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Who what's up, beautiful people.
It is your baby mama, favorite baby

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Mama, Stormy Pee And this is
another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip the

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modern day female perspective. Damn Son
back at it again, y'all. I'm

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not gonna take up too much short
time today. I just want to say

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my few things and fucking go okay, because I'm sick of y'all on alive.

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I'm sick of Shot. Not really
today, I'm even sick of seven.

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You know, I taught the dog
because I taught the dog how to

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do kiss. We haven't recorded in
a bottom month and Shot has not been

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following up teaching a dog kiss,
so now he forgot how to do the

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kiss. So yeah, that's fine. I said what I said. He's

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supposed to kill niggas, not kiss
him. He I taught him that,

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okay, and he has forgotten it. So you know, fuck you guys,

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please do, please do. I
just want to talk about a few

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things. If you did not know
my birthday, but this past weekend and

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I was in St. Thomas and
it was amaze balls. But I feel

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like we wouldn't have a genuine conversation
if I didn't be real about my complete

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trip. So here's like the nitty
gritty and all you need to know.

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Number One, I was sleep by
nine o'clock every day. What I went

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by myself, Well, I was
just drinking all day and sleep by nine

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o'clock every day. So for the
record, I didn't have dinner while I

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was in the same Thomas. I
didn't need dinner out one day. I

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did not eat dinner, not one
day. I brought so many fire dinner

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fits, dresses given body, gaudy, gaudy showed nothing, nothing, nothing,

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because I was sleep every day,
every fucking day. So because nobody

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saying happy birthday to me, it's
still my birthday. Because I did not

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blow out a candle, It's still
my birthday. And yeah, somebody said,

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he yo, that's punishment vacation behavior. Uh no, just trying to

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hand me a fucking blunt and say
it blow this south. Why did you

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go alone? Well, I went
along because a lot of my friends are

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school teachers, so we couldn't gather
like a time for all of us to

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go. But I really wanted to
do something for my birthday. And yeah,

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so I went. That's the purpose
of going out of town, out

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of the country. You're supposed to
try new foods. I know that.

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I know that, and I had
different type of tacos and chicken fingers,

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n like I do eat other stuff
when i'm like in other countries. But

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maybe I'm about a beach drinking.
I just need some quick what the bar

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got, that's what I need,
proper fire, the fresh exactly. You

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know, So mister on go say, friends should have said fuck them kids,

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not fuck their jobs. Though that's
the only pushback, like you know,

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Oh no, I know some wonderful
women, and you know what,

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I know some wonderful women. And
I put it in the group chat today,

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I said, y'all, what's the
biggest problem or the hardest part y'all

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have about dating? And they fucking
flooded that ship. And I want y'all

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to know that's where all the topics
today came from. Made it out of

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the group chat hashtag pink possy.
Y'all did y'all big one with this one?

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Because I can't wait to talk to
y'all about some of the ship.

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These cards right here, I can't
wait to talk to you about some of

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the ship. But yeah, I
have to find a way to shoot the

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episode with the pink posse. Yes, that's put it on the vision board.

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Yes, that's what we're gonna do. I'm gonna put it on the

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side. You look like my grandma. So long story short, I was

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in bed by nine every day,
so I did not have dinner the whole

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time I was in Saint Thomas.
So it's still my birthday. So when

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y'all see me out celebrating this weekend, don't talk shit. It's still my

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birthday. That's the first thing.
Second thing, I stayed in a gated

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community but not a resort, so
she got money. I was walking around

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and it was multiple times. I
was like, damn, I hope I

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don't get traffic right. Like I
looked at her like, I feel like

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Nigga's out here got machetes. I
don't think his heart had I know somebody

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out here got a fucking machete,
Like, I don't think I should be

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out here by my goddamn self.
Like, but I was dressed, very

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overdressed, she says after she comes
back right, because she would have had

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to a nigga before. Ain't the
way I'm just saying, I ain't the

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way he Nigga would have win I
wouldn't call you every day. I thought

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this was a safe space. I
thought y'all wanted to hear about my birthday

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now because you back home. Nigga, it wasn't Dad well, he was

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about to get he was about to
be food. Literally, listen, I

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knew if something would have happened niggas
got my location, they would have came

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same, Thomas, sounds like the
perfect location for a cannibal ass scary.

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You know, it's low key,
like yo. First of all, everything

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is so expensive out there, which
doesn't make sense, which I found because

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I wasn't staying on an all inclusive
resort. And then it's like low key,

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like a thorough world country, like
they don't have a lot of things.

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That's gentrification Americans be talking about.
No, no, I'm serious,

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Like, but it's so beautiful,
you expect it to be like the newer

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version of like you know, the
San Juan's or like the Jamegas. She

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make itsund a really nice resort.
I would think that when they come over

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there and pitched your idea about having
yeah created, they tell them that they

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be paying the minimum wage based off
of whatever it is over there. It's

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only the tourist work there, but
I do want to be fair and say

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once again I did not stay on
all inclusive resort, so maybe it's different

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over there, Like I don't know, I don't know. I wonder if

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those lands of tax free like Puerto
Rico is probably not, probably fucking not.

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Also real fasts about my birthday.
I made an Amazon wishless and y'all

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really bought all the stuff on my
wish list, and thank you. I'm

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gonna go a live later on this
week and open all my packagees just for

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y'allso pay attention, pre scream what
I know what the packages are? The

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oh you know what? You could
send me something that wasn't on the list.

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What if I open it, it's
like a fucking double edged still do

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and it pops out like that can
on words. My friend Tiny he bought

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his mom that for what the okay, he took it like a chance,

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she laughed. I respect it's like
this big. He's like mm hmm,

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that's why his name is tiny.
Okay. White people the lim said,

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oh no, oh no, cut
that right at the time. Stamp down,

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they said, cut that ship out
shout. They don't like that.

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So all right, Okay, So
the theme for today's episode, like I

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said, you know, I went
to my groove chat. I said,

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yo, what's the hardest part about
dating? Right now? What you got

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for me? And they all put, you know, their voices and their

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opinions. I do want to say
before we get started, this is not

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the general consensus of my group chat. A lot of these things. I

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took their opinions and countered it with
my own point of view and my own

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opinion. So everything that you see
this is not how all the girls that

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I hang with think. Some of
it is my own. Be thankful I

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did not put all of what it
is because they was grinding all the fuck

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up. But yeah, you know
it was. You don't want to be

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in this one. This one was
a little wild. So yeah, let's

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let's get to it. The theme
for today's episode is funny but really though,

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okay, because I feel like everything
we're gonna say it's gonna be funny,

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but it's not fucking funny. And
listen to what I'm saying. Get

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your shit together, men and women, Okay, get your shit together?

