WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.240 --> 00:00:07.240 Hello, and welcome to the Parenting Roundabout Podcast for the week of November sixth. 2 00:00:07.519 --> 00:00:11.439 I'm Katherine Hoileco and I'm here with Terry Morrow. Hello, for a 3 00:00:11.480 --> 00:00:16.120 weekly episode to talk about parenting in a roundabout way, along with some pop 4 00:00:16.199 --> 00:00:23.600 culture and other chit chat. So you were telling me that you're trying to 5 00:00:23.839 --> 00:00:28.440 make plans for your dog. Could I do with my dog? Katherine, 6 00:00:28.719 --> 00:00:33.439 We have this very sweet little rescue dog that I've talked about. We got 7 00:00:33.439 --> 00:00:37.799 her at the end of June, beginning of July, and at the time 8 00:00:37.840 --> 00:00:41.439 we had a vacation scheduled, but we thought, oh, there'll be plenty 9 00:00:41.439 --> 00:00:44.439 of time before that, she'll be all used to us, everything will be 10 00:00:44.479 --> 00:00:48.359 good, and then we can board her and it will be fine. She 11 00:00:48.439 --> 00:00:55.000 won't mind. But I worry about this dog because we really know absolutely nothing 12 00:00:55.000 --> 00:00:59.079 about her before she was found in a park. There's been some things that 13 00:00:59.119 --> 00:01:03.519 have made me think that maybe she was mistreated, probably by men, and 14 00:01:06.200 --> 00:01:11.840 she still shies away from things. She was getting really peppy and friendly to 15 00:01:11.920 --> 00:01:15.400 us, and then she had some stomach problems and she like regressed back into 16 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:19.400 being shy, and now she's just starting to be really friendly and Peppy again, 17 00:01:19.959 --> 00:01:23.480 And I feel like, if I take this dog to a boarding place, 18 00:01:23.840 --> 00:01:26.719 she's going to think, well, that family's abandoned me. Now that 19 00:01:26.760 --> 00:01:30.680 you know what is next for me, She's going to have all sorts of 20 00:01:30.680 --> 00:01:36.400 PTSD and trauma on top of the trauma whoever knows what it was. And 21 00:01:36.719 --> 00:01:40.120 I hate to do that to her. On the other hand, I don't 22 00:01:40.120 --> 00:01:44.359 really know that we can bring her with us. We're going to a resort 23 00:01:44.719 --> 00:01:47.959 that I have never seen a dog at in all the years we've gone there. 24 00:01:48.280 --> 00:01:53.000 Their website now says dogs under sixty pounds are welcome, but you can't 25 00:01:53.120 --> 00:01:56.760 leave them alone in the room, and you can't bring them here, and 26 00:01:56.799 --> 00:01:59.519 you can't bring them there. So I'm like, okay, so if you 27 00:01:59.560 --> 00:02:01.920 bring the I have to just sit in the room the entire vacation, which 28 00:02:02.120 --> 00:02:06.280 I don't really object to, except I would like to go to mass yes, 29 00:02:06.680 --> 00:02:09.479 you know, and maybe dinner once in a while. But I keep 30 00:02:09.520 --> 00:02:14.159 calling to see this resort has a hotel and it has time shares. Where 31 00:02:14.159 --> 00:02:17.439 in the timeshares does the dog policy extend to the time shares? I asked 32 00:02:17.520 --> 00:02:21.599 on the website. No answer, I asked on the Facebook page where I 33 00:02:21.639 --> 00:02:24.360 have gotten answers before no answer. I finally said, hey, I guess 34 00:02:24.400 --> 00:02:28.199 no answer means no, and they said, oh, just look at our 35 00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:30.159 dog policy on the website, and I said, yes, that is what 36 00:02:30.199 --> 00:02:35.000 I'm asking about. I sent an email to the timeshare manager. No answer, 37 00:02:35.080 --> 00:02:38.560 So I got to think that either they don't and so they don't want 38 00:02:38.599 --> 00:02:43.159 to be bothered, or they do, but they don't want people to actually 39 00:02:43.199 --> 00:02:46.000 bring their dogs, so they're like, not going to Can you get their 40 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:49.800 confirmer denial right? And it's like, well, in that case, I 41 00:02:49.800 --> 00:02:54.080 don't want to. So it's like none of the possibilities is good, nor 42 00:02:54.280 --> 00:02:59.400 is us just not going away? So what do you do with your dogs? 43 00:03:00.080 --> 00:03:02.199 Us to take our dogs to the vet and board them there, but 44 00:03:02.759 --> 00:03:07.039 our vet no longer does that, so we have to find another place. 45 00:03:07.080 --> 00:03:10.080 We've talked to, like a doggy resort place that's super fancy and kind of 46 00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:14.680 expensive. But you know, they have an application that's five pages long, 47 00:03:14.759 --> 00:03:17.039 please document all your dog's experiences in life, and it's like, oh, 48 00:03:17.080 --> 00:03:24.199 my, asked about one that's close to us and cheaper and filled out their 49 00:03:24.240 --> 00:03:28.560 application which also wanted to know how does your dog do with other dogs? 50 00:03:28.599 --> 00:03:30.479 What is your dog afraid of? How does your dog respond to all different 51 00:03:30.520 --> 00:03:36.039 kinds of people? And it's like, I don't know, pretty sure she's 52 00:03:36.039 --> 00:03:39.680 got some some trauma, but I'm sure it'll be fine. And I never 53 00:03:39.680 --> 00:03:43.599 heard back from them, so it's like, what do we do? Right? 54 00:03:44.840 --> 00:03:50.680 Well, we do take ours to you know, like a kennel where 55 00:03:50.840 --> 00:03:58.439 it's like doggy daycare slash. They do have overnight boarding and you know, 56 00:03:58.520 --> 00:04:03.680 they've they've gone, except of course like during the pandemic, they've they've gone 57 00:04:04.400 --> 00:04:10.240 fairly regularly. I mean when I say regularly, like a couple times a 58 00:04:10.319 --> 00:04:14.759 year, you know, not I mean some some dogs go to daycare all 59 00:04:14.759 --> 00:04:18.560 the time. But we don't need that. We're here. But I mean, 60 00:04:18.600 --> 00:04:23.439 and I'm going to talk about this later this Thanksgiving, we are taking 61 00:04:23.480 --> 00:04:33.759 them with us to an airbnb, and I am very We did actually take 62 00:04:33.800 --> 00:04:41.680 a dog wants to uh it was like a little condo type in and we 63 00:04:41.839 --> 00:04:44.439 just had to keep her in a crate if we weren't there, which she 64 00:04:44.600 --> 00:04:46.959 was cool about that dog, and it was really kind of nice. It 65 00:04:46.959 --> 00:04:51.079 was kind of fun to have her there. But I don't know about old 66 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:55.360 dogs if that would be the case if she had been barking the entire time. 67 00:04:55.399 --> 00:04:57.279 I'm not sure they would have been too happy with her, right, 68 00:04:57.720 --> 00:05:03.360 Yeah, I know. I just I'm nervous about driving with them, which 69 00:05:03.399 --> 