WEBVTT 1 00:00:06.240 --> 00:00:09.800 Hey guys, Welcome and welcome back to the podcast where your friends Maddie and 2 00:00:09.919 --> 00:00:15.759 Lauren, and we are back for another episode. Today is my birthday. 3 00:00:16.000 --> 00:00:20.000 It's also our final video episode. But let's go back to my birthday because 4 00:00:20.039 --> 00:00:24.199 that's obviously more important. You can see that I'm wearing a red boat and 5 00:00:24.239 --> 00:00:28.679 I did promise birthday merch or like what do you call it, like a 6 00:00:29.879 --> 00:00:33.520 something special, you know, a special piece or like a crown or something, 7 00:00:33.560 --> 00:00:37.719 but unfortunately we don't have anything, so I just have this boa. 8 00:00:37.960 --> 00:00:40.799 But I had to make do. That's from the Harry Styles concert. I 9 00:00:40.880 --> 00:00:43.880 actually was wondering that, Lauren. I was thinking it could be from Harry 10 00:00:43.880 --> 00:00:48.920 Styles. That is true. So we have a very special episode this week. 11 00:00:49.439 --> 00:00:54.640 And okay, Lauren's microphone and oh yes it is. So we have 12 00:00:54.679 --> 00:00:58.479 a very special episode this week. This is definitely a tradition at this point. 13 00:00:59.039 --> 00:01:02.880 We do this every year. Basically. It's things I've learned at this 14 00:01:02.960 --> 00:01:07.799 age, the age that I just passed. I guess I realized, but 15 00:01:07.959 --> 00:01:11.079 I think we only do this for your birthday. Yeah, I actually was 16 00:01:11.079 --> 00:01:15.439 thinking that as well, like I don't remember, you know, seventeen things 17 00:01:15.439 --> 00:01:18.159 I learned at seventeen, right, But I think it's because you're older and 18 00:01:18.200 --> 00:01:22.680 wiser, right, so you know you're always learning every year. But since 19 00:01:22.719 --> 00:01:26.000 I'm old now, we're going to do things I've learned rather than twenty six 20 00:01:26.040 --> 00:01:30.000 things I learned, because that's just too many things. Also, I fear 21 00:01:30.079 --> 00:01:36.359 that these are repetitive. But then I was thinking it doesn't really actually matter, 22 00:01:36.480 --> 00:01:40.680 because you also kind of learn the same sort of things every year, 23 00:01:40.920 --> 00:01:46.159 just more in depth for sure. And I feel like you experienced new things 24 00:01:46.200 --> 00:01:49.879 every year that like solidify the lessons you learned the year before, right exactly. 25 00:01:51.480 --> 00:01:53.239 So I think we should just get into it. Well, should we 26 00:01:53.280 --> 00:01:57.840 do a brief life update? Ibe? You can talk about any birthday plans 27 00:01:57.879 --> 00:02:01.560 you have, any birthday plans you had, Well, okay, I'll give 28 00:02:01.599 --> 00:02:05.959 you a little run down of what we did last night. So we went 29 00:02:05.959 --> 00:02:09.159 for dinner at Chateau Marmont, which is a hotel that actually had really been 30 00:02:09.199 --> 00:02:14.400 wanting to go to. It was very nice and cute, and then we 31 00:02:14.479 --> 00:02:17.960 went to Soho house. Well Lauren didn't come, but she had went to 32 00:02:19.039 --> 00:02:22.599 John's new house, which we can talk about that whole thing another time, 33 00:02:22.639 --> 00:02:27.360 but she yeah, when we went to Soho house and then we all met 34 00:02:27.439 --> 00:02:30.000 up and went to a club. We went had a night out, which 35 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:35.280 is really funny. Our entire family, which was an experience. Our parents 36 00:02:35.400 --> 00:02:38.199 went to the club and they were like, we'll stay for like fifteen twenty 37 00:02:38.240 --> 00:02:42.599 minutes. They stayed until one thirty in the morning. I'm like, okay, 38 00:02:42.639 --> 00:02:46.199 it's been two hours. They would have stayed all night. I think 39 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:47.759 so too. They were having a great time. They fully would have stayed 40 00:02:47.759 --> 00:02:53.599 all night. So it was really funny. Definitely not something that's ever happened 41 00:02:53.599 --> 00:02:57.400 before, which was really fun and like just fun for a birthday. I 42 00:02:57.439 --> 00:03:00.960 would say, I don't really have many plans today. It's also a hurricane 43 00:03:00.360 --> 00:03:05.080 if you can see it in the back, but it's Hurricane Hillary. So 44 00:03:05.240 --> 00:03:07.080 we're not doing much today. Yeah, so far, it's just been a 45 00:03:07.080 --> 00:03:13.199 lot of rain here in LA. But I am going to downtown LA to 46 00:03:13.280 --> 00:03:16.360 move into my hotel. If you haven't heard, yeah, if you haven't 47 00:03:16.439 --> 00:03:21.080 listened to our past few episodes, I'm living in a hotel instead of an 48 00:03:21.120 --> 00:03:24.000 apartment for the first few weeks of the school year because my building is under 49 00:03:24.039 --> 00:03:28.120 construction. So I'm moving into the hotel today. And then I start school 50 00:03:28.199 --> 00:03:32.800 tomorrow. Pretty summer's over. Yep. Well, we'll give you a better 51 00:03:32.840 --> 00:03:38.000 life update in future episodes, just because Lauren's got to move into her her 52 00:03:38.000 --> 00:03:42.080 place today and the weather's bad, so we have to get right into this 53 00:03:42.120 --> 00:03:45.800 one. But we'll give you the full update in a couple of weeks. 54 00:03:45.840 --> 00:03:47.719 Also, you'll have more to share about school. Yeah. I honestly feel 55 00:03:47.719 --> 00:03:52.960 like that's pretty much the update for me as of recently. But I think 56 00:03:52.960 --> 00:03:57.000 this next week will be pretty eventful for me. Great looking forward to hearing 57 00:03:57.039 --> 00:03:59.919 about it. All right, let's get into the things that I learned. 58 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:03.680 At twenty six. I've given us nine things to discuss. I feel like 59 00:04:03.680 --> 00:04:08.199 that's a good, good number, all right. Number one, this is 60 00:04:08.240 --> 00:04:12.719 something that we actually have discussed recently on the podcast. Growth really only comes 61 00:04:12.800 --> 00:04:17.720 from uncomfortable situations, so you kind of always have to be seeking discomfort, 62 00:04:17.800 --> 00:04:23.120 which is a weird concept because I think by nature, humans want to be 63 00:04:23.160 --> 00:04:28.319 as comfortable as possible. But you just have to do things that aren't in 64 00:04:28.360 --> 00:04:32.879 your nature, for example, like making social media content. I feel like 65 00:04:32.959 --> 00:04:35.720 for both of us, it's not really in our nature to be like, 66 00:04:36.839 --> 00:04:43.399 you know, have this like big, loud, outgoing personality into like to 67 00:04:43.480 --> 00:04:47.240 your camera and then also like feel like you want to share a lot that's 68 00:04:47.279 --> 00:04:51.079 not really in our nature. But if it's uncomfortable, that means it's something 69 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:56.160 you actually should like lean into rather than move away from. Right, And 70 00:04:56.199 --> 00:05:00.879 I think there's a difference between like discomfort that you won't grow from, yeah, 71 00:05:01.199 --> 00:05:04.879 versus discomfort that you will. And I think normally you know the difference, 72 00:05:05.240 --> 00:05:10.240 like when you're try it, you know whether this is a situation that 73 00:05:10.279 --> 00:05:13.360 you just don't want to be in because it's not good for you, it's 74 00:05:13.360 --> 00:05:17.480 not going to benefit you in any way. You're just uncomfortable, or whether 75 00:05:17.680 --> 00:05:21.639 it's discomfort that is pushing you out of your comfort zone that you will then 76 00:05:21.720 --> 00:05:26.759 learn from and then the next time you experience it it won't be so uncomfortable. 77 00:05:27.160 --> 00:05:30.759 Yeah, exactly. Yeah, Like don't do things that you know are 78 00:05:30.759 --> 00:05:34.519 wrong, for example, but put yourself in situations where you're like, I 79 00:05:34.519 --> 00:05:38.120 will be better on the other side of this, or this can benefit me 80 00:05:38.160 --> 00:05:42.240 in some way. It's usually the situations that you know are right but are 81 00:05:42.399 --> 00:05:46.560 uncomfortable, like unfamiliar to you for sure. Next one, I feel like 82 00:05:46.560 --> 00:05:50.720 when it comes to working out, eating healthy, like living a healthy lifestyle. 