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All right. So the first one, and I don't even know how to

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start with this, but I feel
like we're family. So this is a

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safe space and we can say how
we feel and it's going to be interpreted

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the way that it needs to.
So like, ladies, men be so

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sassy, like this new generation of
men that want to be treated like women,

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it's crazy to me. Like me
personally, I just feel like,

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you know what I'm saying, If
you're not trying to spend three hundred dollars

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on the first date, what are
you even trying to date me for?

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If you're not trying to spend or
you gotta send, you gotta send.

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Let's say, you gotta sen,
you gotta send a card to pick me

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up, and you gotta let me
order food to take home to my fucking

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kids, because like, if not, what are you dating for? It's

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given very much brokie. Now,
ladies, don't fight me, because I

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know y'all like to tussle. Okay, I know y'all like to tussle.

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To all my women who feel like
this, let me ask you a quick

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question. What happens when your son
brings a female home like this? Hold

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on, hold on, hold on, because I feel like when I started,

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all the women heard it and say
yes, bench come on, finally

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somebody's saying it. No no,
no, no no no no no no

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no, I heard it beforehand,
tried no no no no no no no

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no no. To all my women
who feel this way, what happens when

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your son brings home a woman who
thinks that way? What my boob?

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Oh? I had the monk Oh
yeah, okay, this is a genuine

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question, and I want y'all to
answer this respectfully. To all my ladies

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who feel this way. What happens
when your son brings home a woman who

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thinks that way? What happens when
your son brings home a woman who doesn't

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know how to reciprocate? What happens
when your son brings home a woman who's

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searching for a parent instead of a
partner. Do we still have these same

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thought processes? I hate this.
I hate this for us. I hate

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this way of thinking because a man
has I'm not gonna say a man,

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because a group of men have stood
up and saying, nah, bitch,

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I'm actually gonna need you to put
something out instead of just taken from me.

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Now all of a sudden, they's
sassy. Now, don't get me

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wrong, some of y'all, some
of y'all. I'm not talking about y'all.

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I'm talking about the majority of men
who are just asking for women to

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reciprocate the time, the effort,
the thought, the emotion, the purpose,

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the intention. Y'all calling them sassy
when all old boy is asking you

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to do is to be a good
fucking human being. All he's asking you

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to do is be an equal partner
in a relationship. Hold on, what

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is this? When did this become
a thing? I'm confused and I really

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want someone, a female in particular, to describe to me what's the difference

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and what are you going to do
when your son brings this type of woman

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home? Because I feel like a
lot of times when women voice their opinions

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on this, you're like, it's
given very much. Pick me, it's

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giving very much? Pick me?
Is it given? Pick me? Or

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am I choosing to provide an example
for which I want my son to follow.

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When my son is out here in
the world looking for a woman,

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I don't want him to choose a
bit who's looking for a parent instead of

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a partner. I want him to
choose a woman who's like, Yo,

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I value you, I appreciate you. You had a hard day at work.

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Tell me about it. You want
a specific meal, let me make

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it for you, because you've been
providing for me in all these other ways.

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Let me show you my appreciation.
If he brings home a woman who

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isn't able to do that, I
don't like her. And before and before

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you start thinking about it, you
got to take out the niggas that you

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know she ain't talking about. Ain't
talking about? Yes, yes, yes,

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I'm not talking about the fuck niggas
And ain't shit, Anthony, I'm

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not talking about him. I'm talking
about the good men who deserve all these

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things. What happened? If your
son is one of them and he brings

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home a woman who's searching for a
parent instead of a partner, are you

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still gonna have that same mentality?
Or are you going to become that overbearing

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parent who's now in the relationship.
Are you gonna come that mom who has

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something to say about everything that she
does? And oh, now all of

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a sudden, he's a mama's boy. Now I'm just like he can't think

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for himself. Now i'ms that his
mom got X, Y and Z to

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say yeah, because you ain't shit
and nobody taught you that's not how you

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treat people, especially people who's treating
you well. So you know, I

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don't want to ruffle too many feathers. But one of the main points that

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I want to say is to women, especially to my women who have sons,

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what are you gonna do when your
son brings home a woman who thinks

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like that? Because that's what he
said, that's what he's been shown his

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whole upbringing. He hasn't been shown
a woman who knows how to pour into

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their man, pour into their husband. I mean, my sister said,

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do as I say, not what
I do. I fuck out of here.

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I'm crying. I'm crying. Don't
have the mentality of do as I

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say, do as I do,
because you know what we do whatever the

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fuck we want to do. So
that doesn't work. I don't think that's

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the right. Yes, yes,
do as I say, not as I

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do. Nah, that that ties
into a point we're going to talk about

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later on. But that that was
a good point. Thank you, thank

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you. But yeah, one,
I don't think it's picked me energy at

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all. I don't think it's picked
me energy at all. It's just showing

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him an example of what he deserves
and what he should expect moving forward.

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Mm, everything ain't for everybody else. So I know I me, y'all

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not gonna like that. And yeah, what you're gonna do be cause you

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can't beat me. Not gonna like
y'all. I did six unassisted dips today,

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So baby girl, I hope you're
not to shoot because you can't beat

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me. That's crazy. I hope
you got that thing, don't yo.

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Okay, you can't beat me.
You can't beat me unless you want of

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the biggest shock putting bitches. Y'all
look dope though. For the record,

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y'all look fucking fire, but you
can't be No. I don't fuck with

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Sister says, save that for high
seven. High seven. You won't come

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now, Okay, goodbye, My
next, my next, my next point.

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We don't really have transitions today.
We just just have points because that's

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how good the topics are. Okay, my next point. Don't be mad

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at y'all. I say all this
with fluff. I say all this with

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fluff, but a lot of y'all
not gonna agree. And I hate this

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for y'all because you are wrong.
I very rarely say this, but you

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are. You see how stupid you
look, you are wrong. Okay,

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my next point. It's not funny. It's not funny. But I know

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some of you aren't gonna like this. But the dating pool doesn't have pissing

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it. I said what I said. I said what I said. Argue

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what your ball head, mama,
I said what I said. The dating

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pool doesn't have pissing it. I
don't care. I don't care. I

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don't care. The dating pool doesn't
have pissing it. Now, don't get

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me wrong, there are some horrible
fucking people out there. But you know

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how when you at the beach,
if three people pee in the ocean,

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you're not gonna notice it. Right. If where you are is extremely pissy,

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baby is you, You're definitely urinating. You are nating, urinating?

