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Part five, Chapters one and two
of the Khamasutra. This LibriVox recording is

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in the public domain and is read
by Mark Smith of Simpsonville, South Carolina.

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The kimas Sutra by Vetsiayana, Part
five about the Wives of other Men,

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Chapter one of the Characteristics of Men
and Women, the reasons why women

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reject the addresses of men, about
men who have success with women, and

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about women who are easily gained over, the wives of other people may be

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resorted to on the occasions already described
in Part one, chapter five of this

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work. But the possibility of their
acquisition, their fitness for cohabitation, the

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danger to oneself in uniting with them, and the future effect of these unions,

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should first of all be examined.
A man may resort to the wife

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of another for the purpose of saving
his own life when he perceives that his

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love for her proceeds from one degree
of intensity to another. These degrees are

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ten in number and are distinguished by
the following marks. One love of the

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eye, two attachment of the mind, three constant reflection, four, destruction

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of sleep, five emaciation of the
body, six turning away from objects of

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enjoyment. Seven, removal of shame, eight, madness, nine, fainting

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ten death. Ancient authors say that
a man should know the disposition, truthfulness,

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purity, and will of a young
woman, as also the intensity or

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weakness of her passions, from the
form of her body and from her characteristic

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marks and signs. But Vetsiayana is
of opinion that the forms of bodies and

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the characteristic marks or signs are but
erring tests of character, and that women

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should be judged by their conduct,
by the outward expression of their thoughts,

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and by the movements of their bodies. Now as a general rule, Gone

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Caputra says that a woman falls in
love with every handsome man she sees,

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and so does every man at the
sight of a beautiful woman, but frequently

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they do not take any further steps, owing to various considerations in love.

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The following circumstances are peculiar to the
woman. She loves without regard to right

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or wrong, and does not try
to gain over a man simply for the

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attainment of some particular purpose. Footnote
am pour touttrentreu suppose dunfeme amreuse, according

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to Balzac end footnote. Moreover,
when a man first makes up to her,

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she naturally shrinks from him, even
though she may be willing to unite

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herself with him. But when the
attempts to gain her are repeated and renewed,

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she at last consents. But with
a man, even though he may

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have begun to love, he conquers
his feelings from a regard for morality and

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wisdom, and although his thoughts are
often on the woman, he does not

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yield, even though an attempt be
made to gain him over. He sometimes

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makes an attempt or effort to win
the object of his affections, and having

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failed, he leaves her alone for
the future. In the same way,

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when a woman is once gained,
he often becomes indifferent about her. As

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for the saying that a man does
not care for what is easily gained,

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and only desires a thing which cannot
be obtained without difficulty, it is only

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a matter of talk. The causes
of a woman rejecting the addresses of a

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man are as follows. One affection
for her husband, two desire of lawful

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progeny, three want of opportunity,
four anger at being addressed by the man

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too familiarly, five, difference in
rank of life. Six want of certainty

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on account of the man being devoted
to traveling. Seven, thinking that the

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man may be attached to some other
person. Eight, Fear of the man's

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not keeping his intentions secret. Nine, thinking that the man is too devoted

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to his friends and has too great
a regard for them. Ten, the

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apprehension that he is not in earnest
eleven, Bashfulness on account of his being

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an illustrious man. Twelve, fear
on account of his being powerful or possessed

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of too impetuous a passion. In
the case of the dear woman thirteen,

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bashfulness on account of his being too
clever fourteen, the thought of having once

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lived with him on friendly terms only
fifteen, contempt of his want of knowledge

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of the world sixteen, disgust of
his low character seventeen discussed at his want

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of perception of her love for him
eighteen in the case of an elephant woman,

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the thought that he is a hair
man or a man of weak passion.

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Nineteen, Compassion lest any thing should
befall him on account of his passion

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twenty, Despair at her own imperfections
twenty one, fear of discovery twenty two,

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disillusion at seeing his gray hair or
shabby appearance twenty three, fear that

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he may be employed by her husband
to test her chastity twenty four the thought

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that he has too much regard for
morality. Whichever of the above causes a

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man may detect, he should endeavor
to remove it from the very beginning.

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Thus, the bashfulness that may arise
from his greatness or his ability, he

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should remove by showing his great love
and affection for her. The difficulty of

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the want of opportunity, or if
his inaccessibility, he should remove by showing

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her some easy way of access.
The excessive respect entertained by the woman for

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him should be removed by making himself
very familiar. The difficulties that arise from

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his being thought a low character he
should remove by showing his valor and his

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wisdom, Those that come from neglect
by extra attention, and those that arise

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from fear by giving her proper encouragement. The following are the men who generally

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obtain success with women. One men
well versed in the science of love,

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two men skilled in telling stories,
three men acquainted with women from their childhood,

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four men who have secured their confidence, five men who send presents to

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them, six men who talk well
seven men who do things that they like.

