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You're listening to KFI AM six forty
on demand. Welcome to the Doctor Wendy

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Wall Show. I'm KFI AM six
forty. We live everywhere on the iHeartRadio

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app if you're new to my show. I have a PhD in clinical psychology.

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I'm not a therapist. I'm a
psychology professor, and I'm obsessed with

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the science of love because I really
believe we are all put on this planet

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to reproduce. And it doesn't matter
how rich you become or how well lined

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your cave is with furs. If
you can't find a mate and keep a

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mate long enough to reproduce, then
your genes are going to fall out of

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evolution's chain. That's just the cold, hard truth, all right. But

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also, we know that committed,
long term relationships are good for our health.

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They're good for our mental health,
they're good for our physical health.

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We know that long term committed people
live forever forever. No, they love

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never dies, they live longer,
and they have better at physical and mental

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health along the way. Now that
doesn't mean that I don't have some kind

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of understanding of the fact that we
also have the widest range of sexual behavior

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of any primeate out there, and
we also have the widest range of paternal

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investment. That means one guy's contribution
to his kids might be a teaspoon of

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sperm and that's about the best he
can do. And at the other end

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of the scale, you might have
a guy who's a carpool driving, softball

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throwing, baby wearing, doting daddy, and it's up to women to choose

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wisely because you know what. He
may be cute on that date, but

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at the end of the day,
do you want more than his genes then

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find out. And I'm not talking
about his Levi's you know, I'm talking

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about the whole package, his contribution
to your life. That's why I'm obsessed

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with it. And also, if
you're new to my show, you may

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not know that I spent you know, I'm going to say it, like

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twenty years dating bad boys and inappropriate
people. And it was only once I

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got into therapy later that I learned
that there was a common denominator in every

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one of my relationships, and it
was me. I was choosing them,

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I was putting up with them.
My therapist used to say to me,

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you're a very tolerant person. Tolerant
that's what I am, and then I

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learned to choose well. And now
of course I'm in love with my Julio,

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and all is going well for many
of you. We are heading into

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Thanksgiving week. Who producer, Kayla? Where are you going to be on

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Thanksgiving? Me and my family actually
are doing our first destination Thanksgiving and we

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weren today Airbnb a huge house.
All thirty of us are going to be

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cooking and spending the day together and
it's going to be amazing. So you

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have how many siblings? Again?
I am the youngest of five? Oh,

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and they're all going to be there
of course. Oh there are significant

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others and their children, and it
sounds like more fun than mine. What

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are you doing? No? I
actually go to my best friend Maria's house

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and her husband Scott, and they
you know, she has two sisters.

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One hosts a big time Molly party
you hear me talking about every year in

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December. Her other sister does Christmas. So Maria's holiday is Thanksgiving and she

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does it up in a big way. And this year they are supposed to

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be like thirty people there. So
the only family member that I have in

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town right now is my sweet twenty
year old Jones and of course my Julio,

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so we will be there. My
oldest daughter lives in Paris. Now,

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Oh, I cannot believe I have
not seen my baby for almost a

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full calendar year. My heart.
Someone once said to me, when a

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baby is born, it is like
they take a piece of the mother's heart

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and they put legs on it.
And I'm like, oh, what a

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thought. So I'm looking forward to
Christmas in Canada, where I will well,

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we will all come together. But
Thanksgiving, what I'm gonna do is

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bring my grandmother's favorite root vegetable dish, which is mashed turnips, parsnips,

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and carrots. So it's a tricolor
mash with lots of butter. Of course

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that's my thing. Now, you
and he's all your siblings. Do you

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all get along? Are there any
gonna be issues at this Thanksgiving table?

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Of course not. We have all
matching tattoos, we have each other's names,

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tatty. We are the best of
friends. It's all love in my

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family. Oh, you're so lucky. Well, you're lucky. I'm lucky.

