We had a lot of emails to get to on the Minnesota Goodbye? Are
you ready at Jennifer can making sure all my buttons are all set and let's
go. The big source of email, the big source of content on the
Minnesota Goodbye is from you, Dave and Jenny. Please don't say my name.
The other day, I've all sitting on the lawnmower for four and a
half hours, says thinking about how things have changed. Thirty two years ago,
I was a senior in high school and I won backstage passes to a
Great White concert in Lacrosse, Wisconsin. I had to go to the radio
station in Rochester to pick up my tickets. I got to meet the locally
famous DJ, and I thought that was great. While I was walking in
front of him to leave, he said, oh, I like what I
see, meaning I have a nice ass. I was seventeen and I laughed,
and I didn't think much about it at the time. Now I think,
gross, Wow. If that DJ would say something like that now,
he would be missing some teeth. I'm definitely not a prude. I can
get raunchie with the best. Just thought I would write and share thanks for
being part of my routine. You all are awesome. That is, she
signs it dart Lick, but she doesn't want me to say her name.
That is one of the things that it's funny things have changed so much to
the fact that it's like you look at things and you go, are you
kidding? Songs for example, about sixteen year old girls, you're sixteen,
you're beautiful in your mind, she was only sixteen, Only sixteen, Sweet
little sixteen is another one. And then there was one by She's just sixteen
years old. And back then it was acceptable to sing a song about how
you're hot for a sixteen year old girl. There was one by the Stray
Cats called She's Sexy and seventeen, and I'm sure that they would never even
do that song in concert. Now you have to be like, she's sexy
and thirty three. But things have changed, and I remember those days when
guys used to say things like that and women were expected culturally, socially to
go to be flattered, to be flattered, and it is it's just,
you know what is such an interesting observation. It really is very true.
So thanks for sending that move in on. Remember yesterday we had the age
difference story yeah, and she was talking about how you know she's got the
age difference, not sure whether, and I said, well, it really
kind of matters whether you're twenty and he is thirty four, because a fourteen
year age difference. So she writes in to say a follow up some details
I didn't include. He's I'm a forty four. I'm forty four, he's
thirty one, Okay, so makes a difference. I think my biggest reservation
is when I was in high school, I dated somebody that was far too
old for me. I was seventeen and they were thirty. So I'm thinking
of that experience and his whole to me back, I know that based on
our ages, this would be completely different. And I think you're right.
We really care about each other, so we should give it a fair shot
and see what happens. Yeah. Yeah, those are very different scenarios.
When you're seventeen, your brain isn't full of developed I mean, you can
look at that unfortunately as like grooming almost could have been involved when you're that
young. But thirty and forty four, a thirty year old person knows who
they are, their brain's developed, they can make their own adult decisions,
so I wouldn't say it's like because I feel like she was saying it was
kind of like creepy that she dated someone that was thirty when she was seventeen,
and it's like bad on that person. Yeah, so yeah, I
think it's very different. Well I think forty four and thirty one. Yeah,
you're older than him, and mirror's slightly slightly different place. But if
you care about each other, I think it can definitely be doable. I
would not rule that one out. Thanks for all you're doing in the community.
Love the show and the Minnesota Goodbye podcast, and thank you. I
will not say her name next one. I'm gonna scroll up here for a
minute. And there was a follow up to the the age difference thing,
So I want to see if I can find it here really quick, and
I might be able to, and I might not owe so many emails to
go through it. We do. You have a lot of emails, so
let me just start at the top and I'll try to work my way down
to it. Hello, I'm Kate. I wrote in a while ago before
the Jenny fallon Change, and you read my email on the pod. Thank
you. It was nice to hear you read my email. I'm the one
who had insomnia and was so happy to hear Drake on the air in the
early morning around two or three. Side note, I miss fallon in the
mornings, but I'm also loving the change. Thank you. I appreciate that
I'm back awake with insomnia. At three point thirty, I turned on Katie
would be again happy to hear Drake. It makes me feel like I'm not
the only one awake right now. I listened to you all between seven am
and ten, and I've really come to enjoy having Drake on the morning show.
