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So what's up, everybody? Welcome to It's the show where we talk about
our personal lives. We just dig deep into our everyday, boring lives,
the mundanities of our boring lives, and we and then we make fun of
it for you guys, that's right, And then you guys complain that we
complain too much. Right. Although I did get some good, great feedback
on Sunny's issue on our Facebook page. Okay, I got a lot of
like great tips on pelvic floor talk, uh, physical therapy PT stuff.
So yeah, one of our listeners was like, listen, there's a whole
thing behind this overactive bladder situation going on, and you know, and sometimes
medication doesn't work. And he's been on the medication now about ten days.
Is he noticing a difference a little? He's still having pressure, so hopefully,
I don't know. I'm gonna look up what she's one of our listeners
suggested and talk to him about it. There's nothing worse than when something's going
on with with one of your kids that's making them miserable, right, There's
nothing worse than that, because it takes it's not it's like it's happening to
you. And then he uses the excuse of well, I can't sit at
school. So so he's still not at school. No, he's doing his
online thing, but he says he's going to go back to school tomorrow.
I just wanted one more day, I guess. So we'll see. Oh
and then I'll tell you about the ninety one one call he made. Oh
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I don't know you? So Sunny Sunny sometimes could be afraid of his
own shadow. However, so even though he has his license and he can
drive, and he drives himself to work to do his bench Warmer podcast every
week, he still loves his walks and loves to take his walks. In
fact, it helps him with his overactive bladder. If if he's moving keeps
him going right, he's feeling better. So it's football season, he's got
his podcast, You do I get you and Sonny should get together. He
could talk your ear off podcast. Does he want me as a guest?
Oh? Yeah, he would love to have you as a guest. Listen
to do Tuesday show. You know what we're talking about. Right, So
he's, you know, walking at night, okay, still and uh he
goes on these long walks. Anyway, it was Saturday morning. Natalia was
laid up with her wisdom teeth issues, and Sonny was leaving to go get
lunch. So he's walking out the door and then I'm upstairs and I hear
him going like, mom, mom, look, locked the door, locked
the door. And I was like, because there's two doors. There's one
that's he was heading towards, which is the back door. Then there's the
front door, which I'm closer to, and I'm hearing him going lock the
door, locked the door, and he doesn't go out that door. I
know he's going out the back door. So I'm like, what is it?
What's the wrong with this kid? And I go downstairs and he's like,
we're gonna I gotta let's call nine one one, and I go,
what are you talking about? And he goes there's a crazy man. There's
somebody like on our stairs, sitting on our stairs, on our property,
talking loud. And he's like, and I know who it is because I've
encountered this guy so and he's bothered me before it. I'm like, what
the fuck? So he calls nine one one. As he's calling nine one
one, the back door is unlocking and opening and we hear it, and
his Sonny looked like he was gonna freaking die. He was like, oh
my god, he's coming in the house. He's coming in the house.
And I go hello, and it's Griffin, Natalie's boyfriend. Oh. And
I'm like, Sonny, relax and nine one, nine one one, what's
your emergency? And he's like, uh, never mind. Wait. So
there was no crazy guys sitting on there. There's no crazy guy sitting on
the stairs. It was Natalie's boyfriend who's he wasn't expecting, okay, but
he didn't get a look at him. He saw like, I guess his
shorts because he's pretty tall and fits the description of this crazy guy that Sonny's
encountered, and and was like yep, but he wasn't. He was like
saying that he was he was like, were you on the phone and he
was like, well yeah, and he was like, were you talking loud?
And he was like Griffin was like huh no, no, I don't
know. Maybe like sometimes when you're on the phone, you're you're talking loud.
You think you're talking loud, but you don't know you're talking. I
don't know. So Griffin's like, well, huh and I go, Sonny,
take a breath, relax. What the what what's going on? And
he was like, I didn't want to tell you. I told Dad about
it, but I didn't want to tell you because I don't want you to
freak out because you're every time like I'm at the condo, I'm always looking
on my life three sixty and I'm like, why is it nine thirty at
night and you're like three miles from house? What are you doing when you
go home? It's getting late. You shouldn't be out this late. He's
like, I'm fine, you know. So I call him and I talked
to him till he gets home kind of thing. So I'm always worried about
him, Like mostly because there's bears in our there's grizzly bears, coyotes and
our streets are dark and there's no sidewalks. There's not. In fact,
I was on next door app and people were like, why don't we ever
we don't have any what's going on in our neighborhood where we don't have street
lights? We do on the busy streets, but on the side streets it's
pitch black and there's no sidewalks, And they're like, well, it's kind
of the quaint thing of our town because we're up against the foothills and nature.
