I will start out by saying, I walked in the studio this morning,
and apparently tomorrow if we got the date right and I never remember, is
my thirtieth anniversary. So June third is my thirtieth anniversary. I walk in
this morning, and the first thing I see is like fringy silvery the decor
on the stage studio door, and I walk in, there's thirty thousand balloons.
A big congratulations balloon streamers. What time did you guys get here to
do all this? While we actually did it yesterday. They taken us so
long it took a long time to blow up the balloon. So yeah,
there's yeah, thank you. That was very, very sweet and totally unexpected
because I had the big shin dig five years ago for the twenty fifth and
I did not expect anything. But that is so appreciated. Jenny, thank
you very much. Let's get into the Minnesota Goodbye there's I'm gonna start off
with one that is we debated whether we should even read it because we don't
want to like trigger anybody, and this talks about being overweight. So let's
get started. Cool question. I don't want to sound horrible or to body
shame anyone but is fat contagious. They go on to say, let me
explain what I mean. Last year, I was two hundred and sixty five
pounds. My doctor said, you need to lose weight well through a lot
of extremely hard effort, getting ten thousand steps a day, counting calories,
etc. I'm now at a weight of one ninety five ish. Now,
in no way do I care about somebody's weight. I'd never judge anybody for
it. But I'm finding it difficult to hang out with a lot of my
overweight friends because all they want to do is eat out at restaurants, and
my willpower at restaurants is not the greatest. Whenever I ask them to go
kayaking or jog or even a walk because I need to get my steps in,
they always come up with an excuse not to and just want to go
to a bar and drink or ead and do something that involves sitting and doing
nothing. I would be curious to hear your thoughts. That is a tough
one because it is kind of a lifestyle change if you're going to maintain it.
And congratulations, by the way, on seventy pounds off. That's I
mean, most of us losing even ten pounds is really tough. So good
for you. Don't go back, don't go back to your old ways.
Keep it up. I don't know what to tell you about your friends,
but I will say there is no question a correlation between sitting drinking a lot
of beer, having some waffle fries with seasoned sour cream, and being overweight,
because when we live that way, it tastes so good, it's delicious,
and it's great, but there is a correlation between that and being overweight.
Yeah, I would say when I moved to the Twin Cities, my
lifestyle in general will change a lot from living in kind of a smaller town
in Wisconsin. And when I go back there, it's just a very different
lifestyle of people doing the same thing that this person just mentioned of going out
to eat all the time, going to bars, and that's kind of what
they do for fun, and like nothing against that, but like I like
to be active and go out and move my body on top of like going
to the bars every once in a while. So I've always said that,
like I think if I lived in my hometown, I would probably be over
like pretty overweighted, you think, So that's interesting, Okay, So because
between the culture, I also have parents who like don't like they eat healthy.
But my mom is like the overfeeder, Like she's like, you need,
you need another meal, you need more of this, you want this
whatever. So it's always like pushing a ton of food on me. So
I always come home from a weekend home and come back to Minneapolis, and
I'm like, I need to like just cleanse myself for a week because I
feel like garbage from being back in my hometown. So I just I don't
know what I would be like if I lived around that kind of a lifestyle,
whereas up here, I'm much more active and get outside a lot.
And you do. You're always outside, You're always at the gym. Jenny's
always like, oh my trainer kicked my ash yesterday, or I went for
a bike ride or whatever. So I don't know what to tell you.
I think that you know, maybe find a friend who you can be like,
well, maybe concentrate on the friend that's most likely to go kayaking or
running or whatever. But still you got to go hang with your friends and
we're in restaurant. Maybe you know, do the tricks where you have like
a light meal before you go or like, you know, have some vegetables
or a salad before you go, so you're not so likely to be tempted
to have the wings. That's a tough one, but good for you.
Next one, as listening to Dave talk about, is testosterone, and I
wanted to have him think about something. For as long as I've been listening
to the show, Dave will always tear up talking about kids or Christmas wish
or something sad, and You've always had very strong feelings. I think right
now what is happening is there is just a lot going on with life changes
and your kids, so there is just more for you to tear up about,
not because your testosterone is running out of your junk. You were just
fine, but now you have grandchildren and your kids are all out of the
house and there are different things going on. The boy, it's very true,
so you're still just being the same you. You just didn't always have
so much going on like this when life was more settled, and it will
get settled again. So please don't think anything is wrong with you. Because
I was thinking about somebody said, well, if you cry easily like I'm
hearing up right now just reading this, that it could be low testosterone.
