WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:11.199 This is Pod Popular Podcast for the People, The Great Love Debate. It's 2 00:00:11.199 --> 00:00:17.640 the Great Love Debate, the Great Love Debate. It's a Great Love Debate. 3 00:00:18.039 --> 00:00:22.199 Hi again everyone, It's Brian Howie. Welcome to the Great Love Debate, 4 00:00:22.239 --> 00:00:26.239 the world's number one dating and relationship podcast since twenty fifteen. I am 5 00:00:26.280 --> 00:00:31.480 back here in the very fine studios of Pod Popular Podcast for the People. 6 00:00:31.640 --> 00:00:34.719 I am at the one in Scottsdale, Arizona. It is getting to be 7 00:00:34.759 --> 00:00:40.600 the full Scott's Dazzle season out here. So if you got the time, 8 00:00:41.439 --> 00:00:45.759 head on out to the desert, and it is the time pretty soon where 9 00:00:45.799 --> 00:00:50.799 we are doing once again, probably are our two most popular episodes we do 10 00:00:50.840 --> 00:00:55.679 any year, Our best and worst cities in America in which to find love. 11 00:00:55.719 --> 00:00:59.960 We do this every year. We've done this. I was gonna say, 12 00:01:00.039 --> 00:01:03.640 since twenty fifteen, nine eight years in a row, we're about to 13 00:01:03.679 --> 00:01:07.799 do both, just to be fair and to be honest about it. For 14 00:01:07.239 --> 00:01:10.920 most of the first eight years of every time we did it, I did 15 00:01:10.920 --> 00:01:15.959 the show. I did those shows based on my own information from traveling around 16 00:01:15.000 --> 00:01:19.879 and visiting so many cities because of our tour, so I felt I really 17 00:01:19.879 --> 00:01:22.599 spent some time, I got a lot of input from people in the city. 18 00:01:22.719 --> 00:01:25.319 I did a lot of research, we got a lot of feedback from 19 00:01:25.359 --> 00:01:27.079 you guys. So before we came up with the top ten best of the 20 00:01:27.079 --> 00:01:30.280 top ten ten worst, I really immersed myself in the muck. And I 21 00:01:30.319 --> 00:01:34.680 was able to do that because I was on the road doing so many shows 22 00:01:34.680 --> 00:01:38.239 in so many cities around the country and around the world as part of our 23 00:01:38.280 --> 00:01:42.519 tour. To be fair, I did not do as many live shows in 24 00:01:42.560 --> 00:01:47.640 twenty twenty three as I normally have done, or even a couple of years 25 00:01:47.640 --> 00:01:51.959 before that, because the world shut down and blah blah blah. So we 26 00:01:52.000 --> 00:01:56.840 are going to open it up once again to suggestions, recommendations, and nominations 27 00:01:56.959 --> 00:02:00.680 from you guys. So, if you feel the city you live in, 28 00:02:00.519 --> 00:02:06.159 or have moved from, or have visited, is it candidate for either the 29 00:02:06.200 --> 00:02:10.960 best or the worst city in America to Find Love for twenty twenty four, 30 00:02:12.319 --> 00:02:15.039 shoot us an email Great Love Debate at gmail dot com. Put in the 31 00:02:15.080 --> 00:02:19.280 subject line best city or worst City. We should be able to tell by 32 00:02:19.280 --> 00:02:22.080 what you're writing, but we will be surprised because some people send them like 33 00:02:22.080 --> 00:02:23.599 wait, is that a good thing? Or is that a bad thing. 34 00:02:23.000 --> 00:02:28.080 We will take all your nominees and we will get the lists out in the 35 00:02:28.080 --> 00:02:30.319 weeks ahead. We're always excited about do that. To do that, we 36 00:02:30.319 --> 00:02:32.719 always get a ton of buzz. The media always picks it up and runs 37 00:02:32.759 --> 00:02:36.879 with it, like the Great Love Debate says Pittsburgh's the best, and it 38 00:02:36.960 --> 00:02:39.039 is. But I'm not going to influence you. I'm not going to influence 39 00:02:39.039 --> 00:02:44.599 the jury. So give me your candidates, your nominations, your submissions for 40 00:02:44.680 --> 00:02:50.479 the best or the worst cities to fine Love for twenty twenty four, and 41 00:02:50.520 --> 00:02:54.280 we will be rolling