They don't want the It's kind of the charm of our town. And
I was like, dark, dark, right, So I was reading about
that, so which makes me even more anxious. When Sunny's late at night
walking around, he doesn't have a flashlight. He's got his cell phone that
he uses anyway. So he's telling me he's encountered this guy who's rambling talks
to himself. He thinks that he's like off medication or something. He's not
old, he's a young guy, and he looks put together there, and
he's scruffy, but like you know, just like you know, like an
over like a five o'clock shadow kind of scruff probably in his thirties. He
said, he dressed like like how Griffin would like Natalie's boyfriend would dress like
just nice shorts and a teat whatever. And he's walked around and sunny encount
so he's walked He's seen him at night walking in the streets and he does
this thing where he crouches down, like into a ball on the sidewalk and
rocks back and forth and starts yelling at people and like, so Sunny was
like trying to was going in his direction. It was just two nights earlier.
It was walking towards him. And then the guy started yelling at Sunny
like something about he's gonna take him down under, and Sunny goes, I
don't think he's talking about Australia. I think he's talking about like down under,
like I'm gonna bury something. And he was like trying to and oh
and he didn't have a shirt on this time. So sunny encount So Sonny
he crosses the street, you know, ignores him. And then there was
another guy, a gentleman that was out like a dad, and he was
out on a walk and he said, look, there's a just so you
know, there's a guy could be off his meds. You're gonna he's gonna
be coming your way. Well, this guy starts, the guy off his
meds, start coming towards Sonny and this other guy, and he starts talking
about where's his shirt. He wants a shirt, and the guy goes,
you need a shirt, I'll get you a shirt, and then he goes
inside the house. And now Sonny Sunny alone with the guy and dad I
know, so comes back out with the shirt, kind of gives it to
him, and then he starts following. So, since Sonny's like, okay,
I'm on my way, starts kind of following Sonny but from a distance,
but is following him, and so now Sunny he doesn't want him to
know what street he turns off, so he goes down around blah blah blah.
Anyway, that was like two nights earlier, and now Sonny's in the
middle of the day leaving on a Saturday to go to get lunch and he
sees what he think is the same height built of the homeless guy, and
he's sitting on our stairs talking loudly. Right, so he thinks it's nine
one one and he tells me locked the door, and then he's like,
oh my god, and then he hears the backdoor opening and somebody coming inside.
He's thinking, oh my god, the guy's in the house. So
when he called nine one one, and then it was like, oh,
never mind, did they call back where they like, I know I thought
they would, but no, he said false false alarm. Because I was
like, Sunny, why are you calling on mom? I go, wait,
don't call nine one one. He goes, no, Mom, Mom,
Mom, the guy's coming in the house, like and then you know
at the same time. And then also it takes a while for the back
whoever's coming in the back door has to walk up steps. You don't see
who they are until they come up into our kitchen and it's but I go
hello and it's Griffin and he's like it's me. And I was like,
okay, it's good, like Sunny, relax, like what the what's wrong
with you? And then so he tells me this whole thing, and I'm
like, okay, well, now you're not gonna go late at night walking
around the neighborhood. And so anyway, I've never posted on nextdoor app except
for that one time when somebody like pounded on our right right. So now
I posted on nextdoor app, I love next door, app I I falled
down that rabbit hole all the time, and I yeah, I posted,
like, has anybody encountered this person? And did you get any responses?
I just did it. I think it was just yesterday. One response,
the guy goes, how do you know he's not homeless? Because I said,
my son describes him. I don't. He doesn't think he's homeless.
He just thinks he's somebody that's lives in our neighborhood. But is off as
meds because he does. But it's hard to describe that. He gets into
a ball and walk rocks back and forth, like you know, it does
sound like I'm the crate, Like I'm not crazy, I'm describing crazy.
You're like. Then he gets on the kind of on his stomach on the
ground and he does like the inchworm and it's but it's not like a really
roback way, like it's not like there's no music playing right right right,
And I sound like I'm the crazies right right, So I don't know.
