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Hey, hey, Hey, I'm
back with something for you to think about.

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I got my little upbeat background music. I come to tell you something.

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Pay attention to your significant others when
they try to tell you something,

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when they try to tell you how
they're feeling. Pay attention to your significant

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others because what you're gonna do is
you're gonna mess around and open the door

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for them to walk right out into
someone else's arms. Now I'm not saying

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you're gonna make them do it,
because you can't make them do anything,

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but you're gonna make it easier for
them to do it. Because the bottom

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line is, a person gets tired
of being ignored and rejected. A person

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get tired of their significant other always
have time for everyone by him or her.

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A significant other gets really fed up
with not being a priority for you.

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So I'm just trying to, you
know, tell you a little something

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something. Pay attention to your significant
other. I don't care who you are,

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I don't care what job you hold, what your title is. If

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you are with someone and you are
saying you love that person, it is

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absolutely positively of utmost importance to make
time for your si magnificant other. You

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must make time for your significant other. Some of you's all you care about

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is being on the grind, getting
your money, making that paper, stacking

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those racks, whatever you want to
call it, that's all you care about.

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You trample over the people that love
you because all you're caring about is

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making money. And I know we
use money for things in this world.

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I understand that, I get it. But when you're in a relationship,

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just like you make time to go
to work, you make time to do

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what you have to do at work, you make time for everyone else.

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But when it comes to the person
you claim to love, you slack.

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But you better stop sleeping on your
significant other because someone else will be wide

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awake. I'm just telling you.
I'm telling you because the world it's full

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of people who you know, they're
dealing with things in their own hearts and

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minds, and when they feel that
what they need is not being met,

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you open the door to your own
problems, especially when you know you're not

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putting in time, you're not showing
affection, you're not showing that person that

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they mean something to you. You're
just about lip service. Some of you,

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you buy things to keep them quiet, but they'll take what you give

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but they still want, in need
that time with you. Buying them something

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because you're always gonna does not replace
quality time with you. I know people

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who have done everything that they can
possibly think of to try to show their

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significant other how they feel, to
try to talk to them, but they

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never make time for the individuals.
Everything and everyone else is always most important.

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So I'm just telling you, when
you do not show your significant other

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that they they are of value to
you, that the relationship is of value

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to you, you're opening the door
to a disaster. You're opening the door.

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You're willfully opening the door without being
aware. Possibly you can't expect to

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be in a relationship with someone and
never give them the time that they need.

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That's ignorant to think that it's okay. That's immaturity to think that it's

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okay just because you're bringing home money
or you're buying gifts. No, people

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need that affection, that quality time, that closeness you need to be able

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to communicate. So I was thinking
about it, and I wanted to talk

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about it because so many people,
I tell you all of the time,

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so many people are in relationships just
unhappy, so lonely, and desperate for

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love. When they're right there in
a relationship with you, or you're in

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a relationship with them suffering because you're
not getting what you desire, needs,

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or want. Some of you mess
up a good thing because your mind is

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on the wrong things. You mess
up a good thing because you make money

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your master and you'll do anything for
it. You don't pay attention to your

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family. It's all about money,
money, money, money, making that

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money, money, money, money, money. It's wonderful, it's okay.

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But when money become your master,
then that's a problem. Because the

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Bible says for the love of money, not money itself. The love of

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money is the root to all evil. So I understand people have to pay

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bills, this and that, but
it shouldn't be more important than your family.

