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you guys so much. Appreciate the support. I'm so uh so this college
thing, man, yeah, oh man, all the net don't make the
same mistakes. I know. I like I like hearing the stories because I
can follow in your footsteps. Yeah, how's it going. Remember when our
kids were just like sports and you I. You had the twins and they
were older than my twins, even though it was only like by a year
and a half, right, but it felt it made a difference. It
made a big difference. And you were always like, it's gonna be okay.
Well I'm here to tell you the college thing. It's not gonna be
okay, No, bitch, it's not. It's hard here yourself for this
fucking appointment. Um. So it's brutal, I know. Yeah, it's
a little brutal. It's it's more like what I told you, which is
that I didn't properly know that Elbe was going to, you know, come
up against so much rejection and now it's like even the school, okay,
so she is going to go look at you see Santa Cruz. So that's
the that is the UC that she got into. And a lot of people
say, they go, hey, Stephanie, that's not a bad school.
Yeah, I thought that's that was a I think that's it's a decent school.
It's a good school. I know many people who did not get in
or who got waitlisted, and like, but elbe a lot of her friends
got into one of the UC's that she wanted, which is she wanted U
see San Diego. Really her dream school's U see Santa Barbara. So as
I've told you guys, she's waitlisted for Santa Barbara. And that's just kind
of not a thing you can pin your hopes on, you know, if
you get called to the to the big to the show, like you know,
then yes you grab that spot and you know, Sayonara to your deposit,
that we make it Santa Cruz if we do that, right. But
here's the thing, So she went and toward these schools that she really want
that she thought she would get into. So we towards Santa Barbara, you
remember, and we were so into it, like she was like and you
feel like hot because you're like, well, yeah, I'm in the IH
program at my high school, Like I get really good grades, Like,
why would I not get into this school? Right, it's not I'm not
it's not Berkeley, it's not UCLA, You're like in her mind and in
my mind, I was like, this is kind of like a a middling
school, Like it's it's a total And in Elby's defense too, her college
counselor was like, that's a target school for you. So like that's a
liking school for you to get into, given your grades and the rigor and
the millions of fucking AP test AP classes she takes and the good scores she's
gotten under a all that. Right now, is she like a concert cellist?
No? Is she? You know? Has she been doing? Is
she doing pre Olympic gymnastics? Again? No, But we didn't think for
a state school she would need like yeah, she wasn't. In her mind,
she was always like, I don't want to go to Harvard. I
don't want to go to any IVY league. I'm not interested in at a
school that's super competitive. I want to go to like a nice like he
was not prestigious. I want to go to school in southern California. I
want to go to a school that's not too far and it has a nice
balance. It's like a little bit of a party school but also academic like
school. And Santa Barbara really fit the bill when we went to see it,
and there was no reason that she thought she wouldn't get in until it
started getting closer and it became like, wow, a lot. We were
hearing a lot more like this thing is like a lottery, but we were
still kind of in denial. Yeah. So the thing is, when she
applied to Santa Cruz, it was like, yeah, I'll apply to Santa
Cruz. We knew a few people that had gone there and liked it,
but it wasn't She wasn't thinking I'm gonna go there. Right. So,
now that it's become a real thing and it's like her own literal only choice,
we can't send her to Oregon. Even she got into the Honors college
at Oregon. University of Oregon. It's a great school. It's very expensive
to go out of state and they don't offer money they I mean, she
got a scholarship, she did, she got a good scholarship. She got
ten thousand dollars a year. Yeah, but the school's like sixty seven thousand
dollars. So I'm sorry, but like, real talk here for a minute.
That's over two hundred thousand dollars that we'd be paying out of pocket for
her education at a school that's not that hard to get into. That should
have been the case, do you know what I'm saying? Like, University
of Oregon has a very high acceptance rate, it's a great school. She
got into the Honors College, which has a lower acceptance rate, and that's
all great, but there's no reason to go out of state and spend all
that money when you could go in state to our state school, which is
Santa Cruz, for a fraction at that cost, it's hard. It's hard
to be Like if it was let's say, a private school that was like
a great school that was had been a dream of hers, then I would
I would say, like, let's let me try to figure it out.
Right, But well, I mean we're we are in an industry. Yeah
that is up and down. We just went out on our own on our
Princess cruise lines. Right, I don't make a ton of money doing this.