We'll see I'll check back and see if anybody responded. But but now I'm
like, do you have to walk late at night on the dark streets of
our city. Can you just like get home before dark at least? So
I don't know, but we'll see. They get like older and older though,
and it's so hard to like, I have to constantly check myself because
LB, I don't know if you guys know this, but she's staying home.
Is here. I'm just kidding obviously, I've talked about it ad nauseum,
but it's hard to because she's not away at college. It's hard to
not go like, oh, what time are you getting home? Like I
know, I'll get her schedule kind of at the beginning of the week.
But I told her one of the reasons that we got her a car,
well a was because we were trying to divide two cars among three people.
And that was and she uses it the most because she's always out and about,
But was because I felt so bad that she didn't get to go away
to college and every one of her friends was getting to get this growing up
experience and getting out on their own and like, and I felt so bad
that, like, oh, she's stuck at home. So I was like,
listen, you're gonna be independent city. Don't worry about us, like
we're not here, Like you don't live at home? What like, parents
know, you know, you got your wing of the house, you know,
but I can't help. But still parents like I can't. It's on
a bagel I do. I'm like, have you eaten? Are you?
You know? And then John will be like what is I'll be eating with
us, and I'm like, I don't know, Like I don't. I
don't feel like we should be like hey are you are you I of course
I hear the voice of people going, well, she still lives under your
roof. I know, I get it. I get it. But it's
not that it's not that I'm afraid to ask her. She's a very polite
girl. She's not going to be like fuck off, I'm on my own.
But I'm just saying I try not to hover and be like, oh,
what are you? What are you doing tonight? You know, because
I want her to be able to go to a shift at work and then
go out to dinner with her friends. I don't want her to have to
be like, oh, let me explain to my parents what I'm doing.
But at the same time, like if we're if I'm making dinner, like
hey, are you are you going to be But she's really good about She'll
say, yeah, I'm getting off work at such and such a time and
I'll be home, But I kind of don't want her to have to do
that. Plus the fact that her moods have been up and down, but
lately we're on a sort of a good run where she's been feeling good and
she's really filling her She's working a lot of extra work shifts to keep herself
busy, and she feels very much like work family, Like she's got some
really good friends at work. It makes her really happy. She's learning more
are things at work, Like she's doing something that's called a tech shift where
she learns some of the she unscrews some of like the vests, and she's
she's learning how to do more things and she's very curious about it, which
I think is great. So she's like this week, she worked like thirty
five hours. She was at work like every single day, and then she'll
she'd go out with people from work, and then she's got her school twice
a week. So like, I don't wanna, yes, but I do.
Still, I'm bringing it around to the point that I still find myself
checking life three sixty and being like, oh, what's she doing. Oh,
she's still at work. Oh she's driving home right now? Oh,
John Elpi's like driving home from work. I think she's coming home. Like
I'm still like, I'm still hovering. I just don't tell her I'm hovering
right right. Well, and for me, it's a lot like when I'm
not there, I want to know where they are and what they're doing.
And now, like Sunny's a new driver, so if he's driving, like
the other day he was coming home and then he totally doesn't come home.
He goes around, he's going and going towards the Pasadena Rose Bowl. He's
driving, and I'm like, wait, I call him, I go,
what are you doing? It's like, I'm just out for a drive.
And I was like, all right, it's getting late. We just come
home so I can relax, right, you know, even though he's in
you know, he's a good driver, but still like I want to know
what's what? Where are you going? What's going on? When I think
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were a kid, I was just thinking about how when I was a kid,
we didn't have we didn't have cell phones, we didn't have email,
we didn't have smartphones at all. So we had payphones. When you got
your license, you didn't have to like not drive with other people in the
car for a year like they do now in California at least. So I
just remember, there's so many times where I wish I could have called a
parent or called somebody to come get me, or been like stuck somewhere,
or you just get a ride with some rando right somewhere, like forget even
driving. I remember I remember like leaving the house walking like five miles with
my friend to this like pizza place that was far away, like a five
mile walk. I remember. We thought that would be like a great idea.
We didn't have anything to do, and then we got kind of stranded
out there because then it started getting late and the place closed that it's dark,
nobody knew where we were, nobody could track us. We couldn't even
call to say, like, hey, we're stuck out at this pizza place.
