Hi everyone, Welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia Gogin,
the host of the Globe Sucress podcast, where I help you expand your
mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into the best
version of yourself. Hi. Hello, how are we doing another day?
Another freaking dollar? I said that in last week's episode. I don't know
why it's just looping in my brain, but it is, and we're gonna
go with it. I have been feeling so productive lately. Now I will
attribute to the energy and the productivity to my ovulation phase because that's where I'm
in in my cycle right now. So God bless a good ovulation phase where
it gives you the most energy. Like, honestly, if you don't know
about your cycle as a woman, you should definitely go watch out of my
videos on cycle sinking. But I have been super inspired. I think you
know what it is, mainly outside of like the ovulation phase, because like
right now, I have a lot of energy and I'm just getting things done.
Like right now, I'm recording this episode waite earlier than I thought.
I've been super on my videos. I have like two three in the backlog
where you to go. For you guys, I am so on it and
I'm very in my organization planning mode. But I will say I'm very very
inspired because slowly summer is coming to an end, and naturally I'm just thinking
about the fall in the winter, I'm thinking about the content that I be
creating for you guys. I want to come up with this little series that
I have for my YouTube channel. I have been focusing I think I've said
this multiple times, but I've been focusing on furnishing more of my condo now
that I feel like I'm not living this like Hawkgrol summer, not like I
was actually living a Hawkgrol summer. By the way, it wasn't hot,
it was healed, but I just felt like I wasn't really I wasn't prioritizing
getting any new like furniture or a rug that I need or you guys know
this freaking studio. But listen, okay, listen. I have found the
chair I want to get. I just now need to decide on the color,
and so that's going to take me damn near probably three weeks to figure
out. But I am going to push myself. But the chair that I'm
looking at is called the Togo bean bag chair. I will be getting a
replica. I am not going to be dropping damn near five k on that
chair. So I'll let you guys know. We'll keep it, we'll keep
it updated. But I've been thinking that I want to like redo this room.
And by the way, if you're listening to Spotify and Apple, I
do have my YouTube channels, so if you're wondering, like why i'd be
talking about this, because you could see me if you wanted to on YouTube.
But I've been thinking about revamping this whole entire room, Like I want
to get a carpet. I'm gonna do the bean bag chair, which means
I'll be filming lower It's gonna be a whole production. But with that said,
I have been very motivated and I have a lot of goals. So
when you have a lot of goals, and this is something that I've actually
been really feeling, not thinking, well, I guess thinking, but feeling.
For the past few weeks, I've been having so many goals and not
even necessarily goals, but I have a lot of projects and things that I
need to work on, to the point where it's forcing me to really make
more plans and be very strategic with my time and to like, you know,
lately, I've been really really good with my sleep routine and staying off
my phone and doing the things that I need to and having more deadlines for
myself so I can get things done quicker. Like I've been really in my
masculine energy. I'm trying to get shit done and it's feeling really good.
Like I'm getting so much done, and I figured, like, why not
give you guys some tips that I've been implementing that I think is really good.
And you know what, like, let's talk about this for a second
before we even get into the tips. So sometimes when we don't have a
lot of goals or like action plans, we're just kind of flowing through life
and just chilling and just being. That you could say is more you being
in your feminine energy, and it's not a bad thing to be in at
all. It's actually very healing. A lot of people aren't have never even
resided in that feminine flow, just you know, listening to your intuition,
more letting out your emotions and just relaxing and being in the present. And
both men and women can do this by the way too, and just like
not taking things so seriously and not trying to hyperfixate and perfect every single action
and you take throughout your day this that it's great, but sometimes you need
to add a little bit more masculine energy within your life, especially when you
want to hit goals, because your goals do you require you to kind of
take more of that linear stance one step here and then the other above and
the other above. So you need to kind of think a little bit more
strategically, and you need to have a focus. And I was listening to
a podcast and I was talking about this in the video I posted today.
Actually, well when you see this, it won't be today, but I
was talking about how not to feel lonely while building your dream life. Really
good tips if you need a little bit of advice if you feel a little
lonely on your journey, which I think a lot of people do on a
self development journey. But I was talking or sorry, I listened to a
podcast from The Skinny Confidential, which I freaking love that podcast. And if
you didn't know, it's a couple like they're married, who have this podcast.
