Hey, hey, I'm back. Oh, yes, with something for you
to think about. I've mentioned it, mentioned this before on a couple of
my episodes, but I wanted to dedicate a whole episode to it. The
way your relationship starts out, it is more than likely how it would end.
Now, think about what I'm saying. Those of you who have experienced
it, you know it's the truth. The way your relationship starts out is
most likely how it would end. A lot of people are finding that this
is truth, So let's talk about it. Many people, and I do
mean many, get into relationships blindly. It's the truth. You get into
relationships blindly. Everything you need to know is in your face. You have
signs you have read flashed, you ignore it all. Some of you get
into relationships with individuals when you're married, or they are married, or both
of you are married. You know, you know that's not right. You
get into relationship you're married. Sometimes you leave your spouse for the other person,
whether they're married or not. You leave your spouse for the other person,
and you think you got it going on. Things are are looking good
in the relationship, so you think you got it going on. You think
everything is solid until karma comes back to bite you in the butt. Because
karma is coming back to you, you're gonna reap what you sow. That's
why I don't understand why some people think that they can get away with stuff.
You're not getting away. Just because you're getting by does not mean you're
getting away. You will not get away, So karma comes back. I
can bite you in the button. You cheated on your spouse or your significant
other, whether girlfriend, boyfriend. You cheated on your significant other to be
with someone else. Some of you have left them to be with the other
person, only to get a dose of your own medicine. You thought you
had it locked. No one could tell you you didn't have it locked.
You thought you had it locked down until he or she did to you what
you've done to your spouse. Now to you, it's incomprehensible. You can't
you can't handle what has happened. You thought it was okay to leave your
husband, or leave your wife, or or leave your girlfriend or your boyfriend.
You thought it was okay to do that to be with someone else until
your choice, meaning the person that you chose to fool around with, or
to leave your significant other four until they start doing to you what you've done
to your significant other. Now they're messing around on you, and you can't
believe it. Well you, I don't know why you can't believe it.
I don't know why you're taking it so hard. I don't know why it
such a surprise when you did it. That's why I say, the way
your relationship started out, it's more than likely how it's gonna end now.
You did it, but you can't handle the fact that it has been done
to you. Now you're a rate. You're all upset, you're hurt to
the court. But you did it. You you thought it was okay when
you did it, but now it don't feel okay, right, you can't
handle it. This is the case for so many people. You cheat on
who you're with, and as I said, some of you even leave that
person to be with someone else, only to find out that the grass is
not greener on the other side. You have to maintain that lawn too,
You have to water that lawn too. People over there have issues too.
But now you're hurt. You're so hurt because karma hath come back to you.
I'm telling you never fails. It never fails. You're gonna get it.
There's no exploration. They on karma. Some people get so comfortable,
Oh, they think they got it going on. They're so comfortable and complacent
in their relationship until the truth slaps them in the face. Now you can't
take what is happening to you, although you did to the person who trusted
you. I don't know why. Some people think they can do all of
their dirt and it not come back to them. But so many people have
that mindset. So now you're all in your feelings. You got out of
the relationship. How dare he cheat on me? How how dare she cheat
on me? But you don't. You quickly forgotten the fact that you did
it to the person you were with before the other individual. Most times more
than not, how you start out that relationship, it's gonna determine how that
relationship ends. If you get into a relationship cheating with someone, leaving your
significant other, and even if you don't leave them, just causing issues in
your relationship, it's coming back to you. You're gonna deal with the same
thing you dished out. But the thing is a lot of people can't take
it, especially I'm not bashing, but a lot of men cannot handle when
they're women cheat on them. They can cheat all day, but when that
woman cheat, Oh, it's like they can't they can't deal with it.
If you know you can't deal with it, why are you doing it?
Carma, don't have an expiration day book. It does not. It's coming
back to you, just when you least expected. You thought you had it
going on. You thought what you've done was okay to do. Some of
you leave, you have children, You had more than children and everything for
that other person. It's coming back to me. You have to be careful
of how you start a relationship. Some of you start your relationships by buying,
buying, buying, buying. Every time you look around you have a
gift. You feel that you must buy him or her a gift because that's
how they've taught you to treat them, so you feel that you're obligated to
buy them a gift. You want to buy them a gift because you're expressing,
in your opinion, your love by showering showering them with gifts. But
now you have to do it because that's the way you started out. You
get on into into the relationship, and now you're tired. You are tired
of buying, buying, buying. You are tired now you realize and you're
feeling this thing. Hey, I'm buying this person's love. Now you're in
your feelings about it. Now you can see what you've been doing all alone.
Now you can actually see it, and it does not feel good to
you. You're spending all of your money, all of your money to try
to put a smile on that person's face because you you know they like getting
things, especially you that have a lot of money, and you're just showering
them. Hey, I know people who do it don't have a lot of
money, and they are stress the heck out trying to buy it makes no
sense. You have started your relationship the wrong way, so now you get
to a point where you can't handle it. It's too much. You've wasted
so much money, and when the other person start to realize things have slowed
down, they're not getting like they used to get. Now they have an
attitude with you, so most times tis they will move on to someone who
will do what you used to do again. You must be careful of how
you start out of relationship. Some of you do the same thing when it
comes to meeting someone and you think they're so good looking, and it becomes
all about lust of the flesh. All you want is to be with that
person because they're so beautiful. Then you get together and they gain about twenty
or thirty pounds. Now you don't even see them the same because they've gained
weight. Or it could go the other way. They've lost so much weight.
Now you don't see them the same way. Well, I can't understand.
You know, you don't want to be with someone that have gained too
much weight because people can't gain too much weight or lose too much weight.
