Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to think about.
I know someone's little heart gonna be hurt. I'm gonna step on their
feet, their toes. But I gotta tell you, you just don't mean
that much. I know you wanna think you do, you wanna believe it,
your mind telling you, your heart is telling you that you do.
But I'm telling you, without even knowing you, that you don't mean that
much. It's not about you for them. For them, it's about who
they are, what they desire, what they want, self gratification, there
wants, need, desires. It's not about you. You just don't mean
that much to them. Now that may sound cruel, and I'm sorry if
it does. I'm sorry if it sounds cruel, but it's the truth.
Until a person learned to love self, care about self, care about if
who they are, figure out self, you are not gonna matter to them.
You just won't mean that much. Every day people get into relationships.
Every day they say, oh I want to be with this person or that
person, I love him, I love her. What their actions tell you
the truth, but you want to ignore it. You just don't mean that
much. You don't mean that to them. You don't mean to them what
they mean to you. Too many people are out there and these one sided,
lopsided relationships. You're looking at what you want, how you feel,
but you're not looking at reality for them. You just don't mean that much,
not at the current moment. You don't because it's not about you.
Now, it's up to you how long you settle for that? How long
do you settle for a person doing you any kind of way whenever they feel
like it, talking to you crazy, doing crazy things, as long as
you allow and accept it, and it's okay, it's gonna happen. Maybe
nine percent of the time is not even okay. You just take it because
you want to do with that person. Women are so terrible, some of
them, to the point they would say things such as, well, I
don't care what he does as long as he come home or as long as
he brings the money home to me. That's ridiculous. Anybody who feel like
that you got a problem, because you shouldn't. It shouldn't matter. You
should care what the problem is the real problem. You don't matter that much
to them, You don't. You don't matter that much. You don't mean
that much to them. Because they're still looking at self. They're selfish.
It's about self gratification, gratification of the flesh in all types of ways,
not just sexually, all types of ways to gratify the flesh. You have
people who it does not matter how much you please with them, It does
not matter how much they tell you they're sorry. They will mess up.
They will continually feed their little egos. They're gonna get that ego struggled by
someone. They're gonna continue to cheat and do you wrong because you just don't
mean that much to them. And I know some of some of your significant
others tell you to your face, I love you, my life willn't be
the same without you. But yet they treat you like that best telling you
the truth. There are options, but some of you you just ignore it
when in reality you don't mean that much to them, You don't mean enough.
And it's not you, really, technically, it's not. It's them.
They still got things they wanna do, they still have people they want
to see. They're not ready to let it go and do the right things.
They're not ready for commitment, dedication, faithfulness. Although they're in a
relationship, they're not ready for those things, but you accepted them that way.
You accepted them that way. What does that say about you? They've
shown you clearly you don't mean that much, but you just had to have
him, you had to have her. Now you're feeling some type of way
because now you see that you're ignored, You see that you talk too badly,
you see that you're treated badly. Yeah, you get to the point
sometimes where your eyes open. Now you see how unhealthy your relationship is.
Now you want to find yourself. You need to love yourself. Now you
have this epiphany, Oh, I need to love myself. I lost myself.
Oh oh oh okay, you should have found yourself before you ever got
into relationship. That's why I tell you all the time, figure you out,
get to love you. If you do, I promise you you will
not go through the crap that a lot of you are going through. Your
significant other who is showing you that you don't mean that much to them.
They are in it for herself, selfish lead. It's not that they found
his or herself. They know who they are. It's none of that.
They are still that immature person who is seeking self gratification in every way,
shape, from and fashion. That they can. All they care about is
getting what they want. You just don't mean that much to them. I'm
not saying that they don't care, but they don't care enough. They can't.
Do you understand that it don't matter what you have to offer. They
cannot love you the way you deserve to be loved, the way you need
to be loved. They are not capable at this point because they're still immature.
They are still seeking what they want to satisfy the flesh. They're not
ready for someone like you who's ready for a real commitment. But many of
you settle for these types of people. But you live a life of misery,
total misery, because you've subjected yourself to this person, and now you
treat it like crap because you allowed it. When he and she talked to
you any kind of way, you don't mean that much, because if you
did, if they really loved you and was in love with you, there's
no way they're gonna disrespect you by talking down to you and degrading you.
I was out yesterday and I tell you this, lay older white ladies.