out that list shortly. I wanted to talk a little 42 00:02:54.280 --> 00:02:59.599 bit today about communication, which I know we always talk about that on this 43 00:02:59.639 --> 00:03:04.960 podcast. We've said since the day we started that the keys do everything when 44 00:03:04.960 --> 00:03:10.039 it comes to love dating relationships are confidence and communication. And some of you 45 00:03:10.159 --> 00:03:13.520 are like, wait, you said a few weeks ago that the keys were 46 00:03:13.560 --> 00:03:16.639 passionate and curiosity. Yes, I stand by those, but in order to 47 00:03:16.639 --> 00:03:23.960 find those and get results from them, confidence and communication are what really drives 48 00:03:23.000 --> 00:03:30.800 the engine and what really needs to be worked on. So confidence, the 49 00:03:30.879 --> 00:03:34.400 lack thereof, or building upon that, I think we've dealt with quite a 50 00:03:34.439 --> 00:03:39.680 bit this year. We've had specialists on to talk about mental health and physical 51 00:03:39.719 --> 00:03:44.360 fitness and emotional growth, all of that, and I think they are all 52 00:03:44.360 --> 00:03:50.680 great episodes and it's great information. But the communication part, we all struggle 53 00:03:50.759 --> 00:03:54.400 with that, and I am and have been one of the worst people you 54 00:03:54.400 --> 00:04:00.639 can possibly imagine when it comes to that, as a and as a boyfriend 55 00:04:00.680 --> 00:04:09.039 and as a member of society at communicating anything but mostly the right thing, 56 00:04:09.280 --> 00:04:13.759 in the right way at the right time. I'm always surprised that I can 57 00:04:14.120 --> 00:04:20.519 pump out these episodes of this podcast relatively eloquently and clearly, considering how often 58 00:04:20.560 --> 00:04:24.720 I have such trouble one on one. But that's a different show for a 59 00:04:24.720 --> 00:04:29.120 different day. And people have said that to me that I probably communicate better 60 00:04:29.199 --> 00:04:31.480 on my show than I do in real life. So if you want to 61 00:04:31.519 --> 00:04:35.480 have a quality, a meaningful interaction with me, listen to the show, 62 00:04:36.079 --> 00:04:41.959 come on the podcast, or shoot me an email about it, and I'm 63 00:04:42.079 --> 00:04:46.480 great. I think I'm great relatively now. On the basics, the please, 64 00:04:46.000 --> 00:04:51.319 thank you, you're welcome, I'm sorry, I love you, things 65 00:04:51.360 --> 00:05:00.399 all very important, extremely so, But the layers of my thoughts and the 66 00:05:00.519 --> 00:05:03.439 nuance of what I'm trying to express and the poetry between the lines that is 67 00:05:03.519 --> 00:05:12.240 often missing either in what I say or how I say it or how we 68 00:05:12.279 --> 00:05:16.000 say it. So why do I bring this up today? So somebody emailed 69 00:05:16.040 --> 00:05:21.800 me Tara from Arlington, Texas. Was the name thank you Tara, a 70 00:05:21.839 --> 00:05:26.319 thingy, a picture with a meme, a little picture with the words on 71 00:05:26.360 --> 00:05:30.000 it, and she said do you agree with this? And it's said, 72 00:05:30.480 --> 00:05:38.759 shutting down instead of communicating is just as toxic as arguing. Shutting down instead 73 00:05:38.759 --> 00:05:43.279 of communicating is just as toxic as arguing. And you're probably like, no 74 00:05:43.399 --> 00:05:46.560 shit, simple concept. Of course it's bad. But but I think why 75 00:05:46.600 --> 00:05:48.560 that resonated with me so much and why I wanted to talk about it today 76 00:05:49.680 --> 00:05:57.920 is the word toxic, Because who would have thought not saying something adds toxicity? 