You're listening to KFI on demand. Father's Day. I think throughout television and
all of these things, the primary focus on fathers has always been discipline.
It seems the concept of wait till your father gets home has found its way
throughout culture and throughout the minds of children everywhere. The worry and the concern
that comes with that statement. And it's not that parents as partners don't look
toward one another to raise a child and to give discipline. Oftentimes the woman
in a relationship will be the disciplinarian. So it's not so much about you
know who gives discipline, but it's about understanding the power of what you have
in your hands when you're a parent. In this case being Father's Day,
we focus on the father's weight of that equation, and that concept that the
father is only there for discipline or force or some sort of imagery of the
cracking of the belt is not a true image of what Scripture sets forth.
Psalm one of three thirteen says, just as a father has compassion on his
children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him. Of course,
fear is a legitimate thing when it comes to the father. Both in
deep reverence and the unknowing of the power of God. But what an interesting
way of putting it talking about the compassion of a father, not the power,
not just the discipline, but the compassion every human being. Every human
being is born a motor. Just go, go go. They are designed
to learn. You are designed to consume information, to grow and strengthen in
both physicality and mental acuity, taking on every bit of information you can.
That's a motor starts revved up and continues throughout life trying to take in as
much information and understanding as possible. What humans aren't born with initially is a
rudder. The rudder is your environment. The rudder is your family, your
friends, your faith, your worldview, that which guides you. But the
first, the very first rudders in your life, or your parents, your
guardians, the people that are raising you. And I know that it seems
many people go into raising a child with the attitude that they're programming the child.
You're not programming a child. What you're doing is guiding a child.
And I love this first for that reason. Psalm one of three thirteen.
As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on
those who fear him. That that idea of showing compassion towards a child understanding
that they're a motor and you're just the rudder. You're not there to program
them to be a little you or program them to be what you want them
to be. You're guiding them to make sure that that motor instinct, that
desire to move forward, be curious about everything, to to when their small
children wanting to see if they can jump off the highest piece of furniture in
the house. What you don't want to do is program them not to want
to jump. Would that have the same results, Sure, it would keep
them safe, But to program them not to want to jump is to is
to track the very nature that God put into them at birth, the desire
to explore, to test their bodies, their minds, their ideas. And
that's where guidance comes in. It's not shutting down the motor. It's not
programming them not to be human explorers or any of these things. It's to
explain. It's to engage, to show compassion and show the child yet that
yes, it's a great thing to have curiosity. It's the it's a great
thing to have an explorer's heart. It's a great thing to want to test
and push your bodies. However, in the setting that we have here,
with glass windows and tile floors and all of these things, probably not the
best way to test yourself in this moment. So let's figure out a way
where we can test those things safely. I think the desire is always to
squelch, squelch, and that word programming to program a child, even with
faith, I see it the desire to program them in faith. And you're
not programming a child in faith. You're being an example like you should with
everything. You are the one they're learning from. If you live a certain
way, that's going to be their desire is to grow in that way.
If you walked around the house on all fours and the child had no other
idea of walking, they'd walk around in all fours, even though their body
had the desire to stand up. So the things that you do matter,
and if you show by example, if you live in a way that they
can first mimic. Keep in mind, the lowest form of learning in any
situation is memorization. That's the lowest form of learning, and you're just memorizing
something. So that's why you have children The first things they do is memorize
the alphabet, memorize counting. But then comes the power of understanding what one
means and what two means. It's the power of combining those numbers to see
the first steps of mathematics, or that A, B and C, that
those letters have sounds that are associated with them, that it's part of what
they they speak and they say, and then they learn to write. So
you see that that lowest form is memorization, and that's the first tool children
will use, is memorizing the things that you do. Just like a father
showing compassion to the children, they will learn compassion. Father's Day fatherhood.
That idea of just being a disciplinarian or just being the heavy hand in the
family is not the whole picture by any stretch. In scripture, we've talked
about many different attributes of fatherhood. And although it parenting is a collaboration in
its best circumstance, there are many people that are going about it alone.
And I realize that, and we honor you with your dedication and your love
and your consistency under those circumstances. But of course, it being Father's Day,
we look at the father's role in the relationship of raising a child.
And and as I said, all humans are born motors. They're just they
come out wanting to go and learn and consume life and grow and strengthen.
And the best you can be is not someone who programs them. They don't
need to be programmed, not even with their faith. You need to trust
God, you need to be a great example. But you don't need to
program or force a child. You guide them. And oftentimes the concept of
a father is just seen as that disciplinarian. And we talked a little bit
about Psalm one of three thirteen where it talks about a father having compassion.
