You're listening to KFI AM sixty on demand. Mary, welcome to the Jesus
Christ Show. You know, in all the years I have listened to you,
I don't think anybody's called themselves a dork on your shore before. But
I'm a dork. I'm pretty sure no one has. And if you looked
up the true meaning of that word, would use it either. How can
I how can I help you today? Mary? If you keep making the
same bad decisions, the same ones, over and over, why would you
forgive me again after we already know it's wrong and we repeatedly do it.
Well, there is a point where that's considered to be the unpardonable sin.
That's exactly and that's where I'm scared. Well, the only thing is that
people that truly rebel don't care. They don't get scared. I don't really
rebel. I'm actually like this little chick who you would know I would.
I'm not a rebel in my own sense, I am so as far as
consequences, now, there's a differ. Friends, Let's say you rebel against
good nutrition and there's a particular food that you eat. There's a food that
you eat that whether it causes you indigestion, or it causes you whatever problems
or whatever it might be. Well, there is built in consequences to that
in your life that doesn't have the same spiritual there are moral issues, father,
and I don't particularly like my paths at all. Well, then why
you want it? Correct? Well, you tell me what is it about
this path that that is so intriguing to you or exciting because it's the only
one I know. I have no family, and I have no one.
It's just kind of like it's the So it's men. Oh there, yeah,
they're involved. Okay, So it's men. And is it sexual sin
that could happen? Okay, so it's in scripture that becomes very serious because
hey wait, let's back up. Let me just back up really quickly.
This is a question I want to know just because, Okay, in your
time, when people were pregnant and they got pregnant at sixteen, they met
mister Wonderful and like to walk them the donkey out of it. If God
doesn't put in your path the man you're supposed to live with, and I'm
forty four years old, I'm just supposed to be celibate the rest of my
life. And just like sit there and just it's okay. When everybody else
around you it is like has a family six excuses? Mary? If you're
constantly with the wrong guy, how could God do anything. I'm not going
to put you in a holy headlock and force you into something. You have
free will. You have the abilities just like a child that's raised from your
birth parents. They teach you skills and abilities and give you tools to use
in everyday life. We're incredible that I was just like the perfect Irish Catholic,
perfect person, and all I wanted was mister wonderful to I ticket fence
and three puppy dogs and three children. That's all I wanted. I didn't
want to live through this holy hell every day of being alone. But why
do you choose the men that you choose? Why choose wrong men? Where
do you find the other ones? They do exist? Where did you find
these? Where do you find the right men? At forty four years old?
Well, I'm curious where you found the wrong ones? No? They
were what bars, clubs? No, not all of them. Church.
I wish I found them my church. No, I couldn't find them.
I'd sit in the front row every week and sit there and be little miss
perfect, and I'd go to work and everybody go. And you were speaking
earlier about trying to be a righteous person, and I used to have people
walk up to me at work all the time and say, you're so funny,
You're so cute, you're so nice, You're just you're so good to
people. So why did God decide that I should be alone? He hasn't
you have? I mean, I wish it was easier than that. I
wish you could blame me, but it's not me. The truth is Mary.
If in scripture when it talks about being single or not being married,
there is a specific creature like Paul, that were designed in a way that
it wasn't a desire of theirs. You have the desire. Therefore, if
you thirst, there is something that will quench that thirst. But if you
reject the things of God and keep taking that which is quick and easier or
around or available, and not wait, who's to say that you're supposed to
get married at any specific time to begin with. That's a societal demarcation.
So you are to wait until you find somebody appropriate. But if you continue
to put somebody inappropriate in your path, they'll be never. They'll never be
an opportunity for somebody who is appropriate, and you hold on to the inappropriate
ones too long because there's something and you continue to do that that's not God
at all. I'm not judging that. I just have not seen mister appropriate.
He hasn't knocked on my door in the last and he won't. You
know, there's the type of person that walks around going you know what,
I'm waiting for my ship to come in. And there's people that cut down
trees, tie them together and make a raft. Okay, but why are
there people? Why are there people who get married to the loves or the
lives at eighteen and lead like a blissful life, And there are other of
us who have gone through basically hell and we still sit here just going okay,
that doesn't seem fair. I know life's not fair, but explain that
one. Why Why isn't life fair? I'm not sure what you would decide
is fair or not fair. It seems that what you decide is fair or
not fair is based on what Mary wants and what Mary gets, which is
a little more of the Aruk assault type theology from Willy Wonka than it is
biblical and I am so not that person and you don't even know me.
