WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.640 --> 00:00:04.719 Bottled Up Bitches is hosted by a horny mary couple. Content may include adult 2 00:00:04.759 --> 00:00:08.919 language and themes. Check the description for more details. Your discretion is advised. 3 00:00:14.119 --> 00:00:18.760 Its season four. Welcome to Bottle Death Bitches, your favorite sex podcast 4 00:00:18.920 --> 00:00:23.679 hosted by a horny married couple with me Rihanna Campbell and me producer Man Adam. 5 00:00:23.879 --> 00:00:33.560 Sex shouldn't be taboo or embarrassing, so let's talk about it. How 6 00:00:33.600 --> 00:00:37.840 do we? Doodley neighborna Hey, Hi, Adam, Hey, Rihanna, 7 00:00:38.159 --> 00:00:42.799 Hi, everybody, Well, everybody, it's another episode of your favorite sex 8 00:00:42.799 --> 00:00:47.320 podcast, Bottle Deathitches. We're out here just living. It's living. Its 9 00:00:47.399 --> 00:00:52.039 living. It's when you slay and live at the same time. Hilton got 10 00:00:52.119 --> 00:00:56.079 it, Okay, I like to keep you young. That is so they 11 00:00:56.119 --> 00:01:00.240 say hot. Yeah, oh that was pretty good. Thanks really, thank 12 00:01:00.240 --> 00:01:02.200 you, thank you, thank you. How's your day going so far? 13 00:01:03.000 --> 00:01:04.680 Busy? Busy. We've had a busy day today. We've had a busy 14 00:01:06.519 --> 00:01:10.640 uh, you know, twenty something years for sure. But yeah, we've 15 00:01:10.640 --> 00:01:14.159 been going, going, going, And I, as always I say I'm 16 00:01:14.200 --> 00:01:19.879 super excited, but I was thoroughly excited to talk to our guest today, 17 00:01:19.040 --> 00:01:29.120 Jody from a provocative pro pro pro just provocative, provocative, but it's spelled 18 00:01:29.159 --> 00:01:33.000 pro provocative. There's a hoe in the middle, because there's all as she 19 00:01:33.040 --> 00:01:34.480 said, there's a little hoe in all of us. Yeah, and I 20 00:01:34.519 --> 00:01:41.760 think that's just precious. Um. No, I had so much fun getting 21 00:01:41.799 --> 00:01:48.079 to know Jody and how provocative started and learning about her life. It was 22 00:01:48.159 --> 00:01:53.599 a good time. I had a thoroughly festive time. Yeah, No, 23 00:01:53.719 --> 00:01:57.640 it was. It was fun and listening to her like journey of her ho 24 00:01:59.040 --> 00:02:02.799 life, stay Helen, stay Howen, and you know, especially hearing like 25 00:02:04.159 --> 00:02:08.919 you know she started this kind of whole lifestyle later in life. Yeah, 26 00:02:09.039 --> 00:02:12.599 I go. I talk a lot about my howing years, and my howing 27 00:02:12.680 --> 00:02:15.759 years were earlier on because I found you very early. Yeah, And so 28 00:02:15.879 --> 00:02:23.479 it's very fun when people find themselves and they go through their sexuality. Yeah, 29 00:02:23.520 --> 00:02:27.639 they start going through all of their journey in a later stage. And 30 00:02:27.680 --> 00:02:30.240 it's not even that late. She's like, what thirty, I think she's 31 00:02:30.280 --> 00:02:35.879 not like sixty years old finding her way. But the contrast is very fun. 32 00:02:35.960 --> 00:02:39.319 I love learning about people's journeys and when they decided to explore their sexuality 33 00:02:39.360 --> 00:02:44.719 a little bit more and what that entails so that conversation was just a good 34 00:02:44.719 --> 00:02:46.240 old time. I love I love talking sex, and we got to do 35 00:02:46.280 --> 00:02:50.000 a lot of that that we did. That we did, we did. 36 00:02:50.439 --> 00:02:53.520 I think the episode speaks for itself. I think everyone's going to be impressed 37 00:02:53.520 --> 00:02:58.680 and having a good old time learning about Jody and ten ten recommend going and 38 00:02:58.719 --> 00:03:00.479 checking out her podcast as well, Provocative. We'll have all those links in 39 00:03:00.479 --> 00:03:06.719 the description which we were. She was kind to have us on a few 40 00:03:06.759 --> 00:03:08.840 months ago. Yes, she had us on and it was so much fun. 41 00:03:08.919 --> 00:03:10.840 We did her to meet over the phone, so it was really fine 42 00:03:12.000 --> 00:03:15.080 fun getting to see her and over a video and seeing all the facial expressions. 43 00:03:15.120 --> 00:03:19.159 I always enjoy that. Yeah, without further ado, I hope you 44 00:03:19.240 --> 00:03:32.319 enjoy this episode with Jody of Provocative A professional to what we have today, 45 00:03:32.439 --> 00:03:40.520 she's a pro professional. H e h e y name of the episode, 46 00:03:40.800 --> 00:03:44.719 name of professional. Yeah, we'll write down. Well, right, I 47 00:03:44.800 --> 00:03:47.479 love that. Well, I would love to learn more about that, Jody, 48 00:03:47.560 --> 00:03:52.520 so Provocative. How did that get started? What does that mean to 49 00:03:52.560 --> 00:03:55.639 you? Like, I want to know the behind the scenes of starting the 50 00:03:55.680 --> 00:03:59.479 brand, because it's not just a podcast. You have your book, you 51 00:03:59.520 --> 00:04:01.840 have a whole and going, I want to learn more about what the provocative 52 00:04:01.879 --> 00:04:10.039 movement is. Yes, so I'll go back to twenty twenty. Right, 53 00:04:10.120 --> 00:04:15.639 So COVID had just you know, shooking up the world and everyone was kind 54 00:04:15.680 --> 00:04:20.240 of insight so inside the house, so I had a lot of time with 55 00:04:20.319 --> 00:04:27.399 myself. Twenty twenty was the year I turned thirty. I was just kind 56 00:04:27.439 --> 00:04:31.560 of going through this transition in my life and I'm self reflecting, and before 57 00:04:31.600 --> 00:04:35.199 I knew it, the end of twenty twenty, I turned thirty and I 58 00:04:35.279 --> 00:04:39.680 was like, oh my god, I've never had a whole phase. Like 59 00:04:39.759 --> 00:04:43.240 it was really like I turned thirty and I was like, oh my goodness. 60 00:04:43.279 --> 00:04:47.240 Like I was in two long term relationships, one from when I was 61 00:04:47.279 --> 00:04:51.879 sixteen till about twenty two. The next one I was about twenty three turning 62 00:04:51.959 --> 00:04:57.839 twenty four until thirty because we broke up like around the time I turned thirty. 63 00:04:57.839 --> 00:05:00.160 So I'm like, all I know is relationship. Like I've dated people 64 00:05:00.279 --> 00:05:04.199 here and there, but I know relationships, and I've never really had an 65 00:05:04.199 --> 00:05:11.959 opportunity to just freely date or freely you know, just figure out what it 66 00:05:12.040 --> 00:05:15.319 is that I truly want outside of like, oh I really like this person. 67 00:05:15.360 --> 00:05:20.120 Now I'm committed to them Boom years ago by so all of these thoughts 68 00:05:20.120 --> 00:05:26.079 are going through my mind and then twenty twenty one that comes around, and 69 00:05:26.120 --> 00:05:29.879 then out of nowhere, I'm like, you know what. And then also 70 00:05:29.920 --> 00:05:32.000 I will say this, I've always been pretty well spoken and I'm kind of 71 00:05:32.040 --> 00:05:35.199 funny on social media, so people have asked me, like, over you 72 00:05:35.199 --> 00:05:38.600 should do a podcast. I'm like, I don't even know what the hell 73 00:05:38.680 --> 00:05:42.839 that is. Whatever, So twenty twenty one rolls around, so now I'm 74 00:05:42.959 --> 00:05:46.560 actually thinking about it more seriously. You know, it's still COVID. People 75 00:05:46.600 --> 00:05:48.680 still haven't transition back into the office or anything like that, so i still 76 00:05:48.680 --> 00:05:53.399 have my regular nine of five, and I'm like, you know what, 77 00:05:54.120 --> 00:05:57.560 I think I do want to podcast. I want to figure this album and 78 00:05:57.560 --> 00:06:00.879 see what I want to do. And the topic that was right as talking 79 00:06:00.920 --> 00:06:03.759 about sex. I don't know why it feels right, but that feels right. 80 00:06:03.800 --> 00:06:05.800 So it started out with me saying like, you know what I think 81 00:06:05.800 --> 00:06:10.720 I want to do like sex toy reviews or something like that, because at 82 00:06:10.759 --> 00:06:15.199 that point that was so that was actually my first time of playing around and 83 00:06:15.279 --> 00:06:19.560 dabbling insects toys, so I never owned a sex toy until after my thirtieth 84 00:06:19.560 --> 00:06:24.800 birthday, I literally bought myself a sex toy and I was like, okay, 85 00:06:24.839 --> 00:06:28.439 this is fun. Um. So by my first sex toy, I 86 00:06:28.480 --> 00:06:31.040 wasn't wowed, but I wasn't like, oh no, I'm never you know, 87 00:06:31.160 --> 00:06:36.040 doing this again. Then I bought my second sex toy, which was 88 00:06:36.079 --> 00:06:41.240 the Rose. The Rose was my second sex toy and that experience. When 89 00:06:41.279 --> 00:06:45.360 I told that story about how it happened, my friends were just laughing because 90 00:06:45.360 --> 00:06:47.360 they're like, why is everything a joke with you? So I kind of 91 00:06:47.399 --> 00:06:50.600 like told them I set the I set like literally, I'm like, guys, 92 00:06:50.639 --> 00:06:55.040 I almost drowned using that rose And I'm like, how did you almost 93 00:06:55.120 --> 00:06:57.839 drown? And I'm like because I was in the tub and then like I 94 00:06:57.920 --> 00:07:00.720 put it, turned it on, and then I went like thisn't then fell 95 00:07:00.800 --> 00:07:03.399 back in the tub. But it was like the way I told the stories 96 00:07:03.439 --> 00:07:05.800 like super funny, right, So then I was like, you know what 97 00:07:05.879 --> 00:07:12.120 this feels right, Like just me being myself and telling my stories feels right. 