Has been a treat. When I hear him on the air outside the
morning show, Dave, I think a lot about what radio and radio,
about what radio and radio personalities provide for the community, and what you say
is so true. I want to thank you, Jenny and Drake for what
you do. I believe you're providing a public service not dissimilar to libraries or
city workers. You provide connectedness in a time when many people feel disconnected or
lonely, and you all provide a feeling of community and provide the glue that
holds people together. Many people depend on being able to turn on KWB and
hear a familiar voice or a familiar song that helps them feel like they're not
alone. I really think that's true. There are a lot of people who
are experiencing loneliness that surprises them because they don't have the office community to go
in. I know most of my friends now work remotely, and while they
like it, they still are not experiencing that sense of sitting next to Clarissa
in the next cube and going down to get coffee at Starbucks and going out
to Happy Hour afterward. So I think that the radio station and us we
do provide and you provide us a sense of community too. Yeah, because
doing the show, I mean, yeah, I get to hang out with
my friends Jenny and Drake. But I really think that people who listen to
the show, I think of them as friends. And that's why I have
so much respect and affection for people who listen to the show. And I
think a lot of radio people think of the listeners as numbers, and I've
heard people refer to them as prize pigs and other ugly words. It's like,
no, screw you, these people are just like us. They just
happen to listen to the radio. And I don't like the word listeners either,
really, because you're so much more than a listener. That's kind of
like saying, oh, customers. Yeah, it's not a demeaning term,
but you're also so much more than a customer. Anyway. She goes on
to say, that's my long winded way of saying thank you. You make
a big difference in a lot of people's lives, mind included. I hope
you never doubt the importance of what you do and the positive effects of the
you have on those around you. Thank you, Love you, Kate.
Kate Day made seriously loved that. Next one, Oh, here it is.
This is from Charisse. She says, I wanted to write she's a
regular writer, to give some advice to the woman that wrote in yesterday on
the podcast about being in a relationship with a guy thirteen years younger than her.
I am forty five, but when I was thirty four, I tried
dating a guy that was twenty three. It did not end well. We
were just in two different places in life at that time. I was ready
to settle down. He was still in the party phase, which is why
it didn't work. That was my experience and hers might be different, depending
on their ages. Love you guys and listen every day from Charisse. So
thank you Charisse. And I'm going to hit deleite and move on to the
next email. This is from our boy Dan. Dan is the one you
know. Dan. He wrapped an ATV around a tree years ago. His
brain is still very sharp, but his speech is impeded a little bit.
I'm not sure if that's the peace term, but that son of a bitch
has a smart mouth on him and I'm gonna punch him one day. He
came down to see us at Devani's yesterday I did. Yeah, I met
him for the first time in person, and yeah, he is great.
He is just like a ball of energy, is super funny, just a
great human. And he writes in and says, Dan here from Apple Valley.
I donated his jacket, snowsuit and a few hats Thursday for your coat
drive. And that's a great thing. But I have to admit I did
a bit of a bad thing and took two slices of pizza while inside No
middeal, your dart licking friend, Daniel, Daniel, thank you. I
think it was only one piece of pizza inside. I don't think they were
counting. Yeah, they were just had the Dvani's people were so wonderful and
like a whole office full of them came by and the staff was great,
and corporate was great, and management was great, and the Pilgrim crew was
there too. We had such a good time. We love meeting people who
listened to the show. Yes. Next one is says Hello Minnesota, goodbye.
I wrote a little while ago asking your opinion on inviting people over at
houses their house seating, and I appreciated here in your perspectives. Another question.
