WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.240 --> 00:00:03.399 Hi everyone, and welcome back to the podcast episode. My name is Lisha 2 00:00:03.399 --> 00:00:06.639 Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.679 --> 00:00:09.640 your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into the 4 00:00:09.640 --> 00:00:15.119 best version of yourself. Hello. Happy for me, Sunday for you. 5 00:00:15.199 --> 00:00:18.440 If you're listening to this right when it drops a Monday, how are we 6 00:00:18.519 --> 00:00:23.600 doing this? Sun is out once again, which means my mood is top 7 00:00:23.640 --> 00:00:30.039 notch. Okay, I am having such a spring themed weekend. I just 8 00:00:30.559 --> 00:00:35.200 dropped a new video on my main channel. If you are interested in seeing 9 00:00:35.200 --> 00:00:39.079 what I'm doing with my life, then go over there. Definitely actual link 10 00:00:39.119 --> 00:00:46.079 it down below the vlog. But we did lots of decluttering, we organized, 11 00:00:46.159 --> 00:00:49.799 we brought out some new self care products for Spring, and I also 12 00:00:49.840 --> 00:00:54.320 showed you guys how I make my mood boards and I gave you all a 13 00:00:54.399 --> 00:00:58.200 template as well. So I am just feeling in the spring vibes. If 14 00:00:58.200 --> 00:01:00.799 you guys are watching on YouTube right now now, I'm kind of in my 15 00:01:00.039 --> 00:01:04.560 ath leisure era. It's so funny because somebody had commented on one of my 16 00:01:04.640 --> 00:01:08.280 videos recently, and I think it was my main channel, and she was 17 00:01:08.359 --> 00:01:11.879 like, I freaking love you. I live in Toronto. I hope to 18 00:01:11.959 --> 00:01:15.920 run into you. But if I hear an influencer say era one more time, 19 00:01:17.000 --> 00:01:22.480 I am going to go insane. And I feel you listen, Imagine 20 00:01:22.519 --> 00:01:26.079 just being an influencer okay, or a podcast or whatever you want to call 21 00:01:26.079 --> 00:01:30.599 me, content creator, whatever, and having to speak for a living and 22 00:01:30.799 --> 00:01:34.719 on top of that, go back and edit so much of your content. 23 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:38.239 Trust me, it's annoying. I know, I'm sorry, but I love 24 00:01:38.280 --> 00:01:42.000 it. I love the eras. So anyways, we have a few things 25 00:01:42.040 --> 00:01:44.480 to talk about today. The main thing we're gonna be talking about is how 26 00:01:44.519 --> 00:01:49.239 to enjoy the process of creating your dream life, because we're all on this 27 00:01:49.439 --> 00:01:53.120 pursuit, okay, and I think one of the most crucial things to do 28 00:01:53.359 --> 00:01:56.840 is to learn how to enjoy the process, because at the end of the 29 00:01:56.920 --> 00:02:00.719 day, you're in the process. We're always in the of creating our dream 30 00:02:00.719 --> 00:02:06.799 lives. And I think recently with the podcasts we have this like Raising our 31 00:02:06.920 --> 00:02:13.680 Vibrations series going on right now, and I have been stressing the importance of 32 00:02:14.360 --> 00:02:20.319 positive thinking and then just enjoying the process and just no longer waking up every 33 00:02:20.400 --> 00:02:23.960 day feeling like life is crap and I want to talk about it today. 34 00:02:24.039 --> 00:02:27.560 I need to say one thing though, before we get into it, which 35 00:02:27.719 --> 00:02:32.879 is we hit over one million downloads on Spotify and Apple. Okay for the 36 00:02:32.879 --> 00:02:37.879 podcast. If you guys are watching on YouTube and you don't know, my 37 00:02:38.520 --> 00:02:43.080 podcast is available audio version on Spotify, Apple or wherever you listen to your 38 00:02:43.080 --> 00:02:50.159 podcast like audio version. And I actually started this podcast way before the YouTube 39 00:02:50.240 --> 00:02:53.240 channel, so just know that there is way more episodes that are just not 40 00:02:53.439 --> 00:03:00.560 on YouTube because I only started recording the visuals beginning of Gennuary of twenty twenty 41 00:03:00.599 --> 00:03:06.120 three, I believe, I think if my math is correct, So anyways, 42 00:03:06.159 --> 00:03:08.280 I just wanted to say a huge thank you, a huge shout out 43 00:03:08.319 --> 00:03:15.919 to everyone. And also we have twenty three k subscribers on the YouTube channel. 44 00:03:15.919 --> 00:03:17.680 If you guys are listening to audio like, we're growing over here as 45 00:03:17.680 --> 00:03:23.039 well. And I believe we have about forty seven k following just alone on 46 00:03:23.120 --> 00:03:27.840 Spotify. And the reason why I'm bringing out these numbers is not really like 47 00:03:27.879 --> 00:03:30.919 a flex because whatever it is, what it is, it's great numbers. 48 00:03:30.039 --> 00:03:35.719 Yeah, It's more about the fact that there are so many of you guys 49 00:03:36.000 --> 00:03:40.560 on the process of glowing up, becoming the best versions of yourselves, healing, 50 00:03:42.159 --> 00:03:46.120 just working on yourselves. I just wanted to say that and just I 51 00:03:46.120 --> 00:03:49.639 guess show you guys in a way that you are not alone. You are 52 00:03:49.639 --> 00:03:53.639 not alone on this process. There is so many of you who are just 53 00:03:54.159 --> 00:03:59.840 so committed, and it's reflection of this number, I should say, is 54 00:04:00.039 --> 00:04:05.120 reflection of the work that you guys are putting in week after week, month 55 00:04:05.120 --> 00:04:09.080 after month, year after freaking year. At this point with this podcast, 56 00:04:09.319 --> 00:04:12.120 you guys are committing, you're showing up, you're working on yourselves, You're 57 00:04:12.199 --> 00:04:15.400 just you're doing the damn thing. So I'm just really proud of all of 58 00:04:15.439 --> 00:04:18.639 you guys, because that's how I look at those numbers. It's not necessarily 59 00:04:18.680 --> 00:04:21.879 about me, Like partly, yes, I know you guys follow me and 60 00:04:21.879 --> 00:04:26.680 you like my advice and you want to