83 00:05:51.120 --> 00:05:55.680 The less you obsess and think about it, the better you feel, 84 00:05:55.800 --> 00:05:59.560 which makes sense. But I feel like for so long there was like all 85 00:05:59.560 --> 00:06:02.079 these well this influencers and everyone was pushing something and you feel like you have 86 00:06:02.199 --> 00:06:08.040 to, you know, eat this certain food or I don't know. I 87 00:06:08.079 --> 00:06:12.959 just feel like it was like overhyped. And I'm very interested in health as 88 00:06:12.959 --> 00:06:15.519 a whole. But I just feel like you can kind of do whatever works 89 00:06:15.560 --> 00:06:17.439 for you. Like if you, I think, what are we saying about 90 00:06:17.439 --> 00:06:20.199 working out? Yeah, like if you want to walk and you're going to 91 00:06:20.240 --> 00:06:23.959 walk every day, then that works for you. That's great. You don't 92 00:06:23.959 --> 00:06:29.399 have to do a workout that you see online. There's also no plan that's 93 00:06:29.399 --> 00:06:31.800 gonna like make a huge change for you. You have to just do what 94 00:06:31.839 --> 00:06:35.600 you want to do. Like I just get caught up with like, you 95 00:06:35.639 --> 00:06:40.959 know, people selling stuff that looks nice and it's all marketing, honestly, 96 00:06:41.240 --> 00:06:46.839 Like you know what to do and just like don't overcomplicate things. I also 97 00:06:46.000 --> 00:06:54.079 feel like the issue with following trends and then looking at influencers like wellness influencers 98 00:06:54.079 --> 00:07:00.160 online is that the workout routine that they're following, and the diet that they 99 00:07:00.319 --> 00:07:05.959 are following won't necessarily generate the same results for you as I would for them. 100 00:07:06.040 --> 00:07:11.519 Like, I think so much of all of that is genetic. What 101 00:07:11.560 --> 00:07:14.399 makes you feel good, what makes you look the way you want to look. 102 00:07:15.319 --> 00:07:19.160 And I think that the best way to get into wellness and to keep 103 00:07:19.199 --> 00:07:27.199 yourself healthy is by doing things that you genuinely enjoy or sustainable and you find 104 00:07:27.240 --> 00:07:30.319 work for you. You're like Satyle and just like think about it less. 105 00:07:30.399 --> 00:07:35.639 Like I think a lot of girls, especially get consumed by self image and 106 00:07:36.360 --> 00:07:40.199 like the things that they need to do to look a certain way. But 107 00:07:40.800 --> 00:07:44.800 in my experience, the less I think about stuff like that, the easier 108 00:07:44.839 --> 00:07:47.319 it is, Like I just like, don't I just have less pressure? 109 00:07:47.439 --> 00:07:51.040 Or like I care less about that, which is definitely something that happens when 110 00:07:51.040 --> 00:07:54.839 you get older, Like you care less about things that you used to care 111 00:07:54.839 --> 00:07:57.560 about, and you accept things about yourself, which I think is a cool 112 00:07:57.639 --> 00:08:01.319 thing. And I think it just continues as you age and you care care 113 00:08:01.399 --> 00:08:07.439 less about what everyone else is doing, which is great. Number Three I 114 00:08:07.480 --> 00:08:11.079 think I've learned this year. I admire and I think it's cool when people 115 00:08:11.120 --> 00:08:16.000 have opinions and values that they stick to, and I feel like it shows 116 00:08:16.079 --> 00:08:24.560 confidence, Like if you're not easily swayed because you know yourself and you're yeah, 117 00:08:24.600 --> 00:08:28.439 like you just like don't really care what everyone else is doing because you 118 00:08:28.439 --> 00:08:31.839 know what to do. I think that that's cool. I think that's cool 119 00:08:31.879 --> 00:08:35.960 even when they're different than yours, Like even if someone has the complete opposite 120 00:08:35.960 --> 00:08:41.799 opinion to me, if they are firm inute, I think that that's respectable. 