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Not everybody who's listening is lucky.
Sometimes when it comes to family holidays,

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there is a level of anxiety that
starts to rise. I always say,

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when you get to the holiday table, no matter how old you are,

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you all become twelve years old again, like your body remembers what it

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was like. Look, I came
from a relatively healthy family, and I've

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had some holidays where my little brother
Andy has blown up and yelled at me.

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Some things just trigger people from their
childhood. Right. So I have

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a few tips for you if you
come from one of those families where there

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was perhaps some trauma or dysfunction and
you want to be able to get through

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Thanksgiving in a rel without you know, more reinjury. I've got this to

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say. First of all, you
control you. You control your time.

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You control how much people are able
to take advantage of you or not.

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So the first word is boundaries.
Yeah, that b word, boundaries,

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and the boundaries can be on your
time. It's okay to say, you

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know what, I maybe traveling to
your place, but I'm not going to

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stay at your house. We're going
to get an airbnb. And you don't

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to say it angrily, just say
no, we prefer an airbnb. We're

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good, right, Keep it light. You can have boundaries on your time,

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like what time's dinner. Great,
we'll get there thirty minutes before and

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then you can leave when the dinner's
over. There's no rule. No one's

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forcing you to be there from morning
till night. You know how much you

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can take, and you know you
also you can have boundaries on your labor

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if somebody expects you because you're the
family member who always does it to cook

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absolutely everything and you're exhausted at the
end of the holiday. You can start

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assigning things to people now, especially
a cleanup crew. And yes it's okay.

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I mean it's hard to get them
on Thanksgiving and you pay a little

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more, but don't if you can
afford it. You can even take up

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contributions to hire someone to help you
with the cleanup. It's all possible,

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right, But I want you to
think about your own mental health going into

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it, and think about what you
can do to reduce the chance that someone

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is going to trigger you on this
holiday weekend, because at the end of

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the day, you know those people, as much as you might have a

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few bad memories, are also you. They're part of your identity. They're

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who you are, and coming back
together is a way for you to feel

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whole in many ways, So I
encourage you to go anyway, even if

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you don't want to go. Put
limits on your time and limits on subject

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matter. Like you might just say
to yourself, I am not going to

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take the bait. If they start
to talk about politics or sex or you

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know, gender not I'm not going
to go there. So just don't just

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change the subject. Learn how to
smile and nod and say pass the salt.

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You don't have to get upset.
You can control it. I hope

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you have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Hey, you know, it's not only Thanksgiving

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and holidays that can cause a little
bit of problems for some people and their

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mental health. I don't know about
you, but I've been watching the news

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a lot lately, and I'm really
starting it's weighing on me. I'll just

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say that it's weighing on me.
When we come back, let's talk about

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what we can all do to take
care of our mental health while still not

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big avoidant my still following the news
that we need to follow, but practicing

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some self care. When we come
back. You are listening to the Doctor

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Wendy Wall Show on KFI AM six
forty. We're live everywhere on the iHeartRadio

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app. You're listening to KFI AM
six forty on demand. Welcome back to

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the Doctor Wendy Wall Show on KFI
AM six forty. We're live everywhere on

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the iHeartRadio app. You know,
the other day I was driving on my

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teach at cal State Channel Islands,
and I drive along the one oh one

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and I like to put on,
you know, any news that I possibly

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can, and I listened to a
news story where the reporter went down in

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the tunnels below a hospital and gaza, you know, found things like ammunition

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and guns, and found a chair
and a rope, and it looked like

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maybe a prisoner had been tied there, and there was some women's clothes.

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And I was driving home and I
was feeling so stressed about this story,

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but you know, I was actually
listening to the audio version of a television

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broadcast. So you know what I
did. I get home and I go

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and turn on that channel so I
can see the video and the pictures,

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just like double injuring myself with my
stress. And you know, what's going

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on with Israel and the Palestinians.
This war is obviously heartbreaking, stressful,

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but it seems to have replaced my
doom scrolling of the Ukrainian War. I

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mean, I was following teenagers down
in bomb shelters in the Ukraine for a

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long time before that. I realized
that so much of this was impacting my

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mental health, partly because I'm somebody
who has a great deal of empathy,