So there's Lauren everts Well her last name is Bostick now and Michael Bostick,
So there's a male and a female, so I love both their perspectives
on things. But they were talking about like five business mistakes that they made
that they I don't know, they're just like giving advice on like mistakes not
to make. And they're talking about how, you know, when you're young,
really do the most that you can when you are trying to hit goals,
like if you want to be extraordinary, if you want to have the
dream life that you say that you have, like it is going to require
you to do work and to take that action. And even Michael was saying,
like, you know, on the weekends where you could chill with your
friends, maybe some of those weekends you're going to take to work on your
side hustle or your business, especially if you don't know what you're wanting to
do in your life. And then Lauren was talking about how she agreed,
but she was also saying, like she's talking about the soft life era and
how you know there's this whole movement of like quiet quitting and just wanting to
chill and relax, and she was like, I try and be gentle with
myself, like I totally give myself time to relax and be more in that
feminine energy. She didn't say that, but that's basically what she means.
But you know, I still have goals and they require me to take action.
And I think the same thing too. It's so important that we don't
burn ourselves out and we're not in this hustle, hustle hustle culture because a
lot of the times you just push past your capabilities anyways, and then you
end up, you know, prolonging your process and a lot of ways when
it comes to hitting goals because you're so burnt out, or because you're so
not aligned to where you're actually technically kind of supposed to be in your life.
But I digress. I say that because you know there's gonna be a
time and place where it's important for you to channel more of the mask and
the energy and to kind of hustle in a way. Now we can learn
how to work smarter or not harder and not really burn ourselves out. But
you know, like the soft life, and I've talked about this a lot
of the times, Like the soft life is so important and it's so healing,
and it's essentially you in your feminine energy and not taking life super seriously
and always trying to perfect and plan. I've already said this before, but
again, if we want to have this life, then it is going to
require us to take some action. And what helps us take action is to
set things in place within our day to allow us to be basically more productive
so that we can get the task done quicker, more efficiently, so we
don't burn ourselves out things like that. And so with that said, I've
had so many things that it's basically forced me to continue to learn how to
be a little bit more productive, more efficient, and I want to share
some tips with you guys. So this episode is really going to be for
the ones where the season of your life is to channel more of the masculine
energy. Maybe if you feel like this is just too much or too hard
or too strict, most likely you probably need a little bit more of that
feminine energy. Like maybe there's too many things on your plate where you're like,
I can't even add anymore any more productivity? Are freaking tips or trips
or whatever? Like I have been there, and honestly, like that's kind
of how I've been this summer. I've been really in the flow of things.
I've been creating content based off of what I'm going through in my life.
I wasn't pre planning a lot of things, and I really enjoyed that
period of my life, like it really allowed me to just be in the
present and live my life and also experience things so that I can share for
you guys. But now, naturally, as the seasons are changing, I
can just energetically feel the need to add a little bit more masculine structure.
And I think another thing is like, if you're feeling a little bit overwhelmed
lots of anxiety with your life, sometimes that can be a result. Well,
obviously there's a million reasons why we have anxiety, and I have a
lot of episodes on managing anxiety and stress. But sometimes it's because we actually
don't have any focus or goals or clear vision for our lives. When we
don't have a clear vision and we feel very lost, there's a lot of
anxiety that can come from that, like what am I even doing? Where
am I even going right? So if you don't know that is the first
step is to create a vision for yourself. Now, for me personally,
I have a very very very clear vision for my life now, I definitely
always have to adjust it throughout the seasons, Like even now thinking about fall
and winter. There's just going to be things where I need to kind of
look back on my vision and adjust it and see where I'm going. But
for the most part, I do have a pretty long term vision. But
it will help you in this process that you are feeling a little bit chaotic
to have some sort of vision, so sitting down and looking at the light
that you want to live or the things that you want to accomplish. Like
for me, and this is kind of what has called me to move into
the masculine a little bit more. Is my book. So I've finished writing
my book, but of course I have editors, and so right now we're
going through all the edits and we're restructuring things, and we're doing a bunch
of stuff, and it's getting close to the time that we need to submit
the manuscript and then we go to press, and then we do marketing and
we do all that kind of stuff. So now like there is no more
room for me to kind of be in the feminine. I have to set
a deadline and I have to have things in place in my life in order
for me to get that done. Another thing for me is I'm thinking about
fall content, and honestly, fall comes and goes very very quickly. So
now that we are approaching fall, I really need to move into the masculine
and sit down and have a vision of like what types of videos do I
want to bring to my audience, what topics do I want to talk about,
what would make sense for that season of life for my audience, so
