Hello, and welcome to the Parenting Roundabout Podcast for the week of November sixth.
I'm Katherine Hoileco and I'm here with Terry Morrow. Hello, for a
weekly episode to talk about parenting in a roundabout way, along with some pop
culture and other chit chat. So you were telling me that you're trying to
make plans for your dog. Could I do with my dog? Katherine,
We have this very sweet little rescue dog that I've talked about. We got
her at the end of June, beginning of July, and at the time
we had a vacation scheduled, but we thought, oh, there'll be plenty
of time before that, she'll be all used to us, everything will be
good, and then we can board her and it will be fine. She
won't mind. But I worry about this dog because we really know absolutely nothing
about her before she was found in a park. There's been some things that
have made me think that maybe she was mistreated, probably by men, and
she still shies away from things. She was getting really peppy and friendly to
us, and then she had some stomach problems and she like regressed back into
being shy, and now she's just starting to be really friendly and Peppy again,
And I feel like, if I take this dog to a boarding place,
she's going to think, well, that family's abandoned me. Now that
you know what is next for me, She's going to have all sorts of
PTSD and trauma on top of the trauma whoever knows what it was. And
I hate to do that to her. On the other hand, I don't
really know that we can bring her with us. We're going to a resort
that I have never seen a dog at in all the years we've gone there.
Their website now says dogs under sixty pounds are welcome, but you can't
leave them alone in the room, and you can't bring them here, and
you can't bring them there. So I'm like, okay, so if you
bring the I have to just sit in the room the entire vacation, which
I don't really object to, except I would like to go to mass yes,
you know, and maybe dinner once in a while. But I keep
calling to see this resort has a hotel and it has time shares. Where
in the timeshares does the dog policy extend to the time shares? I asked
on the website. No answer, I asked on the Facebook page where I
have gotten answers before no answer. I finally said, hey, I guess
no answer means no, and they said, oh, just look at our
dog policy on the website, and I said, yes, that is what
I'm asking about. I sent an email to the timeshare manager. No answer,
So I got to think that either they don't and so they don't want
to be bothered, or they do, but they don't want people to actually
bring their dogs, so they're like, not going to Can you get their
confirmer denial right? And it's like, well, in that case, I
don't want to. So it's like none of the possibilities is good, nor
is us just not going away? So what do you do with your dogs?
Us to take our dogs to the vet and board them there, but
our vet no longer does that, so we have to find another place.
We've talked to, like a doggy resort place that's super fancy and kind of
expensive. But you know, they have an application that's five pages long,
please document all your dog's experiences in life, and it's like, oh,
my, asked about one that's close to us and cheaper and filled out their
application which also wanted to know how does your dog do with other dogs?
What is your dog afraid of? How does your dog respond to all different
kinds of people? And it's like, I don't know, pretty sure she's
got some some trauma, but I'm sure it'll be fine. And I never
heard back from them, so it's like, what do we do? Right?
Well, we do take ours to you know, like a kennel where
it's like doggy daycare slash. They do have overnight boarding and you know,
they've they've gone, except of course like during the pandemic, they've they've gone
fairly regularly. I mean when I say regularly, like a couple times a
year, you know, not I mean some some dogs go to daycare all
the time. But we don't need that. We're here. But I mean,
and I'm going to talk about this later this Thanksgiving, we are taking
them with us to an airbnb, and I am very We did actually take
a dog wants to uh it was like a little condo type in and we
just had to keep her in a crate if we weren't there, which she
was cool about that dog, and it was really kind of nice. It
was kind of fun to have her there. But I don't know about old
dogs if that would be the case if she had been barking the entire time.
I'm not sure they would have been too happy with her, right,
Yeah, I know. I just I'm nervous about driving with them, which
I don't actually have to do. It's two separate that it's two different cars,
so I don't have to care about that. Yeah, but but yeah,
I mean it is. If there's a way to take her to one
of these boarding places in advance and do like a trial run. Yeah,
we've done that before. Last time I took a dog to a place like
that for a trial run, the dog got sick and never really got well.
Oh no, but the guy think she caught something or she drank too
much water or something, so I don't know. And yeah, and if
we take her with us, it's like a three hour drive, and this
dog does not like being in the car. But on the other hand,
if we take her for a short ride to a place where we're boarding her,
then she's never going to get in a car. Yet I know what
this means. We're walking home. Don't like it. It's so hard,
you know, not every place can welcome dogs. And you know, sometimes
it's nice to take a vacation from the responsibility. But at the same time,
it just breaks my heart to think of, you know, we'll be
back, you know that, right, She doesn't know that it's impossible.