I believe that we found like we hitchhiked our way home, like we
found some guys to give us a ride. I can't tell you how many
times. Well I'm not going to say that I could have been like murdered,
which I probably could have, but where I just could have gotten into
like a lot of trouble. Same with me, and now I feel like
I know too much about where my kids are. So I found Glenn and
Mike. They were my lifelong friends because we were Pam and I were at
a bus stop and go see the Karate Kid from Encino all the way to
like I don't know, then turn Sherman Oaks movie theater. We were going
to take the artillery. Yes, the Rapid Transit District bus. We're at
the bus stop and then Glenn and Mike drove by and was like Hong Kong
and they were like high school kids and you guys need a ride, and
that was that. That's how we met. But yeah, we could have
gotten in the car with god knows who. We were just feral kids.
And then I would take the RTT from Encino to West Hills, which is
a good thirty minute drive right at ten o'clock at night while I was in
high school. Yeah, yeah, it's so funny because I'm on this there's
this like Facebook group. Of course, all roads lead back to some crazy
Facebook group with me. There's a Facebook group but I'm not even gonna say
the name of it because it's just like ridiculous. It's not paying for college
one on one. It's like a local Facebook group with like parents in LA
and they're so crazy. They're so crazy. But like one woman was asking
about letting her kid, her like fourteen year old, take the bus in
Santa Monica, which is pretty safe and it's a pretty clean bus service there,
and all these parents people were like, oh, absolutely not. Never.
It's disgusting. They're going to get like killed taking the bus. And
I was like, Jesus, things have changed. I let my kids take
a bus, like if it was in the middle of the day. Yeah,
like sure, like at night? Am I going to let them take
a bus at midnight? No, that's stupid, like luber But like what
like during the day at Santa Monica bus Like people like a lot of parents
have gotten We've gotten very like kids have gotten pretty spoiled. Yeah, oh
yeah, oh yeah, but myself included. I told Xander the other day.
Okay, so Xander last night was meeting some friends at the Glendale at
the Galleria. Yeah, okay, they he and a little group they were,
like five of them were meeting at the gal area to go have sushi.
This is how spoiled kids are these days. I want imagine like when
I was fifteen meeting my friends first sushi? Oh that was what money.
First of all, there wasn't sushi. Now there wasn't sushi for one thing,
right, Like I guess that would entail going fishy, going on a
fishing trip eating fish raw. So no, no, but no, I
know, like are you kidding? We ate at McDonald's, Like that's where
you went out to like, oh, let's go to McDonald's and just order
hash browns because that's all we can afford. Right, do you remember like
just ordering hash browns, Yeah, and being so excited that it was still
the time that they're making the hashbrowns, like, oh it's still morning.
Like we would skip school, go to McDonald's and just be able to affords
like yeah a dollar yeah yeah, yeah yeah, and then play the McDonald's
monopoly game so that you could hopefully win a free order of fries or a
free drink. Right. We used to go. There was McDonald's across street
from our high school. We used to go too. We would sneak Amala,
my friend, her and I. Her mother was a complete I know
the McDonald high school. I forgot that's my neighborhood, it is, right,
and so we eat next to birming anyway, So we would go to
that McDonald's and her and I would split. We would have to like bring
change from home. Oh yeah, the McRib is back, So we would
split a McRib, not even each get one. We only had enough for
one McRib And then we would hide from all of our friends because our friends
be like, let me have a bite. You know those moochers. Let
me have a bite. Let me have a bite. A fuck that ship
you know comes Sanine wants a bite, It's gonna eat the whole thing to
her. And I would like hide behind like the panball courts at school and
eat our half one half of each of a McRib sandwich. Yeah, yeah,
kill like Natalia's going to like sugarfish for I know, I know my
life was nothing like that. My first job everybody knows was that burger king.
You think I took my first paycheck and like went to lunch but no,
But that's how lb Elbi will work like she's making minimum wage at her
job, except for the times that she does like a party and makes good
money, but like and then she and her friends will go out for dinner
to like Korean barbecue and spend like I'm sure she spends like forty bucks on
her meal, right, which, like, okay, good for you.
You can do what you want. It's your money. But I'm just saying,
like, oh my god, I never had that growing up. Never.
I was poor, poor, poor, And even when I was living
on my own, when I was moved to LA and was working two jobs
oh my god, go out for dinner. Are you on crack? Like?
