WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.280 --> 00:00:04.040 All right, here we go with a minute, so goodbye. Let's get 2 00:00:04.040 --> 00:00:08.800 started with this one from h Lucas love the show and the three of me 3 00:00:08.960 --> 00:00:14.400 goes, congrats to everyone and they're moves within the company. This question is 4 00:00:14.439 --> 00:00:17.039 more for David. Maybe Jenny and Drake know the answer. Let's start with 5 00:00:17.199 --> 00:00:22.359 radio. Is there a national time in each hour that all stations need to 6 00:00:22.359 --> 00:00:25.399 take a commercial break? I ask because more often than not, not all 7 00:00:25.440 --> 00:00:28.160 the time, but usually every time when you are another station go on a 8 00:00:28.160 --> 00:00:31.399 break, you can try other stations to see if they're on the air, 9 00:00:31.440 --> 00:00:34.880 but they are also in a commercial break. It seems odd that it happens. 10 00:00:35.000 --> 00:00:39.960 Any ideas, Yes, it is very deliberate, and it is all 11 00:00:40.119 --> 00:00:47.159 kind of like strategorizing and trying to figure out. Steve, I can explain 12 00:00:47.200 --> 00:00:52.960 it without getting boring. So if if you we try to beat other people 13 00:00:53.000 --> 00:00:59.439 to commercials, so we'll be done with commercials sooner. So example, if 14 00:00:59.479 --> 00:01:04.959 you are listen to KBB and you hear us play a commercial, you might 15 00:01:06.040 --> 00:01:10.799 flip it over to another radio station, but then they're going to go into 16 00:01:10.799 --> 00:01:14.120 commercials soon, so then you'll flip back to us and we'll be back out 17 00:01:14.120 --> 00:01:15.959 of commercial sooner. I think it's all a bunch of horseshit. I think 18 00:01:15.959 --> 00:01:21.560 it's like Spriss strategy that doesn't necessarily work. I think that it does suck 19 00:01:21.599 --> 00:01:25.319 when you you know, we love our commercials and our clients, but when 20 00:01:25.359 --> 00:01:29.280 you are listening to let's say, you know, ninety three X and they 21 00:01:29.319 --> 00:01:33.200 play commercials, well, chances are you might flip over to KDBB to see 22 00:01:33.200 --> 00:01:38.079 what we're playing, and if we've already played our commercials, then you'll be 23 00:01:38.200 --> 00:01:42.480 with us for a while until we play commercials again. At the same time, 24 00:01:42.239 --> 00:01:48.280 most people don't tune out during commercials. They stay, even though they 25 00:01:48.359 --> 00:01:51.359 might not be aware that they're staying. They might go, oh, yeah, 26 00:01:51.400 --> 00:01:55.000 I listen to commercials. But most people actually, in a way, 27 00:01:55.120 --> 00:01:59.519 believe it or not, don't mind commercials because they're produced in a way that 28 00:01:59.640 --> 00:02:04.439 makes them more fun to listen to, like for example, this Sharman shiny 29 00:02:04.519 --> 00:02:08.719 Heine commercial or the Mister Clean commercial or a zero res commercial. We try 30 00:02:08.719 --> 00:02:13.759 to produce them in a way that they're palatable to listen to. I think 31 00:02:13.800 --> 00:02:17.560 the problem is when there are too many commercials in a row. The next 32 00:02:17.560 --> 00:02:22.599 one then I move on to TV. I listen to iHeart at Home from 33 00:02:22.599 --> 00:02:24.039 my phone. But when you go to commercial, I sometimes turn the TV 34 00:02:24.120 --> 00:02:28.039 off mute to watch whatever's on. But when I look, they are on 35 00:02:28.080 --> 00:02:30.240 a commercial as well. So I try another channel and same thing, the 36 00:02:30.280 --> 00:02:34.919 commercial. The channel's on commercial. Super strange, it's not maybe there's a 37 00:02:34.919 --> 00:02:37.639 reason for that. And if you or anybody know this or not, keep 38 00:02:37.680 --> 00:02:40.879 up the good work. Hashtag dart Lick, hashtag staff writer. That is 39 00:02:40.960 --> 00:02:46.759 Lucas in Ramsey. I don't know about TV, but I will say that 40 00:02:46.800 --> 00:02:51.960 the fucking Hulu app if you don't have the paid app and you got the 41 00:02:52.159 --> 00:02:55.240 Yeah, they play a commercial every five minutes, and it's pretty often. 