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Welcome to for crying out. Hello, Happy Friday, 11 00:00:57,479 --> 00:01:03,840 Happy Friday. It's Friday. Yy. This brings me back to old 12 00:01:03,959 --> 00:01:11,519 old episodes. Yes, where that literal Friday? It's Friday. It was 13 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:15,040 popular. We're making fun of it. Yep, Frida, it's the weekend. 14 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:22,280 Uh. You know. I sometimes when I leave Phil alone, I'll 15 00:01:22,280 --> 00:01:26,920 put the TV on so that he feels like he's got company and I don't 16 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:30,799 know if you've seen this on Netflix. They have the Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders. 17 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:34,879 I cannot wait to watch this. It's so good. Everyone's saying how good 18 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:40,599 it is. It's so good, And so I left it for Phil to 19 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:44,480 watch because it just goes to the next episode, next episode. But yeah, 20 00:01:44,519 --> 00:01:46,599 I watched it. You haven't seen it yet. It's well, Phil 21 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:49,280 loves like hot ladies, that's what I thought. Yeah, I thought, 22 00:01:49,439 --> 00:01:51,439 you know, us a lot of pom poms, a lot of things to 23 00:01:51,519 --> 00:01:55,439 love. Phil loves like American Idol. So Phil loves those kind of reality 24 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:59,640 shows where people get eliminated. Yeah, he prefers like the competition type shows. 25 00:01:59,719 --> 00:02:04,359 Yeah. Yeah, it's really good. It's really good. It's so 26 00:02:04,519 --> 00:02:08,599 good that I looked up because they would show like flashbacks of when somebody got 27 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:13,560 cut, and I was like, what, why is there flash I thought, 28 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:15,439 you know, so then I looked it up. It's they have twelve 29 00:02:15,479 --> 00:02:20,879 seasons of the show. What, yes, they just go from year to 30 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:24,199 year of tryouts, and well, how did it just suddenly get popular now 31 00:02:24,319 --> 00:02:29,840 because it's on the Netflix. I don't understand. I mean, I guess 32 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:32,360 what they did is they did because I looked at the TV show version and 33 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:38,000 it's like cheesy and they don't play the music like on the Netflix version. 34 00:02:38,039 --> 00:02:44,599 You hear the ACDC Thunderstrike song, Thunderstruck song, and like on the shell, 35 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:46,879 you know, it's all like, you know, just fake music, 36 00:02:47,039 --> 00:02:53,479 you know, like maybe some real songs, you know, but nothing good. 37 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:55,960 So anyway, and it wasn't shot the way it's shot it was. 38 00:02:57,120 --> 00:03:01,199 This Netflix version is completely different. It's so different. It shot really well, 39 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:07,039 like a documentary style with the real music, you know, and it's 40 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:09,680 it's really good. And they show, you know, veteran like the women 41 00:03:09,719 --> 00:03:15,159 from the year before still have to try out. They have like you know, 42 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:20,080 hundreds of people try out or whatever. Then once they even make it 43 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:23,919 to training camp, the training camps like two months long, eight weeks and 44 00:03:24,439 --> 00:03:30,360 they still can still cut you. You could even get fitted in your uniform, 45 00:03:30,759 --> 00:03:34,520 get your boots fitted for your foot, and they still cut you. 46 00:03:34,879 --> 00:03:38,439 They can still cut you. Well, do you remember, I mean in 47 00:03:38,479 --> 00:03:42,039 the eighties, I think it was the eighties, there was that making of 48 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:45,759 the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. There was that they there was they had a show 49 00:03:45,879 --> 00:03:47,759 or it was a special or it was I don't remember, but it was 50 00:03:47,759 --> 00:03:52,400 super popular. Yes, and they talked a lot about the weight, like 51 00:03:52,479 --> 00:03:53,759 their weight, they had to be a certain weight. I'm sure they don't 52 00:03:53,759 --> 00:03:59,280 do that anymore. No, No, I mean I don't remember them saying 53 00:03:59,280 --> 00:04:03,159 anything in that, Like if you're working out the way these women are doing. 54 00:04:03,199 --> 00:04:06,840 I mean they're going, going, going every single day, just long 55 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:11,919 hours. And they have real jobs too. One of them is a uh, 56 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:15,360 you know, a dentist during the day, yes, and then they 57 00:04:15,519 --> 00:04:19,839 they go and you know, do rehearsals and tryouts at night. So you 58 00:04:19,879 --> 00:04:25,040 know, they they have jobs, but they have to because they don't get 59 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:27,639 paid very much, right, right, right, they don't get paid very 60 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,480 much. But yeah, so it's it's really good. It's interesting. I 61 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:33,839 want to start that today. Yeah, it's good. Highly recommend it. 62 00:04:34,079 --> 00:04:41,480 I really like low brow TV. I know, I like it. I 63 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:45,319 like both. I was like, oh, I finally watched Presume Innocent. 64 00:04:46,319 --> 00:04:48,720 Did you have seen it? I don't think so. You haven't seen it 65 00:04:48,759 --> 00:04:54,959 with Jake Jillenhall. No, I so good. Okay, is it a 66 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:59,519 movie TV show? It's the TV shows, Like I think it's six or 67 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:03,959 eight episod there's already like five almost six episodes out. I gotta start. 68 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:10,279 I gotta write this down. Jesus all right, presumed, and I said, 69 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:14,240 yes, Caitlin, you were watching it, weren't you. I watched 70 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:16,720 one. No, I watched about like twenty minutes of the first episode, 71 00:05:17,439 --> 00:05:21,040 and you didn't like it. Amy really wants to watch it. It's good, 72 00:05:21,079 --> 00:05:25,319 so I don't want to watch it without her, And yeah, I 73 00:05:25,480 --> 00:05:28,480 wasn't super. I have plenty of other things to watch at the moment, 74 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:30,879 so it's not sci fi for him. Yeah, it's good. It's really 75 00:05:30,879 --> 00:05:36,519 good. So the other day, yesterday, I had some people over to 76 00:05:38,639 --> 00:05:43,759 write postcards political, you know, to get out the vote yet because I'm 77 00:05:43,759 --> 00:05:47,079 a really good person and want people to have voting rights. So I had 78 00:05:47,079 --> 00:05:51,480 some people over and they were more intellectual than me. Let's just say, 79 00:05:51,519 --> 00:05:56,120 they're talking about shows, and I just was wishing to be like sitting with 80 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:59,680 you guys, because they kept saying shows that they were like, ah, 81 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:02,800 the Sympathizer, have you seen that show? And I was like turning the 82 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:08,720 war, but there was I'm sure The Sympathizer is a good show. They 83 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:12,079 were just like harder shows. And then even one of them was like she 84 00:06:12,199 --> 00:06:15,439 was like, you got to watch the show. It's a British show. 85 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:18,879 And I'm like, I'm out, you know, but it was it sounded 86 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:21,800 good. It was about dog shows, but it was like a British show, 87 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:26,199 and I'm like and then and then she's like, I mean they do 88 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:30,279 all those shows better, like the British Baby or whatever, like, yeah, 89 00:06:30,319 --> 00:06:34,360 they do. I like the like BBC channels stuff like some movies and 90 00:06:34,399 --> 00:06:40,720 stuff TV shows that have come out. But I'm like presumed innocent. I'm 91 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:44,120 like Jake Jillenhall, Yes, okay, you already got me. I'm in 92 00:06:44,199 --> 00:06:46,560 on that. You know. It's like reading books. It's like, you 93 00:06:46,879 --> 00:06:51,519 know, there's it's historical fiction. No thanks, you know, I'm like 94 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:55,879 you that sounds up my alley, the Carolyn Kepness book. You know. 95 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:59,600 I'm like, oh, there's a murder, yes please, But like reality, 96 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:06,800 yes, historical fiction, there's no cell phones, no thanks. I'm 97 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:14,399 sorry, I'm not I'm not no real weight. You're saying there's no Real 98 00:07:14,439 --> 00:07:20,240 Housewives in it. If he's not hosting the reunion of it, I know. 99 00:07:20,279 --> 00:07:24,759 And then I feel bad and I'm like I need to widen my horizons. 