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Welcome to round three of the Parenting
Roundabout podcast for the week of June twelfth.

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I'm Nicolarics them here with Catherine hell
Ecko Hello and Terry Morrow. Hello.

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We're bumps of teens and young adults
and when it comes to parenting,

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we've been there, done that,
bought the T shirt. But we're still

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waiting for that day when we'll reach
the finish line and have no further need

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to lay down in a dark room
with a wet rack over our eyes wearing

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about something or other. Wednesday is
complaint day here on Parenting Roundabout, and

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today we are complaining about dumb fights
with family members. Okay, yes,

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and my notes say Terry has feelings
about fish. Okay, so was this

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a fight about fish? In my
defense, I will have to say that

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my son was a culinary major in
community college and I did all his homework

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with him, so I read a
lot of food safety textbooks. Oh it

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stayed with me because it was scary. Okay. So usually in my house,

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my husband is the one who will
have an outburst. He will be

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the one who talks angrily about something. But yesterday, I don't know why.

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I was having a good day,
but he had microwaved some leftover fish

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and he was going to eat it, and then we remembered that our son

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was getting off of work early and
he would probably be eating lunch at home,

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and so he said, oh,
well he should have this fish.

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And my husband was going to put
it back in the microwave and just close

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the microwave door and felt that that
would keep it okay for like an hour.

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And I, having read about the
things that can live in fish and

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make your life hell, was like, no, No, you cannot do

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that. Either eat that or put
it in the refrigerator. You cannot.

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Just I think my husband thinks that
the microwave has just magical properties of preservation.

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We just as long as you put
it in the microwave, it'll before

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it as a keep warm feature.
Yeah, but maybe not for an hour,

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not for an hour, and not
for fish, you know. I

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it's somebody I find myself screaming into
him, Wait all mess with fish.

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I've ever dreamed at something so angrily, about about something important. I don't

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think there's been anything important that I
have done, but about the stupid fish,

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I'm like yelling like it is the
the biggest thing in my life.

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Right now is making sure that nobody
eats the fish that's been sitting there for

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an hour. Wow, So you
just sort of looked at me. I

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think he was stunned because I don't. I don't usually yell, and when

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I do, it's usually a while
coming, and then it's about something that

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means something. And yet somehow I
was super angry about fish. Yes,

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so you don't. Fish is one
of those things the bad things can happen

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to, and so you want to
treat it really carefully. You know.

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Sometimes we'll eat dinner and then he
will leave it sitting out and then eventually

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he will put it on plates and
put it in the refrigerator and then to

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eat the next day. But it's
like if it's out there too long,

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the fish, I'm like, well, put that fish away. Really should

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do something about that fish. And
he's like, oh, it's cooked,

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it's fine. It's like, no, no, fish, fish is serious.

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You don't our message to you today, people don't miss you never read

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a food safety textbook, you would
know you don't want to go near that

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thing. Wow, bad enough,
just fresh and cooked, But it made

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me want cooked fish is not quite
as bad, right, I mean it's

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the it's raw or spoiled that you
have to really worry about. It is

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it is, but still, who
knows if it got cooked quite and if

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everything in there? God, I
yeah, I'm completely paranoid about it.

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I understand, but you can't leave
it in the microway for an hour.

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And then I guess he felt he
would eat it up again and it would

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be hunky dory, And maybe it
would have been, And maybe I was

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stupid, but it made me think. Have you guys had stupid arguments with

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a family member that afterwards you went, what the heck? What was that

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about? Or is it just me? I mean, my spouse would tell

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you that anything I, you know, make a stink about is definitely not

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a big deal. Yeah, so
dumb to you? I guess. Yeah.

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I mean we afterwards after the heat
has boiled off, and you went,

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why did I feel it was necessary
to scream about that? Yes?

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I mean I was telling you all
the earlier that you know, we're having

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a big party for my son's graduation, so one's a little bit on edge

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about that and everyone being I mean
truly all of us, and you know,

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I'm in my head have this long
mental list of like everything we have

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to do to prepare, you know, clean and like pick up all the

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dog poop from the backyard and sweep
the sweep the front walk, even though

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you know everything's going to happen in
the backyard, but the you know,

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people are going to walk up the
front walk and it's like covered with debris

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from trees and stuff. And sweep
the back and you know, my husband

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wants to power wash the patio and
all this stuff, and of course mow

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the lawn and blah blah blah.
And then my husband's like, well,

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we really need to clean the screened
porch on the front of the house.