Let me, let me go back. I wouldn't say I understand how you
wouldn't want to be with that person, because I don't mean that at all,
because your love shouldn't be based on that. But people base relationships on
how people look. When you do that, you're already setting yourself up because
people change. People change. I knew a guy once who for him,
it was all about how he looked. He thought he was the finest thing
walking the earth until he had an accident and he had a start on his
face about as long as your hand on one side of his face. Sometimes
you're humbled I don't say it will be away that you like, but sometimes
people are humbled. And he was so getting into relationship with people based on
how they look. Looks the last always people change. They get older,
they get wrinkles, they droop, they sad. Anything can happen. They
gain too much weight, they lose too much weight. Anything can happen.
That's why you have to love a person with your whole heart and knock through
your eyes on only. You have to love them for the right reasons,
not for superficial reasons. When you love people for superficial reasons, it's gonna
come invite you. Something is going to happen that make you feel a different
way about that individual. But you're feeling a different way because you start at
the relationship out the wrong way. It happens all of the time to people.
All of the time. You're blind by what you see. Then you
have individuals who definitely see the potential. They definitely can see the tendencies and
individuals to be abusive because they don't think it'll happen to them. Sometimes it
does. The way the person talk to you, the way they treat you,
the way they treat other people. Those are signs and red flags I've
mentioned to you. Before I went through that, I was like, he's
not gonna ever do that to me, And yes he did, Yes he
did. I thought I was safe. You're not safe. You're only showing
them what they can get away with. You're not safe if you see them
doing it to some one else. More than likely sooner or later they will
try you. And that is the very thing that will end the relationship that
a beast. You get to the point you're sick and tired of it,
you don't want that person anymore, but you love being in the beginning.
Oh, you just have to have it. That's why I tell you that
I'm saying the very thing that make you laugh will make you cry. That's
when you know you got into a relationship the wrong way, with the wrong
person for the wrong reason. So you get to that point where you can't
take it anymore. It has affected you in every way mentally, physically,
emotionally, financially, in every way. Now you don't want to be with
that person anymore. These are the things that happen when your eyes open.
That's why I tell you all of the time, go into a relationship with
your eyes open. If your eyes are not open, you should not be
getting into a relationship with no one. Some of you think your eyes are
open, but your blind blind blind. I was having a conversation with someone
and because of what he told me, I said, you don't love yourself,
and he was like, I don't think I do. I've never put
any thought or energy into loving myself. I always put it into loving someone
else. So I asked him, I said, well, how do you
think. How in the world do you think you're gonna be able to effectively
love someone else when you can't even love yourself. You don't know what love
is. You don't know what it is. I said them, by the
things that you've told me, it's clear. It's clear. And I think
on that day he had an epiphany. Sometimes people don't get it until you
really lay it out to them. Sometimes they don't get it even then they
don't want to get it. But what I'm telling you is the truth.
You have to be careful how you start out in a relationship. Some of
you get into relationships with people you see signs that something is not right.
You see signs, but you still get into that relationship. Then you find
out you're in a relationship with a pedophile sex offender, but you saw signs,
but you ignore them because of what you wanted, how you felt your
desires. You still wanted that person until you found out they were messing with
your child, your daughter, your son. Now you hate that person.
A good parent would be beyond living. But you have some really really broken
people who even after they find out, they still want to be in a
relationship with that person. That is a very very broken person who have that
mindset. But there are people out there like that. I just told you
a couple of weeks ago or so about a situation where the the f the
young female told her mom that the guy she was with the mom was with
was messing with her, and the mom did not want to hear it on
any level. So there are people out there who don't want to believe it.
But a real good parent, they thought they loved that person. When
they found that out, it's over. I don't want to be with you,
it's done. There are so many scenarios, so many that people are
end they are in and they are living these scenarios out in real time,
in real life. And I'm telling you how you start out most likely,
most likely, more than likely, will be the demise of the relationship.
And if you don't physically walk away, you will mentally. And that is
the reason so many people are in loveless relationships. No affection, no intimacy,
no communication, no nothing. But they stayed because that's where they've been
for so long. They stay because they feel they're too old to start over.
They stay out of insecurities, but they don't want to be with that
person. What they feel for that person is over, but they remained in
the relationship for their own personal reasons. I think that's the saddest thing ever,
but it's reality for many people. What made you smile is the very
thing will make you cry. How you started out most likely will indicate how
you will end. It's never failing you hear me, It's never failing.
It's the truth. It's the truth. So I wanted to talk about that
today. You have to be aware of how you start out relationships. Most
people start out with their eyes. They start out with their unhealed hearts and
unhealed minds. You get into these relationships for all the wrong reasons, with
the wrong people trying to figure them out. When you have yet to figure
yourself out trying to love them when you don't even love yourself, going along
with anything. Rather have some men or woman than no man or woman at
all, just terrible. That's why I tell you all of the time,
the person people denied most in the like the most itself. You're too busy
looking outward for all of these things that you should possess on the inside of
self. But people can't get to that point because they have not allowed themselves
the opportunity to heal. You have to deal with your ailments in order to
heal from them, but most people have it. That's why we see all
of the atrostasies and travesties and tragedies in the world today. People murdering because
of skin color. That's so far beyond ignorant, so far beyond ignorant.
But it's because of those unhealed hearts and minds. People wasn't born like that,
full of hate and anger and rage. You love those things over time
through experiences most likely traumatic or just bad, and you carry them into adulthood.
That's why people get into relationships the wrong way with the wrong people for
the wrong reasons, because they have things on the inside that they haven't been
dealt with. They are not the best versions of themselves, because if they
were, they would never get into those types of relationships. So be mindful,
be aware, be leary, be careful, because people out there have
a gen does that are not the same as yours. They're not, but
you won't be able to see that when you're blind. That's all I'm saying
on this episode. Thank you so much for listening. Much love, can
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