This It's the two seventeen Recovery Podcast with Corey Winfield. Stuff went numb.
That shouldn't go numb, you know what I'm saying. I was like,
what is it? No, I don't, No, you don't. And
co host Marnie Winfield, it was kind of an awkward thing. He's like,
would you guys want come along? Can you get away to come to
the island. I'm like, yeah, you just got back from there.
It is the fifth of August twenty twenty three. My name's Correy Winfield.
My name's Marnie Winfield. This is the two seventeen Recovery Podcast, West Coast
Edition. Now on my Cory Winfield page on Facebook. I posted a couple
of pictures and I was like, where am I? And I think one
person said, hell, I don't remember. On a plane. I think
they were absolutely correct. It was a plan, no idea where I was
at. I don't think it was quite over the city we're in right now.
But if you want to play a little game, we can mention a
couple of things before we reveal our location. We are on our honeymoon,
yeah a little late. Yeah, well yeah. We got married twelve to
twelve twenty December twelfth, twenty twenty. And of course that was during COVID
and we couldn't really do much. I mean we only had six people at
our wedding something like that, yeah, plus the preacher. Yeah yeah,
so yeah, it was COVID wedding, which, by the way, I
totally recommend ten years, twenty years. You know, I don't know how
old you are now, but if you ever pull it together or know someone
who's going to pull it together and get married, yeah, do a throwback
like nope, we're gonna have a COVID wedding. You save so much money
that way, and you just get the the nitty gritty of it. It's
not a you know, nothing wrong with going to the courthouse to get married,
but it's not that kind of wedding and you still you don't have a
cake and all that good stuff. It's yeah, it's fun. I think
we did a great job with our wedding. There's some stuff that I think
that I wouldn't have done any different even if we had one hundred people there.
I mean I still got the dress, I still like got the hairted,
you know, so it was it was great. It's not like we
got married in our pajamas or anything. No. Yeah, I had the
tuxedo that I had to rent, but people didn't have to rent them.
No, come to our people and I had to go buy dresses. Yeah,
we didn't have I mean even if family like, it was just it
was weird times, you guys. Know, you know, nobody wanted to
travel, and it was just it was lots of unknown So I don't think
people could travel. Then You're probably right. Actually I don't think they were
even able to. Yeah, so but it was great and here we are
now finally celebrating our marriage now on our honeymoon, just a little later than
most people take their honeymoons. Well, and then you got involved in school.
Yeah, and with two seventeen recovery, I couldn't really be gone really,
I guess you could say. But now that we have, you know,
actual staff and people that can cover things. You know, Justin's doing
a great job with that, Adam as well, Mitchell. You know,
they're handling things. And of course we bought we brought Germany on and he's
gonna kind of make sure that the two seventeen Recovery centers open for meetings later,
you know, because like right now, I think the website says that
we're open from like nine to five, but really it'll be like nine to
eight, you know. So somebody wants to come host a meeting or run
their own meeting on a Saturday, you know, feel free, that's what
it's form. So yeah, so we have different people now, so it's
a lot easier and we can actually for the first time get away. You've
graduated, which is amazing. Oh god, it's so surreal. So proud
of you, thank you, and I get all like not teary eyed,
but like an emotional I want to talk about what an inspiration you are,
you know, because it's not just two women, but just just an inspiration,
you know, to say I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna finish it.
And you did it, and you know, there was a point in
your life where you probably thought you were never going to do it, you
never would have a chance, and just it is what it is, yea.
So I'm proud of you. Now you can be a stay at home
mom. Just kidding, I'm gonna stay at home dead. Go get that
chedda now. But so today though, we went to the place that we
were going to for our honeymoon years later, and we got here. It
was on the West coast, like I said, so three hours different.
So we got here, our time would have been three am. Yeah,
we got actually to the hotel, you know, at that time, and
so it's midnight here, and the the guy behind the counter sucked and he's
horrible. He was not on his best It wasn't in his best terms.