00:05:08.959 I don't actually have to do. It's two separate that it's two different cars, 70 00:05:09.000 --> 00:05:13.879 so I don't have to care about that. Yeah, but but yeah, 71 00:05:13.879 --> 00:05:18.120 I mean it is. If there's a way to take her to one 72 00:05:18.160 --> 00:05:25.079 of these boarding places in advance and do like a trial run. Yeah, 73 00:05:25.199 --> 00:05:27.560 we've done that before. Last time I took a dog to a place like 74 00:05:27.600 --> 00:05:30.040 that for a trial run, the dog got sick and never really got well. 75 00:05:30.279 --> 00:05:34.000 Oh no, but the guy think she caught something or she drank too 76 00:05:34.079 --> 00:05:38.639 much water or something, so I don't know. And yeah, and if 77 00:05:38.680 --> 00:05:40.879 we take her with us, it's like a three hour drive, and this 78 00:05:40.959 --> 00:05:44.160 dog does not like being in the car. But on the other hand, 79 00:05:44.160 --> 00:05:46.720 if we take her for a short ride to a place where we're boarding her, 80 00:05:46.759 --> 00:05:50.519 then she's never going to get in a car. Yet I know what 81 00:05:50.600 --> 00:05:59.199 this means. We're walking home. Don't like it. It's so hard, 82 00:06:00.800 --> 00:06:04.439 you know, not every place can welcome dogs. And you know, sometimes 83 00:06:04.439 --> 00:06:09.160 it's nice to take a vacation from the responsibility. But at the same time, 84 00:06:09.240 --> 00:06:14.879 it just breaks my heart to think of, you know, we'll be 85 00:06:15.000 --> 00:06:19.079 back, you know that, right, She doesn't know that it's impossible. 86 00:06:20.480 --> 00:06:25.240 So anyway, that's my particular anu right plus which I was in the middle 87 00:06:25.279 --> 00:06:28.120 of trying to figure it out when I broke my wrist and then I didn't 88 00:06:28.160 --> 00:06:30.439 do anything for like three weeks. And now it's even closer to the time 89 00:06:30.439 --> 00:06:36.160 we're going and our choices are going to be slim. They're very happy to 90 00:06:36.199 --> 00:06:39.920 have our dog, but it's like, these are the things that are complicated 91 00:06:40.040 --> 00:06:44.519 I know exactly. I mean, my brother in law's two dogs and they 92 00:06:44.600 --> 00:06:51.199 cannot be boarded just because of their behavior, and that caused his wife to 93 00:06:51.240 --> 00:06:56.199 not be able to come to our house for Thanksgiving last year. They take 94 00:06:56.240 --> 00:07:00.639 them with when they drive, they take them with them. So you know 95 00:07:00.680 --> 00:07:03.920 what that sounds like to me is you would upset the dogs. Yeah, 96 00:07:04.160 --> 00:07:10.519 I'll stay home with her. It's okay. Everybody was fine with it. 97 00:07:12.040 --> 00:07:15.360 That is something I would do. Yeah, maybe I'm thinking about that now. 98 00:07:15.839 --> 00:07:21.480 That's that's an interesting Oh well, this is a difficult problem, but 99 00:07:21.560 --> 00:07:28.439 not as difficult as dancing with an inch of crud on your yes, glued 100 00:07:28.519 --> 00:07:34.079 on bone mask or those weird contact lenses so many of them go, oh 101 00:07:34.160 --> 00:07:40.000 my gosh, contact lenses aren't something you can just you're not experienced with it, 102 00:07:40.319 --> 00:07:44.120 right pop in? Can you? I had the worst experience with contact 103 00:07:44.160 --> 00:07:47.800 lenses as a youth. And also, if you need them to see, 104 00:07:48.160 --> 00:07:54.920 how can you description prescription like those novelty freaky ones or are they just like 105 00:07:55.600 --> 00:08:01.319 going without that doesn't see a good Talking about Dancing with the Stars Monster night, 106 00:08:01.399 --> 00:08:05.720 we're not just getting the boarding place we went they had weird contact lens. 107 00:08:07.879 --> 00:08:13.120 No, oh my gosh, it was monsters, and they don't do 108 00:08:13.199 --> 00:08:16.439 monsters every Halloween. And I was thinking as I was watching all these people 109 00:08:16.439 --> 00:08:20.079 in these very elaborate costumes. I mean, kudos to the costume people and 110 00:08:20.160 --> 00:08:24.439 to the hair and the makeup people, excellent work. But the scariest and 111 00:08:24.600 --> 00:08:28.839 best dance I've ever seen for Halloween on Dancing with the Stars is the one 112 00:08:28.879 --> 00:08:35.159 with Whitney and Frankie where he was like a star. Oh, no makeup, 113 00:08:35.399 --> 00:08:39.240 no costumes. It was scary at head. Yes, so are so 114 00:08:39.519 --> 00:08:45.840 really, Maybe people do not need to spend five hours in the makeup room 115 00:08:45.879 --> 00:08:48.440 to do your Halloween dances. Right, maybe a little more modest next year, 116 00:08:48.919 --> 00:08:54.679 because that one worked great. Yes, that was extremely scary and creepy. 117 00:08:54.759 --> 00:08:58.639 Go back and watch it, willingk to it. Yeah, that's excellent. 118 00:08:58.279 --> 00:09:07.240 So there were all sorts of mummies and vampires and aliens and whatever the 119 00:09:07.240 --> 00:09:11.759 heck it was. Arianna and Pasha were Yeah, that I didn't really understand, 120 00:09:11.120 --> 00:09:16.639 Like she had her hair turned into like rams horns or something. So 121 00:09:18.240 --> 00:09:24.679 I felt so bad for Charity because that costume was not particularly flattering and it 122 00:09:24.720 --> 00:09:30.000 didn't show off dance moves, huh. And the face she couldn't really emote 123 00:09:30.000 --> 00:09:33.480 with that face, right, it was like glued onto her and so she 124 00:09:33.639 --> 00:09:37.120 just looked kind of meh. And then then she went on to have to 125 00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:41.159 have that all on for the dance a Thon too, which I think so 126 00:09:41.360 --> 00:09:46.240 I think that they, although overall the costumes and makeup were amazing, I 127 00:09:46.240 --> 00:09:48.600 think they kind of did her. She must have offended somebody in the in 128 00:09:48.679 --> 00:09:56.879 their makeup room. And also here did you notice that she had They had 129 00:09:56.960 --> 00:10:01.679 backup dancer's charity and artem They had like five p people in the back back 130 00:10:01.759 --> 00:10:07.559 up skeletons skeleton suits, but like not doing anything. They were just kind 131 00:10:07.559 --> 00:10:13.120 of shuffling around a little. But I was like, what is the point 132 00:10:13.320 --> 00:10:16.120 of this? I guess it was like they were at the monster Mash and 133 00:10:16.159 --> 00:10:18.919 those were the other dancers, I guess, but they didn't give them anything 134 00:10:20.039 --> 00:10:22.600 to do. That was weird. It was There was many weird things on 135 00:10:22.639 --> 00:10:31.639 the ship on the episode. Yeah, and I mean Harry and Riley. 