98 00:07:12.439 --> 00:07:14.920 But at the time, I didn't even have a name for the podcast. 99 00:07:14.959 --> 00:07:15.920 I just it was just an idea, right. I was like, 100 00:07:15.959 --> 00:07:20.319 you know, what I want to talk about sex, So then I want 101 00:07:20.319 --> 00:07:25.279 to say it was like maybe around March April of twenty twenty one, and 102 00:07:25.319 --> 00:07:30.920 I was high as shit. I like just smoked some weed and I was 103 00:07:30.079 --> 00:07:35.279 doing the dishes, and I was like provocative, like out of nowhere, 104 00:07:35.399 --> 00:07:39.199 like it just came to me it was provocative, and I was like, 105 00:07:39.240 --> 00:07:42.319 but you know what, I'm gonna spell it with a hole in the middle 106 00:07:42.600 --> 00:07:46.199 because now the word is even more provocative. So I took it up it's 107 00:07:46.279 --> 00:07:49.839 not and from there, like I was like, that's it, that's the 108 00:07:50.000 --> 00:07:54.920 name, Like that's me. I feel like I've always seen myself as a 109 00:07:54.920 --> 00:07:59.399 provocative person, Like just the word provocative has always been like like oh my 110 00:07:59.439 --> 00:08:01.279 god, I just of how it rolls off the tongue. It just it 111 00:08:01.399 --> 00:08:05.720 was just one of those things where it's like, provocative is my favorite word, 112 00:08:05.920 --> 00:08:09.000 and I never realized that it was my favorite word until it just said, 113 00:08:09.040 --> 00:08:11.839 like duh, that's the name of the show provocative. And then I 114 00:08:11.879 --> 00:08:15.839 just took it up the notch and it's like, in you know, true 115 00:08:16.000 --> 00:08:18.319 Jodie fashion, I'm like, how do you take something and then make it 116 00:08:18.439 --> 00:08:22.920 even more provocative? Okay, I'm gonna stick a triggering hole in the middle 117 00:08:22.920 --> 00:08:31.480 of this episode too. Triggering yeah. Like yeah, so now everyone when 118 00:08:31.519 --> 00:08:33.759 they see they're like, pro ho evocative, and I'm like, it's just 119 00:08:33.799 --> 00:08:37.879 provocative. Like phonetically you still say provocative, you just kind of you know, 120 00:08:37.960 --> 00:08:41.799 like yeah, so um. But then I was like, okay, 121 00:08:41.799 --> 00:08:45.360 cool, I have a name. Then I started like, you know what 122 00:08:45.480 --> 00:08:48.919 is what is this gonna mean for me? Because provocative literally started at the 123 00:08:48.960 --> 00:08:52.799 beginning of a journey for me. So that's why it means so much to 124 00:08:52.799 --> 00:08:56.720 me as well, because it's like, Okay, now I'm going through you 125 00:08:56.720 --> 00:09:00.679 know what. You know started out it's like the preliminary stage of my whole 126 00:09:00.679 --> 00:09:05.600 phase. This also started out with me finding myself sexually. What is it 127 00:09:05.679 --> 00:09:11.480 that I'm into? How do I want to express myself sexually? And then 128 00:09:11.320 --> 00:09:16.320 it eventually was like, okay, you know what, I like playing games, 129 00:09:16.320 --> 00:09:20.120 So how do we incorporate like gaming into things? So I created the 130 00:09:20.120 --> 00:09:26.879 Provocative Drinking Game. Then eventually, just through the more I learned about sex 131 00:09:26.919 --> 00:09:28.759 and the more I educated myself on sex, and I was like, you 132 00:09:28.840 --> 00:09:33.519 know what, I want to be a sex coach now because now I have 133 00:09:33.600 --> 00:09:35.840 the credentials to be informed to speak on these things. I'm still gonna be 134 00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:39.480 myself, right, still gonna be an entertainer. I'm still gonna crack jokes, 135 00:09:39.519 --> 00:09:46.440 but I will also be able to drop some facts and knowledge and gems 136 00:09:46.480 --> 00:09:48.799 into these episodes as well as a way to yeah, we're joking, but 137 00:09:48.919 --> 00:09:56.799 we're also moving the conversations forward. How are we having some of these controversial 138 00:09:56.919 --> 00:10:03.399 triggering table related conversations in a way that people can say, you know what, 139 00:10:03.879 --> 00:10:07.080 I'm gonna think differently about this moving forward, because I think that's still 140 00:10:07.200 --> 00:10:11.000 you know, we still have some some ways to go when it comes to 141 00:10:11.080 --> 00:10:16.039 that. Oh so uh yeah, that's uh, that's how provocative started. 142 00:10:16.360 --> 00:10:20.240 Uh provocative. Of course, I also still have like T shirts and stuff 143 00:10:20.279 --> 00:10:22.360 like that, so it's like any random thing that kind of comes to my 144 00:10:22.399 --> 00:10:26.399 mind, I kind of sticking on a T shirt, Like for a while, 145 00:10:26.399 --> 00:10:28.279 I'll say like, oh, I'm sad, I think I just need 146 00:10:28.320 --> 00:10:31.039 a little bit ahead. And then I was like, you know, I'm 147 00:10:31.039 --> 00:10:33.279 gonna put that on a T shirt. And then I put it on a 148 00:10:33.320 --> 00:10:35.080 T shirt and it's been well received because people are like, why the hell 149 00:10:35.120 --> 00:10:37.279 would you put that on a T shirt and I'm like, I don't know, 150 00:10:37.399 --> 00:10:39.679 like this is how I feel. I think everybody, you know, 151 00:10:39.720 --> 00:10:45.799 if you're sad, you deserve some head so um that's yeah. It's just 152 00:10:45.840 --> 00:10:48.080 like you know, it's it's a movement for me, right, It's about 153 00:10:50.159 --> 00:10:56.759 people, uh not being uncomfortable with expressing themselves, and it's sexually explicit. 154 00:10:58.440 --> 00:11:01.080 Um as you want to be or how you want to you know, just 155 00:11:01.559 --> 00:11:05.440 share yourself with the world. So I had to of course overcome my own 156 00:11:05.759 --> 00:11:11.039 kind of you know, shame and the barriers associated with my life, and 157 00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:13.320 people have seen me on that journey as well, and I think it's super 158 00:11:13.360 --> 00:11:18.279 important to talk about those different things so that everyone else is like, oh, 159 00:11:18.360 --> 00:11:22.279 you know what, I don't feel uncomfortable living in my truth or you 160 00:11:22.320 --> 00:11:26.000 know, living in my skin because there are so many other people that are 161 00:11:26.039 --> 00:11:31.159 dealing with it. Oh yeah, there's so much to impact there. Like 162 00:11:31.360 --> 00:11:33.799 a bravo to you for one, because I love that. For one, 163 00:11:33.840 --> 00:11:39.600 that we're provocative saying it feels naughty. I don't know if it's just because 164 00:11:39.799 --> 00:11:45.480 of what's behind it, but even the way provocative is rolls off the tongue. 165 00:11:45.480 --> 00:11:48.200 It sounds very naughty. So the fact that that's your the every day 166 00:11:48.240 --> 00:11:52.679 that's the brand, Like it makes me so happy because sometimes I feel like 167 00:11:52.960 --> 00:11:56.320 people will insert the words sensual here and there because they don't want to say 168 00:11:56.320 --> 00:12:01.360 sexual Nope, and so like, let's go straightforward. There's different words. 169 00:12:01.759 --> 00:12:03.960 We're trying to use different words to sweeten it up, and I'm like, 170 00:12:05.039 --> 00:12:09.039 let's be politically correct or softer with it. No, I wanted something that 171 00:12:09.159 --> 00:12:15.759 was in your face because I think that's the easiest or the best way for 172 00:12:15.799 --> 00:12:18.039 you to be comfortable with your sexuality is to take a head one. We 173 00:12:18.080 --> 00:12:22.279 don't kind of oh, let me ease and know what is it that you 174 00:12:22.399 --> 00:12:26.039 like? Figure it out? Like, you don't have to. It doesn't 175 00:12:26.039 --> 00:12:28.919 have to take years and years of self discovery for you to figure out like, 176 00:12:28.960 --> 00:12:33.840 you know what, I'm a freaky motherfucker. You don't have It doesn't 177 00:12:33.840 --> 00:12:37.919 have to be like that. And I feel like oftentimes society makes us think 178 00:12:37.000 --> 00:12:41.679 that it has to be that way, but the honest reality is that a 179 00:12:41.759 --> 00:12:46.480 lot of people are engaging in sex before they even do the exploration of their 180 00:12:46.519 --> 00:12:52.000 body part, right, So it's like there's there's this kind of disconnect with 181 00:12:52.080 --> 00:12:54.960 that where it's like, Okay, you just jumped straight into it because you 182 00:12:54.960 --> 00:12:58.000 didn't have the prior knowledge or you didn't know you weren't like, you know, 183 00:12:58.120 --> 00:13:01.159 a strategic in your approach when it came to say, spressing your sexuality. 184 00:13:01.320 --> 00:13:03.240 And now you kind of have to go backwards and dissect that and figure 185 00:13:03.279 --> 00:13:07.279 out like, oh wait, what is going on here? Why am I 186 00:13:07.360 --> 00:13:11.120 into this or why do I have a dis thing for this or whatever the 187 00:13:11.159 --> 00:13:15.440 case is. So yeah, for it to be in your face, it 188 00:13:15.519 --> 00:13:18.559 kind of forces you to And then here's the thing. Like I talked a 189 00:13:18.600 --> 00:13:22.799 lot about triggering people, right, I love triggering people. That is like, 190 00:13:22.200 --> 00:13:26.039 yeah, I want you to be uncomfortable because now you have to take 191 00:13:26.039 --> 00:13:28.759 a look at yourself and then say, you know what, I'm uncomfortable because 192 00:13:28.759 --> 00:13:31.960 of this reason. Now we can have a conversation. There's always a route. 