you're inspired and motivated, is that, 61 00:04:27.439 --> 00:04:30.759 But I just look at those numbers like, damn, like we're really 62 00:04:30.800 --> 00:04:34.120 all here doing it. So thank you guys so much, of course, 63 00:04:34.160 --> 00:04:39.720 and I'm really proud of you guys for just being on this journey and we 64 00:04:39.759 --> 00:04:44.519 will continue to glow up from here. Okay, So let's talk about how 65 00:04:44.759 --> 00:04:49.720 you can enjoy the process of creating your dream life. And as I was 66 00:04:49.759 --> 00:04:53.879 thinking about this topic, I thought, you know what, we have to 67 00:04:53.879 --> 00:04:56.920 talk about the mindset first. Okay, I'm gonna share with you guys some 68 00:04:56.959 --> 00:05:00.360 of the things that I have been currently doing to enjoy the process. But 69 00:05:00.399 --> 00:05:05.240 I think it really starts with a few mindset shifts. Okay, when it 70 00:05:05.240 --> 00:05:12.800 comes to enjoying the process of creating your dream life. And the first thing 71 00:05:12.959 --> 00:05:16.720 is is that you need to decide. Okay, this is going to be 72 00:05:16.800 --> 00:05:23.839 a decision. You are going to have to actively decide that you want to 73 00:05:24.199 --> 00:05:29.959 enjoy the process. You are no longer in this sprint to the finish line. 74 00:05:30.000 --> 00:05:32.360 We know there's always going to be goals, we know the dream life 75 00:05:32.399 --> 00:05:36.600 is coming. We know there's just always going to be something. And we 76 00:05:36.680 --> 00:05:44.800 also know that it's not really that fun and enjoyable to constantly be just always 77 00:05:44.959 --> 00:05:47.279 thinking about the dream life and always thinking we're in the process. But like 78 00:05:47.759 --> 00:05:51.839 this energy of like not being present in the moment. We know that and 79 00:05:53.079 --> 00:05:56.519 this is not to say that we drop our goals. We will always have 80 00:05:56.639 --> 00:05:59.560 goals, We will always want to work towards things we will always be inspired 81 00:05:59.600 --> 00:06:05.720 and motive, but it is time that you decide that you know what. 82 00:06:05.959 --> 00:06:09.600 I'm gonna wake up today, and yes I have goals, and yes I 83 00:06:09.600 --> 00:06:12.439 want to work on them, but I also want to be present today. 84 00:06:12.639 --> 00:06:15.199 I also want to find the beauty in the small things today. I also 85 00:06:15.399 --> 00:06:19.279 just want to decide today is going to be an easy day because I decided 86 00:06:19.680 --> 00:06:25.560 I am going to decide to stop telling myself such a negative, limiting belief 87 00:06:25.600 --> 00:06:28.639 story that I have about this thing that I really want or this life that 88 00:06:28.959 --> 00:06:32.560 I am clearly not pulling any sort of gratitude or enjoyment out of. I 89 00:06:32.600 --> 00:06:38.879 want to decide to feel good. I talked about this last week on I 90 00:06:38.879 --> 00:06:41.560 don't even remember what the episode was, I'll link it down below, but 91 00:06:42.800 --> 00:06:48.360 talking about this decision to finally just feel good. Why for two reasons? 92 00:06:48.759 --> 00:06:51.759 We want to feel good because we're sick and tired of feeling like crap. 93 00:06:51.839 --> 00:06:56.600 Okay, we came through the hybridation season where a spring is coming, we 94 00:06:56.639 --> 00:07:00.040 are awakening. It just feels good to feel good, okay. But also, 95 00:07:00.480 --> 00:07:06.560 if we are talking about building our dream life law of attraction standpoint, 96 00:07:06.639 --> 00:07:10.399 and if you don't believe this, then all good. You don't have to 97 00:07:10.560 --> 00:07:14.879 you know, that's fine for me, Like attracts. Like if I'm going 98 00:07:14.959 --> 00:07:17.040 to bring in the dream life that I want, which is love, which 99 00:07:17.079 --> 00:07:23.040 is abundance, which is just enjoyment and just all this prosperous, amazing things, 100 00:07:23.600 --> 00:07:26.160 I got to be in that frequency. I gotta be high vibe. 101 00:07:26.160 --> 00:07:30.279 I got to be enjoying the moment right now so I could become a match 102 00:07:30.560 --> 00:07:33.959 and to create more opportunities and bring in more opportunities and open doors for the 103 00:07:34.040 --> 00:07:38.199 universe to bring me what I want, bring me what I'm actually asking for. 104 00:07:38.600 --> 00:07:42.160 Okay, So it really is a decision. And the reason why I'm 105 00:07:42.160 --> 00:07:46.240 saying this is because you are so on autopilot with a lot of things, 106 00:07:46.920 --> 00:07:49.720 the thoughts that you think, the stories you tell yourself, your day to 107 00:07:49.759 --> 00:07:54.600 day habits. Naturally, that's like a good thing. Actually, our bodies, 108 00:07:54.600 --> 00:07:59.399 our minds, our souls are really in this habitual process because it would 109 00:07:59.439 --> 00:08:03.759 take way too long for us to constantly be like being conscious about every step, 110 00:08:03.800 --> 00:08:07.759 every thought, everything that we do. But you have to also understand 111 00:08:07.800 --> 00:08:13.680 that sometimes you're looping in negative beliefs and going to the to the lack and 112 00:08:13.759 --> 00:08:16.279 always thinking about, oh no, it's not going to be easy, or 113 00:08:16.319 --> 00:08:20.480 this can't happen, or this that. So when you are wanting to enjoy 114 00:08:20.519 --> 00:08:24.920 the process and romanticize your life, enjoy the moment and the just blessings of 115 00:08:24.920 --> 00:08:28.319 whatever it is that you have right now in your life, there is going 116 00:08:28.399 --> 00:08:35.919 to be a conscious effort on your part to really steer your mind in the 117 00:08:35.000 --> 00:08:39.159 positive light, the gratitude, the you know, looking at all of the 118 00:08:39.159 --> 00:08:43.200 great things that are currently happening in your life. There's gonna have to be 119 00:08:43.279 --> 00:08:46.679 a conscious effort when you're laying in bed, when you wake up in the 120 00:08:46.679 --> 00:08:50.840 morning and you're deciding, I want to really enjoy the process of building my 121 00:08:50.919 --> 00:08:54.080 dream life and I want to think positively this that it's not going to be 122 00:08:54.519 --> 00:08:58.919 automatic. So you have to become very aware of when your mind is going 123 00:09:00.240 --> 00:09:03.399 to the negative, bring her back, bring her back, bring her back. 124 00:09:03.399 --> 00:09:05.600 It's going to be a process. It's going to be a decision. 