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Hey, hey, I'm back.
Listen. I heard some man, I

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don't know who you was, but
I heard some man talk about there is

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no way men and women can be
friends, just platonic friends. I talked

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about this on one of my episodes
before. It's been a few years ago,

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so after hearing someone talk about it
on their YouTube channel, I wanted

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to come back and talk about it
again since it's been a while. I

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just hate when people put out bad
information or information that's not true, because

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men and women can definitely be in
a relationship without anything happening. They can

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be individuals who have a platonic relationship, even if it's someone that you've previously

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been in a relationship with. When
it's over, it's over. You don't

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go and rehash old feelings. That's
immature people. I mean, it's ridiculous

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to believe a man and a woman
cannot have a platonic relationship. It is

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ridiculous to believe that any person who
feel that a man and woman cannot have

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a platonic relationship, you have some
maturing to do. You definitely have some

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growing to do, because they most
certainly can, They most certainly can.

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It's very possible I'm a witness.
I'm living proof. I have several male

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friends. I have one male friend. We go on vacations together. We

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sleep in the same hotel room because
he's single. I'm single. But and

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I think I even mentioned this before
on one of my episodes. But he

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knows that there's boundaries. I know
that there are boundaries. We're not trying

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to push up on each other.
We respect one another. We respect the

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boundaries between us. We go on
vacations together because we're both single and there's

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things we want to do, so
we do them together sometimes occasionally, and

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we have a good time. And
I'll tell him in a minute, you

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know, if you see someone he
kind of you know, I'm like,

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hey, he's not my man,
you know. I want them to know

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he's available with no qualms about it. So I'm telling you one, it's

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possible. And this guy also said
that on his YouTube channel. He also

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said that I don't care what anyone
says. Although a man may not say

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it, he's still thinking he want
to get, you know, with that

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woman. I just maybe I'm the
sucker. Maybe I'm the person who who

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does not get it. Because I
firmly believe there are other people in the

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world like me. I'm not the
only one. I'm not the only mature

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person in the world. There are
mature men and women. I've had men

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to come to stay at my house
that I've been in relationship with before,

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well a man, not men,
but a man. But he knew before

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coming that it's not that type of
party. He know that that's old news,

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and he understands that our relationship is
not that way anymore. There never

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will be. We don't talk about
that. We don't reminisence about that.

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Nothing. We just talk like friends. We don't get into well you remember

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this. No, we don't dig
up old stuff. I know I'm not

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the only one. It is possible
when people have matured beyond the way they

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used to be, it is possible. It is very possible. It takes

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a mature mind, a mature individual, two people who have matured beyond their

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mess that they used to be in. When people mature and they have come

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to be individuals who are better,
they can do anything. When you have

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boundaries, when you have self respect
and understanding, when you know who you

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are as an individual, it is
possible. People stop believing that every man

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is a dog. Stop characterizing yourself
as a dog. Just because you feel

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that way does not mean every man
feel that way. I just don't believe

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it. There are men who have
women that they really love and all they

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want is that woman. They gun
and sown their wild oaks, and they

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don't want to do that kind of
thing anymore. They have matured and they

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are happy with who they are with. There are men in this world who

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are not just thinking about getting into
bed with some woman and vice versa.

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It irritates me that people are so
shallow minded that all they think about is

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flesh. No matter how much the
flesh gets people into trouble, you still

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have those immature people that that's all
they think about. Boo. Just because

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you think like that does not mean
everyone thinks that way. Every man don't

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think like you. Not all many, but not all. There are a

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few good ones out there. I'm
a woman and I'm saying it. I

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know there is more than just me
who feel this way. I believe there

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are men who feel this way.
I know good men I have very close

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relationships with, for me and for
different men that I've known since my children

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were like three and four years old. For many years, my best male

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friend I've known since I was fifteen
and he was sixteen, So I know

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it's possible for a fact, for
a fact, and I'm not naive.

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I know a lot of people do, and I know a lot of people

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can't be friends because they are thinking
about other things. But when you've matured

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past that flesh, I'm telling you
it is possible. Oh, very possible,

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very possible. The person that I
was talking about that came to my

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house because he wanted to visit me, he knew before he got there the

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way things were going to go,
and he accepted it because he too have

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matured and he respects me. So
he came into town, spent the night

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in everything, but it was like
we never were in a relationship before.

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So it is possible. People.
Maybe I'm just a unique woman. My

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focus is the Lord. It's not
on trying to be with a man.

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It's not about the flesh. Not
to me, it's not. And I

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know there are men who have mature
past that as well. But for someone

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to get on a YouTube saying all
men there is not one man. You

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don't know every man. I'm sure
you know plenty who are just like you,

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but you don't know every man,
and it's wrong to put every man

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in the same category because every man
is not the same, just like every

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woman is not the same. So
many people in this world are immature.