42 00:02:55.560 --> 00:03:00.800 It is ridiculous. We were watching some than the other night. It might 43 00:03:00.800 --> 00:03:06.080 have been the JFK special because there's a JFK sixtieth anniversary assassination special and it's 44 00:03:06.120 --> 00:03:09.800 fascinating because I love history. And literally every five minutes is another commercial. 45 00:03:10.599 --> 00:03:14.400 The cool thing is they show you up a right hand corner. They'll say 46 00:03:14.439 --> 00:03:17.319 like, add one minute, thirty seconds left, so you got me. 47 00:03:17.439 --> 00:03:23.680 It's not like six minutes of commercials. True, Thank you, Lucas. 48 00:03:24.520 --> 00:03:29.319 Next one, don't say a name I know it's early, but thought with 49 00:03:29.400 --> 00:03:32.319 a holiday season coming up, it might soon be fun to have you answer 50 00:03:32.400 --> 00:03:38.520 this question. Someone recently asked me what is the one thing you always wanted 51 00:03:38.520 --> 00:03:43.319 for Christmas but never got? Every single year we would get this long, 52 00:03:43.400 --> 00:03:46.120 narrow package under the tree, and I would tell myself it was a telescope. 53 00:03:46.400 --> 00:03:54.599 Finally a telescope, but it wasn't. It was always a hockey stick. 54 00:03:55.599 --> 00:04:00.639 Also, I asked my family the question about the five liquids you you 55 00:04:00.680 --> 00:04:02.199 would choose to come out of your fingers. Remember we had this last week, 56 00:04:02.240 --> 00:04:04.319 right, Yeah, it was a few weeks ago. Now, okay, 57 00:04:04.360 --> 00:04:09.560 everybody picked gas water and all the same answers except my nine year old. 58 00:04:09.599 --> 00:04:11.879 He said he want to have pea come out of his fingers, so 59 00:04:12.000 --> 00:04:14.680 on long car rides he would have stop for the bathroom could point his finger 60 00:04:14.680 --> 00:04:17.000 out the window instead. He also thought it would make an excellent weapon if 61 00:04:17.000 --> 00:04:20.120 he needed one. He then asked me what I thought would be the worst 62 00:04:20.120 --> 00:04:25.040 superpower you could have. He thinks it would be the ability to fly, 63 00:04:26.079 --> 00:04:30.160 but only if you're naked. I was curious what bad superpowers you and Jenny 64 00:04:30.240 --> 00:04:34.319 could come up with. Anyway, some random show thoughts. Don't say a 65 00:04:34.399 --> 00:04:38.000 name, but I'm going to take a picture of it and send you a 66 00:04:38.079 --> 00:04:41.199 sticker. So, Jenny, what about a bad superpower? What would you 67 00:04:41.240 --> 00:04:43.680 have? I think mind reading would be the worst superpower to have. I 68 00:04:43.680 --> 00:04:46.199 don't want to know what other people are thinking. I want to, like, 69 00:04:46.279 --> 00:04:50.720 I think that your entire life would be changed. And we all are 70 00:04:50.800 --> 00:04:56.199 kind of imprints of each other. So imagine like you're already like surrounding yourself 71 00:04:56.199 --> 00:04:59.519 by certain people, and you probably do a lot of similar things that they 72 00:04:59.560 --> 00:05:02.519 do. Imagine then also knowing their thoughts. On top of that, like 73 00:05:02.720 --> 00:05:06.040 you would not be your own person. You would be so influenced by so 74 00:05:06.120 --> 00:05:10.000 many things. I feel like totally I never thought about that. Yeah, 75 00:05:10.360 --> 00:05:14.319 to hear what other people are thinking of you all the time. Yeah, 76 00:05:14.360 --> 00:05:17.160 what about you? What would be the worst? Anything like Superman Batman where 77 00:05:17.199 --> 00:05:19.920 you're trying to sit around, you're, you know, I don't know, 78 00:05:19.959 --> 00:05:23.519 you're having some pringles, You're watching Netflix, and all of a sudden, 79 00:05:23.519 --> 00:05:28.079 there's the skylight, the big