that you guys can actually get some help throughout each season. You guys know
I'm here for you every season, so you know, really getting clear of
what you want, and of course you could even go bigger than that,
like obviously have certain goals financially and just things that I can see myself doing
next year. But getting clear with the vision that you hold for yourself,
what you want to accomplish, who want to be that will really help you
be able to actually take steps towards what it is that you want, because
I think a lot of people kind of even struggle with taking action in their
life or being productive because they don't know even where to start or like why
they're starting. And I know we have a lot of goals for ourselves,
so I would honestly say, if you have so many that you can't even
pick, just focus on like the next three months. So this is what
I'll say, like focus on the next quarter. So we have essentially almost
one quarter left of the year October, November, December. Obviously we're still
in August and then we have September. But like the next quarter, that's
where I'm really planning, like all of my content, any of my goals,
things that I need to launch, whatever it is, and also make
it fun. By the way, this is something that I think I'm going
to make a video on. We'll actually I know that I'm gonna make a
video on this how to prepare for fall. I did a video on how
to change your identity for the summer and it did really well. You guys
liked it. And I created a template and I just talked about, you
know, structuring the vision that you hold for yourself. So that is definitely
going to be coming. But if you want to do this now, of
course, like sitting down, going on notion, going on canva, creating
a mood board, like how do you want the next three four months of
your life to look? Get clear? Now, I think a lot of
people struggle with being productive because they have never actually evaluated where they spend their
time. I feel like there has been so many times where I feel like,
no matter how much time I have in the day, there is just
not enough. And then I will sit here and I will honestly think about
what it is that I did this day or the day that I feel like
times just like not enough time, and I realize, like, I've done
like maybe three things, And then I realized that I could have done those
three things in a shorter time frame, or I actually could have done a
lot quicker and I didn't. So taking a second to really think about how
much time you spend doing the things that you say you need to do,
like working towards your goals, but also things that have nothing to do with
your goals. So even if you think about the gym, how long are
you take at the gym? Are you wasting a lot of time just standing
around and talking to people and switching music a thousand times and not having a
plan, which usually that's what happened. Sometimes people are like, they don't
go in with the plan, so then they go in there and they're like,
oh, maybe I'll go in the StairMaster because this is free. Oh
maybe I'll do waits over here. And then like you get home and you
do everything else, and at the end of the day you're like, oh
my gosh, you didn't have enough time to do this that in the third
But it's also like what you did at the gym could have actually taken thirty
minutes, but you took another hour to do it because you didn't even have
a plan. Or let's say in the morning, you like to have your
slow mornings. You're relaxing mornings, which is amazing. You can have that.
That's good. But something that I was realizing was like, Okay,
I'm spending an hour. I'm giving myself an hour to have like a slow
morning, let's say, But within that hour, I'm not even doing much.
Like it doesn't take an hour to drink a coffee. It shouldn't take
an hour for me to sit and scroll on Pinterest because I don't even want
to be scrolling on Pinterest for an hour. It doesn't take me an hour
to journal, So why is it that I'm giving myself an hour here for
this slow morning routine when I really could do things in a smaller frame and
I want to be clear here. This is not to just be a tyrant
on ourselves and to take all the joy and the fun out of everything,
but it's simply to evaluate how much time you're wasting and also how much time
are you telling yourself that you need to get a task done. And this
is going to lead into the third thing, which is if you want to
be more productive, you are going to have to have some more time frames
and deadlines. Because this is the thing. If we do not have a
timeline, we will take as long as we give ourselves. So if you
tell yourself tonight, I'm going to go home and I'm going to deep clean
my place until I go to sleep, until it gets dark, until I
get tired, you are going to spend three to four hours doing these mundane
tasks and trying to get your ear place clean. You might finish it,
or maybe you won't, but you might finish it. But the thing is,
if you were to act, tell yourself, Okay, when I get
home, I'm going to deep clean my place and I'm going to get it
done in an hour. Most likely if you're actually setting realistic goals, and
we can talk about that, but most likely you would actually get your place
cleaned in an hour because you gave yourself that deadline. And this happens all
the time. It happens in school all the time. I used to always
do this in school. I would literally just wait until the last minute until
I actually got that deadline in and that really showed me that I could actually
get something done in such a short amount of time. And also, I
am not promoting you wait to the last minute, because that affects the quality
of your work as well obviously, but it really goes to show you,
like you actually could get so much work done in a small amount of time.
I think you can even think about this when it comes to nine to
fives. I think when a lot of us moved to working from home,
we realized just how much time we waste at work not actually doing anything.