193 00:13:33.519 --> 00:13:35.200 There's always a route. But I love that you said that, because 194 00:13:37.039 --> 00:13:39.440 like, I've been having sex since I was fifteen. I didn't have my 195 00:13:39.440 --> 00:13:43.080 first orgasm until I was twenty three, so like similar, yeah, similar, 196 00:13:43.240 --> 00:13:46.159 similar, I was having sex at fourteen. I think the very first 197 00:13:46.159 --> 00:13:50.360 time I had an orgasm was when I was nineteen so that's five years of 198 00:13:50.480 --> 00:13:56.399 having sex. And then orgasms is one of those things where you know when 199 00:13:56.480 --> 00:13:58.799 you experience it. Once you experienced it, then it's like, whoa wait, 200 00:14:00.279 --> 00:14:07.360 that is so unlike anything I felt before. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 201 00:14:07.399 --> 00:14:09.320 And it was funny because my first orgasm I was actually using uh, 202 00:14:09.480 --> 00:14:15.159 I was using a cock ring o word. Yeah. So like me and 203 00:14:15.240 --> 00:14:18.360 my boyfriend at the time, we were like, you know, trying something 204 00:14:18.399 --> 00:14:20.879 new. We went to the sex store for the first time, so this 205 00:14:20.919 --> 00:14:24.320 is my first time the sex store and then I was like, oh, 206 00:14:24.440 --> 00:14:28.639 let's try this, and um, that was the very first time I had 207 00:14:28.639 --> 00:14:31.799 an orgasm. But I had never used sex toys before, you know, 208 00:14:31.960 --> 00:14:35.399 or even after that, so I never used different masturbation purposes. But that 209 00:14:35.440 --> 00:14:39.919 was the first time I used a sex toy and that was my first orgasm. 210 00:14:39.120 --> 00:14:45.159 And then I wasn't really having orgasms again until much later after that. 211 00:14:45.320 --> 00:14:48.879 But I never you know, I'm looking for me in the beginning years of 212 00:14:50.159 --> 00:14:52.240 sex. And this is why on Provocative I have this episode where I was 213 00:14:52.240 --> 00:14:54.480 like, oh my god, like the first six years is we having sex? 214 00:14:54.559 --> 00:14:58.639 I don't know what. There was no benefit to it. There was 215 00:14:58.679 --> 00:15:03.720 literally no real true benefit to me having sex back then, but it took 216 00:15:03.799 --> 00:15:07.200 that reflection right. But when I look back on it and I reflect, 217 00:15:09.360 --> 00:15:16.720 I know that I was just doing some shit. That's what it came down 218 00:15:16.759 --> 00:15:18.919 to. I'm like, oh, this is my boyfriend. I'm having sex 219 00:15:18.919 --> 00:15:20.480 with him, because that is what you do when you're in a relationship. 220 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:24.639 You have sex with your your purse. That's how you show love, it's 221 00:15:24.639 --> 00:15:26.639 how you show affections. I'm showing you that I care. But yet in 222 00:15:26.679 --> 00:15:31.120 the reality of it, you're having sex for this other person exactly, You're 223 00:15:31.120 --> 00:15:35.360 not having sex for yourself. So it's like now that I'm you know, 224 00:15:35.480 --> 00:15:41.000 you know, I've reflected on my journey, I've started to show I you 225 00:15:41.039 --> 00:15:43.559 know, talk about it so much. I say, like, we really 226 00:15:43.559 --> 00:15:46.720 have to constantly ask ourselves that question, are you having sex for yourself? 227 00:15:46.720 --> 00:15:50.720 Because a lot of people don't and they don't realize that they're not having sex 228 00:15:50.720 --> 00:15:54.639 for themselves. So it's like the difference between owning your own pleasure and your 229 00:15:54.679 --> 00:15:58.279 own sexual expression versus doing it in a transactional sense where it's like we are 230 00:15:58.320 --> 00:16:02.279 in a relationship, so this is what I'm supposed to do, and that's 231 00:16:02.320 --> 00:16:04.159 not the thing. You don't get as much a enjoyment out of it as 232 00:16:04.159 --> 00:16:07.840 opposed to I'm like, no, you know what, we have two people 233 00:16:07.879 --> 00:16:11.240 coming together and we're just we're experiencing each other. Right, It's a different 234 00:16:11.279 --> 00:16:15.440 way of looking at it. Yeah, No, absolutely, And I my 235 00:16:15.519 --> 00:16:18.559 journey with having orgasms was very similar. I had to have a sex toy, 236 00:16:19.360 --> 00:16:23.320 and I think I don't think you were there. I think it was 237 00:16:23.360 --> 00:16:27.519 masturbation, right for what I first time orgasming, Maybe I don't. I 238 00:16:27.519 --> 00:16:30.559 don't think you were there. I think I figured that one out on my 239 00:16:30.600 --> 00:16:34.279 own. But sometimes you have to. Yeah, I didn't have like a 240 00:16:34.360 --> 00:16:37.519 mom or a parent or someone or in my life that says like at some 241 00:16:37.559 --> 00:16:41.200 point you just need to touch yourself and figure out what you like. But 242 00:16:41.360 --> 00:16:45.879 sometimes you just have to go you know, manual. We can't. Sometimes 243 00:16:45.879 --> 00:16:48.759 not everything is automatic. Sometimes you have to go manual and you have just 244 00:16:48.799 --> 00:16:51.399 go down there and touch yourself and figure out, like what do I like? 245 00:16:51.759 --> 00:16:53.440 What does this do? And I kind of did that with a toy 246 00:16:53.559 --> 00:16:56.320 because I've never been much of a hands on person. I don't know why 247 00:16:56.360 --> 00:16:59.720 I still am not. I don't know what it is. I've tried itself 248 00:16:59.759 --> 00:17:03.600 for me, but I always like using exploring with a toy. I figured 249 00:17:03.600 --> 00:17:07.039 this out have my first orgasm. It was like great, and then yag, 250 00:17:07.119 --> 00:17:08.880 that's what it was. Because then I introduced it in the bedroom with 251 00:17:08.960 --> 00:17:12.359 him, and at first he was very put off by it. He was 252 00:17:12.880 --> 00:17:19.160 disappointed by it, like if it's different, But also I think you can 253 00:17:19.200 --> 00:17:22.680 come off as like a shot to the ego if you're not yeah, really 254 00:17:22.759 --> 00:17:26.240 understanding what's happening, you know, And oh gosh. We got a big 255 00:17:26.279 --> 00:17:29.279 fight about it, and I kind of had to break it down for him, 256 00:17:29.279 --> 00:17:32.240 and I'm like, how long have you how long have you been orgasmy 257 00:17:32.319 --> 00:17:34.400 how like since what you were like fifteen sixteen in a sock? Like how 258 00:17:34.440 --> 00:17:38.079 long have you had this? Because I just got this, and you're trying 259 00:17:38.079 --> 00:17:42.160 to take it away from me. And when I put it in that perspective 260 00:17:42.200 --> 00:17:47.759 of like I've never had that feeling of finishing you have and this and I 261 00:17:47.880 --> 00:17:51.160 just figured out that this is the way I get there. Do not take 262 00:17:51.200 --> 00:17:56.319 that away from me, and do not shame me because I just got it. 263 00:17:56.319 --> 00:18:00.039 Don't make me insecure about it. And putting it in those terms I 264 00:18:00.079 --> 00:18:03.880 think was the most like at that point it clicked for him that this is 265 00:18:03.920 --> 00:18:07.359 what I need. It's it is what it is. And then there's all, 266 00:18:07.400 --> 00:18:08.960 of course I've explained to him all of the facts around. I think 267 00:18:08.960 --> 00:18:12.759 it's only like thirty percent of women have orgasms. It's like it's less than 268 00:18:12.839 --> 00:18:17.200 half. It's super super love, it's like and even thirty. Yeah, 269 00:18:17.319 --> 00:18:22.519 like it's a it's a terrible it's very much a terrible percentage. And I 270 00:18:22.559 --> 00:18:27.319 think part of what is associated with that as well is um and you alluded 271 00:18:27.359 --> 00:18:30.880 to it. You alluded to it a little bit. But this idea of 272 00:18:30.880 --> 00:18:37.960 shaming, right, So think about when you're growing up, was sex talked 273 00:18:37.960 --> 00:18:41.559 about in your household or not? For a lot of people, it's an 274 00:18:41.920 --> 00:18:45.279 we don't talk about, right, Like babies just they you know, we 275 00:18:45.319 --> 00:18:48.920 have all these euphemisms. Babies are delivered by storks and they just come out 276 00:18:48.920 --> 00:18:52.680 of nowhere. Right, we are not confidable. So our parents were not 277 00:18:52.759 --> 00:18:56.400 comfortable talking about sex. Our parents parents were not talking comfortable talking about sex. 278 00:18:56.519 --> 00:19:00.279 Right, So we have generations and generations of shaming being passed down to 279 00:19:00.359 --> 00:19:03.039 people. Right, So of course your parents are gonna say, like, 280 00:19:03.079 --> 00:19:06.480 oh, you know what, touch yourself and figure it out. A lot 281 00:19:06.519 --> 00:19:08.039 of people think about like, oh, the first time you got caught, 282 00:19:08.160 --> 00:19:11.160 Like, you know, I've never been caught masturbating because I didn't start masturbating 283 00:19:11.319 --> 00:19:15.680 so much later in life. But I could imagine being a teenager getting caught 