But Mary, you focus on Mary. If you learn to enjoy your own
company and the things in life that are fruitful to you, and you explore
those things. Let's say you like reading, and you explore those things and
you're around places where there's books, then you will find people of similar desires.
But the quest cannot be for a man anymore than the quest for a
man is for a woman. This is what confuses me. Men will look
for adventure and a quest, and then a woman becomes the adventure in the
quest, and when they have the woman, then they're disappointed because the quest
is over. The woman is not the quest. The woman is another adventurer
in the quest of life, your partner. And it's this kind of skewed
thinking that ends up getting people in trouble and it makes you start to feel
like you're being singled out. But the fact of the matter is that you're
just as desirable as anyone else, that there is plenty not one man for
you, but there are plenty of that type of man that would be good,
that would suit you, that would be fitting for you. But you
continue to pass and by for the ones that want to have sex, that
don't care, that don't have your same religious affiliation, your same worldview,
your same ideas, or at least similar enough as far as their faith,
to be someone that would propel you, that would allow you to shine and
be one hundred percent who you are. And that doesn't always come quickly,
but people keep wanting it, or worse, feeling they deserve it. Crime
and everything bad in the world happens because entitlement. People feel entitled to something.
The man stealing, the woman stealing feels they're entitled to whatever it is,
regardless of working, having money, or any of those things. Don't
get in that mindset of entitlement, Mary, if you come to a place
of entitlement, you've lost it. Now. If you continue to make bad
decisions in this particular case, Mary, the consequence is the consequence. You
continue to find people that are not good for you and to give them,
give yourself to them. There's going to be problems, there's going to be
big problems. And you give a little bit of yourself each time to these
people, and there's less of you to give to the right guy that you're
so focused on obtaining live life, Mary, enjoy yourself, do things you
enjoy, expand yourself, learn, explore life, and you'll bump into other
explorers. Sit in your house and you'll sit with Mary. Monday, Tuesday,
Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. Get out,
explore, live life and others will follow. Andrew, Welcome to the Jesus
Christ Show. Oh Jesus, Is it a sin for a divorce person to
marry? It can be, yes, it depends on the circumstance. And
now understand that throughout the entirety of scripture, there's nothing that says that divorce
is a good thing. As a matter of fact, throughout scripture it says
that God hates divorce. But there are situations where it is okay. And
you if you remember Paul speaking about it is better to marry than it is
to burn, and that means burn with lust, not like you're in hell
or something. But so there's a point where you have to factor that in
and say, if you are a divorced person and you're going through a state
of lust, it's better. If you are a very sexual person and you
keep having that reoccurring in your life, then that it is better for you
to gird that in the proper concept and content of a relationship than it is
to just let it run wild. What is your particular situation, Andrew?
My wife just walked out on me, so she didn't want to continue the
marriage, so we just ended it. Did you know that if she had
an affair or not? I'm not sure that. How long were you guys
together? About seven months? Wow, that is a that's a very short
marriage there. How long did you guys know each other before you got married?
About it year and a half. What do you think went wrong?
Andrew? What it was? She's a foreigner and she used me for the
green card to get here. But that's not long enough. Seven months isn't
long enough. No, so it doesn't help her at all. No,
Well, if did you know that going into the situation, now she's using
me for the green card? No, you didn't have any inkling about that.
No, why don't you just get the marriage and all? Well,
that's what I'm doing, but by law, it's it's pretty difficult to prove
to do it. Yeah, there's a good highly chance I can lose the
annulment. M Well, in the eyes of God, the concern here is
that that if you are going into marriage with with the idea of divorce being
an option, that it just becomes a problem. People get lost in well,
I can do this and then I can get out of it, and
everything becomes temporary. What I don't want you to go into marriage is thinking
that it's like a dixie cup and it can be thrown away. And that's
why divorces is so abhorrent to God. But there is an understanding, and
if somebody breaches the contract and you're not the one that reached the contract,
then there is always the possibility and the option for remarriage. But I wouldn't
recommend getting remarried anytime soon. Andrew, obviously there's not anybody in your life,
correct. No, I don't have any plans. I just had a
couple. I just want to know what a certain stance. That's a pretty
controversial question. And during the year and a half you didn't notice anything about
whether the relationship was real or not. No, I loved her very much,
and I could have been some signs I just didn't really notice. It
gets difficult sometimes. The key is to not be blinded. Love is a
wonderful thing and a very powerful thing. Andrew, but it's also something that
can As they say, love is blind and you should keep your senses about
you during the process if you find somebody, and I would recommend spending a
lot of time to get to know yourself and why you would choose somebody like
that, and how you got so far in a relationship that really was synthetic.