100 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:28,639 But you know, there's so much competition for our attention these days that 101 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:32,240 if I start watching something, I will forget about it right away. Yeah. 102 00:07:32,959 --> 00:07:38,480 Yeah, something that John and I were Oh, what's that one that 103 00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:45,560 was with the Madmen era? And it was with I want to say somebody 104 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:46,920 from Saturday Night, Like, okay, now I'm going to forget a TV 105 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:51,519 show or a movie. It was. It was a streaming show called and 106 00:07:51,600 --> 00:07:56,800 it took place it was like Vegas in the seventies, I want to say 107 00:07:56,839 --> 00:08:00,959 her sixties. It's like felt like very mad Men. And it was supposed 108 00:08:00,959 --> 00:08:03,279 to be funny. I was supposed to be funny. You know what. 109 00:08:03,639 --> 00:08:07,199 You might have to edit this out because I'm gonna have to ask John what 110 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:11,120 it was. But anyway, okay, John and I were both it was 111 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:13,560 at the Postcards thing and they're like, oh, did you see such and 112 00:08:13,639 --> 00:08:16,800 such a show? And John and I were both like, yeah, we 113 00:08:16,839 --> 00:08:20,160 watched an episode of it, and then I lost interest in episode. Even 114 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:24,240 though it's supposed to be buess in the seventies, I would be into. 115 00:08:24,079 --> 00:08:31,519 Yeah. It was with name some female people from SNL that are not on 116 00:08:31,639 --> 00:08:33,080 anymore that were the biggest, the biggest, No, no, no, 117 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:37,120 the biggest ones from recent Yeah, oh my god, you might have to. 118 00:08:37,159 --> 00:08:39,919 Oh, I know what you're talking about on Apple TV. Yes, 119 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:48,440 and it's the She's from Bridesmaid Her Yes, yes, Royale something Royale that 120 00:08:48,799 --> 00:08:54,399 Yeah, no it but I could see the yes, yeah it is. 121 00:08:56,120 --> 00:09:00,759 Yeah, a lot of people screaming at what's her name? But what so? 122 00:09:00,879 --> 00:09:09,120 What's her name? Hellen knows the owner? Why can't I think of 123 00:09:09,120 --> 00:09:13,159 her name? What is wrong with my brain? I love her and I 124 00:09:13,159 --> 00:09:16,679 didn't even realize, like because I never really watched Their Night Live that when 125 00:09:16,799 --> 00:09:20,639 I mean when the movie first came out, Like, yeah, I I 126 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:24,559 never watched it. I just watched Preston Kristen Weston Wig. Yeah. Yeah, 127 00:09:24,759 --> 00:09:28,200 she's so you think it has a lot of things that would make us 128 00:09:28,519 --> 00:09:33,320 like that show, but I couldn't get into it. Oh you didn't like 129 00:09:33,399 --> 00:09:35,759 it? Did you watch the whole thing? No? I never watched it. 130 00:09:35,919 --> 00:09:39,559 Oh I was gonna watch it, but no, I just didn't. 131 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:43,639 I was just like on board, but we liked White House Plumbers. Yes, 132 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,600 that was good. I like history stuff. If they it needs to 133 00:09:46,639 --> 00:09:50,399 be really dramatized and kind of dumbed down for me. Yeah, so that 134 00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:54,799 I can get it like I like learn, like I like a podcast that's 135 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:58,279 you know where you learned? Right? Yeah, but it just can't. 136 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:01,960 It can't be like medicine. It has to make it fun and interesting. 137 00:10:03,039 --> 00:10:07,519 I agree. I don't know as opposed to other people that like, no, 138 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:11,759 I only like stuff that's real, boring, real dry, like just 139 00:10:11,879 --> 00:10:16,399 not acted, just like droning on, like those old films that you'd watch 140 00:10:16,399 --> 00:10:22,159 in school, remember when into high school, in junior high they would have 141 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:24,559 You would think you're getting excited because they're gonna be showing us a film, 142 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:31,200 yes, and then it would just be so the rocks that are that reside 143 00:10:31,279 --> 00:10:35,039 in the Sahara Desert are made of three layers of and you'd be like, 144 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:39,240 oh, he's supposed to stay awake doing that. All kids supposed to stay 145 00:10:39,279 --> 00:10:43,600 awake. They're tired, last thing when them. I know, my science 146 00:10:43,639 --> 00:10:48,480 teacher used to shows films all the time. Everybody like as soon it was 147 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:52,639 over, like everybody had their head down asleep, drooling asleep, and he 148 00:10:52,679 --> 00:10:56,360 would just not pay attention to anybody sleep and you just get up and start 149 00:10:56,399 --> 00:11:01,080 talking. And science teachers were always like one. When I was growing up, 150 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:05,960 I could picture my His name was Oscar at my Magnet school, and 151 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:09,360 he just looked like this crazy science guy and he just never paid it to 152 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:13,440 Everybody would just go to his class to sleep, and he didn't care. 153 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:16,240 You would just talk. Everybody's head would be down, one person might be 154 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:22,440 up listening, and he would just continue talking. But yeah, so my 155 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:28,200 kids bio class ninth grade. Bio was impossible. And he would make these 156 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:33,639 videos himself. He was like doing a big favor to the class. He 157 00:11:33,639 --> 00:11:37,879 would make these videos and they were so boring, and I would try to 158 00:11:37,919 --> 00:11:41,039 help the kids. They would dread it every time, and they would have 159 00:11:41,159 --> 00:11:43,919 a bunch of them throughout the week and they'd be like thirty minutes and then 160 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:46,879 he would stop them in the middle, like he'd give you, you know, 161 00:11:48,039 --> 00:11:50,120 Okay, we're going to talk about the different tundra. I don't know 162 00:11:50,159 --> 00:11:54,000 the different you know, there's seven different I don't know what they are, 163 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:58,279 but something's like the tundra. There's like the frozen tundra, and then there's 164 00:11:58,279 --> 00:12:03,720 like the desert. What do you call the ecosystems whatever. Anyway, they'd 165 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:05,240 be like, okay, now we're going to talk about the frozen tundra. 166 00:12:05,279 --> 00:12:09,639 And then it would be like the one of the qualities of the frozen tundra, 167 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:13,639 and I'm like, and Xander's like, mom, you got to help 168 00:12:13,679 --> 00:12:18,440 me with this, and then you would stop it and go is the frozen 169 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:22,279 tundra? And then there'd be a multiple choice question and half the time I'm 170 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:26,240 like, I don't fucking know. But even though I was, even if 171 00:12:26,279 --> 00:12:28,639 I was paying attention, sometimes the answer wouldn't have even been there. Yeah 172 00:12:30,039 --> 00:12:33,080 yeah, And it was like a trick question, right, come on, 173 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:39,919 come on, I know. I'm just saying it's not even googleable, like 174 00:12:39,080 --> 00:12:45,519 it was terrible over with, like done, yeah, done, no more 175 00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:50,320 homework with the homework. And then also now I'm getting like, but now 176 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:54,879 I'm sad because I'm getting like emails from the school, like you know, 177 00:12:54,879 --> 00:12:58,759 just like little text here and there about summer programs and stuff. And I'm 178 00:12:58,799 --> 00:13:03,039 like, and I was with Suzanne over the weekend her daughter's the same age 179 00:13:03,080 --> 00:13:05,639 as my kids, and she's like, oh, you just got to unsubscribe, 180 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:09,440 and I'm like, I don't know if I want to unsubscribe, Like 181 00:13:09,519 --> 00:13:13,000 it's sad. They still get emails about Natalia's volleyball career and stuff. And 182 00:13:13,039 --> 00:13:18,120 I'm like, yeah, that ship sailed. She doesn't ever want to play 183 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:24,639 volleyball again. No, she she did it up until uh basically half of 184 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:28,519 eight eleventh grade, and then it was done and she didn't want to do 185 00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:33,320 it anymore. But like at Santa Barbara, they probably have what do you 186 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:39,120 