Like I also teach classes. We're welcome to join. I still have
some space in our Tuesday class sign up right now. But I'm just saying,
you know, we're hustlers. Yes, we're putting stuff together, We're
trying to build. I don't have like that is a huge expense every month
to pay for a college. That is not like right so in my mind,
and this is like my background. And we just talked to the amazing
Michael Bean's father. We talked a little bit about not everybody is cut out
for college or college bound. I think that elb is college bound, but
I don't know that, like she isn't dying to be a lawyer or to
be a doctor, like a lot of her friends are. Like she has
this friend who's like definitely one hundred percent wants to be a veterinarian. Okay,
well then you need to go right to college and you need to go
to a good college and study animal science and like you. But Elbie doesn't
know what she wants to do necessarily. So my feeling is I don't know
that I need to spend two hundred thousand dollars for her to go figure it
out in Oregon right when she could go to Santa Cruz. They have amazing
research there it's a good school, so I just don't want her to be
a snob about it. So now, but so here's the thing. So
now she's like, I'm open to going to tour it, which we towards
San Diego, we towards Santa Barbara. We never towards Santa Cruz because she's
going there, right. Yeah, So she doesn't know anything really about it
and hasn't seen it or felt the vibe. Now, so we're like,
okay, well shit, we have to make decisions by May first. It's
already April. Today is April ten. Yeah, we're talking about this,
right. So there's a admitted students it's called ben a slug Day, and
it's this Saturday coming up. So she waited too long to sign up for
this thing. She tried to sign up like a week ago. It's all
waitlist. Um, what is it. It's like in a big admitted student's
day where all the people that are very strongly considering going there they come and
they meet teachers and they do activities and they attend a lecture. They you
know, right, Okay, it's but she can't get into it even though
she's an admitted student because there's too many fucking admitted students. So now she's
waitlisted. Okay. So then we were like, okay, well let's so
My idea was like, well fuck it, let's go anyway. Yes,
right, there's gonna be so many people ellen Paradise. Just walk in with
everybody else. I just walk in. My mom will go to the movie
theaters. She never bought a ticket for the theater. She would just walk
in and with everybody else and just sit down. Well here, so here's
the problem. So I was all about that. You know, Alby's kind
of a will followers. So she was like, okay, can we look
into this like a little bit more. So I was like, okay,
I'm gonna do it. So I wrote, I tracked down the information for
and this took a lot of like googling, and I was all over their
website. They don't make it easy. You know, you really need to
college education to navigate this college site. It's like, you know when it
has a menu that's like fifteen deep in your in your topics, it's like
admissions, but then you go to admissions and it's like, well what kind
of admissions do you want? Freshman admission? Yeah, I want freshman Okay,
being on a phone tree to blue Shield, you know, they're like,
okay, well go to this thing. Oh you want to contact us,
Well that's a whole different tree now, but who do you want to
contact a freshman? Okay? Anyway, I finally found the admission counselors for
the in for freshmen that live in Los Angeles. That's how broken down it
is, like they break it down into well, what part of the state
are you from? Okay, so I email these people. I try calling
them. Of course none of them they have phone numbers, but they all
go to voicemail of course. So I then I email, and anyway,
the one woman who did get back to me was like yeah, oh and
I and I emailed at the same exact time. So I had emails coming
in from two different the visit I tried to go, I tried to do
the chat bought thing where you like, and that was a no. Right
now, I hate that. That's so disappointing. Oh hey you want help,
Yeah, this is what I need. Like now they're like, you
don't under short circuit. Yeah yeah, yeah, there's a breakdown in the
communication there. So I end up email. Oh, I end up emailing
like visit at whatever visit campus tours, and I'm like, hey, here's
the thing. My kid is wait listed for this. Can we just come
because you know, we're down to this school basically, and then I get
back this whole thing saying no, we're it's it's like security basically, they're
like, no, you have to be registered because there's going to be a
major parking issue and there's not room on the tour and we don't want overcrowding.
So you're welcome to sign up for a tour on a different day.
But so all of the admitted student tours are happening between like these two dates
ending on the fourteenth. Elbe tried every single tour that was happening on any
day because I was like, well we'll leave tomorrow, like get on a
tour. Every single one of them wait list so we could get into any
So the so the tour that we could get on, so it's not an
invented student's day, it's just like a prospective students. It's like juniors are
gonna be going, you know, is not until I think the one that
we got on is April twenty fourth, So she's gonna have to go to
this tour and then on the twenty eighth, she has a meeting with a
counselor from community college, the local community college. So literally she's going to
have to do both those things and then make a decision. Wow, Like
she's going to have like three days to decide what do you want to do?
I think that she'll I think that she's gonna know immediately, like I
you know, I think once she sees both, but she's not going to
even get a real taste of the school because she's just going to be going,
like with on a small tour. But and she's just going to have
to decide what she wants to do. So, oh my god. She's
kind of a bummer because honestly, I just thought my kid would have more
options. Yeah, she didn't. She applied to She's a hard working kid.
