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Today? We are going to continuously because we've talked about it before,
dive into hookup culture. Now, I've talked about the energetic side effects of
energetic transference when it comes to hookup culture. So if you do want to
learn more about that, I will link that episode In the show notes.
We're going to talk about more of the three D effect of how hookup culture
can really block us from opening the doors that we want to enter through.
We're also going to discuss a recent study that came out by Morgan Stanley that
said, by twenty thirty, forty five percent of women twenty five to forty
four will be single and childless. What does this mean for us? Is
it even true? Where are they getting this information? And so much more?
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All the links will be in the show notes, and without further ado,
let's get into today's episode. Yesterday, I was watching a YouTube video about
this guy who said he's been waiting on God for weeks, months, years
to open certain doors for him that he feels have been closed. And when
he said he's been waiting on the Lord to open doors, my physical door
in my room closed itself and I thought, okay, what was that now?
And immediately what downloaded into my body is that? And it's something that's
quite obvious, I think, but for whatever reason, it was reinstated within
me, which was that you have to close And I'm getting goosebumps. Right
now, you have to close the doors that aren't meant for you so you
can walk and enter into the halls that we're designed for you. So many
of us, I believe, continuously engage in hookup culture because it scratches a
three D itch of Well, I don't want to feel alone. Well,
I don't want to have to face the fact that I don't have that many
friends right now. Well, I don't want to have to face the fact
that I don't like where my career is right now. Well, I don't
want to have to face these dark, scary emotions. So what am I
gonna do. I'm gonna shove it down by distracting myself with someone else.
In the three D we are using hookup culture as a way to run from
our darkness. But anything we run from is going to chase us. We
cannot outrun our darkness. It is like a shadow and it will follow you
into every room that you go into. You want to heal your darkness.
You want to bring your darkness into the light. You gotta dance with your
darkness. You have to date your darkness. You gotta look at your darkness
in the face. You cannot run from it. And we've talked about the
energetic side effects of energetic sexual transference that comes with being intimate with random strangers.
When you're intimate with someone, it's like bluing two pieces of paper together
and then trying to rip it apart. Energetically, it gets messy. You
take on some of their trauma, some of their demons, some of their
emotions, and you give up a lot of your energy, and then you
think you're missing them, you're obsessed with them, but really you're missing the
energy you gave up to them. Hook Up culture, to me, is
very much wounded masculine. It's thinking from our ego. And when I see
a lot of us doing with hook up culture is we're making panic decisions.
I can't feel this right now. I have to go talk to Brad.
Oh my god, I don't want to face this feeling of loneliness. Oh
my god, I'm going through a breakup. I just need to go out
there. I need to do this. I need to do that. And
we're delay leading ourselves of our sacral energy. Our sacral energy is sexual energy
and creative energy. Because sexual energy is creative energy. Think about how a
baby is made. There we go. Sexual energy and creative energy both come
from our sacral chakra. Imagine what we could be doing with this energy if
we weren't wasting it on Brad, Tom and Jerry. Imagine we're making panic
decisions from our ego. That isn't serving us. It is not serving us
to be sharing our energy with everyone taking on their trauma, and then we're
still feeling terrible. If you're going out every single week and you're participating in
hookup culture and you're realizing, you know what, I really don't even feel
good, that is just a sign it's time to make a change. One
thought form that I've experienced since my breakup and I have felt in my body
that was from my ego was well, if he's going out, if he's
talking to other people, if he's doing this, why I have to do
it too. And so I was forcing myself to go out every single weekend.