She was talking so terrible to her husband. There is no way on earth
I would let a man talk to me the way she was talking to her
husband. He was like, I'm just trying to help you out. She
I mean, she was going all the way in just so disrespectful. But
it's obviously it was what he's been used to. Just his reaction, but
I thought it was pathetic. But I've heard this so much. I've seen
it so much. You allow your significant other, the person who's supposed to
love you, talk to you any kind of way in front of people,
behind closed door. They do it because you allow it. It's terrible.
You don't mean that much to them. You don't. You just don't.
When you tell a person their actions make you sad, they hurt you,
and they still do, they still continue with those things. You don't mean
that much. You don't. You can believe what you wanna believe, it's
your prerogative. But if they don't stop their behaviors, it's because you don't
mean that much. What they want means more. I know you don't want
to hear it, but it's the truth. Want a person do not change
their behavior. You don't mean enough. It's still about him or her.
So many people are in these one side of relationships, in these toxic,
unhealthy relationships, so many, so many. You just don't mean that much.
Some of you will do anything for your significant other because you feel that
you really love him or her, But just like him or her, they
don't know what love is. Neither do you. If you're going along with
it, if you're taking it, you don't know what love is either.
Moo, you don't. I know you think you do. I know you
really have these strong feelings for this person, and you think you really love
him or her, but you don't know what it is if you're taking that
type of treatment. See, they've shown you that you don't mean that much
to them, But what you're doing is showing them that you don't mean that
much to yourself. Why because you're allowing it, you're taking it, you're
going along with it. So if you don't mean that much to yourself,
you definitely don't mean that much to him or her, but you don't to
yourself. If you're taking it, you don't. You don't know what love
is. They certainly don't. Some of you swear, oh that's my soul
mate, he's my soul mate, she's my soul mate. Get out of
here. First of Evolved ninety nine percent of you didn't seek God. You
don't know God, you don't have no relationship with God. But that's your
soul mate. Okay, believe that if you want to. And I'm not
trying to down anyone or make you feel bad. I never ever, ever
try to do that. But when the truth is the truth, it steems,
it hurts, people don't want to receive it. Yet it's still the
truth. It's still the truth. So I want you to think about that.
When they leave home and you don't know where they are, and you
call or you text, and they don't respond. When they're gone a couple
of days, you don't know where they are, they don't respond to you.
You don't mean that much. Guess what. You let them come back,
no questions asked. You're hurting about it, you're mad about it,
you're upset about it, but you do nothing about it. So they turn
around, and when they feel like it, they'll turn around and do it
again. Because you, at this point currently don't mean that much to them.
It's about what they want, what they desire. When that behavior does
not change, you don't mean that much. You don't because first of all,
they have to change who they are as individuals. They have to become
more mature. They have to understand who they are as a person and love
of his and herself before they ever can love you. That's why they keep
doing what they are doing. That's why they talk to you any kind of
way. That's why they treat you any kind of way. That's why they
show you other people and things are more important than you are. You just
are not that important to them. You don't mean that much to them.
They don't love you in that way. Some of them tell you, oh,
I love you, but then you don't know where they are. They're
out all times of the night, in the morning, and for days.
They're trying to coherse you to bring someone else into the relationship. They're cohersing
you into doing drugs, They're cohercing you into helping them steal from somebody.
It's because you don't mean that much to them. If you did, they
would care about your well being. They would not put you in danger.
Your safety would mean something to them. And as I said earlier, I'm
not saying that they don't care about you, but they don't care enough.
They care more about what they want than they care about you or your safety
because they are selfish, selfish beings. They're very selfish. You have to
realize what you are involved in, who you are involved with. People always
show you who they are without fail. It's no accident, coincident, then
a none of that. They show you who they are. It doesn't not
sneak up on you. They show you in some way who they are.
But when you cannot see it because of your heart, because of your mind,
you find yourself eventually in a toxic, unhealthy situation, miserable, more
miserable than before you got into it. You're unhappy because the person that you
think you love obviously don't feel the same towards you. I've heard people say
I love her. I mean I just go out and see other people or
be with other people, but I love her. No you don't, or
I love her, but then she looking at you with a black eye that
you just gave her. But you love her, No, you don't.
You love you and what you want? I love you, but I can't
stop cheating because you don't love yourself. So again, I just want people
to think about, just start thinking about what you have allowed yourself to get
in and with room. I want you to really think about that. Situations
will not ever, ever, ever become better if people do not be honest
with themselves. If you don't be honest with yourself and really grass hope to
the truth, you're gonna remain in this situation with who you're with, miserable.
You don't have to be willing to be honest, honest about what you
are involved in, who you are involved with, and how things are going.