No. We would walk to the store and get bologney. This was
our This was our meals. We would get top ramen, blogey peanut,
a jar peanut butter, and a loaf of bread and then that had to
last us like a week. For me, it was tuna and relish and
tortillas because we would make Suzanne and I lived together and we would make rap
tuna rap with a tortilla and pickles. Yes, that was our That was
our dinner. Or or a bowl of soup, progressive soup or cereal.
That was it. Saying I was working my you know, at a preschool,
well that's saying we had actual jobs. Yeah. I was working at
a movie theater and doing whatever supplies. And then I was tempering no every
time I went to dinners. If somebody took me out on a day money
exactly. And I oftentimes did say yes to dates with guys I didn't like
because I was like, oh my god, they're going to take me to
a real, actual restaurant, right. Oh yeah, these kids, my
kids are living the life. So Xander goes out, goes and meets his
friends well, and I have to drive him there. Of course, I
drive him to the Glendale Galleria. I did. I had to walk him
in. Normally Xander's pretty self sufficient, but it was kind of funny because
he's not used to that mall. That's not a mall that's cursed for our
house that's close closer to you. Yeah, so it's not in the Americana.
It's not the outdoor part it's but it's the indoor part of them all,
which we're not neither of us know all that. Well, so he's
going to this revolving you know, the revolving sushi place. Okay, so
he's going there, So I walk him in there. The other kids,
these are some of his friends, are like homeschooled kids, and they are
a little more independent, like they kind of do stuff on their own.
They're all like around sixteen, so some of them have their license. So
there's this one kid who's the first one there the mom. It's just so
funny the varying degrees some of the kids show up on their own. This
one kid shows up with a mom who's super overprotective. Well who else is
here? Yeah, So I told Zander they were going to go to this
restaurant and then they were going to somebody was going to drive them to a
roller skating rink call like Moonlight k in Glendale. Yeah know it. Well,
okay, So I'm like, I don't know if this place is sketchy.
I don't know what's happenings in a sketchy neighborhood. That's what I thought.
But so I said to Xander, He's like, I don't know how
we're getting there, but I think our friend's mom is going to take us.
So I was like, so, your friend's mom is going to drop
you guys off at dinner and then wait three hours to drive you to the
next place. And he's like, I don't know. I think she asked
she was going to go shopping anyway or something. So I basically said,
why don't you download Uber? You should have Uber on your phone anyway.
I was like, it's just there's a group of you. If it's like
four of you ubering somewhere, that's perfectly safe. And I remember lb ubered
with her friends at that age, yeah, like right before she got our
license. People do. And he was so kind of like, what like
to have that Uber? No? But he no, But he was actually
like a little scared, and I was like, oh my god, this
is just not like we would have figured out a way we would go to
the sketchiest places. I was just remembering times where somebody before I had my
license, where some like older guy uh huh is like drunk and driving me
us around in the van. Oh yeah. And it was like Pam had
that neighbor. He was a guy that lived in the house down the street
and he had a couple of roommates, and she would be like, we're
going to Brad's, Like, let's go to the first time May ever smoked
pot was at his house, and she will go over there and smoke pot.
What Brad Brad. Now I'm looking back, he's like in his thirties
and he's doing like shit construction and he's living in a three bedroom like rental
place down the street from where Pam grew up. And Pam is in sixth
grade, seventh grade, eighth grade, all the way all the way from
sixth grade hanging into high school, hanging out with Brad. And I was
like, does your mom know about Yeah, my mom knows Brad. She's
fine with Brad. She's a single mom. She's never home, right,
she could give a shit what Pam's doing and what her kid friends are doing.
Right, we could have been raped by Brad's roommates, who were a
revolving door of drifters just coming and going, like, Oh, who's this
guy Kevin? I haven't seen him before. He's in like as like drunk
all the time. Brad's given us beer, Brad's getting a stone. We're
high school girls hanging out with a bunch of dudes. I'll never forget it,
like up just up the street, just hanging out with him and like
we go, Brad, We'll I don't know, give you five bucks to
drive it, like once in a while he'll drive us and drop us off.
He never did any funny business with us, but God knows, like
all the people he lived with, who like, we're just teenage girls hanging
out with a bunch of dudes in their thirties. Yeah, and we're in
like junior high in high school. The fuck Pam's mom. Oh yeah,
at fifteen, when I was living in Spokane, Washington, my best friend
lived across the street, single mom, alcoholic. You know, God knows
where you know, I don't know. She was hardly ever home. We
basically lived at her house. Come home after school, we'd go to her
house. We'd listen to music, we'd play our mom's records, and we'd
make pudding and like toast. I remember that, you know. And then
we would just like go have adventures. We would just leave, like go
walk out to the corner, wait for some like guys to come by and
get us go to I mean, I'm just remembering like all the parties we
went to. I was fourteen and fifteen when I was like drinking every weekend.
