WEBVTT 1 00:00:02.040 --> 00:00:12.240 Hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about. When 2 00:00:12.480 --> 00:00:26.519 you are in a relationship and you act helpless, they're gonna treat you as 3 00:00:26.559 --> 00:00:30.000 if you're weak and helpless. If you act helpless, they're gonna treat you 4 00:00:30.039 --> 00:00:33.399 that way. If you act helpless and weak, that's how they're gonna treat 5 00:00:33.479 --> 00:00:41.679 you. There are too many people who are in relationships who give up their 6 00:00:41.799 --> 00:00:51.799 power. Women do it a lot, they just get into relationships. Men 7 00:00:51.920 --> 00:00:59.679 do it too, but women do it seemingly more than men. Get into 8 00:00:59.759 --> 00:01:08.439 a relationships and allow themselves to be just treated as if they have no say 9 00:01:08.519 --> 00:01:19.439 so, no power. That becomes so helpless. Then you realize that you're 10 00:01:19.480 --> 00:01:29.120 in a relationship with someone who's controlling you, and you no longer like how 11 00:01:29.159 --> 00:01:34.239 that feels or how that looks, and then it begins to be a problem 12 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:42.760 for you. One of the worst things to see is a man who is 13 00:01:42.959 --> 00:01:52.079 just weak and helpless because that is his way of loving who he's with. 14 00:01:53.319 --> 00:01:56.719 That's a terrible look. I'm just telling you, as a woman, that 15 00:01:56.920 --> 00:02:01.280 is a terrible look for men to act weak and helpless. No one wants 16 00:02:01.319 --> 00:02:08.199 that. No woman wants a man who acts weak and helpless. But if 17 00:02:08.240 --> 00:02:13.479 you act weak and helpless and you're with a woman, she's gonna treat you 18 00:02:13.639 --> 00:02:17.000 as if you're weak and helpless, just as a man would treat a woman. 19 00:02:17.199 --> 00:02:27.159 If you go into a relationship acting all diciled helpless, you don't know 20 00:02:27.199 --> 00:02:34.039 how to do anything without him or her, You're gonna find yourself in a 21 00:02:34.159 --> 00:02:39.800 trap that you set. You set the trap, and you're gonna be the 22 00:02:39.879 --> 00:02:47.560 one who fall in it because they are gonna treat you exactly how you have 23 00:02:47.719 --> 00:02:58.240 presented yourself as weak and helpless in a relationship. It takes two individuals to 24 00:02:58.319 --> 00:03:07.159 make that relationship work, and then one person is the one who is basically 25 00:03:09.080 --> 00:03:22.199 being that individual that's doing everything running the show. That's one sided. But 26 00:03:22.360 --> 00:03:28.719 there are so many people who are in these relationships, so many people who 27 00:03:29.080 --> 00:03:38.199 settle for these type of relationships. People do this because of their hearts and 28 00:03:38.280 --> 00:03:44.360 minds, their mindsets. Something you've gone through to have you to think, 29 00:03:45.039 --> 00:03:51.319 feel, and act the way you are. I don't care what anyone says. 30 00:03:51.800 --> 00:03:59.120 It's not a good thing to act vulnerable, weak, docile. It's 31 00:03:59.199 --> 00:04:08.360 not a good things because people will take advantage of you. Not sometime every 32 00:04:08.400 --> 00:04:13.360 time, but the individuals that are taking advantage of you, they don't know 33 00:04:13.479 --> 00:04:21.399 it, but they too are those individuals who have those unresolved inner issues that's 34 00:04:21.480 --> 00:04:27.040 causing them to be the way they are, That's causing them to be individuals 35 00:04:27.079 --> 00:04:33.079 who will take advantage. I mean, this is the world we're in today 36 00:04:33.480 --> 00:04:38.639 full of these types of people, people who are broken, who have not 37 00:04:38.800 --> 00:04:46.399 dealt with their own unresolved issues, and feel the effect and consequences in some 38 00:04:46.560 --> 00:04:56.279 form or fashion. If you act weaken your relationship, I guarantee that's how 39 00:04:56.319 --> 00:05:03.120 you're gonna be treated. When people act weak, they're or disrespected, abused, 40 00:05:04.879 --> 00:05:15.800 misused, taking advantage of, taking for granted, disrespected in all types 41 00:05:15.839 --> 00:05:27.920 of ways. People handle you how you allow them to. They treat you 42 00:05:29.639 --> 00:05:35.439 how you allow them to. You end up doing things you never wanted to 