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Baby is you? Like? I
don't know, I don't know, I

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don't now. I don't want to
invalidate anybody's experience because, like I said,

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if three people pissing the ocean,
if three people peeing a pool,

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depending on the size of the pool, baby, you're not gonna notice.

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But if where you are it's very
pissy, You've got some thinking. Baby,

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Baby, baby, you get back
what you put out. So now,

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I said it before. I'm gonna
say it again. A lot of

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y'all fight with that a word,
and it ain't anal. It's accountability again

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again, Bruh, y'all struggling with
accountability is why you think the dating pool

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has pissing it. If the last
three people you dated ended the same exact

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way you are nating, urinating,
baby, the dating pool don't got pissing

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it. It's you. You are
pissy. You're pissy. You gotta remember

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to take that left bruh, to
save your number on my phone as fucking

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pissy Patty and pissy Patrick. Okay, you're pissy. You are pissy.

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You are the one pissing out here, all right. I feel like and

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I just want to be clear.
When I say you are pissy, I

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don't mean you are hey hey,
hey, hey hey. I don't mean

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you are purposely going out and being
vengeful and being intentionally a bad person.

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And that's not what I'm saying.
I'm saying you lack accountability and you're ignoring

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red flags and you're putting the blame
on everyone else. Winning all actuality issue,

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an all actuality issue, and that's
okay. This is a safe space,

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this is a safe space. Let's
let's be honest and be real with

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ourselves and say, Yo, the
last three people played in my face because

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I let them. Y'all be leaving
that part out when y'all be in the

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group chat and when y'all be playing
ball and y'all be telling your girlfriends,

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your homies what happened and how the
person who datnate ship. Y'all forgot the

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part where they showed you they wasn't
a shit part out that's not important.

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That fuck that the part cheating you
forgave them when you tell the story,

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Yes, yes, fuck that part
when she showed you on the first state

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she wasn't ship. Forget the part
where he showed you and the first text

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message he wasn't ship. We leaving
all that out. All we're saying is

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this person did this to me and
guess what you let them. We're gonna

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we're gonna leave that part out.
I feel like, you know, if

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the last three people played in your
face the same way, it's only one

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common denominator make issue. The mind
is a powerful thing, so once you

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try to change, it's gonna feel
like everything you're doing is wrong. Stand

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on business, uh, el Pezzio
says that part ain't important. I was

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cuckoo for the kuchie, but it
wore off. Cuckoo for the couchie is

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crazy. That's put that right up
there with the sayings of the year.

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Put that up there. Put Cuckoo
for couchie is crazy. Cuckoo for couchie

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is crazy. But shout out to
all the people cuckoo for COUCHI and dumb

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dumb for dick. Like my dog
gave me yo yo yo, looked at

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me crazy. I was like,
all right, y'all, now I'm not

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gonna lie. What uh, all
right, I'm not gonna lie this next

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one. This one threw me for
a loop, right because one of the

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girls in a group chat said someone
actually said this to her, and the

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phrase was you going to school getting
all these degrees? You think that's how

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you get a husband. You think
a real man gonna want a woman like

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that, one who's interested in generational
wealth? Yes, the fuck? I

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do? What? The fuck?
What? What? What? Maybe he's

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thinking like she's gonna be one of
them girls that may be talking about on

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the internet where she's gonna be so
focused on her schooling that she's not going

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to pay attention to anything else and
stuff like that. You know, And

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that's a very good point, because
I really wrote that down here, and

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it's like, Yo, I'm sorry
that a woman who was dedicated to her

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career and her education made you feel
like you weren't adequate enough for her.

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I apologize, but that's not how
a majority of these women out here with

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degrees be acting. What was that? Oh why you thought it over here?

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Shut up? But no, like, I'm sorry that you happen to

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be dating a woman who made you
feel like you were inadequate based on her

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and her many degrees. I apologize
for that. But the women I know

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what degrees, they don't move like
that. The women that I know with

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degrees and are educated are fucking generous
and bomb as fuck, all right,

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amazing, amaze balls. And I
apologize that that hasn't been your experience.

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But I want, I want us
to stop this narrative of all the women

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who are dedicated to their studies and
trying to better themselves. Oh they're they're

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mean, they're aggressive, they're angry. No, they have standards and you

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don't meet them. And that's okay. That is okay, baby, it's

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plenty of peoples who stands are don't
meet, and that's fine because everybody ain't

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meant for everybody. Now, when
you get on here on our Scots Internet

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and you say things like these women
need to choose better, when they start

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choosing better, it's not you.
Now all of a sudden, they're aggressive

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and they're angry and x ye say
hold on, let's be honest and have

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sincere conversations. I feel like when
you run into a woman who has certain

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standards and boundaries for ourselves, accept
it. Accept it because I'm sure there

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are some things that you may have
that not everyone, not every woman is

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gonna fall under, and that's okay. We have to get more in tune

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with the fact that everybody ain't meant
for everybody. I feel like the millennials

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we grew up in the participation award
era. It's like I won't say,

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yeah, I'm gonna say to the
millennials. I feel like that's around the

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later in the millennials you are.
I feel like that's when it started,

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like right around the nineties, we
started this era of everybody gets a trophy,

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the participation, the participation award error, and it's like everybody don't deserve

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a fucking trophy. Okay, you
don't make the fucking qualifications. When when

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are we gonna be honest with ourselves? A lot of us are so entitled

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because you grew up in this participation
award era, and now you feel like

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you're acsessible to everybody. No,
maybe even in school, we wasn't even

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in the same class. You rode
the short bus. Now we're on the

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internet and you think we're all equal, We're not. I don't think that's

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our fault. I think that's whoever
decided. Like you know, we're not

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gonna hurt anybody's feelings. Hayvy e
C. Says some people needed to be

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left behind. Let's express ourselves.
I feel let's express ourselves, nigga.

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But you still gotta get to work. Done crying. I get it.

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Cry over here while you're doing this. You don't go pick up a hammer,

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nigga. I felt like because we
weren't. I felt like because we

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weren't, some people weren't. Some
people weren't. I feel like because some

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people weren't, they created the sense
of entitlement and it's overflowing. If that

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woman in her degrees says, hey, this is what my standards are,

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you don't exactly meet them. I
wish you the best on your journey.

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Don't take it as a personal attack, because if you turned around and said,

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hey, real fast, your ass
ain't fat enough and doesn't meet my

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standards. Cool, everybody ain't for
everybody. Maybe maybe you don't like girls

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with natural hair, maybe you don't
like girls that don't look like they just

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hopped off the table. Okay,
that's fine. Me myself, I'm fine

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and say, hey, everybody,
ain't it for everybody? Just let that

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be it. Let that be it, because in the same breath that y'all

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say, these women are aggressive and
they're angry and they're not gonna find someone.