So anyway, that's my particular anu right plus which I was in the middle
of trying to figure it out when I broke my wrist and then I didn't
do anything for like three weeks. And now it's even closer to the time
we're going and our choices are going to be slim. They're very happy to
have our dog, but it's like, these are the things that are complicated
I know exactly. I mean, my brother in law's two dogs and they
cannot be boarded just because of their behavior, and that caused his wife to
not be able to come to our house for Thanksgiving last year. They take
them with when they drive, they take them with them. So you know
what that sounds like to me is you would upset the dogs. Yeah,
I'll stay home with her. It's okay. Everybody was fine with it.
That is something I would do. Yeah, maybe I'm thinking about that now.
That's that's an interesting Oh well, this is a difficult problem, but
not as difficult as dancing with an inch of crud on your yes, glued
on bone mask or those weird contact lenses so many of them go, oh
my gosh, contact lenses aren't something you can just you're not experienced with it,
right pop in? Can you? I had the worst experience with contact
lenses as a youth. And also, if you need them to see,
how can you description prescription like those novelty freaky ones or are they just like
going without that doesn't see a good Talking about Dancing with the Stars Monster night,
we're not just getting the boarding place we went they had weird contact lens.
No, oh my gosh, it was monsters, and they don't do
monsters every Halloween. And I was thinking as I was watching all these people
in these very elaborate costumes. I mean, kudos to the costume people and
to the hair and the makeup people, excellent work. But the scariest and
best dance I've ever seen for Halloween on Dancing with the Stars is the one
with Whitney and Frankie where he was like a star. Oh, no makeup,
no costumes. It was scary at head. Yes, so are so
really, Maybe people do not need to spend five hours in the makeup room
to do your Halloween dances. Right, maybe a little more modest next year,
because that one worked great. Yes, that was extremely scary and creepy.
Go back and watch it, willingk to it. Yeah, that's excellent.
So there were all sorts of mummies and vampires and aliens and whatever the
heck it was. Arianna and Pasha were Yeah, that I didn't really understand,
Like she had her hair turned into like rams horns or something. So
I felt so bad for Charity because that costume was not particularly flattering and it
didn't show off dance moves, huh. And the face she couldn't really emote
with that face, right, it was like glued onto her and so she
just looked kind of meh. And then then she went on to have to
have that all on for the dance a Thon too, which I think so
I think that they, although overall the costumes and makeup were amazing, I
think they kind of did her. She must have offended somebody in the in
their makeup room. And also here did you notice that she had They had
backup dancer's charity and artem They had like five p people in the back back
up skeletons skeleton suits, but like not doing anything. They were just kind
of shuffling around a little. But I was like, what is the point
of this? I guess it was like they were at the monster Mash and
those were the other dancers, I guess, but they didn't give them anything
to do. That was weird. It was There was many weird things on
the ship on the episode. Yeah, and I mean Harry and Riley.
I guess they were supposed to be some sort of alien thing. But that's
a lot of makeup. Yeah, it's an awful lot of makeup that looked
uncomfortable, that looked like, I mean, as bad as Jason's makeup was,
it was at least just his face and he boy did he run with
it, like standing behind people all through the rest of the episode. Right,
He's going to be a meme. But just the whole body makeup in
those colors, with that, oh yeah, you couldn't recognize either one of
them. Maybe that was a strategy to be like, don't forget who I've
been for the last six weeks or whatever, like I'm a name. Would
they do anything to completely change his body? Yeah, I don't think so.
I saw a lot of really really harsh things about Harry and Riley after
last week online. So I get what's what he's talking about, but you
can't. Number one, don't don't read the comments. I was yelling at
the screen. Don't read the com We have a hopeful graphic for that I
should, I should send to them, you know. But and also he's
been on a reality show, so he knows that people are mean online.
Surely some forum I was on said he was not a good guy on that
reality show either, So that's all fake. No, he's like a delicate
flower. But I will will see if the sympathy wins him votes. But
don't whine. Yeah, don't whine, and don't read the comments. This
is this is one oh one. We all know it. You know you're
not the only one getting bad scores. Just well, I guess you're getting
the worst ones. But still yeah, just just uh roll with it.