284 00:19:15.720 --> 00:19:18.319 masturbating in the stilling a shame because now your parents like, what are you 285 00:19:18.400 --> 00:19:21.960 doing? I can't believe you're in here, you know. So it's like 286 00:19:22.440 --> 00:19:26.559 those ideas of shaming people for trying to explore their bodies, and we even 287 00:19:26.599 --> 00:19:29.720 see it now in adulthood. Like you you try to say, like you 288 00:19:29.759 --> 00:19:32.359 know what, oh, masturbate more, and people are like, why do 289 00:19:32.400 --> 00:19:34.680 you have to masturbate? That's what your partner is there for. It's not 290 00:19:34.720 --> 00:19:40.400 a competition. Yeah, Like I shouldn't have to depend on someone for my 291 00:19:40.480 --> 00:19:44.480 own self pleasure. And it's more so frowned to find when it comes to 292 00:19:44.759 --> 00:19:48.279 women, more so than men, because men, you we you know, 293 00:19:48.359 --> 00:19:51.000 men kind of get to pass right, they're like, okay, you know, 294 00:19:51.079 --> 00:19:52.960 it's like, oh, you're just money man, this is what we 295 00:19:53.079 --> 00:19:59.160 do. But it's still around this idea of shaming. So the more that 296 00:19:59.279 --> 00:20:03.079 we have these actual conversations, the more people feel more comfortable with exploring their 297 00:20:03.119 --> 00:20:07.240 bodies, and it starts before we get to our damn thirties. It's no 298 00:20:07.400 --> 00:20:11.240 way in hell that people have to you know, wait so long in life 299 00:20:11.640 --> 00:20:15.799 and being figure this shit out when we should be doing this, you know, 300 00:20:17.680 --> 00:20:21.960 at a younger age. So but we also it's like, you know, 301 00:20:22.000 --> 00:20:25.359 it's not really an age, and it's like what what is appropriate and 302 00:20:25.440 --> 00:20:27.200 what feels right? It has to be natural. It has to be a 303 00:20:27.279 --> 00:20:30.880 natural transition for sure. Well, and I think like, and something I 304 00:20:30.920 --> 00:20:36.720 love about your show and our showing kind of the other shows in this category 305 00:20:37.160 --> 00:20:44.359 is I still think there's this mentality with culture of like, well, women 306 00:20:44.400 --> 00:20:48.640 don't get horny. Women, women don't get horny. They're not like, 307 00:20:48.039 --> 00:20:53.119 yes, sexual beings, um right. And I think that like almost the 308 00:20:53.119 --> 00:20:59.319 way I get horny in a grocery store in publican I'm like I need to 309 00:20:59.319 --> 00:21:02.920 get I need to go. But I feel like that that's like because it's 310 00:21:03.000 --> 00:21:08.680 kind of still like a societal norm idea. I do think that affects women's 311 00:21:08.720 --> 00:21:14.400 mentality in exploring that. So I think like there's a lot of women that 312 00:21:14.599 --> 00:21:17.440 you know, like you, like Rihanna, who kind of it's not up 313 00:21:17.519 --> 00:21:21.680 until you know, they're late twenties or thirties before they start exploring their own 314 00:21:21.759 --> 00:21:26.960 self and start masturbating. And then you do have that like, oh, 315 00:21:26.000 --> 00:21:33.440 I've spent fifteen or so years not even really understanding how to have sex because 316 00:21:33.039 --> 00:21:38.640 for myself because like I'm not supposed to be enjoying it or or you know, 317 00:21:40.000 --> 00:21:45.079 I'm a woman, so society tells me that I don't quote enjoy sex 318 00:21:45.160 --> 00:21:48.599 or whatever the like mentality is. I just think it's a very common thing 319 00:21:48.680 --> 00:21:53.839 of women not really understanding how to enjoy sex for themselves and tell they're later 320 00:21:55.000 --> 00:21:59.480 in life. And I also love or that when a man is finished, 321 00:21:59.519 --> 00:22:03.240 I'm yeah, yeah, oh that's a good one. Yeah. And I 322 00:22:03.240 --> 00:22:07.119 think that's where, you know, those are barriers that you know, all 323 00:22:07.200 --> 00:22:11.519 women kind of have to break away from, and that's where that liberation comes 324 00:22:11.559 --> 00:22:15.880 from as well, because once you realize what it is that you like, 325 00:22:17.160 --> 00:22:19.400 and it's like, no, if he's finished and I'm not finished, we 326 00:22:19.519 --> 00:22:22.759 have to figure something out because you you know, like, how do we 327 00:22:22.799 --> 00:22:26.799 have that conversation as mature adults who are sexually involved with each other? Like 328 00:22:26.880 --> 00:22:32.000 Okay, maybe it means that you know, we bring in toys so that 329 00:22:32.119 --> 00:22:34.440 I can feel, you know, the same way you're you walk away feeling 330 00:22:34.519 --> 00:22:40.119 you know, complete, and you know, like fool and you know whatever 331 00:22:40.359 --> 00:22:42.319 kind of you know adjective you want to enter it here to, you know, 332 00:22:42.599 --> 00:22:47.240 describe your fulfillment. I want to be fulfilled walking away from this sexual 333 00:22:47.279 --> 00:22:51.279 experience. I don't want to be left hanging, because oftentimes that's what happens, 334 00:22:51.279 --> 00:22:53.440 the woman is left hanging. And I think that comes down to the 335 00:22:53.480 --> 00:22:57.119 fact that four play is not incorporated to sex enough. If four play was 336 00:22:57.160 --> 00:23:03.519 incorporated correctly, a four play should really last. And it's gonna vary from 337 00:23:03.559 --> 00:23:07.160 woman a woman because you know, vagina's volbas are not created equally. But 338 00:23:07.279 --> 00:23:12.039 it takes a woman anywhere between eighteen to forty minutes to be fully aroused. 339 00:23:12.079 --> 00:23:17.839 And when she's fully aroused, the vagina, the vaginal has depthened. So 340 00:23:17.920 --> 00:23:21.160 now you you know, like it's it's it's ready, it's ready. It's 341 00:23:21.160 --> 00:23:22.359 like, okay, do you want to pre cook something or do you want 342 00:23:22.359 --> 00:23:26.920 to throw it in the microwave. So when a woman is fully aroused, 343 00:23:26.960 --> 00:23:30.440 that is when you penetrate her. And if you penetrate her at that moment, 344 00:23:30.480 --> 00:23:33.880 it won't take as long for her to get where she needs to go. 345 00:23:34.359 --> 00:23:38.559 And I think that's the problem too, because everybody want to spit start, 346 00:23:38.880 --> 00:23:44.799 No, take your time, take your tide. It doesn't have to 347 00:23:44.839 --> 00:23:48.240 be rushed. And if four play is again, if four play is done 348 00:23:48.319 --> 00:23:52.839 right, then it won't take a woman as long to you know, have 349 00:23:52.960 --> 00:23:56.960 an orgasm or you know, even just be you know, because orgasm doesn't 350 00:23:56.960 --> 00:24:02.839 necessarily mean that you're finished, right because unlike you know, like typically the 351 00:24:03.279 --> 00:24:04.880 it's about the return time, right, So it's like, oh, a 352 00:24:04.960 --> 00:24:08.119 woman can't experience back to back orgasm and be like no, I'm still let's 353 00:24:08.119 --> 00:24:14.079 go. Let's go like we keep going. Uh not is easy for a 354 00:24:14.160 --> 00:24:15.240 man and he's like, all right, look, give me a minute or 355 00:24:15.240 --> 00:24:18.480 two, let me, you know, get myself situated and then we can 356 00:24:18.519 --> 00:24:22.200 get back into it. But you know, that's you know, just a 357 00:24:22.200 --> 00:24:25.759 difference than like our sexual cycles. But again, what it comes down to 358 00:24:26.160 --> 00:24:29.400 is you know, having a conversation with your partner, making sure that you 359 00:24:29.440 --> 00:24:32.720 guys are doing for play in a way that works for both of you. 360 00:24:33.480 --> 00:24:37.279 So does that mean like, okay, we're doing oral for this amount of 361 00:24:37.279 --> 00:24:41.920 time, or we're gonna do sensual massages, We're going to you know, 362 00:24:42.039 --> 00:24:48.000 incorporate toys. Are what are you gonna do that works for you, guys, 363 00:24:48.160 --> 00:24:51.559 Because that's what it is. It's a conversation that needs to be had. 364 00:24:51.640 --> 00:24:56.519 But oftentimes the conversation is overlooked because it's like will I finished, I 365 00:24:56.519 --> 00:24:59.000 don't know what you're gonna do about it, And that's like that's a very 366 00:24:59.000 --> 00:25:03.519 selfish you know, it's a very selfish approach. Like well, and men 367 00:25:03.559 --> 00:25:06.720 need to like get their egos aside. We've talked about this on the show. 368 00:25:06.720 --> 00:25:12.240 How you know, some women are struggled more or even aren't able to 369 00:25:12.400 --> 00:25:18.880 achieve orgasm through penetration. They need more like a culatural stimulation. So men 370 00:25:19.039 --> 00:25:22.799 need to like kind of get their ego aside and understand like I may need 371 00:25:22.839 --> 00:25:26.119 to bring in a toy, I may need a tool to help me get 372 00:25:26.359 --> 00:25:29.640 get this done. You need to do research or do research or figure that 373 00:25:29.720 --> 00:25:32.119 out. I mean, at the end of the day, like a penis 374 00:25:32.119 --> 00:25:36.079 cannot vibrate the way a toy does. Like yeah, you know, and 375 00:25:36.160 --> 00:25:40.880 here's the thing too, um, just in terms of vibration, men can 376 00:25:41.000 --> 00:25:47.160 benefit sexually from vibration as well, Like they don't experience those different sense sensations, 377 00:25:47.279 --> 00:25:51.000 right, So, um, I know I piece this in my fallacial 378 00:25:51.079 --> 00:25:53.559 class and I say, like, guys, grab you a vibrator and like 379 00:25:53.599 --> 00:25:57.160 put them in his ball and see how you react to that while you're like 380 00:25:57.200 --> 00:26:00.759 giving them head. And then it's like if yeah, so you know, 381 00:26:00.880 --> 00:26:04.680 try different things because that's the thing like men don't oftentimes you know, uh 382 00:26:06.319 --> 00:26:10.440 get those kind of like oh you know what, I'm gonna like massage your 383 00:26:10.559 --> 00:26:12.640 penis in a way that it's like it's it's kind of like a hand job, 384 00:26:12.720 --> 00:26:15.480 but it's like a little bit more essential, right, like let me 385 00:26:15.759 --> 00:26:19.160 let me take care of you in this instance, because I think it's a 386 00:26:19.200 --> 00:26:23.519 cycle. The type of sensuality and sexuality you bring to the bear room as 387 00:26:23.559 --> 00:26:29.319 a woman or as a man will be reciprocated, hopefully should be reciprocated. 