She applied to twelve schools. Yeah, she got rejected from cal Poly
Slow Where. Yep, she got rejected from that school. Had she had
a two percent chance of getting in with the psychology major, but we didn't
know that when she applied. She got rejected from San Diego State. She
got rejected from all the ucs besides Santa Cruz and she's, like I said,
waitlisted for Santa Barbara. But that's like her a soft rejection. Sorry,
I don't know if you've if you've addressed this already, But could she
just like take a gap year off and then reapply to all of them again?
And because she's not going to magically be a candidate for those schools,
because what they're looking for are people who specialize, who do this something that
they're really good at, and they do it for years. Well, what
if she changes her major, so the psychology one that's super impacted. What
what if she picked something else that isn't so impacted, Then wouldn't that help?
I guess she could do that. Yeah, But in the meantime,
if that's going to be the case, in the meantime, there's no point
in actually taking a gap year. She might as well go to community college.
She's already old, so she might as well go to community college and
get some of those um some of those credits, some of the prerequisite out
of the way. But she'd have to figure out what she's going what major
she's going to apply to. So like, let's say she decides, like
I'm going to apply as a instead as a communications major. That's cool,
But then she's just going to have to make sure she takes some classes and
communications so she doesn't have to take some of those basic classes yea to start.
What do you think? What do you what is your gut telling you
that she should? I don't know. I don't know, because, as
we've discussed, I didn't go to college. I don't know. I don't
really understand what she'd be missing out on by not going because I didn't go,
right, Like, do I think, Oh, it could be really
fun and to be in college with other college That's how it sounds to me.
I'm like, I don't know. I don't think she's going to join
a sorority, like it doesn't seem up. I don't know. I don't
one hundred percent know. Right now, it is all about the peer pressure.
Right now, she's in a world where all of her friends have gotten
into and students who are nowhere near the student that she is got into Santa
Barbara because they picked some fucking random major. I feel like the counselor should
have been Yes, they should would have could have. And I have a
friend who's like, I would be so mad, I would be I would
be emailing that counselor. But it's like, what is that, what is
that gonna do? But besides prolonged the negativity, like there's nothing we can't
go back and change that. She already applied. You cannot go and say,
hey man, never mind, I would like to be And also with
Santa Barbara, where she was wait listed as a backup, she had communications
or also they can let you in undeclared, so she could get called off
the wait list and just be told she's undeclared, which would be fine.
It's fine with her, right So it's just annoying. But you know what,
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Oh, I was just saying that. Ye all, it's it's a lot
of it is pure pressure. I just don't know. I think I don't
know because I haven't seen Santa Cruz even well, I mean, you know,
she might go there and she just might get a feel for it and
go, oh my gosh, like this is this is great? You know,
I sure she'll get an idea of what it's like, even though she's
missing out on the other By the way, when do they don't you hate
when you miss out on something? Now you got to be on the wait
list. The story of my fucking life, and now it's come to bite
me in the ass. I'm always that another thing later. Shouldn't of the
the counselors get on that too, or no? What I mean, like,
when it's time to sign up? I don't know. But this is
this is me, This is me and Elbe now, yeah, this is
me, Like, oh, this is going to be paying my electricity bill
now it's been sitting on my desk for it. Oh, I'll pay this
parking ticket, you know, I'll pay it tomorrow. Next thing. You
know, you got a boot on your car exactly. I know that's always
been my way. It's terrible. I know that. I've I've tried to,
like, yeah, get things going a little sooner. I've gotten better.
But there are certain things that you just you don't, yeah, go
out of the weight, are gonna I'm gonna be Wait, you don't think
that, You just mean, like, well, she's an admitted student,
right, she should be able to get in. Yeah. Yeah, of
course, of course she could go to Banana Slug Day. Why, right,
I know, like, what the fuck it's ridiculous. Santa Cruz.
Yeah, the Banana fudge Day. Fuck you and your nice weather. I
went and saw Santa Cruise. You see sand Cruise when I want a college
trip about? Yeah? Yeah, and uh I thought it was I thought
it was lovely. It was. It was really nice, very um you
know Nietscheri, it's always not She's she's more of the indoor type. Yeah,
you know, yeah, she doesn't care. She's like she wants a
target on her campus. Yes, that was her biggest impression. Impression,
right, a freaking huge target here dedicated to the college. Yeah. Well,
I liked it, but but yeah, maybe that maybe she won't.