The fact that you're still there means people are voting for you, right,
so be grateful, like I think they said at some point, but I
don't know he survived to whine another week. He did. Mauricio was the
one who went home, and somebody I saw speculated that as you mentioned,
last week, his wife had expressed some concern about him and Emma, and
there was a thought that this cost him the votes of his wife's fans,
which is probably what was keeping him there. Interesting. Live by your wife's
fans, die by your wife fans? Man, Yeah, interesting, I
mean that that is the case, but it sounds right. I just got
that from like a headlining People magazine, So yeah, yeah, oh boy,
he was a good sport. He was a good sport and Barry must
have some kind of voting block. I don't know, ladies out there voting
for Barry. I really didn't think he would the Brady Love is Stride.
I mean, it's been a while since that show was on and he really
hasn't done much else. The people who remember it are thrilled he's there.
Yeah. I don't know that they vote as much as teeny boppers, but
they vote. I'm constantly surprised. But I haven't watched it live in a
number of weeks. But I got to get back to voting. But it's
like, I'm kind of kind of like everybody who's still there, I would
not know who to vote or not. Fo Yeah, but well it's charity
just for because she's a bachelorette. She's a bachelorette. Yes, but you
can't. What a good thing to do on this show if they ever wanted
to mix it up, is allow you to vote for and or against.
Yeah, but if it's it's just like, well, I'm not going to
vote for that person. Well they're getting a bunch of votes. It's really
not gonna hurt them that much. Right, he is voting for somebody else.
I don't know, but I got to get back into it. Yeah,
I want to vote for many of them. So it's hard so that
it's like there's no point in doing it at all if you're only wait,
that's the way. That's why I've sort of been. I can watch the
next day, right. I liked when they were doing the dances at the
end. Allison's strategy was just to keep from being noticed for long enough to
write, and I enjoyed that. That would be my strategy as well.
Just stand over here in the corner, y'all go ahead. That was my
you know, middle school softball in gym class strategy. Oh yes, stay
in the outfield, never ever go up to bat. Yes, when I
was in I was in elementary school, we play soccer. I would always
be defending the end of the field that nobody was in. Right, I'll
just stay over here in the opposite direction, just in case the ball comes.
I'm ready. We don't let the ball come. I won't know what
to do with it. But she's hanging into good for her. I don't
know. It's interesting to think, who will I wonder. I really wonder
if Leley is getting just such a huge number of social media votes that they
can keep voting her down. And also they costumed her as so chy this
week. It's like, well, getting confused because there's two girls with black
hair and bangs. Yeah, I guess. At first I thought she was
like Wednesday Adams, and then she was supposed to be some kind of a
spider was my ultimate thought. But I guess so yeah, I know,
it just looked so weird. Oh well, you know, she still is
continuing to get underrated, I think. But the end of the dancing was
spectacular. I didn't think they all looked a little tentative and awkward, possibly
because of the excellent work of the hair. And they haven't costume people who
cares if they can dance in that? Right? Don that look cool well
dance dancing at the stars. Right, so it's only another week's right.
So on the Gilded Age they did not have to wear lots of horrifying makeup
and ikey costumes, but they still do dress up quite a lot. They
certainly do. Probably easier to move in mummy garb than in some of those
dresses. Yes, and they require other people to dress them, which becomes
a plot, an important plot point in multiple story. Yes, just the
one butler saying, but they can't entertain if if their relative is dressing mister
Russell Russell, they can't entertain, Oh deue shame. And then at the
very end there's a there's a mic drop of a character from the past returning.
Oh man, who I would have been overjoyed never to see against Missus
Russell's lady's maid who had hopes of being the next Missus Russell, that's right,
which were unsuccessful. But now she's married to some elderly gentleman, some
elderly rich guy yep, and is looks to be eager to lord it over
the former employers. That's right, it's going to have a good time.
She's not going to uh make up or apologize or just pretend it never happened,
noop, noop. So well she knows that she has Bertha over a
barrel, because yes, she can't be going around saying, oh this was
my maid. Yes, yes, quite a lot of romantical intrigue in this
in this one, right, and poor Marion with the extremely unsuitable bow.
Yeah, he was awful. They really wanted to make clear that he was
awful, and it was please cartoonish, please do not miss. He made
Oscar look like a sparkling catch. Yes, tea shirt. An Oscar now
has someone in mind. Once agains right, and it's a good thing because
last last week I posited that Bertha would squish Oscar like a bug. But
no, it was George. Yeah, boy did he sure after telling Gladys
he would let him down. He's out of the window onto the street.