121 00:08:41.240 --> 00:08:46.679 Yeah. And also my next one is everyone should listen more Like, 122 00:08:46.759 --> 00:08:50.039 I think it's really easy, especially if you're in like an argument situation, 123 00:08:50.759 --> 00:08:52.639 like not an argument, but like a debate, and you have different strong 124 00:08:52.679 --> 00:08:58.879 opinions, you just like are preparing for your next argument instead of being like, 125 00:08:58.200 --> 00:09:01.399 okay, let's probably meet in the middle on this, Like you know, 126 00:09:01.440 --> 00:09:05.159 you can learn from everyone, even if they have different opinions than you, 127 00:09:05.440 --> 00:09:09.559 and usually that everyone's a little bit more moderate than they lead on, 128 00:09:09.679 --> 00:09:13.960 you know, but you can find the middle ground exactly by talking find things 129 00:09:15.000 --> 00:09:18.559 that you agree on. Yeah, And I think it's interesting that you say 130 00:09:18.600 --> 00:09:24.360 that because that's something that so many older people say. Have you ever seen 131 00:09:24.399 --> 00:09:26.759 those videos? It's like advice from an eighty year old or even like something 132 00:09:26.799 --> 00:09:31.200 that Dad and his friends would say is like listen more. You can learn 133 00:09:31.240 --> 00:09:33.960 from the people around you. You already know everything you have to say. 134 00:09:35.080 --> 00:09:39.399 Yeah, Dad always says that it's true. Like, I think that's definitely 135 00:09:39.399 --> 00:09:43.600 something that changes as you get older, like you're less. It's like you're 136 00:09:43.639 --> 00:09:46.519 confident in what you believe, and you're like, I don't need to, 137 00:09:46.559 --> 00:09:50.080 like, you know, rush to say the next thing, Like I can 138 00:09:50.080 --> 00:09:52.120 just relax and calm down, and I know I'll be able to share what 139 00:09:52.159 --> 00:09:56.559 I want to share. Yeah, I just think listening is really good. 140 00:09:56.639 --> 00:10:01.639 So that was my fourth one number five. Five kiddies are all kind of 141 00:10:01.000 --> 00:10:07.000 similar. But I said, no argument or situation is one percent one person's 142 00:10:07.039 --> 00:10:13.960 faults. Like, I think the ability to admit faults is a great characteristic, 143 00:10:13.639 --> 00:10:18.519 especially in like relationships or friendships where you at first are like, oh, 144 00:10:18.600 --> 00:10:22.000 it's one hundred percent that person's fault, like they did this to me. 145 00:10:22.559 --> 00:10:26.639 But if you're able to look at your contribution to any situation, which 146 00:10:26.679 --> 00:10:30.639 there always is something right, Like, I think it's very rare that it's 147 00:10:30.679 --> 00:10:35.679 one one person's fault. And I think if you're able to recognize that. 148 00:10:37.559 --> 00:10:41.879 It's great because it's also really like the only thing that you can control is 149 00:10:41.919 --> 00:10:46.120 your own actions and reactions to things. And I think that admitting that you 150 00:10:46.799 --> 00:10:54.200 are partially at fault might actually help you, like help you and the friend 151 00:10:54.279 --> 00:10:58.440 move forward from sure, Like if you could admit this wasn't entirely your fault, 152 00:10:58.440 --> 00:11:01.080 I am partly to blame for this, then maybe you can talk about 153 00:11:01.080 --> 00:11:05.080 it. I think also a lot of people don't want to be the first 154 00:11:05.080 --> 00:11:11.919 person to like initiate the apology or like initiate the resolution of an argument. 155 00:11:11.240 --> 00:11:15.639 But the person that's able to do that, I think has the most peace, 156 00:11:16.600 --> 00:11:20.200 you know, like they're not stirring with all these negative emotions and like 157 00:11:20.519 --> 00:11:24.039 problems. They're like, I need to move on from this, so let's 158 00:11:24.039 --> 00:11:26.799 just get a solution, like find a solution here. Yeah. And also 159 00:11:26.840 --> 00:11:30.759 I think that if you're in a situation where you're like, no, this 160 00:11:30.799 --> 00:11:35.080 is one hundred percent their fault, honestly, part of it might be that 161 00:11:37.279 --> 00:11:41.320 you have you are, like feel very strongly about something that they don't, 162 00:11:41.279 --> 00:11:46.080 and they don't even realize how much doing something would hurt you because they don't 163 00:11:46.120 --> 00:11:50.720 share that same value, or they don't feel as strongly about it, you 164 00:11:50.759 --> 00:11:54.440 know what I mean, Yeah for sure. Yeah, and that at that 165 00:11:54.480 --> 00:11:58.039 point you just have to either accept people for who they are and be like 166 00:11:58.080 --> 00:12:01.600 okay, or move on and don't be friends with them anymore. There's a 167 00:12:01.639 --> 00:12:05.360 lot of things