First, yeah, it was an employee of the month this month, for
sure. No, I think he was taken out on us. But sometimes
you gotta look inward, you know, like what am I doing? Am
I doing enough? Am I doing just enough to get by? He wasn't
even doing that. So anyway, they give us a room that we did
not book, right, they gave us like some closet space, which was
great for people looking for a closet space. But so honeymoon, yeah,
two and a half years later, you know, like, yeah, I
don't think good stuff. And so I was not happy, tired. Cree
was cranky. He was mean, not mean, just not in a good
place. No, And I think you went in the bathroom or something,
and or maybe it was you're already sleeping. I got up into the night.
But I started thinking about that. I was like, man, that's
not fair for Marnie, you know, for me to be like grumpy.
And I mean, I wasn't mad at you, and I wasn't grumpy at
you, but I don't know, maybe that's how I look at it,
but maybe I wasn't gonna be No. I think it's one of those things
where we and I kind of started thinking about this too. It's like,
okay, so it's practicing gratitude, right, but it's also like recognizing things
that are out of our control. It was a bunch of things combined,
and then it's also like making the best out of the situation. But it's
also like expectations, right, So we kind of sometimes set ourselves up for
what things are going to look like and what things are going to be like,
and if they're not exactly like that, then we can like crash and
burn and that can just be us, whether that's emotionally and mentally, and
then that takes away from like the whole whole experience, right, And sometimes
you need to catch yourself within that moment and really like you know, calm
yourself down and recognize, like, what can I do about this to fix
it. Yeah, And I wasn't like start raving mad, No, you
were just being a big a hole. Wow. But yeah, because they
didn't deliver on what they're supposed to. Yeah, but there's nothing we could
fix it. Three o'clock in the morning our time. It felt like three
o'clock in the morning for sure, after flying all day, which is not
fun. I just don't care for it. But so we're here now at
our destination. Yeah. And then we got up and there was a call
to management or something and our management and they called their management and they,
oh, we're so sorry. Was it supposed to be that way? Oh
you're Corey Winfield. Oh my god, you're Corey Winfield's wife. Oh my
god. We're so sorry. That should never have happened to you. We
apologize. I think that's what they said. Someone That's not what they said
at all. But they got resolved. It definitely got resolved. So yeah,
So we had our first wonderful day on our vacation. You haven't disclosed
where we're right yet, Okay. We went for a walk that was twenty
miles long up hills. It was a mile with bears and don't nature whatsoever.
There was plenty of nature. I have pictures to prove it. Okay,
the ocean is greenery. Um, we were really high up in the
air a couple times. We had coffee on the breakfast thing was was interesting.
We went to this market that's a clue and it's up on Pike Street
and there's like fish and stuff. And we went to this restaurant that had
crab egg eggs, benedict something. Yes, Oh, it was like one
hundred dollars, which I didn't get that. And then we got our coffee
number two. And at the original Starbucks, we did not get our coffee
there. We saw the line for that, which was about eight blocks long.
Yeah, it was stupid. It's not where we're gonna go for coffee.
Sorry. And but the place that we went to they had some coffee
there. We got that and we walked up three flights of stairs to have
our breakfast, which it was pretty cool. I worry about the people who
worked there. The lady who brought us our food up three flights of stairs,
she was quite a bit on her stash. She should a mustache a
little bit. Well, it wasn't like mustache, it was a sweatstash.
I don't know. If you noticed that. I felt so bad for because
it was so hot. It was so hot in there. I was just
sweating, like just it was an unbelievably hot and I felt bad for her
as we looked out over the ocean and our breakfast she brought us all the
way up them three flights of stairs. Felt bad. It's like, man,
we didn't come here today. She would't had to go to ball them
stairs. She probably would have for somebody else. But we were grateful and
it was delicious breakfast. M hm. Then we went to this place that
is called Wings over Washington. That's it number three. Should be able to
figure it out. Yeah, so that was I'm was sickening, like literally
it was. It was virtual like a ride almost yeah, I said.