I would definitely focus in on that before I got into any relationship whatsoever
with the opposite sex. Angel. Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. Jesus,
It's an honor to talk to you. My pleasure. How can I
help you? Thanks. I would like to know if it bothers you if
I were a cross around my neck, because will Some friends have asked me
why do I do it? If it was the instrument of your so I
told them that I was going to ask you and see what you have to
say about this is It has become very fashionable to some people. I know
Madonna and others have used it as as just a kutman and then in the
Christian world there are many that use it as a symbol to remind them of
their faith and the price that was paid. And that's a lovely sentiment.
I know some churches get upset and say, you know, you shouldn't have
anything or any graven image of any kind, and and it wasn't what took
place in the cross. And you've got you know, Catholics and Protestants,
you know, one wears a cross, one wears a crucifix, and you've
got them saying, why would you, you know, show the death.
Anybody could die on the cross. People did next to me, if you
remember the thieves. So it's not about dying on the cross. It's about
the resurrection. And there's those that my producer Neil's always walking around with a
smirk on his face saying, how come Christians don't have the empty tomb around
their neck? That makes more sense. But the fact is, for your
purposes, it simply reminds you of the price that was paid. Correct,
Yes, yes, well actually it was given by my grandfather when I did
my first commune and when I was eleven years old. Yes, and I
have been learning it since. Yes. So it ties into the dedication of
your faith and that has become an important part to you. And it's fine,
that's what it means to you. That is absolutely fine. It was
a means of torture. Absolutely, as a matter of fact, the term
excruciating, it's excruciatingly painful. That term actually comes from the word cruse or
cross comes from the death on the cross, the word excruciating. So I
understand that your friend was trying to point out that it was an instrument of
death, but to Christians, it was an instrument of life. It was
the doorway in the physical life of death. That was a public way of
showing that I was going to overcome that death on earth in a way that
would free those that believe for eternity. And if it's some people may just
wear it as well it's a pretty symbol, or it was given to me,
or what have you. But if it's something that is tied into your
faith, you hold on to it and you enjoy it for what it is.
Sometimes people get caught up in the specifics of things and start thinking,
oh, well, the law says this or scripture says this. Well,
those laws are there to protect from people worshiping things if it becomes a point
of worship. I've met people that think that cross has power around their neck,
or that it is somehow it is embodies their faith. If it gets
to that point. You have issues, there's problems, and I don't want
it to be in your life because it becomes overpowered. It overshadows me and
the death and the cross. But if it's just something lovely that's a reminder,
or an heirloom, or something passed on down through families to families,
or what have you, nothing wrong with that, Andy, Welcome to the
Jesus Christ. Hi, Jesus, Hi, Andy. I have a question
that's been concerning me about my face. Me and my mom, we differ
in the way we have our points of view on it. We just recently
moved out to a five acre parcel here in a It's a pretty dry aired
area here in southern California, and I hardly ever rained. We live on
a well, and when we first moved down, she started importing all these
flowers too, And I said, mother, shouldn't we be a little bit
more resourceful with our water? We do live on a well. It's not,
you know, infinitely abundant. And she said, oh no, oh,
no, God's going to provide. And I said, well, that's
fine, and I'm pretty sure he will, but you know, still,
shouldn't we conserve? And she said no, no, no, don't worry.
