WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.120 --> 00:00:03.359 Hello everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:03.399 --> 00:00:06.839 Cogan, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.879 --> 00:00:09.919 your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into the 4 00:00:09.919 --> 00:00:14.720 best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? Happy Monday? 5 00:00:15.519 --> 00:00:19.800 We are here. We are here to talk about glowing up. Okay, 6 00:00:20.160 --> 00:00:24.079 if y'all are real ones and you have been following me on my main channel, 7 00:00:24.320 --> 00:00:27.480 we've been talking about glowing up. I put out a video a few 8 00:00:27.519 --> 00:00:30.800 days ago about the internal glow up, because y'all know, we talk about 9 00:00:30.839 --> 00:00:34.560 the mindset, we talk about what we put into our bodies, really taking 10 00:00:34.560 --> 00:00:36.880 care of our bodies from the inside out, and then we talk about the 11 00:00:36.880 --> 00:00:41.159 makeup, the hair, the whatever. And I'm actually filming a skincare and 12 00:00:41.240 --> 00:00:46.840 beauty care or not beauty care but beauty routine video today. I just came 13 00:00:46.880 --> 00:00:50.079 from doing that and that'll be on my main channel very soon as well, 14 00:00:50.119 --> 00:00:54.880 So definitely check those out. But if you've been following along, then you 15 00:00:55.039 --> 00:01:00.799 know the topic right now is glowing up, and I think naturally springtime. 16 00:01:00.960 --> 00:01:03.920 The sun is freaking out today in Toronto and they said the sun was gonna 17 00:01:03.920 --> 00:01:07.480 be out. But you know what, I think I manifested that because every 18 00:01:07.519 --> 00:01:11.280 single time I look on the weather app and it says, oh, it's 19 00:01:11.280 --> 00:01:14.400 gonna be cloudy this that I'm like, mmm, no things are gonna change. 20 00:01:14.400 --> 00:01:18.319 The Sun's gonna come out, and it always comes out. Which brings 21 00:01:18.359 --> 00:01:22.239 me to something that's really important when it comes to glowing up, which is 22 00:01:22.879 --> 00:01:26.040 your belief system in the way that you look at yourself. And that's what 23 00:01:26.079 --> 00:01:30.200 I want to talk about today when it comes to my quote unquote perfect formula 24 00:01:30.239 --> 00:01:34.159 for any glow up. Now today, we're not gonna be talking about how 25 00:01:34.159 --> 00:01:37.640 many glasses of water you should drink, or how many times you should go 26 00:01:37.840 --> 00:01:42.879 to workout, or how you need to look or how many days a week 27 00:01:42.879 --> 00:01:45.400 you need to do self care, because we know what we need to do. 28 00:01:45.840 --> 00:01:49.200 And quite frankly, what I do for a glow up is different than 29 00:01:49.200 --> 00:01:53.120 what you do for your glow up, and that is totally fine. Okay, 30 00:01:53.159 --> 00:01:56.480 I want that for us. I want us all. We don't all 31 00:01:56.519 --> 00:01:57.239 have to be different. We can be the exact same. You can be 32 00:01:57.359 --> 00:02:01.359 twins with me if you want, but we all have different needs and different 33 00:02:01.359 --> 00:02:08.039 wants and that's totally fine. But one thing that is the most important is 34 00:02:08.159 --> 00:02:14.159 the way that we view ourselves. Okay, that can be the same, 35 00:02:14.280 --> 00:02:17.879 so we're gonna talk about it. So for one, before we even get 36 00:02:17.919 --> 00:02:23.560 into the essentially three step formulas, three step thing that I'm gonna be talking 37 00:02:23.599 --> 00:02:29.800 about, I need you to think about who you are identifying as right now 38 00:02:29.840 --> 00:02:34.919 in your life. And I want us to think about this because we want 39 00:02:34.919 --> 00:02:38.919 this in our forefront of our minds when we are trying to switch our identities 40 00:02:38.960 --> 00:02:40.800 and we are trying to become a new version of ourselves, we have to 41 00:02:40.840 --> 00:02:47.960 really see that distinction essentially. So and you might have thought about this a 42 00:02:49.000 --> 00:02:53.240 little bit, but maybe not. But right now you have a set of 43 00:02:53.280 --> 00:02:58.280 beliefs about yourself, about the world, about everything. But right now we're 44 00:02:58.319 --> 00:03:01.159 gonna just bring it back to you and of like glowing up. And when 45 00:03:01.199 --> 00:03:06.919 we're talking about glowing up today, let's talk about being confident in our bodies, 46 00:03:07.280 --> 00:03:09.639 having the body of our dreams, the skin, the hair, like 47 00:03:09.800 --> 00:03:15.159 just the most like physically glowed up. I guess you look at yourself right 48 00:03:15.240 --> 00:03:20.879 now as somebody who is not you probably have a poor self concept. In 49 00:03:20.919 --> 00:03:23.240 many ways. You might be looking at yourself like you don't go to the 50 00:03:23.240 --> 00:03:27.919 gym. You've been slacking. You need to start glowing up. You aren't 51 00:03:28.439 --> 00:03:30.400 where you want to be. You don't have the healthy hair yet, you 52 00:03:30.439 --> 00:03:34.599 don't have X, Y, and Z. I want you to think about 53 00:03:34.960 --> 00:03:39.439 the story that you're living out right now and understand that a lot of the 54 00:03:39.479 --> 00:03:45.000 reasons why you don't have the things that you have in your life or you 55 00:03:45.080 --> 00:03:49.120 aren't taking the actions that you want to be taking aka, let's say self 56 00:03:49.120 --> 00:03:53.719 care, is because you are identifying as somebody who does not take steps to 57 00:03:53.800 --> 00:04:00.400 do her self care. You identify as somebody who does not do a skincare 58 00:04:00.479 --> 00:04:04.639 routine or consistently, or takes care of themselves or goes to the gym or 59 00:04:04.680 --> 00:04:08.759 the gym is easy for you, or you have healthy hair, you have 60 00:04:08.800 --> 00:04:13.960 glowing skin. You don't look at yourself like that. And that is going 61 00:04:14.039 --> 00:04:16.720 to be the number one thing you want to focus on when it comes to 62 00:04:16.800 --> 00:04:20.920 glowing up. Because we can talk about all the steps that you need to 63 00:04:20.959 --> 00:04:25.319 do and take, why don't you do them because you do not identify as 64 00:04:25.319 --> 00:04:31.079 somebody who takes those actions. You don't think as the person who has the 65 00:04:31.160 --> 00:04:35.839 healthy hair. You don't look at yourself like somebody who is the type of 66 00:04:35.839 --> 00:04:42.680 person that shows up for themselves. You have an internal story within your mind 67 00:04:43.120 --> 00:04:46.560 that is not favorable, that doesn't help you, that does not motivate you 68 00:04:46.639 --> 00:04:51.920 to get to where you're at. And sometimes what we do is we start 69 00:04:51.959 --> 00:04:56.040 a new routine or we start some new habits, and you know, we 70 00:04:56.079 --> 00:04:58.800 have like this new mindset, like Okay, I'm going to like take care 71 00:04:58.800 --> 00:05:04.399 of myself this that. But soon after we fall off of things. Why 72 00:05:04.560 --> 00:05:09.519 do we do that? It's what we are telling ourselves in our minds. 73 00:05:09.560 --> 00:05:15.480 It's the thoughts that we're constantly thinking. And listen, you have many thoughts 74 00:05:15.480 --> 00:05:19.040 and beliefs that are picked up through childhood, your adult life, even everything. 75 00:05:19.040 --> 00:05:21.759 I talk about it a lot in my book The Inner Child Work and 76 00:05:21.879 --> 00:05:26.279 understanding where those voices come from. It's very important. I think it's very 77 00:05:26.279 --> 00:05:29.240 important because when you're trying to change your self concept and change the way that 78 00:05:29.279 --> 00:05:31.399 you do things in your life, it is important on the times that you 79 00:05:31.600 --> 00:05:36.680 naturally, subconsciously want to fall back to the old way. When I'm now 80 00:05:36.759 --> 00:05:42.079 thinking in my life an unfavorable thought, ho Alicia, your body doesn't look 81 00:05:42.079 --> 00:05:45.560 good, or your skin doesn't look good today, or oh like whatever, 82 00:05:46.079 --> 00:05:51.480 any negative thought. I am very aware that that is just an old thought 83 00:05:51.519 --> 00:05:57.279 from the past that I picked up from X, Y and Z place person 84 00:05:57.399 --> 00:06:01.680 whatever. It's not my story, it's just what was programmed in my mind 85 00:06:01.720 --> 00:06:06.439 as a child based off of my experiences. So when it comes to innerchild 86 00:06:06.480 --> 00:06:10.839 healing and understanding your past and trauma and all that kind of stuff, that 87 00:06:10.959 --> 00:06:16.399 is why I think it's very helpful because you know, naturally those thoughts might 88 00:06:16.439 --> 00:06:19.959 come up, and when they come up, you can use your logical minds. 89 00:06:20.319 --> 00:06:25.279 I know it's not as easy always, but you're able to have a 90 00:06:25.279 --> 00:06:29.399 little bit more insight to be able to bring yourself to a favorable thought because 91 00:06:29.439 --> 00:06:32.160 you're telling yourself, no, but this is not my truth. Sometimes we 92 00:06:32.279 --> 00:06:38.720 forget what our truth is. Sometimes we are confused. Sometimes you're confused, 93 00:06:38.759 --> 00:06:44.079 guys, you're genuinely confused, and you think that like it's normal to not 94 00:06:44.160 --> 00:06:46.879 take care of yourself or look at your somebody look at yourself. Sorry, 95 00:06:46.879 --> 00:06:51.000 as somebody who is not pretty, not good enough, not worthy enough, 96 00:06:51.040 --> 00:06:56.519 can't get what they want, Okay, So we need to understand that it's 97 00:06:56.519 --> 00:07:00.399 not normal. And what has helped me is sometimes you know, doing that 98 00:07:00.639 --> 00:07:03.600 shadow work intertel healing. I talk about it in my book, The Ultimate 99 00:07:03.639 --> 00:07:06.120 Glow Up Guide. If you want to read it, link will be down 100 00:07:06.160 --> 00:07:11.480 below in your bookstores Amazon. It's a great first step when it comes to 101 00:07:11.600 --> 00:07:16.040 truly doing that inner deep glow up work essentially, healing work essentially. But 102 00:07:16.480 --> 00:07:21.800 at the end of the day, when you're moving through life, depending on 103 00:07:21.920 --> 00:07:28.040 what you're thinking and telling yourself, you will act out of it. You 104 00:07:28.120 --> 00:07:33.319 will create from that standpoint. So we want to change that if we want 105 00:07:33.319 --> 00:07:36.920 to be somebody who has glowed up. So on one hand, it is 106 00:07:38.000 --> 00:07:42.519 totally okay that you've realized, Okay, springs here, summer's coming, I 107 00:07:42.519 --> 00:07:44.879 want to glow up, I want to take care of myself more whatever, 108 00:07:44.920 --> 00:07:47.680 That's totally fine. But I just want you to be aware of when you 109 00:07:47.759 --> 00:07:51.959 have that mindset of looking at yourself, which sometimes we usually actually do and 110 00:07:53.000 --> 00:07:56.639 we have to like pull it back for a second, is like nitpicking, 111 00:07:56.759 --> 00:07:59.199 being like, oh my god, you're not working out, or you're not 112 00:07:59.240 --> 00:08:01.040 taking care of yourself, or look at your body, or nitpicking and just 113 00:08:01.079 --> 00:08:07.120 self hating. You guys know, we do not get anywhere when we try 114 00:08:07.160 --> 00:08:09.959 to change out of a place of self hate and something that helps me, 115 00:08:11.120 --> 00:08:15.879 like maybe like a thought slash a belief system that I hold when I'm trying 116 00:08:15.879 --> 00:08:20.199 to change something in my life. And maybe it's because like maybe I've seen 117 00:08:20.199 --> 00:08:22.879 that I haven't been showing up certain a way, I haven't been identifying as 118 00:08:22.879 --> 00:08:26.120 somebody who does X, Y and Z. When I'm ready to change, 119 00:08:26.519 --> 00:08:31.920 I usually just tell myself something like okay, cool, like I can change 120 00:08:31.920 --> 00:08:35.480 whatever, but what I've did it in the past, or what I wasn't 121 00:08:35.480 --> 00:08:39.799 doing that didn't ruin anything, Like it didn't ruin any progress. I'm not 122 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:43.600 behind in life. I didn't like mess anything up. I think that's really 123 00:08:43.840 --> 00:08:48.480 really helpful because again, first of all, like the stories you tell yourself 124 00:08:48.519 --> 00:08:50.360 is everything. So why would you sit here and be like, Okay, 125 00:08:50.440 --> 00:08:54.320 I'm gonna blow up, but what I did during the winter, like ah, 126 00:08:54.399 --> 00:08:56.000 I should have done more or I didn't do enough whatever, It just 127 00:08:56.039 --> 00:09:00.000 doesn't serve you. It doesn't serve you. So it would highly suggests you 128 00:09:00.840 --> 00:09:05.879 think that way sometimes if you find that you're kind of like this all or 129 00:09:05.960 --> 00:09:11.080 nothing person who is like, Okay, I'm ready to like change because if 130 00:09:11.159 --> 00:09:15.279 you continue to move in this all or nothing thinking on the days that you 131 00:09:15.399 --> 00:09:20.480 don't do flawless identity work or think in favorable thoughts, like you usually go 132 00:09:20.600 --> 00:09:22.320 back to, oh my god, see I'm ruining everything. You're not ruining 133 00:09:22.360 --> 00:09:26.919 anything. You're not ruining anything if you have a bad day or like quote 134 00:09:26.960 --> 00:09:31.480 unquote you think it's a bad day, You're not ruining anything. If you 135 00:09:31.519 --> 00:09:33.919 didn't go to the gym, whatever. And it's so important that you think 136 00:09:33.919 --> 00:09:39.120 that way because you will act out of that way. And it's always I 137 00:09:39.159 --> 00:09:41.480 always bring it back to when I used to binge eat. When I used 138 00:09:41.480 --> 00:09:45.399 to binge eat, what I would do was I would make meaning out of 139 00:09:45.399 --> 00:09:48.000 the fact that I just binge eat. Oh my god, I messed up. 140 00:09:48.080 --> 00:09:50.559 Oh my god, I'm not where I'm like meant to be, I'm 141 00:09:50.639 --> 00:09:54.159 not getting better whatever, blah blah blah. And it would spirally me moral 142 00:09:54.240 --> 00:09:56.320 because then what I would do is I would say, fine, you know 143 00:09:56.320 --> 00:09:58.440 what, I'll start on Monday, because I'm never going to give up on 144 00:09:58.480 --> 00:10:03.440 myself. But because I think in my head that I've ruined everything, I 145 00:10:03.519 --> 00:10:07.200 might as well just ruin it more. So I'll just eat more or I'll 146 00:10:07.240 --> 00:10:11.559 just like not move my bed. No, I promise you the way I 147 00:10:11.639 --> 00:10:15.039 got out of those cycles was using a mindset like that, so you didn't 148 00:10:15.080 --> 00:10:18.399 ruin anything. Okay, So let's talk about the formula that I think is 149 00:10:18.399 --> 00:10:22.320 really important in terms of actually becoming somebody who has glowed up and really any 150 00:10:22.360 --> 00:10:26.200 aspect of life. But again just kind of like physical taking care of ourselves 151 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:31.000 because we just we want to feel good. Okay, So the first thing 152 00:10:31.000 --> 00:10:35.480 that you're gonna need to do is to change your identity. So I want 153 00:10:35.519 --> 00:10:39.240 you to think about the person that you want to be. Now we can 154 00:10:39.240 --> 00:10:41.720 think about all the things that we want and all the things that we want 155 00:10:41.759 --> 00:10:45.159 to be. But I would say maybe in terms of a glow up, 156 00:10:45.200 --> 00:10:48.200 just think about like one to three things that you're really wanting to focus on 157 00:10:48.320 --> 00:10:50.200 changing. Maybe you're wanting to be somebody who goes to the gym more, 158 00:10:50.919 --> 00:10:54.519 or you want to grow your hair, or like you want to grow your 159 00:10:54.519 --> 00:10:56.600 glutes, or you want to have like clear skin something like that. Like, 160 00:10:56.639 --> 00:10:58.799 we don't need to focus. We can we can work on every single 161 00:11:00.480 --> 00:11:01.879 You can just use this formula for every single thing that you want to change 162 00:11:01.879 --> 00:11:05.799 in a way you know, and I think that this is like what it 163 00:11:05.840 --> 00:11:07.320 means to just glow up, and that's what I've done throughout my life. 164 00:11:07.399 --> 00:11:13.039 Like every season, I'm always like changing and evolving. But I want you 165 00:11:13.120 --> 00:11:16.440 to think about the person that you want to be, Okay, I don't 166 00:11:16.480 --> 00:11:20.399 want you to think about what freaking Sally or Sam or Lindsay or Caroline or 167 00:11:20.440 --> 00:11:28.799 goddamn Karen on TikTok or Instagram is being acting doing whatever listen you can get. 168 00:11:28.120 --> 00:11:33.120 You can get advice from people, you can get influenced from people. 169 00:11:33.440 --> 00:11:37.200 I'm a freaking influencer. I know you guys get influenced from me, and 170 00:11:37.240 --> 00:11:39.279 I do that, like I love it. I love to share this that 171 00:11:39.360 --> 00:11:43.639 it's totally fine, But I want you to think about the person that you 172 00:11:43.080 --> 00:11:46.639 really want to be. What do you want to have? How do you 173 00:11:46.679 --> 00:11:50.080 want to look? How do you want to move through life? The reason 174 00:11:50.080 --> 00:11:54.559 why I'm saying that well, obviously because like you just have to be yourself. 175 00:11:54.639 --> 00:11:58.639 But I think like this, this type of work really works when you're 176 00:11:58.799 --> 00:12:03.000 just real, when you just go for exactly what it is that you want, 177 00:12:03.279 --> 00:12:05.720 Okay, when you want to be the girl that you want to be, 178 00:12:07.320 --> 00:12:09.200 Okay, so just claim it. Claim whatever it is that you freaking 179 00:12:09.240 --> 00:12:11.960 want. I don't care. Stop telling yourself that you can't be this person 180 00:12:13.080 --> 00:12:16.080 or you can't whatever. So thinking about it, you could be the girl 181 00:12:16.159 --> 00:12:20.360 who has long natural hair. Okay. You could be the girl who eats 182 00:12:20.600 --> 00:12:24.879 really really healthy. You could be the girl who's confident in her body, 183 00:12:24.120 --> 00:12:30.600 who has big glutes, the girl who has a good time but still works 184 00:12:30.639 --> 00:12:33.480 on her wellness. Like for me, okay, I'll just give you that 185 00:12:33.519 --> 00:12:39.159 example. Really, I want to be a girl who can have espresso martini 186 00:12:39.200 --> 00:12:41.879 and go with her girlfriends and go live it up and have the best time 187 00:12:41.919 --> 00:12:46.759 of a freaking life or sometimes like having a little edible here and there, 188 00:12:46.919 --> 00:12:50.720 like have the best time and still be on my grind and still take care 189 00:12:50.759 --> 00:12:56.120 of myself and you know whatever it is, like everything, that's how I 190 00:12:56.159 --> 00:12:58.919 want to be in life. So that's a story that I'm telling myself. 191 00:12:58.000 --> 00:13:01.679 I can be that. So I don't want you to be like, oh, 192 00:13:01.799 --> 00:13:05.279 I can't have it, Like I can't. I have to be this 193 00:13:05.320 --> 00:13:07.799 girl who's like like when you think about the sometimes when we think about the 194 00:13:07.879 --> 00:13:11.639 version of ourselves that's like the most glowed up we just think that they're like 195 00:13:11.679 --> 00:13:15.720 perfect, but they're not really Like that's not actually you, and you don't 196 00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:16.919 have to be like that. But it's just like, well you can if 197 00:13:16.919 --> 00:13:20.679 you want, but like, who do you actually want to be? You 198 00:13:20.679 --> 00:13:22.360 don't have to be perfect, you can be literally you. For me, 199 00:13:22.919 --> 00:13:26.919 I think that's perfect being somebody who can balance those two things. But that's 200 00:13:26.919 --> 00:13:31.960 because I want to be like that. So I just want us to really 201 00:13:31.000 --> 00:13:35.519 just claim what it is or who it is that we want to be and 202 00:13:35.559 --> 00:13:39.600 have in this life because you can. But also just because like we're done 203 00:13:39.960 --> 00:13:45.320 not being authentic, We're done not being who we really want to be in 204 00:13:45.360 --> 00:13:50.480 our lives. We're done with that. So thinking about the person that you 205 00:13:50.879 --> 00:13:56.919 want to be, and then thinking about this person meaning you, but this 206 00:13:56.159 --> 00:14:01.559 dream version of you, the one who has really long, natural hair, 207 00:14:01.639 --> 00:14:05.000 who eats really healthy, who has big glutes, whatever, What does she 208 00:14:05.360 --> 00:14:13.080 think about herself? This is really important? Okay, So some examples could 209 00:14:13.120 --> 00:14:16.399 be she knows that she has long, beautiful hair. She thinks about her 210 00:14:16.440 --> 00:14:20.600 hair in a favorable way, she thinks about her body in a favorable way. 211 00:14:22.000 --> 00:14:26.000 She enjoys eating healthy, She doesn't have resistance to going to the gym 212 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:28.960 because it's just a normal thing, like you have to, Like, I 213 00:14:28.000 --> 00:14:33.840 really want you to think about it. The person that has what you want, 214 00:14:33.960 --> 00:14:35.600 how would they be thinking. And I know sometimes it can be hard 215 00:14:35.600 --> 00:14:39.440 because you might not know, but just thinking about some of the things, 216 00:14:39.480 --> 00:14:48.000 like if you had your perfect skin or your perfect hair. It's not that 217 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:52.600 you wouldn't be thinking about the fact that you have long hair or you have 218 00:14:52.720 --> 00:14:58.639 perfect skin, but you'd be thinking favorable. You'd be thinking good thoughts about 219 00:14:58.679 --> 00:15:01.480 yourself. You would be looking in the mirror and being like, oh my 220 00:15:01.480 --> 00:15:03.960 god, I hate my glutes. You wouldn't be looking in the mirror and 221 00:15:03.960 --> 00:15:05.279 being like, oh my god, my hair's so sure, Oh my god, 222 00:15:05.320 --> 00:15:09.519 my hair's so like not nourish