125 00:09:05.000 --> 00:09:11.000 I am deciding that I want to bring my negative focus to the positive. 126 00:09:11.480 --> 00:09:15.480 I am very aware that I am currently looping on that and I want to 127 00:09:15.480 --> 00:09:20.120 bring her to the positive. Until this becomes more of a positive cycle, 128 00:09:20.200 --> 00:09:24.600 you don't really have to like try so heavily. And something I like to 129 00:09:24.600 --> 00:09:30.080 do is when I find myself steering to the negative and coming up with stories 130 00:09:30.080 --> 00:09:33.720 about how hard things are going to be, or or just like witnessing the 131 00:09:33.759 --> 00:09:37.799 fact that I am obsessing over goals and I'm very much so like rushing to 132 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:43.799 the finish line energy, I will like say out loud to myself or you 133 00:09:43.799 --> 00:09:48.320 can even journal this, like you know what I am. I see the 134 00:09:48.360 --> 00:09:52.320 fact that I want this goal over here, but I am deciding that I 135 00:09:52.360 --> 00:09:54.039 want to be in the present moment right now and I want to enjoy this 136 00:09:54.120 --> 00:09:58.159 thing. And what I mean I like to say this out loud is if 137 00:09:58.240 --> 00:10:03.759 I, like I just said, see or witness myself like ruminating on something, 138 00:10:05.159 --> 00:10:09.080 I will verbally say, no, we're not going there. Let me 139 00:10:09.159 --> 00:10:11.600 focus on the positive. I know that this is not gonna get me anywhere 140 00:10:11.879 --> 00:10:16.919 focusing so heavily on goals I don't have yet, or rushing to the finish 141 00:10:18.000 --> 00:10:20.519 line or coming out with all these scenarios and this that, and the third 142 00:10:20.759 --> 00:10:26.120 like verbally saying out loud or getting up and moving my energy somewhere else or 143 00:10:26.159 --> 00:10:30.919 my focus on something else. It is going to be a deliberate you, 144 00:10:31.399 --> 00:10:35.879 kind of steering yourself into the direction that you want. The next thing to 145 00:10:35.000 --> 00:10:41.240 allow you to enjoy the process of creating your dream life more is to stop 146 00:10:41.320 --> 00:10:50.279 depriving yourself of enjoyment of the beautiful life that is yours currently. I think 147 00:10:50.279 --> 00:10:54.480 that this is a huge thing that I had to work on when it came 148 00:10:54.639 --> 00:11:01.440 to being somebody who was this hyper obsessed focused on her goal self improvement girly 149 00:11:01.879 --> 00:11:07.000 who just wanted to just go, go go. I never really allowed myself 150 00:11:07.080 --> 00:11:13.399 to enjoy the small things in life, and I would always deprive myself of 151 00:11:13.480 --> 00:11:18.799 just being happy. And now a lot of the reasons why we do this 152 00:11:18.519 --> 00:11:24.440 is because we are really I guess this is a side note, when we 153 00:11:24.639 --> 00:11:28.639 are so obsessed with like dream life and goals and this, that we're actually 154 00:11:28.639 --> 00:11:33.480 in a state of fight or flight. That's really what we are in. 155 00:11:33.879 --> 00:11:37.440 And there's a spectrum of course. And I think, like it's always it's 156 00:11:37.519 --> 00:11:39.960 not like the worst thing to always like, you know, want to have 157 00:11:41.000 --> 00:11:43.840 a drive to you know, get better and whatever. But I just think 158 00:11:43.879 --> 00:11:46.480 back in my life when I was really going through it, and I really 159 00:11:46.519 --> 00:11:50.799 like I left no room for being happy and enjoying the moment and like just 160 00:11:52.480 --> 00:11:58.200 being present. I was in this energy because I just was not safe in 161 00:11:58.240 --> 00:12:01.799 my environment. I didn't like my environment. I wanted to get out of 162 00:12:01.840 --> 00:12:05.519 it. I was very unsafe, Like genuinely, I didn't have the best 163 00:12:05.600 --> 00:12:09.960 environment like around me. It was no wonder that I was so obsessed about 164 00:12:11.000 --> 00:12:15.320 getting out, you know, dream life goals, goals goals. So on 165 00:12:15.320 --> 00:12:18.799 one hand, it's important that we create safety in our own lives right by 166 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:22.240 you know, gratitude obviously, if you have to like talk to people and 167 00:12:22.279 --> 00:12:26.480 get support and therapy and all these things, understand why you're so attached to 168 00:12:26.559 --> 00:12:31.039 this this life outside of yours, which is so understandable that you might be 169 00:12:31.039 --> 00:12:33.000 because my life was not the way that it is right now. I get 170 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:37.080 that. But on the other hand, it's like finding small pockets of time 171 00:12:37.159 --> 00:12:41.399 to remind yourself, like you know what, this is really kind of like 172 00:12:41.440 --> 00:12:45.159 a trauma response right now that I'm not allowing myself to just be happy in 173 00:12:45.159 --> 00:12:48.039 this moment, and I am going to actively decide to be happy in this 174 00:12:48.159 --> 00:12:52.679 moment. I Am going to stop depriving myself, my young little self that 175 00:12:52.720 --> 00:12:56.919 wants to romanticize her life or wants to just make a pinterest sport this morning 176 00:12:56.919 --> 00:13:01.720 about spring because she's so excited to do that. Like, I'm gonna actively 177 00:13:01.879 --> 00:13:05.399 decide to let her out in pockets of time. That's what I personally do 178 00:13:05.559 --> 00:13:09.080 now. It takes, it takes, you know, steps, It's a 179 00:13:09.159 --> 00:13:13.279 process, right because again, you have a huge part of you that's probably 180 00:13:13.320 --> 00:13:16.440 in this energy of like fight or flight, like get to the dream life, 181 00:13:16.480 --> 00:13:18.200 get to the goals. No happiness until you get it, this, 182 00:13:18.320 --> 00:13:22.679 that and the third. But something I was also thinking about is like, 183 00:13:22.240 --> 00:13:26.639 you know, we always think that we're gonna be the happiest when we get 184 00:13:26.639 --> 00:13:31.879 our goals. And it's not to say that you technically won't, but you're 185 00:13:31.879 --> 00:13:37.159 never really gonna be super happy when you constantly are moving through life where you 186 00:13:37.200 --> 00:13:41.279 don't allow yourself to feel any sort of joy right now, because once you 187 00:13:41.320 --> 00:13:43.840 get that goal, there's gonna be another thing. There's always gonna be another 188 00:13:43.840 --> 00:13:46.759 thing. Because the way that you're getting your goals is through fight or flight, 189 00:13:46.919 --> 00:13:52.080 is through a trauma response, is through I am not safe essentially, 190 00:13:52.159 --> 00:13:54.720 that's really what it is. So sometimes we think we're gonna just be super 191 00:13:54.720 --> 00:13:58.080 happy when we get through this goal in this life or whatever. But it's 192 00:13:58.159 --> 00:14:01.679 an active, real life learning. It's an act of healing process and the 193 00:14:01.720 --> 00:14:05.159 reason why I can now enjoy the things that I have in my life. 194 00:14:05.679 --> 00:14:13.200 It is based off of healing realistically is understanding, like I can let my 195 00:14:13.240 --> 00:14:16.600 inner child be happy today, I can allow myself to feel joy and happiness 196 00:14:16.600 --> 00:14:20.279 in this moment. I don't have to rush. There's no rush, there's 197 00:14:20.279 --> 00:14:22.840 no X, Y and Z. So I just like to remind myself of 198 00:14:22.840 --> 00:14:26.360 that when I find myself like obsessing or depriving myself of just a small little 199 00:14:26.399 --> 00:14:30.759 joys in life, reminding myself, Babe, this is just a little trauma 200 00:14:30.799 --> 00:14:33.440 response here. Okay, you are so much more safer than you were now 201 00:14:33.600 --> 00:14:35.879 A sorry you were back then, And even if you aren't, okay, 202 00:14:35.960 --> 00:14:39.080 where can I find cues of safety? Gratitude really helps with that. I've 203 00:14:39.080 --> 00:14:41.960 talked about that in my past episodes, things of that nature. I know 204 00:14:43.000 --> 00:14:46.720 that's very general and when we're talking about trauma can be way way deeper than 205 00:14:46.759 --> 00:14:50.799 that, but I'm kind of just talking surface level right now, but genuinely 206 00:14:50.399 --> 00:14:56.279 finding the moments and being aware of when you deprive yourself of happiness, of 207 00:14:56.360 --> 00:15:00.519 joy, of the little small things, and allowing yourself to just enjoy. 208 00:15:00.840 --> 00:15:03.840 Now. The third thing that's really important when it comes to enjoying the process 209 00:15:03.960 --> 00:15:07.879 of creating your gym life, which is just being happy in the moment right 210 00:15:07.919 --> 00:15:15.679 now. Really, it's reminding yourself that there is no rush, because realistically, 211 00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:20.320 what you're doing is you're rushing. You're rushing to the damn finish line. 212 00:15:20.360 --> 00:15:22.360 And it's like, the only finish line that we have, genuinely is 213 00:15:22.799 --> 00:15:28.120 when we pass on. And why are we running to that? You are 214 00:15:28.200 --> 00:15:31.559 always going to have goals. I promise you that. I promise you you 215 00:15:31.600 --> 00:15:35.240 will always have goals. You will Oh, there's always going to be a 216 00:15:35.320 --> 00:15:39.960 next thing. So what is the point on rushing things? Now? In 217 00:15:39.000 --> 00:15:43.559 your mind, there's a part of you that sees a very big point as 218 00:15:43.639 --> 00:15:48.159 to why we should rush, because that part of you is feeling unsafe in 219 00:15:48.200 --> 00:15:48.799 your life and it's like, no, no, no, no, nothing 220 00:15:48.840 --> 00:15:52.759 safe is here. I don't like this is it? You have to do 221 00:15:52.799 --> 00:15:56.320 that active process of gratitude of feeling safe, of you know, romanticizing the 222 00:15:56.320 --> 00:15:58.759 process a little bit as much as you can enjoying things, stop being such 223 00:15:58.759 --> 00:16:02.960 a tough yourself doing that healing work, which you guys are doing by the 224 00:16:02.960 --> 00:16:07.399 way, you guys are already doing it. But there is always going to 225 00:16:07.440 --> 00:16:11.480 be a mindset shift in terms of like reminding yourself in the moments that you 226 00:16:11.480 --> 00:16:15.159 do feel like you're rushing, there's no rush. And I want to read 227 00:16:15.159 --> 00:16:18.759 out a quote that I found on Pinches that I think is just so perfect 228 00:16:18.879 --> 00:16:22.519 to what I was saying, and it reads, please make sure that wherever 229 00:16:22.600 --> 00:16:26.919 you're at in life, you don't treat it like a transitionary period. Don't 230 00:16:26.919 --> 00:16:32.240 waste your college years wishing to already be graduated and have a job. Don't 231 00:16:32.279 --> 00:16:36.000 waste your single years wishing for someone to be in love with. If and 232 00:16:36.080 --> 00:16:37.799 when those things come, they will come and due time, and they will 233 00:16:37.840 --> 00:16:42.039 be good. But there's nothing like looking back and feeling empty because you wasted 234 00:16:42.080 --> 00:16:47.159 literal years ignoring what you had because you were hoping for something better. While 235 00:16:47.159 --> 00:16:51.039 it's important to better yourself and reach for your goals, don't neglect the present 236 00:16:51.159 --> 00:16:55.840 because