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They're not going to find a husband. It's crazy to me because then

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you turn around and you attack the
women who choose people like you, and

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you say, oh, you need
to choose better, but the women are

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choosing better, and now you're in
your feelings, which is it? I'm

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confused. We also got to stop, like I feel like we take on

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a lot of nonsense from the internet
doesn't really like apply to real life,

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Like like the niggas you just talk
about all day yeah, granted, yes,

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but you know, like I hear
a lot too, multiple things can

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be true at the same time.
So yeah, there's there's not not a

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there's a lot of not ship girls
out here. But at the same time,

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how many of them are you meeting? Yes, yes, I don't

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run into these type of girls.
Yes, I'm even worried about But for

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a second there when all I saw
was man, these girls be just out

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there, I was like, yeah, you got to get her crazy,

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like oh my god. But then
you have to really think about, like,

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well, I really think about the
girls around me. You gotta get

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outside and touch grass really, so
you know, you gotta kind of like

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put your life into perspective, disclose
for everybody, like just are these really

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flocking around me? Or is it
just is am I really in the house

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all day? Yes? I really
want us to end this narrative of the

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women with degrees are angry and aggressive
and they think they're better than everybody,

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like the bullstup mommies I know are
cool and generous as fuck you where you

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heard that? And and I feel
like I feel like this is why you

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think women don't know how to reciprocate. No, you don't have the patience

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or the qualifications to deal with the
woman who's financially responsible enough to reciprocate,

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Like maybe you are on the internet
saying do women still take guys out?

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Have women never took a guy out? Have you met the qualifications to deal

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with the woman who can afford to
do it? Hold on, hold on,

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hold on, hold on, don't
know. Hey, hey, hey,

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hey, be easy, be cool. I'm just asking a question.

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If you don't meet the qualifications to
deal with a woman like that who has

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the expendable income to reciprocate, to
treat to make you feel like X,

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Y and Z or buy gifts or
whatever you be on outgorst internet screaming about

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if you don't meet it, how
do you know it exists? Or it

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doesn't exist? Because I'm not gonna
lie, y'all. I promise all the

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mommies that I know with degrees and
who got money, they are all cool

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and generous as fuck. Okay.
And that's not even to say that without

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a certain level of education you won't
be able to touch one because hey,

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Jody had a bit for the car. Are date regular chicks, I guess,

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not the super bad ones that they
be talking about on the internet.

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It's really about the vibe. So
really ain't really about the money at the

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end of the day, Like,
yeah, you'll date the girls who really

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do be outside spending all the type
of money. But if you're really kicking

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it, she ain't really going to
care where you really go exactly, Like

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and then on top of that,
even if you should go to a happy

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hour, I could spend twenty five
hour for a minute, yes, like

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if it's if it's busting in,
it's busting in his bust. That's the

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point of hour and it works.
Listen at the end at the end of

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the day. At the end of
the day, Jody had him a bit

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with a car and a job and
he am shot. Come on and him

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was so cheating, order come on, come on exactly, y'all really gonna

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be fake all right now this next
one, I'll fight all y'all. I

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don't give a fuck. Okay,
That's why I'm gonna saying before I started

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this next thing, I don't care. I said what I said, and

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I'm not wrong when I say it, right, So I want all of

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y'all to really think before you answer
this question, because I say this for

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us, and I want y'all to
resonate and answer honestly. Okay. So

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if you've ever if you've ever gotten
a beaten because you forgot the chicken,

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like take the chicken out the freezer, this is for you, okay,

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And I'm gonna say that again.
If you've ever gotten a beaten because you

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forgot to take the chicken out the
freezer, this is for you. Okay.

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If if you've ever gotten a beaten
and told, like, you know,

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stop crying or I'm giving you something
to cry for, this is for

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you, all right. If I
feel like all the black people are like,

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hey, that's me. Okay.
So, if you've ever gotten a

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beaten because you forgot to take the
chicken out the freezer, this is for

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you. If you've ever been told
stop crying, I'm give you something to

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cry for. This for you.
If your partner asks you what's wrong.

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If your partner asks you what's wrong
and you shut down or just automatically start

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yelling, this is for you.
Seek help, Go to therapy. Go

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to therapy. No, no,
you thought this was gonna be some other

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ship. Now to say that,
go to fucking therapy, black people,

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Okay, surprise surprise, go to
fuck to therapy, Black people, we

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need to go to therap p okay. Number one, we still have not

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dealt with the systematic injustices that we
have dealt with for the past few decades.

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All right, shit that ain't even
got anything to do with us in

404
00:30:37.400 --> 00:30:41.440
our generation. We're still dealing with
some shit our great great grandparents had to

405
00:30:41.440 --> 00:30:47.359
deal with. That's the first thing. Second thing, you're wondering why your

406
00:30:47.400 --> 00:30:49.960
partner is trying to fix the situation
and acts what's wrong. But all you

407
00:30:51.000 --> 00:30:55.559
can do is sit there. And
it's because when you was growing up,

408
00:30:55.599 --> 00:30:56.599
your mama told you shut the fuck
up. We'm gonna give you some of

409
00:30:56.599 --> 00:30:59.920
the cry for us. So now
you don't know how to articulate you're feeling,

410
00:31:00.240 --> 00:31:06.839
all right, got a therapy,
go to therapy. Okay. If

411
00:31:06.880 --> 00:31:11.960
you have ever dealt with your family
saying you are too dark or you are

412
00:31:12.039 --> 00:31:18.480
not dark enough, go the fuck
to therap keyp okay. You're not ready.

413
00:31:18.000 --> 00:31:22.079
You're not ready. You don't have
the skills to be a good partner.

414
00:31:22.119 --> 00:31:26.680
Because baby, and I say this
with love, we weren't taught it.

415
00:31:27.200 --> 00:31:33.759
That's not generationally, socially, economically, that's just not what was instilled

416
00:31:33.759 --> 00:31:38.559
in us. So in all actuality, I really feel like I don't think

417
00:31:38.599 --> 00:31:41.960
I can marry someone who hasn't been
to therapy because you don't know how to

418
00:31:42.000 --> 00:31:45.680
be a good partner. And I
don't care what fucking upbringing you had.

419
00:31:47.079 --> 00:31:52.359
If you dealt with any of those
situations and haven't been to therapy, you

420
00:31:52.400 --> 00:31:55.480
can't be my husband. You don't
know how to be a good husband.