I was forcing myself to have the drink, to go out to the
bar, to go out here, to see more people. And you know
what, there's a reason I didn't have a podcast episode last week. It's
because I got sick because my body was so run down, and I literally
thought to myself. The only way I'll have peace staying in is if I'm
literally sick, because then I know I can't physically go out. And what
happened is my body listened to me, hello, strep throat, and I
stayed in because I got sick. We cannot be living from our ego and
expect to feel fulfilled because your ego, it wants to make itself surface level
happy. It wants to make itself feel safe, but really what it's doing
is focusing on its three D survival and it has no concern for what's actually
good for you. My ego wanted me to feel surface level happiness by go
out, Go see more people, go on more dates, go talk to
more people. My ego was telling me I had to keep doing more and
more and more and more, and my heart was hurting. It's like,
whoa, you were just in a seven year relationship. Maybe you need to
slow down, regardless of what your ex is choosing to do, regardless of
what anyone else is doing. Maybe you need to slow down. But my
ego didn't want that. My ego wanted to rush. It wanted the noise.
It wanted to just be in fog because that's where it was comfortable.
It didn't want to look at what my heart really needed, what my intuition
really needed. I felt myself getting more and more and more deplete, and
I wasn't even engaging in hookup culture. I wasn't being intimate with these people.
But just the act of going out and talking and sharing your energy can
be really depleting. I was wasting my own energy because I was living from
my ego. Is listening to my ego, And if you're out here,
out there, wherever you are, if you're thinking to yourself keyword thinking,
I have to do this, I have to do that, and you're so
tired, you need to take a step back, you need to rein it
back in. I think a lot of the time we are trying to leave
so many doors open because we're afraid to feel alone. We're afraid to face
our feelings. And that's our ego talking. We're trying to have all these
fish on the hook when we need to put the hook down so we can
actually walk in the direction that's going to truly fulfill us. E wanted me
to keep going out, keep distracting myself, but my intuition is saying Cecie.
You want fulfillment, Go talk to God, go to the harbor,
go read a book. You need to stay in. You need to reconnect
with yourself. This external experience that your ego is chasing is not helping you.
It's not doing anything for you. I think when we try to hook
ourselves into hookup culture, and you know what's so interesting hook up culture.
We get hooked by hookup culture and it's almost like we're actually the fish on
hookup culture's hook. It's like hookup culture is actually a living, breathing entity,
and once it hooks us in, we end up getting a world of
pain because we end up falling for the wrong people. We end up exchanging
energy with lower vibrational people, We end up staying in things for too long.
We end up talking to people who don't really value us, and that's
why they're rushing us into the bedroom. You want a man to really want
to pursue you, well, then he won't be rushing you into the bedroom
because he knows we'll have plenty of time to get there. Okay, hookup
culture ends up hooking us, and then we no longer even know how to
use our free will because we get so emotionally entangled with people that we can't
think straight. We waste our energy, we waste our time, We waste
so much, so much emotion on the wrong people too. It's like we're
wasting our heart energy as well. I think that a lot of us are
actually making our life more difficult and we're getting in God's way. We're getting
in God's way. I really do believe it. Like naturally attracts. Like
if you're looking at all the people you're attracting and you're like, this is
terrible, you have to look at your own vibration and say, well,
what am I bringing to the table energetically that might be affording me these results.
A lot of us have forgotten about the principle of cause and effect.
We are not just aimlessly floating in this energetic universe. A lot of what
is happening in our life is happening because we're at cause and we're creating some
sort of effect. If you are going out every single weekend, you're drinking
yourself into a slumber, you are being intimate with everyone and their father,
Well, what kind of energy do you think you're going to attract? Because
those actions holds energy action is thought reinforced. What is thought but energy.