388 00:26:29.359 --> 00:26:32.799 Otherwise you're not you know, having sex with somebody gets it truly sexually compatible 389 00:26:32.839 --> 00:26:37.200 with But when it's when you bring that energy into the bedroom, they're gonna 390 00:26:37.240 --> 00:26:38.240 be like, you know what, Oh they did this, let me do 391 00:26:38.279 --> 00:26:42.119 this for them, right, That's how it should go, right, but 392 00:26:42.200 --> 00:26:45.240 yeah, vibration is not just for women. It's for men too. Like 393 00:26:45.359 --> 00:26:51.200 clicks are like little tiny dicks. That's like they have some of the same 394 00:26:51.519 --> 00:26:55.240 you know, parts and organs and you know, feelings and sensations, and 395 00:26:55.279 --> 00:26:59.400 we have to treat them as such. Yeah, no, I agree. 396 00:27:00.039 --> 00:27:03.960 That's here. We got some toy. We got a toy recently from fun 397 00:27:03.000 --> 00:27:07.720 Factory and it was we didn't know it was for how many male toys there 398 00:27:07.759 --> 00:27:11.920 were outside of flush lights, because like, I feel like it's all I 399 00:27:11.039 --> 00:27:15.759 see something to put your penis in, or it's like a doll or something. 400 00:27:15.799 --> 00:27:18.440 But this was like a little rubber handle and you put your pep in 401 00:27:18.480 --> 00:27:22.119 there and it like holes around and it was such a vibe. I was 402 00:27:22.119 --> 00:27:25.240 like, wow, this is so fun. Look at that. A whole 403 00:27:25.279 --> 00:27:30.200 toy toy for a man. Look at that. Yeah. Yeah, and 404 00:27:30.680 --> 00:27:33.039 yeah, there are some toys where it's like, you know, you could 405 00:27:33.079 --> 00:27:34.599 just get a little creative with it, where it's like, oh, you 406 00:27:34.640 --> 00:27:40.000 know what, instead of using the cock ring the way it's typically used, 407 00:27:40.200 --> 00:27:41.440 maybe I put it around my fingers and then I'm like, you know, 408 00:27:41.640 --> 00:27:45.519 put it undeath your balls and give you a blow job while while we do 409 00:27:45.559 --> 00:27:48.079 it and like, oh, how does this feel? You have to figure 410 00:27:48.119 --> 00:27:51.839 it out the same way. I'd tell people that it's important to pay close 411 00:27:51.920 --> 00:27:57.000 attention to your female partners in terms of like what they like and what turns 412 00:27:57.079 --> 00:28:02.200 them on. It's the same guy, it's the same guide when it comes 413 00:28:02.200 --> 00:28:06.400 to penis owners, Like what is it that they you know? And sometimes 414 00:28:06.400 --> 00:28:08.759 they wouldn't won't know that they like it until it's done. So that's the 415 00:28:08.759 --> 00:28:12.519 beauty of playing with toys. You're kind of you experience each other in a 416 00:28:12.559 --> 00:28:15.440 way that it's like, you know, it's shame free. We're trying to 417 00:28:15.519 --> 00:28:18.759 just figure it out together. And I think that works. Yeah, I 418 00:28:18.799 --> 00:28:22.319 think there's a comfortability level that people have to be on with their partner to 419 00:28:22.440 --> 00:28:29.119 know we are just going to play and figure this out. You may you 420 00:28:29.160 --> 00:28:30.880 may finish, I may finish, we may both finish. None of us 421 00:28:30.920 --> 00:28:33.480 might finish because we might just be laughing so hard in my blood. Let's 422 00:28:33.519 --> 00:28:38.640 just go get some lunch. Like there's like a like a practice round, 423 00:28:38.640 --> 00:28:41.319 Like even if you've been together for a long time, like we need to 424 00:28:41.359 --> 00:28:44.920 just sit down and try these things out. And I feel like that's how 425 00:28:44.920 --> 00:28:48.160 it was when we got all those toys because some factory sent us a like 426 00:28:48.000 --> 00:28:51.599 three or four different toys to try out, and yeah, it was like 427 00:28:51.960 --> 00:28:55.400 salt lamp was on, but the science goggles were on. We were like 428 00:28:55.599 --> 00:29:00.720 what is this? Are just sitting here like and that's fun. That's fun, 429 00:29:00.759 --> 00:29:03.279 and it's like it's almost like its own kind of you know. That 430 00:29:03.400 --> 00:29:07.480 is like the best form of intimacy right where it's like there's no shame here, 431 00:29:07.799 --> 00:29:11.319 we're figuring out together. This is a new experience, like you're literally 432 00:29:11.440 --> 00:29:15.720 that's how you know your relationships last longer. That's how you grow your bonds 433 00:29:17.039 --> 00:29:21.599 by experiencing new things together. Like now you have that as like you know, 434 00:29:21.680 --> 00:29:26.680 these kind of you know, these memories these stepping stones for a stronger 435 00:29:26.720 --> 00:29:30.000 bond because it's like, look, you're really my person, like I this 436 00:29:30.079 --> 00:29:33.759 is when it comes to sex and being vulnerable to it infect like that's almost 437 00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:37.599 like the ultimate form of vulnerability, right, But a lot of people want 438 00:29:37.640 --> 00:29:42.240 to they only they want to kind of control that vulnerability, like I'm only 439 00:29:42.319 --> 00:29:47.759 vulnerable to this extent, right, but being completely vulnerable but with someone to 440 00:29:47.839 --> 00:29:52.160 the point where you are using toys and you're laughing and you're like, oh, 441 00:29:52.240 --> 00:29:56.279 this is not work. 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Yeah, 451 00:30:51.960 --> 00:30:55.839 And there's like it's like it's weirdly, I don't want to say more, 452 00:30:55.880 --> 00:31:00.000 but it's a very intense intimacy for me. Like the idea and doing that 453 00:31:00.119 --> 00:31:03.680 of where you are just kind of like because it is just a pure enjoyment, 454 00:31:03.799 --> 00:31:07.720 like an all around enjoyment, not just a sexual enjoyment. But when 455 00:31:07.720 --> 00:31:14.400 you're like you're making at the play mound with all these toys, Yeah, 456 00:31:14.640 --> 00:31:19.079 they're you know, story laughing and like just just having a good time even 457 00:31:19.119 --> 00:31:25.839 if it's not working sexually, Like you're just enjoying the experience, which is 458 00:31:25.839 --> 00:31:29.319 it's it's a really nice it's funny and see where there are. We've had 459 00:31:29.359 --> 00:31:32.039 moments where we've done this and then we end up not having sex. We're 460 00:31:32.039 --> 00:31:34.240 just like all right, like we had a good time, Like let's you 461 00:31:34.440 --> 00:31:37.799 are you hungry? Like we just get distracted that there is but it's very 462 00:31:37.839 --> 00:31:41.440 intimate and a very nice moment. Yeah, and when you're in a committed 463 00:31:41.480 --> 00:31:45.440 relationship, you have to be willing because even though now I'll get back to 464 00:31:45.440 --> 00:31:48.880 this because you talk about your whole years, and it makes me really happy 465 00:31:48.920 --> 00:31:51.400 that you refer to it as your whole years, because I call my my 466 00:31:51.440 --> 00:31:55.160 hoeing years, and I feel like that puts people off sometimes I'm like, 467 00:31:55.200 --> 00:31:57.000 well, I don't mean that in a judgmental way. I just think that's 468 00:31:57.079 --> 00:32:01.440 my Like those are my seat active times. I refer to it as my 469 00:32:01.480 --> 00:32:07.400 hoeing years. But when you go through those single active times, you're with 470 00:32:07.519 --> 00:32:10.960 multiple partners. Oh I liked when they did this. I liked when they 471 00:32:10.960 --> 00:32:15.079 did this, you're kind of putting together that exploration of what you like when 472 00:32:15.079 --> 00:32:20.880 you're in a committed relationship, you unless you're you know, you're open and 473 00:32:20.880 --> 00:32:23.279 you're swinging, and that's incredible, But you may not do that. You 474 00:32:23.359 --> 00:32:30.160 kind of have to be that multiple experience or that multiple partner with your one 475 00:32:30.200 --> 00:32:34.079 solo person. Like if I have sex like this all the time, let 476 00:32:34.119 --> 00:32:37.480 me mix it up, Let's try something different, because how am I going 477 00:32:37.519 --> 00:32:40.680 to grow? How is he going to grow in our sexual journey figuring out 478 00:32:40.680 --> 00:32:44.440 what we love, what we like. I don't have all the answers, 479 00:32:44.440 --> 00:32:45.920 although I went through my hoeing years. Yeah, I don't have all the 480 00:32:45.960 --> 00:32:51.519 answers in regards to what he could potentially like that we have never tried. 