421
00:31:55.519 --> 00:31:56.720
You don't know how to be a
good wife. And this is coming from

422
00:31:56.799 --> 00:32:01.599
somebody who's worked on themselves. Okay
me personally, I feel like you don't

423
00:32:01.599 --> 00:32:06.240
have the tools. And it's not
a derogatory thing. I don't mean to

424
00:32:06.240 --> 00:32:08.720
make you feel less than I'm trying
to make you a better you. And

425
00:32:08.759 --> 00:32:13.079
these are things that you need because
at the end of the day, you're

426
00:32:13.119 --> 00:32:15.119
not gonna understand why you do some
of the fucked up shit you do.

427
00:32:15.200 --> 00:32:17.480
As a director, I have to
clear this up. I don't think she's

428
00:32:17.480 --> 00:32:21.920
talking about niggas who just their parents
said that one time in their life and

429
00:32:21.920 --> 00:32:24.880
they just had a flash. Yeah. Yeah, She's talking about more people

430
00:32:24.920 --> 00:32:29.839
who actually have real life frauma,
because she's really glazing over and I can

431
00:32:29.880 --> 00:32:32.359
just feel somebody's don't clip it and
take it out of context. Okay,

432
00:32:32.720 --> 00:32:36.079
you should, you should. Okay, I'll say it. I'll say it.

433
00:32:36.079 --> 00:32:37.279
I'll say it. I'll say it. I'll say it. I say

434
00:32:37.319 --> 00:32:40.200
it. So Shad said that I
need to clear up a few things.

435
00:32:40.279 --> 00:32:45.160
Okay, this doesn't apply to the
people who went through one or two of

436
00:32:45.200 --> 00:32:49.720
these things one time. I'm not
talking about that. If this was a

437
00:32:49.799 --> 00:32:54.119
common practice in your household, your
parents' household and their parents household, you

438
00:32:54.319 --> 00:32:59.160
have to work that ship out of
you because if you don't, you are

439
00:32:59.200 --> 00:33:01.519
not going to have the tool on
how to be a good partner. And

440
00:33:01.559 --> 00:33:07.160
that's just life. Like in all
electuality, we like to joke about my

441
00:33:07.279 --> 00:33:10.799
mama beat me too, the white
meat. That's abuse. She said that.

442
00:33:10.799 --> 00:33:14.839
That's what she's talked about. That's
what she's talking about, Like,

443
00:33:15.279 --> 00:33:20.519
bruh, Like we we laugh and
joke about that. She's like, I

444
00:33:20.559 --> 00:33:22.400
knew he loved me when he punched
a hole in the wall. That's not

445
00:33:22.440 --> 00:33:28.759
funny. That's not how you should
know, bruh. And that's why I

446
00:33:28.799 --> 00:33:30.680
say the theme of the episode is
funny, but not really though, Like

447
00:33:30.759 --> 00:33:36.559
if you are using that as a
measurement of love. Baby, No,

448
00:33:37.480 --> 00:33:39.559
no, we need to be directing
in music videos and said, yes,

449
00:33:45.559 --> 00:33:49.839
bruh, I'm serious though, Like, because we have not worked through and

450
00:33:49.880 --> 00:33:53.440
figured these things out, we don't
know it's not really healthy or acceptable.

451
00:33:53.640 --> 00:33:57.319
And then you know what we do, We turn around and pass it right

452
00:33:57.359 --> 00:34:00.680
back on to the next generation.
And that's crazy, because I'm gonna be

453
00:34:00.720 --> 00:34:05.119
real with you. My son saiditious, fuck okay, he gonna have to

454
00:34:05.200 --> 00:34:09.000
date a woman who was raised by
people who went to therapy or installed her

455
00:34:09.079 --> 00:34:12.840
in therapy, because don't try to
bring that function over here, because he's

456
00:34:12.840 --> 00:34:15.679
gonna look at you like you're stupid
and peace out and you're gonna get on

457
00:34:15.800 --> 00:34:20.159
outgards internet talking about I don't understand
why he ghosted me because you ain't shit,

458
00:34:20.920 --> 00:34:24.079
that's not the way he was raised. No, no, no,

459
00:34:24.079 --> 00:34:30.239
no, no. So yeah,
man, I think only my girlfriends have

460
00:34:30.320 --> 00:34:32.159
met my mom. I don't think
any of my female friends really, I

461
00:34:32.159 --> 00:34:37.320
don't even think any of my guy
friends because I just hold her. The

462
00:34:37.400 --> 00:34:42.840
older I get, the more I'm
like, you're on. Yeah, Like

463
00:34:42.880 --> 00:34:45.920
I hold her to such a high
regard. I'm like, and you know

464
00:34:46.000 --> 00:34:51.960
what I wish my son would try
to bring some bald head half of the

465
00:34:52.079 --> 00:34:55.440
me who he wasn't serious about.
Boy, no, I'll get to look

466
00:34:55.480 --> 00:35:00.760
like I agree. I agree.
Now, I will say the one probably

467
00:35:00.840 --> 00:35:05.159
fucking traumatic thing that my son still
has a piece of is I did installing

468
00:35:05.239 --> 00:35:07.800
him the look. And I don't
think that's traumatic really, but he already

469
00:35:07.840 --> 00:35:10.039
know when he be doing some numb
shy I be like, I know it's

470
00:35:10.079 --> 00:35:16.519
disappointment. I don't think it's like
that's disappointments. Like he'll literally look at

471
00:35:16.559 --> 00:35:21.559
me and be like, oh,
don't play with me. I'm not in

472
00:35:21.599 --> 00:35:24.360
the mood. Mommy's not in the
mood. But also like another thing,

473
00:35:24.440 --> 00:35:30.159
like we didn't understand why you know, our mom would come home from work

474
00:35:30.079 --> 00:35:35.559
and be pissed we was just not
doing shit watching TV or watching a fucking

475
00:35:35.599 --> 00:35:38.599
game, cause she's fucking tired,
overworked and depressed. Right, So like

476
00:35:38.719 --> 00:35:42.519
now, if I'm not in the
mood, I automatically go up to my

477
00:35:42.559 --> 00:35:45.400
son like, hey, mommy's not
really feeling I need a nap, And

478
00:35:45.440 --> 00:35:47.039
he understands. He'll come up be
like, Mammy, you need a nap.

479
00:35:47.079 --> 00:35:50.639
You good, but not in a
disrespectful way, like in a caring

480
00:35:50.679 --> 00:35:52.320
way like, yo, bro,
you good? Like, can I help?

481
00:35:52.599 --> 00:35:55.000
I don't know if I'm cool.
I'm just going I'm gonna take it

482
00:35:55.039 --> 00:36:00.960
down. I'm gonna take it down, you know. So I think that

483
00:36:00.880 --> 00:36:06.079
having these communications and you know,
installing these things in our kids going to

484
00:36:06.159 --> 00:36:09.760
therapy is so beneficial. And if
you don't, can't fuck with me.

