Well, here's a special occasion on the Minnesota Goodbye. We have several guests
here on the Minnesota Goodbye. Welcome Jenny Weather or Jenny Hello. And also
here is Amazing Bailey. So what'd you say? What up? What a
fool? I don't know? Okay, I think you said foo though,
which is what you like? I don't know. It's from movies? What
uf foo? What's it from? It sounds like a character from the seventies
called mister T. Yeah, that sounds right. I pitied early two thousands
people would like talk weird like that. How do you know? I pity
the fool because that's mister T from the A Team in like nineteen eighty one.
Did he say that? I know? Did he say that in Rocky
though? Because I used to watch? Oh, likely he did. He
was in high school. His character was named clubber Lang, Yes, Clubber
Lang in Rocky two three? Or was the Russian guy dollar Gren? I
want to say, wait, that's also that's also mister T. I'll kill
you to death? No, no, no, I could, I don't
know. I don't know. Gosh, let's on Rocky Talk. Thanks for
coming to Let's talk, all right? Who was the first opponent in Rocky
number one? Who was his first opponent? Anybody? How do you know
that shit? I love? I used to wake up early in high school
to watch Rocky before school, so I'd wake up at like five am to
watch Rocky. You had priority. You should have been doing homework, I
know, but I was watching Rocky. Wow. All right, let's dive
in. Today is a naughty Tuesday. We will probably get into the naughty
Tuesday business here in a little bit, but in the meantime, let me
scroll down and find some stuff. Dave, Jenny, Drake, and Bailey.
You're not included, but in spirit you are. Please don't say my
name. I wanted to write and say thank you for everything you do.
I've recently been dealing with random spouts of pretty severe anxiety that makes my day
to day tasks delibabilitating. I try to do all the things to combat it,
exercise, folding, laundry, random chores, basically anything to get my
mind into a calmer place. But the only thing that I consistently used to
put my mind at ease is listening to you guys, your podcast in the
Minnesota Goodbye Wow. Yeah, that's really touching. I mean that that is.
I mean, if you're struggling so much that the other things aren't working,
but we do that, thank you, That makes our whole thing worthwhile
to make somebody's life a little bit better. They say it doesn't cure the
anxiety, but it's the only thing I found that always at least helps.
What you do means more than you probably already or ever know. I don't
know what I would do without you all. Thank you all so much,
love me, thanks for sharing that. You know, it's interesting to me
that the other things don't work for you, And I think that you know,
taking your mind off of anything is a great powerful thing to do.
If you find yourself going, I my heart's broken, my heart's broken,
or I'm so anxious or whatever, and then you can spend half an hour
not thinking about that, and then you look back and go, oh,
I haven't thought about my heartbreak in half an hour. Yeah that, And
I'm sure it's a comfort to like go back to something that you're used to,
and if you've been listening for a while, then you just go back,
and you know, it's nice to you know, take your mind off
of it. But it can be comforting too, which is I agree with
for sure. Well, they say that this might not ring true as much
now, but I read or saw something a long time ago that when Jay
Leno hosted The Tonight Show, and it probably applies now, whether it's Seth
Myers or whoever. If you watch it at home and then you're on a
business trip in I don't know, Jacksonville, Florida, you go to your
room and you watch that show. It's comforting because it reminds you of laying
in your bed at home, and wherever you are in the country, you
can watch Seth Yeah, and feel that comfort because you're watching that show just
like you do in your bedroom, reminded of your routine. Routine is comforting,
Yes, all right. Next one, Oh my god, listening to
the Minnesota Goodbye, you're talking about the husband not telling the wife. This
was yesterday about the tax debt, and asked to hear from anybody who's listening
who might have been in a similar situation. Buckle up. Here are just
a few of the financial items my very much ex husband hid from me.
He grossly abused student loans to the tune of two hundred and five thousand yep.
Basically a second house worth of debt. I learned this from my attorney
after our first day in front of a judge. I knew it was high,
but I had no idea it was vacation home high. He kept it
all under a separate account I had no access to, and insisted it was
to keep his student loan intuition reimbursement money from getting tangled in our day to
day finances. Woof. He took out two joint credit cards without my knowledge.
We had two four emergencies that I was aware of, and it assumed
were being kept in a nightstand drawer, but somewhere along the way he moved
them to his wallet. By the time he had to disclose all of our
finances to my attorney, suddenly there were not two, but four total credit
cards, all maxed out to the tune of sixteen thousand YEA for golf and
name brands, BOO for new tires and emergency vet bills. I digress.