And that's how I work as well. Like you know, I don't have
an eight hour work day because I can get my work done in such smaller
frames of time if I'm actually focused and I actually give myself that deadline,
that framework. So whatever goals that you have in mind, give yourself a
framework and make sure that it's realistic. Yes, but you know, have
some sort of end date if you just say, like, oh, I
want to start my YouTube channel this year, or like I want to start
my YouTube channel this fall. When what day? And like how many videos
are you going to post within the fall? And then you know, oh
you want to start vlog, Miss okay, what day are you going to
be planning it? And like how long are you going to give yourself each
day to record the video? Like you need to have a plan, but
you also need to have a time frame. If not, it's going to
be up in the air. And what happens, especially when you're planning,
is things come and go so incredibly quick, and then you're pushing it off
and pushing it off and pushing it off. Another thing to help you be
really productive, and this honestly helps me so much, is you need to
start eliminating distractions. And I think that we don't even realize how much small
little things when we get off of our tracks, really affect our quality of
our work and just the length of getting shit done. And I recognize this
within myself sometimes too, because you know, sometimes let's say, let's say
I'm writing my book and I'm like in a deep flow and then I have
to go to the washroom, and then when I go to the washroom,
I haven't urge to pick up my phone. As soon as I pick up
my phone, I'm adding at least two to five minutes extra on top of
this break that didn't need to happen other than me just going to the washroom
and getting back. Even if it's just like you the simple like oh,
I'll just quickly check my phone, there is going to be something that gets
your attention, and then you're going to click one thing and another, and
then your mind's going to go somewhere and then you're going to be off of
the task that you're doing, and then you're going to naturally just go into
the you know, the dopamine kick that you're in, and then eventually,
yes, you'll come out of it, but then you just wasted five ten
feen minutes and on top of that, you took yourself out of flow.
So it's so important when you are trying to be productive that you eliminate distraction.
So for me personally, like when I am writing, my phone is
on D n D, nobody is messaging me. And then also what I
do is I go on YouTube and I write a story not right, I
type in a one hour or like a two hour study with me. This
is the timeframe thing as well that really helps me. So like let's say
I decided that I want to write for two hours, I'm going to go
on and find music that goes to two hours. So it's done. I'm
writing for two hours and my phone is away. Or simply in the morning,
I keep my phone now outside of my room. I do this because
I can wake up naturally, and I'll usually wake up around like six am
recently, which has been so freaking nice, and it feels so much more
productive. That's another tip I guess. Try to wake up earlier, like
honestly, like thirty minutes earlier. We can talk about sleep. But I
keep my phone out of my room because even when I like my if my
alarm does go off, if you pick up your phone, even if you're
not somebody that's going to scroll for long, even if you scroll for like
that five minutes, that really does something to you. And if you have
goals, and those goals require you to work on your mindset in the morning
by journaling, or for you to just get up and be in sync by
going to the washroom, drinking some water, having a quick pre workout meal,
and then going to your gym. If you start to have these stupid
distractions that get in the way, that is going to prolong you from getting
to where you want to be. So again, this really does come back
to evaluating yourself, not only evaluating where you spend your time, but also
like what are your vices? What do you tend to waste your time on.
Maybe it's not you picking up your phone, but maybe it's you,
like I don't know, constantly going to talk to your roommate every three seconds
or something, or answering your friend when as soon as she texts you versus
waiting to get your task done and then to answer your friend, or maybe
when you're at the gym you recognize that you're just constantly having conversations with people
between each set, or like you're switching your music and you're trying to find
the right song between each set, but that takes you an extra two to
three minutes between each set, and there's taking you longer and longer, Like
you really have to start to eliminate those little things, and they will make
such a big difference because you will stay in that flow. And when you're
in that flow, like that is the productive flow that you want to be
in. That is where you start to get things done. And one thing
that I think that has been so transformative for me because sometimes, like when
we're trying to be productive and get a bunch of things done, we do
sometimes feel like we just don't have enough time. Okay, when I wake
up in the mornings and I don't play anything, like, I don't play
a podcast, it's just meet in silence or I'm working in silence. I
swear working in silence makes you feel like time stops. Like honestly, like
spend a whole day or at least half of your morning one day. Just
try it. If you're somebody who you know you usually watch YouTube videos in
the morning or whatever, Honestly, please try to wake up in the morning
and don't play anything like of course you can go on your phone here and
there like whenever it is that you give yourself that time, but do not
play anything and just recognize how your nervous system feels and how the space and
time literally feels to you. It's insane. I have been doing that,
like especially like a lot lately. And oh my gosh, I feel like
I have so much more time when it's just quiet. When I have quiet
mornings, you know, even when I'm about to do a task as well,
I try not to listen to a video that's gonna like stimulate my brain,
because then my brain is going to think about this idea and that idea.