485
00:36:13.280 --> 00:36:15.440
Okay, ladies and gentlemen. So
now we are going to get into the

486
00:36:15.719 --> 00:36:21.000
edible portions of the show. So
the edible portions is when I read questions

487
00:36:21.039 --> 00:36:24.239
that you guys send in, and
usually on the day we record, I

488
00:36:24.280 --> 00:36:30.679
always put up a prompt that has
a question, you know, ask me

489
00:36:30.719 --> 00:36:32.639
anything which you want to talk about, you know, do you need help

490
00:36:32.679 --> 00:36:36.400
with something? And you just put
it in there. If what you have

491
00:36:36.440 --> 00:36:38.800
to say is too long to fit
in the prompt, always burn right here

492
00:36:40.840 --> 00:36:47.920
so weird, Or if it's on
a day that we don't have a prompt,

493
00:36:49.119 --> 00:36:52.480
you know, just email me at
inquiries at stormypea dot com seven.

494
00:36:52.840 --> 00:36:58.079
Who's fucking truck? Is that?
Is that? Aaron? Is that Aaron?

495
00:37:01.280 --> 00:37:06.800
Is it? Can you text him
and asks? Oh, okay,

496
00:37:07.119 --> 00:37:10.159
yeah, sorry, y'all, we
got distracted. But yeah, here we're

497
00:37:10.159 --> 00:37:14.480
going to get into the fucking shits
right now. Just fucking answer the prompt

498
00:37:14.480 --> 00:37:15.639
when I put it up, or
email me if you have something to say

499
00:37:15.639 --> 00:37:17.639
when it's on the day that I
don't put the prompt up. Okay,

500
00:37:17.679 --> 00:37:22.519
So first, I want to talk
to you about the dumb ass ship Shot

501
00:37:22.639 --> 00:37:25.079
told to me before we started the
show. He thought he was gonna get

502
00:37:25.079 --> 00:37:28.599
away from it. You're not,
okay. I want to tell you about

503
00:37:28.639 --> 00:37:31.559
this dumb ass shit Shot said to
me. Shot was like, Yo,

504
00:37:32.559 --> 00:37:37.159
when I see a girl out with
kids, I just automatically assumed she got

505
00:37:37.159 --> 00:37:42.719
a boyfriend, because why would somebody
leave their kids out here like that?

506
00:37:45.280 --> 00:37:50.400
I said, what type of dumb
ass forst gump ship is that? I

507
00:37:50.400 --> 00:37:52.440
said, I can even buy me
at the niggas from Forrest got like,

508
00:37:52.480 --> 00:37:57.840
boy, you stupid? Are you
stupid or something? He was like he

509
00:37:57.960 --> 00:38:00.280
was? He was like no.
He really went on like a five minute

510
00:38:00.360 --> 00:38:04.440
rant. I let him get all
his emotions out, all his feelings,

511
00:38:04.639 --> 00:38:07.079
all his talking points, right.
So then I said, let me ask

512
00:38:07.079 --> 00:38:12.599
you a question. Out of all
your friends who have kids, how many

513
00:38:12.599 --> 00:38:15.679
are in a relationship? And he
was like done. I said, you

514
00:38:15.719 --> 00:38:22.960
see how stupid that sounds you feel
stupid. Go ahead, really, just

515
00:38:22.960 --> 00:38:24.760
don't be articulate yourself. Go ahead, I want to give you a chance.

516
00:38:24.800 --> 00:38:30.119
Go ahead, say it that ship, say it honestly for all.

517
00:38:30.119 --> 00:38:34.280
I just as soon as I see
a girl with a kid, automatically think

518
00:38:34.360 --> 00:38:37.440
she has a nigga like. I
don't. I just don't. I don't

519
00:38:37.440 --> 00:38:39.719
put it in my head that okay't
got no man like. I just don't.

520
00:38:39.719 --> 00:38:43.039
I don't know why I just do. I just think she got a

521
00:38:43.039 --> 00:38:45.159
man. Carolina only based it off
of myself because if I had a kid,

522
00:38:45.159 --> 00:38:49.920
I'll be with my lady hopefully.
Hopefully. Carolina Cash says, in

523
00:38:49.960 --> 00:38:52.679
a perfect world, that's what we're
supposed to want for people. See,

524
00:38:53.159 --> 00:38:57.440
do we live in a fucking perfect
world? Maybe you see how stupid that

525
00:38:57.639 --> 00:39:05.559
sound. Maybe maybe you're just a
little two store exactly exactly. I'm maybe

526
00:39:05.599 --> 00:39:09.480
you're fucked up. I don't think
that I'm fucked up. I think that

527
00:39:09.559 --> 00:39:15.239
I live in the real world.
But to see how when I say how

528
00:39:15.239 --> 00:39:22.480
many of friends with kids are in
a relationship exactly, it was a Forrest

529
00:39:22.519 --> 00:39:29.360
Gump ass thought. But you know
what, I appreciate that you still believe

530
00:39:29.400 --> 00:39:37.679
in the good in people. We
have bro as stormy joke. Come on,

531
00:39:37.800 --> 00:39:45.119
man, how how I think she
got a pantry full of snacks?

532
00:39:45.760 --> 00:39:50.159
Yellow man Fred two eight two nine. And you are right, and especially

533
00:39:50.199 --> 00:39:52.599
if she has more than one.
If she has more than one and they're

534
00:39:52.679 --> 00:39:55.840
more than three years apart, I
was gonna say four, but I'm gonna

535
00:39:55.840 --> 00:39:58.920
say three if she has more than
one child, and then more than three

536
00:39:59.000 --> 00:40:01.159
years apart. Bruh, Because first
of all, she got like the young

537
00:40:01.239 --> 00:40:05.960
and snacks, and she got the
fucking old hair snacks. So bruh,

538
00:40:06.280 --> 00:40:07.840
ray that god damn pantry. And
you know what y'all be sleeping on.

539
00:40:08.519 --> 00:40:13.000
Y'all be sleeping on these dads who
take care of their kids. They got

540
00:40:13.039 --> 00:40:15.559
the best fucking snacks because they be
trying to overcomplisite because they only see them

541
00:40:15.559 --> 00:40:20.480
on the weekends or like four days
a week. They got the best fucking

542
00:40:20.639 --> 00:40:24.800
snacks. Oh my god, y'all
gotta stop sleeping on the dads. Man.

