Cancel high passage, cansage. It's not sorry, Andy. What's up?
Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing this episode,
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bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. On this podcast,
we unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into exactly who
we came here to be. That's right. Today we are talking about why
they don't like you. They can be your friends or should I say friend
of mees. They may be your co or they might be the guy or
the girl that just ghosted you. What we failed to realize as human beings
is that there are many energetic levels that are all corresponding to one another at
all times. Everything you see in this three D reality has a corresponding energetic
roots, and even though we can't see that energetic root, they exist.
I can't see gravity. I don't even have to believe in gravity for it
to be applied in my life. It's the same thing with the energetic laws
of this universe, one of those laws being the law of correspondence. This
states that one level of reality always corresponds to the next, as above,
so below. So if people aren't liking you in this three D reality,
it's not about what you think. It's about something so much deeper, which
we're going to talk about today. After today's episode, you will not only
have p you will not only release anxiety. You will not only have a
better understanding about yourself and these other people and this reality, but you will
be empowered to stay focused on you and not get mad, but get everything
you've ever wanted. Baby Girl, before we get into it, if you've
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on Instagram for more information on coaching without further ado. So let's get into
today's episode because we have so much to uncover. Why is it that some
people seemingly just do not like us? Well, this brings me to page
one sixteen in my book, I have something to share with you. There
are many different types of people we attract into our universe because we are energy,
and our energy attracts the people, places, and opportunities that we come
into contact with. One of the types of people that we align with and
attract towards us are those of opposite vibration. We attract what we really want
and what we really don't want. If I have an extreme hatred for rude
people, I will attract rude people. Whatever traits we push down in ourselves
become part of our shadow self. The shadow self is the parts of ourselves
we deem unacceptable or unlovable and try to hide. Although we do not allow
ourselves to express these traits, it does not mean we don't have the capacity
to embody them. Being in denial of a trait does not mean it is
not part of you. It simply means you are denying that it's there.
The more I push down the part of myself that can be rude, the
more I will hate rudeness in others. The more I will attract rude people
into my experience as well. We must make amends with all of our self
as humans. We can be loud, we can also be quiet. We
can be rude, but also kind, and so on. We can experience
and express a whole spectrum of characteristics. The more you allow your self room
to experience all different traits, the less you will hate them in others.
We will discuss how to bring your shadow self into the light in further detail
in this chapter. So what I want you to understand is that as much
as you are attracting people into your experience, other people are also pulling you
into them. You are going to be drawn towards people who push down parts
of themselves and then hate you because you allow yourself to embody them. If
you're coworker pushes down the part of themselves that is confident, your coworker is
gonna hate the confidence that you embody. If your friend pushes down in herself,
her ability to place herself on her own pedestal. She's gonna hate the
fact that you place yourself on your own pedestal, because you have to understand
these people are thinking, well, I don't allow myself to do that.
I don't allow myself to partake in that. Where do you get off partaking
in that action? Where do you get off engaging with that mindset? If
I don't do it, why are you allowed? The thing is misery loves
company. That's why it's lonely at the bottom, not at the top.
It's not lonely at the top. Are you kidding me? It's lonely at
the bottom. We have that so backwards, so backwards. Someone not liking
you actually has to do a lot more with them than it does to do
with you. They're hating aspects in you. They hate your light because they
don't allow themselves to embody their own light. This is not personal. This
is vibrational. This is energetic, and when we take things personal, we
get in our own head and we hurt ourselves. But baby girls, really
not about you. It's about the energy you're broadcasting. It's about the energy
you're allowing yourself to embody, and it's about their own limitations. There is
this Bible verse that I would like to read before we wrestle, not against
flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against rulers of darkness
of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Please, you must
understand that the battle isn't really against your coworker. It's really not against your
ex best friend. It's really not against your ex. It's about the entities
that work through them. It's about the energies that cycle through them and are
anchored into their being. Most people are not consciously aware enough to actually embody
their authentic frequency and use their own free will. Most people are driven by
the entities that are attached onto them. It's not about Sally or Brad or
Rick. It's about the entities that are working through Sally, Brad and Rick.
That's what's actually going on. And how do we keep ourselves safe from
these entities not attaching onto us. You do not allow them to bring you
down. You do not allow them to lower your vibration. The best way
to ensure yourself safe from these lower vibrational entities is to send that person love
because you know that they're being held captive by these entities, and it's not
about them. You know that the this is actually about you, safeguarding your
heart, your mind, your spirit, and your body. And the way
to safeguard your body, mind, and spirit is to send them love.
