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This is fifty plus and Father's Day. By the time this airrs will have

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passed, they will have It was
a couple of days ago and someone asked

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me, what does it feel like
for me in my life Father's Day?

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So I said, briefly, I
will talk about it on my show because

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it does kind of for many of
us fifty plus. It's very different.

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There are several things that are going
on for me that many of you probably

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can relate to. One, I
am a father and a grandfather, so

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I do have kids and grandkids who
shower me with love and support as a

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father and grandfather, and so that's
wonderful. Need to have that. On

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the flip side, my father who's
alive, James, I see you and

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I have no contact. You have
a zero relationship. So it's always a

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little sting. At this point,
it's been so long. I don't think

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it doesn't hurt that heavily anymore because
I've got a lot of therapy and stuff.

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But there's a little sting there.
There's a little sting in there that

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I don't have a father. I
wish I had a father that was just

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wonderful, loving and support. Everybody
I can go to i'd love don't have

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funny older I can go to your
advice, but I don't. Not male,

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I don't, so that sucks.
I have females. I can go

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to you that are older, but
not males, and I wish I had

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more males to go to you that
were older. Everything anybody comes to me,

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I know what it holds onto everything. It's kind of crazy. Also

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another thing, I had two stepdads
and both passed away the last two years.

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So this is the second Father's Day
without my last step father and the

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third. Though before that I was
not. I was not. I did

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not view my last step father as
a father. He's my mother's husband.

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I care to my life way late
in my forties, but I liked him,

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I respected him, took care of
my mother. His death was tragic,

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So it's sad. My other step
father, stepdad Larry, who I

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loved to pieces grew up with.
That one hurts the most because we were

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just starting to get back into each
other's lives, like I'm a little more,

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we're talking, I'll try to hang
out with them more, and then

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he passed and away. Also,
they both passed like just so quickly.

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I'm one of the oldest people,
oldest men in my family so to speak.

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I have uncles who are not in
my life. They don't really give

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two shits about me. And that
happens. It just this happens, and

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this happens in life. I have
no grandfathers, no no anybody, no

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great nothing else. I have a
few older cousins that they don't talk to

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me. We don't talk to each
other for there are reasons. So I

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am the lead man. I have
younger siblings, younger brothers, I have

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grandsons, have younger cousins that I
do talk to, colleagues, friends,

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either my age or younger. So
that's the one thing I will say.

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For me being fifty plus, and
many of you will understand this, I'm

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missing that a lot of my mentors
in my life that are older. It

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starts your circle starts to get smaller
and you start to lose them. That

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part sucks. But Father's Day is
just it's for me for the most part,

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It's an okay day. It's never
super exciting or super happy or super

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sad and right now somewhere in the
middle, few highs, few sadness moments,

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but in the middle. But I
like Father's day. I'm a father,

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I'm proud of it. My grandfather, I'm proud of it. And

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I think it's just part of life, isn't. As you get older and

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give fifty plus, I'm James Lodd
Junior. How many Father's Day to all

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those who were fathers. And if
you have a good father or grandfather or

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a male figure that's older than you, are, hold on to them for

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dear life.