bat light whatever it's called, or they call 80 00:05:28.160 --> 00:05:30.120 you in the action. It's like, God, damn it, I just 81 00:05:30.160 --> 00:05:33.759 sat down. I just sat down. It's kind of like when you just 82 00:05:33.800 --> 00:05:36.079 sit down, you get a big old bullet chili on your lap, and 83 00:05:36.079 --> 00:05:39.839 you got some scoops over here, and you got your sour cream, and 84 00:05:39.839 --> 00:05:42.800 you're ready to go, and the vikings are on, and now your dog 85 00:05:42.839 --> 00:05:46.199 wants outside. Fuck God, damn it. And then you're like, ah, 86 00:05:46.319 --> 00:05:48.680 I gotta stand up, take the chili off my lap, go put 87 00:05:48.680 --> 00:05:53.759 the dog outside. Then eight and a half seconds later she wants back in. 88 00:05:54.360 --> 00:05:59.399 Fuck I get it. I get it. So I would not want 89 00:05:59.399 --> 00:06:01.480 to be Superman Batman because I just sit down and then somebody would call and 90 00:06:01.519 --> 00:06:08.199 go, we're being invaded. All right, thank you for that one. 91 00:06:08.199 --> 00:06:13.519 I'm paging through the next one. Hey, guys, a random topic. 92 00:06:13.879 --> 00:06:16.720 But this year I fulfilled by New Year's resolution to taking care of my dental 93 00:06:16.800 --> 00:06:19.600 hygiene. I've been putting this off for at least ten years, and this 94 00:06:19.680 --> 00:06:26.879 year alone, I got five teeth pulled, three teeth repaired. Now I 95 00:06:26.959 --> 00:06:30.560 have one appointment left until all the damage I did in my younger days is 96 00:06:30.600 --> 00:06:33.120 repaired. I cannot believe that less than a year ago I felt so helpless 97 00:06:33.160 --> 00:06:36.360 and embarrassed to go to my dentist. Now, the bulk of that is 98 00:06:36.399 --> 00:06:41.519 over. I'm onto my fitness resolution early. And really this is just an 99 00:06:41.519 --> 00:06:44.759 email to tell everybody to check one thing off at a time, no matter 100 00:06:44.759 --> 00:06:47.279 how overwhelming. If you have a plate of frogs to eat, eat the 101 00:06:47.319 --> 00:06:50.720 biggest one first and get it done. I feel like a whole new person. 102 00:06:51.040 --> 00:06:59.319 Credit to the book, eat that frog, and thank you local New 103 00:06:59.399 --> 00:07:02.759 Jersey loyal. That is loyal New Jersey listener. I love that you listen. 104 00:07:02.759 --> 00:07:05.480 I don't know how you found the podcast, but so cool that you're 105 00:07:05.519 --> 00:07:10.879 listening in New Jersey. I love that, so thank you. And good 106 00:07:10.879 --> 00:07:13.680 for you with the teeth. I mean, that's amazing that you put that 107 00:07:13.720 --> 00:07:15.240 off to your teeth. We're so damaged that you had to have that many 108 00:07:15.279 --> 00:07:19.639 procedures, but good for you. I mean it's easy for me. I 109 00:07:19.680 --> 00:07:23.480 grew up taking care of my teeth. We brushed our teeth, Yeah, 110 00:07:23.560 --> 00:07:25.680 often enough. I was a kid. I would skip a lot of the 111 00:07:25.720 --> 00:07:28.319 time. Wet your toothbrush. Did you brush your teeth, David, Yeah, 112 00:07:28.360 --> 00:07:31.920 my toothbrush is wet. But now I brush with a sonic care every 113 00:07:32.000 --> 00:07:35.639 day for two minutes. I floss. I use those little green, little 114 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:40.480 picky things to get the food stuff out of there so and whenever I go 115 00:07:40.600 --> 00:07:43.360 in for a checkup, they always are impressed on I think it's because they 116 00:07:43.360 --> 00:07:46.680 think a guy that's my age might be ready to lose his teeth and mine 117 00:07:46.720 --> 00:07:53.240 are still strong too, Wow, quite strong. And next one, don't 118 00:07:53.279 --> 00:07:56.519 say my name. Thanks for prefacing your email with don't say my name so 119 00:07:56.560 --> 00:07:59.560 we don't have to go back and chop your name out. Afterward, I 120 00:07:59.600 --> 00:08:03.720 had some anddom topics to discuss. First off, I