The opinions expressed by Chayo Busquets are supported by his extensive experience as a family
therapist and in the previous analysis of the cases presented here welcome, this is
Chayo with you. In Joya. We start afternoon hello with three minutes.
Welcome to Chayo with you. Happy Master' s Day. This is a
day when it is happy Teacher' s Day and happy Student' s Day
because they don' t go to classes in a recognition of the day of
rest that teachers deserve. Many people deserve it like everything there will be who
doesn' t. But that puts students in a very particular role, especially
happy. Notice that on a day like today, we would certainly have to
ask ourselves who should recognize the teachers. We' ve all had teachers.
No matter how old we are at what point in life we meet. Without
a doubt, we' ve all had teachers. And when I ask the
question that would seem obvious, I am not referring to whether, in all
media, in all contexts, we would have to recognize and we would have
to congratulate them, but that genuine recognition that comes from the very significant role
that teachers have in the education of your children, because they generate experiences,
shape behaviors, attitudes, ways of responding to life, teach them content clearly,
not what it is even in extracurricular classes. Not if your son goes
to football, karate, ballet wherever he goes, because there are teachers there
too. But the thing is, they shapefully impact the kind of person your
child is going to become. It' s not just Mom and Dad that
the teachers impact on that, too. It' s that other house,
I don' t mean second house, because it looks like we' re
putting order of importance, but it' s that other house, it'
s that other family where your kids learn and they' re going to mark
who and what and how your son' s going to manage. Once the
years have passed, what the school teaches, they will say chayo what,
evident you are today this how obvious. No, I' m not talking
about the academic, I' m not talking about the particular class your son
takes in the afternoon out of school. I' m talking about how the
school works. And there' s a very particular situation that I' m
going to focus on right now that has to do with you at home You
raise individual responsibility, what does your child do, what consequences result from his
actions and, therefore, what you have to supervise and what to follow up
the school if you, as a parent, don' t interfere with him.
The school is going to educate social responsibility. What does this mean that
when I' m in a group, I have to begin to be aware
that what I do, that behavior, that I have, that which I
say, that for which impulse influences motive my partner, my friend. If
it goes wrong, it will have a much greater impact than if I do
it alone in my home, because it is a much wider group of people
and, therefore, it will impact and it will enhance the outcome of my
behavior. Therefore, the school will tend to put consequences with which you disagree,
because you see it from the individual, but the school has to see
it from the collective. Let schools do their job so your child learns social
responsibility. How many times we don' t become his parents. Just and
I' m going to set a very clear example. Let' s think
for a moment that three kids in a school do an evil and all three
get a consequence. The first one' s dad comes in and says it
' s not fair, because my son just gave the idea, but he
didn' t do what they' re punishing them for. The second says
my son would never have done it if the other, which is a terrible
influence, hadn' t given the idea. So you should run to that
kid. The third one says mine didn' t do anything, nothing else,
he was watching and he was having fun and laughing, but he didn
' t do anything of the evil. Today the parents, very often say
my son only and we have to understand that whenever we are in group,
the contribution that you made you laugh, because that made them feel that they
belonged, that it was funny what they were doing, the one who only
expressed the idea aloud, the one who executed him. Because he' s
so docile, so docile, he does everything he hears others say, and
he' s the bold one in the band. All three have equal impact.
If one of the three had not been, it would have minimized the
impact of action. So don' t confuse supporting a child alone for a
child. It is clear that not all school cycles are going to be equally
happy with the teachers who touched our son. However, there is an abysmal
difference between a teacher being inadequate, even falling into anti- pedagogical situations and
why not even criminals. And another thing very different is that the teacher has
an operating style that doesn' t go according to the style that I would
like, but that doesn' t take away the formative or educational for my
child' s life. And this is very important to learn to differentiate it,
because all of a sudden we don' t want anyone who doesn'
t like my son, who doesn' t love my son, who doesn
' t like parents, who is the teacher or teacher of our children And
we need to differentiate different models from those I would like and another very different
that only the teacher has a style which, then, would make life easier
for my son if he changed water. Sometimes that experience is by far more
formative. Notice that on many occasions what is happening in the present is not
so significant. We as parents have to have a bifocal vision, that is
to say we have to be seeing our children all the time, at the
present moment, to see what they need, what they require how they require
it. Anyway all this, but we also have to see and throw our
gaze into the future. Sometimes I don' t like the teacher' s
style. The way the master doesn' t like his character. However,
in the long run. The experience ends up being very positive. Many times
in a school we start the school cycle and say no that teacher I do
not like and we ask for change of teacher and the school for something does
not allow us. We get angry, I don' t know how much,
but well they stay and at the end of the year we say good
thing they didn' t change it. My son learned to develop a lot
of skills that he didn' t have before, because sometimes we love our
children too much in comfort zones and growth and development is very much like this.
It' s that we take care of the rush and appreciate that my
son can win, although for the moment it would seem that I' m
not so delighted. How we should handle the disagreements we have with teachers.
First I would tell you in a very clear way directly with the teacher.
Or it depends on the level of gravity or seriousness of the situation, with
direction and teacher, as the school has stipulated. Second, not in moms
' chats and I say moms' because they' re usually more moms'.
That' s bullying to expose a teacher by criticizing his handling of things
that have to do with my son, with my daughter, and I do
it by showing it to all the parents. It' s a form of
aggression and we have to learn to take care of this. Third, don
' t disparage yourself with your children about their teachers. Your teacher is crazy
for nothing. What' s wrong with him is not to see. Let
' s understand what happened. Let me hear what your teacher says. Your
teacher, let' s see what happens to you, what' s your
version of the facts and let' s clarify, but assault just thinks that
you' re modeling your kids for you that you' re a teacher.
One very important question you have to ask yourself is whether to be a teacher.
For YOU it' s an occupation or it' s your occasion,
because that makes a huge difference in what you convey, in how you get
involved, in what you can do, in how you bond emotionally with your
students. So ask yourself is just what you do or it' s something
that gives you identity. Well, then, what I have left is to
tell all those teachers who leave climbs or deliveries. Thank you. Thank you,
because without a doubt, they have a fundamental role in growth, in
development, in learning, in the emotional life of their students and to whom
not a total and genuine invitation to question and nothing else. Today they are
honored to question what else they can do to grow their educational style. We
' ll listen to each other tomorrow at 1: 00 p m, with
more chayo with you. I hope you have an extraordinary afternoon that your children
will continue to enjoy this day of rest for many children. I' m
chayo busquets. This was chayo with you. We meet here tomorrow at a
central audio.