77 00:05:57.959 --> 00:06:04.240 And toxicity in a relationship is such an important element and such a destructive 78 00:06:04.240 --> 00:06:11.079 one. So getting back to the shutting down part, that was my go 79 00:06:11.160 --> 00:06:13.720 to technique. I think that was the technique I used way, way, 80 00:06:13.759 --> 00:06:17.759 way too often. I was like, if they can see that I'm mad, 81 00:06:19.040 --> 00:06:23.240 then they will try and figure out why, and then they'll realize that 82 00:06:23.279 --> 00:06:26.720 they made me mad, and either they'll fix it or apologize for it, 83 00:06:26.759 --> 00:06:32.279 and then I will be right. So the shutting down and the going silent 84 00:06:32.480 --> 00:06:39.800 was about being right, which never should be the point in any conversation or 85 00:06:39.839 --> 00:06:45.399 any relationship. It's not a game show. So a couple episodes ago, 86 00:06:45.399 --> 00:06:50.279 I talked about the importance of being heard and hearing the other person. But 87 00:06:50.360 --> 00:06:55.279 you can't do that if you weren't saying anything and there's no dialogue, or 88 00:06:55.319 --> 00:07:00.720 if you're making them guess, or you're just completely shutting off the communication beyond 89 00:07:01.800 --> 00:07:08.360 just having angry body language and scows silent treatment. So that's what I want 90 00:07:08.360 --> 00:07:14.000 to talk about. How we do that, why we do it, and 91 00:07:14.000 --> 00:07:15.959 what we can do about all of it. So I got to take a 92 00:07:15.040 --> 00:07:19.519 quick break so our sponsors can communicate to you, and we will be right 93 00:07:19.560 --> 00:07:28.120 back right after this, and we are back. So, as I have 94 00:07:28.279 --> 00:07:32.480 said ad infinitum on this show, I'm not giving you advice. I'm giving 95 00:07:32.560 --> 00:07:39.040 you my opinion. And my opinion is just my own on what has or 96 00:07:39.040 --> 00:07:43.199 hasn't worked for me. But it is what we have heard over and over 97 00:07:43.279 --> 00:07:46.399 and over from so many people, and just by that very fact that we 98 00:07:46.439 --> 00:07:50.040 have done so many shows live around the world and have heard from the largest 99 00:07:50.040 --> 00:07:56.439 pool of people on this stuff, then honestly anybody ever. I think that 100 00:07:56.639 --> 00:08:01.680 this opinion is rooted in some things that you pretty much is accurate. Like, 101 00:08:01.800 --> 00:08:05.480 I think I know what I'm talking about on this, and some of 102 00:08:05.680 --> 00:08:09.240 these things are pretty much common sense. If you don't say anything, how 103 00:08:09.240 --> 00:08:18.160 are they to know? But knowing when matters too. I know there's two 104 00:08:18.199 --> 00:08:22.680 schools of thoughts on never go to bed mad, which I didn't know before 105 00:08:22.720 --> 00:08:24.519 I started doing the show. I'm like, oh, there's two schools of 106 00:08:24.560 --> 00:08:26.759 thought. I thought the old adage never go to bed mad was a real 107 00:08:26.800 --> 00:08:30.000 thing. But there are those who feel that you should work things out in 108 00:08:30.040 --> 00:08:33.559 a moment so it doesn't carry over to the next day. And I see 109 00:08:33.600 --> 00:08:37.440 the point of that, and those who say, when you are tired and 110 00:08:37.559 --> 00:08:41.000 upset and emotional, maybe a good night's sleep is what you need most to 111 00:08:41.120 --> 00:08:46.480 calm and reflect and hopefully resolve. And I think that second school of thought 112 00:08:46.519 --> 00:08:52.120 is gaining more traction. Maybe you should go to bed mad. It's how 113 00:08:52.159 --> 00:08:54.159 you wake up, because it only has purpose and value if you get up 114 00:08:54.200 --> 00:08:58.879 the next morning and say, can we talk and not in a way that 115 00:09:00.080 --> 00:09:03.120 picks right back up at that angry point you left off at. It's more 116 00:09:03.159 --> 00:09:07.720 like, I've had some time to think and there are a few things that 117 00:09:07.759 --> 00:09:09.000 I want to share to see if we can come together on this thing that 118 00:09:09.039 --> 00:09:13.240 has brought us apart. And I know it's not easy to say it like 119 00:09:13.320 --> 00:09:18.039 that in a moment when you're pissed or whatever, but that word share is 120 00:09:18.080 --> 00:09:22.279 in that sentence. Share