whatever. You wouldn't right, you'd be 223 00:15:09.600 --> 00:15:15.600 thinking good thoughts about yourself. Now, you can go right to the end 224 00:15:15.799 --> 00:15:20.799 and just continue to think about yourself as this person who has like long hair 225 00:15:22.399 --> 00:15:24.759 or nice glutes. But sometimes it's hard for us to do that when we 226 00:15:24.840 --> 00:15:31.159 don't actually have it. So some people like like sometimes even for myself, 227 00:15:31.240 --> 00:15:37.360 like I can kind of it's not about ignoring reality, but like I can 228 00:15:37.399 --> 00:15:41.879 look at myself even if I don't have that thing fully like formed yet and 229 00:15:41.879 --> 00:15:43.639 be like, oh, I have beautiful glutes or I have beautiful hair, 230 00:15:43.679 --> 00:15:50.200 like it doesn't matter. But if you can't think about that in that like 231 00:15:50.279 --> 00:15:52.480 think about yourself in that way yet and you kind of feel like it's a 232 00:15:52.480 --> 00:15:56.679 little bit too delusional, you can just think about the type of person that 233 00:15:56.919 --> 00:16:03.919 whoever it is like that has what you want. Is So the girl of 234 00:16:03.960 --> 00:16:08.919 your dreams, which is you, who has long hair, beautiful skin, 235 00:16:10.159 --> 00:16:15.080 who takes care of themselves, she probably enjoys taking care of herself. Think 236 00:16:15.120 --> 00:16:19.320 about it for a second. Think about the girl who really like is glowed 237 00:16:19.399 --> 00:16:22.559 up all the time and like really takes her time doing her self care. 238 00:16:23.200 --> 00:16:30.399 She probably enjoys it, right, She probably enjoys the way she feels when 239 00:16:30.399 --> 00:16:33.960 she eats healthy. It's not that she just eats healthy, right, because 240 00:16:34.000 --> 00:16:37.320 that's probably what you do. You probably just eat healthy, but you don't 241 00:16:37.360 --> 00:16:41.679 fucking enjoy it. But if you really think about it, she probably enjoys 242 00:16:41.679 --> 00:16:45.000 it. And again you can kind of go all over the place. You 243 00:16:45.039 --> 00:16:48.840 don't have to think she enjoys it, and like you know, favors their 244 00:16:48.960 --> 00:16:52.960 saviors every moment, So even for me, I identify as somebody who just 245 00:16:53.320 --> 00:16:57.240 eats like well, I eat very well. I don't even think that I 246 00:16:57.679 --> 00:17:02.039 like look at myself like it eat like perfect because I don't care about that. 247 00:17:02.960 --> 00:17:07.440 But I eat well and I eat healthy, and I am not somebody 248 00:17:07.559 --> 00:17:14.039 who resists that. I don't have to force myself to want to eat healthy. 249 00:17:14.160 --> 00:17:18.279 I don't have to like like push myself to I don't have resistance to 250 00:17:18.319 --> 00:17:22.759 it. It's just easy. It's effortless. So you want to think about, 251 00:17:22.799 --> 00:17:26.279 like the person who really is that dream version of you, they probably 252 00:17:26.559 --> 00:17:33.759 don't have a lot of beliefs of like it's hard. I don't enjoy it, 253 00:17:34.039 --> 00:17:37.319 like even when it comes to like if you want to be somebody who 254 00:17:37.400 --> 00:17:41.680 drinks a lot of water, somebody who drinks a lot of water a lot, 255 00:17:41.799 --> 00:17:45.240 And this is just like a general statement. Obviously everyone has different beliefs. 256 00:17:45.279 --> 00:17:49.079 But when somebody like drinks a lot of water, they're just somebody who 257 00:17:49.119 --> 00:17:53.119 identifies as like drinking water is easy, even if they don't like Actually, 258 00:17:53.200 --> 00:17:56.240 if you were to ask somebody who drinks a lot of water, they might 259 00:17:56.279 --> 00:18:00.759 not be able to like say that, but drinking water is like for them, 260 00:18:00.200 --> 00:18:03.319 like there's not. It's like not a hard thing, even when it 261 00:18:03.319 --> 00:18:08.400 comes to like the gym. Actually, yeah, the gym. This is 262 00:18:08.440 --> 00:18:14.599 something that really clicked for me when I became best friends with my friend Joye. 263 00:18:15.200 --> 00:18:19.039 She has really nice glutes. She's had really nice glutes, like I 264 00:18:19.039 --> 00:18:23.920 mean obviously before I met her, but and so she I like I'm always 265 00:18:23.960 --> 00:18:29.240 asking her, like, well, not anymore obviously, but I always wondered, 266 00:18:29.279 --> 00:18:32.599 like, you know, how did she get to where she's at in 267 00:18:32.720 --> 00:18:36.519 terms of growing her glutes and like you know whatever, like how did she 268 00:18:36.559 --> 00:18:38.440 do it? Whatever? And like I know how you grow glutes, but 269 00:18:40.279 --> 00:18:42.640 she just grew her glutes and it's just like a consistent thing, and like 270 00:18:42.640 --> 00:18:45.000 now she has big glutes even if she doesn't go to the gym like whatever, 271 00:18:45.319 --> 00:18:49.400 but she goes to the gym. I was asking her, and I 272 00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:52.519 wasn't even asking her, but I was just kind of like, this is 273 00:18:52.519 --> 00:18:53.799 what I do. Actually, I guess. A side note is when I 274 00:18:53.880 --> 00:18:57.680 see somebody who has something that I want and it seems easy for them, 275 00:18:59.400 --> 00:19:04.319 I either like subliminally like kind of like indirectly ask them or like I'll just 276 00:19:04.359 --> 00:19:10.359 ask them, what do they like? What do you believe? About yourself 277 00:19:10.400 --> 00:19:14.160 in the world because they have a certain belief system about how easier or how 278 00:19:14.200 --> 00:19:15.440 hard things are gonna be, or if they can get something, or if 279 00:19:15.440 --> 00:19:19.000 they can't trust me. If you go out in the world and you actually 280 00:19:19.079 --> 00:19:22.759 like look and think about you know, the people who have what you want 281 00:19:22.839 --> 00:19:26.599 or the people who have what they have is because of what they believe, 282 00:19:26.880 --> 00:19:29.480 and the same thing goes with you. Could I can guarantee you can pick 283 00:19:29.480 --> 00:19:33.279 out somebody in your life who is a constant complainer, a constant Oh, 284 00:19:33.400 --> 00:19:37.920 life is so hard and everything is hard in their lives. Everything is hard. 285 00:19:37.079 --> 00:19:41.920 They're always broke, something is always happening, always have a boy issues 286 00:19:41.960 --> 00:19:45.960 whatever. Because of what they think. They're always expecting something to happen that's 287 00:19:47.000 --> 00:19:49.400 gonna be bad. They're always speaking it out into existence. They're always like, 288 00:19:49.400 --> 00:19:52.480 oh, I don't really know if it's gonna happen this that. And 289 00:19:52.480 --> 00:19:53.519 by the way, we do that too. I've done that as well. 290 00:19:53.559 --> 00:19:56.880 I still have to work on that a lot. So bringing it back to 291 00:19:56.920 --> 00:20:03.240 my friends, I started to note that she never talked about going to the 292 00:20:03.319 --> 00:20:08.119 gym. She never made it this like big rebrand thing. She didn't even 293 00:20:08.160 --> 00:20:12.079 really make it a part of her identity in terms of like always talking about 294 00:20:12.119 --> 00:20:15.440 it. It just but it was a part of her identity. But in 295 00:20:15.480 --> 00:20:18.920 the way of just like she is literally just somebody who goes to the gym. 296 00:20:18.200 --> 00:20:21.400 She just goes to the gym and she does legs or she does opper 297 00:20:21.400 --> 00:20:25.039 body, but whatever, It's like a normal freaking thing in her life. 298 00:20:25.039 --> 00:20:29.160 That's just what she does. Like there's no waking up in the morning and 299 00:20:29.359 --> 00:20:32.359 negotiating herself out of going to the gym. It's just like it's gonna get 300 00:20:32.359 --> 00:20:34.920 done at some point. The same way she like the relationship that she has 301 00:20:34.960 --> 00:20:40.599 towards money is very like I'm just good with money. I just make a 302 00:20:40.599 --> 00:20:45.279 lot of money, and that is her reality. And the same thing goes 303 00:20:45.319 --> 00:20:48.680 with me when it comes to like when I always bring it back to becoming 304 00:20:48.720 --> 00:20:52.359 a podcaster, like a YouTuber, Like I just decided that I was going 305 00:20:52.440 --> 00:20:56.519 to be a good YouTuber. I decided that what I have to say matters, 306 00:20:56.559 --> 00:21:03.640 and it matters because it's reflected because it's what I decided. So think 307 00:21:03.640 --> 00:21:07.160 about some of the beliefs that you hold about things. Sometimes we just we're 308 00:21:07.240 --> 00:21:10.960 trying so hard to do the thing which is fine that we take action like 309 00:21:11.480 --> 00:21:14.640 towards things. That's fine, But really and truly, it's a lot of 310 00:21:14.680 --> 00:21:18.200 the times it's what you believe, it's what you assume. So thinking about 311 00:21:18.240 --> 00:21:22.759 the version of you who has everything that they want, how does that dream 312 00:21:22.799 --> 00:21:27.440 girl think? She probably enjoys self care. She probably doesn't make excuses, 313 00:21:27.599 --> 00:21:34.640 She probably really enjoys things. Which leads me back to creating a life that 314 00:21:34.720 --> 00:21:41.079 you enjoy and doing things that you like, because obviously, like you want 315 00:21:41.119 --> 00:21:45.079 to like what you do, right, So, like, I actually bring 316 00:21:45.119 --> 00:21:49.839 it right now to hot yoga. I am obsessed with hot yoga. Okay, 317 00:21:51.039 --> 00:21:55.680 I think I talked about this in the March recap. I am freaking 318 00:21:55.799 --> 00:21:57.720 obsessed with hot yoga. I have been going consistently. I didn't even realize 319 00:21:57.720 --> 00:22:02.279 this, but I looked on my class past. I am going consistently for 320 00:22:02.400 --> 00:22:04.359 a month straight, three times a week. I didn't even realize I was 321 00:22:04.400 --> 00:22:10.119 going that much. Okay, and not even for a second have I felt 322 00:22:10.160 --> 00:22:12.319 any resistance to going. And listen, it's a hard class. It is 323 00:22:12.599 --> 00:22:15.799 the hottest hot yoga you can ever freaking imagine. But you as soon as 324 00:22:15.839 --> 00:22:19.799 you get into that class, you are sweating. It's bickram yoga, which 325 00:22:19.880 --> 00:22:23.640 I personally love, but it's a challenge when it's hot. It is twenty 326 00:22:23.640 --> 00:22:26.720 six poses. You do the same poses every single time. It's very like 327 00:22:26.880 --> 00:22:30.200 the same thing every single time. And that's why I like it. I'm 328 00:22:30.279 --> 00:22:32.160 like, I don't know, I think, just the way that my brain 329 00:22:32.200 --> 00:22:37.920 works. And also I like it because I'm able to see my body progress 330 00:22:37.440 --> 00:22:42.079 in terms of balance, instability, and strength. But it's also just a 331 00:22:42.200 --> 00:22:47.400 mental challenge because you're having to breathe through these movements and these poses for so 332 00:22:47.519 --> 00:22:52.519 long. Anyways, whatever, all of that, every single thing about it 333 00:22:52.880 --> 00:22:56.039 I like. I love the fact