136 00:10:31.720 --> 00:10:35.480 I guess they were supposed to be some sort of alien thing. But that's 137 00:10:35.559 --> 00:10:39.240 a lot of makeup. Yeah, it's an awful lot of makeup that looked 138 00:10:39.320 --> 00:10:43.759 uncomfortable, that looked like, I mean, as bad as Jason's makeup was, 139 00:10:43.799 --> 00:10:48.360 it was at least just his face and he boy did he run with 140 00:10:48.399 --> 00:10:52.600 it, like standing behind people all through the rest of the episode. Right, 141 00:10:54.159 --> 00:10:58.639 He's going to be a meme. But just the whole body makeup in 142 00:10:58.679 --> 00:11:03.000 those colors, with that, oh yeah, you couldn't recognize either one of 143 00:11:03.039 --> 00:11:07.279 them. Maybe that was a strategy to be like, don't forget who I've 144 00:11:07.320 --> 00:11:11.720 been for the last six weeks or whatever, like I'm a name. Would 145 00:11:11.720 --> 00:11:16.399 they do anything to completely change his body? Yeah, I don't think so. 146 00:11:20.440 --> 00:11:24.840 I saw a lot of really really harsh things about Harry and Riley after 147 00:11:24.919 --> 00:11:30.039 last week online. So I get what's what he's talking about, but you 148 00:11:30.200 --> 00:11:33.720 can't. Number one, don't don't read the comments. I was yelling at 149 00:11:33.720 --> 00:11:37.039 the screen. Don't read the com We have a hopeful graphic for that I 150 00:11:37.080 --> 00:11:43.120 should, I should send to them, you know. But and also he's 151 00:11:43.159 --> 00:11:46.639 been on a reality show, so he knows that people are mean online. 152 00:11:46.840 --> 00:11:50.519 Surely some forum I was on said he was not a good guy on that 153 00:11:50.559 --> 00:11:54.720 reality show either, So that's all fake. No, he's like a delicate 154 00:11:54.759 --> 00:12:01.240 flower. But I will will see if the sympathy wins him votes. But 155 00:12:01.879 --> 00:12:05.200 don't whine. Yeah, don't whine, and don't read the comments. This 156 00:12:05.279 --> 00:12:09.080 is this is one oh one. We all know it. You know you're 157 00:12:09.080 --> 00:12:13.080 not the only one getting bad scores. Just well, I guess you're getting 158 00:12:13.080 --> 00:12:18.799 the worst ones. But still yeah, just just uh roll with it. 159 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:22.759 The fact that you're still there means people are voting for you, right, 160 00:12:22.960 --> 00:12:28.200 so be grateful, like I think they said at some point, but I 161 00:12:28.240 --> 00:12:37.720 don't know he survived to whine another week. He did. Mauricio was the 162 00:12:37.720 --> 00:12:41.559 one who went home, and somebody I saw speculated that as you mentioned, 163 00:12:41.720 --> 00:12:46.919 last week, his wife had expressed some concern about him and Emma, and 164 00:12:48.399 --> 00:12:52.279 there was a thought that this cost him the votes of his wife's fans, 165 00:12:52.799 --> 00:12:58.919 which is probably what was keeping him there. Interesting. Live by your wife's 166 00:12:58.919 --> 00:13:03.200 fans, die by your wife fans? Man, Yeah, interesting, I 167 00:13:03.159 --> 00:13:07.519 mean that that is the case, but it sounds right. I just got 168 00:13:07.559 --> 00:13:16.720 that from like a headlining People magazine, So yeah, yeah, oh boy, 169 00:13:16.600 --> 00:13:22.919 he was a good sport. He was a good sport and Barry must 170 00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:26.000 have some kind of voting block. I don't know, ladies out there voting 171 00:13:26.000 --> 00:13:33.279 for Barry. I really didn't think he would the Brady Love is Stride. 172 00:13:33.320 --> 00:13:37.799 I mean, it's been a while since that show was on and he really 173 00:13:37.840 --> 00:13:43.639 hasn't done much else. The people who remember it are thrilled he's there. 174 00:13:43.879 --> 00:13:46.080 Yeah. I don't know that they vote as much as teeny boppers, but 175 00:13:46.120 --> 00:13:52.519 they vote. I'm constantly surprised. But I haven't watched it live in a 176 00:13:52.600 --> 00:13:54.000 number of weeks. But I got to get back to voting. But it's 177 00:13:54.080 --> 00:13:58.360 like, I'm kind of kind of like everybody who's still there, I would 178 00:13:58.360 --> 00:14:03.919 not know who to vote or not. Fo Yeah, but well it's charity 179 00:14:03.200 --> 00:14:07.120 just for because she's a bachelorette. She's a bachelorette. Yes, but you 180 00:14:07.279 --> 00:14:11.039 can't. What a good thing to do on this show if they ever wanted 181 00:14:11.080 --> 00:14:16.519 to mix it up, is allow you to vote for and or against. 182 00:14:16.639 --> 00:14:18.080 Yeah, but if it's it's just like, well, I'm not going to 183 00:14:18.159 --> 00:14:20.600 vote for that person. Well they're getting a bunch of votes. It's really 184 00:14:20.639 --> 00:14:24.360 not gonna hurt them that much. Right, he is voting for somebody else. 185 00:14:24.600 --> 00:14:28.360 I don't know, but I got to get back into it. Yeah, 186 00:14:28.440 --> 00:14:33.440 I want to vote for many of them. So it's hard so that 187 00:14:33.559 --> 00:14:37.039 it's like there's no point in doing it at all if you're only wait, 188 00:14:37.120 --> 00:14:41.320 that's the way. That's why I've sort of been. I can watch the 189 00:14:41.320 --> 00:14:45.159 next day, right. I liked when they were doing the dances at the 190 00:14:45.279 --> 00:14:48.759 end. Allison's strategy was just to keep from being noticed for long enough to 191 00:14:48.919 --> 00:14:54.960 write, and I enjoyed that. That would be my strategy as well. 192 00:14:54.000 --> 00:14:58.120 Just stand over here in the corner, y'all go ahead. That was my 193 00:15:00.320 --> 00:15:05.799 you know, middle school softball in gym class strategy. Oh yes, stay 194 00:15:05.840 --> 00:15:11.240 in the outfield, never ever go up to bat. Yes, when I 195 00:15:11.320 --> 00:15:15.480 was in I was in elementary school, we play soccer. I would always 196 00:15:15.519 --> 00:15:18.759 be defending the end of the field that nobody was in. Right, I'll 197 00:15:18.799 --> 00:15:22.279 just stay over here in the opposite direction, just in case the ball comes. 198 00:15:22.679 --> 00:15:26.159 I'm ready. We don't let the ball come. I won't know what 199 00:15:26.240 --> 00:15:33.240 to do with it. But she's hanging into good for her. I don't 200 00:15:33.279 --> 00:15:35.879 know. It's interesting to think, who will I wonder. I really wonder 201 00:15:35.879 --> 00:15:41.440 if Leley is getting just such a huge number of social media votes that they 202 00:15:41.440 --> 00:15:46.720 can keep voting her down. And also they costumed her as so chy this 203 00:15:46.759 --> 00:15:52.480 week. It's like, well, getting confused because there's two girls with black 204 00:15:52.519 --> 00:15:56.320 hair and bangs. Yeah, I guess. At first I thought she was 205 00:15:56.399 --> 00:16:00.399 like Wednesday Adams, and then she was supposed to be some kind of a 206 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:08.639 spider was my ultimate thought. But I guess so yeah, I know, 207 00:16:10.279 --> 00:16:14.159 it just looked so weird. Oh well, you know, she still is 208 00:16:14.200 --> 00:16:18.279 continuing to get underrated, I think. But the end of the dancing was 209 00:16:19.840 --> 00:16:26.639 spectacular. I didn't think they all looked a little tentative and awkward, possibly 210 00:16:26.720 --> 00:16:33.600 because of the excellent work of the hair. And they haven't costume people who 211 00:16:33.639 --> 00:16:38.360 cares if they can dance in that? Right? Don that look cool well 212 00:16:38.519 --> 00:16:45.200 dance dancing at the stars. Right, so it's only another week's right. 