Finally, taxes. I asked repeatedly to have our taxiles handed by a professional.
He said, no, do it myself. He's a business major with
a minor in accounting. After all, whelp, you guessed it. He
took liberties with the deductions and write offs, and we were audited. We
owed twelve thousand dollars to the IRS. But wait, there's more. Apparently
the IRS and Minnesota are best. He's in the tax world, so the
state caught wind and audited us as well. Another twelve thousand out the door
ode in back taxes. My favorite part of the tax story. During the
first audit, he had an in person appointment of the IRS offices to discuss
our case, came home and was gloating that he got our amount reduced by
half. How by flirting with the IRS woman, he said, he turned
on the old charm and since she was cougar age, that did the trick.
Yep, he's that guy puke. Anyway, a second person had to
review and sign off on her assessment, so, needless to say, the
amount ode went right back up to twelve thousand. Gone. I'm getting angry
just reading this one, so I know it's getting long. I'd like to
say, in my defense, I was nineteen when we met, super young,
super trusting, super naive. He was hot. I happily let him
handle the finances while I handled all the kid family stuff. I totally take
responsibility for not pressing harder to be involved in our finances. But now seeing
him without the rose colored glasses on, he would have just lied anyway.
Report that his new wife thankfully and very wisely got a prenup goes without saying.
But I'm a talker here, so here goes love y'all the smither Rings
can't imagine my mornings without you. Congratulations on thirty years, Dave, but
we're gonna need you to stick around for at least another thirty k thanks by
wow, that's horrible. And she trusted him because he was in finance,
yeah, and a business major. But he was hot. Yeah, we
do forgive a lot of things for being hot. And ILL feel like there's
such a stigma against getting a prenup because it makes you feel like, oh,
that person doesn't love you enough to trust you. But man, I
have seen some nasty things happen when you thought that you were going to be
civil and now someone's lost like thousands and thousands of dollars because there was no
prenup involved. Like truly, I think if Andrew and I got married,
I would be okay if he asked me for one, or if I put
out the idea because once you become married, like my property is his,
his property is mine. And he worked really hard to own investment properties himself,
and I worked hard to own my house. And I just think that,
like, you never know what might happen. If something goes bad,
then like by the state of Minnesota, everything's split or whatever. So I
just think prenups are important. Like I obviously would hope nothing bad ever happens
in a relationship, but I think it also protects you. I think that,
Yeah, I mean it's the old thing. I don't want to get
a prenup because I want to work out. I want to make to work
out. I don't want to, like you know, set myself up for
failure. But I mean, anything can go wrong. You might be invested
in the relationship for life, but they might change their mind, and you
never know until you're like in it. So I would never trust anyone that
much to not get a prenup. Just do it. Might as well.
Susan and I when we got together, we were you know, I made
more than her, but she made a lot of money. But we didn't
ever consider we're pretty much the same financially. Susan did kind of f me
over. I think one time, I don't know that. I told you
you don't know this, Bailey, you probably heard it. Yeah, when
I sold my dad's house when he died, we sold his house and I
got one hundred seventy thousand dollars. It wasn't a lot, you know.
One hundred and seventy thousand dollars for a house now is not a lot of
house. But this was twenty years ago. But I got one hundred and
seventy thousand. We had to reinvest it in real estate or pay taxes.
So we looked at a cab and we didn't want a cab. And we
looked at a house in Richfield and it was a dump, and so we
Susan found an office building in Florida that she sunk the money into, and
the guy that sold her on it said, yeah, well, you invest
this one hundred and seventy thousand dollars, you will not only see it grow,
but you're going to get a check for nine hundred dollars or one thousand
dollars every month just for being Wow. Wow, that's cool. Sounds nice.
Nine hundred dollars free and clear every month. Nice. A couple of
months, we get the nine hundred dollars check. Then the nine hundred dollars
check stops coming. Well, they're struggling a little bit. It's not at
full capacity, so it's struggling a little bit. And then pretty soon the
value starts going down. And the other investors sued this company because they looked
at the building. The building was a dump. It was half empty.
And we lost all one hundred seventy thousand dollars, all of it, every
penny. Yeah, And I had told Susan, I said, let's not
trust this guy. If it's such a good investment, he wouldn't be selling
it, he'd be buying it himself, right, And she's like, no,
no, no, And so it wasn't a devious move on her part.
It just was something we didn't agree on. I guess she was,
Yeah, she was a little bit too trusting of the s random stranger guy.