fell for a massive 121 00:08:03.839 --> 00:08:07.240 credit card scam today and just needed to tell the world that I'm a complete 122 00:08:07.319 --> 00:08:11.920 idiot. I have an Apple card and I got a call from them somehow, 123 00:08:11.959 --> 00:08:16.519 but it wasn't actually them. I went on to give them my virtual 124 00:08:16.600 --> 00:08:22.759 number to verify it, and he even talked me into approving a fraudulent charge 125 00:08:22.800 --> 00:08:26.120 because he says that's how they would set up advance fraud protection for me. 126 00:08:26.800 --> 00:08:31.200 I proceeded to spend seventy five minutes on the phone with him as he charged 127 00:08:31.279 --> 00:08:37.080 over ten thousand dollars to my card, and he told me that I was 128 00:08:37.080 --> 00:08:41.639 seeing these charges because they were reversing them on their end. Jesus h, 129 00:08:41.720 --> 00:08:46.919 I'm so dumb. I contacted the real Apple immediately after they charged one more 130 00:08:46.960 --> 00:08:50.000 thing after I hung up, and I thought that was really weird. They 131 00:08:50.039 --> 00:08:54.399 told me they'd never asked for my card number, nor did they have access 132 00:08:54.440 --> 00:08:58.320 to it. Lord help my dumb ass. Let this be a lesson to 133 00:08:58.440 --> 00:09:01.919 everyone. He wasted me time and hurt my pride. It does look like 134 00:09:01.960 --> 00:09:05.440 though that Apple did. Yeah, negate the charges good. It is so 135 00:09:05.919 --> 00:09:13.200 easy to fall for that because most of us have trained are trained ourselves to 136 00:09:13.279 --> 00:09:18.320 like look for phishing emails or a text message from Amazon that says, hey, 137 00:09:18.360 --> 00:09:22.639 here's a note from your driver, or just something that looks really official, 138 00:09:24.279 --> 00:09:28.440 right, and they're easier to fall for. But I just I look 139 00:09:28.480 --> 00:09:31.159 at everything with a cenical eye, even the real stuff I look at with 140 00:09:31.159 --> 00:09:33.639 a cenical lie. Trust me, I do too. I just was booking 141 00:09:33.720 --> 00:09:37.759 something for a trip we have coming up that's in a different country, and 142 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:41.240 I was like super stressed booking it because it was in a different language half 143 00:09:41.279 --> 00:09:43.720 the time, and I just was like, am I doing this right? 144 00:09:43.759 --> 00:09:46.840 Am I getting scammed? I have all the verification codes and stuff like that, 145 00:09:46.879 --> 00:09:50.039 but I feel the same way. And I do want to bring up 146 00:09:50.080 --> 00:09:52.639 because we should talk about this on the actual morning show too. There is 147 00:09:52.679 --> 00:09:56.159 another scam page that is going around h Dave Ryan. We just got a 148 00:09:56.200 --> 00:10:01.159 bunch of messages starting yesterday to the Facebook page, and I just want to 149 00:10:01.240 --> 00:10:05.639 warn anyone who might be listening. Like the screenshot I keep getting it says 150 00:10:05.679 --> 00:10:09.320 like quick and easy cash on it, and then it's our image the three 151 00:10:09.360 --> 00:10:11.919 of us that we have on our Facebook page on it would like cash and 152 00:10:11.960 --> 00:10:16.440 the KTWB logo and Dave Ryan Show, and then it shows all this thing 153 00:10:16.759 --> 00:10:20.120 and then it says like Verify using a credit card. So there's stuff in 154 00:10:20.159 --> 00:10:22.159 there. Yep, they want to use your credit card. Like it just 155 00:10:22.240 --> 00:10:26.759 doesn't seem legit, but you could click on there's like a link and they 156 00:10:26.799 --> 00:10:31.080 literally have like KATWB like in the link of it. And so I just 157 00:10:31.120 --> 00:10:35.600 want to warn anyone that there are some scams that go on that involve us 158 00:10:35.639 --> 00:10:39.120 that are not us, but it looks like it's us. That it happened 159 00:10:39.159 --> 00:10:41.480 earlier in the year, maybe in the summer, and then it kind