43 00:05:35.519 --> 00:05:43.279 do, accepting and allowing things you don't even really want to, you don't 44 00:05:43.319 --> 00:05:49.519 even really like, but you do because of your mindset. Some of you 45 00:05:49.680 --> 00:05:58.079 will do anything to be with that individual anything. Let me tell you this, 46 00:05:58.600 --> 00:06:02.959 If you will be you're willing to do anything, something is wrong, 47 00:06:03.199 --> 00:06:14.160 something is sadly wrong. When you act weak, that's how you're gonna be 48 00:06:14.199 --> 00:06:21.399 treated like you're a weak person, and sooner or later you're gonna realize that's 49 00:06:21.399 --> 00:06:27.920 how you're treated and it won't feel good when you get that aha moment, 50 00:06:28.120 --> 00:06:35.439 when you get that moment of clarity. It won't feel good, but it 51 00:06:35.600 --> 00:06:44.480 is what you have allowed. So many people are blind when it comes to 52 00:06:44.600 --> 00:06:48.600 love. Blind. You've heard me said before. Love is not blind. 53 00:06:48.639 --> 00:06:55.439 It's people who think they're in love. They're the blind ones. Love is 54 00:06:55.480 --> 00:07:01.399 not blind. Love is love. It's people who are blind, blind by 55 00:07:01.399 --> 00:07:10.120 their feelings that wants their desires blind because of their mindsets. They have the 56 00:07:10.240 --> 00:07:17.519 mindsets they have, because of their past experience, the experiences that they've gone 57 00:07:17.560 --> 00:07:25.600 through. It shapes and forms who people are today. And for a lot 58 00:07:25.680 --> 00:07:30.600 of people, they have gone through traumatic things, bad experiences, and they 59 00:07:30.680 --> 00:07:38.120 hold onto that and it forms all of these things, insecurities, all of 60 00:07:38.160 --> 00:07:46.279 these things people lack within. It forms the mindset that people have. You 61 00:07:46.399 --> 00:07:58.120 act weak for a reason, something caused you to be that way. A 62 00:07:58.199 --> 00:08:03.399 lot of people don't even realize how they are, but they do notice that 63 00:08:05.480 --> 00:08:13.839 they are always in relationships with similar people, going through similar things in their 64 00:08:13.879 --> 00:08:20.079 relationships, always wondering why am I always with this type of person. Why 65 00:08:20.160 --> 00:08:24.160 am I always treated this type of way? Because that's what you open yourself 66 00:08:24.240 --> 00:08:31.960 up to. That is a habitual way of thinking, feeling, and acting. 67 00:08:33.279 --> 00:08:39.559 But you are that way because of your mindset. You are that way 68 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:48.679 because of your mindset that is formed out of those experiences that you went through. 69 00:08:50.200 --> 00:08:56.679 I've told you so many times people don't heal from what ails them. 70 00:08:58.000 --> 00:09:09.639 They just go through life dragging the same mess everywhere, being mistreated everywhere they 71 00:09:09.679 --> 00:09:16.840 go, not just in their relationships with significant others, but in all relationships 72 00:09:16.039 --> 00:09:28.039 that they are a part of, friendships, familyships, workmanships everywhere they go 73 00:09:28.440 --> 00:09:35.399 because they carry who self. If you have that mentality, you're gonna take 74 00:09:35.399 --> 00:09:43.639 it everywhere you go. And I will tell you, living that way, 75 00:09:43.799 --> 00:09:52.840 it definitely affects you. It affects you mind, body and soul. When 76 00:09:52.840 --> 00:10:01.639 you go through life being mistreated, it's gonna to affect you. Why do 77 00:10:01.720 --> 00:10:07.519 you think you have the mindset that you have now? Like I say, 78 00:10:07.639 --> 00:10:16.639 we all have the mindsets that we have. We are shaped and conditioned to 79 00:10:16.799 --> 00:10:24.519 be who we are because of what we've gone through. The thing is some 80 00:10:24.679 --> 00:10:31.600 people choose different They want better, They don't want to keep going through life 81 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:37.519 inflicting pain upon themselves. They want a difference, They want to make a 82 00:10:37.799 --> 00:10:41.559 change, they want to be better, so they choose it. But for 83 00:10:41.679 --> 00:10:50.440 the most part, people go through life the same, from childhood owing to 84 00:10:50.600 --> 00:10:58.639 