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They think they are mature, but
just because they are adults, they think

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they are mature. But they're so
immature. They are so far behind what

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they think they are, so far
they're still thinking with their flesh, meaning

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they're still chasing, chasing, chasing
after their flesh. That's all they think

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about, with what's in between their
legs and not what is in between their

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ears. That's all they think about. Married and single. That's in maturity,

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That's what that is. That's drawn
people who have not matured. That's

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all it is. But when you
get to a point in life where hey,

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you've you've done, You've done what
you've wanted to do, and plenty

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of it, and you realize it's
not everything. It's not It is not

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everything all. Once upon a time
I thought it was it. You couldn't

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tell me it wasn't it. But
I don't think like that anymore because I

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know it isn't. Without a doubt
in my mind, I know it is

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not. And when you love the
Lord and when you love yourself, you

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will know it too. It don't
mean to you what it used to mean

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to you. And I know I
may sound crazy to a whole lot of

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people, but that's fine. I
know you don't get it, and I

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also know that you have not matured
to that level yet. That's why you

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can't fantom the thought that people can
mature past wanting sex all the time,

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making sex everything to them. When
you understand who you are and you have

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a true relationship with God and you
truly love yourself, you see things differently.

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You see things totally differently. Immature
men and women. I'm not saying

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nothing negative. I'm just saying there
are immature men and women. I'm not

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calling them bad people. I'm just
saying they are immature. They have not

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matured past their flesh. All they
say is the superficial Men and women are

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seeking the same things. Mature men
and mature women are seeking similar things.

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People think men want this and that
and women don't. Immature women want the

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same thing. They want the same
things. Trust and believe. Be foolish

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if you want to and think that, be foolish and think that men are

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all dogs but women are not.
Be foolish and think that there are immature

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women. There are women out there
who want it more than any man.

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There are women out there who cheat
more than any man. Society, have

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you all bamboozled? I mean fooled
big time? And seriously, I just

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shake my head because I know it's
a lie. It's not just men,

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it's immature men and immature women,
and men have been given a bad rap

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forever when women are just as bad. That's worse because women have a way

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of doing things and you will never
know when me and all they ever do

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is show their hand. Society,
have you all bomboozled? And I wanted

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to get on here and talk about
it because it's sad. It's unfair and

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it's foolish to put all men in
the same category, just like it is

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to put all women in the same
category, stereotyping, giving false narratives.

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It's just not right because it's not
true you fit that category. But that

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don't mean all men fit that category. It does not mean all men are

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in the same boat. That does
not just because you're still thinking like that,

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feeling that way, acting that way, don't mean every man is Because

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like I said, I have several
male friends, and I mean we've been

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friends thirty and up years. My
best male friend we've been friends for forty

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about forty forty one years. So
I mean, it's no lie, it's

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no I mean exaggeration, none of
that. It's one hundred truth. That's

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why I know it's possible without a
shadow of a doubt. And hey,

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you have the right to think how
you please, but I guarantee you society

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have bamboozled you for years and years
and years about men and women and many

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other things, many other things,
plenty of other things, but especially concerning

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men. Men have a bad rap
because of society, when women are just

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as bad and oftentimes worse, we
just do it a different way. But

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again, I'm speaking of immature men
and women. Mature men and women don't

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think like that, don't act like
that. And I believe that because I'm

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one and I know several and I'm
sticking and stand with it. I'm standing

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on it because I know it's a
fact. But you can believe what you

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want to believe is your right.
I mean, you can see someone and

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be you know, thinking to yourself, that's a nice looking man, or

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you as a man, you could
say that's a nice looking woman without wanting

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to jump in bed with him or
her. I mean, geez, If

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you cannot look at a male or
female without wanting to jump in bed with

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him or without wanting to just have
to have it, something is wrong with

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you. Something is wrong with you. You have the wrong way of thinking.

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You definitely have some maturity to do, definitely without a doubt, without

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of doubt. And it's a sorry
situation to have to go through life like

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that, getting older but not maturing, not becoming better, still thinking the

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same old, nasty way. I
mean, it's but there are plenty people

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who are like that, plenty again. I just wanted to address this because

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I heard it yesterday and I was
like, oh, I was grinding my

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teeth because it's so ridiculous, and
he was just so suring him of himself,

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And to me, that's putting out
bad information. Just because you can't

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do it does not mean the next
person can't do it. Just because you

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don't believe it does not mean it's
not true. Stop falling into the trap

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the societies around the world have set. Because they've set plenty people are so

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brainwashed and bamboozo people are so oppressed
because of societies. When what is society's

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made up of people? Broken?
People? Broken people telling you how you

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should look, what you should eat, how you should go through life.

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You should be married with the white
picking fenc and two kids. You should

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have this in that title. You
should be this small or this big.

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Your skin should be this light or
that dark. Your hair should be this

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long, your eyes should be this
color. I mean, brokenness doesn't discriminate,

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So stop believing what's not true,
because it definitely is not true.

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Some men and women can definitely have
a platonic relationship innocent. Every man that

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a woman see does not mean she
want him. Every woman that a man

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sees does not mean he want her. Not every man a lot, but

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not everyone, not every woman,
every last one of us, every single

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one of us have the opportunity to
become better, have an opportunity to grow

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and mature, but most people don't
because they stay stuck in the same stagnant

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mindset, thinking the same, feeling
the same, acting the same. And

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I know people who are well in
their sixties still have the same mindset.

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It's almost pathetic to see people get
that old and older still doing the same

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things. Chasing women, chasing men, peer of shame, peer of shame.

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So again, before I go,
just because you can't do it,

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don't mean the next. And that's
all I'm saying. You believe what you

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want to believe. However you want
to believe is your life. I'm leaving

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