Yeah, that was delightful. I enjoyed. And uh, he wants Gladys
to fall in love. That's right. She had to admit that even though
Oscar makes her laugh and promised her a good life. Ah well, there
is that little matter of yeah no, and what did what's did George say?
Like he probably Gladys said he promised me freedom or something like that,
and he's like, yeah, marriage is not your best move there, if
that's what you're looking for. That was delightful, just the yeah, yeah,
how how this scene between him and Gladys where he gets her to go
to Newport and then this seemed between him and Oscar in which he lets him
down not easily at all was uh, you know, kudos to Morgan Spector.
Those were wonderful scenes. Yes, but Larry has his book, got
a job and there from his new employer, Laura Benanti, who was not
at all subtle in her intentions. And of course you know how Bertha responded
to that, not well he's old. It has to be your mother,
And George responded to it, well, oh young man, you know,
wrong answer, right? Oh my, So Marion was rescued by cousin Dashel
immediately there, amazing every time she needed rescue from mister Morgan. Yes,
it's her unsuitable dude suitable, Yes, he is very conveniently around. Mister
Montgomery. Yes, so be nice to see what happens there, and Oscar
has another bounces back remarkably well, right, has another prospect who's just happened
to be in Paris for the last yes, number of years. We don't
know her well enough to feel sorry for her, So that's fine, you
go, you go, Oscar, just leave Gladys alone, that's right.
Yeah, But the only person who didn't come out with another potential person was
Gladys, right, did we Did she meet anybody else this time? I
don't think she did. But she was sympathizing with Marian, which was cute,
yes, and Peggy's back yes and armstrong, wow, girl, like
come on, not taking the hint, not from all, and it was
certainly not an hint at all. It was as it could be, be
nice or you are out on your ass. Right. She was not nice.
She was not nice, deliberately and aggressively not nice. Yeah, after
like crying about how she could never get another job, yes, like and
as Agnes rightfully pointed out, it's up to you. If you behave you
will not have a problem. Right. So a difficult position for Peggy to
be in though, because you don't want to get somebody fire. But at
the same time, come on, and Peggy's trying. Everybody is against her.
It's like, what are you doing? She's being nice? Stop it?
Right? I do I do enjoy the cook at that house. Yes,
she's she's just well, she has to eat, you know, Like
how she kept the secret of Marian having a job. Well, all I
did was make her a lunch. She has to eat, Come on,
she's job. Yes, ah. And we're supposed to believe that Marian's an
amazing teacher because Francis, her cousin whatever, got frustrated and was about to
rip up her painting, and Marian was like, just try again, and
then Francis was like, okay, well that was easy. Yeah, she's
an amazing teacher. Absolutely, look at that. And then then she rode
home with the cusin Dashel and they were going to have their visit with the
ants. But we didn't get to see it. I saw that, we
saw other social engagements. We skipped right to right to the pastor right.
Ada is so smitten with and does and that Agnes is very annoying, Like
I couldn't get a word in edge once. It's kind of Agnes's default setting.
Honestly, right, it really is, and good because she's amusing.
Yes, it is quite amusing. There's still some bad blood between the two,
but Crosstreet butlers, Yes, forgiving but not forgetting right. And that
reminds me because the one butler was taking the dog for a walk when they
had their little conversation, and during the scene where the rector was visiting,
he was really aggressively petting that dog. Did you notice that? He was
like, just I noticed the dog. I did not notice the pending.
Oh my gosh. It was like he I don't know what he was.
The dog will be filing chargers. Yes, it was almost like, what
are you doing, sir? I don't understand it was it was just to
me, it was extremely noticeable, like leave that poor animal alone, please,
or maybe the dog doesn't get enough affection from the rest of the household,
and well, and that he appreciated getting it from the director. I
guess, yeah, a manly sort of pet these women. Yes, exactly.
So Jack is fixing a clock and much is made of this. Right,
Is he going to turn out to be like some inventor we've heard of.
I don't know if it's going to be one we've heard of, or
it's just going to be that it's going to be his his ticket to a
life beyond service and perhaps his ticket to picking up a cute German lady's maid
from across the street because he seems to have lost interest in the one that
lives in his house. Does she beat him at cards? So no more
for her? Yeah? But yeah they made they made so much of the
stupid alarm close like this has to be leading to something, yes, definitely.