213 00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:53.759 So on the Gilded Age they did not have to wear lots of horrifying makeup 214 00:16:55.200 --> 00:17:02.399 and ikey costumes, but they still do dress up quite a lot. They 215 00:17:02.519 --> 00:17:07.839 certainly do. Probably easier to move in mummy garb than in some of those 216 00:17:07.920 --> 00:17:14.359 dresses. Yes, and they require other people to dress them, which becomes 217 00:17:14.440 --> 00:17:22.240 a plot, an important plot point in multiple story. Yes, just the 218 00:17:22.680 --> 00:17:30.000 one butler saying, but they can't entertain if if their relative is dressing mister 219 00:17:30.200 --> 00:17:40.839 Russell Russell, they can't entertain, Oh deue shame. And then at the 220 00:17:40.960 --> 00:17:47.319 very end there's a there's a mic drop of a character from the past returning. 221 00:17:47.599 --> 00:17:52.880 Oh man, who I would have been overjoyed never to see against Missus 222 00:17:53.160 --> 00:17:59.200 Russell's lady's maid who had hopes of being the next Missus Russell, that's right, 223 00:17:59.519 --> 00:18:04.279 which were unsuccessful. But now she's married to some elderly gentleman, some 224 00:18:04.519 --> 00:18:12.720 elderly rich guy yep, and is looks to be eager to lord it over 225 00:18:14.519 --> 00:18:18.119 the former employers. That's right, it's going to have a good time. 226 00:18:18.799 --> 00:18:23.599 She's not going to uh make up or apologize or just pretend it never happened, 227 00:18:23.720 --> 00:18:30.839 noop, noop. So well she knows that she has Bertha over a 228 00:18:30.960 --> 00:18:37.000 barrel, because yes, she can't be going around saying, oh this was 229 00:18:37.079 --> 00:18:45.079 my maid. Yes, yes, quite a lot of romantical intrigue in this 230 00:18:45.519 --> 00:18:52.559 in this one, right, and poor Marion with the extremely unsuitable bow. 231 00:18:52.839 --> 00:18:57.519 Yeah, he was awful. They really wanted to make clear that he was 232 00:18:57.599 --> 00:19:03.720 awful, and it was please cartoonish, please do not miss. He made 233 00:19:03.839 --> 00:19:10.880 Oscar look like a sparkling catch. Yes, tea shirt. An Oscar now 234 00:19:10.960 --> 00:19:15.039 has someone in mind. Once agains right, and it's a good thing because 235 00:19:15.119 --> 00:19:18.559 last last week I posited that Bertha would squish Oscar like a bug. But 236 00:19:18.799 --> 00:19:25.960 no, it was George. Yeah, boy did he sure after telling Gladys 237 00:19:26.000 --> 00:19:32.079 he would let him down. He's out of the window onto the street. 238 00:19:33.519 --> 00:19:44.519 Yeah, that was delightful. I enjoyed. And uh, he wants Gladys 239 00:19:44.599 --> 00:19:48.400 to fall in love. That's right. She had to admit that even though 240 00:19:48.440 --> 00:19:52.759 Oscar makes her laugh and promised her a good life. Ah well, there 241 00:19:52.839 --> 00:19:59.000 is that little matter of yeah no, and what did what's did George say? 242 00:19:59.119 --> 00:20:03.839 Like he probably Gladys said he promised me freedom or something like that, 243 00:20:03.920 --> 00:20:07.880 and he's like, yeah, marriage is not your best move there, if 244 00:20:07.039 --> 00:20:15.079 that's what you're looking for. That was delightful, just the yeah, yeah, 245 00:20:15.440 --> 00:20:19.839 how how this scene between him and Gladys where he gets her to go 246 00:20:19.920 --> 00:20:25.519 to Newport and then this seemed between him and Oscar in which he lets him 247 00:20:25.519 --> 00:20:30.759 down not easily at all was uh, you know, kudos to Morgan Spector. 248 00:20:30.920 --> 00:20:40.519 Those were wonderful scenes. Yes, but Larry has his book, got 249 00:20:40.559 --> 00:20:48.240 a job and there from his new employer, Laura Benanti, who was not 250 00:20:48.400 --> 00:20:56.359 at all subtle in her intentions. And of course you know how Bertha responded 251 00:20:56.400 --> 00:21:00.680 to that, not well he's old. It has to be your mother, 252 00:21:03.480 --> 00:21:06.480 And George responded to it, well, oh young man, you know, 253 00:21:08.839 --> 00:21:21.599 wrong answer, right? Oh my, So Marion was rescued by cousin Dashel 254 00:21:22.119 --> 00:21:27.000 immediately there, amazing every time she needed rescue from mister Morgan. Yes, 255 00:21:27.160 --> 00:21:38.160 it's her unsuitable dude suitable, Yes, he is very conveniently around. Mister 256 00:21:40.440 --> 00:21:47.880 Montgomery. Yes, so be nice to see what happens there, and Oscar 257 00:21:48.000 --> 00:21:53.119 has another bounces back remarkably well, right, has another prospect who's just happened 258 00:21:53.160 --> 00:22:00.559 to be in Paris for the last yes, number of years. We don't 259 00:22:00.599 --> 00:22:03.440 know her well enough to feel sorry for her, So that's fine, you 260 00:22:03.599 --> 00:22:07.160 go, you go, Oscar, just leave Gladys alone, that's right. 261 00:22:07.880 --> 00:22:12.640 Yeah, But the only person who didn't come out with another potential person was 262 00:22:14.400 --> 00:22:18.559 Gladys, right, did we Did she meet anybody else this time? I 263 00:22:18.640 --> 00:22:22.880 don't think she did. But she was sympathizing with Marian, which was cute, 264 00:22:22.960 --> 00:22:30.000 yes, and Peggy's back yes and armstrong, wow, girl, like 265 00:22:30.599 --> 00:22:33.960 come on, not taking the hint, not from all, and it was 266 00:22:33.559 --> 00:22:41.279 certainly not an hint at all. It was as it could be, be 267 00:22:41.519 --> 00:22:45.119 nice or you are out on your ass. Right. She was not nice. 268 00:22:45.400 --> 00:22:48.920 She was not nice, deliberately and aggressively not nice. Yeah, after 269 00:22:49.440 --> 00:22:56.160 like crying about how she could never get another job, yes, like and 270 00:22:56.440 --> 00:23:03.000 as Agnes rightfully pointed out, it's up to you. If you behave you 271 00:23:03.880 --> 00:23:10.240 will not have a problem. Right. So a difficult position for Peggy to 272 00:23:10.279 --> 00:23:12.079 be in though, because you don't want to get somebody fire. But at 273 00:23:12.079 --> 00:23:18.240 the same time, come on, and Peggy's trying. Everybody is against her. 274 00:23:18.920 --> 00:23:21.720 It's like, what are you doing? She's being nice? Stop it? 275 