I was a little bit annoyed. I like, you know, I love
the Minnesota State Fair. I do. I love it. Yeah, I
love the Minnesota State Fair. It is part of our culture and I love
it and my go and we spend days at the fair and broadcast. But
they did a State Fair preview I think yesterday or the day before, and
they opened up some booth, they open up the giant slide, and it's
like, no, I do not want to think about the State Fair when
it's still May. Yeah, it's kind of like Christmas decorations going up in
July. I don't. I love Christmas. Everybody loves Christmas. I love
the State Fair. I don't want to see my friends posting themselves on the
giant slide with a fucking corn dog in their hand. I don't want to
see it. I don't. I don't. I love you, State Fair,
but I don't want I love my wife, but I don't want to
see her. I don't want to see her until State Fair time. Just
what do you think? Am I wrong about that one? Okay? There
we go. Well I didn't see anyone post about it, so it didn't
bother me. Okay, I always thought a few I mean, you know,
Chris Shaffer, who's a buddy of mine. So media people, yeah,
media people, yeah. But I think there were some other people that
went to Okay, that's kind of a group therapy ish kind of one.
So I'm gonna skip past that one and go up to some unread Minnesota goodbyes
and see what we have. Here's one sets Father's Day. Hello, my
favorite morning show weird question. I somewhat recently started dating a guy with a
kid. I have not met the kid, nor do I think it'll happen
in the near future. It is necessary to get my boyfriend a Father's Day
gift, or do I wish? I'm happy Father's Day. We've been dating
for five months, but a situation is a bit dicey, so we don't
talk about it often. I just don't know what the proper etiquette is in
this situation. Any advice is greatly appreciated. That is from Aaron. I
say you can get either way, is correct? I'd say no, only
because you haven't met the kid. And if you say it's kind of dicey,
you don't even talk about that often. No, Once you become like
more integrated in the life and he and maybe you see the kid than yes,
I would say so because the X probably won't get him anything. And
it's nice like I would get stuff for like a card and like a pair
of socks or something very early on for Dylan to give Jake just we had
something little together. Yea. Yeah. But and I've even given Dylan like
a card, I'm like a gift card for Starbucks to give his mom for
Mother's Day. But now he's old enough that he can like sometimes grab his
own stuff. Yeah. I think as a father, I would not be
offended if you did or did not. So if you gave me a card
and gave me like a you know, a Chipotle gift card, I'd be
like, oh, that's cool, thank you very much. But if you
did not, I would be you know, as a father, I would
be like, either way, I like you, not for your gifts,
but for you hopefully. Hello Dave Thalon Jenny Drake, been loving your show
for the longest time. But let's dive in. Okay. The listener that
wrote in to ask if it was okay for her to ask someone to throw
her a sprinkle for baby number two, No way. Kids are expensive.
So when I got pregnant. The second time around, we found out it
was two wins. Oh God, I guess what. We still bought everything
we needed at times too, because it's our responsibility to My sister in law
did do a diaper shower for us. It was done virtually. People sent
diapers via Target or Amazon, but that was all and we didn't ask for
it. She volunteered, so we accepted because with twins there is that extra
overwhelmed factor that I think people understand. So it was nice to not have
to buy diapers for the first six months of their lives. Life is expensive,
daycare is expensive. We don't go to restaurants, we don't take vacations,
we buy secondhand, and we live simply. So I think you know,
there is another gentle answer to the person who asked whether it was okay
if she requested a sprinkle a baby sprinkle. Yeah, I was not going
to dave about that. I'm like, I don't want to go in on
this girl because you're she If she emailed the Minnesota Goodbye, that means she
listens and is a big enough and listen to our podcast, and I'm like,
I want to be respectful of her, Like I hope I don't know.
It bothered me a little bit yesterday I was like, I hope I
didn't come across and hurt her feelings. I hope, Like, I hope
I didn't know. I say that all the time because I think that I'm
the biggest listener advocate that you're going to find in radio, because I think
I used to be a radio fan I still am, and a lot of
radio people treat radio people listeners as a number or a nuisance even and that
really pisses me off. To me, people who listen are people, and
I always have said if people care enough to email the show, they absolutely
are big fans. Next one, I'm a pediatric sleep consultant, so I
have to add. So I have to add for all the moms out there
expecting number two with a toddler, do not kick your toddler out of their
crib just because another baby is coming along. For the headache you cause yourself,
you will wish you just purchase another crib. This is not a good
enough reason to put it toddler into a big bed, big kid bed before
they are development able to understand the freedom of it. Plus, a new
sibling tends to trigger a sleep regression for toddlers. You don't want to be
dealing with that on top of trying to keep them in their toddler bed.
Remember your baby will be in a bassinette for the first few months. Anyway,
borrow a crib from a friend. Gets something cheap, It doesn't need
to be pinterest worthy. I give this advice to my clients all the time.
Keep them in a crib as long as possible, ideally until age three.
Okay, that's all I've got. Have a great day, Steph.
I really I think that's so interesting because it comes up on the show recurring
kids that want to sleep with parents, and I think it maybe it starts
when you put them in a toddler bed. Now they have the freedom to
get in and out of the bed, They're going to come to you and
want to sleep with you. Maybe our kids never slept with us, but
I know somebody in my family that's slept with his mom and dad or his
sister until he was eleven years old. I don't know if Olive is first
of all all of I think, is too scared to leave her room.