A lot of the time we're using hookup culture as a distraction, but then
the hookup culture ends up hooking us, and then we get in our own
damn way. We get in the way of our divine plan, we get
in the way of our energy, and then we just end up depleting ourselves
of it. I saw someone paraphrase a Bible quote and it was inspired by
Romans six twelve to sixteen, and what they wrote was be wary of hookup
culture. Lust is deceptive, a clouds your judgment and can make you think
someone is for you when really they're a temptation from the enemy. You will
not be able to find your spouse if you're consumed by lust and passion for
people who are not meant for you. I want to take this up a
notch. It's gonna be really hard to be emotionally available if you keep getting
hooked by hookup culture. If you're looking for your life partner, you can't
keep opening the door to people who can't give you that. If you're looking
for your life partner, you can't keep opening the door to people who only
want to bring you into the bedroom. If you are looking for your life
partner, you can't keep opening the door to people who you feel like you
have to manipulate yourself so they'll like you. Newsflash, But the person for
you, you're not gonna have to manipulate yourself. For your higher self and
their higher self, the person that is meant for you already knows you,
and that other person exists. Your higher selves already know one another. They're
already trying to connect the dots. Don't make it harder for their higher self
and your higher self to connect the two of you. Don't make it harder
for your higher self and their higher self to bring you towards one another.
Because you keep opening doors to lower vibrational people that are hurting you. You
have to realize you have so much more power than what you're using, and
you have to be the one to close the door on people who aren't serving
you so that you can allow the door that you actually want to open to
become unlocked. Because before you can even open that door, you got to
get the energetic key. And how are you supposed to get the energetic key
to your life partner when you're having all these doors open to people who are
just feeding on your energy. Now that I'm talking about this on this podcast,
it has dawned on me that hookup culture is an egregor. Let me
explain what that means. In agregor is a concept from occultism and mysticism that
refers to a thought entity formed by a group of people shared beliefs, emotions,
worship, and intentions. It is believed that when a group of people
come together with a shared purpose, they can create a powerful energy field that
takes on a life of its own. I want you to think about the
holiday season. I want you to think about Christmas. For example. So
many people have thoughts and intentions about what Christmas is. They think about Santa
claus presence, and every year around Christmas time there is a special magic in
the air that many of us feel. It's because Christmas in itself is an
a Even if someone doesn't believe in Santa Claus per se, Christmas feels like
a magical time because so many people are putting their energy towards it that Christmas
itself becomes a living, breathing, energetic entity. Hook Up culture is an
energetic entity. To me, It is living, It is breathing, and
once hookup culture gets its claws into you and hooks you in. It controls
you. You are not in control of yourself. Once you become involved in
this hookup culture, you start making decisions where you think to yourself. You're
probably not thinking at all at that point, but you might be thinking to
yourself as an afterthought, why did I do that? Oh, I didn't
mean to do that. That was not intentional. It's not intentional living.
It's making panic decisions based on our ego or this entity is truly just moving
through us, is how I really do see it. Everyone is so obsessed
with detachment, and honestly, for what purpose, I don't know. I
understand you don't want to be attached to random strangers at the bar. You
don't want to be attached to an outcome, you don't want to be attached
to a future scenario. But you also have to understand that our attachment system
to other individuals is a strength that we got from survival of the fittest.
Our attachment system has been passed down to us from our ancestors. It is
not a weakness. Everyone is so afraid to actually have an attachment to another
individual in a real, lasting relationship that everyone's just running to hook up culture.
What are we actually aiming for? I don't know. And if you
are to say, well, I want to have fun, okay? Is
taking on other people's demons fun for you, because I don't find that that
exciting. Is living unintentionally that exciting and fun to you because I don't find
it as such. Is making panic decisions from your ego because you're actually trying
to outrun your pain fun for you because I don't think it is. And
yeah, I'm gonna be real with you. You might not even realize why
you're doing what you're doing, and that's why I'm here to point out your
blind spots. I think a lot of hookup culture is the illusion of choice.
