Hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about. When
you are in a relationship and you act helpless, they're gonna treat you as
if you're weak and helpless. If you act helpless, they're gonna treat you
that way. If you act helpless and weak, that's how they're gonna treat
you. There are too many people who are in relationships who give up their
power. Women do it a lot, they just get into relationships. Men
do it too, but women do it seemingly more than men. Get into
a relationships and allow themselves to be just treated as if they have no say
so, no power. That becomes so helpless. Then you realize that you're
in a relationship with someone who's controlling you, and you no longer like how
that feels or how that looks, and then it begins to be a problem
for you. One of the worst things to see is a man who is
just weak and helpless because that is his way of loving who he's with.
That's a terrible look. I'm just telling you, as a woman, that
is a terrible look for men to act weak and helpless. No one wants
that. No woman wants a man who acts weak and helpless. But if
you act weak and helpless and you're with a woman, she's gonna treat you
as if you're weak and helpless, just as a man would treat a woman.
If you go into a relationship acting all diciled helpless, you don't know
how to do anything without him or her, You're gonna find yourself in a
trap that you set. You set the trap, and you're gonna be the
one who fall in it because they are gonna treat you exactly how you have
presented yourself as weak and helpless in a relationship. It takes two individuals to
make that relationship work, and then one person is the one who is basically
being that individual that's doing everything running the show. That's one sided. But
there are so many people who are in these relationships, so many people who
settle for these type of relationships. People do this because of their hearts and
minds, their mindsets. Something you've gone through to have you to think,
feel, and act the way you are. I don't care what anyone says.
It's not a good thing to act vulnerable, weak, docile. It's
not a good things because people will take advantage of you. Not sometime every
time, but the individuals that are taking advantage of you, they don't know
it, but they too are those individuals who have those unresolved inner issues that's
causing them to be the way they are, That's causing them to be individuals
who will take advantage. I mean, this is the world we're in today
full of these types of people, people who are broken, who have not
dealt with their own unresolved issues, and feel the effect and consequences in some
form or fashion. If you act weaken your relationship, I guarantee that's how
you're gonna be treated. When people act weak, they're or disrespected, abused,
misused, taking advantage of, taking for granted, disrespected in all types
of ways. People handle you how you allow them to. They treat you
how you allow them to. You end up doing things you never wanted to
do, accepting and allowing things you don't even really want to, you don't
even really like, but you do because of your mindset. Some of you
will do anything to be with that individual anything. Let me tell you this,
If you will be you're willing to do anything, something is wrong,
something is sadly wrong. When you act weak, that's how you're gonna be
treated like you're a weak person, and sooner or later you're gonna realize that's
how you're treated and it won't feel good when you get that aha moment,
when you get that moment of clarity. It won't feel good, but it
is what you have allowed. So many people are blind when it comes to
love. Blind. You've heard me said before. Love is not blind.
It's people who think they're in love. They're the blind ones. Love is
not blind. Love is love. It's people who are blind, blind by
their feelings that wants their desires blind because of their mindsets. They have the
mindsets they have, because of their past experience, the experiences that they've gone
through. It shapes and forms who people are today. And for a lot
of people, they have gone through traumatic things, bad experiences, and they
hold onto that and it forms all of these things, insecurities, all of
these things people lack within. It forms the mindset that people have. You
act weak for a reason, something caused you to be that way. A
lot of people don't even realize how they are, but they do notice that
they are always in relationships with similar people, going through similar things in their
relationships, always wondering why am I always with this type of person. Why
am I always treated this type of way? Because that's what you open yourself
up to. That is a habitual way of thinking, feeling, and acting.
But you are that way because of your mindset. You are that way
because of your mindset that is formed out of those experiences that you went through.
I've told you so many times people don't heal from what ails them.
They just go through life dragging the same mess everywhere, being mistreated everywhere they
go, not just in their relationships with significant others, but in all relationships
that they are a part of, friendships, familyships, workmanships everywhere they go
because they carry who self. If you have that mentality, you're gonna take
it everywhere you go. And I will tell you, living that way,
it definitely affects you. It affects you mind, body and soul. When
you go through life being mistreated, it's gonna to affect you. Why do
you think you have the mindset that you have now? Like I say,
we all have the mindsets that we have. We are shaped and conditioned to
be who we are because of what we've gone through. The thing is some
people choose different They want better, They don't want to keep going through life
inflicting pain upon themselves. They want a difference, They want to make a
change, they want to be better, so they choose it. But for
the most part, people go through life the same, from childhood owing to
old age. Some people have died the very same. And I've said that
too on multiple occasions, because it's true childhood own into adulthood, still with
the same mindset, no matter the troubles that brings, still continue with the
same mindset. And what is so sad about the whole situation is people don't
have to You don't have to go through life still dealing with trauma that you
inflicted because what you went through it, you're no longer going through. What
you're going through now is what you are inflicted by what you allow in accept
in your life. Some of you get into relationships and you open yourselves up
to all types of mess because you think if you open yourself up to things,
if you allow and accept certain things, that that person will love you
more, they will want to be with you. You will make it so
good for them that they will want to be with you. But that's just
not the way it goes. We will hope that people will do right by
us if we do right by them. But that's just not the way it
goes. It just isn't. People don't care. You can give them everything,
they will be who they will be. And those of you who have
listened to me before, you know, I always say what's in you will
come out sooner or later. You can faith, pretend, hide and all
of that. It's coming out sooner or later. Whatever is in you,
it's coming out in some way, some how, sooner or later. It's
a fact. So what I'm trying to tell you is, if you are
an individual who is going through life allowing people to crap on you, beat
up on you, and all types away mentally, verbally, physically, you
have to look inward. Something is going on inside of you that has you
thinking it is okay. Some of you are so full of insecurities, all
types of insecurities, because you're still holding onto negativity. Your significant other seeds
the vulnerability in you. They see it. You just go along, You
succumb to any and everything to try to please them. You're significant others see
it, so they peg you as a weak individual. And I'm not saying
it to be cruel or anything like that. I'm just telling you what they
see. They see a vulnerable person, They see a person who they consider
as weak, so they take advantage because they too, in truth, are
individuals who are weak themselves, but they don't even realize it. They don't
realize it because they think they are more powerful, because because that's what you
give them to think. You make them think that they're more are powerful than
you, because you give them power over you and to treat you a certain
way, so it empowers them. They feel that you're the weakened, you're
the weakest link, and that's how they're going to treat you because you let
them. You don't do anything about it. You just go alone because you
rather go through what you're going through, even though it hurts, even though
you know you're being done wrong, you still go along because you rather deal
with that than to deal with being alone, not having that person in your
life. But I'm here to tell you anyone who's taken advantage of you,
taking you for granted, mistreating you in any way, they're not the ones
that should be even I mean, in no way, individuals who that you
should even care about giving your time to if you think it's okay for your
significant other to mistreat you in any way, you causing problems for yourself,
because I promise you a person would treat you just like you let them.