that's where you are now, and it's your now that determines your future, 237 00:16:55.840 --> 00:17:00.120 which is so crucial, which it's what I've been saying. Right now, 238 00:17:00.279 --> 00:17:03.919 in this episode, but also last week. It's like your now dictates 239 00:17:03.960 --> 00:17:07.359 your future. Okay, So if you're constantly like I'm so alone and oh 240 00:17:07.400 --> 00:17:11.440 my god, I really wish I was your relationship and single me and woe 241 00:17:11.519 --> 00:17:12.519 is me? And this that and life is crap and n this that, 242 00:17:12.640 --> 00:17:15.319 how do you think that you're going to get into a loving relationship when you 243 00:17:15.319 --> 00:17:19.400 were in that energy right How do you think that you are going to get 244 00:17:19.440 --> 00:17:22.319 more abundance in your life when you're looking in your life right now like, 245 00:17:22.400 --> 00:17:25.519 oh my god, I just can't wait to get out of this. This 246 00:17:25.640 --> 00:17:29.480 sucks. I'm so broke, everything is crapping, this that and the third 247 00:17:29.720 --> 00:17:34.079 how? And I'm saying that from genuine experience. I have been through it. 248 00:17:34.119 --> 00:17:38.039 I came up in life with no money, okay, not a lot 249 00:17:38.039 --> 00:17:41.359 of resources. I was. I'm not saying I was like the poorest the 250 00:17:41.359 --> 00:17:44.400 poor of the poor, but we were poor. Okay. If you look 251 00:17:44.440 --> 00:17:47.279 at my life is circumstances, I was definitely did not have money to not 252 00:17:47.279 --> 00:17:52.319 have help. I had a really crazy like life experience and a lot of 253 00:17:52.359 --> 00:17:56.200 you guys can relate, okay, And I'm telling you I had that mindset 254 00:17:56.240 --> 00:18:00.880 of like everything is crap because everything was crap. Everything was crap, and 255 00:18:00.920 --> 00:18:03.319 we can honor that, and we can see that, and we can feel 256 00:18:03.319 --> 00:18:07.920 that, and we can grieve that. This is not about ever suppressing you 257 00:18:07.920 --> 00:18:12.559 guys know, I am so about that. But at the end of the 258 00:18:12.640 --> 00:18:18.960 day, how is it that we are going to get out of this circumstance 259 00:18:18.160 --> 00:18:23.759 If we are constantly in the energy of now? Is not okay? So 260 00:18:23.960 --> 00:18:29.200 find ways that you can enjoy this process. Stop looking at everything as such 261 00:18:29.240 --> 00:18:33.640 a transitionary period. You can believe and you can know that you are transitioning, 262 00:18:33.640 --> 00:18:36.160 that your goals are coming, your dreams are coming, your everything is 263 00:18:36.200 --> 00:18:40.599 coming. Have belief, believe and know that's going to happen. I believe 264 00:18:40.720 --> 00:18:44.039 and trust that all my dreams are going to come to me. The relationship 265 00:18:44.039 --> 00:18:47.440 that I really really want is going to come to me, the home, 266 00:18:47.599 --> 00:18:52.119 the everything, It's coming. But I have such a belief and a trust 267 00:18:52.200 --> 00:18:57.559 in that that I can bring my focus to the present moment and really enjoy 268 00:18:57.640 --> 00:19:03.759 this process and feel the feelings and just enjoy every moment, enjoy the singleness, 269 00:19:04.119 --> 00:19:07.680 enjoy the fact that, yeah, I'm in this transitionary period. I 270 00:19:07.680 --> 00:19:10.920 live downtown Toronto condo amazing, beautiful, but I also want a home. 271 00:19:10.960 --> 00:19:15.119 But guess what, I'm not rushing. I'm good here, gratitude for everything. 272 00:19:15.160 --> 00:19:18.319 And I'm telling you, even the life that I had way before this, 273 00:19:18.440 --> 00:19:23.039 I did the same process. And it's just outside of even getting goals 274 00:19:23.079 --> 00:19:26.079 and getting things in our lives, because not everything needs to be about getting 275 00:19:26.119 --> 00:19:32.480 things. You're here to live and experience life. Okay, again, like 276 00:19:33.119 --> 00:19:37.839 don't no longer. And I think this comes with age. Maybe I don't 277 00:19:37.880 --> 00:19:40.599 know, but I just no longer, Like I'm sick and tired. I'm 278 00:19:40.599 --> 00:19:45.400 bored of constantly rushing, Like I'm tired, I'm tired of running a marathon. 279 00:19:45.160 --> 00:19:49.799 And I'm pretty sure that you guys feel that that tiredness sometimes of like 280 00:19:51.519 --> 00:19:56.400 rushing and transition and working and this that relax. So I thought that was 281 00:19:56.440 --> 00:20:00.440 a really great quote. And obviously the last thing, it's not really a 282 00:20:00.440 --> 00:20:03.599 mindset shift, but it's more of a practical thing, is really start romanticizing 283 00:20:03.680 --> 00:20:08.079 your life. Really start thinking about the things that make you feel happy, 284 00:20:08.319 --> 00:20:14.039 joyful, You're enjoying the process. It's gonna look so different for you than 285 00:20:14.079 --> 00:20:18.200 it is for me. But changing your mindset and then finally being like, 286 00:20:18.279 --> 00:20:22.759 hmm, what makes me feel alive today? What makes me feel excited? 