When you will go on to Netflix, there's an illusion that there's so
many different things to pick from, but what do we all pick from the
top ten? There's an illusion that there's an abundance of choice, but yet
we're all watching the same thing because we end up just going with whatever Netflix
is recommending. The illusion of choice makes people feel like they have such a
wide range of choices, when in reality the choices are somewhat limited or not
as much as a thought or somehow predetermined. I think this happens with dating
apps a lot of the time. There's so many people you can just swipe,
swipe, swipe, swipe through that people have this illusion of, well,
there's always gonna be someone better, There's always gonna be someone better,
There's always gonna be someone better. And partly, yes, if you're in
a bad relationship, of course there's someone better. But to think that no
one is ever good enough, well, you're just polarizing to the opposite end
of the spectrum. And we have to find the dow the middle way where
we recognize. I suppose that there could always be someone better, but who
is a person I actually feel a connection with. If something doesn't feel like
peace to you, get out. I said this before, but at the
end of the day, do whatever you want. I'm just I'm just a
life and energy coach, and I'm sharing what I know to be true and
what I believe. You have free will, though, so you really get
to do whatever the heck you want you do. I would invite you,
if you have been participating in hookup culture, to just try something different,
to try something different. I don't think that hookup culture gives people peace.
Based on what I've seen with my friends, based on what I've seen with
my clients, based on what I see on social media, I don't find
that women specifically are finding peace and hookup culture. Yet we're allowing ourselves to
engage with it. And at that point you really do need to hold yourself
accountable and be like, oh, well, I'm the one participating in this.
If I don't want to, that would mean I would have to stop.
I think we also need to understand that we have a limited view.
We talk about this a lot. If I was colorblind and you weren't,
I would have to trust you to know more about the colors in this reality
because I was limited. If we are limited by what we can see for
our future, shouldn't we be trusting the all knowing eyes, ears, and
energy that is God? Think about it. Think about it. We also
need to touch on this study that came out that said forty five percent of
twenty five to forty four year olds will be single and childless by twenty thirty
and the reason they gave for this is because single women are expected to grow
one point two percent annually in the workplace from twenty eighteen to twenty thirty,
compared with point eight percent for the overall population. So they're saying that more
women are becoming financially stable on their own, more of them are entering the
workplace, so therefore they're not looking to have families and children. I don't
know how accurate this study is. Number one, Number two, This is
not a reality we have to subscribe to. Just because a statistic or a
study says something doesn't mean you have to become a part of a statistic.
That's number two. Number three. There's also studies, if we really want
to talk about studies that show that in general, men are happier in a
relationship and women are less happy in relationships because women usually take on more of
the household labor. We're doing more of the cooking and the cleaning, the
laundry, and so women's happiness tend to decrease, whereas a man's happiness tends
to increase. So how do we bridge these studies that are happening? What
do we think? Where do we go from this? A bunch of you
were talking about this study, weren't wanting me to talk about it, So
here are my thoughts. And then I'm going to go into the questions that
you guys sent in. So first of all, I would be curious to
know, well, how many men are going to be single and childless as
well. I don't know why we're just talking about women. I would like
to know about men as well. Number two, I think this is part
two a reaction from our parents. I mean, my mom was a stay
at home mom, and she always told me, make sure you have your
own income. She also says, you'll probably want to be a stay at
home mom eventually too, but she always instilled in me make sure you have
something that's just your own. Judge Duty says the same thing. If you
want to be free on planet Earth, you do have to have some sort
of financial stability in order to do that. So I think that we saw
a lot of women feeling trapped because they didn't have any sort of income.
They had no way of getting out of a marriage if they wanted to,
if it was not a healthy situation. So I think from fear, a
lot of us are like, oh god, well I need to make sure
that I have my own income and I'm doing this and that. So that
could be part of it. I think another part of it is that we're
living still in a very masculine, ego wounded society where people are prioritizing ego
things such as money and cars and homes. And don't get me wrong,
you guys know, I am a woman who likes the finer things in life.