of 160 00:10:41.480 --> 00:10:45.200 went away and it's back. There's not a thing we can really do about 161 00:10:45.200 --> 00:10:48.200 it. Yeah, we can report it. There's really not a thing except 162 00:10:48.200 --> 00:10:50.919 we just hope that people will go, that's a scam. I get a 163 00:10:50.960 --> 00:10:54.559 couple of text messages the last couple of days saying is this a scam, 164 00:10:54.559 --> 00:10:56.240 and it's like, yes, it is absolutely a scam. If it seems 165 00:10:56.279 --> 00:11:01.519 too good to be true, it probably is. Second from the same email 166 00:11:01.679 --> 00:11:07.080 on observation, Dave, I assume when you're saying UG, when somebody puts 167 00:11:07.080 --> 00:11:09.440 it in an email, they are spelling it ug H. Correct me if 168 00:11:09.440 --> 00:11:13.360 I'm wrong, but I believe it's meant to be pronounced more of its asi 169 00:11:13.679 --> 00:11:18.519 like Okay, if you put it into Google, you can listen to the 170 00:11:18.519 --> 00:11:20.399 pronunciation of it. I'm not attacking you. I just thought it was funny. 171 00:11:20.480 --> 00:11:24.320 I would not have thought to put ugh into Google and see how it 172 00:11:24.360 --> 00:11:28.360 pronounces it. Do you want to see, Jenny, I do so. 173 00:11:28.360 --> 00:11:31.600 So when you put you are it is ugh. When you say you say 174 00:11:31.679 --> 00:11:33.320 ug, right, yeah, and I say ug like oh my boyfriend left 175 00:11:33.320 --> 00:11:37.399 me in the middle of the night uga, and they spell it ugh. 176 00:11:37.440 --> 00:11:39.399 But if you put into Google and pronunciate, pronunciate it, let's see what 177 00:11:39.440 --> 00:11:46.879 it says. Uh oh really okay, yeah, okay. I feel like 178 00:11:46.919 --> 00:11:50.320 I read it though the same as how you say it with that makes sense. 179 00:11:50.600 --> 00:11:54.080 Yeah, I am today years old and I never thought about that. 180 00:11:54.600 --> 00:12:00.559 And finally, would you rather to leave you with with your be able to 181 00:12:00.600 --> 00:12:05.399 see ten minutes into the future or one hundred and fifty years into the future 182 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:13.279 on an ongoing basis or just one time. If it's one time, then 183 00:12:13.320 --> 00:12:16.000 I would definitely do one hundred fifty years into the future. If it's an 184 00:12:16.039 --> 00:12:22.320 ongoing basis, absolutely ten minutes into the future. What about you, Jenny, 185 00:12:22.480 --> 00:12:24.279 My brain already thinks into the future. That's what it is, my 186 00:12:24.440 --> 00:12:28.519 anxiety. So personally, I don't want either. I just want to live 187 00:12:28.559 --> 00:12:33.159 in the moment because I am an anxious human and I am constantly thinking about 188 00:12:33.200 --> 00:12:35.279 the future, which is a huge cause of my anxiety. I read something 189 00:12:35.320 --> 00:12:39.039 that was very reassuring to me one time and then maybe this will help you. 190 00:12:39.799 --> 00:12:46.320 Nearly all the things we worry about happening never happen. And when I 191 00:12:46.360 --> 00:12:50.320 heard about that was like, oh, well, I'm going to walk through 192 00:12:50.360 --> 00:12:54.720 a bad neighborhood and I'm going to get mugged, or I'm going to go 193 00:12:54.840 --> 00:12:58.679 skiing and I'm going to break my leg, or I'm going to go on 194 00:12:58.720 --> 00:13:01.600 a train and I'm going to get the car wreck. Most of the things 195 00:13:01.639 --> 00:13:07.200 we worry about happening never happen. Yeah, and I think that's so true. 196 00:13:07.320 --> 00:13:09.639 I'll give you an example. Jenny thought that she would blow it at 197 00:13:09.639 --> 00:13:11.519 the Timberwolves game the other night, and it didn't happen. You did great, 198 00:13:11.840 --> 00:13:16.879 It did happen. I think it's just because of like previous experiences of 199 00:13:16.919 --> 00:13:20.679 anxiety in moments of having to public speak, that that was just like triggering 200 00:13:20.759 --> 00:13:24.000 going into that. But then when I got there, like I said, 201 00:13:24.039 --> 00:13:26.440 it was great and I didn't have any nerves when I was actually there. 