And it's not to say that I can't do my job, but it
just it makes me more calm, more at ease, and then I feel
like, you know, I'm getting one thing done after the other and I'm
being productive. Another productivity hack that I think is super super helpfu full,
and I do this a lot. And you have to ebb and flow through
this, right because there's going to be some days where just having a silent
morning it's just going to do it for you, or like a silent walk
as you're getting your steps in is going to do it for you. But
on the flip side, there are going to be times where you can habit
stack and habit sacking. For anyone who does not know, it's basically getting
two things done at once. Now, we want to be careful with the
type of things that we are doing because we don't want to ruin the quality
of work or thing that we are doing. Let's say I don't know,
for instance, like actually this is not really habit stacking, but I'll just
mention it anyways. Like sometimes when I am writing, naturally, it's like
okay, let me put on some background coffee shop music and like set the
vibes so it can kind of like flow and like get things done. But
sometimes it's distracting, so I'll just turn off and it will be quiet or
like silent. That's not really habit sacking, but I figured out just say
that. But a habit stack can simply just be instead of you waking up
in the morning and then sitting down on your couch and watching a podcast episode
like the one that you're watching right now, and watching it through the entirety
and then deciding to go get up and go for your walk or get up
and I don't know, make yourself a meal. You would be listening to
that podcast as you're making your meal, or you'd be listening to that podcast
as you're going for your hawkrow walk. Or for me, there are so
many people that hit me up on my phone, like all of my friends,
family followers on Instagram, things like that, and if I were to
just continue to keep answering people all day, I would literally never get anything
done. So sometimes what I like to do is like, if I'm sent
first of all quickly, I'll send voice notes to people so that I save
time texting. That's not really have a stack. But what I'll usually do
is like if I'm going on a walk, I will then decide to listen
to the voice notes that my friends sent me, or I will call my
friends instead of using the time that I'm supposed to be working during the day,
and like stop halfway through and then text and have these conversations with skincare.
I do this all the time, Like, honestly, you have to
think about the most niche, small little things to do throughout your day.
And again, this is not all about like hacking every single part of your
life, like we need to slow down, but there's some things that you
can definitely have a stack. For me personally, when I do my skincare,
I have about like five products that I usually put on my face at
nighttime, depending sometimes I literally just put one thing on done. But when
I do my skincare, I like to put like the serumon and then I'll
let it dry and then I'll put on whatever the next serumon, let it
dry, the I cream, let it sink into my face, whatever.
So that takes a little bit of time. So when I put the first
layer of my skincare on, that's when I will go floss my teeth.
Okay done, next layer on. Now I'm going to brush my teeth.
Okay done. So I've done brushing my teeth and my flossing and then I
finished my skincare versus doing my five steps skincare and standing around and doing nothing
in between as I'm waiting for it to dry and then brush my teeth.
Simple things like that, And honestly, it really is essentially multitasking. But
again, we just want to be aware that we're not taking too much of
the quality of the work or the things that we are doing. Like for
me to go on a brisk walk and for me to talk to my friend
on the phone, like the quality of the conversation is not low just because
I'm walking. But let's say I don't know, like I'm walking in a
very busy, crowded place and there's a lot of people and maybe like some
people are trying to talk to me, but I'm like trying to like get
to a certain place, or maybe I don't know the direction, so I'm
trying to look on my GPS as I'm navigating downtown Toronto and I'm talking to
my friend on the phone. That is where I would say it's probably not
a good opportunity to habit stacked, because now the quality of your conversation is
not really going to be there. So you obviously have to consider things,
but try and look throughout your day, Like if you find yourself just standing
around waiting for your coffee to be made, your French pressing your coffee,
is there something you could do? Like I was gonna say, brush your
teeth, but you should probably just brush your teeth after you do your coffee
or drink your coffee. At least that's what I do. But maybe you're
journaling as you're waiting for your coffee to be done, Like just small little
things like that. Now a few other things that are going to be helpful
for you to be productive, And honestly, these things are even more important
than you trying to time badge by like setting deadlines and getting things done in
a short amount of times. Actually By the way, I don't really think
I talked about the time batching. I mean I talked about the timeframe thing.
But okay, time batching is essentially like you are setting a time that
you're going to do X amount of work, but it's all kind of like
in one sitting. So I will give you a very good example of how
I used to time batch all the time when I was working two jobs.
I was working my corporate job and then I was like serving and bartending.
I had like a very small amount of time for me to do content.
So I wanted to post a YouTube video every single week, and I also
wanted to post a TikTok every single day. So I wasn't able to actually
get on camera once a week and sit down in film or on TikTok to
sit down every single day and to film and then edit and then upload.
So what I would do is I would pick one to two days out of
the week, and I would have all my scripts ready, all of my
ideas, and I would sit down and I would batch film. So I
would film three videos at a time, or I would film five tiktoks for
that whole week, and then I would choose another day where I just edited
everything and I planned everything out and then all I had to do for the
rest of the week was hit post. So that's time batching in a way.
Okay, So, like I was saying, though, you're going to
have to really set your mind and your body up for success though when it
comes to hitting goals and being productive. And this is what I mean,
if you are insanely tired, it is going to be really hard for you
to be productive really at all if your sleep is not on par, if
you are sleeping in, if you are not going to sleep at the proper
times, like, these things are going to impact your energy, which is
going to impact your abilities to make the right decision, which would be to
maybe time batch or to get things done in an hour instead of three hours.