It was five five five k drone footage and oh it was like a virtual
sight seeing tour of of the area around the city, Oh actually of Washington
general. Yeah. So but I enjoyed it. I mean I would do
it again if I mean, I wouldn't do it again now like twice,
but I would. I would definitely suggest going. I think it was worth
it. Yeah, it was nineteen bucks. Yeah, it was pricey,
but vacation and we don't drink, and that would have been like, you
know, yeah, put in that perspective and it was cool. And look
here's how it was like they strapped you. When I thought that the guy
was just kidding. We watched this long ass video of this guy doing cheesy
stuff talking about we're out here and we're gonna go up to the whatever and
we're gonna see this and that and watch out because the raccoon's gonna take all
your jewelry or something. And it was cheesy, like I said, definitely
something the kids would probably get a kick out of. But it was you
and I and then like some real older couple, so none of us were
really feeling that guy or the little skit they were doing. So but then
we going to the actual room and we sit down and you were gonna like
sit right next to the people, and I was like, can we just
like we separate a little bit, and she's like yeah, I say where
you want and you strap in And I asked the lady, can we sit
in the front, and she said, you are in the front, And
that really confused me because they were like three rows and we were in like
the back row, and so She's like, no, you are on the
front because this thing like picks up and moves and I'm like what, So
we really did have to strap in and then it was like drone footage.
But yeah, it was then three D and it felt like we were there
and we had just eaten breakfast. Like I started feeling because I was trying
to follow this eagle, yeah, because I was like, like, the
spirit of this eagle comes out of this thing. Yeah, definitely don't go
right after you beaten on that. But it was I really enjoyed it.
I thought it was cool and I had like missed spray, Like it was
lots of different sensory things that made you feel like you were like you were
actually like flying. It was pretty cool because this eagle, it comes out
of this total pole, okay, and not this thing. It comes out
of this total poole. And then it's like trune in the spirit and then
you follow it and it's like over the ocean and coming back around through the
whip, around through the woods, and I started like trying not to follow
the eagle because that's when I felt the sickest, like I started seriously in
emotion thing this and then it would like going too our falls and then you
feel like a little mist of water on you and you're like, oh,
wait what And then it went through like fields of tulips or something, and
then they like sprayed sprays so you could smell it, which I thought that
was pretty cool. That's cool. But yeah, it would just you know,
yeah, definitely take the kids and stuff it, like, yeah,
twenty bucks or nineteen dollars. Maybe it's like sixteen dollars. But it was
fun. And then we were maybe we're gonna go to the aquarium, but
we're gonna hit that later. But then we went to this Great Wheel I
think that's what they call it, right, the Great Wheel, and right
now it's lit up and we're looking at it from our corner. Sweet.
By that, I mean we're in the corner of the building and we have
windows and from the bed and windows on the side of the bed, like
overlooking the city and the ocean. It's pretty amazing. Yeah, that's pretty
cool. So we're just gonna stay here in the room the rest of the
No. No, it's it's almost like these two where I realized because we
went to a meeting earlier and ironically hit me that when I was in the
hospital, the Super Bowl was on, and it was the Super Bowl that
Tom Brady and the Patriots played against Seattle and Russell Wilson through the interception at
the one yard line and they were just they were going to win the game.
I mean, it was clear as day they were gonna win the game.
But Carroll called the pass and rest is history, and so I had
to bring that up. I was like, yeah, because I was in
the hospital in twenty fifteen, you guys probably remember a Super Bowl and lots
of lots of groaning after that. Yeah. Yeah, but it was kind
of funny but kind of interesting, and you know, to be where I
was then and to be here now, Like if you would have walked again,
I say this a lot, but if you would have told me back
then, this is where you're going to be, you know, in four
and a half years and you're crazy. Of course that wasn't four and a
half years ago, but um, I've been cleaning four and a half years.