287 00:20:23.079 --> 00:20:26.640 And this can be excited about your goals and your dream life, but genuinely 288 00:20:26.680 --> 00:20:30.920 like, what makes you feel happy in your day to day? And is 289 00:20:32.000 --> 00:20:34.240 every day going to be perfect? No? Is every day like you're gonna 290 00:20:34.279 --> 00:20:37.319 have all this time to romanticize your life. No, but you can find 291 00:20:37.400 --> 00:20:44.359 small little pockets of joy and fun in your life and curate that and let 292 00:20:44.400 --> 00:20:48.119 it brew and let it just manifest. And I think that that's what we've 293 00:20:48.119 --> 00:20:52.400 been doing. I've been talking about that even as far as I when I 294 00:20:52.440 --> 00:20:55.160 told you guys like I'm starting my like my spiritual warning routines. More, 295 00:20:55.480 --> 00:20:59.160 I'm lting my incense, I'm pulling my tarot cards. I'm listening to Abraham 296 00:20:59.240 --> 00:21:03.240 Hicks video. I'm reading books that are inspiring me. I'm creating mood boards, 297 00:21:03.279 --> 00:21:07.720 I'm listening to music like all everything that makes me feel good. I 298 00:21:07.799 --> 00:21:10.759 am doing it, Okay, even when it comes to content, whether that's 299 00:21:10.799 --> 00:21:15.440 podcast episodes or main channel YouTube videos, I'm just creating content that I'm inspired 300 00:21:15.599 --> 00:21:21.599 by and doing I'm not forcing. And yes, sometimes you know there is 301 00:21:21.640 --> 00:21:23.799 going to be a level of you. It's not forcing but doing the things 302 00:21:23.880 --> 00:21:30.799 that don't feel like the most fun. But you can create a lot of 303 00:21:30.440 --> 00:21:34.279 fun even out of the things that are not the most enjoyable. I think 304 00:21:34.440 --> 00:21:38.160 like and I always bring it back to the example of working out. Yes, 305 00:21:38.400 --> 00:21:41.000 maybe working out is not the best, but first of all, choose 306 00:21:41.000 --> 00:21:45.440 the workout that you really enjoy doing because you'll be more consistent. Do you 307 00:21:45.480 --> 00:21:48.079 have a curated playlist? Do you have workout sets that you feel really comfortable 308 00:21:48.119 --> 00:21:52.440 in? Do you have certain goals that really inspire you? Are you watching 309 00:21:52.480 --> 00:21:56.480 people who are doing the same thing or the same journey or the same glow 310 00:21:56.559 --> 00:22:00.400 up challenge or the same seventy five hard challenge or whatever. Like you know, 311 00:22:00.519 --> 00:22:03.880 we have so many resources, we really do in this day and age 312 00:22:03.920 --> 00:22:08.160 where we can motivate and inspire ourselves. So here's a few questions that you 313 00:22:08.160 --> 00:22:14.279 can ask yourself to help you romanticize your life. And one of them, 314 00:22:14.359 --> 00:22:17.759 or actually two of them, would be what would you be doing if you 315 00:22:17.839 --> 00:22:22.640 knew everything was working out for you? Or what would you not be thinking 316 00:22:22.680 --> 00:22:27.599 about if everything was working out? So, and this is just a good 317 00:22:27.640 --> 00:22:30.759 question to ask because I think that we're always like obsessing over the thing that 318 00:22:30.799 --> 00:22:37.279 we don't have. But it's like, what would you be doing if you 319 00:22:37.519 --> 00:22:40.279 had your goals, if you had your dream meant, if you had your 320 00:22:40.359 --> 00:22:45.839 dream career, if you like things were currently working out with whatever project you're 321 00:22:45.839 --> 00:22:48.839 working on right now, what would you be doing right and try and do 322 00:22:49.000 --> 00:22:52.680 more of those things. So, like, let's say you're somebody who's like 323 00:22:53.000 --> 00:23:00.039 always in this identity of the rejection state and like a single well can't find 324 00:23:00.079 --> 00:23:03.519 a man, super sad and lonely, which I gets, Okay, I 325 00:23:03.559 --> 00:23:07.400 get it, Like it sucks sometimes obviously, but if you had your dream 326 00:23:07.440 --> 00:23:10.920 man, let's say that that's what you really want. If you had your 327 00:23:11.000 --> 00:23:15.240 dream man, you probably wouldn't be stressing about not having a relationship. You 328 00:23:15.279 --> 00:23:21.000 probably wouldn't be, you know, spending so much time like maybe like stressing 329 00:23:21.079 --> 00:23:26.559 about dating apps and you know whatever. Your mind wouldn't be so consumed with 330 00:23:26.799 --> 00:23:30.559 a man because you would have had like you would be having a great relationship. 331 00:23:30.799 --> 00:23:33.920 So what would you be doing instead? Or let's say, what if 332 00:23:33.920 --> 00:23:37.240 you had your dream career, You probably wouldn't be spending your whole entire day 333 00:23:37.279 --> 00:23:41.680 stressing about finding a new job. This is not to mean that you shouldn't 334 00:23:41.720 --> 00:23:44.640 be looking for a new job if that's what you obviously want, But there's 335 00:23:44.680 --> 00:23:48.400 a level of you stripping so much joy and so much happiness out of your 336 00:23:48.440 --> 00:23:53.279 life because you're so focused on the thing that you don't have another thing. 337 00:23:53.680 --> 00:23:57.079 If things were working out with your current project that you're building, Let's say 338 00:23:57.119 --> 00:24:02.680 you Let's say I use as example, you're becoming a content creator, maybe 339 00:24:02.680 --> 00:24:04.359 on TikTok. Let's say you got all the views that you wanted, all 340 00:24:04.400 --> 00:24:08.079 your videos were going viral, and all the things were like happening whatever. 341 00:24:10.519 --> 00:24:15.519 You probably wouldn't be switching up your content strategy all of the time or stressing 342 00:24:15.599 --> 00:24:18.680 about views or oh maybe I should start this project because this is not working 343 00:24:19.079 --> 00:24:22.480 right. There's obviously a level of you knowing when to switch things up, 344 00:24:22.920 --> 00:24:27.319 but what would you be doing instead? So essentially, the question is what 345 00:24:27.319 --> 00:24:32.759 would you be doing if you weren't so hyper focused on all of the things 346 00:24:32.759 --> 00:24:34.960 that either weren't working out right now or the things that you do not have, 347 00:24:36.720 --> 00:24:40.839 and I think a few things would just be in general, you would 348 00:24:40.880 --> 00:24:45.839 be thinking better thoughts. So obviously, anything opposite of all the crappy things 349 00:24:45.880 --> 00:24:49.480 that are not working out right now, you'd probably be taking care of yourself 350 00:24:49.519 --> 00:24:55.279 more. You'd probably be pouring yourself sorry, pouring into yourself more, and 351 00:24:55.359 --> 00:24:59.079 you'd be having fun. So I just want to read out a few things 352 00:24:59.079 --> 00:25:03.200 that I'm currently doing to romanticize my life, just to maybe