old age. Some people have died the very same. And I've said that 85 00:10:58.679 --> 00:11:11.399 too on multiple occasions, because it's true childhood own into adulthood, still with 86 00:11:11.519 --> 00:11:20.759 the same mindset, no matter the troubles that brings, still continue with the 87 00:11:20.799 --> 00:11:30.279 same mindset. And what is so sad about the whole situation is people don't 88 00:11:30.279 --> 00:11:37.519 have to You don't have to go through life still dealing with trauma that you 89 00:11:37.879 --> 00:11:41.399 inflicted because what you went through it, you're no longer going through. What 90 00:11:41.519 --> 00:11:46.679 you're going through now is what you are inflicted by what you allow in accept 91 00:11:46.759 --> 00:11:52.600 in your life. Some of you get into relationships and you open yourselves up 92 00:11:52.600 --> 00:11:58.639 to all types of mess because you think if you open yourself up to things, 93 00:11:58.679 --> 00:12:05.879 if you allow and accept certain things, that that person will love you 94 00:12:05.960 --> 00:12:13.120 more, they will want to be with you. You will make it so 95 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:18.279 good for them that they will want to be with you. But that's just 96 00:12:18.559 --> 00:12:24.799 not the way it goes. We will hope that people will do right by 97 00:12:24.919 --> 00:12:26.720 us if we do right by them. But that's just not the way it 98 00:12:26.759 --> 00:12:33.720 goes. It just isn't. People don't care. You can give them everything, 99 00:12:35.279 --> 00:12:41.600 they will be who they will be. And those of you who have 100 00:12:41.720 --> 00:12:46.200 listened to me before, you know, I always say what's in you will 101 00:12:46.519 --> 00:12:52.759 come out sooner or later. You can faith, pretend, hide and all 102 00:12:52.799 --> 00:12:58.720 of that. It's coming out sooner or later. Whatever is in you, 103 00:12:58.200 --> 00:13:09.559 it's coming out in some way, some how, sooner or later. It's 104 00:13:09.559 --> 00:13:16.840 a fact. So what I'm trying to tell you is, if you are 105 00:13:16.879 --> 00:13:31.159 an individual who is going through life allowing people to crap on you, beat 106 00:13:31.279 --> 00:13:37.679 up on you, and all types away mentally, verbally, physically, you 107 00:13:37.799 --> 00:13:43.840 have to look inward. Something is going on inside of you that has you 108 00:13:43.080 --> 00:13:50.440 thinking it is okay. Some of you are so full of insecurities, all 109 00:13:50.679 --> 00:14:00.000 types of insecurities, because you're still holding onto negativity. Your significant other seeds 110 00:14:00.159 --> 00:14:07.480 the vulnerability in you. They see it. You just go along, You 111 00:14:07.679 --> 00:14:13.360 succumb to any and everything to try to please them. You're significant others see 112 00:14:13.360 --> 00:14:18.279 it, so they peg you as a weak individual. And I'm not saying 113 00:14:18.279 --> 00:14:22.519 it to be cruel or anything like that. I'm just telling you what they 114 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:28.159 see. They see a vulnerable person, They see a person who they consider 115 00:14:28.240 --> 00:14:39.320 as weak, so they take advantage because they too, in truth, are 116 00:14:39.440 --> 00:14:46.840 individuals who are weak themselves, but they don't even realize it. They don't 117 00:14:46.879 --> 00:14:54.000 realize it because they think they are more powerful, because because that's what you 118 00:14:54.120 --> 00:15:00.840 give them to think. You make them think that they're more are powerful than 119 00:15:00.879 --> 00:15:07.440 you, because you give them power over you and to treat you a certain 120 00:15:07.519 --> 00:15:15.120 way, so it empowers them. They feel that you're the weakened, you're 121 00:15:15.159 --> 00:15:20.879 the weakest link, and that's how they're going to treat you because you let 122 00:15:20.919 --> 00:15:26.039 them. You don't do anything about it. You just go alone because you 123 00:15:26.279 --> 00:15:31.399 rather go through what you're going through, even though it hurts, even though 124 00:15:31.519 --> 00:15:39.320 you know you're being done wrong, you still go along because you rather deal 125 00:15:39.360 --> 00:15:45.039 with that than to deal with being alone, not having that person in your 126 00:15:45.039 --> 00:15:48.159 life. But I'm here to tell you anyone who's taken advantage of you, 127 00:15:48.759 --> 00:15:54.480 taking you for granted, mistreating you in any way, they're not the ones 128 00:15:56.120 --> 00:16:10.679 that should be even I mean, in no way, individuals who that you 129 00:16:10.720 --> 00:16:17.360 should even care about giving your time to if you think it's okay for your 130 00:16:17.480 --> 00:16:25.519 significant other to mistreat you in any way, you causing problems for yourself, 131 00:16:26.120 --> 00:16:33.440 because I promise you a person would treat you just like you let them. 132 00:16:33.559 --> 00:16:41.879 They would treat you like you've opened yourself up to be treated. Now, 133 00:16:41.039 --> 00:16:48.639 it's up to you how you allow someone to treat you every single time. 134 00:16:48.960 --> 00:16:53.440 It is up to you. That's why I tell you all. All of 135 00:16:53.519 --> 00:17:03.639 the time, people cause their own drama, their own self inflicted pain, 136 00:17:03.240 --> 00:17:07.960 by what they open themselves up to, by what they go along with, 137 00:17:07.160 --> 00:17:14.680 by what they allow an accept from their significant others and other people. People 138 00:17:14.799 --> 00:17:23.079 know exactly how they can treat you. They know because you show them. 139 00:17:23.119 --> 00:17:30.000 I've said it so many times. If you act the weak, that's how 140 00:17:30.000 --> 00:17:36.039 they're gonna treat you like you don't know nothing. You dumb yourself down. 141 00:17:36.880 --> 00:17:41.880 People do it all of the time. It don't help you at all. 142 00:17:42.759 --> 00:17:48.240 It won't make him or her love you any more. It really does not 143 00:17:48.799 --> 00:17:55.759 matter of fact. Sometimes they respect you even less because you allow them to 144 00:17:55.880 --> 00:18:04.319 treat you any kind of way. They respect you even less because they know 145 00:18:04.680 --> 00:18:11.920 that they can walk all over you. People don't really respect individuals who allow 146 00:18:11.039 --> 00:18:17.880 them to walk all over them. They really don't. And if you allow 147 00:18:17.920 --> 00:18:22.480 them someone to walk all over you, just think about it. Think about 148 00:18:22.519 --> 00:18:27.319 it. If you're in a relationship with someone and they're walking all over you, 149 00:18:29.599 --> 00:18:34.079 that is your sign, my friend, that is your red flag something 150 00:18:34.119 --> 00:18:41.160 that's wrong with him or her. They have unresolved issues too. Oh my 151 00:18:41.319 --> 00:18:52.400 goodness. People keep getting into relationships with individuals who are like them unresolved issues, 152 00:18:53.519 --> 00:19:00.960 have not dealt with what ails them, have not dealt with their inner 153 00:19:00.160 --> 00:19:08.160 selves. And anytime you do not, or you have not, You're gonna 154 00:19:08.200 --> 00:19:14.240 have troubles in your life. You're gonna have a lot of problems in your 155 00:19:14.319 --> 00:19:22.759 life because you're gonna have your significant others to contend with, and then other 156 00:19:22.880 --> 00:19:27.079 people because just as your significant others see the vulnerability in you, so will 157 00:19:27.119 --> 00:19:37.680 others. So will others, and guess what, more than likely you will 158 00:19:37.759 --> 00:19:42.319 let them mistreat you too. I see it every day on the job, 159 00:19:42.680 --> 00:19:49.119 every day, because of my job, I see it every day, and 160 00:19:49.279 --> 00:19:56.119 I'm like, oh my goodness, I have to hear it up and retire 161 00:19:56.200 --> 00:20:07.200 again. Because when you see people just let folks walk all over them, 162 00:20:07.359 --> 00:20:15.960 or you see those individuals that every single thing, every single thing is a 163 00:20:15.039 --> 00:20:26.720 conflict. Everything You're like, oh my goodness, but it all comes from 164 00:20:26.759 --> 00:20:38.400 that unresolved inside. You know. I'll be thinking, wow, how people 165 00:20:40.119 --> 00:20:44.599 on the jobs, they come up with all types of things, training for 166 00:20:44.720 --> 00:20:48.000 this, training for that, this program, that program. None of it 167 00:20:48.079 --> 00:20:59.839 works because it don't change anyone. It does not even give people the motivation 168 00:21:00.400 --> 00:21:08.319 to change. It's just check the