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right, and I feel other people's
pain easily. But then if you're like

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me, then you can't, like
stop watching. It makes you kind of

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addictive. And remember, news organizations
want you to do that, right,

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because they gotta wrap something around those
commercials, and you'll stay glued if you're

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feeling afraid. And it's really funny
the things that trigger me. So I

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my mother had a big collection of
silverware, for instance, and she had

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collected it as a young single woman
with her hardworking money, and she was

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a career girl in the nineteen fifties. And then when she passed away,

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my dad, you know, held
up this chest of silverware and said this

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is for you. Now we pass
it on, et cetera. And years

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and years and years later, decades
later, I was actually in Poland and

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I was touring Auschwitz. I know, I didn't tell you this is going

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to be a sunshine and flower segment
just got to say, and I was

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able. I was controlling myself,
my empathy. I was doing okay.

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I was getting through it. I
hadn't broken down yet. I mean I

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was feeling stuff inside my body,
but I wasn't showing it outwardly. And

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then we go into the room where
it's all the treasures that the Nazis took

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from the people before they killed them, right, and there's a beautiful set

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of silverware in the chest, just
like my mother's, and I just started

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sobbing. I was sobbing. I
couldn't take it. So it's funny like

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the things that key into us are
the stuff that we might might really resonate

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with us because of our own life
growing up. I was looking at the

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news the other night and there was
a video of or maybe I was reading

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it in the newspaper. I was
still shot. I think of some Palestinian

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children who have been moved from the
north to the south, and they were

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sitting in a very dirty warzone area
outside and they were playing a game of

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cards, and one of them was
laughing as he laid down the card,

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and all of a sudden, I
was just thrown back to my childhood,

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when we used to play Crazy Eights
over and over and over, and I

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was just like, what would it
be like if there were war around me?

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And I was a child and anyway, So then I go down that

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rapids hole of sorrow and maybe you
do it too. I want us to

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stay informed. Obviously. We need
to be an informed populist because we need

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a voice, and our voice is
our vote, of course, so we

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need to know the issues. We
need to understand what's happening internationally on all

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sides. Yeah. I also saw
some Jewish parents whose son is one of

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the hostages. They've been on Anderson
Cooper a lot. I don't know if

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you've seen them, but all I
could think is like, their son is

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the age of my daughter. And
I was just like, ugh, I

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was, okay, I'm going down
the rabbits all again. You see,

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I suffer from this. It just
stays with me. So here's some advice

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for you that I've been trying to
follow myself. Hopefully we can do it

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together. First of all, only
pick like two reliable sources of news for

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yourself. Hopefully it's not the far
right or the far left. Hopefully it's

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something in between. KFI is a
good one, but something that where you're

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just following two basic stories, you're
not hearing the same story over and over

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from six different news sources, because
then that repetition just drills into your head.

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Also, we all need to set
a time limit for ourselves. I

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made the mistake of listening to that
whole news story during my drive home from

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work, and when I got home, I should have put on some light

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jazz, lit a candle, set
of prayer and just started cooking, but

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no, I rushed to the TV
because I wanted to see the video of

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it. Right, So set a
time frame, like I'll, you know,

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read a newspaper for a few minutes
in the morning, I'll watch for

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thirty minutes at night. Honestly,
most of these news organizations just repeat themselves

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over and over. You don't need
a whole lot more than that. There

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is research to show that audio is
better than pictures. I just want to

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say, Okay, it's not because
I'm a little bit partial, but audio

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is better than pictures. I mean, when you see the graphic pictures at

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the same time, it is often
too much. And two things I don't

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want to have happened to us I
don't want us to get cold and callous

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so that we actually disassociate from it. I want those pictures to have real

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meaning to us. And the second
thing they do if you're not used to

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it, so they can cause more
problems. And finally, pay attention to

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your body. What happens to your
heart rate when you're watching the news,

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what happens to your breathing, the
muscles on your neck and shoulders. If

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you're having a physiological reaction, then
you need to do something to counter that.