I didn't we didn't drive there. I recently had to ask her because
I was writing stories about it for my book, and I was like,
how did we get places? And she goes, guys just gave us rides
places, or we would walk. So we would walk to like some park
party or go to a keg party. At fourteen, That's what I was
doing. Yeah, me too, and then just like wandering home, letting
guys just drive us home men and like yeah. And then in Springfield,
mass It was like crazy because we would go to bars. I was sixteen.
We would go to bars and pick up guys that would like then go
right around with them. I just remember have like a visceral memory of a
guy who was drunk, who driven us to some spot and like was trying
to like get me to like touch his penis, you know. And I
was a little pretty prude at sixteen, like, well, I wasn't expecting
this to happen, and he's like, well, I don't know what you
were expecting. Like we've been I was making out with the guy, of
course. Then we're at some park, my friends off with the other guy.
I'm with this guy. He's like trying to put my hand down his
pants and I was like, oh, no, like you know, and
then he stranded us there. Oh of course he did. You're lucky.
That's all he did. Left us there, and then some other guy we
had to like find some guy to drive us home, and we were drunk,
right, and I end up rolling in at like one in the morning,
and I don't know where where were my parents. Nobody was put it
this way, No one ain't nobody like three sixteen me, no exactly even
if it had existed, right, I don't think my parents, Well,
my dad was the only one that was strict, and he tried to keep
me on a street on a tightly when I was younger, when my friend
Wendy lived up the street and her single mom was never around and they had
a Doberman, and my dad's like, no, you're not allowed over there.
So he tried that for a long time. But then once I got
into junior high and I started going to this high school in Van Eyes,
I wasn't coming. Nobody was picking me up. I wasn't getting on the
bus to come home after school. I was just going to my friend Pam's
house who lived right by the school, and then hanging out with her.
And her mom was never around, so my parents my dad was working my
mom's nuts, so nobody. I would just be like, yeah, I'm
at Pam's. I'm gonna spend the night. I would just spend the night
throughout the whole week and just go to school from her house, you know.
Wow. Yeah, I would just hang out, or I would take
the RTD all the way home from Van Eyes to Woodland Hills, which is
right at thirty minute drive. Once in a while my dad would pick me
up on the way home from work, but not and then my mom showed
up once when like all of our black friends were over in a dude and
a towel. We were like playing I told this story and it answers the
door and she's like, oh, let me talk at the lannette. Where's
the lynette? And to pull me out by my hair? Get in the
car. What are you hanging out the these boys in a towel? Get
in the car like wow, yep, I don't have a ride. So
and then here's Xander, scandalized by can you walk me? Yeah? Like
and then he so they go to Midnight skating, the midnight skate place,
and they got there at eight, so he says there's no skating whatever,
They're closed at five. But then they reopen at eight and it's a Sunday
night. So I'm like, this doesn't this is a little weird. So
they're open like maybe eight to eleven or something. And then I'm not hearing
from him. I'm like, John, have you heard from Xander? Like
what time are we picking him up? And he's like, oh, he
said like between ten fifteen and ten thirty. And I'm like, okay,
this place is in a sketchy neighborhood. This does not seem great. I
was like, so you need to get there at before ten fifteen, like
we need to be waiting in the parking lot. I don't want his friends
hit. The one with the overprotective mom is going to have picked up at
like ninety five I go, and then the other ones, like I think
have their own car. I don't want to people. I don't I do
not want to find out that Xander was like standing outside of midnight moonlight bowling
right, moonlight skating, like oh hey right, yeah, no, no,
no, no, no, like getting picked up by some randall.