Because negative entities attach onto us. They are invited into us when we allow
ourselves to drop into a lower vibration. They attach onto us when we allow
ourselves to think negative, when we believe other people's projections and make them our
own predictions. That is, when we allow these entities to attach on to
us. You have to realize that if someone's jealous of you, it's because
they have the spirit of jealousy within them. They have a spirit that they
don't even know is attached on to them. And now that spirit is trying
to attach on to you. It's trying to bring you down, so it
has more people to control. So what do we do. We realize that,
m Okay, this is not what I originally thought it was. This
is much deeper, This is much different than what I originally thought it was.
This is spiritual, this is energetic, This is beyond the realm of
possibility I originally understood my life to be and once you understand this, you
really can't go back. It's not gonna be a choice for you. The
entities I'm speaking of some people will call these entities monitoring spirits, So let's
understand what that actually means. A spirit that is monitoring is an unclean,
evil spirit that monitors someone's behavior for the purpose of inflicting hurt or pain into
that person's life. These spirits are manifested through jealousy. They go hand in
hand. Someone can grow to be jealous of you, which means anyone can
be subjected to be used as a monitoring spirit at any time. This spirit
is sometimes called a masquerading spirit or a watcher. The monitoring spirits come to
gather information to facilitate spiritual tax deal blessings. In fact, with sickness,
sabotage, success, and general wreak havoc in your life. God does send
warnings about these spirits being present, and usually it will show up in your
dreams as the following someone who just stares but doesn't speak, black cats,
dogs, blackbirds, rats, wolves and sects whatever. Now, before I
continue to explain, know that your family member or friends may not be aware
they carry this spirit. Everything is spiritual. Remember, everything has its energetic
root. So although to them they may be asking random questions or their intentions
are pure, the monitoring spirit may be upon them, collecting data and planning
to use for bad. A conversation that started about news will redirect to your
plans. This is why it's important to know when to speak about certain things.
Funny how after you told Auntie Becky you were getting a new home,
now the builders suddenly found a foundation problem. Or Funny how you told your
friends you met a nice guy and everything was going well for you. Now
the person changes their demeanor. Friends look to connect, but these monitoring spirits
look to inspect. The Bible says to be wise as serpents. Stop being
so quick to offer information to people. You don't owe them anything. Here
are some signs you're dealing with these types of spirits. You will feel uneasy,
dreamed, and violated after you told them great news. Your thoughts to
yourself will most likely feel like, wow, why did I just share all
that? Usually, after you shared so much, you almost feel as though
you couldn't control it. Listen to your body please and pay close attention to
how you feel. Some monitoring spirits are so strong that at some instances you
will feel pressured to answer those questions. But fight that feeling. You will
feel restrained. When it comes to having them on social media. You may
get this feeling to hide posts from them if you don't feel comfortable expressing or
posting great news without hiding a specific person. This may mean they carry a
monitoring spirit. As much as we may love our friends and family, they
too can carry spirits sent from the enemy to not allow our dreams to prosper,
but rest assured and know that whatever God has planned for you will come
to pass. Be mindful so we don't have to blindly just absorb everything that
post said. But there is patterns here. There are things that run through
quantum physics, energetic universal laws, the Bible. We got to start connecting
the dots here. There are similarities that we need to wake up to.
There are entities that are attached to other people that will try to get into
your life, and if they can't, they're gonna watch you through the lens
of someone else and try to wreak havoc through that person. So what do
we need to do? One you have to be so checked in and tuned
into your body. If you don't feel good talking to your coworker, talk
to them less. No one can take your power away. You can only
willingly give it away. If you feel like a friend is a friend of
me, listen to that emotion. Stop hanging out with them every damn day.
Being alone is better than being in the presence of a moditing spirit.
Being alone is better than being in the presence of a negative entity that's trying
to wreak havoc in your life. Being alone is oh so much better than
sharing in to someone that doesn't have the best intentions for you. And even
if they do have good intentions, the spirits that are attached to them may
not so. Rule one, listen to your body. Rule two, stop
over sharing everything with everyone. You don't owe everyone your life and all the
information that is going on with you. Only you need to be cognizant of
that. Only you need to be plugged into that. Page one twenty one.
Let's talk about this. They can't take your power if you don't give
it to them. These spirits can't reak havoc in your life if you're not
talking to them. They're not omnipresident like God, they're not understanding why we
align with certain people, and using that knowledge to study ourselves is always helpful.