You're like an outdoorsy like your surfer. Yeah, yeah, I like that.
I like to be in the fee the forest. It kind of feels
like you're in the middle of the forest. What are your when you're walking
around? I don't like trees. I don't want to hear birds chirping,
like I want to be in a city. That's what she wants. Yeah,
where is it? Is it like secluded or is it in there or
is there like a town. It's kind of like you're by the beach.
Yeah, no, it's not by the beach. That's not by the beach.
I don't think so. Santa Cruz is a coastal city though, college
I mean itself is I don't know. I don't know. You know,
I tried to block out that entire trip that I took. I just tried
to erase he went and there was no one from your school, right,
Well, there was two trips. There was a West Coast and the East
coast, and everybody went on the East coast, right, So then we
were like, okay, well let's do the West coast one. And I
was the only person from my school and everyone else had people from their school,
so they were all hanging out with all their friends that they knew at
their school. And I was just like it was like seven days, right,
it was like it was more a big I don't think it was seven,
but I think it was like three or four days. Like it was.
It was a trip and you had to fly there, right, No,
oh, no, you were here. Took a bus down south to
San Diego and then all the way up north to like San Francisco and then
down So which schools did you see? Um, like all the ucs,
all of them, well a lot of them. Santa Barbara, San Diego,
Santa Cruz. I think we stopped at Berkeley. Um we saw one
in San Francisco. Um. Yeah, So Elbe went to Berkeley, she
toured Berkeley, she toward Santa Barbara, she toured uh, San Diego.
Not when did she get in None of the school She's like Santa Cruz,
bfdan CUI did not visit. And Oregon we never got around too, because
she was like, I'm not gonna really end up going to Oregon. Yeah,
but now I think she's I mean, honestly, I'm like, I
mean, I wish we could send her to Oregon because quite a few of
her friends are going to go there. It's a beautiful school, did she
get Ayre? It's well, yeah, but you have to pay loans back.
And not only that, but she we would have to take out loans
for two hundred thousand dollars because the kids aren't allowed to take out loans.
Did you know that they can only take out like I feel like it's like
seventy five hundred a year. Oh yeah, I think I yeah, yeah,
that's not we have to pay for it. Although I don't understand these
people that come out like well, also, I don't want LB coming out
of college owing two hundred thousand dollars in student loans, Like that's insane.
I don't even want her owing twenty thousand dollars. That's like, I mean,
I've heard horror stories from people that like have that hanging over there.
A lot of my current friends are still paying off student loans right now.
That's a real thing, it is. Yeah, And also for what if
she don't know what you're gonna do, Like, you don't know that you're
going to come out of college already making big bucks as what a social worker,
a psychologist. That's what she does, right, who spend the rest
of her life trying to pay that off? Yeah, I don't think my
sense is like I wish. I almost wish she was a little bit more
like me in the way of just like a little more more hustler mentality,
a little bit more like, Oh, I want to try this. I'm
just gonna go try it. Right. But do you know how many times
I was like, oh, but you should start a podcast with your friend.
I know, what would we talk about. I'm like, I don't
know. Being a teenager, she's like mom, can't know, and she
doesn't have like a topic that you know. She's not like sunny, like
into sports, and I don't know if she you know, Yeah, it's
not like she writes. I mean she used to when she was younger.
She was she loved to write, and she I think I used to tell
you guys, she would she was like writing a novel and it was really
good. But like somewhere along the line and I swear to God, like
bringing back like the discussion with your dad, Kaylin. It's like people.
The education system, in some ways I think robs the kids of a lot
of that creativity. It's like we're teaching them these things, and yeah,
I guess we're teaching them how to learn, but like in teaching kids,
my kids are learning, um, you know, real specific ways of how
to write an essay. And you know, by the way, I never
really learned to write an essay, and yet all my sixth book, like
I figured it out, you know what I mean. Like, but that's
because I was allowed to be creative and because Zach I got a job working
in television and you enjoyed it. I loved it, and I got to
write comedy right from the gate. I now have to learn how to write.
Like here, we're this really boring type of writing first right right?
No, I know, looks like what Michael was being was telling us.
It's like, you know, you find what it is if you and if
you're enjoying it. You know that's sometimes maybe you waste too much time at
college and maybe there's something else I don't know, you know, I mean,
I know that Elbie's favorite class right now and always has been is the
creative writing, which she did all last year and she's doing all this year,
and that is more I think her speed. It's like writing prompts,
and she's always gotten the most excited about that. But I don't think she
thinks of even though I'm a writer, I don't think she thinks of writing
as like a career she could go into. I think because school kind of
sucked that out of her so much. If they make everything so boring,
right, I feel bad for like, well, you're honor and Sadie in
the same way. Yeah, but you're a writer. I mean, maybe
you can encourage her and to Yeah. And I did horrible in school.