I was like, we need to be there early, so we did he
and he got picked up, but then I was like tracking, I make
sure that John got there on time. This is my anxiety. And do
you think it's because I just have anxiety or do you think it has to
do with like how we were raised and thinking about all the ways that I
escaped bad things happening, Like I think it's a mixture of both. Sure,
Like I watched these mysteries like oh, you know, Shannon was in
her twenties and she was going to college, but then she would go to
bars and blah blah blah like in the eighties, and now she just went
missing. I'm thinking that could have been me. Oh yeah, that could
have been Pam, Like she was just doing what I was doing. She's
the unlucky one I had somehow got lucky. God, thank God. Right,
you never know, I mean. And also not to mention all the
drunk driving we did with Glenn and Mike, like nobody we never got an
accident, Like it was insane. Yeah, and now kids are like,
oh, you know, nobody drives drunk, thank God, Like it's a
whole thing, like, oh, they're so careful. Yeah. I just
did not give a fuck, right, We just I thought I was really
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so I have like so much volunteering stuff coming up, I might have bitten
off a little more than I can chew. Yeah, I've got back to
school night, which I'll tell you guys about next week. But that's that's
two nights this week because one night is for my kids grade. But then
the other night, since I'm in charge of like this breakfast, I have
to go and speak to everybody to let them know that there's opportunities for the
sign up, encouraging parents to sign up. The thing is that this is
just it's not my personality, but yet somehow, like you know, I'm
not a go getter. I promise I'm not. But then it's like you
sort of like say yes to stuff and then you get your then you're kind
of locked in, right, and then I am I am interested, like
I do want to help, but then you realize that so many people don't
help, right, But then you feel like, oh, well now I
well I don't want to just leave it up to these two ladies right to
do everything. Yeah, and also you know there's something to it because it's
you know, the kids are getting older and pretty soon you're not going to
have any schools to have to volunteer for. I know, I'm trying to
remember that. I'm kind of savor that. Yeah, just keep that in
mind. I really am. I know we've talked about this even just a
couple of episodes ago, but I used to just feel that thing of like
when people were like, don't miss it, you're missing it. They grow
up so fast, I'd be like, shut up, they can't grow up
fast enough for me right now. But I really am at that age where
I'm like, I really am going to try to enjoy every minute that my
kids are still home. And if I know you are right there, like
this is it, Like this is when they're home. This is when like
Sadie and Xanders still want to spend time with me, elbe very sporadically right,
But when she does, I snatch that time up. I'm like,
oh, you want to go get some Like she'll come home from lunch for
lunch, She'll come home from school and she'll be hungry, and I'm always
like, you want to go to lunch because she usually does because she's hungry,
right, I wants her mom to buy her a meal, So like
that's where that's how I get her. Yeah, I'm like, oh,
and then she I will go to CPK or we'll go to like you know,
one time, first day of school, I took her to sushi because
I was like, because that's when she's going to download her day to me
and give me exactly and I eat it up now I know, I rell
it every minute. I'm like, oh my god, I'm hanging out with
my daughter. She still wants to hang with me. Yes, And then
because then she's gone, Like once we get home, she's like, okay,
she's off in the room. Then she's with friends, and then she
doesn't. She will come in sit on my bed in my room and like
download a little bit of her day to me. But then it's like she's
then she's like, all right, she's calves here. Yeah. Then she's
out out. But Sadie and Xander, and then Xander is like if I
can catch him and go like, hey, you want to watch a movie,
you know, he'll be like all right, yeah, sure. We
started watching this show that was about twenty somethings. Uh. It was so
stupid and I can't remember what it's called. It was on Netflix. It's
like about these twenty somethings and they take them. They're they're like spoiled kids.
Oh is it reality? Reality? They make them live out and they
go out to like the wilderness and it's like two military guys. They're like,
we're gonna Oh god, it's so bad. It's so stupid. But
Xander was like, should we should we watch this? And we're both kind
of laughing at it. It's just very over the top and very fake and
all they're all trying to get Like you could tell every contestant they're pretending that
they didn't know what they were signing up for, that their parents signed them
up for something, and like they'll be like, oh, there's gonna be
like so cooked. They're like, oh, there's gonna be a luxury house.
There's gonna be a really cool house with like a pool. Wait a
minute, where are we? This is crazy. And then they do this
thing where they pretend to blow up their luggage. You're go into your luggage
and take like just two essentials or whatever, and then they blow up their
luggage and Xanders like that would never happen. They sue them, so Xander's
like, that's just empty luggage. So anyway, but I'm like, Okay,
well we could watch something else, and he's like, nah's gonna go
in my go in my room and play guitar right him, I had my
opportunity for them with Italia. I'm like, okay, let's watch something.