202 00:13:26.440 --> 00:13:30.200 But I was pretty surprised by that. I thought i'd still be nervous there 203 00:13:30.799 --> 00:13:33.960 and still be able to handle it. But I actually had like no nerves 204 00:13:33.000 --> 00:13:37.840 once I was there. And that's sometimes how it works. You're nervous leading 205 00:13:37.919 --> 00:13:39.759 up to it, and then you get there and you're actually the nerves all 206 00:13:39.799 --> 00:13:41.919 kind of meltway. If this is enough for a stick or please send it 207 00:13:41.960 --> 00:13:46.759 to this address, I'm going to tell you. You said don't say your 208 00:13:46.799 --> 00:13:48.200 name, so I won't, but I will tell you that is the perfect 209 00:13:48.679 --> 00:13:52.960 Minnesota goodbye email. Because it was random, it was interesting, it gave 210 00:13:54.000 --> 00:13:56.840 us things to talk about. So that is why you get something that's called 211 00:13:56.840 --> 00:14:01.519 a staff writer because you wrote thank you. I appreciate that. That is 212 00:14:01.519 --> 00:14:07.039 what the show is all about. Next one, Dave Jenny Drake wanted to 213 00:14:07.039 --> 00:14:13.080 write in provide clarification on genital herpes talk a few days ago because I think 214 00:14:13.360 --> 00:14:16.960 the misinformation in our community is contributing to the spread. I'm a primary care 215 00:14:18.080 --> 00:14:24.679 nurse practitioner and unfortunately, we see this diagnosis frequently. Genital herpes can spread 216 00:14:24.879 --> 00:14:30.159 even if there are no active sores. The body is constantly shedding the virus 217 00:14:30.240 --> 00:14:33.039 even without activation of the disease. We had talked about how you probably won't 218 00:14:33.080 --> 00:14:37.320 spread herpes if you don't have an active outbreak. Using a condom decreases the 219 00:14:37.360 --> 00:14:43.320 possibility of contracting the virus, but does not prevent it one hundred percent. 220 00:14:43.600 --> 00:14:46.720 When the writer stated the woman has the quote type of herpes that can't be 221 00:14:46.799 --> 00:14:50.080 spread because of her medication, that is partially true. There is no such 222 00:14:50.120 --> 00:14:54.960 thing as a type of general herpes that does not spread. However, if 223 00:14:54.960 --> 00:14:58.960 the person with general herpes takes an anti viral medication every day, it's significantly 224 00:15:00.080 --> 00:15:03.320 he decreases the chances of spreading the virus, although there is still a chance 225 00:15:05.039 --> 00:15:07.399 so to answer the writer's question if he should be angry that she didn't tell 226 00:15:07.440 --> 00:15:11.000 him about the genital herpes before. In my opinion, yes, he's got 227 00:15:11.039 --> 00:15:15.200 every right to be upset. She didn't give the opportunity to weigh the risk 228 00:15:15.320 --> 00:15:18.240 versus benefits and allow him to make the decision if he would want to put 229 00:15:18.320 --> 00:15:24.159 himself at risk. Hope that helps, Yes, thank you. I think 230 00:15:24.200 --> 00:15:28.200 we're down to our last one, so let's see if we can get through 231 00:15:28.240 --> 00:15:31.600 it. We're a little short on time. Dave and Gang, I like 232 00:15:31.639 --> 00:15:33.919 that. Dave and Gang, I'm sure you get a ton of emails for 233 00:15:33.960 --> 00:15:37.919 advice. I understand if mine isn't radio enough, but I'm looking for advice 234 00:15:39.320 --> 00:15:41.720 to see if it works. I will sum up as much as possible. 