call it when there's sports within like just within the school intramural and maybe I 187 00:13:39,159 --> 00:13:45,080 guess sports. Yes, she's not as competitive as you're not on the she 188 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:48,159 would consider that. Yeah, I think she would, because I do think 189 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:56,919 she likes the athletic you know, she she loves being busy doing things like 190 00:13:56,000 --> 00:14:01,720 working during different types of workouts and exercise. She loves that, So I 191 00:14:01,720 --> 00:14:05,120 think maybe she would. I think she would do that, but I don't 192 00:14:05,159 --> 00:14:07,879 know. But she wasn't. I really was bummed that she didn't want to 193 00:14:07,879 --> 00:14:11,960 do senior year. She just was done and then her travel program, like 194 00:14:13,039 --> 00:14:16,759 all her friends were done. They all left or they just stayed and just 195 00:14:16,759 --> 00:14:20,080 did their school team and didn't so like a lot of people were. I 196 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:22,519 guess it's like that in a lot of the sports in high school, like 197 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:26,919 they start to peter out eleventh and twelfth unless they want to go and continue 198 00:14:26,919 --> 00:14:35,039 it into their college years. So it just seems really hard to continue it 199 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:37,360 through college. That's got to take up a lot of your time. And 200 00:14:37,919 --> 00:14:41,360 I feel like college is the time where you want to just start exploring all 201 00:14:41,440 --> 00:14:45,679 the other things you're interested in. That's what she was saying. And like 202 00:14:46,639 --> 00:14:50,159 some of the girls on her college on her high school volleyball team, they 203 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:54,360 already left for college because they're already in pat practice for volleyball at their school, 204 00:14:54,919 --> 00:15:00,720 Like, wow, yeah, they're already there. And I mean they 205 00:15:00,759 --> 00:15:05,919 were really competitive, like you know, they were uh what do you call? 206 00:15:07,279 --> 00:15:13,480 I can't beieve the name that Division four or Division I teams, you 207 00:15:13,519 --> 00:15:18,279 know, Like, so they were, you know, they were winning constantly, 208 00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:22,039 you know, very good athletes. And they're off now that they're dedicated 209 00:15:22,080 --> 00:15:26,519 to continue it to school. But but a lot of kids didn't, like 210 00:15:26,600 --> 00:15:30,399 they were just done or like that. It meant if they still wanted to 211 00:15:30,440 --> 00:15:33,120 continue to play, Like football one of her friends, it meant he could 212 00:15:33,159 --> 00:15:37,240 either go to a really big school or go to a smaller school and play 213 00:15:37,279 --> 00:15:41,320 and continue to play football, Whereas he could go to the bigger school try 214 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:45,080 out but might not make it because he's not that good. You know, 215 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:48,000 so it was like a give and take thing. But yeah, it's sad. 216 00:15:48,039 --> 00:15:52,039 It was sad when it was over with. Yeah, one of my 217 00:15:52,159 --> 00:15:56,320 friends, pretty one of my friends in my like mom friend group, her 218 00:15:56,480 --> 00:16:02,720 son was is an excellent football player, captain of the high school football team, 219 00:16:03,360 --> 00:16:08,279 but is going to a school where he wouldn't be playing football because it's 220 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:12,480 it was the exact same thing. And at first they were trying to find 221 00:16:12,519 --> 00:16:18,039 a school where he would be recruited, but the only ones were very small, 222 00:16:18,080 --> 00:16:21,440 like not schools he really wanted to go to. Yes, so he 223 00:16:21,559 --> 00:16:23,519 chose to go to a school he wanted to go to Boulder, or he 224 00:16:23,559 --> 00:16:29,399 would not be playing football, no way. Yeah, just not that good. 225 00:16:29,799 --> 00:16:32,279 And then you got the parents that are kind of weird those too, 226 00:16:32,399 --> 00:16:37,039 Like there's some parents that I've heard of like pushing their kids to go to 227 00:16:37,080 --> 00:16:41,200 these smaller schools, you know, just to play, just to continue to 228 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:45,679 play because their dad loved to be the big man. Like you know, 229 00:16:45,799 --> 00:16:48,120 one of them's like the point guard at our school. And then their dad, 230 00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:52,039 like it, would come to the games all the time and he kind 231 00:16:52,039 --> 00:16:56,519 of like you know, seem like he's reliving his days of playing high school 232 00:16:56,720 --> 00:17:00,799 basketball, and then I heard like they pushed him into going to as small 233 00:17:00,799 --> 00:17:03,079 as you know. It just it's I feel like that's how I would be 234 00:17:04,960 --> 00:17:08,960 if Elv had stuck with basketball. I would for sure be like, no, 235 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:12,200 I think you need to go to a school where you're gonna remember how 236 00:17:12,279 --> 00:17:18,119 much I pushed her. I was like, please keep playing basketball because it 237 00:17:18,359 --> 00:17:22,079 because they were going to make her stay on the freshman sophomore team after freshman 238 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:26,559 year, which didn't matter anyway because all of sophomore year was home with COVID. 239 00:17:26,599 --> 00:17:30,920 But I was like, oh my god, you're gonna be You'll be 240 00:17:30,039 --> 00:17:33,000 the big fish in the small pond if you're and she was like, no, 241 00:17:33,039 --> 00:17:36,759 I'm going to be on a shitty ass team. I'm not doing it. 242 00:17:36,799 --> 00:17:41,960 And I was like, yeah, but I'll be the head mom cheerleader, 243 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:45,039 will be at every game like she was like no, no, no 244 00:17:45,119 --> 00:17:48,640 thanks. Yeah yeah, I'd be like, come on, go to such 245 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:52,480 and such a school that no one's ever heard of, and all gonna fly 246 00:17:52,559 --> 00:17:56,880 out for every game. I love when the kids are good at something and 247 00:17:56,920 --> 00:18:02,240 you get to go watching and do it. I know. And I was 248 00:18:02,279 --> 00:18:06,000 looking at some of her old volleyball pictures and videos and it was so fun. 249 00:18:06,039 --> 00:18:08,359 I'm so glad that, you know, we I went to every game 250 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:12,200 and all of her tournaments, and we went to the out of town games. 251 00:18:12,279 --> 00:18:17,359 You know, It's just it was awesome. I just I remember your 252 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:21,720 videos of Sonny playing basketball and getting like watching the ones where he got a 253 00:18:21,759 --> 00:18:23,880 three pointer, like over and over and over, like that's not even my 254 00:18:25,000 --> 00:18:27,759 kid. And I was like living vicariously through you. I know, I 255 00:18:29,039 --> 00:18:33,279 do you living vicariously through Sunny. I know. It was so fun exciting. 256 00:18:33,359 --> 00:18:36,680 It's exciting because I went to a high school that didn't have sports, 257 00:18:36,799 --> 00:18:38,559 right, there was no sports, so I've been used to it, you 258 00:18:38,559 --> 00:18:42,079 know, going to games and stuff like that, and so now my kids 259 00:18:42,079 --> 00:18:45,400 are playing. It was just it was so great. I loved it. 260 00:18:45,799 --> 00:18:51,079 I've just never been good at anything. But let's take a quick break. 261 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:56,559 Okay. 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Yeah, I have very 282 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:42,440 vague memories. I was not good at volleyball, so I do remember that. 283 00:20:42,759 --> 00:20:48,160 I just and it was hardcore training, running and stares. There were 284 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:52,759 stairs in our school, and I'll just never forget just being so so tired 285 00:20:52,759 --> 00:20:56,559 from all the training. I think I was a little bit athletic, only 286 00:20:56,599 --> 00:20:59,559 because I'd been a gymnast for a couple of years when I was but I 287 00:20:59,559 --> 00:21:04,440 was much younger, right like nine, ten and eleven and maybe twelve. 288 00:21:04,599 --> 00:21:08,799 I was doing gymnastics seven times a week. I was not that good, 289 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:12,319 though. John still makes fun of me because I was. I was training 290 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:18,160 at the LA School of Gymnastics with pre Olympic people. They have like an 291 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:21,640 Olympic team. I mean, it was LA School of Gymnastics. It was 292 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:26,839 big time. A lot of very big gymnasts came from there. I was 293 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:32,279 not good, though, but my best friend Jill was really good, and 294 00:21:32,319 --> 00:21:34,839 I love to do everything that Jill liked to do. So my parents sent 295 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:38,559 me to this gymnastics school. And I do remember that they told my parents 296 00:21:38,599 --> 00:21:44,640 that she is not very talented, but she's really has a lot of enthusiasms 297 00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:51,880 for it. Could you do like backsprings and like roundabouts and round offs, 298 00:21:52,119 --> 00:21:55,160 yes, round off back hand spring. Round off back hand spring was my 299 00:21:55,240 --> 00:22:00,200 biggest skill. And I could only do it on a very cushy mat I 300 00:22:00,279 --> 00:22:06,440 was. But I was very trade. I was like not athletic conditioned. 