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Hey, hey, I'm back.
Oh, yes, with something for you

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to think about. I've mentioned it, mentioned this before on a couple of

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my episodes, but I wanted to
dedicate a whole episode to it. The

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way your relationship starts out, it
is more than likely how it would end.

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Now, think about what I'm saying. Those of you who have experienced

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it, you know it's the truth. The way your relationship starts out is

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most likely how it would end.
A lot of people are finding that this

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is truth, So let's talk about
it. Many people, and I do

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mean many, get into relationships blindly. It's the truth. You get into

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relationships blindly. Everything you need to
know is in your face. You have

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signs you have read flashed, you
ignore it all. Some of you get

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into relationships with individuals when you're married, or they are married, or both

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of you are married. You know, you know that's not right. You

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get into relationship you're married. Sometimes
you leave your spouse for the other person,

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whether they're married or not. You
leave your spouse for the other person,

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and you think you got it going
on. Things are are looking good

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in the relationship, so you think
you got it going on. You think

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everything is solid until karma comes back
to bite you in the butt. Because

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karma is coming back to you,
you're gonna reap what you sow. That's

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why I don't understand why some people
think that they can get away with stuff.

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You're not getting away. Just because
you're getting by does not mean you're

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getting away. You will not get
away, So karma comes back. I

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can bite you in the button.
You cheated on your spouse or your significant

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other, whether girlfriend, boyfriend.
You cheated on your significant other to be

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with someone else. Some of you
have left them to be with the other

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person, only to get a dose
of your own medicine. You thought you

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had it locked. No one could
tell you you didn't have it locked.

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You thought you had it locked down
until he or she did to you what

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you've done to your spouse. Now
to you, it's incomprehensible. You can't

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you can't handle what has happened.
You thought it was okay to leave your

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husband, or leave your wife,
or or leave your girlfriend or your boyfriend.

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You thought it was okay to do
that to be with someone else until

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your choice, meaning the person that
you chose to fool around with, or

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to leave your significant other four until
they start doing to you what you've done

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to your significant other. Now they're
messing around on you, and you can't

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believe it. Well you, I
don't know why you can't believe it.

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I don't know why you're taking it
so hard. I don't know why it

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such a surprise when you did it. That's why I say, the way

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your relationship started out, it's more
than likely how it's gonna end now.

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You did it, but you can't
handle the fact that it has been done

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to you. Now you're a rate. You're all upset, you're hurt to

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the court. But you did it. You you thought it was okay when

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you did it, but now it
don't feel okay, right, you can't

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handle it. This is the case
for so many people. You cheat on

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who you're with, and as I
said, some of you even leave that

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person to be with someone else,
only to find out that the grass is

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not greener on the other side.
You have to maintain that lawn too,

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You have to water that lawn too. People over there have issues too.

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But now you're hurt. You're so
hurt because karma hath come back to you.

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I'm telling you never fails. It
never fails. You're gonna get it.

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There's no exploration. They on karma. Some people get so comfortable,

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Oh, they think they got it
going on. They're so comfortable and complacent

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in their relationship until the truth slaps
them in the face. Now you can't

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take what is happening to you,
although you did to the person who trusted

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you. I don't know why.
Some people think they can do all of

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their dirt and it not come back
to them. But so many people have

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that mindset. So now you're all
in your feelings. You got out of

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the relationship. How dare he cheat
on me? How how dare she cheat

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on me? But you don't.
You quickly forgotten the fact that you did

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it to the person you were with
before the other individual. Most times more

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than not, how you start out
that relationship, it's gonna determine how that

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relationship ends. If you get into
a relationship cheating with someone, leaving your

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significant other, and even if you
don't leave them, just causing issues in

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your relationship, it's coming back to
you. You're gonna deal with the same

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thing you dished out. But the
thing is a lot of people can't take

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it, especially I'm not bashing,
but a lot of men cannot handle when

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they're women cheat on them. They
can cheat all day, but when that

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woman cheat, Oh, it's like
they can't they can't deal with it.

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If you know you can't deal with
it, why are you doing it?