And she's expecting the best out of people when she probably should have expected
the worst. Expect the worst out of people. You expect the worst.
And maybe that's how I've gotten into bad friendships or relationships or something, But
I do always expect the best out of people. It's just like you want
to believe that someone is truthful, so that's our default. I read a
book about that. I might have been called Blink. I'm not sure.
It's by Malcolm Gladwell. And we default too good, so when somebody I
don't know, it's kind of like a little kid when somebody says, yeah,
your mom told me to come and pick you up from school. Well,
you default too good. You don't default too bad. That's our nature,
is default too good. So you can't be too hard on yourself when
you do next one longtime listener, big fan of the show. I don't
know where to turn, so I'm reaching out in hopes of answers. My
husband and I've been married for almost twenty years, three beautiful kids, problem
last six months, trouble with the love life. Let's just say when we
do it it would be great, and then in the middle, before I
am done or him, he won't be able to be erect and would stop.
This has made me feel insecure and a bit sad. I'm five to
one, one hundred and twenty pounds, so maybe I'm a little bit heavy.
That's not heavy, seriously, even at five foot one, and that
might have some effects on him. He told me several occasions it's not me,
it's him, but that doesn't reassure me. I have no one to
turn to and had to do some research on my own regarding the symptoms that
he shared with the stress, alcohol, etc. And when I did a
search on the internet, it came up as I irrectiled this function. Please
help, Please do not use my name. Okay, first of all,
if you've been married for twenty years, I'm gonna guess you're probably forty ish
or older. If he's not healthy, if he is drinking and stressed,
it is very, very possible that he has the desire to be there,
but it just ain't happening. So he could be like, yeah, let's
do this, let's go, and it's not happening. It sounds like you're
having a hard time bringing this up with him because he doesn't want to talk
about it, because it's hard for a guy to talk about not being able
to do that. Yeah, So I would say the best thing as you
can talk to him and say, hey, it's not doesn't make you less
of a man, less of a lover, but if you've got a problem,
then maybe you should see a doctor. Get the little blue pill.
Well, and also especially in that situation, like look at she's thinking that
she's the issue, He's probably thinking he's the issue, and in reality they
just have to look for a solution. Yeah, you know, it's so
it's so unfortunate because they probably both are so in their heads about it.
And honestly, there are times when Susan and I will be like you want
to no, no, just not really He's like, no, you want
to no? We know sometimes it just as the way it is, all
right, naughty Tuesday, and here we go. Oh, by the way,
let's go back. One more about the taxes and the finances. Very
short one from Rachel. I'm listening to today's Minnesota Goodbye and heard the email
regarding a wife having to pay her husband's back taxes. I'm an enrolled agent
public account and want to let her know she can fight fight this by filing
for injured spouse relief even if she filed married filing jointly, her tax prepares
should be able to help with this. Please share this with her, as
that's a lot of money that she might not have to pay. Love you
guys from Rachel. Thank you Rachel. You're ready for Naughty Tuesday. Do
it okay, Please don't say my name. This story takes place when I
was seventeen, maybe even sixteen. I was with my boyfriend at the time
for a few years and would go on trips with his family. They had
a big RV we'd go camping. This one particular trip, it was me,
him, his mom, and little sister in the RV and we were
meeting everybody else at the campsite. Pretty big RV with the bedroom in the
very back with the door that shut. His mom was driving, sister sitting
in the living area of the RV, and him and I were in the
back room watching a movie. We were not watching a movie. Thinking back
on it now, I can't believe how we did that and have no fear
of getting busted. His poor mom driving this RV, having no idea what
was going on in the back. His sister could have walked back there anytime,
and we just didn't give a shit. Signed young and dumb. Okay,
that's a cute Naughty Tuesday story. I thought it was going to get
a lot dirtier. You got you find you find places when you're young to
do things that you would never like. You look back and you're like,
wow, how was I not scared of being calm? But it was because
there your hormones were raging and you had you don't You weren't by yourself often
when you were a child, so even a teenager. So it's like you
did it when you could where you could. Yeah, we've all been there.
I think the most The most risky place I ever did was on my
mom and dad's living room floor while they were down the hall sleeping, and
Dad could have woke up anytime, walked around the corner, and there I
would have been on top of Candy, the one who burned down the daycare.
Oh yes, And I think about that later, and I wonder sometimes
did my dad actually hear us get up, walk around the corner see us
and not know what to do? How awkward that would have been for Dad
to be like, hey, get off of her right now. So I
don't know with the newspaper, get off all right? Anything else that we
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