box. It takes some true substance, 169 00:21:10.759 --> 00:21:22.000 things that truly permeate inside deep, that make people think about self. To 170 00:21:22.240 --> 00:21:30.400 foster change, people have to really think about self, who they really are, 171 00:21:32.279 --> 00:21:37.720 what they have allowed themselves to become. That's what fosters change when people 172 00:21:37.759 --> 00:21:42.519 really start realizing how they are, when they begin to think outside of the 173 00:21:42.559 --> 00:21:51.799 box. As long as you go through life carrying all of your baggage, 174 00:21:52.839 --> 00:21:57.559 showing your vulnerability to your significant others and other people, they're gonna treat you 175 00:21:57.640 --> 00:22:07.039 like you the weakest looking and it's unfortunate, it's sad, but it's true. 176 00:22:08.079 --> 00:22:15.160 I cannot tell you how many people I've ran across in my lifetime that 177 00:22:15.279 --> 00:22:25.440 I instantly see their vulnerability, instantly see how people around them treat them. 178 00:22:25.480 --> 00:22:33.640 Because people open themselves up to it. That's why I always talk about self 179 00:22:33.960 --> 00:22:41.079 inflicted pain. These are the things that I'm talking about. When you go 180 00:22:41.279 --> 00:22:49.000 through life being vulnerable, acting weak, that's exactly how you're going to be 181 00:22:49.079 --> 00:23:00.720 treated, helpless and weak because that is what you are projected out to others. 182 00:23:02.880 --> 00:23:07.799 And your significant other is not exemptle he or she will mistreat you too 183 00:23:08.319 --> 00:23:18.599 because they have their own unresolved issues like minds, two broken people, blind 184 00:23:18.720 --> 00:23:27.680 leading the blind. That is what most people deal with. That's why most 185 00:23:27.759 --> 00:23:33.799 relationships and yes, I said most, and I will stand on it. 186 00:23:33.160 --> 00:23:42.279 Most relationships are one sided. Most relationships are couples who are unhappy. Makes 187 00:23:42.319 --> 00:23:48.839 no sense to me. I understand, I get it because I know people, 188 00:23:48.279 --> 00:24:00.559 But makes no sense to me. People will treat you exactly how you 189 00:24:00.599 --> 00:24:11.759 have shown them they can treat you. That includes your so called significant other. 190 00:24:11.839 --> 00:24:18.920 They are not exempt. They will do it as well. The ones 191 00:24:18.000 --> 00:24:22.559 you love the most is the ones who normally will hurt you the most. 192 00:24:26.440 --> 00:24:33.599 All of the negativity, all of the distorted ways of thinking, delusional ways 193 00:24:33.599 --> 00:24:42.079 of thinking, It comes from that unresolved inside. Like I always say, 194 00:24:42.200 --> 00:24:49.240 it takes the inside the work. You gotta get it together in order for 195 00:24:49.319 --> 00:24:56.960 your outside world to function. Properly, or you to function properly in your 196 00:24:57.039 --> 00:25:04.720 outside world. And that's all I'm gonna say. It's all about what you 197 00:25:04.759 --> 00:25:07.880 want in your life. Do you want to be better? Do you want 198 00:25:07.880 --> 00:25:15.440 to change? Because you cannot have a change by remaining the same. You 199 00:25:15.480 --> 00:25:21.039 cannot have a change by doing the same things. You must do something different, 200 00:25:22.000 --> 00:25:25.359 a better way if you want to become better, if you want better 201 00:25:25.440 --> 00:25:30.400 in your life. But that's up to you. If you have questions, 202 00:25:32.480 --> 00:25:40.039 concerns, reach out to me. I am so willing to give you some 203 00:25:40.119 --> 00:25:45.079 guidance. Reach out to me. Don't hesitate. Go to my podcast page. 204 00:25:45.119 --> 00:25:48.640 It will tell you how to reach me. Also, please take time 205 00:25:48.680 --> 00:25:53.920 and listen to relatable like chronicles. A lot of good information there. Share, 206 00:25:56.079 --> 00:26:02.160 Share this podcast, Share that podcast. Thank you so much for listening. 207 00:26:02.599 --> 00:26:07.000 Much love to you, you and you from my heart to yours with 208 00:26:07.200 --> 00:26:14.240 sincerity, much much love. I appreciate you so much. You know I 209 00:26:14.519 --> 00:26:22.000 end every single episode the same because I'm really hope and pray that you do 210 00:26:22.119 --> 00:26:25.319 it, think on it.