I will never lie about that. I definitely do like the finer things
in life. So I'm not here to knock anybody's hustle. I think,
though, we have to rein it in a little bit, because feminism started
out as something that was really great. We need equal rights, we need
to have the ability to vote. If I'm doing the same job as a
man, I should be paid the same wage. However, as with most
movements, they get taken and molded into something else for someone else's agenda,
and that is what happened with feminism as well. They now are saying,
if you want to beat the man, become more like him. And I
don't want to be equal to a man. I personally want to be treated
better. That is my truth. So what I think is that a lot
of us, why would this study even happen. I think a lot of
us are moving from our ego. Maybe a lot of us are prioritizing our
career because our parents, our mothers, were like, prioritize your career,
so you're not stuck. I think a lot of us at our unfortunately we
don't actually know what's going to make us happy. And people are telling us
a career will make you happy, and then we get the career, and
then we're like, oh no, actually this isn't what I want. What
I want as a family, I want to be a mom, I want
to stay at home. So what is my answer? My answer is,
you can't just let feminism or culture hookup culture me. You can't let people
tell you what it is you truly want. You have to be a cognizant,
conscious, aware human being. You need to wake up. You can't
just listen to the voices out there that are saying, actually in either direction,
really that oh you're twenty five and you're not engaged. Oh god,
you're lost, you better get married tomorrow. We shouldn't listen to that.
And we also shouldn't listen to you better get that career, you get better
get that bag. It's just everyone's saying something. Everyone has an opinion,
and you know what, no one knows what's best for you besides you.
So you need to get quiet with yourself. You need to go inward.
You need to find out what's truly going to make you happy. Maybe you
go to college and you start out in a career and you're like, you
know what, I actually don't want to do this. Okay, you will
find your husband better yet, he will find you. That's another thing I've
realized. I was thinking after my relationship, like, Okay, I'm gonna
go find my husband now. And now after two months, I have now
realized I am not going to find my husband. He can find me.
I will be resting on my pedestal. Let me know. Anyway. My
point is we can't let these external voices tell us what to do because they're
getting in our head and then our ego is driving us. Oh, you
have to be the top of your chain at whatever corporate ladder that I can't
even talk corporate. Did you hear that sentence that made no sense? Oh
my god. Okay, what I was trying to say is you have to
climb that corporate ladder or you have to get married tomorrow. Oh my god,
can everyone shut up? Shut up? Shut up, everyone, shut
up. I can't take it. I can't take it because in my life
I've heard both voices and they're both this same They're coming from the same vein.
They're just opposite sides of the spectrum. But either way, it's mumbo
jumbo. No one can tell me what's best for me. I know what's
best for me. I have to find my path, just like you have
to find your own path too. I don't care whether you want to be
at the top of a corporate ladder or you want to nurse fifteen thousand children.
Either way, good luck. Okay, that's what I think. But
what I want for you is that you actually find out what it is you
truly want, not what people are telling you that you should want. Because
feminism is gonna say you need to be in at the top of that corporate
ladder, and then your aunts and uncles are gonna tell you you need to
get married tomorrow, maybe your parents too, So you need to figure out
Wait a second, hmm, what do I actually want. I can tell
you my life does not look like anyone that I know. I don't know
anyone else personally in my life who's creating content. Oh, I do know
one person, but I really don't know many people who are creating content in
the way that I'm doing, living life how I'm living. I don't know
anyone who's in a relationship for seven years and then decience to go through and
break up instead of getting married. I don't know, but you know what,
I know it's right for me and that's what matters. So don't compare
yourself to Stacy and Rachel. You need to be asking yourself what is it
that I really want? And then you need to create quiet silence for yourself
to actually find out what it is you do want. You might have to
date yourself. You might have to take yourself to new places, try new
hobbies and activities, read new books, get involved with different thought forms and
systems. You might have to put yourself out there to find you so you
can find what's going to make you happy. And sometimes we have to start
out with what doesn't make us happy. Anytime I want to order food but
I don't know what I want, I'll start with what I definitely don't want.
Well, I don't want steak, and I don't want tacos. Maybe
I'll get this caesar salad. You know, start with what you don't want
and that will also help you clarify what you do want. Contrast leads to
clarification. Okay, let's get into some of the questions that you have asked.