00:23:21.960 --> 00:23:26.119 Right? I do I do enjoy the cook at that house. Yes, 276 00:23:26.359 --> 00:23:32.440 she's she's just well, she has to eat, you know, Like 277 00:23:32.880 --> 00:23:37.519 how she kept the secret of Marian having a job. Well, all I 278 00:23:37.559 --> 00:23:40.160 did was make her a lunch. She has to eat, Come on, 279 00:23:41.079 --> 00:23:48.519 she's job. Yes, ah. And we're supposed to believe that Marian's an 280 00:23:48.519 --> 00:23:56.680 amazing teacher because Francis, her cousin whatever, got frustrated and was about to 281 00:23:56.759 --> 00:24:00.559 rip up her painting, and Marian was like, just try again, and 282 00:24:00.759 --> 00:24:08.160 then Francis was like, okay, well that was easy. Yeah, she's 283 00:24:08.160 --> 00:24:17.839 an amazing teacher. Absolutely, look at that. And then then she rode 284 00:24:17.880 --> 00:24:22.559 home with the cusin Dashel and they were going to have their visit with the 285 00:24:22.720 --> 00:24:26.160 ants. But we didn't get to see it. I saw that, we 286 00:24:26.319 --> 00:24:33.480 saw other social engagements. We skipped right to right to the pastor right. 287 00:24:33.640 --> 00:24:42.799 Ada is so smitten with and does and that Agnes is very annoying, Like 288 00:24:44.119 --> 00:24:48.200 I couldn't get a word in edge once. It's kind of Agnes's default setting. 289 00:24:48.240 --> 00:24:55.599 Honestly, right, it really is, and good because she's amusing. 290 00:24:55.839 --> 00:24:59.720 Yes, it is quite amusing. There's still some bad blood between the two, 291 00:24:59.759 --> 00:25:06.720 but Crosstreet butlers, Yes, forgiving but not forgetting right. And that 292 00:25:07.000 --> 00:25:10.759 reminds me because the one butler was taking the dog for a walk when they 293 00:25:10.799 --> 00:25:17.599 had their little conversation, and during the scene where the rector was visiting, 294 00:25:18.240 --> 00:25:23.359 he was really aggressively petting that dog. Did you notice that? He was 295 00:25:23.519 --> 00:25:27.720 like, just I noticed the dog. I did not notice the pending. 296 00:25:27.759 --> 00:25:32.599 Oh my gosh. It was like he I don't know what he was. 297 00:25:33.039 --> 00:25:37.839 The dog will be filing chargers. Yes, it was almost like, what 298 00:25:37.079 --> 00:25:45.000 are you doing, sir? I don't understand it was it was just to 299 00:25:45.160 --> 00:25:51.759 me, it was extremely noticeable, like leave that poor animal alone, please, 300 00:25:53.799 --> 00:25:57.960 or maybe the dog doesn't get enough affection from the rest of the household, 301 00:25:59.039 --> 00:26:03.079 and well, and that he appreciated getting it from the director. I 302 00:26:03.160 --> 00:26:11.200 guess, yeah, a manly sort of pet these women. Yes, exactly. 303 00:26:11.759 --> 00:26:15.640 So Jack is fixing a clock and much is made of this. Right, 304 00:26:17.000 --> 00:26:21.519 Is he going to turn out to be like some inventor we've heard of. 305 00:26:22.200 --> 00:26:25.119 I don't know if it's going to be one we've heard of, or 306 00:26:25.160 --> 00:26:29.039 it's just going to be that it's going to be his his ticket to a 307 00:26:29.200 --> 00:26:37.160 life beyond service and perhaps his ticket to picking up a cute German lady's maid 308 00:26:37.279 --> 00:26:42.920 from across the street because he seems to have lost interest in the one that 309 00:26:44.039 --> 00:26:48.720 lives in his house. Does she beat him at cards? So no more 310 00:26:48.799 --> 00:26:53.160 for her? Yeah? But yeah they made they made so much of the 311 00:26:53.279 --> 00:26:59.039 stupid alarm close like this has to be leading to something, yes, definitely. 312 00:27:00.480 --> 00:27:03.799 So now we're two locations on this show. We've got Newport going on, 313 00:27:04.079 --> 00:27:10.799 we got New York going on. We no longer have Brooklyn going on. 314 00:27:11.960 --> 00:27:15.240 That's right. I'm sure she'll make her way back to Brooklyn now, 315 00:27:15.279 --> 00:27:19.640 and then we don't want to leave Odra McDonald forever. No, she wasn't 316 00:27:19.640 --> 00:27:26.839 even in this episode. She was not. I hope she'll be sit back, 317 00:27:27.599 --> 00:27:32.759 just a reminder of why we're sad, right, and then she comes 318 00:27:32.799 --> 00:27:36.359 to the place where, uh, everything is so much better. Even a 319 00:27:36.599 --> 00:27:42.720 grouchy old lady can't get you down. Come on, Armstrong, what are 320 00:27:42.759 --> 00:27:48.759 you doing? Get a grip because you will be losing your job very soon, 321 00:27:51.119 --> 00:27:55.920 dome as with bags and you're too old to have a turn, as 322 00:27:56.440 --> 00:27:59.920 you know, coming back to haunt her by marrying some old rich guy. 323 00:28:00.119 --> 00:28:03.799 Right, that's not going to happen for you. She's about the same age 324 00:28:03.839 --> 00:28:07.680 as the guy that the Lady's Maiden married. But still yes, as with 325 00:28:07.920 --> 00:28:12.960 maids, those guys don't want somebody, there is somebody beyond the very youthful 326 00:28:14.240 --> 00:28:21.480 right stage right. So next week we will be talking about Dancing with the 327 00:28:21.559 --> 00:28:29.240 Stars music Video Night, that's what they said. Paula Abdul will be there, 328 00:28:30.359 --> 00:28:37.519 of course she will, judging at least she's a dancer, that's true, 329 00:28:37.720 --> 00:28:40.279 she is. I feel like they've had music video Night before. Do 330 00:28:40.359 --> 00:28:44.960 they re enact music video dances? I don't know, it may have been 331 00:28:45.039 --> 00:28:48.319 before my time. And there also are going to be team dances. So 332 00:28:48.440 --> 00:28:52.480 that's how they're gonna gonna get rid of somebody, right because they're they're at 333 00:28:52.519 --> 00:28:59.480 the point where they have to start doing extra things like the dance marathon that 334 00:28:59.599 --> 00:29:03.400 they did this fast time. This time it's the team. So we will 335 00:29:03.480 --> 00:29:11.920 talk about that and the Gilded Age episode head to head. Did we find 336 00:29:11.960 --> 00:29:18.119 the significance of some kind of trick in this episode? Hmmm, good question, 337 00:29:18.200 --> 00:29:21.000 sergnificance of you don't even like opera? That was actually a line? 338 00:29:21.039 --> 00:29:25.880 That was a line? Yeah? But episode two, what was the some 339 00:29:26.039 --> 00:29:27.279 kind of tricks? I mean, it was some kind of trick at the 340 00:29:27.440 --> 00:29:33.200 very end, right, the ladies made it's a late use of your title. 