So now we're two locations on this show. We've got Newport going on,
we got New York going on. We no longer have Brooklyn going on.
That's right. I'm sure she'll make her way back to Brooklyn now,
and then we don't want to leave Odra McDonald forever. No, she wasn't
even in this episode. She was not. I hope she'll be sit back,
just a reminder of why we're sad, right, and then she comes
to the place where, uh, everything is so much better. Even a
grouchy old lady can't get you down. Come on, Armstrong, what are
you doing? Get a grip because you will be losing your job very soon,
dome as with bags and you're too old to have a turn, as
you know, coming back to haunt her by marrying some old rich guy.
Right, that's not going to happen for you. She's about the same age
as the guy that the Lady's Maiden married. But still yes, as with
maids, those guys don't want somebody, there is somebody beyond the very youthful
right stage right. So next week we will be talking about Dancing with the
Stars music Video Night, that's what they said. Paula Abdul will be there,
of course she will, judging at least she's a dancer, that's true,
she is. I feel like they've had music video Night before. Do
they re enact music video dances? I don't know, it may have been
before my time. And there also are going to be team dances. So
that's how they're gonna gonna get rid of somebody, right because they're they're at
the point where they have to start doing extra things like the dance marathon that
they did this fast time. This time it's the team. So we will
talk about that and the Gilded Age episode head to head. Did we find
the significance of some kind of trick in this episode? Hmmm, good question,
sergnificance of you don't even like opera? That was actually a line?
That was a line? Yeah? But episode two, what was the some
kind of tricks? I mean, it was some kind of trick at the
very end, right, the ladies made it's a late use of your title.
Right, hmmm, well perhaps it will look maybe they'll tell us in
the official podcast. There you go. Have you been listening to that?
I mean, there's only been one so far. Possibly we should. Yeah,
I did listen to the first one, and I listened to them last
season. You know, they're they're entertaining, but they're they're coming from inside
the house. You know, they're they're not independent. So it has its
pluses and minuses. Let's say, so, Catherine, what do you have
for Catherine's Library find of the Week. Well, I'm going to go a
little bit off chorus here and mentioned something that is a TV show that I
actually watched based on seeing it in seeing the DVD come through the library.
It's this show called Jamestown and as in like you know, pre colonial or
whatever, like early seventeenth century. Yeah, and so the DVD came by
and it says right on the top of it from the makers of Downton Abbey,
and I was like, oh, okay, sold. So yeah,
it's a series. It ran from twenty seven teen to twenty nineteen about you
know, the first settlers that came to Jamestown from England, so it's you
know, you get in the first episode, you get them on the boat
and it's a boatload of women coming being brought over to marry all the men
who have been there for a while, all by their lonesomes. So of
course there's a lot of bad behavior that that happens. And I think it
might be like a British thing. I don't even know, and I don't
recognize any of the people who are in it, but you know, it's
it's just fun in the way the Downtown Abbey and Outlander and shows like that
are. So I am enjoying it and I would have never heard of it
if I didn't see the DVD come by. Wow, that's looking for some
to watch on TV. Go down to your library and look at the dv
Just browse the DVDs. I mean we have them. We have so many.
And it cracks me up when I see ten seasons of like Chicago med
or something come through. I'm like, did you watch all of this?
Like each box has like six DVDs in it, and that's a lot of
dv Yep. It is. People are still out there watching DVDs they are.
I still I couldn't get rid of my DVDs. When I was getting
rid of stuff, I got rid of my daughter's ones that had been sitting
here since COVID because I never got them over to the library to donate.
Right, but my own I just want, as we discussed, I just
want to look at them. I just want to know I still own them,
even though I will probably never watch them, right, but I could
give them to the library as well. Eventually, maybe Yeah, and then
somebody will say, yeah, seasons of these stupid shows, just this stuff.
I mean, just yesterday I got somebody returned leave it to Beaver and
Andy Griffith show, So they're really throwing it back sometimes. Yeah. Yeah.
I keep telling my husband he could watch those and stream them and stuff
on various channels. He's like, I'm gonna just watch them on the regular
TV they have them on. I said, but you don't, but you
could like watch the very first one and just I'll watch them on the regular.