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For your health, that means get
the stress hormone cortisol out of your

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body. It means go for a
walk, listen to soothing music, go

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for a swim, get on the
phone with people you love and chat and

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laugh. My little trick for fixing
my mental health is always watching comedy.

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I swear there's not a comedy special
on a streamer right now that I haven't

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seen. And the reason why I
know this is because the streamers feed them

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to me when they're brand new,
and I watch them immediately. But that

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is the thing that helps me feel
better. So we have to take care

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of our mental health. We have
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practice self care when you consume things. Okay, so I mentioned earlier I'm

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not a therapist. I'm a psychology
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the science of love for decades and
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i did a dissertation on attachment theory, and I have grown up to

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become a very wise old aunt.
We're going to do a new thing when

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we come back, which is I'm
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you like to send me a DM. The handle everywhere is at doctor Wendy

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Walsh's at Dr Wendy Walsh. Send
me a DM with your relationship question.

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of your relationship questions because, as
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if you've got that question, I
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it needs to be answered. When
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on the iHeartRadio app. Okay,
this is the time of the show where

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I answer your relationship questions. I
like to call it my drive bab makeshift

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relationship advice. I love it when
people ask me questions about their love life.

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They come up to me at social
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my students. Now, the thing
about the students have to have boundaries.

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You see, You're not allowed to
have a dual relationship with students. So

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when they do come up ready to
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you're not my student anymore. I've
got tea and cookies in my office.

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You can come meet me after that. But anyway, I love it when

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people ask me questions because I have
this knowledge, and let me explain about

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my knowledge. So I spent twenty
years dating bad boys. Then I went

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to therapy on and off for eighteen
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in PhD. And my area of
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psychology class I would sit in,
I would literally say to myself, Oh

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my god, they should not save
this information just for therapists to dole out

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at one hundred and fifty dollars an
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a fifty minute hour. That's crazy. And I was all, like,

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everyone should know this. I want
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I have made a career in the
last decade of taking my journalistic skills and

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taking sometimes complicated psychobabble and turning it
into language everybody can understand. So I'm

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happy to weigh in and share all
that book learning that I got. All

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of my social media Mostly we're checking
where do we check Kayla, we check

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TikTok, we check Instagram, check
any questions on YouTube? Maybe the above

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all of the aboves so that the
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Wendy Walsh. Oh oh, We're
starting out with a heartbreak first one,

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Dear doctor Wendy, how long does
it hurt for? How can someone say

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you're the greatest love of their life? How can we plan our one year

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trip? And days later he tells
me we're not compatible. Hugh knife through

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the heart. Well. I can't
predict how long it will hurt for,

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but I will tell you this that
feelings are messengers and during this time and

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you should take some time to grieve. During this time of grieving the loss,

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you can spend some time thinking about, you know, what went wrong,

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what you could have done differently.
I'm going to caution you because I

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used to do this a lot myself. Try not to spend too much time

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trying to analyze him, because I
know you want the answer to the word

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why, Why? Why did he
do this? What's wrong with me?

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Why didn't he love me enough?
Right? This is what we think,

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but I want you to think instead, Wow, I got saved from a

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major crash. This is the kind
of dude who would leave you at the

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altar. This is the kind of
dude who would break up with you when

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you're pregnant. This is the kind
of dude who you know would divorce you

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when you have three kids. This
is somebody who cannot keep their word and

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they're not right for you. And
you were saved. You were saved from

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years of pain. I also highly
suggest that you go see a licensed therapist

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because, as my therapist used to
say to me, there's fertile ground in

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those tears. Right when we're hurting
the most is the great time to be

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authentic and vulnerable and working with a
therapist, dig into an earlier pain,

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write an earlier pain in our life, in our childhood, because always there

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are features of that that are left
over. So I'm sorry you're hurting.