First, Thessalonians two eleven and twelve says, for you know how, like
a father with his children, we exhort each other one of you and encourage
you and charge you to walk in the manner worthy of God, who calls
you into his own kingdom glory. So, like a father with his children,
we exhorted each one of you and encouraged you and charged you. So
you pull us apart. And it shows that a father should exhort, should
encourage and charge. Here could be challenge to be that person allinge give them
obstacles that will help them grow. Be that rudder to their motor to help
guide them into areas to use their gifts and abilities. I see this so
often parents, whether it be the mother or father, trying to squelch their
natural desires. And it's not about squelching them, it's about guiding them.
If they have a lot of energy, and your desire as a parent shouldn't
be just to squelch that energy, It should be guiding that energy to a
place of productivity. Keep that in mind. And I can't say that enough
this morning, that your job is to be a guide. Be the rudder
to their motor. Don't try and program into them into something that's comfortable with
you or easy for you, or that mirrors you. Be that rudder to
guide who they are in the things of God and the things of life.
Be that example so that they may see it every single day. Daniel,
Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. Hey, good morning. Hi. How
can I help you? Daniel? Yeah, I had a couple of questions
for you. My first question would it be what is the Kingdom of God?
And what does it really mean to follow Jesus Christ and be righteous under
his name? Okay, it great questions. By the way, the Kingdom
of God is seeing and used for different things. One and first and foremost,
it's the dwelling place of God. The Kingdom of God is Heaven,
but there is also a part that is very important on earth. So you've
got Matthew forty one twenty one referring to the Kingdom of Christ and God.
Mark eleven ten refers to the Kingdom, Matthew three, Matthew four, Matthew
eight, Matthew thirteen and beyond refer to the Kingdom of Heaven and the verbiage
the words change slightly in what's used. That is translated into the Kingdom of
God, but you have to think of it first. Yes, yes,
that's heaven. However, it's also about Christ's rule on Earth. It's also
about the blessings and advantages that come from living a life under the will of
God on earth Earth. It also talks a Kingdom of God is also the
people in the kingdom. The believers, people that have given their life over
to God are part of the Kingdom of God on earth. So it means
many things in the context of which it's being used in scripture or your life.
Okay, um, thank you, UM, I have UM another question,
sure, UM, I have a I have a son right now,
UM, and you know, UM, I also have his mother and basically,
UH, I want to know how I'm able to UM, basically fix
my situation with his mother. UM. You know, to to to form
the family and and and in in the environment. You know that that that
my son to be able to guide him. Probably, Well, what is
It's a that's a very loaded question, Daniel, and a good one,
but very loaded. So what's the situation with UM your son? And how
old is your son? A year and six months? Oh? Well,
bless you Happy Father's Day. That is it's a major gift. And I
realize there's a burden that comes with that gift, but it's a it's a
loving burden to be trusted by God to raise a child. And the mother.
Are you guys married? No? Okay? And how long have you
been together? Um? Mn for like two years? Okay, okay,
So it was a pretty quick relationship and that produced a child. So what
is your concern with the mother? UM? Basically that UM, Now we
don't we don't cooperate with each other in terms of really learning UM from our
Lord to be able to, you know, set a foundation and um um
with our family and the Jesus Christ to be able to move forward in um
and just um behave in a peaceful manner. Yeah, it's tough because the
relationship is built on stress of a new life coming in quickly and there wasn't
the foundation built with one another prior um. But it's not impossible. I
mean, it's not impossible in the slightest And the fact that you're asking the
right questions means you are going in the right direction. Now does she?
Is she a person of faith as well? Well? I would say not,
now okay, And are you newly a person of faith? Yes,
Jesus christis help me with the like with so many things that so many advices
that I can control myself and m and yeah, so I would say,
yeah, I am a person of faith and I'm eager to keep on learning.
I can hear it. I can hear it in your voice, and
I can feel it in your spirit that you're dedicated and you really want this.
And it's not magic. And although you will see things, you will
see scales fall from you and that's part of your growth. It's not magic.
It's that's work that you're putting into it and work that God's putting into
it. And it is also a relationship and learning about yourself and getting yourself
right is a huge part of this and the dedication you put into it may
not be understood or even appreciated in this case by the mother of your son,
but you're going to need to show her because you've presented other ways to
her that she's not a fan of. And now that this change is going
on, people aren't going to trust it just because you learn new words and
things like that. They're gonna have to see actual change in who you are
and what you do. And you need to be a positive force. You
need to be someone who shows up for that child and shows up for her,
making sure she knows that you want to take care of her as the
mother of your child, for one, and to be non confrontational as long
as she's being good to that child. The only time that you would be
confrontational if you thought she was somehow harming the child or not being good to
the child or something like that. But other than that, you have to
find ways to serve her as you would serve that child, and your service
and that heart of a servant is what needs to be seen first. And
as you grow in the Word of God, as you read, as you
learn, as you find yourself a good, solid church where you can be
fed and cared for, you're going to grow. And she's going to see
that, and you're going to be dedicated because she is the heart of God
to that child. She's the one there with that child and loving on that
child and nurturing that child. And so you should see them as similar and
that your job is to do everything you can to bring more peace to her
so that she can help guide that child the best way possible. And so
serving her and showing kindness and dedication to her and that child are going to
be synonymous. It's a lot of growth you're going through. Yeah, UM,
I appreciate, Yeah, answer. I have I have another question.