301 00:22:06,599 --> 00:22:10,480 Yeah, so I could do like a ton of pull ups and I could 302 00:22:10,559 --> 00:22:15,519 do stuff on the bars. I had upper body strength. I was really 303 00:22:15,559 --> 00:22:18,759 strong, and I was really flexible, but that's just from all the training. 304 00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:22,920 But I never got the tricks and I did like, I did have 305 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:26,599 the enthusiasm for it, and I wasn't scared. I just wasn't talented, 306 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:30,720 Like I just couldn't do it, and I wasn't really built for it. 307 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:36,200 So then my parents when we moved to Spokane, Washington, my parents were 308 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:40,640 like, well, we're I was getting like a scholarship. They really liked 309 00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:45,039 my friend Jill. I know, they gave me some like huge discount. 310 00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,359 But once we moved, my mom was like, well that's no, You're 311 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,160 not good at it, so we're not going to keep doing it. I 312 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:56,599 know. So then I stopped training completely, gained weight, got my period, 313 00:22:57,119 --> 00:23:03,920 like you know, my body crazy, So I just wasn't really doing 314 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:07,720 any kind of sports anything. Do you think that if you continue doing it, 315 00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:11,559 you still you would be I was just never going to be really good 316 00:23:11,599 --> 00:23:15,400 at it, really, but I still miss it and think in my brain 317 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,559 that I could have been. I could have been somebody. Yes, And 318 00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:22,319 John has to make fun of me now because I'm always like I was on 319 00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:26,880 the pre pre pre Olympic team, pre pre pre pre Olympic team. So 320 00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:30,440 John will make fun of me to the kids sometimes He's like, no, 321 00:23:30,599 --> 00:23:33,640 mom was like a pretty serious gymnast, like she was a pre pre pre 322 00:23:33,759 --> 00:23:38,319 pre pre Olympics. Then I have to go shut stop with that because the 323 00:23:38,400 --> 00:23:41,759 kids will be like really, and I'm like, no, right up, 324 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:47,799 yeah, yeah no. So I joined the volleyball team for something to do. 325 00:23:48,039 --> 00:23:49,640 I guess I was like sixteen at that point, so it's been a 326 00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:56,400 few years away from gymnastics, but I still fancied myself in shape, you 327 00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:59,799 know. But there was a lot of hardcore training. But I was not 328 00:23:59,839 --> 00:24:03,640 very good at volleyball, so I mean that's how I think. I don't 329 00:24:03,799 --> 00:24:07,839 I don't know. Maybe I could have been, but I never got played 330 00:24:07,839 --> 00:24:12,400 in any of the games until one day I believe we were very very far 331 00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:19,160 ahead. So she stuck me in and I immediately missed both my serfs and 332 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:22,160 then I was out and I never played again. That's the way I remember 333 00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:27,160 it in my head. I remember feeling absolutely humiliated, and then I think 334 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:32,160 I dropped out after that, because well, what if you played? More 335 00:24:32,279 --> 00:24:34,720 like, what if you you don't like? What if you continued it? 336 00:24:34,799 --> 00:24:38,200 Do you think you would have been? Okay? Like let's just say yeah, 337 00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:44,880 sure, no se Because my school didn't have any teams. They have 338 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:48,240 was no sports, but we had pe and so like it would be like, 339 00:24:48,319 --> 00:24:52,240 okay, today we're going to play kickball, and today we're going to 340 00:24:52,279 --> 00:24:56,160 play volleyball. So I remember liking volleyball because I hated kickball because I was 341 00:24:56,200 --> 00:25:00,480 always picked last and I can never and then the ball would come to me 342 00:25:00,519 --> 00:25:02,680 and I go, oh, it's gonna hit my boobs. No, no, 343 00:25:03,319 --> 00:25:07,000 And so then I played. So then I played volleyball. About softball, 344 00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:10,359 were you like, they don't have to throw me in deep right field? 345 00:25:10,519 --> 00:25:12,079 Yes, where the ball never goes, It never goes. But then 346 00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:15,039 every once in a while it would and people would be like, oh no, 347 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:22,079 going towards Stephanie and then i'd miss it. I'd be afraid to catch 348 00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:23,720 it because I mean I was like, oh no, it's gonna hit me. 349 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,240 Yeah. But so then volleyball was like okay, I think I can 350 00:25:27,279 --> 00:25:30,799 do this, you know. And then so I played volleyball for so whenever 351 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:33,960 we had volleyball, but we never got to play it very much. But 352 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:38,079 it was I remember it was the one team sport that I did like to 353 00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:44,920 play. And I was, okay, you fancy yourself like I give on 354 00:25:45,079 --> 00:25:48,839 the pre pre pre pre pre volleyball Olympics. Yes, absolutely, yes, 355 00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:55,400 sure, sure, same with me. Right. I remember high school sports, 356 00:25:55,559 --> 00:25:59,759 dodgeball in particular, as just being you know, I know it's common. 357 00:25:59,759 --> 00:26:03,000 I know a lot of people feel, but I just don't remember feeling 358 00:26:03,039 --> 00:26:07,200 like I was athletically. I didn't. I didn't think I I thought of 359 00:26:07,279 --> 00:26:10,759 myself badly when it came to sports, so then I didn't really try. 360 00:26:11,319 --> 00:26:14,400 I do you think it's because of your boobs, because for me it was 361 00:26:14,599 --> 00:26:18,519 it was I'm afraid that First of all, I can't run. You know, 362 00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:22,960 I wasn't very good at running because I didn't and also, like in 363 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:26,359 the eighties, I didn't have like a good sports bra, like my mom 364 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:32,079 bought me one bra year, you know, like it was not I never 365 00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:33,880 had good support, so I could have been I might as well have been 366 00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:37,319 out there with bralis so just running. It was just like and it was 367 00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:41,759 embarrassing and like I wanted to hold my boobs when I had to run. 368 00:26:41,279 --> 00:26:45,920 My boobs were a big factor with the sports stuff. I hated it, 369 00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:48,759 Yeah I did. I really did too. And then I remember my PE 370 00:26:49,079 --> 00:26:52,400 teacher going like, well, why don't you just get some rope and tie 371 00:26:52,599 --> 00:26:56,640 back, like tie it around your waist and tie it, tie it up, 372 00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:00,319 like he would just yell. Remember my PE coaches raised yeah no don 373 00:27:00,519 --> 00:27:07,039 oh don don. It was just like so inappropriate all the time to us 374 00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:11,160 kids just sit out there try and get tan with his shirt off. But 375 00:27:11,319 --> 00:27:12,359 yeah, he would say like, well don't you just get some rope have 376 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:17,759 your friend tied around your waist? Like I thought, okay, like that's 377 00:27:17,799 --> 00:27:23,119 gonna work. I remember in high school and I'm trying to remember what grade 378 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:26,880 it would have been, but I'm thinking tenth grade. I remember a guy 379 00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:34,119 coming up to me and just going you have the biggest tits, and it 380 00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:40,880 was off like it was so mortifying. It was humiliating, embarrassing, and 381 00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:45,079 it was said as a taunt. It was not like you have good tits, 382 00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:48,359 No, it was like you have big tit like he was disgusted by 383 00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:53,039 me and really needed to call it out. And I just remember thinking, 384 