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I will say this. If it
hurts for longer than a year, you're

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now into complicated grieving and you definitely
need mental health services. Okay, but

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you know, take a few months
cry, get back on that horse and

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ride it. Find somebody new,
surround yourself by people who love you,

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your family, your girlfriends, your
coworkers. Let your brain be reminded that

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you are a good person and you
deserve love. But try not to fall

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down that rabbit hole of analyzing him, because it doesn't matter. You are

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saved from him, all right.
Moving along, dear doctor Wendy, in

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the if the first three months of
dating a man are lackluster, is it

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likely that it will just get progressively
worse thereafter? Have you experienced the opposite,

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where the first three months were just
okay, and it got better and

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better as time went on. In
a word, no, if it's listen,

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the when you're gonna have the most
rush of those neuro hormones that trick

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your brain into thinking that this person's
perfect and you're in love and everything's great,

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is at the very beginning. They
don't ignite suddenly later. So I

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won't say that after three months it's
going to get progressively worse, but it's

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gonna stay about the same, right, So, if you're not into this

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guy, don't waste his time,
let him go, don't be in love

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with hope that he will change or
the relationship will change. Move on.

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I want to remind every person out
there who's single that there are plenty of

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fish in the sea. We get
so caught up on this one, like

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I want to make this one work
or I want to get this one back

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after they hurt me. No,
no, no, it's not the last

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man standing. Trust me. There
are plenty more. And because of dating

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apps, you can see there are
thousands more available to you right now.

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So if it's just okay, you're
gonna have a conversation with this dude,

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you're gonna say you like him,
you get along with him, you want

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to only be friends, or you
want to move along. Okay, just

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be honest, I will say that. All right, here we go.

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Here's another one. Oh my,
my, my, my, Dear Doctor

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Wendy, how would you feel if
the man you're dating said you have fat

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girl personality? Wait what? And
she goes on for context. He said

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it because he was talking about how
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me because I'm so good looking and
must have a lot of men trying to

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pursue me. But to his surprise, I'm nice and have fat girl personality.

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I was super confused, and I
don't know how to feel about that

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comment for multiple reasons. Well,
I'm gonna tell you how you should feel.

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I know usually not about should,
but I'll tell you probably what you

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are feeling when we come back.
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on ki AM six forty. Were
live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. You're

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listening to KFI AM six forty on
demand. Welcome back to the Doctor Wendy

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Wall Show on KFI AM six forty. I am answering your social media questions

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my favorite thing to do. All
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woman wrote to me and she said, how would you feel if the man

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you are dating said you have fat
girl personality. Now, to put it

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into context, he was actually saying
she was good looking because he was intimidated

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by her at first, and that
apparently, since she had such a nice

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personality, it reminded him of something
he calls fat girl personality. Okay,

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so you're confused about how to feel. I'll tell you how you should feel

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confused. And the reason why you
should feel confused is because he was giving

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you a backhanded compliment. He was
basically saying, I actually think you are

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beautiful, smart, accessible, beautiful
on the inside too, and I'm grateful

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for that. But at the same
time, I objectify women and I judge

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them by their body types. That's
what he's saying to you. So I

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think what you need to do and
don't just dump them. Let's explore.

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Okay, take a minute to explore. You're gonna say to him, Hey,

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you know that comment you made that
you said I have a fat girl

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personality. You know it's really been
staying with me because it really bothered me.

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I worry about a couple things.
One is, do you just judge

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women on what they look like?
And do you have prejudice against people who

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have extra body weight. And also, what if down the road we got

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married and I got pregnant and I
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how would you feel about me?
I mean that was really hard to hear.

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Can you help me understand what you
meant? And then let him go

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hang himself? I mean not literally, I mean you give him enough rope,

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let him talk and see what you
hear. Okay, if he says

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something stupid like well, it's just
been my experience if fat girls have to

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try harder and be nicer, then
you just hang up the phone and disappear.

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Never talk to him again, because
you're gonna have a hard life with

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this guy. If he says something, you know, you're absolutely right.

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I stand corrected. That was a
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bad that I said it. I'm
glad you brought it up. Well,

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then you give him a nine chance, all right, because maybe he's learning

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and growing and you could have a
good relationship. That's my take on it.