Okay, so we watch her on the monitor. Sometimes she will get out
of bed and we're like, where did she go? But she just went
to get a book off the bookshelf and then she comes back to her bed.
She doesn't leave her room, and we're lucky. That's that's a good
kid that's unusually doesn't well. I honestly think it's because so we don't have
a basement. We have one of those houses where we don't have an upstairs
like you. I don't know what's it called, like a walk out kind
of floor. Yeah, I don't know. So it's not technically a level.
I don't know. Yeah, maybe it's technically because it's a rambler.
So it's there's no upstairs and like you do go downstairs from the main floor,
but the downstairs is on ground level. Yeah, on ground level,
So all of bedroom is on ground level. But anyway, it's still dark
because I think she's scared to like leave her room to come find us.
Honestly, it could be is she on a floor that's different from your floor?
Yeah? See, now that's weird to me. And I'm not faulting
anybody. I'm just saying that's weird to me because and I know with a
baby bonneit or it doesn't make much difference. But I've always had my kids
just across the hallway from me, and that's very comforting. And when I
was a kid, my mom and dad were down the hall from me.
But I like, Okay, we've expired that topic. Let's move on,
Hello, says Nicole. I was listening to the Minnesota Goodbye episode where Dave
talked about advocating for talking about mental strength, and that was a couple of
days ago. I said, you know, mental health is so important.
Work on your mental strength. And I said, this is not something I
read somewhere. I came up with it myself because I think that it's important
to the same way we take care of our body and train and work on
bone density and muscle strength and fitness and cardio, to work on your mental
strength and whatever that is to you. I completely agree. There have been
many struggles I've encountered in life that have put me in a depressed mood.
I had my pity party for one and moved on. I continued to move
on by using my mental strength. It has put me in a better position
to be a better mom for my kids as well. I started to go
for a walk or worked out or even something as easy as going outside.
I too believe we all have it in us. I try to look for
positives in my life instead of focusing on the bad things that I am going
through at that moment. Love your show from Nicole. Yeah, some people
agree with us, Nicole, and some people don't. And that's you're right,
because I can't say this is what should work for everybody. If it
was that, then everyone would do it, you know, if it was
like that easy for everyone, right, So thank you. Let's move on
to the next one. This one again it goes on to and we don't
want to put this woman on blast. So if you're listening, I hope
you understand these are just people's opinions about your question, not an opinion about
you, So don't take this personally about the baby sprinkle. Falon, I
want to say you're completely right in your opinion regards to the baby sprinkle.
I had this same reaction. Congrats to the emailer for having another kid.
That's exciting, but you should not worry about being ripped for it, fallon
as many of us are struggling and have chosen to not have another kid due
to not being able to afford it. I feel like many will agree with
you. Have a wonderful Memorial Day weekend off to you all. That is
from Melissa. Yeah, and I think I will only say that. You
know, maybe it's she might not have had that baby on purpose, she
might have thought that in her cycle that she was not going to have a
baby at that time, or sure her birth control might have failed, or
you know, you never know, so but I yeah, okay. Last
one David fallon regarding mental strength, You don't know how you will truly behave
or act in a situation until you're in one. I went through a cancer.
I went through cancer a few years ago, and I'm doing well.
This sounds cliche, but I was strong because there wasn't any option and I
had a mostly positive attitude about it. That doesn't mean it wasn't what I
thought it would be. That doesn't mean it wasn't what I thought would be
the most difficult stage in my life. Fast forward two years post cancer,
my husband and I fifteen years together, hit an extremely rough patch. It
got so bad I started looking for apartments. I was extremely depressed and was
to the point of considering suicide. Oh my gosh, I knew I wasn't
in the right frame of mind, and I reminded myself that I didn't fight
hard to beat my cancer to have this be my outcome. I received help,
and my husband and I eventually worked things out. When I think about
my major struggles and mental strength, I would say the source of the stress
is a major factor, and while you can be mentally strong in one struggle,
you may need more help in the other. I totally agree peanut allergy
post on Facebook, get a Life. I'm not sure what she's referring to,
but I think she's making a joke about if people get so offended and
say they're depressed because you posted something about like peanuts and they have a peanut
allergy. Oh, okay, gotcha, Okay, thanks for real struggles.
You need a positive, an effective coping mechanism, and mental strength. Always
please seek help if you need it. And her name is Betty, and
Betty I love that name because that was Susan's mom's name. But I say
you really hit something because while you were able to mentally handle your cancer battle,
which seemingly would be the most difficult, yeah, the relationship battle was
the one that almost puts you over the edge. Isn't that interesting because for
example, I mean some people, I'll pick out a random life crisis if
you if your dog gets hit by a car and that's your dog, and
that might put somebody over the edge. But somebody else might you know,
have to have heart surgery and they'll have a really good attitude and everything's going
to be different, you know what I mean. Right, So that's a
really good point, Betty, thanks for bringing that up. And that is
it? Anything else you want to talk about? Fallon? No? I
think, have a great holiday weekend. And next week is the thousandth episode
of Minnesota Goodbye. I'm a little bummed because I won't be here for it,
but enjoy I think next Wednesday or Thursday. So that's crazy. Thank
you for listening. Send those emails to Ryan's show at KDWB dot com,
and have a good weekend.