One positive bitch asked, if a guy just wanted to hook up but
you don't, is it okay to ghosts? Do they need an explanation why?
And she also asked how to stop feeling bad for ghosting someone that just
wanted to hook up. So I think if you're not talking on a daily
basis and they're just trying to bring you into the bedroom, there's nothing wrong
with just unplugging and saying I'm done. Not everyone deserves an explanation of why
you have to leave their life, because a lot of them won't be able
to receive it anyway and are committed to misunderstanding you. If you have a
friendship with this person, if you have a real relationship with this person and
you talk about your fears and your anxieties and you're talking every single day,
well then I would say, hey, look, this isn't working for me
because you only want to be intimate with me and I want a real relationship
and just be like I'm not interested. But if that is not the case,
and you talk only when he wants to hook up. You don't owe
that person an explanation. You can just unplug. I don't think that's ghosting.
I think that's repositioning yourself or a happier present and future. Do you
think the study is because a lack of feminine energy. I think it's a
lack of consciousness. It's a lack of being connected to ourselves, over reliance
on our ego and yeah, being in our wounded masculine chasing the wrong thing.
I listen sometimes to podcasts and there's definitely people out there chasing the wrong
thing. The money they're trying to flex on Instagram. I mean, vomit
vomit city that I that's not my vibe. I do think people are chasing
the wrong thing because I don't think anyone has been truthful to them on how
they can find their own happiness. Happiness is for everyone, probably comes in
many different shapes and sizes. I don't think it's a one size fits all.
Some people are happy working at the top of a corporate ladder and that's
what they want to do, and some people are happy working on a farm.
Some people are happy being a teacher. Some people are happy just staying
at home. I'm not here to tell you how to be happy, but
I will invite you to find out how to connect to yourself so you can
find your own definition of happiness. And that's really what this comes down to.
And it was just two to two on my timer. Someone said men
collectively need to step it up right because we know are worth more now.
That is definitely I believe part of this as well. We need to stop
engaging in hookup culture so we are not under the veil of confusion and emotion.
We need to be in control of our own minds and hearts. And
the way to do that is to create space from hookup culture and instead that
connect to ourselves because again, we can't be connected to ourselves and door opened
on ourselves if we have doors open to Tom, Jerry and Brad. We
need to be focused here to hear ourselves. So when you unplug from hookup
culture, you're actually plugging into yourself, and that means plugging into your future
self. That means plugging into your potential, plugging into God. I think
that because women now have more opportunity in ways that they haven't in the past,
we are higher on the corporate ladder, we can make more money,
we have more financial freedom. Now we're thinking to ourselves, well, yeah,
I want a guy who's equal to me or maybe above me, can
inspire me or above me in different ways where you can teach each other different
things. You might know things he doesn't, he will know things you don't,
and you can inspire one another. But I definitely think men do need
to step it up. I feel like women are the most powerful things on
this planet. I've really do, and I think that if women stop allowing
men to just get what they want in the bedroom, they would step it
up. So, actually, if we want men to step it up,
what if we just took total responsibility and said, I'm no longer going to
allow you to have all these pieces of me without giving me something that I
truly desire. Because you know, I am not one to give up my
power, and I'm not one to tell you that we are just powerless.
I'm not one to say, oh, it's the men's fault. No,
it's all of our faults. Let's all wake up. What is anybody doing
anymore? I truly don't know. We all need to wake up. It's
everybody's fault. And if everyone takes total responsibility over what they're doing, image
imagine the world we could live in. I'm never gonna blame a gender for
all of life's problems. That makes no sense. Uh, And any person
who does that, they're wrong and they're talking from the ego themselves. Okay,
someone said this scares me. Honestly, I want to have more babies
and I want to be a wife in my lifetime. God's timing. Look.