that I'm sweating. I'm getting a good 334 00:22:56.039 --> 00:22:57.640 sweat every single time. I love the fact that every single time that I'm 335 00:22:57.680 --> 00:23:02.119 going sometimes not every single class is the same. Like I can fee I 336 00:23:02.119 --> 00:23:07.599 can see when like I'm really sore still or I'm really stiff. I love 337 00:23:07.599 --> 00:23:10.160 it. I love seeing it. I love witnessing my body doing all that 338 00:23:10.200 --> 00:23:14.240 stuff. It's beautiful to me. I love it. I love every single 339 00:23:14.319 --> 00:23:18.079 pose. Like it's not like too hard or too uncomfortable or too annoying like 340 00:23:18.079 --> 00:23:22.720 I think about other forms of yoga. I hate it. Like you know, 341 00:23:22.759 --> 00:23:25.799 the flows like where you do like Warrior one and Warrior two and then 342 00:23:25.839 --> 00:23:27.119 you go down and then you go up and then everything's a flow and you're 343 00:23:27.119 --> 00:23:30.519 going cool. I hate it, count me out, gotta go, gotta 344 00:23:30.559 --> 00:23:36.160 go. I don't like it. And yeah, so I like everything about 345 00:23:36.160 --> 00:23:37.400 it. I like the fact that it's close to my place. I like 346 00:23:37.440 --> 00:23:41.599 that I can walk there, and I like that just like whatever, all 347 00:23:41.599 --> 00:23:45.480 of it, every single thing. And because I like it, I naturally 348 00:23:45.559 --> 00:23:51.599 have gone so freaking much. Okay that not only is it just great that 349 00:23:51.640 --> 00:23:53.319 I've been consistent and I've been looking forward to it, and I've been getting 350 00:23:53.319 --> 00:23:59.279 out of my own head and this that my body Okay, my legs, 351 00:23:59.279 --> 00:24:03.599 literally, I sw to God. The past like week, I've been looking 352 00:24:03.640 --> 00:24:07.279 at my glutes and my legs, and I'm like, what is going on? 353 00:24:08.440 --> 00:24:11.039 I have always it, first of all, and this is something I 354 00:24:11.039 --> 00:24:15.319 have to work on too. I've always identified as somebody who my glutes take 355 00:24:15.519 --> 00:24:19.079 the longest to grow. It is really hard this that, and over the 356 00:24:19.160 --> 00:24:22.920 years I've changed the way that I viewed myself in terms of my body, 357 00:24:22.960 --> 00:24:26.839 but also like how hard things need to be and genuinely my body has changed 358 00:24:26.880 --> 00:24:30.319 so rapidly and easy by doing the bare minim at the gym because I literally 359 00:24:30.319 --> 00:24:36.759 decided. But anyways, lately, I've been like looking at myself because I 360 00:24:36.839 --> 00:24:41.680 know it's good to look at myself favor favorably, sorry, and regardless of 361 00:24:41.960 --> 00:24:45.720 if my glutes have been growing or not, because I'm not looking if they've 362 00:24:45.720 --> 00:24:48.599 been growing, I've been looking and saying, yeah, they look amazing. 363 00:24:48.680 --> 00:24:52.839 That's how we have to be talking to ourselves. But since I've been looking 364 00:24:52.839 --> 00:24:56.599 at them, I think, for one, for sure, it's just the 365 00:24:56.640 --> 00:24:59.079 way that I look at myself. It's kind of like a placebo effect in 366 00:24:59.079 --> 00:25:04.000 a way, but genuinely yoga okay. And I didn't even realize just how 367 00:25:04.079 --> 00:25:07.960 much that would actually be changing the way that my body looks. I didn't 368 00:25:07.960 --> 00:25:14.599 think about it because I just wasn't going for the outcome of changing my body. 369 00:25:14.680 --> 00:25:17.720 Now, listen, does it mean that you have to like not want 370 00:25:17.759 --> 00:25:21.799 to have an outcome? No, But I'm just giving you example that we 371 00:25:22.119 --> 00:25:26.319 make things so freaking hard when we can just go like directly to the end, 372 00:25:26.480 --> 00:25:30.240 like what I mean, the end, just do what feels freaking good. 373 00:25:30.960 --> 00:25:34.359 So if you want to be somebody who takes care of their hair. 374 00:25:36.079 --> 00:25:40.079 Make it work for your schedule. Make it work for your schedule, Make 375 00:25:40.240 --> 00:25:45.880 it work for your life. Find the times, find the days, find 376 00:25:45.960 --> 00:25:48.799 a ritual that works for you. You know what, the other day another 377 00:25:48.839 --> 00:25:53.720 thing. Everything's just aligning because I just decided. But the other day I 378 00:25:53.759 --> 00:25:57.160 have been wanting to do an oil, a hot oil treatment on my hair. 379 00:25:57.880 --> 00:26:02.680 And I always do deep conditioners and they work and this that. But 380 00:26:02.680 --> 00:26:06.039 but in this I guess, uh season of my life, I've been being 381 00:26:06.160 --> 00:26:07.759 well, I guess it's just because uh, spring's on the way and my 382 00:26:08.000 --> 00:26:11.359 natural hair is gonna come out more. Like I'm gonna do my hair more 383 00:26:11.359 --> 00:26:15.000 with that. I want my hair to look beautiful, studying amazing and nourished. 384 00:26:15.119 --> 00:26:18.759 So I'm like, okay, I have to get into this identity of 385 00:26:18.880 --> 00:26:22.480 somebody who takes care of their hair. Like, get with it, girl. 386 00:26:22.200 --> 00:26:25.400 So I was like, well, what is that? Like, what's 387 00:26:25.400 --> 00:26:27.000 that gonna entail? Okay, well, let's go back to deep conditioners. 388 00:26:27.119 --> 00:26:30.799 Is that? But I was starting to think, you know what, it's 389 00:26:30.839 --> 00:26:33.839 not really like working anymore. Like I'm not not working, but like I'm 390 00:26:33.880 --> 00:26:37.799 not really inspired. Whatever, what do I want to do well. Right 391 00:26:37.839 --> 00:26:42.480 now, I feel like the version of me who has beautiful, nurished hair 392 00:26:42.519 --> 00:26:48.200 for spring and summer. She's getting up, she's doing a hot oil treatment. 393 00:26:48.559 --> 00:26:52.200 She is dousing her hair with oil, and she's doing what she needs 394 00:26:52.240 --> 00:26:55.359 to do when it comes to deep conditioners, and she's detangling her hair and 395 00:26:55.400 --> 00:26:59.720 she is doing and she's enjoying the process. Okay, because that's another thing, 396 00:26:59.799 --> 00:27:02.839 is like I usually find when I don't do things and I don't take 397 00:27:02.839 --> 00:27:04.599 care of myself in certain ways, is because I dread the process. So 398 00:27:04.640 --> 00:27:07.759 you have to change the way that you're viewing the process. And what helps 399 00:27:07.799 --> 00:27:11.119 you is like telling yourself that you enjoy the process, but also like doing 400 00:27:11.119 --> 00:27:15.920 something that you actually enjoy. So what I usually do is I do it 401 00:27:15.960 --> 00:27:19.480 on a day that I feel like inclined to do it, but I'll put 402 00:27:19.519 --> 00:27:23.079 on music. Right now. I just got called to do a hot oil 403 00:27:23.079 --> 00:27:26.960 treatment, so I did it. Right now. I'm like, using this 404 00:27:26.000 --> 00:27:29.400 oil. I put it in my hair, and listen when I put that 405 00:27:29.839 --> 00:27:33.279 oil in my hair and I put my hot cap on, Oh my god, 406 00:27:33.359 --> 00:27:37.559 my hair literally has never felt more soft. And it's damn life the 407 00:27:37.599 --> 00:27:41.599 way that my hair just soaked up that oil, but it didn't even go 408 00:27:41.720 --> 00:27:47.880 dry because it was so moisturized. And then that led me into going back 409 00:27:47.920 --> 00:27:51.079 into some of the things that I know are important about my hair and just 410 00:27:51.119 --> 00:27:55.640 getting everything all in alignment, all because I decided to think, hmm, 411 00:27:55.880 --> 00:27:57.000 the version of me who takes care of her hair, what would she be 412 00:27:57.079 --> 00:28:00.480 doing, how would she be acting, what would she be thinking? Moving? 413 00:28:00.799 --> 00:28:03.319 And she wouldn't be having resistance, she wouldn't be thinking it's hard. 414 00:28:03.480 --> 00:28:07.200 She'd be doing whatever it is that works for her, instead of thinking that 415 00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:11.160 that version of you is being a tyrant on herself and hating every part of 416 00:28:11.160 --> 00:28:15.160 the process, because that's probably what you like. That's probably how you're trying 417 00:28:15.160 --> 00:28:18.119 to get yourself to do your self care right now is through the lens of 418 00:28:18.160 --> 00:28:21.240 like, oh, it's like this this hard thing and this whatever, so 419 00:28:21.319 --> 00:28:23.640 like really like enjoy it. Once you do that, it's okay, once 420 00:28:23.680 --> 00:28:27.400 you think about who that is and how they move through the world, which 421 00:28:27.440 --> 00:28:32.759 I would suggest you just choose a belief system of it's easy and she enjoys 422 00:28:32.799 --> 00:28:37.319 it like you enjoy it. The next thing that is the most important thing 423 00:28:37.240 --> 00:28:44.440 is that you're gonna need to create a new neural pathway. AKA, you're 424 00:28:44.440 --> 00:28:48.640 gonna need to completely saturate your mind with this new version of you and how 425 00:28:48.640 --> 00:28:53.799 they think and how they move through the world until it becomes normalized. Okay. 426 00:28:56.039 --> 00:28:59.400 And I was talking about this on my TikTok, like I made a 427 00:28:59.400 --> 00:29:02.880 TikTok about it this because somebody was saying, like they because we've been talking 428 00:29:02.920 --> 00:29:07.559 about like negative beliefs on my TikTok and talking to yourself negatively, I realized 429 00:29:07.599 --> 00:29:08.680 throughout my globe journey, I was like, really, I was obsessed with 430 00:29:08.759 --> 00:29:11.920 myself, but in all the wrong ways, Like I would always think about 431 00:29:11.960 --> 00:29:14.559 myself but it would always be negatively, and how to change that? And 432 00:29:14.599 --> 00:29:18.480 then somebody commented being like, well, I've been trying to do affirmations whatever, 433 00:29:18.519 --> 00:29:21.960 but they're not working, like ahah blah blah blah whatever, like talking 434 00:29:22.039 --> 00:29:27.920 to myself affirmations or is just thoughts that's all they are. So she was 435 00:29:27.920 --> 00:29:30.480 saying, oh, like I've been using affirmations and they don't work. This 436 00:29:30.559 --> 00:29:33.400 that and I've been this through this too, and I still have to like 437 00:29:33.440 --> 00:29:38.039 really saturate my mind. But the reason why you're not changing, you're not 438 00:29:38.119 --> 00:29:42.279 thinking like new thoughts or thinking better is because you're not doing it enough. 439 00:29:42.720 --> 00:29:48.359 You're not thinking favoral be sorry, you're not thinking favoral be enough. I 440 00:29:48.359 --> 00:29:55.160 cannot say that word favoral whatever. You're not thinking in your favor enough. 441 00:29:55.599 --> 00:30:00.279 Okay. And the reason why I said neuropathways because I think we need like 442 00:30:00.599 --> 00:30:03.039 kind. I'm not going to bring it back to science, but we actually 443 00:30:03.039 --> 00:30:04.519 just need to like think about it for a second and how the brain works. 444 00:30:06.119 --> 00:30:11.480 We operate all day long, running on autopilot based off of current beliefs. 