I'm a college student live on campus. I go between studying, hanging
out with my friends, and events with my student organizations. I'm pretty busy
almost every day, but I love it. Busy enough that I don't really
have time to call or visit my parents often. I'm about fifty minutes from
home, so it's not unreasonable to dry. But in all honesty, I
love college far more than being home. However, I know my mom misses
me greatly, especially because she's a teacher and she's having a rough time at
work. I feel bad that I don't have time to go home, but
I don't know how to make my mom feel better. My little brother is
still in the house. I'm a college sophomore, so it's not the first
year she's had to deal with me being gone. I even have be real
with my mom. Explain what be real is. So basically, there's like
a time that it goes off every single day and you take a picture in
that moment. It is not your stage, beautiful Instagram photo. It's like,
uh, you're being real. This is what's happening. So it takes
a selfie of you, but then also an outward picture of what's in front
of you, So it shows you exactly what you look like at that moment
and what you're doing as you can see what's in front of you. So
she says, mom gets that she gets to see a snapshot of my day
every day. I don't think it's enough. Dave as an empty nester,
did Beth, Alison her Carson do anything that made being an empty nester easier.
The one thing they did was they were very happy when they came home.
When they came home, it wasn't often, but they really loved being
at home. And I think if you go home and show your mom that
you really love being there, and you know, make cookies with her,
or watch a movie with her, or go to Applebee's with her, and
let her know that when you're home you just love it. And try to
put down your phone and don't text your friends as much, and let mom
know that you just love being there. Because Carson Beth and Alison Chase grew
up with his mama in Arizona, and whenever they'd come home, they always
I could tell they were happy to be there. And I know you like
school better, but it'll mean the world to mom. And I will tell
you this one too. Until you become a parent, you don't realize the
love that we have for our kids, and when you I moved away from
my mom and dad when I was twenty one years old and I never came
back except for a few days on vacation, and they missed me terribly.
Even my dad, who wasn't emotional, he really missed me. And I
never understood that until I had. So you so try to spend a little
bit more time, I would say, because one day you'll go when mom
and dad are not around anymore. I hate to bring it up, you'll
be happy that you spent more time with him. Yeah. I was very
guilty because I was. I'm four and a half hours away from my hometown,
and so when I was in college, and like many years after,
I would go home and I'd go out and party with all my high school
friends. I was at home very often, even when I was visiting.
And now at this point in my life, you know, I go home
with Andrew. We spend all of our time with my family. I don't
even see anyone else that I'm friends with, honestly, and I always try
to make an effort to sit down when my mom. My mom's always on
the go and she but she also bakes a lot, and she always wants
to make us stuff when we're home, So she's always in the kitchen usually
if she's home, and so Andrew and I will make an effort to like
sit in the kitchen, just sit at the table while she's doing whatever she's
doing, and just talk to her, because otherwise it's like we're we've got
plans, we've got things we want to do while we're home, and then
we don't even get a chance to even talk. Almost. Yeah, no,
And I totally get that when you would go home, you'd want to
go party with your friends. That's what I did when I'd come home and
visit my mom and dad. I'm twenty two, twenty three years old.
I'm out with my buddies from my hometown and out, like you know,
doing things. But I still I liked being around my mom and dad,
and so I really think that when you go home, spend time and the
be real thing is great. You're doing You're doing the best you can.
And she says dart lick, dart lick from Cassie. So thank you,
Cassie, and I'm gonna hit delete on that one. I'm gonna save this
one because it is a great group therapy, and I'm gonna go down to
this one. Here we go. About thirty minutes ago, I got back
from seeing a movie with my kids, Pop Patrol. My oldest is five
and in kindergarten, and I have three year old twins, so emmy A
was the perfect time to solo mamam over to the movie theater. They did
amazing. They didn't make a peep, unlike the adults behind us. But
I brought in waters instead of buying them. I didn't feel like accidentally having
a spill, so I brought them in camelbacks, which is like the you
know the you know what a camelback is, and oh my god, I
still feel guilty. We bought a huge freaking bucket of popcorn, but I
feel guilty about water. What's wrong with me? Nothing? I mean I
give people a hard time. It's like, you're not supposed to bring food
and drink into the theater part of the profit they make. You know what,
You're fine. Number one, you bought popcorn. Well, and they
also have water fountains in the theater, so you could very well get away
with not ever buying water there. Even if you didn't bring your camelbacks or
a water bottle in, you can just go drink out of the water fountains.