Like, your sleep really does change your neurochemistry and your brain and that
does lead to decision making. So I would honestly say, really focusing on
your sleep schedule can be very, very huge when it comes to being productive.
And what I mean by that is, yes, you want to make
sure that you're getting the proper amount of sleep and making sure that you're going
to sleep at like a decent time, but Also, what you can start
to do is try your best to wake up fifteen minutes early, thirty more
minutes early, or even an hour if you can. Like you don't have
to do a lot, right, but even fifteen minutes extra can save you
not only like a lot of time, but like you can add like one
little thing in So if you're really wanting, if you have a goal to
reprogram the thoughts that you think on a daily basis, because you know that's
bleeding into all areas of your life. It's affecting the way that you manifest
things, it's affecting the things that happen in your life, etc. Okay,
well, one of the things that you've learned that you need to do
is to journal and to do more self concept journaling in the morning. But
you don't really have a lot of time, Well, maybe you are going
to wake up ten minutes early to do that before you go to work.
Small things like that, and seriously, do not underestimate the power of you
waking up fifteen, ten thirty minutes earlier and actually taking that time to do
one little thing. Again, sometimes when we want to be productive and hit
goals, we feel like we need like we need like three extra hours in
the morning or we can't do it. But it's not We don't need to
go to that extreme. You have to first show yourself that's even possible for
you to do one little thing versus you trying to do like a meditation for
an hour and then journal for thirty minutes and all these things. Anyways,
like that's you're shooting too high, Like it doesn't even need to be that
deep. And I think this goes into my next thing, is like you
do have to be realistic with your goals. And I don't mean for you
to tell yourself that you can't achieve certain things in your life. So let's
say you are really wanting to work on a side hustle. You have gotten
your vision and your goal, and you want to take some action towards that
thing, and you also have a nine to five, so you need to
like do some more like deadlines and time batching and things like that. An
unrealistic goal would, most likely, if you've never even done this before,
would be maybe like, okay, three days out of this week, I'm
going to spend four hours on my side hustle after work. Well that might
be a little bit too much you could try, of course, right,
but if you keep feeling then like that's a little bit too much. Instead
just focusing on one day a week, you're going to do the four hours
of work and see how much you can even do and accomplish, and continue
to make that a habit before you start adding more days. And I'll give
you an example. So when I left my corporate job, I ended up
going full time as a bartender and a server because I still wanted to make
a lot of money until I could go full time with social media. I
still ended up having more time than I did doing the nine to five in
the bartending obviously, but there were like two shifts that I would usually get.
So I would get a shift where I would open so like ten thirty,
or I would do like a lunch shift, which like twelve. Technically
they were the same type, wasn't I left like thirty minutes in between to
go to work, So it was basically a very early morning shift. Or
I would have a shift at five pm. And so what originally, when
I was trying to really like time batch my stuff and really work on my
side business, which was my social media as much as I could, I
would try and do editing and like whatever I could in the morning right before
I went to work. But then the whole entire day I would be working
and I wouldn't get home from til either like eight nine or ten or eleven
if I was closing whatever, and it would be a huge long day,
and I'd be so burnt out. And then the next day, when I
would start work at five o'clock, that would have been a perfect time for
me to do more filming, like those are the days that I usually filmed,
But I was so exhausted because I tried to add all of this work
in before a super long day. And I started to realize that is not
a smart way to work. I need to time batch when it makes sense,
which is on the days where I have a half day at work.
It makes no sense for me to burn myself out, not take care of
myself, not even eat breakfast, not go to the gym, and take
care of myself on the days where I have a huge long day. And
then again it actually affects the next day, which I could have been more
efficient with my work if I didn't have such a long day. So you
really have to think about your goals and what you're telling yourself that you can
do. And this is again not to say that you can't do a bunch
of stuff. You can, but you want to learn how to work smarter,
not harder. And honestly, that is why I was able to do
it for so long. Like I was working on well, I mean,
I was on TikTok and I had my podcast and a little bit of YouTube,
but not really throughout when I had both jobs, and I didn't really
ever burn out because I was able to see when I was setting on realistic
goals and I would adjust and I would really really time manage properly by learning
how to time batch in a way that actually worked, and also giving myself
time frames and deadlines. Another thing that I think is so important and a
lot of us might not think about this when we're trying to be productive,
is to fuel yourself. Coming back to the sleep thing. If you are
running on caffeine basically all day and you have like one meal, it's no
wonder that you end up crashing and you feel like you can't do things,
or you have the urge to go on your phone and get that dopamine kick,
like you are not fueling your brain. Honestly, your body and your
brain very well. So it is so important that you do prioritize your meals
throughout the day. Are you waking up, are you drinking, are you
staying hydrated? Are you having a balanced meal? Are not just like a
meal where it's just like a croissant? And then at four pm you're having
a freaking I don't know, like baggle from tim Horns or something, and
like a sugary Starbucks drink and then maybe you're having I don't know, like
something that you deem healthy at nighttime, and like that's it. Like,
really taking care of your health is going to be so important because at the
end of the day, for one, like what are you being productive for
and hitting goals if you're not healthy? Right, It's the same thing as
like thinking about how health is really wealth. Like you for you to work
yourself and to let's say, be successful, right, get a bunch of
followers, or get a bunch of money, or be successful in your job
whatever it is that you're doing. But you're also like not functioning properly.