get you guys 353 00:25:03.240 --> 00:25:07.000 inspired. And with those questions, you can really ask yourself and create curate 354 00:25:07.319 --> 00:25:11.119 some routines and some things in your life to add more joy and happiness into 355 00:25:11.160 --> 00:25:15.680 your life. Like I already said, I've been waking up with positive music 356 00:25:15.920 --> 00:25:19.480 and videos, good thoughts, like genuinely, like I'm so interested in thinking 357 00:25:19.559 --> 00:25:23.480 positive right now, and I'm so uninterested in feeling like shit, Like genuinely, 358 00:25:26.119 --> 00:25:29.680 my spiritual morning routine has been something that's really just inspiring me and just 359 00:25:29.720 --> 00:25:33.880 making me super happy and just so present in life and lots of gratitude in 360 00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:40.000 the morning. Also, I just created a new it's called Sunset House Playlist 361 00:25:40.079 --> 00:25:45.160 on Spotify. If you guys have Spotify, go get this playlist. I 362 00:25:45.240 --> 00:25:49.599 created it. It'll be down below. I'll have it linked. This playlist 363 00:25:49.720 --> 00:25:56.119 gives tu loom house vibes. Okay, So if you like house music, 364 00:25:56.200 --> 00:25:59.720 but like Tullum Mexico vibes, you will absolutely love that, and I've been 365 00:25:59.720 --> 00:26:03.160 playing that that gets me in such a good vibe, good mood. Another 366 00:26:03.200 --> 00:26:10.359 thing I've been doing is curating a spring asthetic Pinchess board, which I recently, 367 00:26:10.400 --> 00:26:14.319 like I just said, added that into a new YouTube video and I 368 00:26:14.440 --> 00:26:18.319 made a desktop version of this spring mood board, so I am in complete, 369 00:26:18.400 --> 00:26:22.359 new vibes, new energy, which you have to do, like every 370 00:26:22.359 --> 00:26:25.680 season of your life, it's going to require you to do a little bit 371 00:26:25.680 --> 00:26:27.400 of a rebrand. So I think this is such a great time to do 372 00:26:27.440 --> 00:26:30.200 it if you're just like, you know what, I want to just be 373 00:26:30.240 --> 00:26:33.160 happy more. I want to like not always be so obsessed with my goals, 374 00:26:33.839 --> 00:26:38.480 genuinely have like a day where you're curating a new playlist, making a 375 00:26:38.519 --> 00:26:42.000 new mood board, coming up with some new goals for the spring, but 376 00:26:42.079 --> 00:26:45.720 be careful with the coming up with the new goals thing, because of course 377 00:26:45.720 --> 00:26:48.839 this video is about enjoying the process. And actually that is why in that 378 00:26:48.960 --> 00:26:52.880 video I didn't even tie any of my spring goals or summer goals to this 379 00:26:52.960 --> 00:26:56.359 mood board, which I usually do, like when I make a mood board. 380 00:26:56.359 --> 00:27:00.119 I tend to create some goals for the quarter, and then I have 381 00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:04.200 the photos reflect what those goals are. But this and like this era of 382 00:27:04.240 --> 00:27:08.000 mine, I just simply wanted to just be in a good energy and just 383 00:27:08.000 --> 00:27:11.160 be on Pinterest scrolling through like good photos that make me feel happy. So 384 00:27:11.200 --> 00:27:14.839 I actually didn't do that. So you can do the goals thing, but 385 00:27:14.920 --> 00:27:19.319 just obviously be careful, not be careful whatever is not that deep. Another 386 00:27:19.319 --> 00:27:22.880 thing is getting ready for the day, even if I don't really have anywhere 387 00:27:22.880 --> 00:27:26.079 to go, I think naturally with the sun coming out more, I just 388 00:27:26.200 --> 00:27:29.960 I don't know. I'm just so ready to just feel good and getting ready 389 00:27:29.960 --> 00:27:33.240 for the day for me. And that's not even much like I'm not doing 390 00:27:33.400 --> 00:27:37.039 the most, but getting ready does shift your energy and shift your mood, 391 00:27:37.319 --> 00:27:41.920 and then I tend to be more motivated to do things in my life. 392 00:27:42.279 --> 00:27:48.079 Another thing that I've been really falling into is wellness mocktails. I'm drinking my 393 00:27:48.119 --> 00:27:51.400 electrolytes in the morning, I'm drinking my greens in the morning. Again, 394 00:27:51.799 --> 00:27:56.000 these are just things that I feel like, I guess when I I'm talking 395 00:27:56.079 --> 00:28:00.640 about wellness mocktails and electrolytes, like greens, you all that kind of stuff. 396 00:28:00.880 --> 00:28:07.240 It just to me allows me to step into the identity of a health 397 00:28:07.279 --> 00:28:12.599 and wellness girl, which to me is like a romanticizing process. I don't 398 00:28:12.599 --> 00:28:17.599 know. So that's what I've been doing. Also doing the Globe Challenge, 399 00:28:17.599 --> 00:28:21.480 which is week three of the Globe Challenge, which again there's just like a 400 00:28:21.599 --> 00:28:27.640 theme. There's a something going on in life that's just fun. It's not 401 00:28:27.799 --> 00:28:33.160 this transitionary working on my goals like gotta get to the finish line energy, 402 00:28:33.279 --> 00:28:38.359 It's like what can I do to enjoy today, you know, Also creating 403 00:28:38.440 --> 00:28:42.640 content that I really enjoy. Like I said, I'm just super into only 404 00:28:42.960 --> 00:28:48.680 filming and creating content that I want to do. Also solo intentional date nights, 405 00:28:48.759 --> 00:28:56.559 just really being intentional with my time alone instead of every day being the 406 00:28:56.599 --> 00:29:03.880 same and either having a theme a themed weekend like even this weekend. I 407 00:29:04.319 --> 00:29:08.160 well, this weekend was definitely like a spring themed weekend because I recorded, 408 00:29:08.640 --> 00:29:11.279 and I did the mood board, I decluttered a bunch of stuff, I 409 00:29:11.759 --> 00:29:15.200 pulled out new self care. But I also went on like a girl's date 410 00:29:15.640 --> 00:29:19.359 with my friends, which we always tend to do in the spring and summertime. 