I think the fact that you feel a little bit guilty also shows that
you're fine. You're a good person. You felt a little bit guilty.
I wonder what the requirement is. Our building has a water fountain. I
never use it. If I get water, I go back to the water
thing back in the kitchen that has the filters and stuff. But I wonder
if there's like a building code that every building has to have a water fountain.
Oh yeah, probably just think about it. Every building you go into.
He's got a water fountain. Uh okay, this is from Todd.
He says, what did the Vikings fans say after his team won the Super
Bowl? Damn it, Mom, why'd you wake me up? I was
having an amazing dream. Okay, I did go to dreams somehow, but
I didn't know what the answer would be. That's funny. Anyway, coming
up in November to visit the area. Is there any good hike spots near
Minneapolis other than Mini Haha Falls? What do you think, Jenny? Anything
you could do Fort Snelling State Park that's within Minneapolis, kind of close to
Minnehaha Falls. Actually, that's a good one within the city. Is outside
of the cities, like not too far. You could do Afton State Park.
We just went up to Taylor's Falls the other day and did internet Inner
State State Park. And I will say that the Wisconsin side is better at
the park. Yeah, I get it. Yeah, but yeah, there's
not a whole ton of hiking trails. I mean, the trails around the
lakes and Uptown are beautiful. It's not hyping, it's not hik it's just
a walk. Yeah. Yeah, So that's probably the best I can think
of right now. Taylor's Falls, not Taylor's Falls. Afton State Park has
got some great trails and when I was with Boy Scouts, we went hiking
over there quite often, and there's even some backpanking camp sites over there too,
So we did that this can be the last one for now, and
here we go from Cesna. I like that name. It's not spelled like
the airplane, but I think it's said like the airplane. They are from
Hermitage, Tennessee. I love that people listen when they don't even live here.
That's very flattering. I've found you guys through Reddit in July, and
you instantly became my top radio podcast to listen to every day. Wow.
That is amazing. Yes, I don't have a job at the moments,
you guys make my days a lot less lonely. I've listened to everything Apple
podcast has for the show podcast, so from around Halloween last year until now.
Wow? Is there any way to listen to older episodes? Apple?
And iHeart only show the last one thousand, and with the show being broken
up, that doesn't go very far back either way. I'm glad I found
you guys. Thanks for being so great in helping me through a tough and
lonely time. Love you guys from Cesna Jenny. Is there any way to
go back and listen to older shows? I don't think so. Honestly,
we have changed the systems that we use to upload podcasts and stuff over the
years, and due to all those changes, we've kind of just off that
audio. Unfortunately that is I don't know, plus years old or whatever it
might be. I'm flattered that, see to me, I'm so flattered that
anybody would go back and listen to old episodes like you binge, like old
episodes of suits, which is what I'm doing right now. Find that very
very flattering, in a very humble and honor that you would even listen.
Okay, I got one more. I know. I said that was the
last one, but worked this one in heard you guys talk about a lady
who wasn't happy that her date took her to the cheesecake factory. If it
was me, I would ditch her take her back home. Also funny how
you guys mentioned Applebee's fifteen years ago when my wife and I were dating,
we had our first date at Applebee's during breakfast. After that we went to
watch a movie. I love that We did go to the Cheesecake Factory once
with my wife's brother and his girlfriend. At the time, I thought it
was a pretty decent place. I mean, they serve calamari, so I
guess it was fancy super dart lik. That's from Chow, and Chow is
a regular contributor and we appreciate that, and that is going to do it.
If you set an email in and you're going, hey, they didn't
read it, we kind of ran out of time. But we are saving
everyone and we'll get to as many as we can. My plan is to
get to every single email that people wrote in that works for the Minnesota Goodbye.
So if you didn't hear yours on there today, keep listening, check
it out on Monday Tuesday next week, and we will work hard to get
your email on there. Maybe one day we should do an extended version of
the Minnesota Goodbye and get everybody on there. Anyway, thank you for listening.
Have a great weekend.