about someone that you can't really change. You can try to 168 00:12:05.399 --> 00:12:11.519 communicate what you feel strongly about and hope that they will kind of learn from 169 00:12:11.519 --> 00:12:15.720 that and be sensitive to that. But if not, then yeah, you 170 00:12:15.759 --> 00:12:20.000 have to either accept them or move on. Yeah, and you're responsible for 171 00:12:20.039 --> 00:12:26.320 yourself, Like people can do things to you, like they can do like 172 00:12:26.360 --> 00:12:28.519 have an action, but they can't make you feel any certain way. Like 173 00:12:28.559 --> 00:12:35.240 you're responsible for your emotions. So I think that just account like being accountable 174 00:12:35.559 --> 00:12:39.440 and owning that and being like instead of being like a victim. You know, 175 00:12:39.759 --> 00:12:43.960 like you choose how to feel, so choose and which whatever way brings 176 00:12:43.960 --> 00:12:46.759 you the most peace. 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For me at least, 190 00:13:46.799 --> 00:13:48.519 when I finished school, I was like, I have no clue what I 191 00:13:48.559 --> 00:13:52.399 want to do, But you're looking forward and it's like I'm picturing like open 192 00:13:52.480 --> 00:13:56.519 space where there's no clear path, right, But then when you look back, 193 00:13:56.320 --> 00:14:01.440 everything makes sense. So I feel like this just continues life, Like 194 00:14:01.960 --> 00:14:05.679 you can't plan things really Like I used to be such a goal setter and 195 00:14:05.720 --> 00:14:09.399 I still am. But it's hard to set goals when you don't really know 196 00:14:09.440 --> 00:14:13.480 what you're doing and you're kind of just like figuring it out as you go. 197 00:14:13.200 --> 00:14:16.840 But I really do think. I know, we don't think things happen 198 00:14:16.879 --> 00:14:20.200 for a reason, but I think that things will work out. I always 199 00:14:20.240 --> 00:14:22.360 say that too. I don't believe everything happens for a reason. I don't 200 00:14:22.360 --> 00:14:28.759 believe there's like a predetermined path for me. But I feel like nothing is 201 00:14:28.799 --> 00:14:33.600 the end of the world. Really, like you will get through everything and 202 00:14:33.639 --> 00:14:37.120 then you'll look back on it and be like it wasn't as big of a 203 00:14:37.159 --> 00:14:39.960 deal as I thought it was. Nothing is really that important. And it's 204 00:14:41.000 --> 00:14:43.559 so easy to give advice, like if somebody else is freaking out about something, 205 00:14:45.320 --> 00:14:46.519 I can say that to them, But then when you're in the situation, 206 00:14:46.559 --> 00:14:50.480 it's a lot harder. And also, I was thinking, or I 207 00:14:50.519 --> 00:14:54.240 told you this. One of my friends says like she has this mentality that 208 00:14:54.279 --> 00:14:58.559 bad things don't happen to her. She's like, that would never happen to 209 00:14:58.600 --> 00:15:01.039 me. I'm like, how do you even know that? She's like, 210 00:15:01.120 --> 00:15:03.000 I just know that would never happen to me, Like I just know, 211 00:15:03.799 --> 00:15:09.679 And having that sort of confidence. Maybe it's delusional confidence, but I think 212 00:15:09.720 --> 00:15:13.799 that that really, like it's true, like it bad things don't happen her 213 00:15:13.799 --> 00:15:18.000 because she just doesn't believe that they will. Or if she isn't a bad 214 00:15:18.000 --> 00:15:20.200 situation, she reframes it, right. I think that is a big part 215 00:15:20.200 --> 00:15:24.399 of it too, Like maybe some of it is like speaking it into existence. 216 00:15:24.440 --> 00:15:26.679 I don't know if I believe all of that, but I think part 217 00:15:26.720 --> 00:15:31.559 of it is that she never feels the way that someone else in the same 218 00:15:31.600 --> 00:15:37.879 situation, the same bad situation might because she has more optimistic take on things, 219 00:15:37.080 --> 00:15:41.720 or she'll just find a way to see it as like an opportunity for 220 00:15:41.799 --> 00:15:48.159 growth or learning. And you get to choose how you experience life. You 221 00:15:48.200 --> 00:15:52.039 know, you get to choose your outcome or you're not your outcome. But 222 00:15:52.120 --> 00:15:56.120 like how a situation affects