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Welcome to speed round Sunday on the
Parenting Roundabout podcast, where we share a

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mini episode from our past for your
weekend listening pleasure. We'll be back tomorrow

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with a brand new episode. I
was thinking the other day. It was

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a Sunday morning and I was having
coffee, my husband's having coffee. And

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one of my fondest memories of growing
up is Sunday mornings, I would my

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family would get together in the living
room, and we rarely sat in the

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living room. The living room was
like really for only special occasions, you

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know, the living room versus the
family room. So Sunday morning we would

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convene in in the living room,
and we had lots of conversations in that

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living room, just chatting with one
another, and you know, lots of

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big life decisions were made and lots
of Yeah, so those that family conversation

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time was super important, and I
feel like I didn't really do a good

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job of establishing that in my family. I mean, we talk, but

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it's as needed. It's not this, let's sit down and have a conversation.

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It's not planned, it's not a
not a tradition. Yeah, So

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I don't know what's what's better,
like, how how do you have a

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time where you I mean as it
around the dinner table? Is it?

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You know? How do you have
these conversations with your family that you know

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may not be necessarily important life decisions, but still our opportunity to connect,

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checking in with each other and such. Yeah, we sort of do.

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I mean, we have dinner together
pretty much every night, and on we

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used to on Sunday mornings. My
husband will go out and get either donuts

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or bagels, and then we would
eat breakfast together on Sunday mornings. But

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now he's working on Sundays and we
haven't really figured out another day to do

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that. I would like to say, let's do it. He's off on

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Friday and Saturday. Now let's do
it on Friday morning. But that hasn't

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quite happened yet. But still we
do have these times where we all sit

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down together. Do we converse?
I don't know. We're not really conversing

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people. I mean, my husband's
a pretty quiet guy. My kids generally

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have things to say, but they
have their language difficulties, so sometimes it's

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not it doesn't flow really easily,
or it's sort of the same thing over

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and over again. And I feel
like we should, and sometimes I will

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try to instigate, but it's usually
not a full dinner sort of discussion.

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It's fits and starts. So and
then my husband and I have started up

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this habit which is sort of anti
conversation. I feel bad because it shuts

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the kids out pretty entirely. But
at dinner time, we go through the

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birthdays in the newspaper and on IMDb, the celebrity birthdays, and I read

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out the name and my husband has
to guess how old they are. So

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that's our dinner table discussion. So
it's fun for him and me. But

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unless it's like somebody that my kids
have heard of, it's not so much

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fun for them. So they just
kind of equickly and look. But so

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we found a way to stamp stamp
out that nasty conversation. Anybody has something

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to say, they still generally do
and can. Yeah, we filled the

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time from there. Yeah, I
guess it's what your family is also able

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to do and has the time for
an interest in. Yeah, do you

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get a lot of a lot of
conversations going in the car driving back and

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forth from places that's that can be
a good place for it sometimes. Yeah,

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Yeah, we sometimes that happens or
but you know, also we like

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to listen to music or the radio
or whatever in the car too, and

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sometimes dinner times will be that kind
of thing. Um. I still remember

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once years ago we were for some
reason, the whole family was we were

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having a business dinner with my husband
and I think my son was like he

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was maybe seven or eight, and
he just said, well, and this

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was us and one other family with
like one kid and a bunch of business

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assuan, and he said, let's
go around the table and everyone say what

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your dream job would be? Oh, no, perf was very funny,

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perfect. Everyone actually kind of enjoyed
that. So, yeah, we'll we'll

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sometimes have the dinner table conversation or
the or the in the car conversation.

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And maybe more so if we go
out to dinner I guess than at home.

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That's a good point. There's more
time, I guess to to do

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that. Yeah, And people can't
just get off the table, up from

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the table and leave on their own. They're kind of stuffed there for a

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exactly period of time. That's right. We do have big conversations then and

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periodically my one of my kids will
just come up and start talking to me

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about something. So we have one
on one conversations, but the whole family

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sometimes maybe less comment less comment.
We just don't have that much to say.

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We just we text each other.
Yeah, that's what we're being.

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My husband does enjoy texting my daughter
from a different part of the house and

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then listening for her feet. It
is revolutionized shouting for a kid to come

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do something. You can just rest
them and they come, Oh, I

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know, it's great. Well,
I don't know. I feel like I

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feel guilty for not I don't know
why I have it in my head that

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I have to have this sit down
time with my kids, and I feel

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tremendously guilty for not establishing it.
But yeah, there are other ways of

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communicating which are perfectly acceptable. So
on each other's Facebook posts, that's the

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way we did it these days.
Like like their post, it's all going

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down on its growth. Yeah,