Your health is at all time low. You have no energy, you're in
a lot of pain, you're constantly ebbitting and flowing through different cycles of depression
and then you're happy again. Like what kind of life is that? Like,
I would honestly think, stop trying to even be productive at this point
and take so much off of your plate and focus on your health and your
wellness first, and then slowly start to implement some of these practices of being
a little bit more productive. Like, honestly, that is what I did
right, and we can bring this right. This comes right back down to
the soft life. I think a lot of the reasons why a lot of
people don't even want to have any goals anymore and like don't want to work
and they want to like live a soft life. Which I'm not saying everyone
who wants to live a soft life doesn't want to work, but a lot
of girls kind of like have that idea. It's because you burnt yourself out.
It's because you're you are freaking going insanely hard at the gym, insanely
hard working three hundred thousand jobs, stressing yourself out about freaking guys who are
not texting you back, or like how you're going to make your paycheck your
next paycheck, which is understandable you're in survival mode, but you being in
survival mode is breaking down your body. And what I realized is I need
to stop trying to hit all of these masculine type of goals in a way,
not to say I didn't have goals. Of course I did, and
I was in survival mode regardless because I had to pay my bills. I
still worked. But I realized I can't put all of these goals and have
all of these things on my plate when my body, my nervous system is
literally primed in fight or flight right now, Like it is literally counterproductive for
me to try and start this huge project or this YouTube channel and podcast and
TikTok all at once when I can't even get the proper sleep or I'm not
even eating correctly things like that. And even with my social media, I
was very strategic with how I did things, and I knew I wanted to
have the YouTube, the podcast, that TikTok, the Instagram, everything,
but I knew that I wasn't going to start at all at once, and
a lot of people want to do everything all at once. But it's also
like you have to look at where you're at right now, like there is
probably still parts of you that might need a little bit of help aka your
sleep routines. Are you eating correctly? Like is your health generally? Is
it good? A lot of the times it's not. So letting go of
putting so much pressure on yourself to be super super productive it hit all these
goals and take care of yourself. And I feel like this is funny because
I'm just basically saying don't be productive in a productivity video. But you guys
know, I'm all about balance at the end of the day. And listen,
there is going to be a time in the place, but you are
going to know you know yourself better than I do, and what season of
life that you're in. Is it time for you to add a little bit
more structure into your life? For me personally, absolutely yes. I have
a lot of goals that I have coming up that I need to hit and
I need deadlines for them. I need to sit down and plan out how
I'm going to do things and when I'm going to do them. And I
need to make sure that I'm fueling my body, and I need to make
sure that I'm going to sleep at the proper time so that I can wake
up and have the energy to take action on my goals. I need to
make sure that I am eating and making time to cook balance meals so that
I am fueled. I need to make sure that I'm being very aware of
where I'm putting my time and my attention and my energy. When it comes
to social media, I'm also being very protective of where my time goes outside
of work, so my social life. It's not that I'm cutting out people
from my life and I'm not having a social life, but yes, I
am having more boundaries and saying no. There's a million people who always want
to meet up and do things, and there's always events to go do,
and there's always things to do. But I realize if I keep saying yes
to everything outside of me, then I'm not going to get these things done.
And you have to think about ways in which you're putting your energy and
things that aren't kind of giving you that return for the moment being, for
the time being, it's not going to be like this forever. And this
is something that they were saying in that podcast episode two, and that I
said in my video, Like, you know, when you're hitting your goals
and you have a vision, it's not going to be forever that you're in
this masculine structure, nor should you be. Actually, let me give you
this advice. It shouldn't be. Sometimes we actually like we get into this
productivity grind and then we just kind of get stuck in it, and honestly,
like, welcome to the world, Welcome to capitalism, Welcome to freaking
society. Everyone is constantly in this rat race. You need to know when
to slow down. And you're gonna know because your body's gonna tell you.
