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Helping leaders motivate their people to a
higher level of performance through strong human relations,

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team building, and goal of giving. This is the seven Minute Leadership

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Podcast with your host Paul fella Aldo. Hello everyone, and welcome to the

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Seven Minute Leadership Podcast, Episode one
eighty and it's time to say farewell to

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self sabotage. You know, in
our journey through life, I think one

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of the biggest hurdles we face is
our own self sabotaging behavior. Self sabotage

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comes in many different forms, such
as procrastination, negative self talk, fear

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of failure, or even a lack
of self belief, many of the things

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that we talk about on this show. And the danger with all of that

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is these patterns can hinder your own
personal growth, may relationships messy, and

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prevent us from reaching our full potential. So I think that if you have

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good self awareness, determination and effective
strategies, you can get rid of self

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sabotage and get on the path of
positive change. So the first step in

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saying goodbye to self sabotage is to
become acutely aware of the patterns and behaviors

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that hold us back. Take time
to reflect on situations where you've undermined your

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own progress or sabotaged your own goals. Identify the common themes, the triggers,

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and the negative thought patterns that contribute
to self sabotage, because if you

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can recognize these patterns, you can
gain power over them and pave the way

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for change. Self sabotaging behavior often
arises from deep rooted beliefs of unworthiness and

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self criticism. Embracing self compassion is
another crucial aspect of letting go of self

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sabotage. Treat yourself with kindness and
understanding, acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes in

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experiences setbacks. You have to practice
self care and engage in activities that bring

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you joy and happiness, and surround
yourself with a supportive network. Remember you

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deserve success and happiness just as much
as anyone else. Negative self talk can

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also be a significant contributor to self
sabotage. You have to replace self critical

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thoughts with positive affirmations and empowering beliefs. Challenge the validity of negative beliefs by

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questioning their evidence in considering alternative perspectives, and create a mindset for yourself that

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embraces growth, learning and resilience and
each time negative self talk happens, consciously

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replace it with positive of encouraging thoughts. And let's not forget that setting realistic

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and achievable goals is essential and overcoming
self sabotage. You have to break down

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larger goals into smaller, more manageable
tasks because this approach allows you to experience

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incremental progress in boosts your motivation.
Celebrate each small victory along the way,

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reinforcing a sense of accomplishment and self
belief. And when you can set achievable

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goals, you will build confidence and
reduce the likelihood of self sabotage. And

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you must surround yourself with individuals who
uplift and support your journey towards personal growth.

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Seek out the friends, mentors,
or coaches who can provide guidance,

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encouragement, and accountability. Share your
goals and aspirations with them and allow them

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to keep you on track. And
challenge any self sabotaging tendencies that you may

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have because the supportive environment can make
a significant difference in your success, and

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fear of failure often fuels self sabotaging
behavior. Failure is an inevitable part of

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life and a valuable opportunity for growth. You have to shift your perspective on

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failure. You have to see it
as a stepping stone towards success rather than

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a reflection of your worth. And
I always say this, I can deal

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with failure, I can't deal with
incompetence. The key is to learn from

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your failures, pull out the lessons
and adjust your approach moving forward, because

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by embracing failure as a learning experience, it will empower you to move forward

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and overcome self sabotage. Saying goodbye
to self sabotage requires a commitment to personal

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growth, self awareness, and self
compassion. If I recognize using the patterns,

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challenging negative thoughts, setting achievable goals, creating a support environment, and

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embracing failure, you can break free
from self sabotaging behaviors and create a life

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filled with purpose, success, and
fulfillment. Remember, change takes time,

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effort, and patience, but with
each step forward, you'll be one step

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closer to bidding farewell to self sabotage
and embracing a brighter future. This has

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been the seven Minute Leadership Podcast and
I thank you for listening. For more

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Paul Fellovaledo podcasts visit Paul fellovaledo dot
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