445 00:30:11.519 --> 00:30:14.079 That whatever is in your reality right now is based off the beliefs that 446 00:30:14.119 --> 00:30:18.119 you hold that you've been running on. Okay, when you change that, 447 00:30:18.599 --> 00:30:21.319 things will start to change. You will start to change, you will take 448 00:30:21.319 --> 00:30:26.400 different actions. So we run on those thoughts all the time. So if 449 00:30:26.400 --> 00:30:29.960 we're not being conscious, if we're not being aware of the thoughts that we 450 00:30:30.000 --> 00:30:33.240 are thinking, we're just gonna go back to the old thoughts. So bring 451 00:30:33.240 --> 00:30:36.279 it back to her comment being like, oh, I've been doing affirmations but 452 00:30:36.319 --> 00:30:41.359 they haven't been working. Yeah, it's probably because you do let's say a 453 00:30:41.400 --> 00:30:45.519 morning practice where you say like, oh, I'm beautiful, I'm becoming her 454 00:30:45.400 --> 00:30:48.880 because I feel like that's such a like trendy word. I'm becoming her, 455 00:30:48.079 --> 00:30:52.519 I'm the woman of my dreams. I take care of myself, I'm loving 456 00:30:52.559 --> 00:30:55.880 who I'm becoming. This that all great things, and then you close your 457 00:30:55.960 --> 00:30:57.960 journal or you stop thinking about those things, and you go back to your 458 00:30:59.000 --> 00:31:04.960 old belief without even thinking about like you barely even realize it. So this 459 00:31:06.079 --> 00:31:07.960 period of time, and I can't tell you how long it's going to be. 460 00:31:08.680 --> 00:31:12.000 It depends on how much time you want to put into this. It 461 00:31:12.039 --> 00:31:15.039 depends on the type of the beliefs that you are wanting to hold. It 462 00:31:15.039 --> 00:31:18.359 depends on a lot. But all I know is saturating your mind is going 463 00:31:18.400 --> 00:31:22.200 to be so key. How do you learn how to do something or think 464 00:31:22.240 --> 00:31:27.319 a certain way? Repetition all the time. The way that I got out 465 00:31:27.319 --> 00:31:33.880 of my shitty circumstances in my life was repetition. And what I mean by 466 00:31:33.920 --> 00:31:37.960 that is not even a lot to do with actions. It's what I was 467 00:31:38.079 --> 00:31:44.000 thinking. I had to wake up every single day and choose a reality in 468 00:31:44.039 --> 00:31:48.119 which I was able to get out of every single day. When I saw 469 00:31:48.599 --> 00:31:49.920 I don't like this, I'm broke, I have this Da da da da 470 00:31:51.039 --> 00:31:52.599 DA. I told myself, Nope, it's gonna change. Nope, it's 471 00:31:52.599 --> 00:31:55.799 gonna change. Nope, it's going to change. Nope, it's gonna change. 472 00:31:55.799 --> 00:31:57.319 Every single day it's changing. It's changing and changing, it's changing. 473 00:31:57.880 --> 00:32:00.960 I literally had to think, like I had to work on gratitude. That 474 00:32:01.039 --> 00:32:04.720 was just something. I didn't actually have to work on gratitude, but that 475 00:32:04.920 --> 00:32:08.880 was the thing that really helped me, like having gratitude lists, because at 476 00:32:08.880 --> 00:32:10.799 that point in my life, like I had a lot of things that I 477 00:32:10.839 --> 00:32:15.359 really wanted and I didn't actually see it in my reality. So that just 478 00:32:15.440 --> 00:32:16.880 kind of helped me be grounded. You don't have to do that, It's 479 00:32:16.960 --> 00:32:22.359 just I did everything that I possibly could. I listened to podcast episodes that 480 00:32:22.400 --> 00:32:27.799 were positive all the time. I would drive to work positive podcast drive back 481 00:32:27.839 --> 00:32:30.240 to work. Same thing. I remember when I used to work at a 482 00:32:30.400 --> 00:32:35.759 golf club and it was a private golf club, so they would have banquets 483 00:32:35.920 --> 00:32:37.799 and they would have weddings, and I would bartend weddings and I would serve 484 00:32:37.839 --> 00:32:42.559 at weddings all throughout the summer. I did that for a few summers and 485 00:32:42.599 --> 00:32:45.599 in the winter I still worked there as well. I used to sell beers 486 00:32:45.640 --> 00:32:47.279 on the golf course. We used to work at the restaurant. We did 487 00:32:47.279 --> 00:32:51.880 fine dining, we did everything. I was that girl. Okay, I 488 00:32:51.920 --> 00:32:54.640 really did all that. It was fun. Anyways, when I would work 489 00:32:54.720 --> 00:32:59.599 the weddings, after the wedding was done, which would be like three am 490 00:32:59.759 --> 00:33:01.720 four where I am like banquet serving. If anyone knows, then you know 491 00:33:02.559 --> 00:33:07.519 that was a frickin' hustle. We would have to like strip all the tables 492 00:33:07.599 --> 00:33:12.279 off, and usually like half the staff would leave after like everything was really 493 00:33:12.279 --> 00:33:15.319 clear, but there would only be a few people who would like be there 494 00:33:15.319 --> 00:33:19.160 to the end of the night bartending or just like clearing tables. So when 495 00:33:19.200 --> 00:33:22.880 everyone would leave and there was like cutlery to do, or if there was 496 00:33:22.920 --> 00:33:27.400 like again linen off the tables or whatever. Or in the mornings when I 497 00:33:27.400 --> 00:33:30.400 would set up the wedding tables as well, before everyone came in, I 498 00:33:30.440 --> 00:33:36.279 would have headphones in and I'd be listening to positive affirmations. I'd be listening 499 00:33:36.279 --> 00:33:42.319 to podcasts like I saturated my damn mind with positivity with people telling me that 500 00:33:42.359 --> 00:33:45.519 I could have what I wanted, any topic that I wanted to learn. 501 00:33:45.640 --> 00:33:49.640 Like that's literally what I did that's what I still do now. I mean 502 00:33:49.759 --> 00:33:53.079 i'd do that less in terms of learning something or getting out of like like 503 00:33:53.119 --> 00:33:57.279 a negative situation, because for the most part, like I have built a 504 00:33:57.279 --> 00:34:00.640 lot of belief that even if I find myself like going to the negative, 505 00:34:00.680 --> 00:34:04.839 I can just kind of bring myself back out. But when you are trying 506 00:34:04.839 --> 00:34:07.599 to change, you're gonna need to do that saturation because, like I said, 507 00:34:07.800 --> 00:34:12.800 if not, if you think three good thoughts in the morning, you're 508 00:34:12.800 --> 00:34:16.559 gonna go right back. You haven't changed that neural pathway. So what I 509 00:34:16.599 --> 00:34:22.119 was doing when I was saturating my mind was creating a complete new neural pathway 510 00:34:22.559 --> 00:34:29.199 until it became my dominant focus, until it became my dominant thought process. 511 00:34:29.599 --> 00:34:32.760 And then I started acting out of that place a positivity of I can do 512 00:34:32.800 --> 00:34:37.360 this, it's gonna whatever it is, Like I like myself, I love 513 00:34:37.400 --> 00:34:42.039 myself whatever. I started moving in the world differently, and I started attracting 514 00:34:42.199 --> 00:34:45.920 and I started assuming things to be different, and it changed in my life. 515 00:34:45.000 --> 00:34:49.840 That's, in my personal opinion, that's how you create the life that 516 00:34:49.880 --> 00:34:52.760 you want. Though I can give you a few things that I like to 517 00:34:52.800 --> 00:34:57.079 do when I am trying to change my identity and think new thoughts in order 518 00:34:57.119 --> 00:35:00.960 to then become that person. But but obviously it's just going to depend on 519 00:35:01.039 --> 00:35:05.159 who you are. Like I said, how often you want to do these 520 00:35:05.159 --> 00:35:08.639 things? But when I'm trying to change in the mornings, and I do 521 00:35:08.679 --> 00:35:13.480 this, like literally even when I'm not trying to change anything, because I 522 00:35:13.599 --> 00:35:17.119 just like to think really really good positive thoughts about myself. I like to 523 00:35:17.159 --> 00:35:22.760 focus on my goals. I like to dream big. I just really like 524 00:35:22.840 --> 00:35:27.159 to so in the mornings, I always have a journal practice, whether that's 525 00:35:27.199 --> 00:35:31.280 self concept or I'm just like thinking about my goals. But for you, 526 00:35:31.280 --> 00:35:36.840 you could start with I am statements based off of the person that you are 527 00:35:36.880 --> 00:35:40.199 wanting to become or want to become. So you can say like I am 528 00:35:42.079 --> 00:35:45.079 a beautiful girl with natural, beautiful long hair. But if that does not 529 00:35:45.159 --> 00:35:49.920 feel one hundred percent like real for you, you could be like, I 530 00:35:50.000 --> 00:35:55.280 am becoming the type of person who loves self care or takes care of herself, 531 00:35:55.760 --> 00:36:00.920 or I am somebody who really enjoys doing this thing or whatever. But 532 00:36:01.320 --> 00:36:06.679 the reason why I'm saying whatever I'm not really telling you is because like it 533 00:36:06.760 --> 00:36:09.119 has to be authentic to you. It doesn't have to be, but like 534 00:36:09.280 --> 00:36:15.159 it really helps when you're it's not that you have to believe it. You 535 00:36:15.440 --> 00:36:20.119 like you're not really going to, but it's almost like you're using your own 536 00:36:20.199 --> 00:36:23.960 wording, your own verbiage, your own way, and you can think thoughts 537 00:36:24.000 --> 00:36:28.159 as well. You just want to think thoughts that are just favorable to you 538 00:36:28.239 --> 00:36:31.039 at the end of the day. So whatever you need to tell yourself, 539 00:36:31.840 --> 00:36:36.199 okay. And I know this is where we get caught up like, oh 540 00:36:36.280 --> 00:36:42.599 no, well, like if I say that I'm perfect, but I like 541 00:36:42.639 --> 00:36:45.960 look in the mirror that I'm not, Like, that's just I'm being delusional. 542 00:36:45.960 --> 00:36:51.679 I'm gaslighting myself this that no, wah no, start talking to yourself 543 00:36:52.159 --> 00:36:58.480 in a positive light. It is wild that we are so programmed to not 544 00:36:59.320 --> 00:37:02.280 think good about ourselves or to not be like I'm getting what I want in 545 00:37:02.360 --> 00:37:07.159 my life or I am turning into my dream girl. I love my body, 546 00:37:07.199 --> 00:37:10.559 I love my glutes, I love my whatever. So for me, 547 00:37:12.840 --> 00:37:17.119 I'm able to really love myself even as I'm changing, which I just think 548 00:37:17.239 --> 00:37:21.519 makes things a lot easier. And some people don't have to do that, 549 00:37:21.599 --> 00:37:22.440 Like, you don't have to do this if you don't want but I do 550 00:37:22.519 --> 00:37:30.360 think like having the sense of self acceptance on this journey of changing is very 551 00:37:30.400 --> 00:37:34.480 helpful. So I love the way that my natural hair is. I have 552 00:37:34.559 --> 00:37:40.039 beautiful, natural, vibrant hair. Like having thoughts like that will still allow 553 00:37:40.119 --> 00:37:45.480 you to continue to work on yourself or continue to like nourish your hair. 554 00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:47.599 And I think that that's like just the best way, right because it comes 555 00:37:47.639 --> 00:37:52.920 back to yoga, Like I just enjoy yoga. I love it. And 556 00:37:53.159 --> 00:37:59.480 because I think that way and I enjoy it naturally, the byproduct is I'm 557 00:37:59.519 --> 00:38:04.079 going more and my body is changing. So you don't really even have to 558 00:38:04.119 --> 00:38:07.880 directly be like, oh, like I have long hair, I'm getting long 559 00:38:07.880 --> 00:38:13.480 hair. Whatever. You just can even change by simply learning to love yourself. 