Obsessing why someone has left us is not. I'll say this loud so
even the people in the back can hear. Not everyone is meant to stay
in our life forever. And that's okay. If God removes someone from your
life, let them go. Okay. We might not know why, we
might be sad, but you know what will end up being great, better
in the end, better off, So let them go. Positive bitch tip.
Life has the meaning you give it. Give the relationships that have ended
a positive meaning instead of a negative one. I see the friendships that have
left my life as a double positive. They not only served me for many
years and I them, but when we fell out of vibration, it showed
me my frequency was rising and so we were no longer in alignment. If
we tried to hold on to people who are no longer in vibrational alignment with
us, we can stunt our growth and block our blessings. Trying to hold
on to lower vibrational people lowers our vibration. We become the average frequency of
the people we hang out with most, so that means we're not becoming only
the energetic average of the people we're hanging out with. We're becoming the energetic
average of the entities that are attached onto that person. No one is worth
stunting your growth. No one is worth you missing out on your own potential.
No one is worth you putting yourself in a box and missing your blessings.
No one, no one. Are these lower vibrational people worth you hurting
your own life. No, this is a waste of time and energy.
No one is worth missing out on the life you incarnated here for it's helpful
to write out the relationships that have expired in your life on one side of
a piece of paper, and then use the other side to write out one
to three lessons, realizations, or positive meanings you can derive from those relationships.
We tell ourselves many stories, but why not tell ourselves a good one.
Now you might be thinking, c See, I feel like there's someone
in my life I have to get rid of. But ugh, I don't
want to. I don't know how, I don't know how to remove them.
All you need is one moment of courage of motivation to remove this person
from your life, and Lord, let it be right now, I'll fit
al wait, go do your thing. Tell them you can't hang out.
Tell them you're busy. Tell them that you're focused on your goals. Tell
them that you just don't have time. Do what you need to do in
order to separate yourself from this individual, because you know that they're not good
in your life. And if you're thinking of someone right now, that's exactly
who you need to have this conversation with. And no, you don't even
have to tell them, but you do have to put your foot down and
create space. I always think that we always are praying for God to remove
people from our life, but God gave us the God give an ability to
remove people from our life on our own. Use that free will and do
yourself justice. Baby girl, you know what you need to do. I
don't care if it's a coworker or a family friend, it does not matter.
Limit your time with them. And if you can't take away all time
from them, limit the information you share with them. If you have to
be somewhere that they're also at. It doesn't mean you have to spill the
beans on your own whole entire life. It doesn't mean you have to tell
them about the new person that you're talking to. You don't know what entities
are attached to these people. That's why. Also, your power does not
lie in your promiscuity. It lies in what you can receive from others.
Stop sharing everything, including your body, with just Joe Schmoel you met on
the street. You don't know their demons, you don't know what they're holding
onto. They are not worth you derailing your vibration and your energy. Nobody
is. It's not always easy to just turn off the love you have for
another, but that is not what I'm asking you to do. You can
love others from afar, that's fine. What I want you to do is
just lower the volume of love you have for them and raise the amount of
love you have for yourself. When we keep trying to hold on to others,
obsess about our exes, or allow others to tell us who we are,
we start to erode from the inside of ourselves. Over time. As
we continuously allow mistreatment from others, we further betray ourselves and end up hating
ourselves for allowing such treatment. If you cannot let them go for you,
let them go for your younger self. This little you has so many dreams
and aspirations, and they did not come here to let Brad or even Brittany
block them from their purpose. You have a commitment not only to this current
version of you, but to the past version of your self too. You
came onto this planet with such a beautiful frequency, a beautiful vibration. Do
not allow it to be eroded by these negative entities that are coming through these
negative people. All energy seeks to do is align with like vibration and expand
I can't blame Brad and Brittany for wanting to lower my vibration because that is
what negative energy likes to do, pull high vibration down to meet it.
I'm not gonna get mad at them. I'm gonna send them love, remove
myself self, listen to my body, and limit what I share with them.
Even on social media, there are so many people who follow you,
who interact with your posts. You don't know what they have going on with
them. Why even invite in negativity? Keep it to yourself until it's done,
baby girl, Limit what you share. Let's recap for a moment,
shall we. People might not like us because their shadow self is highlighted in
our self. The traits they push down. We allow ourselves to embody,
and therefore they get jealous. Where do you get off allowing yourself to be
free and embody your true authentic energy. Or maybe they have lower vibrational entities,
the spirit of jealousy, monitoring spirits, whatever it may be. Or
maybe they don't like us and they are leaving our life because simply cosmic cancelation,
our soul contract is over. I see cosmic cancelation when two people just
fall out of energetic vibration. They fall out of one another lives. That's
what happens. When you are raising your mind, your body, your spirit.