You should be proud that you have so much to tear up about, because
the things that you tear up about are amazing things that you've either created or
come from what you've done in your life, or from your family. So
be proud of yourself and cry. I like it when you guys make me
cry because it helps me feel better. So keep it up. Your junk
is just fine. Have Susan tested out? Okay, Kelly, that's a
good one, thank you, and I appreciate the perspective for sure. Next
one. That one's about the podcast being out of order, so that's something
we're always working on. Here's something interesting, Sammy Rights. Listen to the
last few weeks of episodes of the Minnesota Goodbye. There have been quite a
few people writing in to say they're struggling with one thing or another. True,
while all of these issues are relatively separate or very different, I thought
i'd share a piece of advice that was given to me at a tough time
in my life. This is the worst it's ever going to be. While
I understand this is not one hundred percent fool proof, it reminded me of
Dave bringing up being mentally tough. Sometimes just telling yourself you're at the absolute
bottom can help push you forward thinking things can only get better, kind of
like tricking yourself. There's an old song for the eighties that I loved to
listen to when I was like down in the eighties. It was by guy
named Howard Jones. Things can only get better and if you throw it all
the way, things can only get beat. Dad, does that ring a
bell um? I'm gonna sing it for you a couple more times. It
was just and it was true, and that used to I used to tell
myself that things can only get better. And I think that's what she says.
This is the worst it's ever going to be. To paint a picture
briefly, my sister and I had both sister in law and I both gone
through very hard personal career et cetera. Struggles at different times, her about
one and a half years before me. I was to a point where waking
up was hard, everything hurt. I was at my lowest, and when
something would start to get easier, something worst would happen. I remember her
telling me this is a phase that got a phrase that got her through the
hard times. This is the worst it's ever going to be for us.
As hard as things continued to get, somehow this was helpful to pull us
out of the rut enough to keep going. Even though life kept dealing as
different hands. We were able to remind ourselves this is the worst it's ever
going to be, and it made us feel hopeful that'd be a good state
fair shirt. Yeah, I'm happy to report luckily, for now we are
both extremely happy and healthy in all aspects of our life. It really is
crazy how much time does heal, even though it feels so slow going through
the ship that life gives you. I hope someone can hear this and maybe
it can be the little light that they need to help them through the hard
time or dark spot you find yourself in. All the love from Sam,
I'll repeat it one more time, this is the worst it's ever going to
be. That's really powerful. Thank you for that. I really appreciate that.
One. Here we go. I live in western Wisconsin. All the
Minnesota city people to come up here rude, drive like total assholes, and
act like they're superior to us locals go home, Love you guys, but
don't come here to skate the city only to expect it to be like the
city. Okay, what do you think? Is there anything to that?
Well, I don't know. I guess I don't know what part of Wisconsin
that the person is living in. But I don't think I act any different
rolling over the border in the Wisconsin than I do in the Twin Cities.
But maybe I'm a jerk in the Twin Cities. I just thought that was
funny. They call it touchy subject, So maybe we can bring that up
on the air and see what people think about that one. So all right,
more emails here on the Minnesota Goodbye. I'm gonna skip that one.
And this is from Dan. Now, Dan has been on our show a
couple of times. You will recognize Dan's voice because Dan had a severe brain
injury and he doesn't speak the same way that he used to. And I
met Dan at Taco John's and came by and he makes license plates like decorative
license plates, and he made me one, So shout out Dan. He
goes on to say, I had the choice when I wrapped the front tires
of an ATV around a tree, causing them to pop each other. I
chose to be an inspiration and I chose to have an awesome attitude, I
collect disability and everything else is a win. All the small wins add up
to a big win. I love my stress free life. Yeah, I
have to deal with my blind eye and I don't drive, but the staff
at my home is my best Friend's shout out Paul for letting me love life
especially. I know times can get hard, so keep going on. Surround
yourself with good people, and good things will happen. They may not be
big at the time. They may not be big, but all the winds
can be a big win. Sincerely, Dan. And here's a guy who
lost so much of what we take for granted, living independently, driving,
being able to speak the way he spoke when he was eighteen years old.
And here's a guy with a very positive attitude. And I met him several
times and he is just a happy son of a bitch. He just is.
Love you, Dan, so thanks for reaching out. I really appreciate
that. All right, let me see here. I want to make sure
I don't skip anything that Okay, here's the last one day fallon Jenny and
Drake. I simply adore you all. You're a required part of my day.