You're gonna know, because your energy is going to tell you. You're gonna
know because your intuition, your creativity is going to be very low. Personally
for me, that is when I know I need to slow down. But
you know, there are going to be times where I'm starting to feel a
little bit chaotic, I'm feeling a little bit confused, I'm not happy with
things, and that's when I know, let me refocus, let me get
excited for my life, and let me take that action. Taking that action
is super super key. Now, one last thing that I'm going to say,
and this is for the girls. Majority of you guys are girls,
but understanding that you also go through a cycle is going to be very helpful.
I kind of already mentioned this. If you don't understand cycle sinking,
then definitely go check out my videos on cycle sinking. But there are just
going to be weeks throughout your month where you are going to naturally have more
energy because your hormones are fluctuating. And so for me right now, I'm
ovulating, so I know this is the time to get as much done and
more, like literally and more. And this is what I mean. When
we make a plan for ourselves and we want to be productive, we have
timelines. Okay, I'm gonna do this on this day and this on this
day. Amazing, Yes, we should follow that plan, especially when we
have like specific goals, follow the plan and execute that plan until that that
plan is done. Remind yourself that it's not going to be forever, and
get that done. But on top of that, and this is where I
think this is beautiful. I really do. I think that the fact that
we have cycles, I think is just it's a superpower that men unfortunately don't
have. There are gonna be times throughout your month where you actually have a
bigger capacity to take on more work. And for me personally, yes,
I have in my calendar when I'm gonna sit down and record. But if
I have that spark of energy to do more, guess what I'm doing it
Always do more than you think that you can when you actually have the energy.
I don't say push yourself when you literally are like menstuating and you're freaking
down on the dumps and you have no energy. I'm talking about the times
where you feel that energy. And honestly, if men are listening to this
too, this can be for everyone, like outside of your period, because
honestly, they're just gonna be days. There's just gonna be days where you
have, for some reason, more energy than the next day. Take action
on that energy. Do that extra video, take that extra step, listen
to extra podcasts, or you know, add an extra hour onto writing.
I actually did that today because I just felt like I could do it.
Push yourself a little bit. You don't have to stick to the structure of
that masculine so hard. This is where masculine energy goes toxic, when we
hyper fixate and we become perfectionists on things. Yes, it's amazing to have
the masculine structure, to have a plan, to implement that plan, to
execute on that plan, but there always has to be room for the feminine
flow. And what I mean by that is when you are writing a book,
let's say, or freaking working on a project, and you told yourself
two hours, if you have the energy, the creative energy, the flow,
whatever it is, to keep going, go a little bit longer.
And honestly, go a little bit longer, because I can guarantee you next
week when you have to do that same thing and you have to sit down
and do it again, you might not be able to have the capacity to
go a little bit longer. And guess what, Now you've done a little
bit extra, so you're making yourself move closer to your goal. And that's
amazing. That is something that you can't write on a piece of paper when
it comes to your energy systems, especially when it comes to women. Well,
you can write on a piece of paper because obviously you know when you're
ovulating and things like that, but like only if you track, I guess,
But in general, like it's more of a feeling thing and that's the
feminine and you can't get rid of it even when you are operating from that
masculine. And I think that in this day and age, we separate things
very heavily. We stay in one energy state, and realistically, there is
no masculine without the feminine. When there's masculine without the feminine, it goes
toxic. When there's feminine without the masculine, it goes toxic. Realistically,
And if you want to even actually bring this into the genders, listen,
we need to have a balance of both. And even if it's not male
and female's female and female. Guarantee you one of them got a little bit
more masculine energy than the other. And I'm not even talking about the traits
and how they look, but there's something energetically beautiful about both energies working together.
It is a journey. It is something that I've had to learn,
honestly over the past two years, of how to make those things flow.
I think that it's helpful when you go on a healing journey and you heal
the toxic masculine side of you that wants to criticize and wants to perfect,
but also the wounded feminine that doesn't want to have any structure, wants to
just chill and be in chaos in a way and kind of thrives off of
that. Also maybe you're in that self doubting like you're too afraid to take
the action because you literally think that you can't do it. Like healing those
parts of you can be super helpful, and then what ends up happening,
what ends up arising out of that is you can tap into the healthy masculine,
you can tap into the healthy feminine, and you can make them work.
It's like the ying and the yang. We love a good energy balance
here. So anyways, I don't know, Okay, I do know.
This is something that my sothematic therapist always says to me. Oh my gosh.
She'll every time I say like, oh, I don't really know,
She's like, but you do know, and I'm like, yeah, I
do, I do know. Anyways, what I do know is my camera's
going to die. So I hope you guys enjoyed today's episode. Don't forget
I have one on one coaching. If you want to work one on one
with me. We can work through limiting beliefs, any blocks that are going
through. We can talk about content creation, mentorship, all that stuff.
It'll be linked in the description. I love you, guys, and I'll
see you in the next one. Bye.