You're taking yourself to new heights and standards. If people around you aren't
doing the same thing, cosmic cancelation will take place. You will energetically just
fall out of one another's lives because you are not in alignment anymore. So
it's not that they don't like you, that they're hating on you. It
just might mean that you're going in different directions, and that's okay. Be
oh so careful not to create meaning negatively when there might not be any Why
create a disempowering meaning that's a lie when really you're just falling out of energetic
vibration. That's so much closer to the truth. So why aren't we telling
ourselves this information. If you're going through any sort of difficulty and you feel
like people are hating on you, they're jealous of you, maybe they have
these monitoring spirits on them, whatever it may be. If people are talking
bad about you, sending you negative energy, don't forget that energy is energy.
So whether they're sending you positive energy or negative energy, you can take
that energy and alchemize it, transmute it. You can use that energy as
fuel to not get mad, but get everything you want. If everyone at
the office is talking bad about you, you're gonna laugh all the way to
the bank, baby girl, because as they talk bad about you, you're
gonna use that as fuel to really get those boots on the ground and focus
on your work. You're gonna use that as fuel maybe to go home and
start that side hustle. Maybe if these coworkers never bullied you, you wouldn't
have taken a risk on your own side hustle that ended up growing into a
multimillion dollar business. Maybe if these people didn't make you feel so uncomfortable,
you would have never left the fish bowl for the ocean. Maybe if these
people didn't push you so far, you would never have found out how truly
high you can go and you can travel. Let them talk bad about you,
let them send negative energy your way, because guess what, You're gonna
use that negative energy as fuel, and you're gonna get everything that you truly
desire. You're gonna use it to build you, to push you, to
elevate you in ways that the current circumstance could never I truly believe sometimes God
will put these people in our line of sight. He will put them in
our life to make us so uncomfortable, so upset, that we say no
longer. We say you know what, that was the thing that crossed my
line, That was the threshold. I'm out of here. In a couple
of years, you might be thinking these people for making you so uncomfortable,
because they gave you the strength to get up and leave. You can always
state your truth, you can always set your boundary, you can always remove
yourself share less, but also no. Simultaneously, as they send you energy,
you can use it. That's a secret that every magnetic woman knows.
She magnetizes the energy sent to her she transmutes it, she alchemizes it,
she changes it over. Even though they're sending you negative energy, Well guess
what you go home, You're gonna feel really pent up. Go create that
song, Go create that side, hustle, go for that walk, or
whatever you want to do. Do not sleep on energy sent to you.
Now, we have to understand that we deserve to be on our own pedestal.
We deserve even if they don't like us, we deserve to like ourselves.
So let's have that come to Jesus moment. I'm on page one twenty
four. You did not fall out of God's back pocket and stumble upon Earth.
You are here for a reason. Your life has purpose, and you
are inherently worthy just by being born. The same creator who wanted the ocean
to span seventy percent of Earth's surface, the sky to encompass the whole planet.
The birds and the bees also thought you were important enough to exist and
take up space in this realm. One thing about God, this loving energy
does not make mistakes. As humans, we mess up a ton, but
God, Yeah, no mistakes there. Even if your caregivers didn't intend for
you to be here, God did, And that's why you are reading these
words right now, no mistakes. God is the ultimate artist, and no
artist purposely creates ugliness. I've never met a painter, architect, or dancer
who told me they wanted to create something ugly. You are beautiful down to
your cellular level, and you deserve to feel good. Just because you cannot
see that yet does not mean it's not true. It means your perception is
fuzzy. To build ourselves up, we must accept where we are at.
I tried to pretend I didn't binge eat. I tried the whole false positivity
thing. I tried faking it till you make it, but none of that
helped. Being in denial parts of you will not allow you to release those
parts. Pretending you are happy with parts of yourself that you despise will not
allow you to change or release those parts either. We don't have to remain
the same if we do not love what's in front of us, and we
don't have to love what's in front of us to accept what is positive.
Bitch tip, we can't hate ourselves into loving ourselves. So here's the thing
I really want you to understand. Not everyone's gonna like you. They don't
have to You don't even like everyone. The one person you do have to
like is you. Is you. And you know when I became my happiest,
It's when I just started to do what I want to do. I
did no harm to others, but I also didn't take and allow harm onto
myself. I literally ask myself every single day, where is my fun?