I would feel incomplete without your presence in my ears. Thank you,
Julia. You're always inquiring how people found your show in other states. Well,
allow me to tell you a tale. I will reveal my location at
the end, so stay tuned. In twenty twelve, I was asked out
by a guy with a strange Southern lilt an extremely intact confidence. He was
a gym rat, not my usual type, but I said, why not?
Pickens are slim around these here parts. It was an interesting relationship that
lasted about a month. He would say things as we would walk into a
bar, like people are gonna hate us what. He was also quick to
tell me the fun fact that certain girls wore flipsloth as the bar because they
were person their feet hurts, okay. He also told me his best friend
had a radio show in Minnesota. He had a picture of himself and said
radio hosted an airplane cockpit as his profile picture. However, he would not
be friends with me on Facebook because I might not like what I see,
so we ended up parting ways eventually. I really mean, no disrespect for
them. He was fun and funny. A couple of years later, I
was searching for a decent podcast to listen to. I happened to find yours,
and I was extremely impressed. I couldn't find one that even compared.
Wow. After quite a while listening, you mentioned your best friend named,
wait for it, Brentley. A light bulb went on over my head and
my jaw dropped on the floor. Imagine that small world you might have guessed.
I live in Toledo, Ohio. Oh my gosh, so she isn't.
It's all coming together now. So Brentley was my best friend many years,
and we don't even talk anymore because he pissed me off and I pissed
him off. Maybe he'll come back, I don't know, but Brentley lives
in Toledo. So this woman met a guy and he's got a little bit,
just a little bit of Southern extremely intact confidence. Yes, he was
a gym rat and he would definitely say things like walk into a bar and
say people are gonna hate us, and the strippers are wearing flip flops because
their feet hurt. Yeah, so that is my friend, Brentley. I'm
so glad I found you all. I've never emailed before, but finally decided
it's a story worth telling. Keep doing what you do. Love you all,
Julia ps Brentley is now my ex husband's insurance agent. Boy. She
goes on to say, I'm gonna forward that one to you because I think
we should read that one on the radio too, So I'm gonna forward that
over to you, Jenny, And Okay, that what. I did not
see that coming. As I was reading that, I was thinking, who
could that be? As soon said his best friend works in radio? And
then I put the pieces together on which she said prior of the flip flops
and the confidence, I was like, that has got to be Brentley and
Brentley's talking about Dave. That is so funny. I almost feel like I
should reach out to Brentley. Last time I talked to Brentley, I got
mad at him because we've been kind of on thin ice for a few years.
Because he got mad at me. He said I'm a terrible friend,
and I got mad at him for being controlling and like possessive. And so
when Julie, my son Chase's mom died in November, I called Brentley and
I said, yeah, I just want to let's know. Just got home
from Phoenix and Julie died and went to her funeral blah blah blah, and
he's like, what do I care? All you did was bitch about her
for twenty years. I don't care. I can't believe you're sad about it.
All you did was bitch about her, and said Brentley. She died,
I don't care. Why are you telling me this? I don't care?
And I'm like, are you drunk? Are you on something? And
I said, I'm not having this conversation. So I hung up. That
was November. Haven't spoken to him since. Was not the reaction that I
Maybe he thought he was being funny. Maybe that was his way of being
consoling. Brentley does have an odd sense of humor. I'll tell you my
favorite Brentley moment. Okay you've heard it before. Yeah, So five is
six is years ago, Susan went in to get her gallbladder out and they
found a giant, like shoe sized tumor in her belly. And the surgeon's
like, yeah, I'm taking the gallbladder out. There's a tumor in there.
It honestly, it might be cancer. And Susan and I were like,
we really thought that this could be it. I mean, you've got
a giant tumor in her belly. And so that night we're in the hospital
and she's looking at me with tears in her eyes and and she looked at
me and she said, I don't want to die. So I was so
upset. Like an hour later, I called Brentley and I was talking to
him, and he's like, you know, listening, And I said,
yeah, Susan looked at me and she said, I don't want to die.
And Brentley, taking note of the fact that Sue and has wonky eyes
and one looks this way and one looks that way. Brentley, in this
moment of pain and sadness, he said, how could you tell she was
looking at you? Which was exactly what I needed at that moment. Was
just a tacky, fucking remark from somebody who gets it knew that I would
find it funny that here is a woman worried that she's going to die,
looking at me with tears in her eyes and her eyes are wonky, and
Brentley's like, how could you tell she was looking at you? Good shit?
Okay, that is it for the Minnesota Goodbye. Thanks for all the
emails, we appreciate it. Have a great weekend. Thank you for listening.
Whether you've listened to this show for a long time or a short time,
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