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It shouldn't because guess what. You
can make money all day long,

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every second, every hour, every
mining of the day, but you're not

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gonna feel good about it when the
one you load or the one you said

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you love, is loving someone else. I'm just saying because it happens,

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it's reality. And again, let
me make this clear. A person do

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what they do because they want to
do it, but you make it so

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much easier when they're a when they're
ignored and rejected, when they're taken for

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granted. You make it so much
easier because I've told you years ago a

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person can only take so much because
all of the rejection and the denials and

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the lack it chips chips chips chips
chips chip chip chips away, it chips

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away of what they feel for you. And then when it's gone, oh

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you can do monkey flipps. You
can give them the world on a golden,

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shiny platter. They won't care because
they're done with you. Don't let

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it get to that point of your
relationships. Talk to the person that you

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claim to love. Now, if
you don't love him or her, that's

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a different story. You're doing exactly
the way it's expected because you don't really

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feel what you say you feel.
But when you really do care, you

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gotta show it. You can't just
talk it, you can't just buy your

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way through. You have to show
it. And by rejecting and denying them

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the opportunity to be with you,
the opportunity to have that quality time,

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the opportunity to allow them to have
a conversation with you, to express their

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concerns or whatever, it is when
you deny that because you're too busy or

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everything else is more important, you're
setting yourself up. I'm just telling you.

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Sometimes people realize that they've messed up
and they try to fix it,

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but it's too late. You should
never get to that point. Too many

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people get into relationships and that's it. People get married, that's it.

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Well, we're married now, and
they stop all of the important things.

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Showing love, showing affections, communicating. They forget all of that, They

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throw it the wayside, and the
relationship suffers and oftentimes fail because of it.

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I've told you so many times.
There are literally millions of people who

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are in relationships with people they shouldn't
be with number one and number two,

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with people that they have no connection
to, no connection with. They're living

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separate, they're doing their separate things, they have no affection towards each other.

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They're feeling lonely and sad, but
they're in a relationship. Makes no

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sense, but it happens. It
happens so much. But so many people

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stay because they feel, well,
I've gotten too old, because some people

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are not even old, but they
stay out of insecurities. That's why I

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tell you all the time. You
need to get yourself together and have yourself

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in the right frame of mind before
you get into a relationship with anyone.

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You should know yourself. You should
love yourself before you get into a relationship

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with anyone, because I promise you
if you do, you will not even

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in no way take the crap that
some of you are taking them because you

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didn't know yourself, you didn't love
yourself the way you should have. Then

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you find yourself in a place of
misery. Some of you are in relationships

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feeling trapped. You're never trapped.
That's your mindset telling you you're trapped.

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You think you trapped because you have
a child or some children. You're not

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trapped. My mom had eight children, eight by the age of twenty five,

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and she was married to my dad
with all eight of us. But

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guess what, She left him because
he was abusive and she raised us all.

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She didn't let feelings of being trapped
keep her there. She didn't allow

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the fact that she didn't graduate to
keep her there. My mother always worked

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hard, She always took care of
us. She was a phenomenal mom,

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even after having a stepdad for forty
plus years. She was a phenomenal mom

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so feelings of trapped. That's your
mindset. Your mindset is that way for

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a reason, something you have not
dealt with, you have not worked out.

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Some of you are so busy thinking
in fronting that you don't understand.

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It keeps you in the same mindset
of no growth, doing the same things,

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being that hampster on the wheel,
because all you do is live a

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cycle, same thing day in week
out, month in year out, the

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same things, no progression, thinking
the same, feeling the same, acting

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the same. And I, personally, I think that's a horrible, horrible

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way to be when you don't allow
yourself to grow. I think that's uncle.

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That is such completely, that is
such neglect for self, total abandonment

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for self, for mental growth,
when you choose to remain insane. You

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know you have things going on,
but you rather pretend everything as well,

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all is good, everything in hnky
doory peachy, when you know it's not.