341 00:29:33.359 --> 00:29:37.359 Right, hmmm, well perhaps it will look maybe they'll tell us in 342 00:29:37.480 --> 00:29:41.640 the official podcast. There you go. Have you been listening to that? 343 00:29:41.920 --> 00:29:45.519 I mean, there's only been one so far. Possibly we should. Yeah, 344 00:29:47.359 --> 00:29:49.240 I did listen to the first one, and I listened to them last 345 00:29:49.640 --> 00:29:55.799 season. You know, they're they're entertaining, but they're they're coming from inside 346 00:29:55.839 --> 00:30:00.799 the house. You know, they're they're not independent. So it has its 347 00:30:02.720 --> 00:30:10.960 pluses and minuses. Let's say, so, Catherine, what do you have 348 00:30:11.640 --> 00:30:15.759 for Catherine's Library find of the Week. Well, I'm going to go a 349 00:30:15.880 --> 00:30:22.960 little bit off chorus here and mentioned something that is a TV show that I 350 00:30:23.160 --> 00:30:32.160 actually watched based on seeing it in seeing the DVD come through the library. 351 00:30:33.079 --> 00:30:40.000 It's this show called Jamestown and as in like you know, pre colonial or 352 00:30:40.240 --> 00:30:47.079 whatever, like early seventeenth century. Yeah, and so the DVD came by 353 00:30:47.440 --> 00:30:51.640 and it says right on the top of it from the makers of Downton Abbey, 354 00:30:51.960 --> 00:30:56.920 and I was like, oh, okay, sold. So yeah, 355 00:30:57.000 --> 00:31:03.440 it's a series. It ran from twenty seven teen to twenty nineteen about you 356 00:31:03.519 --> 00:31:08.759 know, the first settlers that came to Jamestown from England, so it's you 357 00:31:08.880 --> 00:31:11.960 know, you get in the first episode, you get them on the boat 358 00:31:12.359 --> 00:31:22.079 and it's a boatload of women coming being brought over to marry all the men 359 00:31:22.119 --> 00:31:26.119 who have been there for a while, all by their lonesomes. So of 360 00:31:26.200 --> 00:31:33.519 course there's a lot of bad behavior that that happens. And I think it 361 00:31:33.680 --> 00:31:38.079 might be like a British thing. I don't even know, and I don't 362 00:31:38.160 --> 00:31:44.240 recognize any of the people who are in it, but you know, it's 363 00:31:44.559 --> 00:31:48.839 it's just fun in the way the Downtown Abbey and Outlander and shows like that 364 00:31:49.079 --> 00:31:53.440 are. So I am enjoying it and I would have never heard of it 365 00:31:53.599 --> 00:31:59.839 if I didn't see the DVD come by. Wow, that's looking for some 366 00:32:00.240 --> 00:32:02.119 to watch on TV. Go down to your library and look at the dv 367 00:32:02.359 --> 00:32:07.640 Just browse the DVDs. I mean we have them. We have so many. 368 00:32:08.680 --> 00:32:15.039 And it cracks me up when I see ten seasons of like Chicago med 369 00:32:15.279 --> 00:32:17.799 or something come through. I'm like, did you watch all of this? 370 00:32:19.200 --> 00:32:24.880 Like each box has like six DVDs in it, and that's a lot of 371 00:32:25.160 --> 00:32:31.559 dv Yep. It is. People are still out there watching DVDs they are. 372 00:32:31.960 --> 00:32:36.359 I still I couldn't get rid of my DVDs. When I was getting 373 00:32:36.400 --> 00:32:37.880 rid of stuff, I got rid of my daughter's ones that had been sitting 374 00:32:37.920 --> 00:32:42.000 here since COVID because I never got them over to the library to donate. 375 00:32:42.119 --> 00:32:45.559 Right, but my own I just want, as we discussed, I just 376 00:32:45.640 --> 00:32:47.880 want to look at them. I just want to know I still own them, 377 00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:51.640 even though I will probably never watch them, right, but I could 378 00:32:51.720 --> 00:32:55.440 give them to the library as well. Eventually, maybe Yeah, and then 379 00:32:55.519 --> 00:33:00.799 somebody will say, yeah, seasons of these stupid shows, just this stuff. 380 00:33:00.599 --> 00:33:07.079 I mean, just yesterday I got somebody returned leave it to Beaver and 381 00:33:09.160 --> 00:33:16.200 Andy Griffith show, So they're really throwing it back sometimes. Yeah. Yeah. 382 00:33:16.279 --> 00:33:20.920 I keep telling my husband he could watch those and stream them and stuff 383 00:33:20.920 --> 00:33:22.720 on various channels. He's like, I'm gonna just watch them on the regular 384 00:33:22.799 --> 00:33:25.240 TV they have them on. I said, but you don't, but you 385 00:33:25.279 --> 00:33:30.119 could like watch the very first one and just I'll watch them on the regular. 386 00:33:31.839 --> 00:33:37.519 He's skeptical of streaming. Yes, he doesn't watch them much. And 387 00:33:37.599 --> 00:33:40.599 he also a lot of his baseball is now on streamers, and he's always 388 00:33:40.640 --> 00:33:45.279 has trouble finding the game, and so I think he's now had it with 389 00:33:45.480 --> 00:33:46.599 that. That's it. I don't want to be on these jumps, right 390 00:33:46.759 --> 00:33:58.039 dark crumbing yah. More for the rest of us, more streaming. Yeah, 391 00:33:58.079 --> 00:34:00.599 I just quit a Hulu and Disney in a fit of annoyance that they 392 00:34:00.920 --> 00:34:05.359 somehow could not find a way to charge the credit card they've been charging forever 393 00:34:05.440 --> 00:34:07.360 and everybody else can charge just fine. So I said, fine, you 394 00:34:07.400 --> 00:34:10.119 don't want my business go away? Yeah, I cancel it. And then 395 00:34:10.159 --> 00:34:14.239 my daughter comes to me and says, could I just go ahead and pay 396 00:34:14.360 --> 00:34:15.880 for it myself? Can I just go do it? And I said, 397 00:34:16.159 --> 00:34:19.920 yeah, go ahead, but I'm making her watch the commercials for a few 398 00:34:19.960 --> 00:34:24.079 months to make sure she really wants it commercial Hulu because it's like so much 399 00:34:24.199 --> 00:34:31.599 cheaper. Anyway. In the archives this week, we are going to talk 400 00:34:31.679 --> 00:34:37.519 about things we discussed one year ago, two years ago, and three years 401 00:34:37.559 --> 00:34:39.920 ago. This week, it's kind of a recent one. We were keeping 402 00:34:39.960 --> 00:34:44.960 it recent this week. Yes, I had nothing to do with the fact 403 00:34:45.000 --> 00:34:47.159 that I filled out the things at the last minute. You had to pick 404 00:34:47.199 --> 00:34:52.039 ones before I was done. It's fine. So, oh my gosh, 405 00:34:52.119 --> 00:34:58.480 this first one in uh or a year ago. This week, we discussed 406 00:35:00.079 --> 00:35:07.159 family to do lists and how one person in a family, say, I 407 00:35:07.199 --> 00:35:09.800 don't know me, might have a certain urgency about the to do list, 408 00:35:10.079 --> 00:35:15.960 and the other people in the family might just see it as that thing mom 409 00:35:16.039 --> 00:35:22.960 Key's right, and it's still that way and it will always be that way, 410 00:35:23.039 --> 00:35:27.760 and it drives me crazy. I ask people to do things and they 411 00:35:27.880 --> 00:35:31.599 say yes, and then they don't do them, and then they seem surprised 412 00:35:31.639 --> 00:35:36.920 when I mention it, like Okay, so you're going to do that thing 413 00:35:37.000 --> 00:35:39.800 now what? Oh no, not today, but you said you were going 414 00:35:39.880 --> 