They would treat you like you've opened yourself up to be treated. Now,
it's up to you how you allow someone to treat you every single time.
It is up to you. That's why I tell you all. All of
the time, people cause their own drama, their own self inflicted pain,
by what they open themselves up to, by what they go along with,
by what they allow an accept from their significant others and other people. People
know exactly how they can treat you. They know because you show them.
I've said it so many times. If you act the weak, that's how
they're gonna treat you like you don't know nothing. You dumb yourself down.
People do it all of the time. It don't help you at all.
It won't make him or her love you any more. It really does not
matter of fact. Sometimes they respect you even less because you allow them to
treat you any kind of way. They respect you even less because they know
that they can walk all over you. People don't really respect individuals who allow
them to walk all over them. They really don't. And if you allow
them someone to walk all over you, just think about it. Think about
it. If you're in a relationship with someone and they're walking all over you,
that is your sign, my friend, that is your red flag something
that's wrong with him or her. They have unresolved issues too. Oh my
goodness. People keep getting into relationships with individuals who are like them unresolved issues,
have not dealt with what ails them, have not dealt with their inner
selves. And anytime you do not, or you have not, You're gonna
have troubles in your life. You're gonna have a lot of problems in your
life because you're gonna have your significant others to contend with, and then other
people because just as your significant others see the vulnerability in you, so will
others. So will others, and guess what, more than likely you will
let them mistreat you too. I see it every day on the job,
every day, because of my job, I see it every day, and
I'm like, oh my goodness, I have to hear it up and retire
again. Because when you see people just let folks walk all over them,
or you see those individuals that every single thing, every single thing is a
conflict. Everything You're like, oh my goodness, but it all comes from
that unresolved inside. You know. I'll be thinking, wow, how people
on the jobs, they come up with all types of things, training for
this, training for that, this program, that program. None of it
works because it don't change anyone. It does not even give people the motivation
to change. It's just check the box. It takes some true substance,
things that truly permeate inside deep, that make people think about self. To
foster change, people have to really think about self, who they really are,
what they have allowed themselves to become. That's what fosters change when people
really start realizing how they are, when they begin to think outside of the
box. As long as you go through life carrying all of your baggage,
showing your vulnerability to your significant others and other people, they're gonna treat you
like you the weakest looking and it's unfortunate, it's sad, but it's true.
I cannot tell you how many people I've ran across in my lifetime that
I instantly see their vulnerability, instantly see how people around them treat them.
Because people open themselves up to it. That's why I always talk about self
inflicted pain. These are the things that I'm talking about. When you go
through life being vulnerable, acting weak, that's exactly how you're going to be
treated, helpless and weak because that is what you are projected out to others.
And your significant other is not exemptle he or she will mistreat you too
because they have their own unresolved issues like minds, two broken people, blind
leading the blind. That is what most people deal with. That's why most
relationships and yes, I said most, and I will stand on it.
Most relationships are one sided. Most relationships are couples who are unhappy. Makes
no sense to me. I understand, I get it because I know people,
But makes no sense to me. People will treat you exactly how you
have shown them they can treat you. That includes your so called significant other.
They are not exempt. They will do it as well. The ones
you love the most is the ones who normally will hurt you the most.
All of the negativity, all of the distorted ways of thinking, delusional ways
of thinking, It comes from that unresolved inside. Like I always say,
it takes the inside the work. You gotta get it together in order for
your outside world to function. Properly, or you to function properly in your
outside world. And that's all I'm gonna say. It's all about what you
want in your life. Do you want to be better? Do you want
to change? Because you cannot have a change by remaining the same. You
cannot have a change by doing the same things. You must do something different,
a better way if you want to become better, if you want better
in your life. But that's up to you. If you have questions,
concerns, reach out to me. I am so willing to give you some
guidance. Reach out to me. Don't hesitate. Go to my podcast page.
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Much love to you, you and you from my heart to yours with
sincerity, much much love. I appreciate you so much. You know I
end every single episode the same because I'm really hope and pray that you do
it, think on it.