God will provide. I said, okay, that's fine, so we
keep planning. Eventually the well went dry. I mean there's water back now,
but it went dry for a couple of days and she was just like,
went to this whole state of panic, and I said, no,
no, there's no need. You know, I don't think it's that has
nothing to do with God. It's just the simple fact that we live on
a while it's not abundant, has a raining quite sometime. And so my
question is do we want because she always says that nothing can happen until God
says so. So is that so anytime she goes to do something, she
says, oh, only God will allow me to do that. That's what
he wants me to do. But the way I asked you it is,
I think he says, well, whenever you're ready, i'll take step for
step with you, and I have the road payd for you, but only
until you're ready to take that step. And she says, no, we
cannot take a step until God allows. So that's the question I have.
Well, there's in It's it's not that it's not that she's wrong, but
there's scripture. You know. Even earlier we talked about Proverbs twenty one to
twenty in the house of the whys are stores of choice, food and oil.
But a foolish man devours all he has, which is essentially what was
being done correct right, So it's the scripture that talks about being being a
wise steward of that which you have. And in the case of somebody who
overly spiritualizes everything, you have to remember this handy God puts you on earth
first. Now, Earth is not the perfect world. It's the best way
to the perfect world, which is Heaven. But you're here because God says
so, and there's a practical method of living here. There's things you can't
do. You would never put a gun to your head with bullets in it
and say God will provide me protection from this weapon to my head. You
wouldn't do that would be stupid, and you die. So the way there's
a difference between trusting God and tempting the situation if if you have tools,
you are to use them, and one of the tools you are to use
is your brain. It says in scripture that you're to love God with all
your heart, all your soul, and all of your intellect. So your
mind is a tool and you were using it. You were saying, no,
God's giving me this tool to think, and I'm looking over the situation
and I don't think this is a practical way. Now aprop in something that
is more providing in nature, meaning you know, we have to drink this
water from the well and trust that God will put more in it. That's
different. You have to drink it. But just going well, we want
flowers, or we want this, or we want that. That becomes a
state of pride and vanity, that you want things certain way the way you
want them, and that you're saying, well, God, you you cover
the text on this, you cover the rest. And that's not the way
it works. And so in the loving manner that she was approaching this,
she actually, you know, being a loving godly woman, she actually was
going against the very word of God. And that happens. You know,
people do that and wanting to follow the letter of the law, they actually
are breaking down the law and going outside of the law. You need to
be wise with that which you have. And if you only have a little
bit, you know, it's flowers in the like may bring joy and maybe
a little bit over here would be a good idea or a little bit over
there. But understand that you have limitations. It's the same as going,
well, you know what, we're almost broke, but you know what,
I'd like to go see a movie and God will provide. No, this
isn't that. A movie's not necessary. Flowers aren't necessary. God provides what
you need when you need it, not what you want when you want it.
And uh so be patient because what your your parents do come out of
their love and their deep faith. But you, guys, are a family
and your balance is there for a purpose, and you have to find a
way in love and respect to offer correction or other ideas, or how about
this, how about we compromise and we get you know, some succulent or
something that is pretty but retains its water longer. And uh therefore, well,
you know, split the difference a little bit. Be smart. So
it's not always in logic. It's called a faulty dilemma if you have just
either or. Sometimes there's either or, and okay, we we're not going
to plant all the flowers, but we're going to plant a small amount of
flowers or this, uh succulent or cactus or something that that is not going
to need the watering so that your mom gets the joy, which there's nothing
wrong with having joy and the beauty of God's creation. But also there's a
balance understanding that you are economizing and saving water conserving because of the situation.
Well, thank you very much for answering my question to me. You have
a blessed day you as well. Andy. There is a balance in all
things, and throughout scripture you'll find that to be a theme. And the
theme is is that God loves a proper balance. You'll see that throughout when
it talks about merchants in Proverbs. But the imagery there is specifically dealing with
merchants talking about the scales that they used to weigh whatever the product was or
what's being purchased. Right, so you get, you know, the image
of someone putting a rock in there to make it heavier so that you pay
more, and then the image of the person buying it putting their hand under
the scale so that it weighs less so they don't have to pay us more.
And that God abhors that. You know. There was a day when
recycling started becoming popular in the early early eighties and people were filling their cans
aluminum cans with sand or with rocks, and then crushing them, then stomping
on them so that each can was heavier because they weigh it by the pounds
how you get paid. And it's not like they just count them. Now
they've changed the methods now to fend off that kind of person. But that
attitude about the false balance is a great illustration about how you live your life
spiritually. You're here on earth for a reason. There's an old saying,
don't be so heavenly minded, you're no earthly good. There's a balance.