I did horrible in high school. I was remembering. I know we've talked
about this. I took all general ed classes. I remember that. My
mom at one point was like, well, like, I think you should
be taking like at least honors English because you always do well in English.
That was like my subject in junior high, not middle school. Called it
junior high and junior high I was. I had come from la where I
went to a very airy, fairy um elementary school. Yeah right, very
much like your high school. Very progressive. We call our teachers by their
first names. We did learn, of course, math and history and social
studies and all that stuff, but it was um. It was just a
different way of learning, and I learned a lot. So when I went
to junior high in Spokane, Washington, I was way ahead of all these
things, right, So I think I told you they did like a spelling
bee, and I was like, how are these people are able to sell
these really easy words? So I was killing it in the spelling b I
won like the whole school spelling bee, and then kids hated me for that.
They thought I was like a show off. I was like, well,
I didn't even think I was showing off, Like these words are easy,
right, So so I slid through junior high eight days, but I
never studied. I didn't do homework. I was like, it was too
smart for these people. Then I hit high school and I was like or
because all of a sudden, it was like the math got a lot harder
and you had to pay attention in class and you couldn't just be like,
oh, I'm too smart for all you motherfucker's right, and it was like
you had to do homework, which I was very offended by the idea of
I hated homework doing homework, so I just kind of didn't blew it off.
And then as soon as things got too hard for me, and I
didn't understand what was going on. Like in math, I was just like,
well, I don't understand it, and I don't like this feeling that
I don't understand, and nobody and you know, home life was not good,
right, nobody was getting me a tutor. Same with me, I
did the same thing. Nobody cared whether I was doing well. They just
wanted me to do better and thought that I was just lazy and fucking off.
But the truth was I got panicked. I thought I was dumb and
was like did not understand math and didn't understand a lot of stuff and maybe
had a bit of add you know. Yeah, it was like had trouble
focusing and paying attention, and if the class was boring, I was like
checked out. I'm checked out. And I see that with my own kids,
and I take a much different approach with them, you know. But
for me, I was just kind of like, well, okay, then
fuck it, I'm not doing it right. So I would literally sit there
and get a test in math which I would not have studied for it,
and I couldn't remember the formulas. Remember the story I told you where I
wrote the formula in my hand and caught cheating. Yeah, but if I
couldn't do that, then I would just be like, well, I don't
get it. So I had this sort of like fake chip on my shoulder
like well, fuck you, I don't care, right, And that was
my attitude, and I would not care and I would not fill out a
single answer, and then my teacher hated me and would just be like really
okay and write a big zero on my test and show it to the class.
And I just got a really, really worsi worse attitude. And then
the only classes that I passed or did did fine in were ones it came
that were interesting. Teenager in the law, I think I told you I
took that class. I took a psychology class, killed it got a because
I love I thought. But every other class I really struggled. And then
math I just had fail. Yeah, And so I ended up only graduating
high school because I took a remedial math and like, the thing is I
just didn't learn to Oh. So what I was going to say is I
was like, honors classes, are you high? Like? And my parents
were high a lot, but I was, So I took one honors class.
I took honors English and it was so boring, like we had to
read out of like literature. Like I remember reading, okay, this story
by um Hemingway, yeah, the Old Man in the Sea or whatever.
Yeah, those there would be like excerpts or pieces, and I remember just
going, oh my god, I'm dying of boredom, Like, do you
have anything written in like this century right for me? And I just I
ended up dropping out, dropping back down. I was like, I can't,
I can't. I was getting a C in Honors English, so I
just I was like, remember when English was easier for me? Right?
So I just went to regular English? Yeah, Like I was yea,
yeah, that big of a no getter, right, And yet I'm a
writer, right because I read and because I liked it enough to overcome,
and because I didn't go to college and get more drowning for I didn't think
that. Back to what Michael was saying, yeah, yeah that it could
skiff you if you're It depends on the person. It depends on their what
creativity, you know, what they want to do. I feel like I'm
worried that Elb like worked so hard at studying and you know, being academic
and getting her reward and getting good grades and then to find out that that
didn't really pay off for her, and that maybe she could have just been
like more following her dreams and enjoying writing and doing things on the side besides
drowning and homework every day. I wonder if she's just feeling like, well,
I don't know. Now I don't even get to go to a college
I really wanted to go to, Like, so what is the point of
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you have anything else you want to talk? Well, you want to talk
about like stuff we're watching now this weekend, Steven and I are going to
see live taping. Oh yeah, that's gonna be fun of Love is Blind,
Love is Mine. We're gonna it's live. And I think me if
I'm wrong, And I was saying this to my friend Jody, the one
that set up set this all up. I think that this is the second
Netflix live event. The first one was Chris Rock That's what I was thinking.