481 00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:55.880 So just staying open. Yeah, agree. And sometimes what it comes down 482 00:32:55.880 --> 00:33:00.799 to is, again as I say earlier, sometimes you don't know what you 483 00:33:00.880 --> 00:33:06.359 like until you experience it and then you know. That's that's where having multiple 484 00:33:06.440 --> 00:33:10.039 partners in these different people from different places and different backgrounds, they bring that 485 00:33:10.119 --> 00:33:15.240 experience to the table in your life way, What the hell like that was? 486 00:33:15.559 --> 00:33:20.440 I'm okay? I like that Now. Now I can take that experience 487 00:33:20.480 --> 00:33:22.920 and move forward, like I know with me, I've seen like, you 488 00:33:22.960 --> 00:33:27.279 know, social media means where they talk about like body counts and they're shaming 489 00:33:27.319 --> 00:33:30.000 people who are like, oh no, you shouldn't you know, have sex 490 00:33:30.039 --> 00:33:31.680 assist, meeting people whatever, whatever, And I say, like, you 491 00:33:31.720 --> 00:33:37.440 know what, I love when I know that a man has had a way 492 00:33:37.680 --> 00:33:44.599 significantly more sexual experiences than me. And I want to make a distinction between 493 00:33:44.640 --> 00:33:50.119 having a partner and then having experiences, because you could be well experienced and 494 00:33:50.519 --> 00:33:54.519 have the body count doesn't mean anything when it comes to your sexual experience because 495 00:33:54.519 --> 00:33:59.039 you're having quality sexual experiences versus someone who's had a lot of partners and you 496 00:33:59.079 --> 00:34:02.599 are still whack like the you you haven't really learned anything. You're just like 497 00:34:04.039 --> 00:34:06.880 you, you just sticking and going, sticking and going. Like that's not 498 00:34:06.920 --> 00:34:09.000 the same. You have to actually learn from those experiences, right, So 499 00:34:09.079 --> 00:34:13.440 when I talk about experience, I'm like, look, if you've had more 500 00:34:13.679 --> 00:34:19.480 experience than me, and now you're teaching me, we're in a teaching situation, 501 00:34:19.559 --> 00:34:22.880 and now I'm like, oh my god, that's new, that's refreshing. 502 00:34:22.519 --> 00:34:27.719 I've never done this before or I've never felt this way before. And 503 00:34:27.760 --> 00:34:31.239 that's where the benefit of having you know, different partners with different experience than 504 00:34:31.280 --> 00:34:35.440 you comes into play because now it's like, oh, you know what, 505 00:34:35.599 --> 00:34:39.599 I could take this to my next situation and we could have I got now 506 00:34:39.639 --> 00:34:44.480 I know how to apply the experience that we've had together to other situations so 507 00:34:44.559 --> 00:34:46.840 that I can still continue to have sexual fun. Yeah. Is that how 508 00:34:46.880 --> 00:34:52.199 you feel about it? With me having more experience than you? Uh? 509 00:34:52.559 --> 00:34:57.639 Yeah, to a certain extent. But I would say like yours was more 510 00:34:57.679 --> 00:35:01.320 of a wantity versus quality thing. I think that's the big difference. Kind 511 00:35:01.320 --> 00:35:04.559 of like you were saying that, what did you say, stick it and 512 00:35:04.599 --> 00:35:13.039 split it? Um? I don't know. We'll split like split get out 513 00:35:13.079 --> 00:35:20.440 of bickest plays. I like that. So, M I don't know a 514 00:35:20.559 --> 00:35:23.360 hundred percent agree with that. No, No, because you know, interestingly, 515 00:35:23.440 --> 00:35:25.960 going back to what we were talking about four play, the best four 516 00:35:27.000 --> 00:35:30.679 play I've ever had was in high school. So my hoeing years were from 517 00:35:30.719 --> 00:35:34.840 fifteen to nineteen, which is really weird and very young and how good could 518 00:35:34.840 --> 00:35:39.239 it possibly be when you're in high school with inexperienced boys like fair but two 519 00:35:40.599 --> 00:35:45.360 man and I think that's why we put off a little bit with our sexual 520 00:35:45.400 --> 00:35:49.840 journeys as women. I think that because if you have some experience when you're 521 00:35:49.880 --> 00:35:55.519 younger, those the adrenaline and the hormones of doing something sneaky, sneaking into 522 00:35:55.559 --> 00:36:00.400 a window, making out in a hallway when no one's there, are like 523 00:36:00.719 --> 00:36:06.719 you, you put off so many different things because man, kissing alone feels 524 00:36:06.800 --> 00:36:12.079 like the hottest fucking thing you could ever possibly do. Like I always had 525 00:36:12.119 --> 00:36:15.119 all those experiences in high school where they're all afraid to touch me, and 526 00:36:15.159 --> 00:36:20.800 so it's like forty five minutes and making out and they're slowly putting their hand 527 00:36:20.920 --> 00:36:24.519 under my shirt like every five or ten minutes because they're so nervous. Like 528 00:36:24.760 --> 00:36:28.480 that was the bomb, Sure, that was the ship, and that that 529 00:36:28.559 --> 00:36:34.519 kind of workplay was honestly the best because they were and they were all afraid 530 00:36:34.519 --> 00:36:37.440 of having sex. So all we did was for play. We did, 531 00:36:37.239 --> 00:36:42.519 you know, making out during a movie and just like underneath the clothes touching 532 00:36:42.760 --> 00:36:45.519 or when you do get to finally have a handy in a movie theater, 533 00:36:45.719 --> 00:36:52.599 like those experiences felt orgasmic, Like there there's another level to having that type 534 00:36:52.639 --> 00:36:55.199 of adrenaline and hormones when you're figuring all of that out when you're younger, 535 00:36:55.400 --> 00:37:00.559 sure, Yeah, I do want to say that I don't know like um, 536 00:37:00.760 --> 00:37:05.280 when I refer to you know, like my whole years, my whole 537 00:37:05.280 --> 00:37:10.440 experience, my whole journey, I's a it's about intention. For me, 538 00:37:10.480 --> 00:37:15.239 it's very much about intention. We talked about how you have sex for other 539 00:37:15.320 --> 00:37:19.079 people or are you having sex for yourself? And that was the shift. 540 00:37:19.280 --> 00:37:22.760 That was the change. It went from me having sex for other people to 541 00:37:22.000 --> 00:37:28.280 me only having sex for myself and me prioritizing my own pleasure. So for 542 00:37:28.320 --> 00:37:30.920 me, it was like, no, I'm gonna get mad, like the 543 00:37:31.000 --> 00:37:35.599 same way a guy's like, well, I came, what you gonna do? 544 00:37:35.639 --> 00:37:37.719 It was like, no, I'm gonna get mad. So now it's 545 00:37:37.760 --> 00:37:40.760 like, Okay, if I have to bring a sex tooyd here, you 546 00:37:40.800 --> 00:37:45.039 know, into the bedroom and you feel some type of way, then I 547 00:37:45.119 --> 00:37:46.840 know that I shouldn't be having sex with you because this is how I like 548 00:37:46.920 --> 00:37:52.320 it. So now it's like, okay, what are we doing because I 549 00:37:52.360 --> 00:37:55.840 need to put the same the same way that I pleasure you. Because here's 550 00:37:55.840 --> 00:38:01.360 the thing. Me putting a higher emphasis on making sure that I get I'm 551 00:38:01.360 --> 00:38:06.960 satisfied and I'm fulfilled as will does not take away from me wanting to satisfy 552 00:38:07.000 --> 00:38:09.159 you on the process. Because here's the thing men are, you know, 553 00:38:09.280 --> 00:38:13.920 it's I hate to do the men versus woman things, but men are kind 554 00:38:13.920 --> 00:38:17.519 of easily satisfied. It are like, it's easier for you guys to be 555 00:38:17.599 --> 00:38:22.440 satisfied versus a woman who is like, it takes a little longer, but 556 00:38:22.519 --> 00:38:25.079 it's worth it. It's worth it's taking a little longer, right. So 557 00:38:25.119 --> 00:38:28.840 it's like I look at you know, situations, and I'm like, okay, 558 00:38:28.920 --> 00:38:30.639 I remember it was this one guy. I told him, like you 559 00:38:30.639 --> 00:38:36.039 know, he was like, oh, will you could bring a woman into 560 00:38:36.039 --> 00:38:37.960 the bed room? But I don't like sex toys. And I'm like, 561 00:38:38.199 --> 00:38:43.159 see, just for you to say that, I know your mindset. So 562 00:38:43.239 --> 00:38:45.880 now I don't want to have sex with you because it's you're making it about 563 00:38:45.920 --> 00:38:50.159 you. You're making my pleasure about you instead of my pleasure about me. 564 00:38:50.360 --> 00:38:53.519 Yeah. Yeah, and that's a different Yeah, that's like a different conversation. 