He's skeptical of streaming. Yes, he doesn't watch them much. And
he also a lot of his baseball is now on streamers, and he's always
has trouble finding the game, and so I think he's now had it with
that. That's it. I don't want to be on these jumps, right
dark crumbing yah. More for the rest of us, more streaming. Yeah,
I just quit a Hulu and Disney in a fit of annoyance that they
somehow could not find a way to charge the credit card they've been charging forever
and everybody else can charge just fine. So I said, fine, you
don't want my business go away? Yeah, I cancel it. And then
my daughter comes to me and says, could I just go ahead and pay
for it myself? Can I just go do it? And I said,
yeah, go ahead, but I'm making her watch the commercials for a few
months to make sure she really wants it commercial Hulu because it's like so much
cheaper. Anyway. In the archives this week, we are going to talk
about things we discussed one year ago, two years ago, and three years
ago. This week, it's kind of a recent one. We were keeping
it recent this week. Yes, I had nothing to do with the fact
that I filled out the things at the last minute. You had to pick
ones before I was done. It's fine. So, oh my gosh,
this first one in uh or a year ago. This week, we discussed
family to do lists and how one person in a family, say, I
don't know me, might have a certain urgency about the to do list,
and the other people in the family might just see it as that thing mom
Key's right, and it's still that way and it will always be that way,
and it drives me crazy. I ask people to do things and they
say yes, and then they don't do them, and then they seem surprised
when I mention it, like Okay, so you're going to do that thing
now what? Oh no, not today, but you said you were going
to do it. I'll do it some other times today, but no,
right. They are using my strategy of just agree yes, because whenever my
husband asked me to do something, I usually just say yes, and then
I may or may not actually do it because I don't like the way he
is. Like someone needs to like, yeah, who what? Someone you
know, like, just just spit it out, you know. Yes.
So we have this whole thing downstairs, as I've discussed many times before,
the downstairs apartment that my daughter is now slowly moving into. She's sleeping down
there, which I would think would be the last thing she would want to
do. But it's the first And there's a lot of my husband's mother's stuff
still there, right, including a china cabinet full of stuff, but also
kitchen cabinets full of stuff, a medicine cabinet full of stuff. I feel
like it's my husband's job to remove and go through those things. If any
of them are something my daughter could use. The two of them could look
at everything, right, and then you know, box up the stuff we
don't want and I'll have somebody come and take it away. That doesn't feel
like that should be my job. That feels like it should be the job
of the son of the previous owner. And I make that case and he
goes, oh yeah, OK. And then every week when he has a
week off, I say, so today you're gonna go down with our daughter
and do this that right, and so yeah yeah, And then he sits
on the couch and watches Keep Me three Hours and it's like, you're going
to do that thing right? Oh yeah yeah. These people do not understand
the concept of a to do list, Catherine, I know, and the
issue is to check things off or else why write them down? The issue
I have is that they they the children don't live here right now, so
I don't know if they're doing things. You know, I can say,
oh, make sure you you know, oh, send a message to your
grandmother, or take your medicine or you know, check in with your advisor
or whatever, and maybe they'll do it. Maybe they won't, but I
won't know. Yeah, that's that's crazy making. So that's hard. That
don't bother me. Yeah. Time. Also bothering is holiday stuff with family.
Right last year, my brother in law and sister in law and their
adult kids came, not for Thanksgiving, but for a couple of weeks before
when our town has a race through town through like a five k or something.
Yeah. Yeah, and they've done it for years and years. My
son usually walks it with this social group that he goes to, and my
niece is a runner, so she decided she wanted to come and run it.
So it worked out really well. They came, we had like a
Thanksgiving dinner the night before, and then the next day they did the race
and then they left. So that was good. So you know, my
sister in law calls, you want to do again this year? Yes,
let's do it again this year, but there are some complications this year Number
one, they now have a dog which they want to bring with them to
stay in our house. The place where they previously stayed in our house,
the downstairs apartment now kind of occupy. Do we have another guest room?
Really not because my daughter is half and half at this point, so where
are we gonna put them? And also Boston Market, our purveyor of Thanksgiving
items so that I don't have to cook, has gone belly up at least
in New Jersey. What are we going to use? So it's like,
uh, sure, come, but maybe sleep someplace else with your dog.
So I don't know. I don't know if my dog likes other dogs.