00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:56,839 God, have these brusts are the bane of my existence. I can't tell 385 00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:00,119 you how many comments I got. I hated it. I remember when when 386 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:06,599 I worked at Bob's Big Boy, Abdalla's Big Boy. What I remember this 387 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:10,480 girl going, your boobs are so gross. It looks like you have a 388 00:28:10,519 --> 00:28:15,079 pillow under your shirt. Yeah, I got it too. And I always 389 00:28:15,079 --> 00:28:19,079 hated it when people would call you out in front of other people and then 390 00:28:19,240 --> 00:28:22,920 everybody just goes shit and like looks at you in your breasts, you know 391 00:28:23,039 --> 00:28:26,759 it. Just I hated it. It was like so uncomfortable, and then 392 00:28:26,799 --> 00:28:32,480 you'd get nicknames and stuff like you know, Linnetti titty or you know, 393 00:28:32,799 --> 00:28:37,200 like just ugh. I hated it. And there was no chance of getting 394 00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:41,359 any kind of surgery, No way that costs money, and that was that 395 00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:45,960 have surgery until I was like forty. Yeah, I mean I told you 396 00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:52,519 I had this surgery when I was twenty. But they grew back. Yeah, 397 00:28:52,759 --> 00:28:59,119 they grow back. I was reading somewhere maybe on our Facebook group. 398 00:28:59,119 --> 00:29:03,000 They were talking about the boobs growing back and needing the surgery again, and 399 00:29:03,039 --> 00:29:06,920 I was like, I guess that's what happened to me, because in my 400 00:29:07,119 --> 00:29:11,000 mind I thought I just gained weight, but I didn't. Right, It's 401 00:29:11,119 --> 00:29:15,440 just I guess if I did put on weight because I'm not overweight. But 402 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:18,440 I was like, well, it's because when I'm overweight, I get it 403 00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:22,000 in my boobs, and then when I lose weight it's not. But now 404 00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:26,039 it doesn't matter. There's my boobs are big no matter what, right, 405 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:30,799 right, And they don't and they're all mushy, so they don't fit properly. 406 00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,119 They don't look good, you know what I mean. Like at least 407 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:36,680 when I was younger, they were perkier, so even though they were, 408 00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,799 but they were also smaller because I'd had the surgery when I was young. 409 00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:44,319 But yeah, my mom was like absolutely not no, not paying for that, 410 00:29:44,519 --> 00:29:47,359 No, I know, And you're too young. Yeah, my parents 411 00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:51,599 too now. And I remember there was a girl at our school she was 412 00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:55,160 actually two years younger than me, and she got it done, she got 413 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:56,880 the reduction. I was so jealous, and I would talk to her about 414 00:29:56,920 --> 00:30:00,559 it and she would tell me like, oh, I can fit into little 415 00:30:00,559 --> 00:30:03,480 tank tops now, and I could wear little sun dresses. And I was 416 00:30:03,519 --> 00:30:08,720 always like, oh, you bitch, like you know, but got a 417 00:30:08,759 --> 00:30:12,000 Shopping for clothes was a nightmare. It was a nightmare. You had to 418 00:30:12,039 --> 00:30:15,640 wear all like super oversized T shirts, but then it would make you look 419 00:30:15,759 --> 00:30:19,559 heavier because it would they're so bad's a problem with boobs. They might look 420 00:30:19,599 --> 00:30:23,240 pregnant too, yes, the wrong shit. Yes. And I could never 421 00:30:23,319 --> 00:30:27,799 wear like an Oxford shirt remember when those were verry in style. Love that, 422 00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:32,240 Yeah, but the buttons would always push pull apart. You had to 423 00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:34,920 wear it so big. And then if you wore something that was a high 424 00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,839 neck, I could never wear like crew necks because then it made it look 425 00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:41,880 like your boobs are in the middle of your body. Yes, yeah, 426 00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:45,160 because I had the shitty support braw no support bra right. Yeah, yeah, 427 00:30:45,279 --> 00:30:51,960 I remember wearing having to buy those just matronly bras, minimizer bras. 428 00:30:52,319 --> 00:30:56,599 Remember those Balleys minimizer brash. Yeah. Yeah, I lived in I had 429 00:30:56,599 --> 00:30:57,920 like a couple of those, and that's all I wore. I remember as 430 00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:02,200 soon as I got my first paycheck ever, Like the first thing I did 431 00:31:02,279 --> 00:31:04,319 was go out and buy bras, Like I need to go to the store. 432 00:31:04,799 --> 00:31:11,359 I need some sales lady to fondle me and like measure me properly and 433 00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:14,799 tell me which bra. You know, sometimes you go those stores, the 434 00:31:14,839 --> 00:31:18,000 lady goes, oh, you're wearing honey, that's the wrong size. And 435 00:31:18,039 --> 00:31:22,440 then she'd go and measure you, and you know, stuff your ship inside, 436 00:31:22,599 --> 00:31:26,680 like pull it up right, shift it the right way, like you 437 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:30,319 always have to have to bend over and put your boots in the cup and 438 00:31:30,359 --> 00:31:34,559 then you sit back up and then you adjust the straps. Yeah, this 439 00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:42,839 is a whole kashaw these tits. Fucking Christ, that's a good drop drop. 440 00:31:44,039 --> 00:31:47,160 I know, these tits. I wish we could do drops. Yeah, 441 00:31:47,359 --> 00:31:52,839 whole kasha these tits. All right, So here's something we don't often 442 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:56,799 do. Yeah, but there was a post on Facebook in our Facebook group 443 00:31:57,559 --> 00:32:00,559 by one of our members. But they're on anonymous, so I hope they 444 00:32:00,559 --> 00:32:05,680 don't mind. I want to read the post because I thought it was an 445 00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:10,519 interesting discussion. Okay, okay, so it's kind of like am I the 446 00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:19,039 asshole? Or what would you do? Post Okay, So here's how it 447 00:32:19,079 --> 00:32:22,319 goes. Because she did a little too long, didn't read too long, 448 00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:27,400 didn't read but I'm going to Okay. We have a family friend visiting for 449 00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:30,839 the summer and she helps with cleaning and occasionally watches the kids while I'm working 450 00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:35,759 from home. We pay her, so it's like a nanny. She's in 451 00:32:35,799 --> 00:32:38,680 her mid fifties and is also from another country, if that gives perspective. 452 00:32:39,039 --> 00:32:43,480 The other day, she hit my seven year old child about three to four 453 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:46,240 times and pinched her, then pinched my three year old. What the fuck? 454 00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:51,599 Yeah, the kids were playing around and being little turds, throwing her 455 00:32:51,640 --> 00:32:53,960 hat on the ground, and she asked them to stop, and like true 456 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:58,680 little kids, they didn't listen and did it again. She chased them down 457 00:32:59,119 --> 00:33:01,920 and then hit an pinched them. The kids came running to me in my 458 00:33:02,039 --> 00:33:06,559 office. The three year old was crying. The seven year old was flabbergasted 459 00:33:06,599 --> 00:33:12,079 and upset and told me what happened. Then the sitter came in and said, 460 00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:17,319 hold on, I lost the okah, Okay. Then the sitter came 461 00:33:17,359 --> 00:33:21,400 in and said how she told them to stop throwing the hat and they didn't, 462 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:24,119 so she hit them this isn't a foreign language and I can't speak it 463 00:33:24,279 --> 00:33:27,920 very well, and that was what I got from it. I said, 464 00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:31,079 we don't do that, and then took the kids and later watched the camera 465 00:33:31,559 --> 00:33:35,480 so she had a camera on them so I could see exactly what happened. 