you, I guess back to the last point, 223 00:15:56.519 --> 00:15:58.320 Like you can choose to live a life where you're affected by things and like 224 00:15:58.519 --> 00:16:03.240 you are down and negative, or you can choose to be optimistic and see 225 00:16:03.279 --> 00:16:07.360 things as a learning lesson. Like obviously everyone has hard things happen to them, 226 00:16:07.399 --> 00:16:11.159 some more than others, but the actual thing doesn't really matter. That 227 00:16:11.279 --> 00:16:15.919 much. It all is the scale of what it means to you, Right, 228 00:16:15.960 --> 00:16:19.480 So if you've not had terrible things happen to you, then the most 229 00:16:19.559 --> 00:16:23.799 terrible thing feels just as bad as someone else's terrible thing, Like it doesn't 230 00:16:23.799 --> 00:16:27.799 really matter. So anyways, I don't even know what my point was. 231 00:16:29.279 --> 00:16:30.799 Oh, you can't plan your life. Yeah, you can't plan your life, 232 00:16:30.840 --> 00:16:34.200 but just like take things as as they come. And I think it's 233 00:16:34.200 --> 00:16:37.799 also good to look back and be like, Okay, that all worked out, 234 00:16:37.840 --> 00:16:40.559 and I know that the rest is going to work out instead of getting 235 00:16:40.559 --> 00:16:44.200 stressed beause a lot of people, young people get stressed, which I understand 236 00:16:44.240 --> 00:16:51.480 because there's just so much uncertainty. I remember even feeling that way about things 237 00:16:51.519 --> 00:16:55.080 that are so insignificant, like a test, Like, oh my god, 238 00:16:55.759 --> 00:16:57.639 if I, for example, in grade twelve, I'm like, every test 239 00:16:57.679 --> 00:17:00.720 matter so much because if I do badly on this, I'm not going to 240 00:17:00.759 --> 00:17:03.960 get into a good university, and it's it was the end of the world, 241 00:17:04.000 --> 00:17:07.519 and it's like, yeah, I didn't do well in every single test 242 00:17:07.559 --> 00:17:10.799 in grade twelve, but I still got into a university and like it all 243 00:17:10.839 --> 00:17:12.880 worked out. And now I don't even remember what I was stressing over like 244 00:17:14.079 --> 00:17:15.920 everything seems so big in the moment, and then when you get through it, 245 00:17:17.359 --> 00:17:19.359 you might not even remember what it was that you were so worried about. 246 00:17:19.599 --> 00:17:22.160 Yeah, well I can't remember anything that I stressed out about in high 247 00:17:22.160 --> 00:17:27.240 school. So if that helps anyone. Number seven a little lighter note. 248 00:17:27.680 --> 00:17:32.559 I now like things food items that I used to hate, like pickles. 249 00:17:32.920 --> 00:17:37.200 I used to hate anything pickled, like, okay, you know pickled things. 250 00:17:37.519 --> 00:17:41.680 I hated kombucha because it's like fermented. Hated anything like that. But 251 00:17:41.759 --> 00:17:47.400 now I really like kombucha. I love coconut water. Pickles. Olives to 252 00:17:47.440 --> 00:17:51.680 me were the most disgusting thing ever. I wouldn't eat an olive probably, 253 00:17:51.720 --> 00:17:55.240 but like, they're not bad. I'd like to know what your journey with 254 00:17:55.359 --> 00:18:00.920 much of this was. Sometimes I'm encouraged to try something and I'm like, 255 00:18:00.319 --> 00:18:04.200 I don't like that. I'll live, but then I'll try it whatever. 256 00:18:04.240 --> 00:18:10.160 I'm like fine, and I'm like, it's actually fine. So then is 257 00:18:10.200 --> 00:18:12.200 it good the first time you've taste it or is it like you have to 258 00:18:12.200 --> 00:18:15.640 eat it a few times and then no, I liked it the first time, 259 00:18:15.920 --> 00:18:18.880 Well, I've tried it many times. I used to hate olives. 