to see if we can come together shares a key 121 00:09:22.360 --> 00:09:30.720 to all of this communication when done right and with a positive purpose. Communication 122 00:09:30.840 --> 00:09:37.720 is all about sharing thoughts, words, ideas, opinions, and yeah, 123 00:09:37.759 --> 00:09:43.320 emotions, share emotions. So shutting all those things down tells the other person, 124 00:09:43.720 --> 00:09:46.679 I do not care enough about you to try to get to the other 125 00:09:46.759 --> 00:09:56.840 side of this issue. Our conflict, our conflict, both of us disagreement, 126 00:09:58.960 --> 00:10:03.000 our breakdown. So you have to get to a place emotionally, maybe 127 00:10:03.080 --> 00:10:11.600 after a night's sleep where you can speak calmly. But if you get past 128 00:10:11.639 --> 00:10:16.440 that night's sleep and you're not speaking calmly, you can let a night turn 129 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:22.960 into a day, turn into a week, turn into the end. Do 130 00:10:22.000 --> 00:10:28.639 you have to at some point summon the strength and the words and the calmness 131 00:10:28.679 --> 00:10:31.480 to address the elephant in the room. Because it is there. It's not 132 00:10:31.519 --> 00:10:37.799 going to go away. You have to say something. Can we talk? 133 00:10:37.879 --> 00:10:41.240 Those are some of the scariest three words another person can hear, because they're 134 00:10:41.240 --> 00:10:48.120 almost never followed by anything good. But if you softened it a little, 135 00:10:48.159 --> 00:10:52.720 or if you said something like, hey, I'd love an opportunity to hear 136 00:10:52.720 --> 00:10:56.080 each other out about what we were talking about last night or about what happened. 137 00:10:56.480 --> 00:11:01.039 I think that's a little gentler. And no matter how furious you are 138 00:11:01.080 --> 00:11:05.559 at the other person, if you care to talk and it means enough to 139 00:11:05.559 --> 00:11:11.360 you that you want to say something about it, you must care about something 140 00:11:11.840 --> 00:11:18.440 some elements of it, and hopefully them and what you guys have. But 141 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:22.399 this isn't just to use for bad things, because it's not just about that. 142 00:11:22.480 --> 00:11:28.759 Sometimes silence comes from a place of positivity, but that can also bring 143 00:11:28.799 --> 00:11:35.159 in toxic elements like doubt and fear and resentment, because the silence is about 144 00:11:35.200 --> 00:11:39.279 what is not being said and what is not being heard. So what do 145 00:11:39.320 --> 00:11:43.960 I mean by that? Well, of course they know I appreciate them, 146 00:11:45.279 --> 00:11:48.600 do they We've been together seven years? Why would I be doing this with 147 00:11:48.679 --> 00:11:52.039 you? If I didn't love you. You know, lots of people think 148 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:56.919 the actions speak louder than the words, another old adage, and I'm like, 149 00:11:58.039 --> 00:12:01.399 well, not always. Sometimes we absolutely need to say and hear the 150 00:12:01.399 --> 00:12:09.120 words, lots of words, because you know, communicating with positivity and with 151 00:12:09.240 --> 00:12:16.480 purpose, they need to hear it. You need to say it, and 152 00:12:16.519 --> 00:12:22.399 you need to feel it, both of you. So somebody says, what 153 00:12:22.440 --> 00:12:26.720 do you want to do today? That's a normal question that you know two 154 00:12:26.720 --> 00:12:30.200 people ask, probably when they're in a relationship. Certainly a nice thing to 155 00:12:30.240 --> 00:12:33.879 ask because it means you want to respect their wishes and their opinion on the 156 00:12:33.879 --> 00:12:41.399 subject matter, what do you want to do today? But their answer is 157 00:12:41.440 --> 00:12:45.559 way more effective if the answer isn't I don't know, Maybe see a movie, 158 00:12:46.360 --> 00:12:50.480 I don't know, you want to get some food. I think