466 00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:38,759 My biggest issue is that she hit them out of frustration and didn't come to 467 00:33:38,799 --> 00:33:43,720 me. My second issue is when my husband came home, she told him 468 00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,519 a different story where they were playing, and that was part of the game. 469 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:52,119 He speaks the language, so there's no doubt about what was said there, 470 00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,680 so she lied to him about it, and she says. My husband's 471 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:59,759 side says he grew up with regular ass whoopons and that is part of their 472 00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:05,240 cure. She's older, quote from a different generation, and we never explicitly 473 00:34:05,279 --> 00:34:08,239 told her not to hit the kids. Then she says, I'm sorry, 474 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:12,960 but never have I ever had to tell a sitter not to spank or pinch 475 00:34:13,079 --> 00:34:16,679 my kids? Kind of a no brainer. Please keep in mind, we 476 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:20,920 as their parents, don't hit our own kids, so she hasn't seen us 477 00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:24,400 do it. Anyway, I'm pissed and looking for validation. My husband is 478 00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:29,000 like, eh, it happened one time, and we told her, so 479 00:34:29,119 --> 00:34:32,320 we can give her another chance. Basically, but I feel like I can't 480 00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:36,519 even trust her with the kids. Am I the asshole for not wanting to 481 00:34:36,559 --> 00:34:43,079 give her another chance? Now? Basically, a lot of people were saying 482 00:34:43,159 --> 00:34:46,280 like no, some people were saying, well, maybe she didn't really understand 483 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:50,519 not to do it. But in another comment, which I'm not going to 484 00:34:50,599 --> 00:34:54,920 find right now, she described the situation as the nanny basically chased them down 485 00:34:54,960 --> 00:35:00,639 and then was like hitting them like several times, like punt like them. 486 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:05,199 Wow, well that's not a whooping, that's not like no, that's not 487 00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:08,480 old school discipline. No, that's not discipline. That's fighting your kids. 488 00:35:08,519 --> 00:35:14,000 There one is a three year old year old. Yeah that's no. So 489 00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:21,320 yeah, I was like absolutely not by Yeah, I absolutely not know either, 490 00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:24,400 but story but no, But here's the thing, like I get it, 491 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:29,039 Like, you know, some cultures and some you know, older old 492 00:35:29,079 --> 00:35:31,920 school you know, they do a little you know smack or whatever. And 493 00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:35,880 you know, I grew up where my mom beat on me, you know, 494 00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:39,880 and my mom wasn't just like giving me a smack. She was hitting 495 00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:45,239 me, like punching me and grabbing me with her nails and pulling my hair 496 00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:49,599 and you know all that shit. So I got hit a lot, but 497 00:35:49,599 --> 00:35:57,119 but I get it, like there's other you know, situations whatever, uh 498 00:35:57,280 --> 00:36:00,440 Adam and I decide like we did not hit our kids, and we did 499 00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:05,239 not. We're not down for that, not down at all, so you 500 00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:09,000 know, and when we did higher Oga, you know, we did say 501 00:36:09,079 --> 00:36:14,840 like we're not you know, we're not for it or whatever. But I 502 00:36:14,880 --> 00:36:16,960 think, like, I don't know, I can't remember. 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But 520 00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:50,920 okay, So, but she did tell us that she raised a single you 521 00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:52,760 know, a daughter, She was a single mom on her own, and 522 00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,920 that she has from time to time giving her daughter a little smack you know, 523 00:37:57,000 --> 00:38:00,800 on the booty or whatever, not in the face, just a little 524 00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:05,320 like just to you know, at the right age, not at a baby, 525 00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,519 at a three year old or whatever. Right, and or did you 526 00:38:07,679 --> 00:38:10,119 like okay? Cool? Well? And I was like, I don't remember, 527 00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:14,039 but I but I know Adam was like, yeah, that's fine. 528 00:38:15,119 --> 00:38:16,599 He was down with it, you know, he's like he's not down for 529 00:38:16,719 --> 00:38:20,880 like, you know, beating on kids, but like you know, he's 530 00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:24,719 okay with a little old school smack or whatever, and okay. So there 531 00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:30,599 was a time where Olga was giving Natalia bath I think she was like six 532 00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:36,480 years old, and uh, she was like playfully, you know, we 533 00:38:36,559 --> 00:38:38,840 just talked about it recently with Natalia. She thinks it's funny when we tell 534 00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:44,519 her now. So so there was they were we were we Olga and I 535 00:38:44,559 --> 00:38:49,559 both had him in the bathtub and I got so Sonny she was playing. 536 00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:52,719 She was like, you know, get talking to Sonny and until he was 537 00:38:52,760 --> 00:38:55,719 trying to get her attention and I was getting Sonny ready to get him out. 538 00:38:57,119 --> 00:38:59,719 So I was holding the towel and we were all talking to Sonny and 539 00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:05,400 we were she wasn't getting the attention she wanted, so she spit water into 540 00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:09,199 Olga's face. Okay, and Olga goes no, that said no, no, 541 00:39:09,280 --> 00:39:12,960 you don't you know she's like and both of us were like, no, 542 00:39:13,039 --> 00:39:15,039 you know whatever, I got Sunny with the towel, grabbed him, 543 00:39:15,039 --> 00:39:19,679 got him out of the tub, and then while Olga was telling her that 544 00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:22,480 said no, no, she did it again. You know, like kind 545 00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:27,320 of goofing around. She did it again, like right into Olga's face, 546 00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:31,760 and then Oga went up and she smacked her right on the booty, oh, 547 00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:36,559 on the butt, yes, yeah, she smacked like her hip area, 548 00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,679 just like and then she went ah. She started crying, okay, 549 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:43,400 hit me, ohkay, hit me. She goes, go ahead, go 550 00:39:43,599 --> 00:39:45,400 tell your parents. I hit You'll go ahead, you know. I mean, 551 00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:50,400 Olga's been with us like five years by now we know her, you 552 00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:54,119 know. And Adam was like, good, I don't care what she she 553 00:39:54,199 --> 00:39:59,360 probably deserved it. I'm sure it's fine, blah blah blah. And you 554 00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,239 know, she told me and I was like, it's fine. You know, 555 00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:05,800 I knew Oga doesn't like, you know, smack the ship out of 556 00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:10,199 kids. You know, this situation with this person, this anonymous person is 557 00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:16,159 describing is way out of line, way out of line totally. And I 558 00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:23,840 don't like that. They that she took anger out and she couldn't have, 559 00:40:24,119 --> 00:40:28,840 Like she's the adult. You have to stop and you have to correct the 560 00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:32,920 child. And if you're getting upset, then you know, go get the 561 00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:37,280 the mom was was in the other room or I don't know, yeah or 562 00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:39,719 whatever, but like you can't lose your control. You cannot, you cannot. 