00:35:43.519 to do it. I'll do it some other times today, but no, 415 00:35:44.239 --> 00:35:51.880 right. They are using my strategy of just agree yes, because whenever my 416 00:35:52.079 --> 00:35:58.639 husband asked me to do something, I usually just say yes, and then 417 00:35:59.159 --> 00:36:02.880 I may or may not actually do it because I don't like the way he 418 00:36:04.519 --> 00:36:10.320 is. Like someone needs to like, yeah, who what? Someone you 419 00:36:10.440 --> 00:36:14.800 know, like, just just spit it out, you know. Yes. 420 00:36:16.280 --> 00:36:21.039 So we have this whole thing downstairs, as I've discussed many times before, 421 00:36:21.119 --> 00:36:25.000 the downstairs apartment that my daughter is now slowly moving into. She's sleeping down 422 00:36:25.039 --> 00:36:28.199 there, which I would think would be the last thing she would want to 423 00:36:28.280 --> 00:36:32.960 do. But it's the first And there's a lot of my husband's mother's stuff 424 00:36:34.159 --> 00:36:37.719 still there, right, including a china cabinet full of stuff, but also 425 00:36:37.880 --> 00:36:45.840 kitchen cabinets full of stuff, a medicine cabinet full of stuff. I feel 426 00:36:45.960 --> 00:36:51.480 like it's my husband's job to remove and go through those things. If any 427 00:36:51.519 --> 00:36:53.480 of them are something my daughter could use. The two of them could look 428 00:36:53.519 --> 00:36:57.960 at everything, right, and then you know, box up the stuff we 429 00:36:58.039 --> 00:37:00.760 don't want and I'll have somebody come and take it away. That doesn't feel 430 00:37:00.800 --> 00:37:04.000 like that should be my job. That feels like it should be the job 431 00:37:04.039 --> 00:37:07.920 of the son of the previous owner. And I make that case and he 432 00:37:07.960 --> 00:37:10.119 goes, oh yeah, OK. And then every week when he has a 433 00:37:10.159 --> 00:37:13.679 week off, I say, so today you're gonna go down with our daughter 434 00:37:13.800 --> 00:37:15.519 and do this that right, and so yeah yeah, And then he sits 435 00:37:15.559 --> 00:37:20.360 on the couch and watches Keep Me three Hours and it's like, you're going 436 00:37:20.440 --> 00:37:24.920 to do that thing right? Oh yeah yeah. These people do not understand 437 00:37:24.960 --> 00:37:28.920 the concept of a to do list, Catherine, I know, and the 438 00:37:29.079 --> 00:37:34.159 issue is to check things off or else why write them down? The issue 439 00:37:34.239 --> 00:37:37.440 I have is that they they the children don't live here right now, so 440 00:37:38.400 --> 00:37:44.320 I don't know if they're doing things. You know, I can say, 441 00:37:44.679 --> 00:37:49.280 oh, make sure you you know, oh, send a message to your 442 00:37:49.360 --> 00:37:55.440 grandmother, or take your medicine or you know, check in with your advisor 443 00:37:55.599 --> 00:38:00.880 or whatever, and maybe they'll do it. Maybe they won't, but I 444 00:38:00.239 --> 00:38:05.559 won't know. Yeah, that's that's crazy making. So that's hard. That 445 00:38:05.599 --> 00:38:10.559 don't bother me. Yeah. Time. Also bothering is holiday stuff with family. 446 00:38:12.239 --> 00:38:16.199 Right last year, my brother in law and sister in law and their 447 00:38:16.360 --> 00:38:21.840 adult kids came, not for Thanksgiving, but for a couple of weeks before 448 00:38:22.039 --> 00:38:28.639 when our town has a race through town through like a five k or something. 449 00:38:29.480 --> 00:38:32.039 Yeah. Yeah, and they've done it for years and years. My 450 00:38:32.239 --> 00:38:37.800 son usually walks it with this social group that he goes to, and my 451 00:38:37.480 --> 00:38:40.679 niece is a runner, so she decided she wanted to come and run it. 452 00:38:42.320 --> 00:38:44.880 So it worked out really well. They came, we had like a 453 00:38:44.960 --> 00:38:49.159 Thanksgiving dinner the night before, and then the next day they did the race 454 00:38:49.199 --> 00:38:52.360 and then they left. So that was good. So you know, my 455 00:38:52.679 --> 00:38:53.639 sister in law calls, you want to do again this year? Yes, 456 00:38:53.719 --> 00:38:58.840 let's do it again this year, but there are some complications this year Number 457 00:38:58.880 --> 00:39:02.519 one, they now have a dog which they want to bring with them to 458 00:39:02.639 --> 00:39:07.679 stay in our house. The place where they previously stayed in our house, 459 00:39:08.360 --> 00:39:14.079 the downstairs apartment now kind of occupy. Do we have another guest room? 460 00:39:14.480 --> 00:39:17.119 Really not because my daughter is half and half at this point, so where 461 00:39:17.119 --> 00:39:24.519 are we gonna put them? And also Boston Market, our purveyor of Thanksgiving 462 00:39:24.679 --> 00:39:29.519 items so that I don't have to cook, has gone belly up at least 463 00:39:29.559 --> 00:39:35.599 in New Jersey. What are we going to use? So it's like, 464 00:39:36.239 --> 00:39:40.719 uh, sure, come, but maybe sleep someplace else with your dog. 465 00:39:40.920 --> 00:39:45.519 So I don't know. I don't know if my dog likes other dogs. 466 00:39:45.719 --> 00:39:49.639 I don't know if my dog would be threatened by another dog suddenly in the 467 00:39:49.719 --> 00:39:53.079 house. And see our earlier discussion. So it's just it just suddenly got 468 00:39:53.159 --> 00:39:59.679 really really complicated. Yeah, so yay, yay, family together. Is 469 00:39:59.800 --> 00:40:07.400 nice to see you all. I'm gonna zume meeting right. Do you have 470 00:40:07.480 --> 00:40:14.119 any holiday plans? Well, I'd mentioned before that we ended up because this, 471 00:40:15.400 --> 00:40:17.239 you know, two years ago when we talked about this, it was 472 00:40:17.280 --> 00:40:22.320 a lot about like how when your kids are little, you just tell them 473 00:40:22.360 --> 00:40:25.519 what we're doing and do it, you know, and when as they get 474 00:40:25.559 --> 00:40:30.599 older, it gets more complicated. They have different commitments and lives and everything 475 00:40:30.639 --> 00:40:37.760 else. And that happened to us this year. You know, my family, 476 00:40:37.840 --> 00:40:42.679 we usually celebrate with my side of the family, and they are in 477 00:40:42.840 --> 00:40:46.039 California this year, and you know, that was going to be really hard 478 00:40:46.159 --> 00:40:52.840 for us to try to fit in between the two kids on different school schedules 479 00:40:52.920 --> 00:40:57.679 and then my work schedule and it. You know, so we were like, 480 00:40:57.840 --> 00:41:01.320 no, we're And also last year, when my brother in law and 481 00:41:01.519 --> 00:41:05.800 niece came for Christmas, we talked about how we were going to do Thanksgiving 482 00:41:05.880 --> 00:41:08.800 together this year, and you know, they set a goal to get their 483 00:41:08.880 --> 00:41:15.559 dogs organized so that they could