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Carma, don't have an expiration day
book. It does not. It's coming

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back to you, just when you
least expected. You thought you had it

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going on. You thought what you've
done was okay to do. Some of

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you leave, you have children,
You had more than children and everything for

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that other person. It's coming back
to me. You have to be careful

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of how you start a relationship.
Some of you start your relationships by buying,

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buying, buying, buying. Every
time you look around you have a

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gift. You feel that you must
buy him or her a gift because that's

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how they've taught you to treat them, so you feel that you're obligated to

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buy them a gift. You want
to buy them a gift because you're expressing,

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in your opinion, your love by
showering showering them with gifts. But

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now you have to do it because
that's the way you started out. You

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get on into into the relationship,
and now you're tired. You are tired

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of buying, buying, buying.
You are tired now you realize and you're

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feeling this thing. Hey, I'm
buying this person's love. Now you're in

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your feelings about it. Now you
can see what you've been doing all alone.

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Now you can actually see it,
and it does not feel good to

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you. You're spending all of your
money, all of your money to try

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to put a smile on that person's
face because you you know they like getting

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things, especially you that have a
lot of money, and you're just showering

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them. Hey, I know people
who do it don't have a lot of

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money, and they are stress the
heck out trying to buy it makes no

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sense. You have started your relationship
the wrong way, so now you get

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to a point where you can't handle
it. It's too much. You've wasted

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so much money, and when the
other person start to realize things have slowed

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down, they're not getting like they
used to get. Now they have an

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attitude with you, so most times
tis they will move on to someone who

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will do what you used to do
again. You must be careful of how

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you start out of relationship. Some
of you do the same thing when it

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comes to meeting someone and you think
they're so good looking, and it becomes

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all about lust of the flesh.
All you want is to be with that

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person because they're so beautiful. Then
you get together and they gain about twenty

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or thirty pounds. Now you don't
even see them the same because they've gained

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weight. Or it could go the
other way. They've lost so much weight.

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Now you don't see them the same
way. Well, I can't understand.

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You know, you don't want to
be with someone that have gained too

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much weight because people can't gain too
much weight or lose too much weight.

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Let me, let me go back. I wouldn't say I understand how you

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wouldn't want to be with that person, because I don't mean that at all,

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because your love shouldn't be based on
that. But people base relationships on

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how people look. When you do
that, you're already setting yourself up because

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people change. People change. I
knew a guy once who for him,

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it was all about how he looked. He thought he was the finest thing

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walking the earth until he had an
accident and he had a start on his

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face about as long as your hand
on one side of his face. Sometimes

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you're humbled I don't say it will
be away that you like, but sometimes

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people are humbled. And he was
so getting into relationship with people based on

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how they look. Looks the last
always people change. They get older,

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they get wrinkles, they droop,
they sad. Anything can happen. They

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gain too much weight, they lose
too much weight. Anything can happen.

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That's why you have to love a
person with your whole heart and knock through

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your eyes on only. You have
to love them for the right reasons,

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not for superficial reasons. When you
love people for superficial reasons, it's gonna

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come invite you. Something is going
to happen that make you feel a different

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way about that individual. But you're
feeling a different way because you start at

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the relationship out the wrong way.
It happens all of the time to people.

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All of the time. You're blind
by what you see. Then you

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have individuals who definitely see the potential. They definitely can see the tendencies and

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individuals to be abusive because they don't
think it'll happen to them. Sometimes it

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does. The way the person talk
to you, the way they treat you,

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the way they treat other people.
Those are signs and red flags I've

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mentioned to you. Before I went
through that, I was like, he's

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not gonna ever do that to me, And yes he did, Yes he

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did. I thought I was safe. You're not safe. You're only showing

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them what they can get away with. You're not safe if you see them

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doing it to some one else.
More than likely sooner or later they will

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try you. And that is the
very thing that will end the relationship that

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a beast. You get to the
point you're sick and tired of it,

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you don't want that person anymore,
but you love being in the beginning.

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Oh, you just have to have
it. That's why I tell you that

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I'm saying the very thing that make
you laugh will make you cry. That's

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when you know you got into a
relationship the wrong way, with the wrong

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person for the wrong reason. So
you get to that point where you can't

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take it anymore. It has affected
you in every way mentally, physically,

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emotionally, financially, in every way. Now you don't want to be with

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that person anymore. These are the
things that happen when your eyes open.