563 00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:44,920 You should not be around kids, especially having somebody pay you to take 564 00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:49,039 care of your kids if you can't handle your anger and you can't control your 565 00:40:49,039 --> 00:40:52,400 ship. And then pinching a three, hitting a three year old and pinching 566 00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:57,039 a three and pinching by the way and weird. People were like, well, 567 00:40:57,159 --> 00:41:00,760 she could get another chance. But it's like that doesn't seem like something 568 00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:04,639 that was planned, Like that's just your discipline style. And if you're told, 569 00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,599 hey, don't do that, you shouldn't be told not to do that. 570 00:41:07,679 --> 00:41:08,840 But that sounds like she got, like you said, anger, is 571 00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:14,360 she Yeah, she's got anger, and then lied about her a lying is 572 00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:17,320 also yeah, And you know she probably figured like, oh, you know 573 00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:24,000 this whitey don't hit kids, And now she's trying to like cover her tracks, 574 00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:29,400 you know or whatever, and you know that's not that's not the way 575 00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:31,840 to handle it, like and then lying, yeah, so I wouldn't give 576 00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:36,840 her So this is so, this is there's a there's an edit. An 577 00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:39,840 edit, Oh, there's an update. Okay, she wrote update, Thanks 578 00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:44,760 everyone, I appreciate all the input and reassurance. She will be flying out 579 00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,559 on Thursday. My husband told her there were too many cultural differences, and 580 00:41:47,599 --> 00:41:52,199 I think she seems happy to go back early she won't be back. Oh 581 00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,719 good, yeah good. So I mean I'm happy for her because I just 582 00:41:54,760 --> 00:42:00,159 would not feel comfortable with that person in my house. No, no way. 583 00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:02,320 I would just be so mad. Yeah, I would be too. 584 00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:07,400 You No, I don't. It's I'm trying to think if I've ever spanked 585 00:42:08,559 --> 00:42:14,639 my kids. I think I tried to spank Sadie one time because she was 586 00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:21,039 so bad. Yeah, really early on, when she would bite Xander and 587 00:42:21,079 --> 00:42:22,719 she was just doing a bunch of bad behavior. I think I one time. 588 00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:29,800 And she was also very defiant about it, like she remember you remember 589 00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:31,599 back in the day when I thought she might be a sociopath. Yeah, 590 00:42:31,639 --> 00:42:37,360 And I was like, this kid has no remorse, doesn't care, Like 591 00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:40,519 would bite Xander and you'd be like you just bit Xander and she'd just stare 592 00:42:40,559 --> 00:42:45,159 at you, like what who are you trying to? I don't care. 593 00:42:45,639 --> 00:42:47,719 Yeah, I do think I got mad. And then she would when it 594 00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:52,119 was time for bed, she would get so angry about having to go to 595 00:42:52,159 --> 00:42:55,679 bed that she would throw all of her stuff outside of the crib. She 596 00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:59,360 was in a crib. She had to be in a crib for way longer 597 00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:01,559 than LBB because she was so bad. Yeah. I was like, this 598 00:43:01,639 --> 00:43:07,760 kid will never be able to handle a big girl bed because she's just gonna 599 00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:09,840 be like, oh what, Oh, I can just get out. Yeah, 600 00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:13,440 and then she would just get up, so oh my god. I 601 00:43:13,519 --> 00:43:16,639 remember she would take all of the bedding off the bed. She was like 602 00:43:16,679 --> 00:43:21,840 a destructive little monkey, you know. She would rip all the bedding off 603 00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:24,039 and just throw it outside the crib. So then she would just be laying 604 00:43:24,159 --> 00:43:29,760 in a bear mattress, right thin. Get a lot of kids cream, 605 00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:32,199 Yeah, a lot of kids did that. Yeah. At some point though, 606 00:43:32,199 --> 00:43:37,280 I got pissed at what. I just remember one time getting really upset 607 00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:42,119 and like turning her around and like whacking her off the butt and did no 608 00:43:42,199 --> 00:43:45,480 good. Yeah, So I was like all right, Yeah, I mean 609 00:43:45,599 --> 00:43:47,599 I just made it a conscious effort, you know, like my mom was 610 00:43:47,639 --> 00:43:52,880 so grabby and aggressive and I'm not, you know, like I would never 611 00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:57,719 ever scare my kids because I was afraid of my mom for a while. 612 00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:00,800 I thought my mom wanted to kill me when I was young, Like I'm 613 00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:04,320 scared of her, and I was like, I'm never going to do that 614 00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:07,519 to my kids. So I think that's why you and I relate. I 615 00:44:07,599 --> 00:44:12,000 was really scared of my stepfather and he did tell me he would kill me 616 00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:15,239 one time, and I lived in fear of I mean, he was he 617 00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:20,800 had been a boxer, So I was like scary, especially like stepdad. 618 00:44:21,079 --> 00:44:23,639 I couldn't imagine. That's frightening. Yeah, but a stepdad that I'd known 619 00:44:23,679 --> 00:44:29,039 my entire life because my mom divorced my father when I think I was four. 620 00:44:29,159 --> 00:44:32,159 But he was my father's best friend. Oh yeah, always around us. 621 00:44:32,199 --> 00:44:36,559 So he lived in like our guest house, and he talk about anger 622 00:44:36,599 --> 00:44:39,599 issues. He had real about anger issues. M Yeah, I never want 623 00:44:39,599 --> 00:44:43,519 my kids, I don't. I know. I don't even yell at my 624 00:44:43,639 --> 00:44:46,920 kids. Yeah no, I that's the one thing, Like I don't ever 625 00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:50,760 want my kids to feel like, oh my god, Mom's gonna flip out 626 00:44:50,760 --> 00:44:53,039 at any moment, you know. Yeah, and maybe I overcome and sate 627 00:44:53,119 --> 00:44:55,519 go the other way, Yeah, same, which is what we do, 628 00:44:57,039 --> 00:45:00,840 you know. But I'd rather that and have them be afraid of me or 629 00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:06,360 scared, you know. I remember thinking like I'm I'm afraid in the Italian 630 00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,480 is going to do something it's sunny. Because remember, like I was always 631 00:45:08,519 --> 00:45:13,920 like, she doesn't cry during movies, excuse me? Like I would think, 632 00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:15,599 you know, like there was something wrong with her. Or she would 633 00:45:15,679 --> 00:45:20,280 knock his shit over when he's you know, building something, or she would 634 00:45:20,480 --> 00:45:22,920 try and kick Mollie to get our attention. And you know, so I 635 00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:25,920 was always like I wonder, you know, I'd be afraid. Now it's 636 00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:31,360 like no, like, you know, thank god she's not. She didn't 637 00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:37,159 turn out that way. But yeah, when you when you come from like 638 00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:39,039 chaos and stuff, like you kind of want it, like when you have 639 00:45:39,199 --> 00:45:43,440 kids, you want it. You tend to maybe over career, you know, 640 00:45:43,519 --> 00:45:47,320 you want to just like not be that person that your parents were to 641 00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:52,159 you, you know, And my dad was the My dad was opposite. 642 00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:55,039 He was very easy going and I was close with him, very close. 643 00:45:55,119 --> 00:45:59,880 Yeah, so then you have that modeled for you that just because he wasn't 644 00:45:59,880 --> 00:46:02,599 a strong disciplinarian doesn't mean that he was a bad parent. He was a 645 00:46:02,599 --> 00:46:06,639 good parent and he felt safe with him. Yes, so you could talk 646 00:46:06,679 --> 00:46:08,920 to him. Yeah, but he did hit me with about once and he 647 00:46:09,039 --> 00:46:14,079 said, any if you ever do anything that's going to jeopardize your life. 648 00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:16,360 I'm gonna hit you with the belt. And I ran across the street in 649 00:46:16,360 --> 00:46:21,440 front of him and a car was coming and he took a belt hit me 650 00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:24,400 with it and I was done. Wouldn't do that again. But that's it. 651 00:46:24,480 --> 00:46:28,599 Like my dad would never, he wasn't. He didn't have a temper 652 00:46:28,679 --> 00:46:31,199 and scream and like grab like he wasn't. My mom my mom would do 653 00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:36,840 that to him. She beat up on him. Yeah, then you have 654 00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:39,360 to watch that growing up. Yeah, and it was awful. And that's 655 00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:43,920 what's being modeled. That's the behavior that's being modeled for you. Yeah, 656 00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:47,920 as a mom, right, thank god that we both you know, I 657 00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:54,039 mean, sure is our parenting of the maybe two soft Friday? I don't 658 00:46:54,079 --> 00:46:58,000 know, But how do we know? You know, there's a lot of 659 00:46:58,000 --> 00:47:02,039 different philosophies on how to pair. Yes, And you know, listen, 660 00:47:02,800 --> 00:47:07,639 my kids are fine. Yes, they're good people. She's a very good 661 00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:12,559 person. She doesn't have a bunch of you know, psychological issues. She's 662 00:47:12,599 --> 00:47:15,960 not not that that would be the parent's fault either, you know, necessarily. 