Hey, hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about.
I got my little upbeat background music. I come to tell you something.
Pay attention to your significant others when they try to tell you something,
when they try to tell you how they're feeling. Pay attention to your significant
others because what you're gonna do is you're gonna mess around and open the door
for them to walk right out into someone else's arms. Now I'm not saying
you're gonna make them do it, because you can't make them do anything,
but you're gonna make it easier for them to do it. Because the bottom
line is, a person gets tired of being ignored and rejected. A person
get tired of their significant other always have time for everyone by him or her.
A significant other gets really fed up with not being a priority for you.
So I'm just trying to, you know, tell you a little something
something. Pay attention to your significant other. I don't care who you are,
I don't care what job you hold, what your title is. If
you are with someone and you are saying you love that person, it is
absolutely positively of utmost importance to make time for your si magnificant other. You
must make time for your significant other. Some of you's all you care about
is being on the grind, getting your money, making that paper, stacking
those racks, whatever you want to call it, that's all you care about.
You trample over the people that love you because all you're caring about is
making money. And I know we use money for things in this world.
I understand that, I get it. But when you're in a relationship,
just like you make time to go to work, you make time to do
what you have to do at work, you make time for everyone else.
But when it comes to the person you claim to love, you slack.
But you better stop sleeping on your significant other because someone else will be wide
awake. I'm just telling you. I'm telling you because the world it's full
of people who you know, they're dealing with things in their own hearts and
minds, and when they feel that what they need is not being met,
you open the door to your own problems, especially when you know you're not
putting in time, you're not showing affection, you're not showing that person that
they mean something to you. You're just about lip service. Some of you,
you buy things to keep them quiet, but they'll take what you give
but they still want, in need that time with you. Buying them something
because you're always gonna does not replace quality time with you. I know people
who have done everything that they can possibly think of to try to show their
significant other how they feel, to try to talk to them, but they
never make time for the individuals. Everything and everyone else is always most important.
So I'm just telling you, when you do not show your significant other
that they they are of value to you, that the relationship is of value
to you, you're opening the door to a disaster. You're opening the door.
You're willfully opening the door without being aware. Possibly you can't expect to
be in a relationship with someone and never give them the time that they need.
That's ignorant to think that it's okay. That's immaturity to think that it's
okay just because you're bringing home money or you're buying gifts. No, people
need that affection, that quality time, that closeness you need to be able
to communicate. So I was thinking about it, and I wanted to talk
about it because so many people, I tell you all of the time,
so many people are in relationships just unhappy, so lonely, and desperate for
love. When they're right there in a relationship with you, or you're in
a relationship with them suffering because you're not getting what you desire, needs,
or want. Some of you mess up a good thing because your mind is
on the wrong things. You mess up a good thing because you make money
your master and you'll do anything for it. You don't pay attention to your
family. It's all about money, money, money, money, making that
money, money, money, money, money. It's wonderful, it's okay.
But when money become your master, then that's a problem. Because the
Bible says for the love of money, not money itself. The love of
money is the root to all evil. So I understand people have to pay
bills, this and that, but it shouldn't be more important than your family.
It shouldn't because guess what. You can make money all day long,
every second, every hour, every mining of the day, but you're not
gonna feel good about it when the one you load or the one you said
you love, is loving someone else. I'm just saying because it happens,
it's reality. And again, let me make this clear. A person do
what they do because they want to do it, but you make it so
much easier when they're a when they're ignored and rejected, when they're taken for
granted. You make it so much easier because I've told you years ago a
person can only take so much because all of the rejection and the denials and
the lack it chips chips chips chips chips chip chip chips away, it chips
away of what they feel for you. And then when it's gone, oh
you can do monkey flipps. You can give them the world on a golden,
shiny platter. They won't care because they're done with you. Don't let
it get to that point of your relationships. Talk to the person that you
claim to love. Now, if you don't love him or her, that's
a different story. You're doing exactly the way it's expected because you don't really
feel what you say you feel. But when you really do care, you
gotta show it. You can't just talk it, you can't just buy your
way through. You have to show it. And by rejecting and denying them
the opportunity to be with you, the opportunity to have that quality time,
the opportunity to allow them to have a conversation with you, to express their
concerns or whatever, it is when you deny that because you're too busy or
everything else is more important, you're setting yourself up. I'm just telling you.
Sometimes people realize that they've messed up and they try to fix it,
but it's too late. You should never get to that point. Too many
people get into relationships and that's it. People get married, that's it.
Well, we're married now, and they stop all of the important things.
Showing love, showing affections, communicating. They forget all of that, They
throw it the wayside, and the relationship suffers and oftentimes fail because of it.
I've told you so many times. There are literally millions of people who
are in relationships with people they shouldn't be with number one and number two,
with people that they have no connection to, no connection with. They're living
separate, they're doing their separate things, they have no affection towards each other.
They're feeling lonely and sad, but they're in a relationship. Makes no
sense, but it happens. It happens so much. But so many people
stay because they feel, well, I've gotten too old, because some people
are not even old, but they stay out of insecurities. That's why I
tell you all the time. You need to get yourself together and have yourself
in the right frame of mind before you get into a relationship with anyone.
You should know yourself. You should love yourself before you get into a relationship
with anyone, because I promise you if you do, you will not even
in no way take the crap that some of you are taking them because you
didn't know yourself, you didn't love yourself the way you should have. Then
you find yourself in a place of misery. Some of you are in relationships
feeling trapped. You're never trapped. That's your mindset telling you you're trapped.