How can I go towards that? Where is love? How can I go
towards that? You do not want to be in places where you're being tolerated,
You have to go in places where you are celebrated. And yeah,
there's gonna be a season where there's awkward change because you're gonna have to not
hang out with the people you've known forever, and that will feel uncomfortable.
You might feel a little bit fomo, But I would rather you have fomo
on going out and drinking with your friends than you having fomo on your own
damn potential. But I don't know is that just me? Or are we
feeling what I'm putting down here? No one is worth you missing out on
what you came here to do. So maybe this season isn't about focusing on
why don't they like me? Maybe this season is about focusing on, well,
actually, what don't I like about myself? What don't I accept about
myself? And maybe I'm so focused on the fact that they don't like me
because I don't like myself, and they're just reflecting back to me the fact
that I'm unhappy in my own skin, in my own body, in my
own life. If you don't like things about yourself, I'm not going to
become a part of these social media movements that are screaming at you to just
love yourself. That's a bunch of bs that makes no damn sense. What
I'm gonna tell you is, if you don't like something about yourself, your
life, your body, your hair, your regimen, your routine, your
job, your friends, your relationship, guess what you have free will.
You can change the things in your life that you do not like. Stop
accepting mediocrity. You didn't come here to be average. You came here to
experience a good freaking life, have fun, grow, develop and learn.
If you don't like what's in front of you, change it, decide differently,
remove yourself, remove them, Change that's your proximity to the circumstance,
the situation, or the person, and decide differently. I really think we
become hyper focused that people don't like us when we are not happy with ourselves.
When I first started my journey, I was so afraid to do things
that were going to bring me happiness because I was more focused on how people
were seeing me and judging me than I was focused on my own happiness.
But once I just had that moment of well, I'm gonna do it anyway,
I received happiness, so much fulfillment, so much joy, and I
realized, holy cow, no person on this planet could fulfill me the way
I can fulfill myself. No person on this planet can fulfill me like my
own purpose can. So when I started to do what actually brought me joy
and I found I could create join myself, I no longer was starving for
it in other people. I no longer cared if people liked me or not.
If you don't like me, that's none of my business. It sounds
like a you problem, and I simply don't care if you don't like me.
It sounds a lot like you actually just don't like yourself. You might
be jealous, you might be insecure, but that's got nothing to do with
me. That's between you and God, baby girl, that's something you have
to bring to your creator. That's something you have to reflect on. People
not liking you is more about them than it is about you. You being
hyper focused on the fact they don't like you is more about you than it
is about them. That hyperfixation tells me that you have not made peace with
this current version of you. That hyperfixation tells me that you have not made
peace with your reality. That hyperfixation tells me that you don't like yourself either.
So what do we do? What's the answer. What's the next step?
We start to make changes? Think about your health, your home,
your career, your friendships, your relationships. What don't you like? Jot
it down, because being in denial of what you don't like it doesn't help
you change anything. The first step to change is awareness, and then it's
acceptance, and then it's well, I can make changes from here. But
if you're in denial that you hate your life, if you're in denial that
you don't like yourself and you try to push it down, all that's gonna
do is make you hate other people. All that's gonna do is make you
feel insecure, uncomfortable, jealous. It's not gonna move the needle. It's
just gonna make you feel worse. You have to be constantly reading the writing
on the wall. Everything is data, everything is information. If you are
hyper focused on the fact that people don't like you, you have to come
to the realization that, damn, maybe it's because I actually agree with them.
Maybe I'm so hyper fixed on the realization that people don't like me because
I actually don't like myself either. Maybe I just agree with them, and
that's why it bothers me so much. Maybe I don't know how to fulfill
my own life, and that's why it bothers me so much. I'm trying
to outsource validation, connection and happiness and joy and acceptance. And because I'm
not getting that acceptance, this feels like death every single day. But a
really funny thing happens when you say to yourself, I'm gonna take responsibility over
my joy. I'm gonna take responsibility over my happiness. I'm gonna take responsibility
of the energy I'm bringing to the energetic table. And instead of outsourcing my
needs, I'm gonna turn this table on its head and I'm gonna start fulfilling
my happiness, my need for acceptance, my need for joy. I'm gonna
start giving myself what I know I need, and when you do that,
you're no longer starving for that love, acceptance and joy from others. This
has been a pleasure as always, I hope you've learned something and as always,
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