But yeah, if you would have came, if you'd have just walked
in the hospital, I'm like, Hi, I'm Martie. I'm going to
be your wife, and you know we're gonna be going to Seattle and our
honeymoon. I'm like, what for real? But it won't actually be our
honeymoon. It will be two and a half years after an epidemic. What
about virus that everyone scares the crap out of everyone? And I will give
it to you twice? What couplevid? Yeah? I know, but you
gave it to me twice. You gave me COVID. Did I give you
a COVID once? You gave it to me twice? Well, we don't
know, but we no matter what, we both probably you guys probably know
if anybody at your people in your hops will usually end up with it.
There's no there's no way. I wasn't going anywhere. Yeah, so things
are different now anyway, man, back to my point of that, Yes,
to be where we are now and to you know, be able to
afford nineteen dollars to go on a sky or whatever else called Wings over Washington
tour, you know, or a little whatever it was, that's cool.
You know. If we can have breakfast and walk up three flights upstairs,
like, that's cool. If I can walk one hundred miles around the city.
My back fat's hurt, and I mean it's bad. Then you know,
I'm blessed. Yeah, you know, but I had to talk to
you because you speedwalk. But I think I think I put it in pretty
good terms. You're there. I'm like, honey, imagine if there's another
you on your back, you know that slow you down a little hut.
I mean that's kind of what it is, you know. I'm like,
I know's I tend to I tend to walk a little fast, just slow,
take it easy. Yeah, you know, my knees are like help,
help, help with every step, and you're just like, nope,
nope, nope, let's go, let's go. It's not really let me
know what I'm saying. Like, I got, yeah, a lot of
weight on meet. I'm trying to carry around and here you're not. So
you're just flying around places, and I'm like the slow wood. I know
I need to work on that. I really do. Seriously, you wouldn't
know we were married. She walks like thirty feet in front of me.
That is not true. I'll just take my time taking the city. No,
it's not true, but you'd walk her. So the meeting, the
a meeting was awesome. We got an uber to it. So I was
out in like Queen Park or something. Yeah, just the name of it.
Yeah, it's whatever. Anyway, it was it was awesome. I
mean there was maybe what fifteen people there, so yeah, fifteen maybe so
yeah, and it was good. They did like an open chair or an
open kind of lead talk in the beginning, and then you know, one
guy was coming up on eleven years and he shared some and you know what,
it's just like if you wouldn't have told us, if you would have
been anywhere else, i mean walked in those doors, you wouldn't have known
that we were on vacation, you know what I mean. Like it's it's
across the country, but it's just as familiar as if we would have been
in our own hometown. I mean, just different faces. Nobody knows us,
so um, that piece is different, but I don't know. I
just it was awesome and I'm sure we're going to hit a bunch of more
meetings this week. Um. That's kind of one of my favorite things to
do when I'm on vacation because it's the first time that I'm actually having an
opportunity to like have the time to do so, so, you know,
first week off of work and forever ever and ever since I think since we
went to California. Why did you go to calor Oh, Pittsburgh forlore?
So yeah, yeah, that was like three days. Yeah, it was
always for something. Yeah, this is our first like real, like,
what are we going to do today? I don't know, we don't have
any plans. When we came, You're like, we don't have anything planned.
It was great, like I don't know, we have not one thing
planned, and now we do have one thing planned. Yeah, we can
see it from we're here right here. We can see the stadium looming field.
We're gonna go tour that. It's because it's cool. So obviously you
guys have figured out we are in Seattle. Yeah, supposedly rains nine months
out of the year. It was beautiful today, except it was hot as
hell this morning, but then it cooled off the little rain and we were
talking to the lydiat Aa and she's like, yeah, I will supposo be
Sunday today, but it wasn't in the rain. Yeah, but it's not
like pouring rain. It's just like drizzle. Yeah, so it's kind of
confusing. Like where we're from, Michigan, Yeah, it'll rain. Like
we had a huge storm before we came. Yeah, but sometimes in Michigan
it'll rain all damn day, you know, But I don't think it does
that here. It just looks like it's going to rain and then just kind
of sprinkles a little bit, and yeah, which that just irritate me.