560 00:38:13.800 --> 00:38:15.760 If you start to accept yourself, you will actually change. But I 561 00:38:15.800 --> 00:38:17.559 think a lot of people are like, oh my god, if I accept 562 00:38:17.559 --> 00:38:21.039 my body, then I'm never going to be able to change, really, 563 00:38:21.719 --> 00:38:25.880 because how's that working out for you? When all you do is hate on 564 00:38:25.960 --> 00:38:30.719 your body and that's not changing, that doesn't seem to be changing. It 565 00:38:30.800 --> 00:38:34.880 changes maybe for a bit, and then you go back. So how about 566 00:38:34.920 --> 00:38:37.639 you try something else? You know what I mean? And I'm saying that, 567 00:38:37.719 --> 00:38:39.400 like I'm calling you out, but I'm calling myself out too, because 568 00:38:39.440 --> 00:38:43.800 it's just like, realistically, we're making it too difficult. Another thing that 569 00:38:43.800 --> 00:38:47.119 I think is helpful when it comes to saturating your mind is having a digital 570 00:38:47.199 --> 00:38:52.440 detox, like really going through what it is that you're watching online or scrolling 571 00:38:52.480 --> 00:38:57.400 online and seeing and feeding into your mind. And if you are going to 572 00:38:57.639 --> 00:39:00.280 consume any content, have it a lot with the person that you want to 573 00:39:00.320 --> 00:39:05.559 be and how they are thinking. Okay, and if you see things online 574 00:39:05.559 --> 00:39:09.239 that are making you think your old thoughts, don't watch it, don't watch 575 00:39:09.239 --> 00:39:14.719 it, don't listen to it. You gotta you really gotta stop. I 576 00:39:14.760 --> 00:39:20.840 think Pinterest for me is helpful when I do wanna look at something because I 577 00:39:20.880 --> 00:39:24.079 am like on my phone a lot. I don't know. Something about Pinterest 578 00:39:24.199 --> 00:39:28.559 just makes me not feel like I'm connected to the world. And when I'm 579 00:39:28.559 --> 00:39:30.599 connected to the world, sometimes I just feel like everything is too real and 580 00:39:30.639 --> 00:39:34.639 it's too much and I need to catch up and I need to like everyone's 581 00:39:34.679 --> 00:39:37.280 whatever. I don't know. There's something about Pinterest, So I like to 582 00:39:37.280 --> 00:39:39.079 go on Pinterest. But if you don't want to go on pinterress like don't 583 00:39:39.960 --> 00:39:45.039 also bring it back to identity work, Having like a Pinterest board and like 584 00:39:45.119 --> 00:39:46.639 having a journal practice and like doing all that kind of stuff can be helpful. 585 00:39:46.719 --> 00:39:51.320 I like to visualize a lot of things, so I have like a 586 00:39:51.920 --> 00:39:54.599 Pinterest board of what my summer is going to like look like, which I'm 587 00:39:54.599 --> 00:39:58.199 going to talk about actually with one of the questions you guys had asked me. 588 00:39:58.559 --> 00:40:02.480 Anyways, having a social detoks and this is people, places, and 589 00:40:02.480 --> 00:40:07.039 things in real life or online is definitely helpful when it comes to saturating your 590 00:40:07.039 --> 00:40:10.800 mind until you really create this new neural pathway and you can move through life 591 00:40:10.880 --> 00:40:15.760 with this identity of I'm beautiful, I'm studying, I'm gorgeous, I'm confident, 592 00:40:15.800 --> 00:40:19.400 I'm whatever. Like I can go out now in the night life and 593 00:40:19.440 --> 00:40:22.440 I look, I look at myself story completely different than the way that I 594 00:40:22.559 --> 00:40:27.840 used to look at myself. Because I did this work. I don't go 595 00:40:27.880 --> 00:40:29.599 through life and be like, oh my god, I'm not the chosen one. 596 00:40:29.639 --> 00:40:30.199 I'm not the chosen one. Oh my god, I'm not pretty. 597 00:40:30.199 --> 00:40:34.480 Im this d d DA. I don't even have those beliefs because they don't 598 00:40:34.480 --> 00:40:38.880 matter, like our thoughts same thing because I just I choose for them to 599 00:40:39.079 --> 00:40:45.239 not matter. Like I go out and I choose that looks don't like really 600 00:40:45.559 --> 00:40:49.400 matter, you know, like, yes, I get it, that looks 601 00:40:49.440 --> 00:40:52.079 madder and I get dressed obviously and I like it, but like, I'm 602 00:40:52.119 --> 00:40:57.159 not using that as my focus. So you just decide, you decide what 603 00:40:57.559 --> 00:41:00.000 you want to be a focus in your life. Like, genuinely, I 604 00:41:00.039 --> 00:41:05.199 think I saw this quote on Pinterest to somebody was like, it's not embarrassing 605 00:41:05.559 --> 00:41:08.360 if you just decide it's not embarrassing, Like it's I know it's harder said 606 00:41:08.400 --> 00:41:15.199 than done, but it's genuinely not embarrassing unless you decide so. Guided meditations 607 00:41:15.199 --> 00:41:16.719 can be really helpful in the times that you're not feeling like you're getting what 608 00:41:16.719 --> 00:41:20.920 you want, or you feel crappy about yourself, you're just not feeling good. 609 00:41:22.079 --> 00:41:25.079 Mindful movement has really good ones sleep affirmations. If that doesn't keep you 610 00:41:25.159 --> 00:41:29.559 up at night, do whatever you need to do. You know exactly what 611 00:41:29.599 --> 00:41:30.519 you need to do. You know when you're not feeling good, and you 612 00:41:30.559 --> 00:41:34.079 know when you're not thinking favorable thoughts, and you need to be the one 613 00:41:34.079 --> 00:41:37.519 to catch yourself and be like absolutely not, and don't think it's not working 614 00:41:37.599 --> 00:41:40.719 when you think, oh my god, but I'm thinking crappy about myself again, 615 00:41:40.800 --> 00:41:44.639 or I'm not showing up for myself or I'm not whatever, It's like, 616 00:41:44.679 --> 00:41:47.679 okay, no problem. What's going on in our minds? What do 617 00:41:47.719 --> 00:41:51.400 we need to change, what do we need to change, and how do 618 00:41:51.400 --> 00:41:54.440 we need to think? And this is not about berating yourself. It's not 619 00:41:54.480 --> 00:42:00.119 about like you know, none of that. Just be loving to yourself now. 620 00:42:00.800 --> 00:42:06.960 Step three is to act out of healthy discipline, aka acting as if 621 00:42:07.079 --> 00:42:10.840 the person you know that you're wanting to be, like the girl who does 622 00:42:10.880 --> 00:42:15.360 her hot oil treatments into that now. I kind of want to make a 623 00:42:15.400 --> 00:42:19.280 disclaimer here because I go back and forth with talking about action, because what 624 00:42:19.320 --> 00:42:22.239 I have learned in my life is genuinely when you start to identify as somebody, 625 00:42:22.280 --> 00:42:27.199 who is that bitch who cares about herself, who enjoys it, who 626 00:42:27.360 --> 00:42:30.679 X, Y and Z, I promise you you do not need to take 627 00:42:30.679 --> 00:42:34.679 a lot of action. You do not need to take a lot of action. 628 00:42:34.800 --> 00:42:37.920 You know why, because it's natural you will naturally just want to get 629 00:42:38.000 --> 00:42:40.639 up and go. Bringing it back to yoga, like I didn't even realize 630 00:42:40.639 --> 00:42:44.559 how many times I was going. I was just going because I wanted to 631 00:42:44.599 --> 00:42:47.559 go. Now, that is action, but it's not the action that we 632 00:42:47.639 --> 00:42:51.960 think in terms of like, oh, I have to forcefully take this action 633 00:42:52.159 --> 00:42:54.559 and I have to discipline myself and I have to whatever. How many times 634 00:42:55.119 --> 00:42:59.199 does that not work for us? Really? A lot of the times it's 635 00:42:59.199 --> 00:43:02.960 because we're just not id identifying. It doesn't mean that you I mean, 636 00:43:04.079 --> 00:43:07.199 you can create a whole reality. I guess like where you like believe you 637 00:43:07.199 --> 00:43:09.760 don't have to take any action, But I like, it's fine for me 638 00:43:09.800 --> 00:43:13.559 to think that I have to take some action. It's more just inspired and 639 00:43:13.639 --> 00:43:21.920 in lined action. And now you can do this like planning out your week 640 00:43:22.000 --> 00:43:23.800 or your schedule, like I could tell you, you know, okay, 641 00:43:24.159 --> 00:43:28.159 identify as a person. Think about that person, like have your saturate, 642 00:43:28.239 --> 00:43:30.760 Like you're saturating your mind. You're thinking good thoughts about yourself. And now 643 00:43:30.039 --> 00:43:32.800 every week you're gonna plan like what you're doing for your go up. You 644 00:43:32.840 --> 00:43:38.239 can do that. I don't need to do that because the more I just 645 00:43:38.320 --> 00:43:45.239 identify as the person by thinking good thoughts about myself and life and focusing on 646 00:43:45.280 --> 00:43:49.920 my goals and focusing on what makes me happy and you know, redirecting my 647 00:43:49.960 --> 00:43:52.559 thoughts when it wants to go to the old self concept and the shitty beliefs 648 00:43:52.599 --> 00:43:55.760 about life and everything and how I suck at this and that. Once, 649 00:43:55.800 --> 00:43:59.400 I like, can you know, bring myself back, which is a lot 650 00:43:59.440 --> 00:44:02.119 of bringing my self back. But when I do that, I don't have 651 00:44:02.239 --> 00:44:06.719 to plan out when I'm gonna do my hair. I just do it. 652 00:44:06.960 --> 00:44:08.800 I don't have to, like for like, I don't have to write in 653 00:44:08.840 --> 00:44:14.079 my planner like Jim, like all of these things. It's just kind of 654 00:44:14.159 --> 00:44:19.039 natural, right, So it depends on where you're at. If planning helps 655 00:44:19.079 --> 00:44:21.920 you, that's fine. Like I love a good planner, Like I have 656 00:44:21.960 --> 00:44:24.519 a planner for some certain things when it comes to like working stuff. But 657 00:44:25.519 --> 00:44:29.039 I think just over time, when you really get to know yourself and you 658 00:44:29.119 --> 00:44:31.039 really like curate a life that feels good to you, you will find you 659 00:44:31.079 --> 00:44:37.800 don't really have to It's the same thing as like you don't have to put 660 00:44:37.840 --> 00:44:42.559 in your journal and to brush your teeth, like you really don't. You 661 00:44:42.599 --> 00:44:45.760 don't really put in I mean sometimes you do, but you don't really have 662 00:44:45.840 --> 00:44:49.760 to put in in your schedule, like when you're gonna eat and I mean, 663 00:44:49.880 --> 00:44:52.400 like, yeah, maybe you put in like sometimes when you're having launching 664 00:44:52.400 --> 00:44:54.559 this that, but I mean, like you know, you don't have to 665 00:44:54.559 --> 00:44:59.000 remind yourself to eat every single day, like I mean sometimes you do, 666 00:44:59.119 --> 00:45:00.320 and that's fine, right, Like, if you're trying to create a habit, 667 00:45:00.840 --> 00:45:04.079 you can do that. If you're trying to create a habit, you 668 00:45:04.119 --> 00:45:08.760 can do that. But just understand whether you're taking action and you're planning from 669 00:45:08.800 --> 00:45:16.280 a place of self discipline that is really hard in terms of like the energy 670 00:45:16.280 --> 00:45:22.320 you put towards it or towards yourself or self love. Healthy discipline there is 671 00:45:22.519 --> 00:45:25.199 and this is why, this is why it's also important. And like the 672 00:45:25.199 --> 00:45:29.719 way that you speak to yourself is important because you will see you'll be motivated 673 00:45:29.760 --> 00:45:37.239 or not trust me if you let's say, let's let let's say we're witnessing 674 00:45:37.480 --> 00:45:45.360 a dad speak to his child about getting like a certain score when it comes 675 00:45:45.400 --> 00:45:49.280 to playing soccer. Okay, like he's practicing a lot and he's playing games. 