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Some of you are struggling mentally and
emotionally, but you're walking around like

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everything is okay. Why how do
you think you're going to become better by

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pretending you're already better when you know
you're not. Because that one person,

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you cannot get away from it yourself, so you waste all of the years

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remain in the same because you're faking
and pretending. Then you get into relationships

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with individuals with the same like mine, chaos, drama, and that is

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the very reason why so many are
in relationships and are unhappy. So I'm

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here to tell you, if you're
in a relationship with someone that you love

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and that person love, you give
them the time and attention that they need

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and deserve, because if you don't, you're gonna put yourself in a situation

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you're not ready for. And then
some of you when you realize what's happening,

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oh you wanna blow a lid then, But you're the one who opened

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the door. You open the door
because you can do your part. You

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didn't give them the attention, the
affection, the love and all of those

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things, the communication that you should
have. All you were doing was rejecting

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and denying, and it's not okay. It's not ever okay. If you

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feel you need to reject or deny, that should be a reason. I'm

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really sick. I don't feel like
it right at the moment. But not

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just total denial and rejection it should
never be that in any relationship. People

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do it for several reasons. One
they don't really want that person, Two

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there are someone else. Three everything
and everyone else is more important. And

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I'm sure there are other reasons,
but I'm just naming those three. Bottom

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line is you should never do it, not if you truly love who you

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would, and I believe if you
do, you won't have to entertain anything

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on this level anyways, because you're
gonna do the right thing by the person

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you love. But some people,
they get so used to doing things a

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certain way. For instance, if
you are that individual who's always buying and

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the person really seems to like it
and just appreciate it or whatever, you

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get into a habit of buying and
you think that's all you need to do.

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All I need to do is buy
him something or buy her something,

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They'll be okay, No, not
if they really love you. Not if

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they really love you. So you
have to be careful of how you handle

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your relationships, how you deal with
your significant other, because I'm telling you,

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if you're not aware and mindful of
what you're doing in your relationship,

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you're gonna have to suffer the consequences
of your actions. I mean that it's

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just the truth. Because anybody,
anyone, even an animal, will get

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to a point where they will respond
to rejection and denial. They'll they'll show

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you in some kind of way that
it's lacking. If if they have been

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used to getting it and you stop
showing them affection, they gonna show you

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in some kind of way. Some
even get sick physically sick. Always always,

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always think about it this way.
How would you feel? How would

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you feel if the person you loved
rejected you, deny you, took you

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for granted? How would you feel? Now? Any person who would say,

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oh, it wouldn't matter to me, you are a liar. Point

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blank. You are a liar.
If someone you love treat you that way

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and it don't matter to you,
you a liar. And the only reason

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it would it matter is because you
don't care. You don't care for them

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like you say you do. That's
the only reason. Because when when we

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love, we love, we want
the affection, the communication their We want

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that with the person we love.
But when people just talk it, you

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know, it's like serving the Lord. You talk great things from your lips,

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but your heart is far from him. And that's how it is.

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In a lot of relationships. People
talk a good talk, but their walk

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don't align with their talk. They
say how much they love and care for

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the person, but their actions and
lifestyles show something totally different. So again,

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if you love who you are with, please give them the attention,

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the affection, the time, et
cetera, et cetera that a relationship deserves,

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and they deserve because if you keep
doing it, you're gonna push them

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away and not necessarily into the arms
of anyone else, because like I said,

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you can't push someone into the arms
of anyone else, but you sure

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can't push them away from you.
They are walk into the arms of someone

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else of free will because of the
situation. And people want to be loved

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and they want it by or they
want it from the person that they are

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in love with and the person who
say that they love them. So just

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be mindful and aware of what you're
doing in your relationships. Be mindful and

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aware of who you open your heart
to, because we must guard our hearts.

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People be too worried about that flesh
satisfaction of the flesh that they don't

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guard their hearts. So many people
are unhappy in their relationships because they didn't

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hurt their hearts. They were worried
about the flesh. They were worried about

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material things. Now they're in a
place where they're miserable. So you must

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be mindful and aware. And that's
all I'm gonna say on it. I

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hope you got something out of it. Thank you so much for listening.

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know I end every episode the same. Before I go, please reach out

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to me if you have any questions, concerns, just want to talk,

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want to say hello, Please do
so. I appreciate you, you know.

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I end every episode the same,
and I hope and I pray you

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do it. Please God it