260 00:18:18.880 --> 00:18:22.319 I used to hate cherry tomatoes. I wouldn't eat those things, you know, 261 00:18:22.440 --> 00:18:27.160 But pickles, if they're small and not slimy, they're good, like 262 00:18:27.200 --> 00:18:32.400 cornishwans specifically. Everyone's obsessed with pickles now, though, don't you think people 263 00:18:32.440 --> 00:18:37.759 are like, there's a trendy thing. Yeah, but interesting because I was 264 00:18:38.000 --> 00:18:41.599 thinking about training myself to like fish, because I feel like it's kind of 265 00:18:41.599 --> 00:18:47.920 an immature thing not to eat an entire food group. Fish and an oyster 266 00:18:48.000 --> 00:18:52.880 I saw, but I like oysters, and I like oysters and muscles, 267 00:18:52.279 --> 00:18:56.440 and that's about it for seafood. I wouldn't order anything else, right, 268 00:18:56.880 --> 00:19:00.599 But I'm thinking if I like try I had enough times, maybe I'll come 269 00:19:00.599 --> 00:19:03.039 around. But maybe I should just wait until I'm twenty seven, and then 270 00:19:03.079 --> 00:19:06.960 one day I'll wake up in like fish. Well, I think your taste 271 00:19:06.960 --> 00:19:11.000 buds definitely evolve. 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Okay, 283 00:19:56.680 --> 00:20:00.599 next two are very simile, so I'll just kind of combine this. 284 00:20:02.400 --> 00:20:06.519 I think it's very easy for people to think that you are nice, hard 285 00:20:06.519 --> 00:20:10.119 worker, you know, things like that, Like you don't really have to 286 00:20:10.119 --> 00:20:12.720 do much for people to think that you're nice, especially in La. I 287 00:20:12.759 --> 00:20:15.200 don't know if it's an l a thing because people here are just generally not 288 00:20:15.279 --> 00:20:19.119 very friendly, but I've gotten recently people are like, you're so nice. 289 00:20:19.160 --> 00:20:22.599 I'm like, that really wouldn't be the word I would use to describe myself 290 00:20:22.640 --> 00:20:26.920 to strangers, because usually I just like don't really care to put in so 291 00:20:27.000 --> 00:20:30.279 much effort. Like, I'm not we're not warm. We've said that, 292 00:20:30.519 --> 00:20:36.160 yeah, we're not warm. But if I so the specific person I've seen 293 00:20:36.200 --> 00:20:38.480 a couple of times, now, you know she's around, so I'm going 294 00:20:38.519 --> 00:20:41.920 to be nice to her obviously, like I'm going to see her again. 295 00:20:41.240 --> 00:20:45.039 I don't like go out of my way to make friends people that I probably 296 00:20:45.079 --> 00:20:47.799 will never meet again. But for her, I'm like, yeah, of 297 00:20:47.799 --> 00:20:49.400 course I want to be nice to her, but I'm not even being that 298 00:20:49.519 --> 00:20:53.440 nice. And I'm like, you think that I'm nice. She's like saying 299 00:20:53.440 --> 00:20:57.880 many times that I'm very nice. Interesting, so part of that might be 300 00:20:57.920 --> 00:21:03.039 an LA think because a lot of people here are very nice, because people 301 00:21:03.039 --> 00:21:07.559 are so rude here, Like every girl that I meet in Toronto, yeah, 302 00:21:07.039 --> 00:21:11.720 is like friendly. I mean normally I feel like you meet people out 303 00:21:11.839 --> 00:21:15.279 so it's actually that's probably how you meet a lot of people here too. 304 00:21:15.720 --> 00:21:19.160 But everyone's just very friendly and like, we'll talk to you all night whatever. 305 00:21:19.559 --> 00:21:23.519 Here. I think you could be standing next to someone all night and 306 00:21:23.559 --> 00:21:27.200 they could not speak to you. It's so weird. Yeah, nobody is 307 00:21:27.319 --> 00:21:32.279 nice anyway. So I just think that you can really go the extra mile 308 00:21:32.480 --> 00:21:36.759 by putting in a slight bit of effort. The same goes with hard work, 309 00:21:37.000 --> 00:21:40.599 for sure, and I learned this when I worked in an office. 310 00:21:41.480 --> 00:21:47.519 People were like so impressed by very minimal work, things like if I stayed 311 00:21:47.599 --> 00:21:52.200 fifteen minutes late, for example, fifteen minutes after like everyone leaves at five 312 00:21:52.240 --> 00:21:55.079 oh one, like their computers are off at five, They're out of the 313 00:21:55.119 --> 00:21:57.880 door by five out one. I'm sure that's not every single person, but 314 00:21:59.000 --> 00:22:03.880 I'm just saying, if you want to stand out, it's not that hard. 315 00:22:03.279 --> 00:22:07.680 And this is also important because I feel like in school everyone, at 316 00:22:07.720 --> 00:22:11.039 least the schools that we went to, everyone was an overachiever. So I 317 00:22:11.119 --> 00:22:15.680 was like, how will I ever possibly stand out at work? Even in 318 00:22:15.799 --> 00:22:21.880 university, Like all these kids I felt like they were really smart and would 319 00:22:21.960 --> 00:22:25.400 you know know all the answers and everyone worked hard and got good grades. 