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Eight men who have not loved other
women previously. Nine men who act

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as messengers, ten men who knew
their weak spots. Eleven men who are

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desired by good women. Twelve men
who are united with their female friends.

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Thirteen men who are good looking,
fourteen men who have been brought up with

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them, fifteen men who are their
neighbors, sixteen men who are devoted to

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sexual pleasures, even though these be
their own servants, the lovers of the

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daughters of their nurse, eighteen men
who have been lately married. Nineteen men

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who like picnics and pleasure parties.
Twenty men who are liberal, twenty one

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men who are celebrated for being very
strong, bull men, twenty two enterprising

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and brave men. Twenty three men
who surpassed their husbands in learning and good

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looks, in good quality, and
in liberality. Twenty four men whose dress

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and manner of living are magnificent.
The following are the women who are easily

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gained over. One women who stand
at the doors of their houses, two

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women who are always looking out on
the street, three women who sit conversing

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in their neighbor's house. Four woman
who is always staring at you. Five

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a female messenger. Six a woman
who looks sideways at you. Seven.

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A woman whose husband has taken another
wife without any just cause. Eight.

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A woman who hates her husband or
is hated by him. Nine a woman

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who has nobody to look after her
or keep her in check. Ten a

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woman who has not had any children. Eleven a woman whose family or caste

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is not well known. Twelve,
a woman whose children are dead. Thirteen,

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a woman who is very fond of
society. Fourteen, a woman who

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is apparently very affectionate with her husband
fifteen, the wife of an actor.

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Sixteen, a widow seventeen, a
poor woman eighteen, a woman fond of

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enjoyments nineteen, the wife of a
man with many younger brothers. Twenty a

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vain woman. Twenty one a woman
whose husband is inferior to her in rank

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or abilities. Twenty two, a
woman who is proud of her skill in

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the arts. Twenty three, a
woman disturbed in mind by the folly of

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her husband. Twenty four a woman
who has been married in her infancy to

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a rich man and not liking him
when she grows up desires A man possessing

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a disposition talents and wisdom suitable to
her own tastes twenty five. A woman

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who is slighted by her husband without
any cause twenty six. A woman who

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is not respected by other women of
the same rank or beauty as herself twenty

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seven, A woman whose husband is
devoted to traveling twenty eight, the wife

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of a jeweler twenty nine, A
jealous woman thirty a covetous woman thirty one,

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an immoral woman thirty two, a
barren woman thirty three, a lazy

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woman thirty four, a cowardly woman
thirty five, a humpbacked woman thirty six,

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a dwarfish woman thirty seven, a
deformed woman thirty eight, a vulgar

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woman, thirty nine, an ill
smelling woman forty a sick woman forty one

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an old woman. There are also
two verses on this subject, as follows.

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Desire, which springs from nature and
which is increased by art, and

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from which all danger is taken away
by wisdom, becomes firm and secure.

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A clever man, depending on his
own ability and observing carefully the ideas and

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thoughts of women and removing the causes
of their turning away from men, is

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generally successful with them. About making
acquaintance with the woman, and of the

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efforts to gain her over. Ancient
authors are of opinion that girls are not

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so easily seduced by employing female messengers
as by the efforts of the man himself,

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but that the wives of others are
more easily got at by the aid

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of female messengers than by the personal
efforts of a man. But Vitziayana lays

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it down that whenever it is possible, a man should always act himself in

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these matters, and it is only
when such is impracticable or impossible that female

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messengers should be employed. As for
the saying that women who act and talk

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boldly and freely are to be won
by the personal efforts of the man,

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and that women who do not possess
these qualities are to be got at by

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female messengers, it is only a
matter of talk now. When a man

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acts himself in the matter, he
should first of all make the acquaintance of

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the woman he loves in the following
manner. First, he should arrange to

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be seen by the woman, either
on a natural or special opportunity. A

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natural opportunity is when one of them
goes to the house of the other and

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A special opportunity is when they meet, either at the house of a friend

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or a caste fellow, or a
minister or a physician, as also on

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the occasion of marriage, ceremonies,
sacrifices, festivals, funerals, and garden

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parties. Second, when they do
meet, the man should be careful to

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look at her in such a way
as to cause the state of his mind