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That's why I tell you all of
the time, go into a relationship with

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your eyes open. If your eyes
are not open, you should not be

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getting into a relationship with no one. Some of you think your eyes are

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open, but your blind blind blind. I was having a conversation with someone

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and because of what he told me, I said, you don't love yourself,

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and he was like, I don't
think I do. I've never put

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any thought or energy into loving myself. I always put it into loving someone

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else. So I asked him,
I said, well, how do you

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think. How in the world do
you think you're gonna be able to effectively

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love someone else when you can't even
love yourself. You don't know what love

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is. You don't know what it
is. I said them, by the

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things that you've told me, it's
clear. It's clear. And I think

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on that day he had an epiphany. Sometimes people don't get it until you

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really lay it out to them.
Sometimes they don't get it even then they

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don't want to get it. But
what I'm telling you is the truth.

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You have to be careful how you
start out in a relationship. Some of

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you get into relationships with people you
see signs that something is not right.

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You see signs, but you still
get into that relationship. Then you find

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out you're in a relationship with a
pedophile sex offender, but you saw signs,

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but you ignore them because of what
you wanted, how you felt your

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desires. You still wanted that person
until you found out they were messing with

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your child, your daughter, your
son. Now you hate that person.

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A good parent would be beyond living. But you have some really really broken

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people who even after they find out, they still want to be in a

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relationship with that person. That is
a very very broken person who have that

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mindset. But there are people out
there like that. I just told you

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a couple of weeks ago or so
about a situation where the the f the

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young female told her mom that the
guy she was with the mom was with

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was messing with her, and the
mom did not want to hear it on

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any level. So there are people
out there who don't want to believe it.

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But a real good parent, they
thought they loved that person. When

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they found that out, it's over. I don't want to be with you,

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it's done. There are so many
scenarios, so many that people are

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end they are in and they are
living these scenarios out in real time,

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in real life. And I'm telling
you how you start out most likely,

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most likely, more than likely,
will be the demise of the relationship.

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And if you don't physically walk away, you will mentally. And that is

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the reason so many people are in
loveless relationships. No affection, no intimacy,

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no communication, no nothing. But
they stayed because that's where they've been

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for so long. They stay because
they feel they're too old to start over.

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They stay out of insecurities, but
they don't want to be with that

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person. What they feel for that
person is over, but they remained in

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the relationship for their own personal reasons. I think that's the saddest thing ever,

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but it's reality for many people.
What made you smile is the very

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thing will make you cry. How
you started out most likely will indicate how

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you will end. It's never failing
you hear me, It's never failing.

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It's the truth. It's the truth. So I wanted to talk about that

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today. You have to be aware
of how you start out relationships. Most

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people start out with their eyes.
They start out with their unhealed hearts and

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unhealed minds. You get into these
relationships for all the wrong reasons, with

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the wrong people trying to figure them
out. When you have yet to figure

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yourself out trying to love them when
you don't even love yourself, going along

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with anything. Rather have some men
or woman than no man or woman at

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all, just terrible. That's why
I tell you all of the time,

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the person people denied most in the
like the most itself. You're too busy

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looking outward for all of these things
that you should possess on the inside of

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self. But people can't get to
that point because they have not allowed themselves

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the opportunity to heal. You have
to deal with your ailments in order to

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heal from them, but most people
have it. That's why we see all

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of the atrostasies and travesties and tragedies
in the world today. People murdering because

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of skin color. That's so far
beyond ignorant, so far beyond ignorant.

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But it's because of those unhealed hearts
and minds. People wasn't born like that,

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full of hate and anger and rage. You love those things over time

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through experiences most likely traumatic or just
bad, and you carry them into adulthood.

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That's why people get into relationships the
wrong way with the wrong people for

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the wrong reasons, because they have
things on the inside that they haven't been

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dealt with. They are not the
best versions of themselves, because if they

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were, they would never get into
those types of relationships. So be mindful,

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be aware, be leary, be
careful, because people out there have

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a gen does that are not the
same as yours. They're not, but

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you won't be able to see that
when you're blind. That's all I'm saying

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on this episode. Thank you so
much for listening. Much love, can

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you you and you. If you
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welcome to reach out, please go
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It will tell you exactly how to
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you for listening. Please share this
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end every episode the same and I
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