leave them somewhere, and you know, but 484 00:41:15.719 --> 00:41:21.599 then they haven't really done that. And then my niece went out of the 485 00:41:21.679 --> 00:41:27.000 country and so she's doing an internship away from home, so she's not going 486 00:41:27.079 --> 00:41:31.000 to be around. And then I was going to have to work Friday, 487 00:41:31.039 --> 00:41:36.920 Saturday, Sunday like all this stuff. And my husband's like, well, 488 00:41:37.280 --> 00:41:42.559 you know, he really wanted to go somewhere and do something. And where 489 00:41:42.599 --> 00:41:47.039 we finally landed was we are going to the town where my daughter lives, 490 00:41:47.159 --> 00:41:52.760 the city where my daughter goes to school, and we are getting an airbnb 491 00:41:53.039 --> 00:42:01.639 and staying there and doing Thanksgiving there on Tuesday. And as I said before, 492 00:42:01.719 --> 00:42:08.239 we are bringing the dogs. And so for the kids, I mean 493 00:42:08.440 --> 00:42:14.920 my son, he's whatever because he's going to be coming home and possibly seeing 494 00:42:15.039 --> 00:42:19.440 some of his high school friends like the weekends before and after, because he 495 00:42:19.559 --> 00:42:22.800 is the whole week off. But my daughter doesn't, and she has skating 496 00:42:22.039 --> 00:42:29.719 and bloody blah blah. So we're bringing it to her and we'll see, 497 00:42:30.800 --> 00:42:36.920 you know, because it's gonna involve transporting a whole lot of stuff I think 498 00:42:37.199 --> 00:42:42.920 from yeah, and from home stuff live and inert. Yes, exactly, 499 00:42:43.400 --> 00:42:47.079 frozen turkey because he already has do not put the frozen turkey in the same 500 00:42:47.119 --> 00:42:52.679 car as I would separate those two, yes, exactly. And we want 501 00:42:52.719 --> 00:42:55.679 to bring their creak because you know, we want to have that and the 502 00:42:57.239 --> 00:43:04.119 airbnb and right ah, and it's big, you know, it's it's not 503 00:43:04.239 --> 00:43:07.519 a travel crate. It's a crate you keep in the kitchen all the time. 504 00:43:08.079 --> 00:43:14.400 And they both fit in it. So anyway, yeah, nothing's ever 505 00:43:14.440 --> 00:43:17.039 easy, So then we need someone to vent about it. That was some 506 00:43:17.159 --> 00:43:22.360 good venting, that's right. This Illustrates in let's see four years ago in 507 00:43:22.360 --> 00:43:27.280 twenty nineteen. Oh yeah, talked about who's your vent buddy? And I 508 00:43:27.400 --> 00:43:31.239 think, all things considered, my vent buddy is all of you listeners. 509 00:43:31.360 --> 00:43:36.519 Yep. I just come on here and I vent about something and leave it 510 00:43:36.599 --> 00:43:38.000 there and then I feel better. Yeah, and then I edit it and 511 00:43:38.039 --> 00:43:42.679 I listened to it again and I say, yeah, that's and then I 512 00:43:42.800 --> 00:43:45.079 listened to it again on my podcast player and I go, you know what, 513 00:43:45.199 --> 00:43:49.800 maybe I should calm down. It's a whole. It's a cycle, 514 00:43:49.920 --> 00:43:52.440 it's a it's a lets the steam right out. That's right. It's a 515 00:43:52.480 --> 00:43:55.760 sequence that you have to go through. And when you get through it, 516 00:43:57.719 --> 00:44:01.920 you know, all our listeners reel and a madeary human and bought thank you, 517 00:44:02.199 --> 00:44:06.320 that's right, thank you for giving me the illusion of having shared my 518 00:44:06.440 --> 00:44:08.360 problems with people. You'll, aren't you, Gavin? I am real, 519 00:44:09.000 --> 00:44:13.079 by I am really. I think you are not a robot, that's right. 520 00:44:14.559 --> 00:44:17.599 Not a girl, always say with a bicycle in it, Yeah that's 521 00:44:17.679 --> 00:44:22.559 right. Janet would say, I'm not a girl. I'm not a robot. 522 00:44:22.719 --> 00:44:28.360 I'm not a girl. Yeah. I mean, I think it is 523 00:44:28.480 --> 00:44:34.199 important to have a event buddy, I'm not entirely sure mine is if it's 524 00:44:34.639 --> 00:44:42.320 If it's not you and the listeners, then I'm not sure. So well, 525 00:44:43.360 --> 00:44:45.840 it's nice because there are very few real world repercussions when you vent to 526 00:44:45.880 --> 00:44:51.159 the listeners because nobody I know listens, right, And if you do, 527 00:44:51.320 --> 00:44:53.199 please don't tell me because that'll be embarrassed. I'll never talk about anything. 528 00:44:55.000 --> 00:44:58.239 But I mean I had to also do have a friend that I vent to, 529 00:44:58.840 --> 00:45:02.480 and I was trying to think who my kids vent buddies are. And 530 00:45:04.960 --> 00:45:08.840 we pay for my daughter to have event buddy, We pay to go event, 531 00:45:12.000 --> 00:45:15.559 so that works out, okay. And then I think my son has 532 00:45:15.639 --> 00:45:17.480 imaginary event buddies because I hear him. He'll come home and then I'll go 533 00:45:17.559 --> 00:45:22.880 in his room and we'll be talking up a storm and I press my ear 534 00:45:22.920 --> 00:45:24.639 against the door sometime to try to figure it out, because it's like, 535 00:45:24.719 --> 00:45:30.159 are you talking over something that happened with your imaginary friend? But you know, 536 00:45:30.320 --> 00:45:32.239 whatever works for you, important thing is to get it out. That's 537 00:45:32.320 --> 00:45:37.599 right, you're talking about your mom. Don't do it too lot because I 538 00:45:37.599 --> 00:45:40.199 don't want to know, right, I don't need to hear that. Yeah, 539 00:45:40.599 --> 00:45:45.840 everything else I want to hear but right, well, yeah, during 540 00:45:45.920 --> 00:45:47.519 the era of zoom therapy, I had to keep saying, you have to 541 00:45:47.639 --> 00:45:52.119 close the door, you have your zoom therapy because if I can hear it, 542 00:45:52.199 --> 00:45:58.480 I'm going to come in and tell my son that. Yeah exactly, 543 00:45:59.239 --> 00:46:01.920 I think she used to go send her car. Yeah, I mean that's 544 00:46:04.199 --> 00:46:07.639 but you know, you can't not listen if somebody is talking loudly no, 545 00:46:07.400 --> 00:46:12.840 and you kind of want to listen, and then there's a problem. Right, 546 00:46:12.960 --> 00:46:16.440 I didn't say that, right, Let me go tell her aye yah 547 00:46:16.519 --> 00:46:22.119 yai. Yes, Well, I guess we' vented enough for one day. 548 00:46:22.199 --> 00:46:24.920 Huh. Yes, I think we have, So we'll say that's it for 549 00:46:25.000 --> 00:46:30.880 the Parenting Roundabout Weekly Roundup. You can find all our episodes filled with venting 550 00:46:32.320 --> 00:46:37.800 on speaker, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or wherever you get your podcasts. 551 00:46:38.239 --> 00:46:42.559 You can find recaps, links, and an opportunity to comment on our 552 00:46:42.599 --> 00:46:45.639 website at parenting roundabout dot com. 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