676 00:45:49.880 --> 00:45:52.519 The dad that is like, let's say they lost the game, but 677 00:45:52.679 --> 00:45:59.440 he like his son got maybe like seven out of ten of the goals that 678 00:45:59.480 --> 00:46:01.320 he wants to get or something I don't know, whatever, like he got 679 00:46:01.360 --> 00:46:06.440 like seven, like seven out of ten on the scale of scores or whatever. 680 00:46:07.800 --> 00:46:09.599 He could look at his son and be like, okay, buddy, 681 00:46:09.719 --> 00:46:14.559 like no problem, Like we you know, we can acknowledge that. Okay, 682 00:46:14.719 --> 00:46:19.079 seven out of ten, Like we're getting there if we just tweak these 683 00:46:19.159 --> 00:46:22.679 three things A, B and C over here, like maybe there wasn't enough 684 00:46:22.760 --> 00:46:25.760 energy over here, or maybe we missed that over there. No problem. 685 00:46:25.760 --> 00:46:31.280 We're gonna practice a few times, no problem if we If he spoke to 686 00:46:31.360 --> 00:46:35.559 his son like that, do you not think that that son would be a 687 00:46:35.599 --> 00:46:39.039 little bit it's not even about being so motivated, but would feel a little 688 00:46:39.079 --> 00:46:45.480 bit more confident in his ability to continue to go and then win the game 689 00:46:45.559 --> 00:46:51.840 the next time around and show up for practice versus the dad who's like, 690 00:46:52.360 --> 00:46:54.679 you got seven out of ten. That's so crappy. You should have done 691 00:46:54.679 --> 00:46:58.519 it. You should have hit that goal. By now, you're gonna take 692 00:46:58.719 --> 00:47:01.440 so long to get to where you need to go. You aren't doing good. 693 00:47:01.679 --> 00:47:04.880 You need to now work harder. You need to X, Y and 694 00:47:05.039 --> 00:47:08.199 Z. That kid is gonna feel defeated now. That kid will probably do 695 00:47:08.320 --> 00:47:14.119 it why because Dad's telling him and I need to be good at what I 696 00:47:14.199 --> 00:47:15.320 do and I have to show up. I have a job, I have 697 00:47:15.400 --> 00:47:20.440 to do this. But is he really gonna be motivated to do it? 698 00:47:20.480 --> 00:47:22.000 Is he really gonna like it? And he's really gonna think good thoughts about 699 00:47:22.079 --> 00:47:28.239 himself? And don't you think that that mindset over time is actually gonna be 700 00:47:28.639 --> 00:47:31.519 a like it's actually gonna be a limiting mindset. Like he's actually gonna suckond 701 00:47:31.559 --> 00:47:35.760 guess himself a lot when he goes into the game, he's gonna be more 702 00:47:35.800 --> 00:47:37.920 stressed and be like, fuck, I better, I better get ten out 703 00:47:37.920 --> 00:47:43.480 of ten because if I don't, then look which then because he's stressing, 704 00:47:44.599 --> 00:47:47.400 he's gonna choke, He's gonna whatever. And that tends to happen. That 705 00:47:47.440 --> 00:47:51.480 tends to happen. It's the mental game that you have. And I want 706 00:47:51.519 --> 00:47:54.199 you, guys to see how you do the same thing with yourself. I've 707 00:47:54.199 --> 00:47:58.679 done it with myself. I talk about it in the book. I talk 708 00:47:58.719 --> 00:48:02.639 about where I got my inner critic from many places. I learned it from 709 00:48:02.639 --> 00:48:06.320 my dad as well. But I don't want to always just like throw it 710 00:48:06.320 --> 00:48:07.639 on my dad, like you know, there's things that happen in life, 711 00:48:07.639 --> 00:48:12.719 and naturally, I think we all have inner critics in some level. But 712 00:48:13.239 --> 00:48:17.320 it's just to see that realistically all the habits and the things that I tried 713 00:48:17.360 --> 00:48:22.400 to do based out of that inner critic and didn't get me anywhere. I 714 00:48:22.480 --> 00:48:24.719 hated everything all the time. The moment that I could, I would stop. 715 00:48:25.039 --> 00:48:29.440 And the thing that happens with us, Now, Okay, we don't 716 00:48:29.440 --> 00:48:31.960 have dad, right, we don't actually have maybe like a physical person or 717 00:48:32.039 --> 00:48:36.239 human telling us what to do. The only thing that we have is our 718 00:48:36.239 --> 00:48:39.840 inner critics in our heads. So the moments for a second that our inner 719 00:48:39.880 --> 00:48:44.559 critics don't come online because we have a lot of power now we just kind 720 00:48:44.599 --> 00:48:47.360 of like ignore it and then we'll go do some other behavior that's like completely 721 00:48:47.440 --> 00:48:52.079 self sabotaging. So now we have these like polar opposites. We have like 722 00:48:52.280 --> 00:48:53.480 we have to do it all or nothing, and we have to go hard 723 00:48:53.480 --> 00:48:58.079 and we have to hit ten out of ten, and because it's so stressful 724 00:48:58.199 --> 00:49:00.639 and so whatever, then we and we crash and then we're like, oh 725 00:49:00.679 --> 00:49:04.280 my god. Then we're all of a sudden, we're on the other side 726 00:49:04.280 --> 00:49:07.440 here, and our child comes in and because they're overwhelmed and they're scared and 727 00:49:07.440 --> 00:49:12.239 they're nervous and they're freaking traumatized, they go to candy and they binge eat. 728 00:49:12.599 --> 00:49:14.920 That's what we do, back and forth, back and forth, back 729 00:49:14.920 --> 00:49:17.199 and forth all day. And then on top of that, you just dread 730 00:49:17.679 --> 00:49:22.199 going back to working out and taking care of yourself because you feel like it's 731 00:49:22.199 --> 00:49:28.480 the chore, which then creates a cycle again, you see what I mean. 732 00:49:29.599 --> 00:49:36.159 So we really do need to be aware of who is coming online when 733 00:49:36.199 --> 00:49:40.039 we are trying to take action and plant our days. If that's what we're 734 00:49:40.039 --> 00:49:43.559 going to be doing, is it coming from a place of self love? 735 00:49:44.559 --> 00:49:47.519 And coming back to identity work is just like who do I have to be? 736 00:49:49.239 --> 00:49:52.559 Not even have, but who do I have to be? And how 737 00:49:52.559 --> 00:49:55.559 would I be thinking if I really enjoyed this but enjoyed it for me? 738 00:49:57.199 --> 00:50:00.519 Okay, and this takes some like self expiration. I think, like what 739 00:50:00.880 --> 00:50:04.599 lights you up? What makes you feel good? But I think the thing 740 00:50:04.639 --> 00:50:07.000 that we struggle again, I've kind of already said this, but we're just 741 00:50:07.239 --> 00:50:12.840 so afraid to just own what it is that we want in our lives. 742 00:50:13.239 --> 00:50:17.360 Enough freaking enough, which actually brings me into a question that one of you 743 00:50:17.360 --> 00:50:21.320 guys had asked me because I asked you guys, what you guys need advice 744 00:50:21.360 --> 00:50:22.840 on when it comes to glowing up and stuff, and there was a lot 745 00:50:23.159 --> 00:50:25.679 a lot of you guys wanted me to talk about mindset, So like this 746 00:50:25.719 --> 00:50:30.800 is the episode, and I think obviously episodes mindset work is really good. 747 00:50:30.880 --> 00:50:37.760 But someone said how to glow up as a woman, Like she just wanted 748 00:50:37.800 --> 00:50:39.400 tips on like how to cause it's kind of and it's yeah, I guess 749 00:50:39.440 --> 00:50:42.760 it's different, And this is what I was thinking, like, Okay, 750 00:50:42.800 --> 00:50:45.159 well, you know, like I could give you different tips of like what 751 00:50:45.280 --> 00:50:50.960 women do. I guess, which I kind of will. But I think 752 00:50:51.039 --> 00:50:55.480 like the first and foremost is like owning how you want to look, how 753 00:50:55.480 --> 00:51:00.639 you want to move through the world, what you want in your life, 754 00:51:00.719 --> 00:51:02.119 how you want to look like I already said that, but how you want 755 00:51:02.119 --> 00:51:08.280 to everything? What do you want? I think a woman who's like really 756 00:51:08.320 --> 00:51:14.920 like actually grown, she decides. And I think when I was younger, 757 00:51:15.760 --> 00:51:20.360 which is normal, it's fine, but when I was younger, I would 758 00:51:20.840 --> 00:51:24.639 be like, okay, like who do I have to Like I would let 759 00:51:24.679 --> 00:51:29.800 somebody else tell me how to do things, or how to run things, 760 00:51:30.079 --> 00:51:32.039 or how to do my wellness routines, or what make up looks that I 761 00:51:32.079 --> 00:51:35.360 need to do, or how I need to act or how I need to 762 00:51:35.440 --> 00:51:39.039 sound, or you know, like you have to like how you have to 763 00:51:39.079 --> 00:51:44.119 be like maintenance, like your hair needs a little a certain way you have 764 00:51:44.159 --> 00:51:47.199 to do like beauty things this way, this, that, and obviously like 765 00:51:49.119 --> 00:51:55.960 we all try different things, but understand that if things aren't feeling good for 766 00:51:57.039 --> 00:52:02.440 you and you're not really vibing, sorry vibing vibing, don't like think that 767 00:52:02.519 --> 00:52:07.239 you're doing things wrong just because you don't enjoy it. Don't get mad at 768 00:52:07.239 --> 00:52:12.119 yourself because you're not able to sustain it. Don't don't do it. A 769 00:52:12.159 --> 00:52:15.639 lot of the times, it's genuinely because we are forcing ourselves to do things 770 00:52:15.639 --> 00:52:20.800 that we don't actually even want to do. And I know it can be 771 00:52:20.880 --> 00:52:22.840 hard, because you know, you could be like, oh, well, 772 00:52:22.880 --> 00:52:28.360 I don't like anything, I don't like anything, but I think sometimes then 773 00:52:28.400 --> 00:52:31.679 that comes back to your mindset of like, well what are you thinking about 774 00:52:31.679 --> 00:52:36.599 these things? And like how hard they have to be? Because like I 775 00:52:36.719 --> 00:52:38.840 used to not like weightlifting, but like I genuinely like I don't. I 776 00:52:38.840 --> 00:52:44.360 don't hate it anymore because I have changed the way that I viewed weightlifting, 777 00:52:44.880 --> 00:52:49.199 and it just is easy for me, Like taking care of myself is easy 778 00:52:49.239 --> 00:52:52.159 for me, showing up for myself and doing leg days like it's it's no 779 00:52:52.280 --> 00:52:57.159 problem. Like obviously I look at it like it's a little bit harder