I don't know if my dog would be threatened by another dog suddenly in the
house. And see our earlier discussion. So it's just it just suddenly got
really really complicated. Yeah, so yay, yay, family together. Is
nice to see you all. I'm gonna zume meeting right. Do you have
any holiday plans? Well, I'd mentioned before that we ended up because this,
you know, two years ago when we talked about this, it was
a lot about like how when your kids are little, you just tell them
what we're doing and do it, you know, and when as they get
older, it gets more complicated. They have different commitments and lives and everything
else. And that happened to us this year. You know, my family,
we usually celebrate with my side of the family, and they are in
California this year, and you know, that was going to be really hard
for us to try to fit in between the two kids on different school schedules
and then my work schedule and it. You know, so we were like,
no, we're And also last year, when my brother in law and
niece came for Christmas, we talked about how we were going to do Thanksgiving
together this year, and you know, they set a goal to get their
dogs organized so that they could leave them somewhere, and you know, but
then they haven't really done that. And then my niece went out of the
country and so she's doing an internship away from home, so she's not going
to be around. And then I was going to have to work Friday,
Saturday, Sunday like all this stuff. And my husband's like, well,
you know, he really wanted to go somewhere and do something. And where
we finally landed was we are going to the town where my daughter lives,
the city where my daughter goes to school, and we are getting an airbnb
and staying there and doing Thanksgiving there on Tuesday. And as I said before,
we are bringing the dogs. And so for the kids, I mean
my son, he's whatever because he's going to be coming home and possibly seeing
some of his high school friends like the weekends before and after, because he
is the whole week off. But my daughter doesn't, and she has skating
and bloody blah blah. So we're bringing it to her and we'll see,
you know, because it's gonna involve transporting a whole lot of stuff I think
from yeah, and from home stuff live and inert. Yes, exactly,
frozen turkey because he already has do not put the frozen turkey in the same
car as I would separate those two, yes, exactly. And we want
to bring their creak because you know, we want to have that and the
airbnb and right ah, and it's big, you know, it's it's not
a travel crate. It's a crate you keep in the kitchen all the time.
And they both fit in it. So anyway, yeah, nothing's ever
easy, So then we need someone to vent about it. That was some
good venting, that's right. This Illustrates in let's see four years ago in
twenty nineteen. Oh yeah, talked about who's your vent buddy? And I
think, all things considered, my vent buddy is all of you listeners.
Yep. I just come on here and I vent about something and leave it
there and then I feel better. Yeah, and then I edit it and
I listened to it again and I say, yeah, that's and then I
listened to it again on my podcast player and I go, you know what,
maybe I should calm down. It's a whole. It's a cycle,
it's a it's a lets the steam right out. That's right. It's a
sequence that you have to go through. And when you get through it,
you know, all our listeners reel and a madeary human and bought thank you,
that's right, thank you for giving me the illusion of having shared my
problems with people. You'll, aren't you, Gavin? I am real,
by I am really. I think you are not a robot, that's right.
Not a girl, always say with a bicycle in it, Yeah that's
right. Janet would say, I'm not a girl. I'm not a robot.
I'm not a girl. Yeah. I mean, I think it is
important to have a event buddy, I'm not entirely sure mine is if it's
If it's not you and the listeners, then I'm not sure. So well,
it's nice because there are very few real world repercussions when you vent to
the listeners because nobody I know listens, right, And if you do,
please don't tell me because that'll be embarrassed. I'll never talk about anything.
But I mean I had to also do have a friend that I vent to,
and I was trying to think who my kids vent buddies are. And
we pay for my daughter to have event buddy, We pay to go event,
so that works out, okay. And then I think my son has
imaginary event buddies because I hear him. He'll come home and then I'll go
in his room and we'll be talking up a storm and I press my ear
against the door sometime to try to figure it out, because it's like,
are you talking over something that happened with your imaginary friend? But you know,
whatever works for you, important thing is to get it out. That's
right, you're talking about your mom. Don't do it too lot because I
don't want to know, right, I don't need to hear that. Yeah,
everything else I want to hear but right, well, yeah, during
the era of zoom therapy, I had to keep saying, you have to
close the door, you have your zoom therapy because if I can hear it,
I'm going to come in and tell my son that. Yeah exactly,
I think she used to go send her car. Yeah, I mean that's
but you know, you can't not listen if somebody is talking loudly no,
and you kind of want to listen, and then there's a problem. Right,
I didn't say that, right, Let me go tell her aye yah
yai. Yes, Well, I guess we' vented enough for one day.
Huh. Yes, I think we have, So we'll say that's it for
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