Sure, UM. I recently got congregated into a church that I'm in.
UM. I don't know if to call her to church or a movement,
um, but um, they they tell me that, UM, that only
their their church is a Kingdom of God, and like leaving that church is
like leaving the Kingdom of God and going back into the world, or or
or like if people don't give money, they start shaming shaming them and um
kind of like judging. Um. Yeah, I'm going to tell you that
concerns me. And any church who says they have a direct line to God
is not good. And you don't need to name them. I have a
good idea who you're talking about. Um, but you need a good,
solid church. And I'm nervous about that, Daniel. That doesn't sound like
a church that I would recommend. Yeah, because um, like, um,
I've been feeling these feelings and they kind of make you feel they kind
of guilt trip you until that's not of God making. Yeah. They they
tell you that, oh you're you're the sheep, and I'm like that shiper
that's trying to pull you back into to the kingdom because you're trying to leave
the church. Um. And if like like when it comes to to missions
and in contributing to missions to plant churches, well to plant, yeah,
they plant, they meet up at now they meet up at a part But
then when when before COVID they will meet up at like the Marriot, I
guess the Marriat hotel. Well, some churches can meet in all kinds of
places. But I'm more concerned about the theology that you're talking about. Yeah,
and they bring out they bring out charts they did another church. They
divide on various groups into um groups called Bible talks, where it's like a
groople like eight to ten people. And then on Sundays they are other groups
guys to get in the region that there are. And when it comes to
the money like they bring out they bring out a chart of the people and
how much money they've been giving and if they're not coming under like the goal
or not. Daniel, I don't like any of that, Daniel. This
is what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna put you on hold and we're going
to talk off the air and we'll talk about that some more. Because I'm
concerned your heart and your spirit. I can feel it is in the right
place. Um, but that is not the church for you. I can
tell you that right now by just the way you've described it, all right,
I would be that you can bring out a second or red to talk
to me, and absolutely it will be high priority. That is worrisome to
me and you when you're a new seed like that. This is the time
you ever see a tree that didn't have a post to guide it and it
leans or it grows crooked. I don't want that right now because I can
hear it in your heart and it's imperative that you get attached to some something
that's going to help you grow. Um, So I will go ahead and
connect with you. I encourage you to be bold and brave, and I
know you hear me say that a lot, but Daniel was a perfect example
of that. And when you have the opportunity or the urge to call and
reach out to someone, not just this show, to get guidance or any
of these things, to take that step, as it can be a difficult
one. So when I say bold and brave, I mean it that there's
many people that have a question and I've been blessed to run into many of
you as listeners and to have conversations and and I've been told by some you
know, I wanted to call, but I was nervous. You are welcome
here with whatever questions thoughts that you have, and everything we do on this
show goes beyond this show. It's about you being a part of other people's
lives. It's about you strengthening and being there for others, not in judgment,
not in all knowingness and say this is the way you need to do
things, or that's the way. It's not about that. It's to help
each other, lift each other up, and to guide each other. And
I hope you learn that from this program. This program is minuscule. It's
a tiny, tiny, tiny drop, even though it's been on for over
two decades. If anything, it's it's to inspire you to do the things
that are important in scripture. That means to connect with each other, to
sharpen each other, like aren't iron, sharpen's iron? To ask the questions
and get answered is not just of the show, but the people that you
trust in your life. So when I say reach out and give me a
call, I mean it. If there's something on your heart, we'll talk
about it. Eight hundred five to zero one five three four. That's eight
hundred five to zero one five three four. To hear Daniel and to know
to hear it in his voice and in his questions. Right now, he's
a baby in Christ. When it talks about in John three sixteen about becoming
born again, I know that can be off putting to some people here born
again. It's like, oh, those born again Christians. Every Christian is
born again, whether you're Catholic or Protestant, you must be begotten from of
and when you are born again into the faith of Christianity to seek God's will,
you start as a baby again. And what's strange is when you're older,
you're like, I'm not a baby. How do I go back to
being a baby? But a babe in Christ is somebody who is young and
learning. And who you learn under and who you are taught by is important.
I hope you learn from this program. I hope you gain things from
this program. But it's three hours on a Sunday. You have a lot
of life in between that. And you need a good church. You need
structure. You need a community that you can connect with and that love you
and don't judge you, and don't fleece you, but look to water you
and help you grow in the knowledge and the power and the understanding of Christ.
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