320 00:22:25.480 --> 00:22:29.799 But in the real world I didn't have that experience, at least from my 321 00:22:29.880 --> 00:22:34.720 experience thus far. And I will say also when I have worked with people, 322 00:22:36.039 --> 00:22:37.680 like for my clothing brand, like people just like don't really care that 323 00:22:37.759 --> 00:22:41.480 much about their work, you know. So I think it's a good thing 324 00:22:41.480 --> 00:22:47.480 to recognize that though, because you really can stand out last thing I'll say 325 00:22:47.519 --> 00:22:51.160 is that's a good perspective change. Like I get really frustrated when things aren't 326 00:22:51.160 --> 00:22:53.400 done right, but then I also try to remind myself and people around me 327 00:22:53.480 --> 00:22:59.519 that it just means that you will stand out more like if you're able things 328 00:22:59.559 --> 00:23:03.039 done, yeah, to stand by your work and you know, get things 329 00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:07.319 on time and all the things that you should be doing, then people will 330 00:23:07.319 --> 00:23:10.039 think that you're exceptional even though you're kind of just doing what you're supposed to 331 00:23:10.079 --> 00:23:14.240 do. I notice the same thing when I acted when I was younger. 332 00:23:15.000 --> 00:23:18.240 I would always be told like, oh, you're such a hard worker, 333 00:23:18.359 --> 00:23:22.480 you're so like mature. But I remember thinking, like, I feel like 334 00:23:22.519 --> 00:23:26.839 I'm acting the way that you should when you're at work, even though I 335 00:23:26.880 --> 00:23:29.799 was young and like I was still having fun. I wasn't that mature, 336 00:23:29.880 --> 00:23:34.799 I'm sure. But there are things that like folding the clothes before I gave 337 00:23:34.839 --> 00:23:37.920 them back to the wardrobe department, for example, that I feel like should 338 00:23:37.960 --> 00:23:41.759 be a given. But because that's not something that everyone does, they see 339 00:23:41.759 --> 00:23:47.000 it as you being so nice and so responsible and such a good worker or 340 00:23:47.000 --> 00:23:51.839 whatever. So there are so many opportunities that you can take to stand out 341 00:23:51.920 --> 00:23:56.079 and a lot of that might just be you acting the way that you know 342 00:23:56.160 --> 00:24:00.000 you should, right instead of like taking the easy way out or like following 343 00:24:00.079 --> 00:24:03.279 everyone else's lead. Right. Well, I feel like this list has been 344 00:24:03.359 --> 00:24:07.759 very intertwined, like all of these things relate to each other. So I 345 00:24:07.799 --> 00:24:10.359 guess that's a good thing. Except for the pickles. That was a random 346 00:24:10.400 --> 00:24:15.519 one. But I guess it means that it's just everything's making sense. I 347 00:24:15.559 --> 00:24:18.119 love when things you know click into place. So true. But yeah, 348 00:24:18.119 --> 00:24:22.240 that is twenty six things, no. Nine things I learned at twenty six. 349 00:24:23.880 --> 00:24:26.880 Sorry, twenty six is just too many, But yeah, I think 350 00:24:26.920 --> 00:24:32.240 we stopped doing the right number, like twenty five a few years ago, 351 00:24:32.519 --> 00:24:36.839 because that makes sense. I'm actually trying to think of twenty six things that 352 00:24:36.880 --> 00:24:40.200 you learned in one year. I just was thinking, you know, quality 353 00:24:40.240 --> 00:24:42.279 over quantity. Yeah, I couldn't make up some random ones more than two 354 00:24:42.279 --> 00:24:45.720 a month. I don't learned that much. Yeah. Well, I hope 355 00:24:45.759 --> 00:24:49.759 you guys enjoyed this one. If you liked it, leave a review on 356 00:24:49.799 --> 00:24:56.200 Apple Podcasts and Spotify. We will be on those platforms only going forward, 357 00:24:56.240 --> 00:25:00.640 with no video because long's going back to school. So hope you enjoyed watching 358 00:25:00.720 --> 00:25:02.839 us on YouTube. Maybe we'll come back in the summer, you know, 359 00:25:03.480 --> 00:25:07.880 see how it goes. But but yeah, that's it for this week's episode. 360 00:25:07.359 --> 00:25:15.599 We'll talk to you next Friday. Bye.