411 00:29:19.559 --> 00:29:25.559 And we actually went to this place where we got to pour paint over 412 00:29:25.640 --> 00:29:27.519 these like little teddy bears. I don't know if you guys have ever seen, 413 00:29:29.160 --> 00:29:33.279 and it looks like drip paint, and I did hot pink and white. 414 00:29:33.319 --> 00:29:34.920 It was so cute, so stunning. It has to dry and they're 415 00:29:34.920 --> 00:29:37.960 gonna pick them up and then I'm gonna probably have it on my podcast. 416 00:29:40.480 --> 00:29:44.920 This is my pr like cabinet really and like self care cabinet, but I'm 417 00:29:44.920 --> 00:29:48.079 gonna have it right on here so you guys will probably see. But just 418 00:29:48.200 --> 00:29:56.680 like having intention behind days to feel good, but not as this like goal 419 00:29:56.839 --> 00:30:00.559 like end goal. Just I guess end goal can be you enjoying it, 420 00:30:00.640 --> 00:30:04.880 but I don't know. So that's what I've been doing currently to romanticize my 421 00:30:04.960 --> 00:30:10.200 life. Depending on the season that you're in right now in your life, 422 00:30:10.240 --> 00:30:14.680 where you are, what you're doing, I just want you to think about 423 00:30:14.799 --> 00:30:19.880 how you can add some more joy and happiness in your life. And slow 424 00:30:19.920 --> 00:30:26.519 down. Okay, overall message, slow down, there's no need to rush. 425 00:30:26.640 --> 00:30:30.640 And you know what, if you really believe that you are going to 426 00:30:30.759 --> 00:30:33.559 create the life of your dreams, you are going to hit your goals which 427 00:30:33.559 --> 00:30:37.000 you should you need to have belief in yourself that you're going to get to 428 00:30:37.000 --> 00:30:40.839 where you're at. If you truly, if you can tell me through the 429 00:30:40.880 --> 00:30:45.519 freaking screen or the audio, if you can tell me that you believe that 430 00:30:45.559 --> 00:30:49.599 you're going to get your dream life, then you should be enjoying the process. 431 00:30:49.640 --> 00:30:55.400 Then okay, because somebody who believes that she's going to get everything she 432 00:30:55.480 --> 00:31:00.240 wants in her life, or a guy wouldn't be stressing about whether they were 433 00:31:00.240 --> 00:31:03.559 going to get everything they want in their lives. Right. And I always 434 00:31:03.599 --> 00:31:07.359 bring this back to becoming a YouTuber. I when I decided I wanted to 435 00:31:07.359 --> 00:31:11.759 be a YouTuber, I said, you know what, I back myself. 436 00:31:11.839 --> 00:31:14.720 I think that what I have to say is great, and I think a 437 00:31:14.720 --> 00:31:17.880 lot of people are going to resonate with it. And I like what I'm 438 00:31:17.960 --> 00:31:22.359 saying online, and I believe and know that I'm going to grow. So 439 00:31:22.599 --> 00:31:27.119 I stopped attaching myself and stressing about any sort of numbers or when it was 440 00:31:27.160 --> 00:31:32.640 going to happen or time urgency. I said, it's happening, it's done. 441 00:31:33.039 --> 00:31:37.279 Let me bring my attention to the present moment, which meant becoming a 442 00:31:37.359 --> 00:31:41.000 YouTuber. You know, stepping into the identity waking up every day, you 443 00:31:41.000 --> 00:31:45.000 know, working on my goals and creating content and recording. But it wasn't 444 00:31:45.039 --> 00:31:48.000 from this energy of like when is it going to happen? When is it 445 00:31:48.039 --> 00:31:51.680 going to happen? This sucks right now? I need to be a YouTuber 446 00:31:51.759 --> 00:31:53.759 right now. This like I'm not going to be happy until I get these 447 00:31:53.839 --> 00:31:57.799 views. Nope, that's not how I was. I was enjoying the process 448 00:31:57.839 --> 00:32:02.000 of creating, speaking about the topics that I really loved, of connecting with 449 00:32:02.039 --> 00:32:07.160 you guys. Also just like romanticizing my life outside of YouTube, like all 450 00:32:07.200 --> 00:32:09.680 that kind of stuff. And I do the same process with everything in my 451 00:32:09.720 --> 00:32:13.240 life now, and that's just how I move through life. Now, you 452 00:32:13.279 --> 00:32:16.480 have to kind of rail yourself back in maybe if you're having like a darker 453 00:32:16.519 --> 00:32:20.319 season in your life, which is normal, but remind yourself, like, 454 00:32:20.920 --> 00:32:22.759 Okay, if I say that I'm this girl who believes that she's gonna get 455 00:32:22.759 --> 00:32:27.839 everything that she wants in her life, why am I stressing it's already done. 456 00:32:28.880 --> 00:32:32.000 It's already done. Okay, this is the season of enjoying your life. 457 00:32:32.240 --> 00:32:37.200 We are all enjoying our lives. You have no choice if you're listening 458 00:32:37.200 --> 00:32:40.720 to this episode. If you guys have any specific questions regarding romanticizing your life 459 00:32:40.799 --> 00:32:44.680 or enjoying the process, please let me know in the comments down below or 460 00:32:44.680 --> 00:32:47.599 on Spotify. I pose a question, you can answer it, or you 461 00:32:47.640 --> 00:32:54.079 can DM me on the Glow Up Secrets Podcast Instagram. We have more videos 462 00:32:54.079 --> 00:32:59.599 coming up in regards to I was gonna say romanticizing your life, That's not 463 00:32:59.599 --> 00:33:01.799 what I meant, raising your vibrations. I want to talk about health and 464 00:33:01.799 --> 00:33:05.960 wellness, what else? I already kind of told you guys what else we're 465 00:33:05.960 --> 00:33:09.200 going to talk about, So let me know anything and everything when it comes 466 00:33:09.240 --> 00:33:13.440 to these topics. I want to know. I'm creating content for you guys, 467 00:33:14.279 --> 00:33:16.880 and I just can't wait to see what spring and summer brings us. 468 00:33:17.039 --> 00:33:21.240 I hope you guys enjoy the rest of your day, night, morning, 469 00:33:21.240 --> 00:33:23.920 whenever you're listening to this, and I'll see you guys in the next one. Bye.