543
00:40:27.559 --> 00:40:31.639
They're the real goats out here.
And and okay, most of the

544
00:40:31.679 --> 00:40:36.800
time they'll be getting food stamps,
so they get the snacks like the kids

545
00:40:36.920 --> 00:40:39.119
like. But they might want to
try too, so like they be having

546
00:40:39.119 --> 00:40:44.199
the fire ship, like, bro, stop sleeping on the single. Dads.

547
00:40:44.199 --> 00:40:51.639
Man, they they that work.
Come with you. You start talking

548
00:40:51.639 --> 00:41:10.559
with that first of all, like
man like shit youble fuck like, don't

549
00:41:10.679 --> 00:41:17.280
don't sweep, don't make me laugh
like a black auntie. You don't do

550
00:41:17.320 --> 00:41:22.480
that. That's ugly. Don't do
that. Don't do that. Stip and

551
00:41:22.519 --> 00:41:27.320
said, I come back and you're
talking about snacks, big activities. Eric

552
00:41:27.360 --> 00:41:30.239
B. Smith, sixty boy says, but she right, thank you,

553
00:41:30.760 --> 00:41:40.599
thank you and thank you. Oh
man yo. Next question, what are

554
00:41:40.639 --> 00:41:45.639
some things you wish? Twenty one
year old Stormy P. What are some

555
00:41:45.719 --> 00:41:50.760
things that you wish? Twenty one
year old Stormy P knew that you know

556
00:41:50.920 --> 00:41:57.559
now, I don't give a fuck. You can't put your hands on people.

557
00:42:00.639 --> 00:42:05.320
I don't care. I don't care. Therapy, right, we talked

558
00:42:05.360 --> 00:42:07.960
about therapy. We talked about growth. Okay, let me tell you what

559
00:42:08.199 --> 00:42:15.840
I learned. I'm gonna tell you
what I learned. Okay, I learned

560
00:42:15.000 --> 00:42:19.079
that, hey, bitch, you
got an anger problem and you can't put

561
00:42:19.079 --> 00:42:22.559
your hands on everyone. You know
what taught me? That therapy? Okay,

562
00:42:23.000 --> 00:42:25.400
now you know you know what else
I felt like could have been very

563
00:42:25.400 --> 00:42:30.400
beneficial Running into a bitch, you
could knock my head off. But since

564
00:42:30.440 --> 00:42:35.400
I didn't, I feel like therapy
I just learned says fuck it. She

565
00:42:35.480 --> 00:42:37.519
about to say something, you know, she said, you won't say.

566
00:42:37.960 --> 00:42:40.000
Well, I didn't say. I
wasn't gonna say. You said, don't

567
00:42:40.039 --> 00:42:45.400
say it. That was the difference. I felt like, that's a very

568
00:42:45.440 --> 00:42:49.639
beneficial conversation. You know. You
can't put your hands on people, that's

569
00:42:49.679 --> 00:42:52.519
not okay. You can't go around
popping tires, breaking windows. You can't

570
00:42:52.880 --> 00:42:57.519
use your words, you know.
And it's so funny because that's one of

571
00:42:57.559 --> 00:43:00.840
the first phrases that I really installed
in my son. Use your words,

572
00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:04.199
like when he was throwing temperatarre terms
as a kid. Use your words.

573
00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:07.559
What do you want? Help mommy, help you? What do you need?

574
00:43:07.719 --> 00:43:10.679
Use your words? Right, because
the smooth punching the face, so

575
00:43:10.760 --> 00:43:20.360
like, nobody ever told me use
your words. I think that was no

576
00:43:21.360 --> 00:43:27.559
I hear. Yeah, the fact
I was not one of those grab a

577
00:43:27.639 --> 00:43:31.719
hair and like under windmill them.
No stand right here, let me punch

578
00:43:31.760 --> 00:43:40.400
you in the face. So yeah, there's that next question. You know

579
00:43:40.480 --> 00:43:49.960
what taught me that lawyer court and
restitution feaes. I'm hey, therapy would

580
00:43:49.960 --> 00:43:55.639
have been a lot cheaper. You
see my guy, you see Uh huh.

581
00:43:59.599 --> 00:44:07.440
Next, Hey, mommy, why
are you single? Because I've been

582
00:44:07.519 --> 00:44:10.440
asking for too much, like,
you know, honesty, loyalty, reciprocity,

583
00:44:10.960 --> 00:44:15.039
relationships, marriage, like, uh, it's way too much. I'll

584
00:44:15.079 --> 00:44:20.199
just be fucking out here doing the
most and uh No. In all actuality,

585
00:44:20.320 --> 00:44:23.920
I think that once you've done the
work on yourself, you seek out

586
00:44:24.000 --> 00:44:29.360
people who have also done the work
on them self. But it's very easy

587
00:44:29.400 --> 00:44:31.440
to see the people who have a
lot more work to do on themselves.

588
00:44:31.920 --> 00:44:35.960
So it's like, uh uh,
And I can see why people can get

589
00:44:35.960 --> 00:44:38.079
into the space of, oh,
you know, the dating pool, hair's

590
00:44:38.119 --> 00:44:44.159
pissing it. I just know what
I want and I'm willing to stand on

591
00:44:44.159 --> 00:44:49.960
it until I get it. You
know, I just feel like to sit

592
00:44:50.079 --> 00:44:55.360
back and just fall into this pessimistic
stance of you know, I'm never gonna

593
00:44:55.360 --> 00:45:01.440
be happy and I'm never going to
find somebody that sucks dark, that's weak

594
00:45:01.480 --> 00:45:07.280
as shit. Okay, not gonna
do that, but I feel like I'm

595
00:45:07.280 --> 00:45:13.079
gonna be real with y'all. A
very honest moment that I had. It

596
00:45:13.159 --> 00:45:19.679
was probably right around like Christmas or
like Valentine's Day, everybody's getting proposed to,

597
00:45:20.079 --> 00:45:22.480
engaged, married, blah blah,
blah blah blah, and I'm like,

598
00:45:22.920 --> 00:45:28.599
bro, what the fuck? Just
can't be life? And then I

599
00:45:28.639 --> 00:45:32.639
sat back and actually went through these
couples and realized half of them aren't happy,

600
00:45:34.119 --> 00:45:37.199
half of them are in my DM, and half of them would eat

601
00:45:37.199 --> 00:45:39.039
my booty hole if I gave them
a chance to. I don't want to

602
00:45:39.039 --> 00:45:44.119
be with nobody like that. So
if me being single means I'm gonna wait

603
00:45:44.199 --> 00:45:46.480
to find a person who's actually deserving
of all the love that I'm willing to

604
00:45:46.519 --> 00:45:53.159
give, maybe I'll wait. How
will wait for you? God? Our