Netflix doesn't do live events. I know, And I gotta tell you.
I'm a tiny bit bummed about it because I was kind of hoping that
they would be taping it where they would kind of go long and we'd hear,
like, you know, they do it taping like a like what you
hear the Real Housewives taping are like where it goes like three hours and you
just hear all the tea and then they only then they have to go edit
it. But we're like, oh, we don't. You don't have to
edit for us, right because we saw it all live. Yeah, and
then we have tea to spill. That's right. No, No, but
we but we're gonna record, aren't we recording a show with Dylan and Patrick
um for Bad TV? After but where we can't air it until whatever,
until we can. Now the last episodes are gonna drop on Friday. We
got to make sure. We got to make sure we're up to date.
It's just one. There's just one more, right, No there, I
thought I was looking at him yesterday. Well, they haven't had any They've
only started one wedding, so they only did the one wedding with Micah and
Pop. No, with Chelsea and Kwame and Chelsea. That's what I do.
And then we don't know what Kwame's gonna say, but we haven't done
any of the other weddings yet. Right, well, how long did the
weddings normally take. I don't know. I've never seen the show before before
getting into it this season, which, well, they take a little while.
The show's only one hour. There's gonna there's gonna be at least two
episodes left. I'm pretty sure. Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely not.
Do you think Kwa's gonna say? I think well, I was going
back and forth. So you've been watching it? Huh, Yeah, you
guys got me on the show, which I again, I'm watching a lot
more reality TV these days. But they would never never was I ever like,
oh, I want to check out that Love is Blind show. After
hearing you and Dylan and Patrick just talking about I was like, Okay,
I'm gonna check it out. And I got through the first three episodes in
the pod It's like, okay, there's something there. But I was kind
of just on my phone for a lot of it. It wasn't until afterwards,
yes said I was like, oh, this show is great. And
they start like, right life that other people that they were flirting with,
and they start throwing them in at parties, like here, you were flirting
with this person, why don't you go join this hang out? Yeah?
Oh this show is yeah really good. Yeah, because I could see that
for a few episodes. Yeah, the pot see there, you like,
Wendy's not into it, Jody's not. And I think it's because I think
the pod thing turns people off. It's it's the Amy didn't like the pods
either. Yeah. I think it's kind of like laborious. You know,
it's like all right, this guy's it's like this girl. All right,
just meet everybody already and get going. Well. See, the show is
so similar to Married at First Sight it is, which is a great show.
The problem with Love at First Sight is that each episode is two hours,
so there's so much filler. The thing that Love is Blind does well
is they just eliminate all that filler and they just like get to the point,
which is, here's these two people that are thrown together. Right,
But it's the same, it's the same idea, except that the different only
differences that they meet and they're picking their mate, right, whereas Love Married
at First Sight is arranged marriage, So this is you've kind of picked the
person, but you can't see them, which changes everything. It's true.
But yeah, when they you know, when Kwame and Mica started flirting in
the in Mexico, I was like, oh, okay, yeah, okay,
this show is good. I'm watching it. I'm hooked. Yeah,
I'm on it now yea. So yeah, so what do you think is
going to say? So what do they do with the weddings? Is it
like, oh, they either show up to the wedding and getting married or
they say like I'm backing out. Is that how it works? Oh?
So they all show up, okay, except for uh, well, what's
their it's uh Jacquelina. Yes, Jacquelina is not showing up for the wedding.
She didn't show up driving. Yeah, but the rest of them they
show up and then they ask I don't know how they determine who they ask,
but then they say they do the vows and they have to stand there
and then the one person says it's so do you so and so take and
then they either say I do or they say I don't. Right, Oh,
and they'll just leave them. Oh, then that person who got the
person who the person who says I don't, the other person who just got
dumped? Who just got don't It usually runs off like into yeah, they
do their their vows and then but I think I think Quami's gonna say no
because because it's if you look at the history, I feel like the first
couple that goes up that they show break up. Oh really think from in
the past, I'm pretty sure it's usually they don't work out, then they
have the couple that's gonna work out next, and then yeah, Tiffany,
they'll be second. Yeah, that's my prediction. They're gonna yeah, but
they're gonna work out, they'll be second. But what do you think is
was the um? Do you think it was just kind of a red herring
when they had when Tiffany was like just wearing her clothes and and Brett's going,
this is not how it's supposed to be in the coming attractions, freaking
out going, this is not how things were supposed to go. And Tiffany's
crying like on their wedding day, like wearing wearing a pair of ripped jeans.