You have to be honest when it's bad, You allowed it, you
open yourself up to it. No, you cannot dictate what someone will do.
You cannot control what someone will do, but you can control whether or
not you take it. You can control whether or not you allowed and accept
it. You can control that when you feel you can't. Something is wrong,
you're fearful, you can place it, be comfortable. You lack confidence
many things that mindset that you have making you believe he or she is your
best choice when obviously they're not. I'm not even saying to anyone leave your
relationship because sometimes people change. I'm just saying, how long do you go
through what you're going through? Aging yourself, stressing yourself out. You know,
stress causes heart problems. You can have a stroke, all kinds of
things, and mental stress also turns into some form of mental illness. That's
why so many in the world have all types of mental illness, is because
mental stress turns into mental illness when it has nowhere to go. It affects
you mentally, which in turn affects you physically. That's what people are dealing
with in the world today, all walks of life all over the world.
It's all about what you open yourself up to, who you open yourself up
to. So many people are blind by their hearts and their minds because they
have yet matured, got to know self, and they have yet learned to
love self. So because of it, you have people who are gonna treat
you badly, and you have people who are gonna take it. If you
take it, it's on you, if you allow an accept it, it
is on you. People do to you what you have taught them that they
can do. That's the bottom line. It's the truth. Whether you like
it or not. It hurts, but it's the truth. Don't take it
as a form of of mean, being mean, talking bad about your situation,
or anything negative. Take it as what it is. For what It
is the truth because if if you allow a person to teach you any kind
of way, they will, and they will because you have taught them that
they could. When a person continually do the same thing that they keep saying
I'm sorry for, or they they keep asking you from forgiveness for, or
they keep doing knowing it hurts you, you just don't mean that much to
them, not currently, you don't. I mean I keep saying not currently,
because people can change. All I want people to do is start opening
your eyes in these relationships because it's so many that are dead and there's so
many that have failed. I just want people to realize that their lives could
be much better when they start with the with the friendship of self. By
knowing yourself, getting to know you, figuring you out, loving you.
That's the the act out of the relationship with Jesus Christ and God the Father.
That's the best relationship a person can have, and the greatest that they
should have is with self. Getting to know thyself, loving thyself. And
I always tell you, not in a narciss system egotistical way, but a
healthy way, meaning you get to know yourself and love yourself. And when
you do, you don't have to put up with people not loving you,
you know, not caring enough about you, do whatever they want to do
to you, because you don't matter that much to them. You don't have
to worry about that because you would not put yourself in that situation. You
would not get involved with those people. You will be able to walk away.
You don't care what they have, how good they look, they're either's
positions, None of that matters. When your eyes are open, none of
it matters because you can see them for who they really are. So you
don't care about all these the things when they are not an individuals that it's
good for you. You can look over all the rest of that stuff.
There are not a lot of people who are at that point in life,
and we see it every day. People are miserable in their relationships. They
may never admitted to you, but they are miserable not being loved, loveless,
sexless, all types of things less lacking because people are about self gratification
as me, me, me, me, what I want, how I
feel, and that either lands you with someone who's treating you any kind of
way, or you that person who just do anything because it's about what you
want and what I mean by you that person who's who end up with that
individual is because you're looking at it in the same way. It's just a
different way. Like, for instance, you still looking at me, me,
me, what I want, what I feel, because you want that
person, you love that person, you want to be with that person.
So technically you still looking at me, me, me, and they're looking
at me, me me because they're in the relationship with you, but they
still want what they want. That's why they still a treat That's why they
do you any kind of way. That's why other people they treat better than
you. They open the doors for other women, but don't open it for
you. They're nicer to other people than they are to you. They speak
nicer to other people than they speak to you, because it's about them to
them. I just want you to think about it. That's it. Just
think about your situation. Think about it. Are you truly happy? Most
of you think you are, But happiness starts within, and a lot of
people are not happy inside, don't even like self yet they're in relationships with
people going through it. You hear me going through it because they're putting up
with nonsense foolishness, shenanigans of others. Far I really want you to just
think about it. Nothing can be better if you don't make it better.
No change your purse. If no change happens, you have to want change.
You have to welcome change, You have to embrace it in ort afford
to occur. So it's your life, living how you want. If you
want to stay on that will, that's your choice as well. If you
want to get off of that will, that's your choice. I just pay
people eyes open and they want better for self. Become the best that you
can be for yourself. On that note, I'm leaving it right there.
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