663 00:47:16,039 --> 00:47:23,320 But the way that I chose to go about it was definitely of the 664 00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:30,920 softer parenting. But I would live in fear. I remember one time. 665 00:47:31,119 --> 00:47:35,360 I'm sure I talked about it, because see, this is the problem with 666 00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:38,239 having done a podcast for fifteen years. It's like, you know, things 667 00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:42,400 happen, and we talked about it at the time, But I remember yelling 668 00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:45,800 at LB because I was so mad at her one time because she lied. 669 00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:50,559 She went through a little period and I think it was around fifth grade where 670 00:47:50,599 --> 00:47:54,280 she was telling the lies and real boldface, like real like look you in 671 00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:59,239 the eye and tell you what you want to hear, because it's the easier 672 00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,199 way to go about it, because she didn't want to do homework. And 673 00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:06,360 I remember that there was a couple of different lies that I caught her in 674 00:48:07,119 --> 00:48:10,000 where the thing that made me the maddest about it was that she stared right 675 00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:14,960 in my face and convinced me of something. She wasn't even being a bad 676 00:48:15,039 --> 00:48:17,039 liar. She was such a good liar that I was like, would never 677 00:48:17,119 --> 00:48:22,079 think to not trust her. And then I found out this one particular lie 678 00:48:22,199 --> 00:48:29,159 was that she'd not been doing her homework, so she'd been the class work 679 00:48:29,199 --> 00:48:31,280 was supposed to be finished at home. If you didn't finish something in class 680 00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:34,599 that was your homework, you had to finish it, and then she would 681 00:48:34,639 --> 00:48:37,679 take all the papers and tuck them in the back of her folder, all 682 00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,320 the way in the back, like hide them. You don't know how she 683 00:48:40,360 --> 00:48:45,039 thought she was going to continue to get away with it. Another mom had 684 00:48:45,079 --> 00:48:50,239 called me because she wanted to know what the math was. She was having 685 00:48:50,320 --> 00:48:52,119 a similar problem with her kid, but she knew that they were supposed to 686 00:48:52,159 --> 00:48:55,920 finish something. And I was like, Elbie, can I see whatever the 687 00:48:55,960 --> 00:49:00,679 math from today? And she was like, uh oh, I don't have 688 00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:01,440 it. And I was like, what do you mean you don't have it? 689 00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:05,480 It was something that was done and I need to see it. Uh 690 00:49:05,599 --> 00:49:09,360 no, no, can't do I don't know what math was that worried even 691 00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:15,480 mean, and I was like, uh where you're being so strange? Bring 692 00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:19,639 me your folder. Can't find it. I was like, yes, you 693 00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:22,880 can, It's in your backpack. Go get your folder and bring it to 694 00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:24,199 me. And then I was like, what is up? So I look 695 00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:29,760 in there and I see all of these unfinished papers, and then she got 696 00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:32,079 grounded. But then I was kind of onto her. I was like, 697 00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:37,360 oh really, Like so then she couldn't watch TV for like two weeks, 698 00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:39,840 and then of course, immediately I was like, shit, this is more 699 00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:44,039 of a punishment for me. Then I would let because I would have to 700 00:49:44,119 --> 00:49:46,800 let Sadie and Xander watch TV and I couldn't. Then LB had to go 701 00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:50,679 to her room while they were watching TV. And then of course I was 702 00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:52,920 like, oh, this was way too long a punishment, this does not 703 00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:55,400 fit the crime. But then you don't want to go like, you know, 704 00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:58,440 and I'm just going to make it a week, Like I think you're 705 00:49:58,480 --> 00:50:00,880 going to be good in a week. So I think guy kept it up 706 00:50:00,440 --> 00:50:05,360 most of the time, but then another time, but then I was on 707 00:50:05,519 --> 00:50:08,079 guard, and I think one other time I caught her lying and I got 708 00:50:08,119 --> 00:50:12,400 so mad. I think it was in the morning and we were on the 709 00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:15,199 way to school and I yelled at her in the car and I was very 710 00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:19,400 mad, and I was like, I can't believe you did that. You 711 00:50:19,400 --> 00:50:22,119 know, I yelled at her, and then I had to drop her off 712 00:50:22,159 --> 00:50:25,280 at school that way, and then I obsessed about it the whole day, 713 00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:30,159 cried about it. I felt so bad. I was like, I scared 714 00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:35,360 her, and now she's scared of me. I've ruined our relationship. Now 715 00:50:35,360 --> 00:50:40,280 she's going to think of me as a mom who screams at her and tortured 716 00:50:40,480 --> 00:50:45,119 all day, couldn't wait to go pick her up, and I was like, 717 00:50:45,159 --> 00:50:47,360 I don't know how she's going to be, and she'd been sad all 718 00:50:47,480 --> 00:50:51,320 day, and I wanted to like show up at the school and be like, 719 00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:55,320 are we okay because I'm so freaking codependent, right, pick her up 720 00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:58,360 at the end of the day and she's like, hey, mom, like 721 00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:01,239 I had totally forgotten about it. And of course then I apologize and she 722 00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:05,760 was like, ah, what, Yeah, I forget, barely remembered, 723 00:51:06,039 --> 00:51:09,440 hadn't bothered her. And that's when I realized, Oh, it's because we 724 00:51:09,519 --> 00:51:13,119 don't. I don't yell at her all the time, like we don't have 725 00:51:13,199 --> 00:51:16,280 a tense relationship. But I thought maybe it would she in her mind, 726 00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:19,199 she'd be like, well, now this is how it's always going to be 727 00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:22,480 my mom, Like is a screamer, right, Yes, I know, 728 00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:27,400 I know that's the sad but I remember feeling guilty like that too. But 729 00:51:27,519 --> 00:51:30,159 yeah, and you think like it's on their mind all day, but then 730 00:51:30,199 --> 00:51:34,480 you they forget, you know, But yeah, that's another reason, like 731 00:51:34,599 --> 00:51:37,760 I've always you know, I didn't want to be the you know, like 732 00:51:37,119 --> 00:51:39,920 have them. I just because I had such a bad relationship with my mom 733 00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:44,079 and my mom and I fought all the time, like I wanted, you 734 00:51:44,119 --> 00:51:45,280 know, them to be able to feel like they can talk to me and 735 00:51:45,320 --> 00:51:52,480 they can come to me or whatever. But yeah, it's thank god they're 736 00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:58,639 eighteen. My mom was so so hypercritical, you know that just whatever I 737 00:51:58,679 --> 00:52:02,920 was wearing doing saying like I feel like I was getting corrected. And I've 738 00:52:02,960 --> 00:52:07,159 definitely gone the other way on that too. Like there's things that I want 739 00:52:07,199 --> 00:52:10,559 to say sometimes to my kids that I'm like, is it gonna help them? 740 00:52:10,960 --> 00:52:15,800 Are they really going to grow from me pointing this out? Or if 741 00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:21,559 not, I just don't say it. Yeah, And I think it's better, 742 00:52:22,000 --> 00:52:27,679 Yeah, probably because there's certain things that I feel like they already know. 743 00:52:28,159 --> 00:52:30,840 I mean when it was like when they were younger and they'd be stinky, 744 00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:32,960 I'd be like, oh God, you smell bad, Like if there's 745 00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:36,000 something they can do about it? Do you know what I mean? But 746 00:52:36,079 --> 00:52:42,239 like I oftentimes go is this something they can do something about? Or am 747 00:52:42,280 --> 00:52:45,480 I pointing out that they're being annoying and it's not something they're doing like on 748 00:52:45,559 --> 00:52:51,039 purpose? Do I need to make themself conscious, like sometimes the instinct is 749 00:52:51,079 --> 00:52:54,119 like how I was parented and it wasn't a good thing. Yeah, yeah, 750 00:52:54,239 --> 00:52:59,239 I can see that. Yeah. 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