Oh, I didn't see that wearing ripped jeans. She's just wearing like
street clothes in like the hotel room. I think I don't think it has
to do with those two. It seems to me like something locate, something
probably went wrong. I don't know. I don't think it has to do
with them breaking up. I have this not supposed to happen, meaning maybe
family members. I don't know. Oh, and did show up something something
Okay, not not their relationship. But they're trying to tea He doesn't make
us think that, right, I got you love well. I feel like
going off of last season with Raven and Ska, where it really seemed like
he was gonna say yes, I feel like that it's a similar vibe with
h Quame because he's acting like he's into it, but I think he doesn't
seem super into it. Well yeah, but I think he's playing. I
think he's trying. He knows he's on camera, and I think that he
feels like and I think he does care about her, I really do.
But I don't think he's scared. I think get scared. I think I
think he got scared of a commitment. And I hate to say it,
but I think she came on a little too strong for him. She's constantly
like, I love you, I love you, I love you, I
love you. You know I'm here from you know. I'm here from you
know. I'm here from you you know. It's like, you know,
I think, and I think that's but that one scene where she kept feeding
him strawberry, he was like, God good, I don't want anymore.
That's what I'm But I think that he does. I think he does care
for her. He might say because this happens where they don't get married but
then they end up dating, they might end updating. I think he's either
going to say no or he's gonna say yes, and it's not going to
work out because he's gonna say yes because his sister's there, but he has
some excites to say no. He might his sister was she was great,
wasn't she what was her name? Barbara? I think so, yeah,
Oh she's the best. Was great. But the only reason I think he
might say yes is because she was just going like, I will kill you
if you don't say. I feel like it might be a misdirect that he's
acting a little overwhelmed by it. I feel like he's throwing out all of
these like I don't know, I'm compromising too much, right, And I
think he might surprise us all and be like, no, I'm really yes,
I'm into it. I love you. I'm willing to compromise. That's
what I'm thinking. It might be a misdirect. But but then again,
I don't know, because SK, I thought was totally into it, and
then he was like no because I don't want to do. The thing that
I was thinking with the Eska thing was like sk was like no because my
family can't be here, and like I need more time. So I was
thinking maybe Quame was going to be like, it's not the right time right
because my mom's not here and I really want her approval and all those like
that's why I think maybe he might want to date. I don't know.
I don't know. Ka frecking cheated on her at the end, oh I
know, and they got back together. They started dating, and then that
was a heartbreaking ending. Yeah last year season, Yeah, but it was
such a meaningless sorry, my phone's buzzing. It was such a meaningless um
finale for Love is Blind last season because so much stuff happened afterwards, But
it was like, why are remember it was the more should happened after the
altar or whatever they kept showing. They showed all of this, these scenes
of sk and Raven, and it was like, guys, we already know
they're not together anymore, that he cheated again. Yeah, yeah, but
what do you think is going to happen with Paul and Micah. That's a
wild card. They don't seem super connected to me. No, I don't
think she likes him. No, But then why is she being like,
oh my god, I love you, I love you camera when you're away
from me. I was there? Why on the camera? I think for
the camera. I think she's a fake bitch. I don't like her.
Her friends gotta go. Oh god, good lord God. If I was
her, I would be like, uh, the dress, trying the dress,
trying onto the dresses is canceled this Saturday, it's next Saturday. I
would throw her off because I would not want her on camera anymore. I
just don't like this. For you so dumb, It's so dumb. But
no, I don't. I don't think. I think that he seems to
me genuinely likes her. And I think he feels that she's not gonna I
think he feels that she's not into it. And I hope he's smart enough,
right, And I hope he's smart enough to see that he doesn't like
I mean, he's the scientist, yeah, but he's not really into like
the smart women. Now go for any smarty pants. No, and he
should have gone for what's her name Bliss? Bliss. Paul should have gone
for Bliss, Oh my god, saw. Yeah. If you remember when
they're in the pods, Kwamie is also wanting Mica, and he comes back
and starts talking about her, and he like, Paul's like, oh,
I gotta go now, I gotta do right now. So he like rushes
into it. And then it's like, Okay, you rushed into it,
and now I don't think you too, are right right now? Okay?