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Okay, moving right along into my
dms on Instagram, the handle everywhere

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is at doctor Wendy Walsh at dr
Wendy Walsh. Okay, dear doctor Wendy,

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have you ever stopped talking to someone
because their expenses were high compared to

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what they make? H the plot
thickens. A guy I'm dating doesn't make

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financially sound decisions, so you're pretty
sure he's going into date. He doesn't

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a debt, he doesn't have like
a secret stash somewhere. That's really the

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question is to find out what's going
on. Clearly, you two have different

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psychologies of money, and there's actually
some research to show that when couples get

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together if they do have differing,
sometimes differing psychologies of money, it can

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actually be good for them. And
here's why hear me out. So if

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you're like a saver and he's a
spender, he can help pull you out

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of your shell more and allow you
to feel less guilt about splurging a little

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bit once in a while. And
also if he's a big spender, you

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can pull him back in. But
the question is can you do you guys

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have open communication? Are you able
to influence each other? I don't know

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how long you've been dating him,
but you need to ask him this question,

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Like it feels like you're spending a
lot more money than you make,

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and I'm wondering if you're going into
debt to impress me or ifs this regular,

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like just bring it up, like, just Kaylen, you are laughing

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at me. That's just a very
blunt thing to say to somebody. I

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think you're spending more money than you
make. That's how about saying something like,

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you know, here's my communication sandwich
right, starts out with something nice

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and then a little bit something hard
to chew on, and then backed up

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with another. You start off by
saying, you know, I am so

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enjoying all these fabulous, expensive dates, but I'm also getting a little worried.

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I hope you're not overspending for my
behalf because I'm very conservative with my

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spending because if we continue down the
road, I want to make sure as

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a couple, we don't ever get
into big debt. Something like that.

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Oh I would receive that so well, you would do that better? Yeah

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that was better. Yeah that was
much better, instead of have you maxed

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out your credit cards? Dude?
Are you broken in? Financially illiterate?

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All right, let's see one more. Uh, Dear doctor Wendy never been

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asked to be official with this guy, However, I've been seeing him since

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April and he tells people I am
his girl. What does my girl mean?

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Well, why don't you ask him? First of all, you've been

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dating since April. Let me count
that out May, June, July,

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August, September, October, November. Seven months and you haven't had the

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what are we are we exclusive?
Conversation? You are late, lady Jane.

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First of all, men do not
volunteer to have that conversation. It's

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always the women that lead into that
one. You got to bring that horse

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to water. So you need to
say to him, I think again,

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just ask for definition, Like,
hey, first of all, do you

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like it or not like it?
When he says that, that's the important

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thing. If you don't like it, say hey, why you keep calling

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me your girl? I'm not an
object. You don't own me, Okay,

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you don't possess me. You could
say that, or you could say,

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hey, I notice you're referring to
me as your girl. Does that

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mean we're exclusive? Or what's our
definition here? You know, to find

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a way to ask, or you
just say next time he says to people,

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hey, here's my girl, say
yeah, and he's my guy.

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Just see how he responds. You
know, when I wrote the book The

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Boyfriend Test in the ninety day probation
Test, because it's about ninety days when

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you should ask that question or have
the conversation about what the what are we

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conversation? I said, the way
to do it is, don't ask.

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Just introduce him as your boyfriend to
somebody and see if he flinches, you

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know, just see how his reaction
is, and then you'll know. Right

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then you'll know. Okay, when
we come back, I have a very

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special guest, and I know he's
out there in the waiting room. I

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caught a glimpse of him. You
might want to go online and check him

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out yourself. His name is Sterling
Cooper. He's got a big YouTube following,

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and someone told me I had to
have him on my show because he's

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a former porn actor and a high
end escort for wealthy women. But wait,

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he also participates in cut holding.
Oh oh, it's a lot to

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explain, and I'm gonna have to
ask him all about it. But mainly

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his business now is he helps men
become better lovers. Apparently he knows all

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about women's bodies. Let's find out. When we come back and you meet

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Sterling Cooper, you are listening to
the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show on KFI AM

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