Oh, I just got goosebumps from that, because I think that when
I went through my breakup, I was thinking to myself, Oh, I'm
twenty six. I have to like find my husband right now. I gotta
get on this because in three years, if it takes that long to date
and then we want to get married, and then I'll be in my early
thirties. There's definitely that narrative that's out there for sure. And that was
my ego talking. And I've now realized God's timing number one. But number
two, I've missed my own energy and like it makes me almost very emotional.
I'm like, it makes me almost as I am about to pour out.
It makes me emotional how much I've missed me truly like I missed.
And in relationships, men do feed on our energy and that's not a bad
thing that that is just something that happens in relationships. And I've missed pouring
into myself for sure, and I've missed being able to really just focus on
me. And then those fears came into my head too, of like oh
my god, twenty six, next year, twenty seven, Oh my god,
and like you know, I get the narrative, but for me,
that narrative quickly I killed it right away. And the reason I killed it
was because then I remembered, wait a second, God doesn't play jokes on
his daughters. There's divine timing for everything. You can't force your baby to
come out at three months if it wants to come out at nine months.
You have to understand that we are one with nature, and just like nature
has seasons, so do wait. We have divine time. I'm being at
play in our life, and if we are trying to fight against it,
we're just gonna get frustrated and possibly delay it. So instead of engaging in
hookup culture or for me personally, not hookup culture, but instead of going
out every weekend, forcing myself to go out and see people when I don't
even want to. I'm listening to my body more than ever now and saying
no, If I want to just stay in and watch Bridgerton, That's what
I'm gonna do. If I want to stay in and just do a meditation,
That's what I'm gonna do. I know that divine timing is at play
in my life. I know that I have different seasons, and I really
do feel for me this is a season of growing and developing and really leaning
into myself and pouring into myself. I might never have this time again where
my main responsibility is just me. You might never have that chance and opportunity
that your main responsibility is just you either, So why don't we take advantage
of this? I will say, I think that participating in hookup culture does
delay us because we get an entanglements, then we might have to work out
karma. Then we're getting emotionally involved with people who we shouldn't be emotionally involved
with because they can never give us what we wanted. And they said that
to us, but we thought we could convince them to change, but really
we can't because they already know what they want. So yeah, Why do
people care so much about others? Why can't they just be happy and live
their own life? I mean period, most people aren't happy, and that's
why they're so consumed with other people and what they're doing, because they're bored.
How can I smooth my nervous system? My heart is racing so much.
If you're having a season of anxiety, take your dominant hand and massage
the back of your neck. This will help tone your vagus nerve. It's
called vagel massaging or vegas massaging, and it will help relax our nervous system.
Do more journaling, do more meditation, and do energetic transmutation where you
are taking these lower vibrational emotions, and create beauty, create art, sing
dance, make a poem, whatever it is you want to do. What
to do? If I'm so so afraid I'll never find my soulmate, it's
hard for me to bond with people. Everyone should read my books show up
as her, but also the book called Only Love Is Real by doctor Brian
Weis because it is so amazing and it really reminds you that your love that
is meant to come into your life will come into your life. But focus
on you in the meantime, focus on your healing in the meantime, focus
on building yourself up in the meantime. Moral of the story is, we
don't have to subscribe to a reality we don't want to exist within. So
if you're thinking, well, I don't want to be single and childless in
that year, Okay, what do we actually do? Number one? I
want you to make a list of the kind of partner you want. Not
only do I want you to write down how they are. I want you
to write down how they make you feel. So maybe you write they're into
fitness, they have a relationship with God. And then you're gonna write how
they make you feel. They make me feel loved, they make me feel
safe, they make me feel seen, They're happy to be with me.
They put me first. Okay, so you're gonna make a list because we
need to know what we want. Secondly, I want you to look at
this list. Does it sound like you and be honest with yourself. You
want them to have a relationship with God. But do you are we reading
that Bible? Are we going into nature? Are we connecting to God?