And then who else? Bliss? His dad? Oh blisten Zach. Are
they gonna say They're gonna say yeah? I think I think they're gonna say
yes. Zach is so intent by the way. I mean, I like
him because he's a nerdy type guy. I like him too. I feel
like he's our type. Totally. Yeah, I would pick him. We
would have both gone for him. I would have been super excited if that's
who. If that who was who I picked in the pod too, I
would have been like, hey, yeah, I didn't understand why all the
chicks hated him when he went to Mexico. Yeah, like jack Jackie,
she was like, I don't like his ass. I don't want to be
next to him. I don't he's weird, like oh Jackie. Yeah,
and she's screwed up by the way. Marshall was too sweet for her.
Oh that broke my heart. Marshall, if that broke my het tried very
hard for her. Oh yeah, and she just is broken And I'm sorry.
I'm gonna this is gonna be unpopular opinion here. But when he was
like, you're basically called her a project, and I know she got so
mad about that. People were all like in an uproar about it. But
I kind of understood what he meant. I feel like she's she made herself
seem that way, right. She said over and over how damage she is
and she doesn't know, and like she's got all these family problems. And
I think what he was saying is you're a work in progress. I understand.
I didn't expect you to be perfect when I met you, Like I'm
here, I want to be the guy that's stable for you. It helps
you heal, right, Now, do I think that's a great thing.
No, I don't. I don't think you go with somebody because you're like,
hopefully you'll eventually be better. But I don't think he meant it like
you're kind of stupid, so I'm gonna be with you. Well, hopefully
i'll send you to college and you know, now get an education. He
didn't mean it like that. He meant you're fucked up. He want I
think you're a good person. I want to be anyway, and I think
you know you're working on yourself. But she's not working on herself now.
She's not give a full give a fuck, especially if she likes that jackass
with the weird ear yeah whatever, his name was haliflower e califlower ear.
Yeah. Um, but yeah, I think Bliss and Zach. Okay,
but here here goes. Here goes one more unpopular opinion. I didn't think
Josh was that bad. And here's why. Do you remember when they're in
the pods and uh, obviously you remember this the show from four years ago?
Do you remember this episode? So when Marshall finds out, when she's
like, well, there's this other guy who's really like telling me that he's
that the thought of you proposing to me makes him sick and whatever. She's
playing the two guys against each other, and then Marshall gets all riled up.
He's like, ah, that's disgusting. I'm gonna go talk to him.
And like Marshall's all like, I'm gonna go fight this guy. He's
acting like it, right, And then he's over in the like the kitchen
area like where the cupcakes were made, right, And then m Josh is
just over like by a table, kind of just chilling, right, and
then Marshall's like giving him really dirty looks like and then he's like, hey,
so uh you like my girl? Right? Like now remember this.
So here's the thing. They're all on the same show, right, they
all have equal access to these to each other. They're all still having dates
in the pods. So I don't know what made Marshall think that, like
Jackie belongs to him and like another guy can't like her. Right, So
Marshall's coming in real hot right, his being esteemed right, So so Josh
I thought Marshall's like confrontational with him, and he's like he's all mad and
he goes, oh you know, and he goes and Josh is so calm
about it. He goes, I mean yeah, like, yeah, I
like her. I mean we've had some dates and yeah, I caught feelings.
And Marshall's like, whoa yeah blah blah blah. He's like kind of
trying to start something with him, and Josh just like, okay, I
mean, Marshall, he doesn't take the bait, and Marshall's mad, and
then he goes, whoa, you know one of us is you know you
could really get your feelings hurt or something, and Josh goes, okay,
yeah, right, what happened? Right? And then when Marshall goes and
proposes to her and she says yes, Josh doesn't do anything. He doesn't
go like what the fuck right? Right, Like he just like okay,
he's bummed, right, And then he tries to talk to her later,
but like and maybe that's not cool, but like the producers obviously sent him
in there. At that party, when Josh comes in and he's like tries
to talk to My point is at no point did Josh act like, yeah,
tried to fight him or like yell or have any kind of confrontation.
So I kind of be cool with him at that party, which was just
I don't know if he was drunk, but it was a very weird interaction
when he walks up to Marshall, He's like, hey, hey, we're
cool. Right, We're cool, and like he's kind of like, you
know, giving him a high five. Right. That was very weird.
But maybe he was just drunk. I'm not saying he's great either, but
everybody who's like, oh my god, he's the worst. He's a toxic
male and age. I wasn't getting that really either. Yeah. I just
thought he was drunk that time he showed up at the at the bar when
she was in a bad mood. Yeah, she came late. When is
she not in a bad mood? Yeah, that's true. She's always passing.
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