make sure if you put it on 808 01:01:37,599 --> 01:01:44,320 the ground that you do so between you and your bag, not behind you. 809 01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:49,159 If you have any questions, comments, or suggestions for upcoming episodes, 810 01:01:49,360 --> 01:01:52,400 I'm open to hear from you. Please click on the hay Fred button when 811 01:01:52,400 --> 01:01:54,840 you visit golf smarter dot com