I'm like, man, I want a good rain. Nothing wrong with a
good rain, and then a good snow nothing nothing wrong with it. But
anyway, um, yeah, So we'll check in with you this week again
at some point, I'm sure, yeah, because that's still Saturday for us
as we do this. But I think most of the people that listen probably
it's probably bad because yeah, it's way past their bedtime. Ye. So,
and we didn't bring our super duper travel mics because we're traveling, so
we brought the super duper little small mics And hopefully that sounds okay, but
I'm sure it sounds good enough. You understand what's going on, and you
know, we'll put some pictures up to on our Facebook and stuff of the
stuff we're doing and some sober fun man fun in Seattle. Oh and we'll
tell you a funny story or should we tell it now? I'll just tell
him now because I guess it's probably not that funny. But when we were
down in our like lobby of this hotel, there's this like room for like
celebrities and stuff. So naturally, you know, they give us free passes
to that, and you need a key card to get in, and there's
this lady just standing there with a stupid look in her face. And I
thought, hmm, somehow she's supposed to be in there, but she's not.
So I just opened the door anyway using my pass that I got for
being famous. And then so it opens the door and she's just kind of
look at me like, oh, my husband forgot us key. And as
I walk up, I just smelled that old lady perfume. I was like,
oh man, she showered in it, Like what's up? And she
goes in and she's just like warrior. I could tell like, Okay,
someone's not right with this woman, you know. And then she goes on
to start to start talking about how she had to go get a drink.
And you are wearing your two seventeen recovery sweater shirt thing and on the front
of your shirt that says sober yea. And she's going on and looks at
you and then she starts to tell you where you need to go if you
want a drink. Yeah, like okay, well apparently she does not know
how to read. And she ended up locking herself out again because she didn't
have her key, because she went out to another door and try to come
back in she couldn't and then thinking you had to let her in again.
Yeah, I'm like this lady, she can't read. Like, it's not
just shirts, you can't read signs that say don't leave here without your key
or press this button to open the door, Like we should do something for
people who have problems reading, you know, It's just it was it's a
lounge for like the members, the club, members of the not and nobody's
seeing us at all. But no, it's Yeah, it was funny because
I was I mean, she she didn't know, but she's like, you
have to go to the outside to get your cocktails if you want to drink.
And I'm like, I'm good, thank you. Yeah, but yeah,
she's she was having a hard time. Oh, she's just doing her
thing, you know, can't be mad at her. I wasn't mad.
It was it was funny because I was like, apparently I can't read I'm
sober. Maybe a little late for her to process. Maybe she thought you
were being slick with it. Maybe don't give me one of them sober shirts
people think I'm sober. Yeah, so let it to let's right now and
that later because it really wasn't that funny, all right, But we will
talk to you later, and like I said, we'll post some pictures if
you're want to follow along on our trip. But yeah, things we can
do now that we're sober that could have never done. We'd be dead if
we're still drinking. So oh absolutely, And it's nice to actually live life
for once and just don't give up. You know, it's maybe hard right
now, or you're going through something or you know somebody who is. You
know, just don't give up. It takes what it takes until it finally
starts clicking, and then you're just on your way and you hit this groove
and it's the most amazing thing you'll ever come across. And then the fact
that you went through all that hell and all that pain and made it through
the other side, and it'll just tell you and show you that you can
do things that you never thought you could. And why I hung on so
long to the notion that I had to drink was beyond me. I mean,
that's that's what it does to your brain. It tricks you, and
it makes you think that you can't live without it, and the thought of
living without it is just insane. But I'm telling you, and Marnie,
I'll tell you the same thing. You know. It's beautiful, Yeah it
is, but so true. Take care and we'll halage. Thanks everybody,
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