Are we doing our meditation? Are we journaling? Are we sounding like our
list because like does attract like. I don't like to think that we're just
waiting for our person to come into our life, and I don't want to
think that we're looking for them either. I like to think, let's live
because we incarnated here to live, we incarnated here to have a purpose and
a potential. Let's know what we want. But in the meantime, let's
become our own dream girl. And if you become your own dream girl,
that vibration is going to pull in your dream partner. I was thinking the
other day. Right now, I'm doing a lot of healing. I'm doing
a lot of reflecting. I'm doing a lot of releasing and purging, not
just from this lifetime, but other lifetimes as well. I'm sure of it.
And if I were to align with someone right now, it wouldn't be
a person I would ultimately want to be with because I am not where I
want to be energetically, because I'm going through another transition. Just think about
it. Are you where you want to be? Do you feel like you
are at a point in your life where your mind is where you want it
to be, Your health is where you want to to be, your home
is where you want it to be. Your career is where you want it
to be. If not, those are all lovely things that you can pour
into. Those are things that you can strengthen within yourself. I know that
we have all we all have things we could focus on if we really wanted
to. I know we all have things that we could pour into if we
really wanted to. But most of us are like, no, I'll just
ignore that and I'll just get a partner to distract me. Maybe a partner
would be a distraction from what you actually need to do in this season.
What is this season inviting you to do? I think that when we take
our present moment and we just juice it up and live within it, that
is being in our divine, feminine energy. That is being in our attracting
energy. That is us truly being on our pedestal. And when we look
at what this season is offering us and we say, you know what,
I finally have the time to do what it is I want to do around
my house, or I finally have the time to write that book or write
that song. I finally have the time to reconnect with my friends, or
work on my spirituality or my relationship with God, that is what we ought
to be doing. That is what we're being invited to do. The present
moment oftentimes has a really good idea of what we need, and that's why
it's offering it to us. The present moment is extending some energetic invitation to
you. But what are you doing trying to think about something that is not
here just yet? I think that when you lean into your present, you
end up having so much fun. The time flies and then that next future
moment comes and you get whatever it is you want. Have your list of
what you want, but also have a list of what you want to work
on right now, what you want to strengthen, what you want to build
up and pour into in your own life. I know I say this a
lot, but at the end of the day, people come in our life,
people will leave our life. At the end of the day, we
just have ourselves to go to sleep with ourselves, wake up with ourselves,
eat with ourselves. We have to be in our body every damn day.
Are you building a body and a life you actually enjoy existing within? And
when you feel the loneliness, when you feel the boredom, when you feel
the sadness, those are not things to run from and plug into hookup culture
with Those are things to feel into in that present moment. Those emotions are
inviting you to feel them out and wring them out like a towel so you
can heal. Don't let these emotions keep stringing you back into hookup culture.
That is keeping you stuck because doing the same thing will get us the same
results. So if you want different results, we have to take different action.
Feel into your present moment, whether it's sadness, boredom, loneliness.
What is your present moment offering you do you feel like you're tired, stay
in, stay home. All will be fine. God has a funny way
of working everything out for us. Your higher self and their higher self is
working on the game plan. You don't have to worry about it. Worrying
is worshiping your problems. Give it up to God, let go and let
flow. I promise you, if you don't want that reality, you don't
have to have it. You can unsubscribe from it. Also, we don't
even know if any of what they're saying is true. They're predicting, and
energy is subject to change. Every second of the day. Energy is changing
and changing and changing That's why tarot cards. They can read the present energy
that's around you. But energy is subject to change every second, and therefore
it really can only see one energetic timeline at a time when there's unlimited potentials.
This study is just one potential. There's unlimited potentials for us to go
on to so really it means nothing. It means nothing. Focus on you,
Strengthen the areas of your life you want to see a little bit stronger
into yourself. We're on this journey together. Everything I'm learning I will give
to you as well. But I'm telling you this is a season that we
lean into ourselves. I've never felt anything so strong. If you're enjoying this
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