565 00:38:53.559 --> 00:38:57.199 So it's very awfulitty, but those are you know again, you have 566 00:38:57.280 --> 00:38:59.880 to have those conversations because now you know, like you know what this is 567 00:39:00.119 --> 00:39:01.400 even work for my time. I'm not gonna just have sex with you just 568 00:39:01.440 --> 00:39:05.480 because you want to have sex with me, What am I gonna get out 569 00:39:05.519 --> 00:39:08.039 of it? So that's why even with me, like throughout my whole phase, 570 00:39:08.280 --> 00:39:13.039 I would have sex with the same people over and over again because I'm 571 00:39:13.039 --> 00:39:16.039 like, I know their mindset, we have a similar sexual mindset, and 572 00:39:16.079 --> 00:39:21.840 I know that I'm going to be fulfilled coming out of this. But you 573 00:39:21.880 --> 00:39:22.960 know the ones where it was like, oh, we had sex and then 574 00:39:22.960 --> 00:39:27.960 I didn't have sex again with you, it's because I'm like, no, 575 00:39:28.119 --> 00:39:31.000 we either weren't sexually compatible, we didn't have the same mindset. No, 576 00:39:31.199 --> 00:39:36.079 I tried, it didn't work. I'm not even gonna give it another chance 577 00:39:36.119 --> 00:39:37.519 because I know it's not worth it. Versus someone where I was like, 578 00:39:37.679 --> 00:39:43.559 no, I like love the way they approach sex. Yeah, so here 579 00:39:43.639 --> 00:39:45.440 we can we can we can have fun. We can have fun here. 580 00:39:45.480 --> 00:39:49.000 Oh there, it's like, no, we can't have fun over there. 581 00:39:50.440 --> 00:39:55.679 I love that with intention? Yes, yes, you know, yes, 582 00:39:57.199 --> 00:40:01.079 you have to look we we we you do all these other things with intention. 583 00:40:01.480 --> 00:40:06.320 Why not be intentional with your couchee, Like, let's let's let's put 584 00:40:06.320 --> 00:40:10.000 that out there, like, let's be intentional with our sexual choices and our 585 00:40:10.119 --> 00:40:15.719 sexual intention, because I think that's what it comes down to, Like when 586 00:40:15.760 --> 00:40:19.000 you say, like, you know what, I'm going to have a good 587 00:40:19.039 --> 00:40:22.840 experience because I'm gonna do my part to make sure and ensure that I'm gonna 588 00:40:22.880 --> 00:40:25.280 have a good experience. So what does that mean? Does it mean I 589 00:40:25.320 --> 00:40:30.320 have certain types of conversations with this particular partner. Doesn't mean that I bring 590 00:40:30.519 --> 00:40:34.719 toys and I communicate that up front, and I'm honest and I'm transparent. 591 00:40:34.920 --> 00:40:37.119 As long as you do your part, you can't be blamed if the sex 592 00:40:37.280 --> 00:40:40.880 is not good because you did your part. You didn't just lay there and 593 00:40:40.920 --> 00:40:44.679 take it. Because I tell people too, it's like, okay if you 594 00:40:44.719 --> 00:40:46.400 don't, if you just lay there and take it, you can't just say 595 00:40:46.440 --> 00:40:51.320 it was all on them because you have a mouth. You can't communicate like 596 00:40:51.519 --> 00:40:54.519 you don't have to have sexlessness person, that's part. It's not pleasuring you, 597 00:40:54.599 --> 00:40:58.920 or it's not pleasing you have a conversation, figure that out. So 598 00:41:00.119 --> 00:41:05.599 fact, we just to bring our convo to a little clothes. We have 599 00:41:05.840 --> 00:41:12.639 a an anonymous sex hotline, and okay, I would love the opportunity to 600 00:41:12.800 --> 00:41:15.039 play one of these for you, and then we'll talk a little bit about 601 00:41:15.039 --> 00:41:20.840 it. We've not heard these ahead of time, so there's a chance there's 602 00:41:20.840 --> 00:41:23.239 a chance whom I listen to one and listen to a different one. We've 603 00:41:23.239 --> 00:41:27.119 had a few leave them and they're like not serious, and I'm like, 604 00:41:27.159 --> 00:41:30.840 okay, well on to the nice, nice, nice, Yeah, let's 605 00:41:30.920 --> 00:41:32.840 let's give it a listen. I kind of want to do that. We're 606 00:41:32.880 --> 00:41:37.119 provocative at some point, but nobody has been leaving me voicemail, so I 607 00:41:37.119 --> 00:41:40.639 don't know eventually, and we had not listened to these ahead of time, 608 00:41:40.679 --> 00:41:44.639 so it'll be fresh for both of us. And doing this with the guests 609 00:41:44.760 --> 00:41:46.320 is our first time, so you're gonna be a bit of a guinea pig 610 00:41:46.400 --> 00:41:52.880 here. Yeay, yay, Okay. So I hooked up with this guy 611 00:41:52.920 --> 00:41:59.079 from Kinder, my first ever Kinder hook up. It has only as of 612 00:41:59.480 --> 00:42:06.400 the farm, and he was pretty into some things I had never done before, 613 00:42:07.880 --> 00:42:14.920 including he like taking my stocks off and licking my feet and then wanted 614 00:42:14.960 --> 00:42:19.000 me to like his feet put his toes in my mouth, which I had 615 00:42:19.039 --> 00:42:22.039 never done before, nor was I really interested in doing. But there's just 616 00:42:22.119 --> 00:42:25.840 some giggles. I did it anyways, and I wasn't really into it. 617 00:42:25.960 --> 00:42:30.440 But I think he was. And then turns out the next time we hung 618 00:42:30.480 --> 00:42:35.480 out, I talked to him about it and I said, so, you're 619 00:42:35.519 --> 00:42:38.199 really into feet. He's like, no, not really, you know. 620 00:42:38.239 --> 00:42:42.800 I was like, but you licked my feet and you wanted me to lick 621 00:42:43.000 --> 00:42:45.599 yours. He's like, yeah, I just wanted to try it, and 622 00:42:46.039 --> 00:42:51.400 that was my first time ever doing that, and I felt a little bit 623 00:42:52.119 --> 00:42:55.360 like we could have communicated that, but also what better time to do it 624 00:42:55.400 --> 00:43:00.519 than with a total stranger and just try anything. You can always say no, 625 00:43:01.679 --> 00:43:07.719 and I appreciated that he was willing to be adventurous and exploratory like that, 626 00:43:07.320 --> 00:43:10.400 even though I didn't like it, and I told him that next time. 627 00:43:12.159 --> 00:43:14.440 I was like, yeah, I wasn't really into that, and I 628 00:43:14.440 --> 00:43:17.880 don't think he was either. But she liked it enough to want to try 629 00:43:17.920 --> 00:43:22.400 it, I guess. And it was kind of funny. It was weird, 630 00:43:22.079 --> 00:43:28.320 it was funny, and I learned from her. So that's my confession 631 00:43:28.519 --> 00:43:38.320 for now. I had to hold my laugh in. Um, I think 632 00:43:38.400 --> 00:43:45.559 that was okay. So these are kind of my immediate thoughts on that she 633 00:43:45.760 --> 00:43:54.599 went into someone who was exploring a kink, and I think all of there 634 00:43:54.599 --> 00:44:00.920 are a lot of people that have kink um explored or unexplored either, but 635 00:44:00.280 --> 00:44:06.639 being adventurous and being open to explore that like she could have easily said like 636 00:44:06.920 --> 00:44:09.960 no, I'm not I'm not doing it, like she could she could have 637 00:44:09.960 --> 00:44:15.480 said no, but she kind of went with it and was open to the 638 00:44:15.559 --> 00:44:20.440 experience. So I love when people are sexually open and sexually curious and you 639 00:44:20.480 --> 00:44:24.679 know, not shaming someone for wanting to explore something because on I mean, 640 00:44:24.679 --> 00:44:28.760 even though she wasn't into it, what if she was into it? What 641 00:44:28.800 --> 00:44:31.199 if that was the situation that she would have found out Like oh wait, 642 00:44:31.280 --> 00:44:35.000 you know what. Wait I didn't think I would like this, but I 643 00:44:35.079 --> 00:44:39.400 do now because I've had that situation before where probably like I'm really big on 644 00:44:39.480 --> 00:44:43.639 dental hygiene, Like I've never so much as had a cavity, right, 645 00:44:43.719 --> 00:44:46.159 So I've had braces, I've never had a cavity. I go to the 646 00:44:46.239 --> 00:44:49.639 dentist, They're always saying, like, you know, you have great dental 647 00:44:49.719 --> 00:44:52.960 hygiene whatever. Right, So when it comes to spitting in mouth, for 648 00:44:53.039 --> 00:44:55.239 a long time, I was like, oh my god, why would you 649 00:44:55.280 --> 00:45:02.880 want to spit in someone's mouth? Fast forward, I could be doing a 650 00:45:02.880 --> 00:45:06.719 spinning. You could be doing a spitting like you know, we like, 651 00:45:07.119 --> 00:45:09.679 I'm cool with it, right, But if there was a point in it 652 00:45:09.719 --> 00:45:14.039 wasn't until I was doing it. I was like, oh, you know 653 00:45:14.079 --> 00:45:19.199 what, whatever fear or shame that you know was in my head that prevented 654 00:45:19.239 --> 00:45:22.599 me from doing it in the past is no longer there. So now I'm 655 00:45:22.599 --> 00:45:25.679 a little bit more open, right. Um Me personally, I've never sucked 656 00:45:25.679 --> 00:45:30.760 on anybody's toes. Um, I don't know. It's one of those things 657 00:45:30.800 --> 00:45:35.039 where it's like, once you're in the situation, you'll know what you're what 658 00:45:35.159 --> 00:45:37.960 you're willing to do right. It has to feel right, like it can't 659 00:45:38.000 --> 00:45:43.239 be forced at all. Um So I and I will say this, I 660 00:45:43.280 --> 00:45:47.119 am super grateful for at the end her acknowledging that she kind of reflected on 661 00:45:47.239 --> 00:45:50.880 the process, and I was like, oh, you know what, I 662 00:45:50.880 --> 00:45:54.360 can appreciate this man for trying something because a lot of men are reluctant to 663 00:45:54.440 --> 00:46:00.519 try new things in a nice way. When someone approaches me and it's like, 664 00:46:00.559 --> 00:46:05.599 hey, I saw you from across the room, I heard you speaking 665 00:46:05.800 --> 00:46:08.159 like I really would love to get to know you. Is it a possibility 666 00:46:08.199 --> 00:46:12.360 that we can exchange information when people come to you really respectfully. I'm like, 667 00:46:12.800 --> 00:46:16.280 no, but I really appreciate for putting yourself out there because approaching people 668 00:46:16.320 --> 00:46:21.559 and new people is really hard. So you keep doing it. Keep doing 669 00:46:21.599 --> 00:46:24.000 that. I'm unavailable, but keep doing that, Like, I get very 670 00:46:24.039 --> 00:46:29.679 appreciate it. I was gonna say, the boldness of this guy to like, 671 00:46:30.079 --> 00:46:34.119 and it's implied in here that it was their first hook up together, 672 00:46:34.199 --> 00:46:37.400 but the boldness firm to us, like throw himself on the cliff out there 673 00:46:38.559 --> 00:46:43.119 to see, like, hey, you want to try this? Maybe it's 674 00:46:43.199 --> 00:46:45.320 like what she said, like what a better time than with a stranger? 