605
00:45:53.199 --> 00:45:58.280
song was fire shout out to MTV
in the morning. But yeah, man,

606
00:45:58.679 --> 00:46:02.159
I don't know. I think that
there's a you know what I feel

607
00:46:02.159 --> 00:46:07.239
like based on all the function that
be going on the internet. It makes

608
00:46:07.239 --> 00:46:12.519
it seem like people who think like
that are the outcasts and we are the

609
00:46:12.599 --> 00:46:15.280
people who are in La lah Land. But no, it's actually more of

610
00:46:15.360 --> 00:46:20.199
us than it is of those people. Like we just gotta find like a

611
00:46:20.239 --> 00:46:22.840
fire ass, cook up the link
up and throw some fucking burgers and buns

612
00:46:22.880 --> 00:46:28.000
on the grill and shit and like
find each other. That that's our biggest

613
00:46:28.000 --> 00:46:34.800
problem. We can't find each other. Okay, yeah, yeah, that's

614
00:46:34.800 --> 00:46:39.840
because we be fucking at home watching
House of the Dragon and fucking the boys

615
00:46:39.840 --> 00:46:43.920
and shit. We gotta link up
and find each other. We can't just

616
00:46:43.960 --> 00:46:46.719
stay in our houses and watch TV
and play the game and watch anime.

617
00:46:47.000 --> 00:46:51.599
We gotta find each other. We're
gonna use this as a way to find

618
00:46:51.639 --> 00:46:54.039
each other. That's it. That's
it, and that's all. Yeah.

619
00:46:54.119 --> 00:47:00.599
So DWD, a rock star says
your age don't grill. Hair's a common

620
00:47:00.719 --> 00:47:04.679
misconception. I know some of y'all
are gonna say, you know, yeah,

621
00:47:04.800 --> 00:47:08.079
grill, like, go on the
grill. I feel like the common

622
00:47:08.119 --> 00:47:14.760
misconception is that people are age don't
grill. No, we have a hard

623
00:47:14.800 --> 00:47:19.599
time finding people who are going to
bring supplies and not just bring an empty

624
00:47:19.639 --> 00:47:22.480
stomach. Okay, back in my
day, back in your day, back

625
00:47:22.519 --> 00:47:27.159
when we was kids, everybody would
bring something. You bring the burgers,

626
00:47:27.199 --> 00:47:29.840
you bring, the potato salad,
you bring the big beans, you bring,

627
00:47:29.840 --> 00:47:36.679
the corn, you bring up exactly
exactly. We are growing up in

628
00:47:36.719 --> 00:47:39.039
a generation of niggas who bring the
bottle and then try to leave the bottle

629
00:47:39.119 --> 00:47:44.199
baby, were not doing all that. We're not doing all that. You

630
00:47:44.239 --> 00:47:45.960
can't bring the bottle and then try
to leave with the bottle when it's time

631
00:47:46.000 --> 00:47:49.519
for you to go. I don't
want to see that bottle in your uber.

632
00:47:49.880 --> 00:47:52.400
Okay, leave it here. You
brought it for the party, Okay.

633
00:47:52.559 --> 00:47:54.679
So I don't want to say people
our age can't grill. It's just

634
00:47:54.760 --> 00:47:58.920
that we have a heart time.
Once again, we have a hard time

635
00:47:59.000 --> 00:48:04.079
finding people friends. Bruh, I
ain't gonna lie. I'm grilling for my

636
00:48:04.159 --> 00:48:07.920
son. That's it. And you
know what else? Don't talk about?

637
00:48:07.960 --> 00:48:12.480
Oh you know y'all can't grill?
Do you even have the Jesus walk sandals

638
00:48:12.559 --> 00:48:15.760
to grill? Do you have the
gene shorts? Okay? Do you have

639
00:48:15.840 --> 00:48:19.639
the son visor? Do you have
the proper uniform to grill? Okay?

640
00:48:19.840 --> 00:48:22.039
And and I'm not gonna lie.
I feel like looks can be dece even

641
00:48:22.079 --> 00:48:25.320
though cause I ain't got the under
arm fat of the ladies that make the

642
00:48:25.360 --> 00:48:29.760
good potato salad. But I make
some good potato salad. So it's like,

643
00:48:30.519 --> 00:48:37.199
maybe we gotta get outside of appearances. Come on, I'm gonna get

644
00:48:37.239 --> 00:48:38.559
up. I'mna have a cookout.
If I had a cookout. Woud y'all

645
00:48:38.599 --> 00:48:40.960
come? Was y'all come to my
cookout? If I had a cookout,

646
00:48:42.400 --> 00:48:45.679
and it's just like a healthy,
healed cookout. That's dope. Like we

647
00:48:45.800 --> 00:48:54.320
all bring food, No, don't
bring guns. Never mind, I come

648
00:48:54.360 --> 00:48:58.159
in like the bitch is yr shit? How ain't bring this up? But

649
00:48:58.320 --> 00:49:01.880
listen, I'm gonna have I'm gonna
have a cookout for us, for people

650
00:49:02.000 --> 00:49:06.320
like us, us, like minded
people who have a hard time finding other

651
00:49:06.360 --> 00:49:09.159
people like us. But yeah,
so let's recap what we learned today.

652
00:49:10.960 --> 00:49:16.800
Nothing that girls with kids, they
don't please please shot. I still can't

653
00:49:16.800 --> 00:49:22.840
believe you said that shit, But
yeah, man, long story shirt.

654
00:49:22.079 --> 00:49:27.280
If you didn't listen to anything that
took place today, please remember all the

655
00:49:27.320 --> 00:49:30.440
shit is funny, but it's not
funny. Okay, it's true. Though,

656
00:49:30.760 --> 00:49:34.079
Get your shit together and make sure
the people that you allow in your

657
00:49:34.119 --> 00:49:37.320
space have their shit together, and
if not, revaluate my nigga, my

658
00:49:37.400 --> 00:49:42.440
girl, my homie, my bitch. Okay he she Hey, we all

659
00:49:42.519 --> 00:49:45.000
right. You deserve better, all
right, That's the only thing I want

660
00:49:45.039 --> 00:49:46.480
you to take from this, And
the only way to get better is to

661
00:49:46.480 --> 00:49:51.599
start taking accountability and making the people
in your circle take accountability as well.

662
00:49:51.960 --> 00:49:54.239
So yeah, man, follow me
on a Gram at Stormy p Pea,

663
00:49:54.719 --> 00:49:59.440
at Chocolate Chip and sip and yeah, fuck it, holl on is y'all

664
00:49:59.440 --> 00:50:05.079
next week You're a how well be
had ye