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to be made known to her.
He should pull about his mustache, make

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a sound with his nails, cause
his own ornaments to tinkle, bite his

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lower lip, and make various other
signs of that description. When she is

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looking at him, he should speak
to his friends about her and other women,

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and should show to her his liberality
and his appreciation of enjoyments. When

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sitting by the side of a female
friend, he should yawn and twist his

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body, contract his eyebrows, speak
very slowly, as if he were weary,

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and listen to her indifferently. A
conversation having two meanings should also be

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carried on with a child or some
other person, apparently having regard to a

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third person, but really having reference
to the woman he loves, and in

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this way his love should be made
manifest Under the pretext of referring to others

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rather than to herself. He should
make marks that have reference to her on

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the earth with his nails or with
a stick, and should embrace and kiss

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a chother in her presence, and
give it the mixture of betel nut and

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betel leaves with his tongue, and
press its chin with his fingers in a

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caressing way. All these things should
be done at the proper time and improper

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places. Third, a man should
fondle a child that may be sitting on

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her lap, and give it something
to play with, and also take the

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same back again. Conversation with respect
to the child may also be held with

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her, and in this manner he
should gradually become well acquainted with her,

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and he should also make himself agreeable
to her relations. Afterwards, this acquaintance

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should be made a pretext for visiting
her house frequently, and on such occasions

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he should converse on the subject of
love in her absence, but within her

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hearing. As his intimacy with her
increases, he should place in her charge

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some kind of deposit or trust,
and take away from it a small portion

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at a time. Or he may
give her some fragrant substances or betel nuts

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to be kept for him by her. After this, he should endeavor to

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make her well acquainted with his own
wife, and get them to carry on

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confidential conversations and to sit together in
lonely places. In order to see her

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frequently, he should arrange that the
same goldsmith, the same jeweler, the

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same basket maker, the same dyer, and the same washerman should be employed

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by the two families. And he
should also pay her long visits openly under

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the pretense of being engaged with her
on business. And one business should lead

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to another, so as to keep
up the intercourse between them. Whenever she

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wants anything, or is in need
of money, or wishes to acquire skill

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in one of the arts, he
should cause her to understand that he is

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willing and able to do anything that
she wants, to give her money or

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teach her one of the arts,
all these things being quite within his own

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ability and power. In the same
way, he should hold discussions with her

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in company with other people, and
they should talk of the doings and sayings

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of other persons, and examine different
things like jewelry, precious stones, et

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cetera. On such occasions he should
show her certain things with the values of

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which she may be unacquainted, and
if she begins to dispute with him about

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the things or their value, he
should not contradict her, but point out

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that he agrees with her in every
way. Thus ends the ways of making

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the acquaintance of the woman desired.
Now, after a girl has become acquainted

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with the man as above described,
and has manifested her love to him by

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the various outward signs and by the
motions of her body, the man should

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make every effort to gain her over. But as girls are not acquainted with

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sexual union, they should be treated
with the greatest delicacy, and the man

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should proceed with considerable caution, though
in the case of other women accustomed to

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sexual intercourse, this is not necessary. When the intentions of the girl are

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known, and her bashfulness put aside, the man should begin to make use

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of her money, and an interchange
of clothes, rings, and flowers should

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be made. In this the man
should take particular care that the things given

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by him are handsome and valuable.
He should moreover receive from her a mixture

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of betel nut and betel leaves,
And when he is going to a party,

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he should ask for the flower in
her hair, or for the flower

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in her hand. If he himself
gives her a flower, it should be

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a sweet smelling one, and marked
with marks made by his nails or teeth.

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With increasing assiduity, he should dispel
her fears and by degrees get her

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to go with him to some lonely
place, and there he should embrace and

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kiss her. And finally, at
the time of giving her some betel nut,

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or of receiving the same from her, or at the time of making

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an exchange of flowers, he should
touch and press her private parts, thus

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bringing his efforts to a satisfactory conclusion. When a man is endeavoring to seduce

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one woman, he should not attempt
to seduce any other at the same time.

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But after he had succeeded with the
first and enjoyed her for a considerable

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time, he can keep her affections
by giving her presents that she likes,

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and then commence making up to another
woman. When a man sees the husband

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of a woman going to some place
near his house, he should not enjoy

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the woman then, even though she
may be easily gained over at that time.

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A wise man having a regard for
his reputation. Should not think of

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seducing a woman who is apprehensive,
timid, not to be trusted, well

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guarded, or possessed of a father
in law or mother in law. End

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of Chapter two