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And I was just like, what
are you talking about, Like no one's

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going there, like at all,
no one's going inside the house unless they

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need to go to the bathroom.
So of course the bathrooms are on my

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list as well. But you know, we have this, we have a

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very nice screened porch. But the
problem is it gets so dirty, you

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know, just like dust and pollen
and you know, bugs get in there.

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It's just and so if you want
to enjoy the screen porch, you

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have to clean it. But we
don't have to clean it now, you

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do not have to clean it for
this party, Like that doesn't make any

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sense to me. And so when
I say like, no, we don't

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need to do that, then I
yet, oh, well, of course,

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you know, all my ideas are
stupid and wrong, and I'm like,

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oh no, it's just not a
priority like that. There's so many

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other things better are more important than
that right now. So that's the current

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conflict, Vie that you're having that
I think it's stud Have you seen those

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again, going back to like TikTok
and memes and in studios, have you

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seen like, you know, they
literally like there's people that take you know,

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the woman is in the house cleaning
and scrubbing and washing you know,

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toilets and bathrooms and vacuuming, and
because she's preparing for a party, and

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then the husband is outside like pulling
out the leaves from the gutters, right

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because all of our guests are going
to be in the gutters. Yes,

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exactly, like just totally not even
yeah yeah, not even not even close.

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Yeah. Yeah. So yes,
one of my I think one of

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my I don't know if I told
you this. One of the first big

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fights that Peter and I had when
we were married was over our front door.

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Did I tell you this story.
We were renovating our living room and

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it had a front door, and
we lived in a very rural area,

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and so there was a front door
and then a screen door, and he

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took off the front door because we
were going to replace it, but he

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didn't seem the need to replace it
any time in the near future. So

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all we had was a screen door
that separated us from the wilderness and the

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few neighbors that we had around,
and it didn't have a lock on it.

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And I was like, I was
livid because you know, we you

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know, for me, it was
like hugely important. And he was like,

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oh, no, would be fine. You know, who go camping

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and we don't have a lock on
our door and like this is different.

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And so we like had a huge
blow out over that because he just didn't

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see the importance of having a front
door. What the heck, my luck,

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somebody is gonna you know, some
serial killer from like oh Maine is

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gonna show up. And I don't
know anyway, but yeah, that was

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not cool. Yea, but my
husband will do things like that. I

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don't know what that is. I
don't know, I don't know why that

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occurs, But like your kids,
do you have dumb fights with your kids

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that you wonder afterwards why you made
such a big deal of something. Um,

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pretty much all of my fights with
the kids. Afterwards, I go,

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why did I even bother? But
yeah, yeah, I mean no,

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because you know, with the kids, it's it's different because, um,

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like, I'll bottle it up and
then then then when something is like

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really serious and I'll blow up,
and then it'll be just like this huge

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massive you know, Bob, I
don't. I don't bottle it up and

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then it goes off when it's something
stupid. Yeah, no, no,

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I would bottle it off, and
then it'll bottle it up and then it

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will blow up and it will be
so disastrous that, yeah, it just

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does not good. They at least
fear you afterwards and behave Um no,

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they probably just think that I'm off
my rockers. That's what my mom used

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to do. I've talked about this
before, is she would blow up and

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then she would take to her bed
for like three days, and we would

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my dad and I would crawl around
on our hands and knees, begging forgiveness.

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But when I blow up, that
does not happen. So I wonder

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what her secret was. She had
us all, he had us intimidated.

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I guess I guess you just did
it strategically. She didn't do it for

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a really, really, really long
time. So when you think it's like,

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oh yeah, I don't think they
expect it and they're like because usually

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I'm pretty like kind of you know, it's something really bad. When mom

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blows we're in real trouble now,
totally. Yeah. I think it's very

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like, oh okay, she really
means business now, right, Yeah.

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I remember my mom sometimes like going
along, going along, going along,

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and then all of a sudden,
yeah, well you stop it. I

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don't even recall I've been doing prop
that right, massive, right, yeah,

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but when you have three kids in
four years, you know, oh

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yes, a lot. Sure,
Yeah, it's crazy. Well have we

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gotten all that out of our out
of our system? Fortunately, we never

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fight with each other. Do we
get along because we don't. If we

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did, it wouldn't be about anything
stupid. It would be about something meaningful.

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Because we don't have to live together. Don't cross me, we don't

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have to live together or feed each
other questionable food. We would just ghost

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each other as all ghost each other. Oh well, that's it for today's

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Round three. Tune in tomorrow when
we'll obsess about a poetic scene from Ted

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Lasso, and then on Friday to
see what we've come up with for our

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