235 00:15:41.759 --> 00:15:45.759 I am hosting my first friends giving. I cannot be more excited. With 236 00:15:45.799 --> 00:15:48.480 that being said, I've extended to ten invitations to people, but there is 237 00:15:48.559 --> 00:15:52.440 one girl in our major friend group who I personally do not care for. 238 00:15:52.559 --> 00:15:56.799 The Other friends don't mind her. She's not my favorite. The other friends 239 00:15:56.879 --> 00:16:00.039 know how I feel. Right now, I'm not planning inviting her. There's 240 00:16:00.120 --> 00:16:03.440 part of me that feels bad, but there's also a part of me that 241 00:16:03.759 --> 00:16:07.639 doesn't because she puts me in some others in a weird mood when she's around. 242 00:16:07.639 --> 00:16:11.240 She's not mean. She's always about herself. She talks about her boyfriend 243 00:16:11.320 --> 00:16:15.919 about her life, but never ask anybody else how their lives are, how 244 00:16:15.960 --> 00:16:18.200 things are. Friend has been in the friend group for about five years, 245 00:16:18.279 --> 00:16:22.720 I would say, and she has only once tried to get the group together, 246 00:16:22.759 --> 00:16:26.759 where the others and myself are constantly putting together things, and it bothers 247 00:16:26.799 --> 00:16:32.399 me so much. We're all so very good at taking turns driving she never 248 00:16:32.480 --> 00:16:34.120 does. There was even one time I kindly said, hey, do you 249 00:16:34.120 --> 00:16:37.399 mind driving since the last few times we all have, and she came back 250 00:16:37.440 --> 00:16:41.879 saying, my tires are bad. So basically, I want to know if 251 00:16:41.879 --> 00:16:44.759 it was mean or rude for me to not extend this invitation. I am 252 00:16:44.759 --> 00:16:48.399 a person where if you put zero percent in of friendship, I'm going to 253 00:16:48.440 --> 00:16:52.440 put zero in also enjoy you all every morning, Jenny, take it away. 254 00:16:53.200 --> 00:16:56.039 I don't think it's rude. I think you should be prepared for a 255 00:16:56.120 --> 00:16:59.879 falling out and some of your other friends being angry with you for that. 256 00:17:00.320 --> 00:17:04.480 But sometimes you do have to cut friendships off, Like if you don't feel 257 00:17:04.599 --> 00:17:07.400 joy around that front, then why do you want to why would you want 258 00:17:07.440 --> 00:17:11.200 to hang out with them? And I'm sure that like because it's a group 259 00:17:11.240 --> 00:17:14.079 setting and it's like, oh, just forget about her. But it's like 260 00:17:14.720 --> 00:17:19.000 one person can kind of affect a group setting, say one hundred of friends 261 00:17:19.000 --> 00:17:22.240 giving. It's probably not a huge thing. You probably have like maybe eight 262 00:17:22.240 --> 00:17:26.559 friends there. Maybe it's bigger than that, but one person could really affect 263 00:17:26.599 --> 00:17:29.519 that. So I'm on your side. I think you just have to be 264 00:17:29.559 --> 00:17:32.799 prepared for like your other friends being upset with you about that, and maybe 265 00:17:32.839 --> 00:17:37.000 some people starting to take sides and you potentially losing some of your close friends. 266 00:17:37.599 --> 00:17:41.480 I agree with you. I think that you're fine not to have her. 267 00:17:41.319 --> 00:17:47.039 She sounds like a narcissist where she doesn't think of anything herself. It's 268 00:17:47.119 --> 00:17:52.160 always her. This is my experience with a narcissist. When you take a 269 00:17:52.200 --> 00:17:56.240 picture, they always put themselves front and center. And I think if you 270 00:17:56.279 --> 00:18:00.960 think about somebody in your life that you know that might be a narciss whenever 271 00:18:00.000 --> 00:18:03.519 you get a picture, they always have to be front and center. And 272 00:18:03.599 --> 00:18:07.839 to me, it's like, why not stand in the back on the side 273 00:18:07.839 --> 00:18:11.319 once in a while. You know, I don't know, maybe I'm wrong 274 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:12.200 about that. I wish I had more time to delve into it, but 275 00:18:12.200 --> 00:18:15.759 we're running short on time. Send your emails and your staff writing. Your 276 00:18:15.880 --> 00:18:22.279 assignment is to write something to talk about and send it to ryanshow at kadiwb 277 00:18:22.440 --> 00:18:22.000 dot com.