the 159 00:12:50.519 --> 00:12:52.720 answer is way better if it's I don't care. I just want to be 160 00:12:52.840 --> 00:12:58.120 with you. I mean, how many times have any of us heard that? 161 00:12:58.320 --> 00:13:03.360 Not that many? Right, But it's awesome if you do, because 162 00:13:03.360 --> 00:13:05.080 then the two of you, together, through this question and this answer, 163 00:13:05.320 --> 00:13:13.559 you've established the desire to be together, to share time and moments and whatever 164 00:13:13.639 --> 00:13:18.080 you are doing. The act is secondary to the fact that you are doing 165 00:13:18.120 --> 00:13:22.600 it with them, then you can get into the war what how Sometimes and 166 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:26.919 hopefully you're just sitting next somebody in a movie theater and you're just like, 167 00:13:26.080 --> 00:13:30.399 I love the fact that I'm just sitting here with them. I can't even 168 00:13:30.399 --> 00:13:33.519 pay attention to the movie. I like the time we're spending together, or 169 00:13:33.559 --> 00:13:35.120 a meal that you're sharing. You don't even remember what you're eating or why 170 00:13:35.759 --> 00:13:43.320 this is it that matters? I want to do it with you? And 171 00:13:43.480 --> 00:13:50.559 isn't that great use of words in communication and something that will never come out 172 00:13:50.600 --> 00:13:54.960 of silence. They won't you think they know? They don't know because you 173 00:13:56.000 --> 00:14:00.960 don't have to be extraordinarily eloquent or a master of languge is to express that 174 00:14:01.960 --> 00:14:05.360 by saying that the person is more important than the activity, saying it out 175 00:14:05.399 --> 00:14:13.399 loud, often clearly, honestly, passionately. I can tell you that all 176 00:14:13.399 --> 00:14:18.679 the fancy dinner menus in the world they can't replace the effect that it will 177 00:14:18.720 --> 00:14:24.840 have on you and them and the relationship. And when you know a lot 178 00:14:24.840 --> 00:14:26.440 of people are going to counter when I bring this stuff up and say I 179 00:14:26.480 --> 00:14:31.159 shouldn't have to say it. They should know if they are paying attention and 180 00:14:31.200 --> 00:14:33.440 to that, I say, what, Like, what are they paying attention 181 00:14:33.480 --> 00:14:39.159 to? If people quote unquote knew what you were thinking and feeling in silence, 182 00:14:39.360 --> 00:14:43.519 probably seventy percent of our conflicts wouldn't even exist. We never know, 183 00:14:45.600 --> 00:14:50.639 especially the guys. A lot of times the women, even when they are 184 00:14:50.679 --> 00:14:54.559 communicating, they're communicating at a level that only dogs can hear. So communicating 185 00:14:54.559 --> 00:15:01.919 in silence, it's probably never going to be effective. We always need to 186 00:15:01.960 --> 00:15:05.840 hear it, we always need to say it, and I think it always 187 00:15:05.919 --> 00:15:11.279 has value and I don't want to hear that. Well. If he says 188 00:15:11.279 --> 00:15:13.759 it every day, it becomes white noise and gets deluded and it has no 189 00:15:13.879 --> 00:15:16.639 value. I want him to say I love you when he really means it. 190 00:15:16.120 --> 00:15:20.159 Trust me, if he says it every day, he means it every 191 00:15:20.240 --> 00:15:24.440 day because you remembered to say it and he felt to say it and he 192 00:15:24.480 --> 00:15:26.440 thought to say it. Not a quick love you I hear a lot one. 193 00:15:26.480 --> 00:15:31.360 I think couples are in trouble when somebody says love you before hanging up 194 00:15:31.399 --> 00:15:35.799 the phone and they leave out the eye. It's always a red flag to 195 00:15:35.840 --> 00:15:37.759 me, Okay, love you. I want to hear I love you. 196 00:15:39.039 --> 00:15:43.919 I want to hear the eye me totally means something and it totally matters. 