The reason why I came in the flesh was to show that balance. Think
about some of the miracles that took place when I multiplied the fish and the
loafs. What did I say, pick up the crumbs? Doesn't that seem
strange If I'm about to produce this miracle, if I'm about to feed thousands,
don't you think I could pick up the crumbs too, all in one
fail swoop, some wave of the wand some twinkle of the nose. Of
course, the purpose was to have the disciples there in the moment to understand
the practicality of what needed to be done picking up the prumb the crumbs.
When I raised the girl from the dead, I said, get her something
to eat. The same thing applies. I could have filled her stomach.
But you have to be here in the now, in the practical. There
are practical things that need to be done. Don't be caught up. I
put you on earth for a reason and not directly into heaven. There are
things to be learned, things to be understood, and there are practical things.
I will be at the end of the rope. But don't just constantly
pull to the end of the rope and say God's going to be here.
God's going to provide. That's not the way it works. There are still
things you're gonna have to learn, and there's going to be times where you
will run out if you are not a good steward of those things. You
are to tend to the field, you are to tend to your home,
you are to tend to your finances. That commandment goes throughout the entirety of
scripture. And be a good steward to these things. That's what you're called
to do, and I will be there with you. Stacy, Welcome to
the Jesus Christ. Show hi Jesus, I got a question. Sure,
listen. I'm of the Pagan faith. I have been just about all of
my life. My family's taken most of them are and some of them are
split between Pagan and Irish Catholic. But I've been wanting to go to like
a Catholic church, Like I don't. I just feel the need to.
I don't know if that makes any sense, of course, I just feel
the need to. I don't know. Maybe it's turn around my life.
Maybe I'm just getting older. I don't know. I just feel the need
to. Do you have to be Catholic to go? Do you? I
mean, can you just show up? Do you have to make it a
point of no? Nope, and don't don't partake in a church that ever
makes you do that. See, I didn't know that. I'm not familiar
with that or anything. I've gone to churches before, I've listened to your
show before, you know, so I'm not completely in the dark about anything
Christian or Christianity period or Catholicism. I just didn't know about that specifically.
No, you go up or sometimes churches can be a little intimidating, and
Catholicism is very structured and sometimes people fear that, but really that's it's a
beautiful thing. That structure can be very empowering and it can be very helpful.
So if you find a church in your local area that you want to
attend, the biggest important thing is to go when the time says to go.
So whenever the service or the mass is, you want to go during
that time and find a place where you can sit. The only thing is
that in the Catholic Church they're going to ask that you don't participate in certain
things like taking communion and that type of thing. But as far as experiencing
and learning and asking questions, absolutely you should be welcoming any church. And
the process is that when people are you know, a member of a parish
or they are a member of a church, or at that point, I
want you to participate, you know, if it's something you feel led or
moved to do and participate whether it's with you know, children or what have
you as you get involved in a church. But if you're just seeking and
are curious and want to ask questions or want to sit and be left alone
and just kind of you know, soak up things, yeah, you should
be you should walk into any church. You know, there was a there
was a day where churches were open twenty four to seven. You just walked
in and were silent if there wasn't a service or a mask going on,
and you just prayed. And so I want you to feel welcome wherever you
go. And keep in mind that God's people at times are very open,
and which they should be, and if sometimes they're closed, which they shouldn't
be, but don't hold that against me. Please be open to receive whatever
you can as you walk in and see what God is saying to you at
that particular time. Okay, well, well the part of the thing is
is that I was passing by and it was like you passed by churches all
the time, but it just for some reason, like something was telling me
to pull in there and I didn't. But I'm going to And that's why
I wanted to find out, because I don't think that just happens for no
reason, like no at all. You're absolutely right. I'm knocking on that
door of your heart, but it opens on your side, not mine.
But I'm going to ask you something, Stacy. I want you to do
that, if you're feeling that, to do that, I want you to
do that, but I want you to call back or contact me and give
us a call when you go, because I'd love to hear about your experience,
good or bad. Okay, okay, all right, excellent. Then
I expect to hear back from you. That's wonderful. I love hearing that
that people are motivated to try something new, and you should always be welcome
in the church. Kf I am six forty on demand