So then we start, like we started watching she never saw the the Netflix
show on the True Story Anna Oh Anna and a delv Yeah, and I'm
like, you're gonna love it. You're gonna love it. So we start
watching that, and you know, and a lot of it is not Anna
doesn't really show up right away, so it's more based on the reporter and
she's pregnant and it's her like life too, so Natalia is like, well,
where's the girl? Like I liked it when they showed her, and
then she's gone, and then she was like and then she she was like,
wait, hold on, pose it and pose it and she's on her
phone. She's like, I'm just gonna go in my room. And I
was like, oh yeah, remember when I had that with I'll Be with
the Bling Ring. I got her interested in the Bling Ring and because somehow
we were talking about it, and then John's like, you know, there's
like a show about that, and then i'll Be was like, oh there
was, and then you're like you take that little moment of interest. Yeah,
let's watch it right now, free, right now. And then she
ended up finishing it like in her own room, right, same see,
I know, and like Sonny, I, you know, every I was
looking forward every Wednesday I would go get him, drive him to the studio,
wait for him he'd be done with this podcast, then drive him home
and then we would have that whole time of driving there, driving back every
week and he would and it was always on a Wednesday, after I was
alone at the condos. So I was like, oh, I haven't seen
him in a few days, so he can, you know, tell me
what's going on. And now I don't have that anymore because he's driving himself
to work. Yeah, I hate it. Things definitely changed when Elby got
her license. It it really did change. They get very independent and because
you look forward tod them. You know, Natali is always like you want
to go with me to the workout, and I'm like, I'll go drop
you off and then I'll come back and get you when your class is over,
right once in, you know, I'll take the class with her.
But if I'm feeling like but she's just always like wanting to work out a
little too much for me. But but yeah, I mean it's like those
so now like she's got all this downtime with their wisdom teeth. Well,
I'm enjoying it. Like she made a bed in the living room, so
she's just there and then like I'll sit next to her for a little bit
and then she's like Griffin's coming over. I'm like, okay, I'll get
up, you know. But I do have to say, since Elby doesn't
have a boyfriend anymore, I definitely see her more. I Mean there were
times where she was gone for like forty eight hours, yeah, you know,
and I was just like, uh, she's like she moved out.
Yeah, and now she's at least she's home every single night, you know.
And that gives me some like kind of a secure feeling because a lot
of her friends are I mean, it's interesting when like she used to sleep
at friend's houses a lot, like her my friend Cecily, her friend Ava,
like was the kid who had the kids sleep at our house all the
time. We're the house where like Sadie and Xander's her friends come over a
lot, and we used to be that kind of a hub. But her
friend Ava was the one that, like when they went out somewhere, they
all crashed at Ava's house. She was an only child, and parents are
cool and friends of mine, so they'd all like they had places for them
to like crash on the couch and whatever. So but that was kind of
earlier high school, I would say, up to like maybe even halfway.
I would say, that kind of stopped when she got a job, right,
they didn't hang out as much in that group, so then she would
be at home. But then once she had a serious boyfriend, and then
she'd sometimes be at his house. And so now it's been a long time
since she was like every night at home. There's something like nice about that
that my friends are all like missing their kids at college, and I'm like,
whoop, I don't know. I don't know what that's like. That's
nice home. Yeah, and I get to take well, old is gonna
be gone. She's gonna be her daughter's you know, getting induced as speak.
Oh now like right now, oh Friday. Yeah, so she's uh,
I think the baby I'll be here by the time this airs for sure.
Wow. Okay, So she's gonna be gone, and so I'll be
hopefully over at you know, with Natalia Moore and driving her to you know,
to work and back and all that stuff. And then she gets her
license in October. Yeah, she's taking her classes very soon. Yeah yeah,
so all right, Yeah, should we do some shit shouts? Yeah,
shout some people out. We got The Family Skeptical. It's a podcast
about raising your kids without religion. You know, if you're any stripe of
nonbeliever, you're welcome listening to their podcast. You know, find your people,
find other people that are not raising their kids in a religious home and
feel normal about it. So The Family Skeptical. Also, Kelly has Willman
Frieda saw a post on Facebook from some podcast listeners that went there and asked
for their free mimosa. Nice. I love that they were at Wilman Frieda
this week. Love to hear that. Love that place. They have the
best food. I'm my mouth is watering thinking about that salmon right now.
I need to we need to go back there and have analie do. That
would be fun. Yeah all right. So and then also as always every
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