You think you trapped because you have a child or some children. You're not
trapped. My mom had eight children, eight by the age of twenty five,
and she was married to my dad with all eight of us. But
guess what, She left him because he was abusive and she raised us all.
She didn't let feelings of being trapped keep her there. She didn't allow
the fact that she didn't graduate to keep her there. My mother always worked
hard, She always took care of us. She was a phenomenal mom,
even after having a stepdad for forty plus years. She was a phenomenal mom
so feelings of trapped. That's your mindset. Your mindset is that way for
a reason, something you have not dealt with, you have not worked out.
Some of you are so busy thinking in fronting that you don't understand.
It keeps you in the same mindset of no growth, doing the same things,
being that hampster on the wheel, because all you do is live a
cycle, same thing day in week out, month in year out, the
same things, no progression, thinking the same, feeling the same, acting
the same. And I, personally, I think that's a horrible, horrible
way to be when you don't allow yourself to grow. I think that's uncle.
That is such completely, that is such neglect for self, total abandonment
for self, for mental growth, when you choose to remain insane. You
know you have things going on, but you rather pretend everything as well,
all is good, everything in hnky doory peachy, when you know it's not.
Some of you are struggling mentally and emotionally, but you're walking around like
everything is okay. Why how do you think you're going to become better by
pretending you're already better when you know you're not. Because that one person,
you cannot get away from it yourself, so you waste all of the years
remain in the same because you're faking and pretending. Then you get into relationships
with individuals with the same like mine, chaos, drama, and that is
the very reason why so many are in relationships and are unhappy. So I'm
here to tell you, if you're in a relationship with someone that you love
and that person love, you give them the time and attention that they need
and deserve, because if you don't, you're gonna put yourself in a situation
you're not ready for. And then some of you when you realize what's happening,
oh you wanna blow a lid then, But you're the one who opened
the door. You open the door because you can do your part. You
didn't give them the attention, the affection, the love and all of those
things, the communication that you should have. All you were doing was rejecting
and denying, and it's not okay. It's not ever okay. If you
feel you need to reject or deny, that should be a reason. I'm
really sick. I don't feel like it right at the moment. But not
just total denial and rejection it should never be that in any relationship. People
do it for several reasons. One they don't really want that person, Two
there are someone else. Three everything and everyone else is more important. And
I'm sure there are other reasons, but I'm just naming those three. Bottom
line is you should never do it, not if you truly love who you
would, and I believe if you do, you won't have to entertain anything
on this level anyways, because you're gonna do the right thing by the person
you love. But some people, they get so used to doing things a
certain way. For instance, if you are that individual who's always buying and
the person really seems to like it and just appreciate it or whatever, you
get into a habit of buying and you think that's all you need to do.
All I need to do is buy him something or buy her something,
They'll be okay, No, not if they really love you. Not if
they really love you. So you have to be careful of how you handle
your relationships, how you deal with your significant other, because I'm telling you,
if you're not aware and mindful of what you're doing in your relationship,
you're gonna have to suffer the consequences of your actions. I mean that it's
just the truth. Because anybody, anyone, even an animal, will get
to a point where they will respond to rejection and denial. They'll they'll show
you in some kind of way that it's lacking. If if they have been
used to getting it and you stop showing them affection, they gonna show you
in some kind of way. Some even get sick physically sick. Always always,
always think about it this way. How would you feel? How would
you feel if the person you loved rejected you, deny you, took you
for granted? How would you feel? Now? Any person who would say,
oh, it wouldn't matter to me, you are a liar. Point
blank. You are a liar. If someone you love treat you that way
and it don't matter to you, you a liar. And the only reason
it would it matter is because you don't care. You don't care for them
like you say you do. That's the only reason. Because when when we
love, we love, we want the affection, the communication their We want
that with the person we love. But when people just talk it, you
know, it's like serving the Lord. You talk great things from your lips,
but your heart is far from him. And that's how it is.
In a lot of relationships. People talk a good talk, but their walk
don't align with their talk. They say how much they love and care for
the person, but their actions and lifestyles show something totally different. So again,
if you love who you are with, please give them the attention,
the affection, the time, et cetera, et cetera that a relationship deserves,
and they deserve because if you keep doing it, you're gonna push them
away and not necessarily into the arms of anyone else, because like I said,
you can't push someone into the arms of anyone else, but you sure
can't push them away from you. They are walk into the arms of someone
else of free will because of the situation. And people want to be loved
and they want it by or they want it from the person that they are
in love with and the person who say that they love them. So just
be mindful and aware of what you're doing in your relationships. Be mindful and
aware of who you open your heart to, because we must guard our hearts.
People be too worried about that flesh satisfaction of the flesh that they don't
guard their hearts. So many people are unhappy in their relationships because they didn't
hurt their hearts. They were worried about the flesh. They were worried about
material things. Now they're in a place where they're miserable. So you must
be mindful and aware. And that's all I'm gonna say on it. I
hope you got something out of it. Thank you so much for listening.
Much love to you and you and you. Please share this episode. Also
check out relatable life chronicles. Share. I appreciate you so much, you
know I end every episode the same. Before I go, please reach out
to me if you have any questions, concerns, just want to talk,
want to say hello, Please do so. I appreciate you, you know.
I end every episode the same, and I hope and I pray you
do it. Please God it