675 00:46:45.440 --> 00:46:51.760 I guess what a stranger? I guess. It's like when you know someone 676 00:46:52.280 --> 00:46:55.079 you kind of you, you don't want to disappoint them. You don't want 677 00:46:55.079 --> 00:46:59.440 them to fill any type of way about you. You don't you know. 678 00:46:59.519 --> 00:47:05.679 It's like all of these uh kind of insecurity yeah right, um that come 679 00:47:05.760 --> 00:47:08.840 into play when you know somebody versus somebody you don't know. It's like, 680 00:47:08.960 --> 00:47:13.639 I don't give a damn what you think. I'm probably never gonna see you 681 00:47:13.719 --> 00:47:20.159 again. Yeah. I also like, no, no, go ahead, 682 00:47:20.239 --> 00:47:22.159 Like I definitely think that's what it came down. Dude. I definitely think 683 00:47:22.199 --> 00:47:27.519 it's easier for you to do something when it comes to a stranger because then 684 00:47:27.639 --> 00:47:30.760 there's no there's no real shame associated with it, Like you don't have to 685 00:47:30.800 --> 00:47:34.559 look at them the next day and be like, oh my god, I 686 00:47:34.639 --> 00:47:37.960 can't be like yeah, I'm not talking about down and cover my face and 687 00:47:37.280 --> 00:47:40.760 we don't have to talk about this every It doesn't ruin the dating experience. 688 00:47:40.880 --> 00:47:45.159 Like I was dating this guy and wanted to sue like, yeah, yeah, 689 00:47:45.599 --> 00:47:49.119 I was gonna say. I also like how it seems like this person 690 00:47:49.760 --> 00:47:54.639 didn't necessarily have like you know, you think of like a kinker or an 691 00:47:54.639 --> 00:47:58.719 interest of being like, boy, boy, I really want to suck on 692 00:47:58.800 --> 00:48:00.440 feet, but it sounds like this guy I kind of didn't have that and 693 00:48:00.559 --> 00:48:02.719 was just like I've never tried it. Yeah, let's try it and see 694 00:48:02.760 --> 00:48:07.480 maybe it'll open up something. I think that's a really interesting and like another 695 00:48:07.679 --> 00:48:12.320 very like good for you like to just try ship even if it's not there's 696 00:48:12.320 --> 00:48:14.760 not this thing in you that's like, hey, I really want to do 697 00:48:14.800 --> 00:48:16.519 this, but like just giving it a shot. Well, it could be 698 00:48:16.559 --> 00:48:21.639 a situation like um, like with you you say you're not into feet, 699 00:48:21.639 --> 00:48:23.920 you're into my feet. Yeah, maybe she had beautiful feet. Maybe he 700 00:48:23.960 --> 00:48:29.119 saw his feet he was like, yeah, I'll try that last Travis. 701 00:48:29.559 --> 00:48:31.440 But I on the flip side, he didn't want her to suck his feet 702 00:48:31.440 --> 00:48:37.679 too, So I don't there's a whole thing going on. Yeah, Like 703 00:48:37.800 --> 00:48:42.039 I think he was just exploring different kinks. I think he's just trying to 704 00:48:42.039 --> 00:48:45.360 figure out what his kink is. Yea, and it maybe feet, it 705 00:48:45.480 --> 00:48:50.519 maybe I don't know, elbows like people, it could be anything like what 706 00:48:50.599 --> 00:48:52.599 are you like, Oh my god, I just really want to all up 707 00:48:52.599 --> 00:48:59.400 your elbows or something like. It's this big spectrum of where you can fall 708 00:48:59.480 --> 00:49:04.599 when it comes so like your personal kinks or your fetishes. And I think 709 00:49:04.679 --> 00:49:07.679 he's probably just exploring that. So he is. Probably he has a list 710 00:49:07.679 --> 00:49:10.920 of things and he's like, I'm gonna try these and figure it out feet 711 00:49:12.159 --> 00:49:15.920 and wasn't impressed onto the next or he may try it again and be like, 712 00:49:16.039 --> 00:49:20.000 oh, Okay, this is a better experience. I mean that's how 713 00:49:20.039 --> 00:49:22.880 I felt the first time I tried anal, Like I tried antal for the 714 00:49:22.920 --> 00:49:25.119 first time, I was like no, And then the second time I was 715 00:49:25.159 --> 00:49:32.159 like Okay, we're getting somewhere, so it might be one of those things. 716 00:49:32.159 --> 00:49:36.639 Well, my rule is I'll try anything three times. The first time 717 00:49:36.679 --> 00:49:40.000 for the initial shock and I don't know what's happening. The second time for 718 00:49:40.199 --> 00:49:45.320 I'm not shocked at what's going to happen. I can prepare myself and figure 719 00:49:45.360 --> 00:49:47.199 out how to enjoy it or how to do it. And then a third 720 00:49:47.199 --> 00:49:51.360 time like, okay, I know what to do. I need to figure 721 00:49:51.400 --> 00:49:54.480 out if with me having knowledge and practicing, if this is for me, 722 00:49:55.440 --> 00:49:59.159 so that ye usually my role. I agree. I definitely think if you 723 00:49:59.280 --> 00:50:05.639 try something three times under different circumstances, it'll provide different you know, you'll 724 00:50:05.639 --> 00:50:09.559 get different feedback, you'll basically acquire different knowledge from those three times trying. 725 00:50:09.599 --> 00:50:14.800 You don't try something once. I'm like, nope, yum. If it 726 00:50:14.880 --> 00:50:16.599 got you interesting enough to try it that first time, I think it's worth 727 00:50:16.639 --> 00:50:21.800 trying a second and third time for sure. Well, Jody, it's been 728 00:50:21.960 --> 00:50:24.800 so much fun talking with you. Where would you like people to find you 729 00:50:24.960 --> 00:50:34.519 and provocative? Yes? So you can find me on Instagram. That's probably 730 00:50:34.679 --> 00:50:37.400 my go to app. I'm on Instagram the most, Jody. The free 731 00:50:37.440 --> 00:50:45.239 costs my handle is at Jody Provocative. That's j O d Y p R 732 00:50:45.639 --> 00:50:49.920 h O E d O c A c A v E. That was the 733 00:50:49.920 --> 00:50:54.639 word hope because we all got some home on us. Perfect. But yeah, 734 00:50:54.679 --> 00:50:59.440 so I'm on Facebook, but Facebook is kind of you know, it's 735 00:50:59.480 --> 00:51:02.639 like, y'all don't really got to follow me. There is at Provocative. 736 00:51:04.440 --> 00:51:09.000 You could definitely find me there, But I post the most content on Instagram 737 00:51:09.039 --> 00:51:16.280 for sure. Provocative is on all streaming platforms, so you can find Provocative 738 00:51:16.360 --> 00:51:22.039 on Apple, Podcasts, Spotify, Google, Amazon, wherever you listen to 739 00:51:22.079 --> 00:51:25.679 podcasts, iHeartRadio, all of that good stuff. You can find me there. 740 00:51:28.159 --> 00:51:31.880 And what else The Provocative website that's where you can get merch from. 741 00:51:31.920 --> 00:51:38.159 So that's provocative dot com and the Yeah, I'm yeah. I'm working on 742 00:51:39.079 --> 00:51:45.199 getting the visual parts of Provocative once to YouTube by June, because the to 743 00:51:45.440 --> 00:51:51.039 your anniversary of Provocative is on six nine, the National Sex Day, So 744 00:51:51.440 --> 00:51:54.960 I want to drop like all of the visual content on YouTube by then, 745 00:51:55.239 --> 00:51:59.159 so then people will be able to see, like, you know, the 746 00:51:59.280 --> 00:52:04.760 crazy face expressions I make when I tell these funny stories. So yeah, 747 00:52:04.760 --> 00:52:08.199 but Instagram, oh yeah, Like Instagram is definitely the best place to find 748 00:52:08.199 --> 00:52:13.559 me. If not, on all of the podcast streaming app you can listen 749 00:52:13.599 --> 00:52:16.800 to me and we'll provide all those details in the episode description as well, 750 00:52:16.840 --> 00:52:22.880 so it's easy for people to find Joey's Instagram and website. I didn't. 751 00:52:22.920 --> 00:52:27.679 Is there anything you'd like to add before we No, just thanks, thanks 752 00:52:27.679 --> 00:52:30.360 for coming by and talking to us. Yeah, you guys are great, 753 00:52:30.480 --> 00:52:35.000 Like we have fun on my show when you guys came and we talked about 754 00:52:35.079 --> 00:52:37.519 intimacy everything. When I talk to you guys, it's a good time. 755 00:52:37.599 --> 00:52:40.159 So great. Yes, all the way around. You guys are amazing. 756 00:52:40.280 --> 00:52:45.159 Thank you so much for having me on your show. Thank you again for 757 00:52:45.239 --> 00:52:46.800 coming on at the provocative of a couple of months ago. It's a really 758 00:52:46.800 --> 00:52:51.679 great episode. But yeah, we're gonna keep driving the converence, the sexual 759 00:52:51.719 --> 00:52:57.280 conversation forward. I think though, that's really what's needed in our industry for 760 00:52:57.400 --> 00:53:01.079 sure. Absolutely, well, Hill next time. Thank you again for joining 761 00:53:01.159 --> 00:53:05.960 us on today's episode. 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