197 00:15:46.039 --> 00:15:50.519 You should never get tired of hearing him say you're beautiful, and you should 198 00:15:50.559 --> 00:15:56.440 never get tired of her saying you're special or important, or that there are 199 00:15:56.480 --> 00:16:03.679 grateful or happy, or that they matter, because if you don't say things, 200 00:16:03.440 --> 00:16:11.039 then they don't matter enough. That's what you not saying something really says. 201 00:16:11.600 --> 00:16:15.399 And we all at the end of the day, absolutely want to matter 202 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:22.480 in the world, to that person and in the relationship, because trust me, 203 00:16:22.559 --> 00:16:26.600 the easiest part of the relationship should be saying the basic things that support 204 00:16:26.639 --> 00:16:32.759 the most difficult conversations. It's a lot easier to have a conversation with your 205 00:16:32.759 --> 00:16:37.480 wife about refinancing the house or switching jobs, or figuring out what to do 206 00:16:37.519 --> 00:16:41.240 with your kid who's not doing well in school. It's a lot easier to 207 00:16:41.279 --> 00:16:45.519 say all this, to have those conversations if there's a foundation of communicating the 208 00:16:45.600 --> 00:16:52.080 daily basics. I'm sorry I acted that way. I'm sorry I didn't see 209 00:16:52.279 --> 00:16:56.080 your perspective. Thank you for picking up the package for me. I love 210 00:16:56.120 --> 00:17:00.559 the way you looked last night. If we can't say those things, we're 211 00:17:00.559 --> 00:17:07.079 in big trouble. But if we can say these things and we make a 212 00:17:07.119 --> 00:17:10.599 point to do things and not only just remember to say it, but becomes 213 00:17:10.640 --> 00:17:15.319 a part of your routine, everything becomes easier and anything can be better. 214 00:17:17.400 --> 00:17:22.039 So what do you think? That's my opinion. Now, there's always a 215 00:17:22.039 --> 00:17:29.039 caveat to that right turning point. Sometimes things are better left Une said, 216 00:17:29.319 --> 00:17:32.799 you should dial back one more. Fuck you, just dial that back, 217 00:17:32.960 --> 00:17:36.640 just throw that one at Sometimes you're better off not sending that email or that 218 00:17:36.759 --> 00:17:40.759 text or trying to get the next word because you want to be the last 219 00:17:40.759 --> 00:17:44.960 word. Like there is some value in that. Sometimes silence is golden and 220 00:17:45.000 --> 00:17:47.559 there's an adage that has a purpose, And I get all of that, 221 00:17:47.640 --> 00:17:52.960 But that is for a moment, but after a breath, once you calm 222 00:17:53.039 --> 00:17:59.400 down, not for weeks and not forever, just until you take a mental 223 00:17:59.400 --> 00:18:07.400 inventory for a second to think, does this person or this situation merit any 224 00:18:07.559 --> 00:18:11.759 ounce of my time or feelings to try to just not just work it out, 225 00:18:11.799 --> 00:18:21.319 but just work through it our differences, this situation, these issues. 226 00:18:22.200 --> 00:18:27.079 I'm not sure I do enough of that in professional situations. Not people who 227 00:18:27.160 --> 00:18:33.119 work with me or work for me and certainly not on this podcast. Somebody 228 00:18:33.119 --> 00:18:36.799 came up to me, not just somebody, her name is Nicole, and 229 00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:40.039 I should honor that, and I need to say that out loud. Nicole 230 00:18:40.279 --> 00:18:45.880 recently in person and said she has listened to the show for five years. 231 00:18:47.000 --> 00:18:48.920 And I was flattered. But there was this part of me embarrassed to hear 232 00:18:49.000 --> 00:18:56.400 that. But no part of me is anything but grateful, extremely grateful, 233 00:18:56.400 --> 00:18:59.799 and I probably didn't express that in the moment well enough, you know, 234 00:19:00.039 --> 00:19:03.039 I let like, oh what do I do with this information? Overwhelm the 235 00:19:03.039 --> 00:19:07.400 fact that I was extremely grateful. 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