than 780 00:52:57.199 --> 00:53:00.079 some days. But I used to look at leg day as the hardest thing 781 00:53:00.079 --> 00:53:04.960 in the whole entire world, which made it harder for me. But now 782 00:53:05.480 --> 00:53:08.760 the mindset that I have is like days are easy. It's just I go 783 00:53:08.840 --> 00:53:13.440 in, I do my compound moves. I can do them. I'm strong 784 00:53:13.559 --> 00:53:15.199 enough, I get good at it every single time. I know exactly what 785 00:53:15.239 --> 00:53:20.320 I'm doing and I'm out. That's it, and it starts to not become 786 00:53:20.480 --> 00:53:22.239 so hard. So it's just kind of like the way that you view it. 787 00:53:22.320 --> 00:53:25.039 But bringing it back to like how to glow up as a woman, 788 00:53:25.559 --> 00:53:30.880 I think one so obviously just really owning what it is like that you want 789 00:53:30.880 --> 00:53:34.679 in your life, how you want to live your freaking life, what you 790 00:53:34.679 --> 00:53:36.400 want to do, what you don't want to do, the beauty that you 791 00:53:36.480 --> 00:53:37.559 want to do, the beauty that you don't want to do. The self 792 00:53:37.559 --> 00:53:39.880 care that you're interested in self care, that's like I don't need to do 793 00:53:39.880 --> 00:53:45.159 that, like whatever. But I do think something that did help me was 794 00:53:45.400 --> 00:53:51.559 cycle sinking. And the reason why I'm saying that is because it allowed me 795 00:53:51.960 --> 00:53:57.320 to kind of just get in touch with my body and get in touch with 796 00:53:57.360 --> 00:54:01.159 the season of life that I'm moving through every month. And you might be 797 00:54:01.199 --> 00:54:06.800 like seasonal life. Every month, we go through many different phases unless you're 798 00:54:06.840 --> 00:54:09.639 on hormonal birth control. But sometimes I really do think that some girls go 799 00:54:09.760 --> 00:54:14.760 through these phases and like can see the subtle shifts within them even if they're 800 00:54:14.760 --> 00:54:17.639 on some birth controls. It depends a lot of birth controls are different, 801 00:54:17.679 --> 00:54:21.360 so you'd have to do your research. But I'm not on birth control. 802 00:54:22.320 --> 00:54:34.639 I there's something about knowing myself on a more like a nature standpoint that makes 803 00:54:34.679 --> 00:54:39.000 me feel like a woman. I think it's just because like I know myself, 804 00:54:39.039 --> 00:54:45.679 like I know when I'm about to get my period, and so when 805 00:54:45.719 --> 00:54:47.239 I know that, like I know my moods a little bit. Sometimes not 806 00:54:47.280 --> 00:54:51.119 always, but sometimes if my mood's a little bit off, it's like no 807 00:54:51.280 --> 00:54:55.440 problem. I set myself love and compassion. I don't freak out, I 808 00:54:55.440 --> 00:54:59.679 don't stress about it, and I learn how to adapt. I learn how 809 00:54:59.719 --> 00:55:02.599 to s port myself through that phase. And I feel like I'm a woman 810 00:55:02.639 --> 00:55:07.480 when I do that. And I think another thing that helps with feeling like 811 00:55:07.480 --> 00:55:13.400 you're glowed up like as a woman is to stop putting other people on pedestals. 812 00:55:13.400 --> 00:55:15.519 And I know it can be hard because sometimes we look up to people 813 00:55:15.880 --> 00:55:22.239 and we get motivated and inspired by them. But sometimes I would go on 814 00:55:22.320 --> 00:55:27.360 Pinterest and look at girls who are like quote unquote the goddess glow up girls 815 00:55:27.360 --> 00:55:30.559 like the girls who just like have it all, and I'd look at myself 816 00:55:30.639 --> 00:55:34.159 like not that. You got to stop looking at yourself like you have to 817 00:55:34.159 --> 00:55:37.840 decide, like right now you're glowed up, bringing it back to who you're 818 00:55:37.840 --> 00:55:43.679 probably not identifying as right now when we first started this podcast episode. Right 819 00:55:43.719 --> 00:55:46.960 now you need to decide you're just like them, You're just like them. 820 00:55:47.199 --> 00:55:52.400 This is just as much your arena than it is for them, or that 821 00:55:52.519 --> 00:55:58.159 it is for them. I should say, you are meant to be here 822 00:55:58.199 --> 00:56:01.400 standing with all of us, Okay, like you matter like you are here. 823 00:56:01.480 --> 00:56:05.480 You have to you have to look at yourself like that. And I 824 00:56:05.519 --> 00:56:07.239 guess The last thing I'll say about this is, I just think in my 825 00:56:07.320 --> 00:56:10.880 mind, being grown, you don't even have to be a woman. But 826 00:56:12.639 --> 00:56:20.519 being grown means not forcing things that are clearly just not for you. And 827 00:56:20.559 --> 00:56:22.400 we force a lot of things because we don't accept our natural selves. And 828 00:56:22.440 --> 00:56:27.199 I don't actually mean natural, but I just mean like who we authentically are. 829 00:56:27.679 --> 00:56:31.440 And I'll give you an example. What makes me feel sexy as a 830 00:56:31.440 --> 00:56:35.840 woman is gonna be different than what makes you feel sexy as a woman, 831 00:56:36.639 --> 00:56:40.960 and society might, let's say, depending on the algorithm or depending on like, 832 00:56:42.039 --> 00:56:45.679 I don't know, whatever you've been taught. Maybe you've been taught exactly 833 00:56:45.679 --> 00:56:47.199 what you are, and that's fine, but you know, I think I've 834 00:56:47.239 --> 00:56:52.480 grown up in a life where I've been told certain things about how you need 835 00:56:52.519 --> 00:56:57.519 to look in order to like have a sex appeal, or what music to 836 00:56:57.559 --> 00:57:02.840 be listening to or whatever to make you feel a certain way. Certain music 837 00:57:04.000 --> 00:57:12.920 makes me feel sexy. Afro beats, okay, afrobeat music music that is 838 00:57:13.960 --> 00:57:15.599 just has a lot of rhythm. I mean, lots of music has rhythm, 839 00:57:15.719 --> 00:57:21.960 but afrobeats naturally, like, without even trying, it just makes me 840 00:57:22.000 --> 00:57:24.840 feel really sexy. It just makes me feel like me, I can dance, 841 00:57:24.880 --> 00:57:28.519 I can move to that type of music. It's just like naturally like 842 00:57:28.559 --> 00:57:35.400 what my body wants to do. Versus let's say, listen to Tate McRae. 843 00:57:35.679 --> 00:57:37.880 She has like you could put her in the category of like she kind 844 00:57:37.880 --> 00:57:42.239 of has like more. She doesn't have really sexy music, I guess to 845 00:57:42.320 --> 00:57:44.880 each of the own, but she has some music that's kind of like out 846 00:57:44.920 --> 00:57:49.559 there, like very like pop girl vibes that technically like yeah, it's supposed 847 00:57:49.559 --> 00:57:52.559 to make you feel like a girl or even like sexy this that, but 848 00:57:52.719 --> 00:57:57.079 that music I love it. I love Tate. I'm gonna see her in 849 00:57:57.119 --> 00:58:01.039 Calgary this summer. I'm gonna see her, but I don't need to for 850 00:58:01.239 --> 00:58:05.480 like, if I don't feel sexy like dancing and moving to that, I 851 00:58:05.519 --> 00:58:09.280 will still dance to her. But just because like I don't feel sexy like 852 00:58:09.320 --> 00:58:12.599 listening to her music doesn't mean that I'm not sexy. It just means like 853 00:58:12.639 --> 00:58:15.480 that's just not my thing and I'm not going to force that. And I 854 00:58:15.519 --> 00:58:17.400 just think that I've done that throughout my life certain times, like even when 855 00:58:17.400 --> 00:58:22.159 it comes to dresses, I'm not really usually like a dress person. When 856 00:58:22.199 --> 00:58:24.800 I go out with my friends. Maybe I will be this summer. I 857 00:58:24.800 --> 00:58:30.840 don't know. Things change all the time. But for many years I would 858 00:58:30.000 --> 00:58:37.079 force myself to like wearing dresses. I only thought that I was sexy if 859 00:58:37.119 --> 00:58:43.800 I were a dress. No, bitch, no, you look sexy whenever 860 00:58:43.840 --> 00:58:46.039 you decide, you look sexy in. And what I feel comfortable and sexy 861 00:58:46.079 --> 00:58:50.719 in is right now in my current life, I love to wear a good 862 00:58:50.719 --> 00:58:52.480 cargo pant and in like a nice little topic. I know what makes me 863 00:58:52.519 --> 00:58:55.679 look I know, okay, I know what feels good to me and what 864 00:58:55.760 --> 00:58:59.519 makes me feel good to me, sorry, what makes me feel good, 865 00:58:59.840 --> 00:59:05.280 makes me feel sexy, what makes me like feel good in terms of my 866 00:59:05.400 --> 00:59:09.599 thoughts, just makes me feel like a woman. So coming back to how 867 00:59:09.599 --> 00:59:13.920 you glow up as a woman, you decide, I do think that like 868 00:59:14.000 --> 00:59:15.920 knowing your cycle can be helpful. I talked about the law of rhythm in 869 00:59:16.000 --> 00:59:21.239 terms of living life kind of cyclically last week, so maybe you can get 870 00:59:21.320 --> 00:59:27.320 some more insight on that. And someone else asked, or they didn't, 871 00:59:27.920 --> 00:59:30.760 I don't know if this is a question, but they said, I often 872 00:59:30.840 --> 00:59:36.320 ask myself why do I even glow up? It's like nothing will change anyways. 873 00:59:35.679 --> 00:59:40.159 What's your answer? A sis? So this is her her like internal 874 00:59:40.199 --> 00:59:45.119 dialogue. Nothing's gonna change anyways, So why do I even try? Like 875 00:59:45.320 --> 00:59:51.679 nothing's gonna change? So this is my answer. You're right, nothing's gonna 876 00:59:51.719 --> 00:59:58.639 change, So why try? You need to understand this, and like I 877 00:59:58.679 --> 01:00:00.639 love you. I'm not like trying to like yeah or anything like this. 878 01:00:00.719 --> 01:00:07.440 I'm just being passionate. You need to understand that the reason why nothing will 879 01:00:07.480 --> 01:00:09.840 change in your life, the reason why your glow up will not happen, 880 01:00:10.480 --> 01:00:16.199 is because of that belief. That's a belief nothing will ever change. So 881 01:00:16.239 --> 01:00:22.679 why even try? Yeah, if you have that belief of nothing will change 882 01:00:22.719 --> 01:00:27.360 no matter what you do, of course nothing will change. So this is 883 01:00:27.400 --> 01:00:30.280 what I'm saying. You can't have that thought. You can't have that belief 884 01:00:30.320 --> 01:00:36.960 system. You have to know and believe that if you try, things will 885 01:00:37.039 --> 01:00:42.320 change. That's really what it is. If you try and move and put 886 01:00:42.320 --> 01:00:45.559 your effort in and love yourself, things will change. Things will change eventually. 887 01:00:46.360 --> 01:00:52.400 Now you might have to be somebody who picks up a belief of I 888 01:00:52.440 --> 01:00:58.400 am learning how to believe that. I am somebody who can believe something such 889 01:00:58.440 --> 01:01:02.199 as if I try something, it will change my life. Like literally, 890 01:01:02.199 --> 01:01:07.360 you have to use like that belief, like you have to really go down 891 01:01:07.480 --> 01:01:10.840 to the depths of the point of the belief that you're holding and change that. 892 01:01:12.000 --> 01:01:15.840 Coming back to like, you know, maybe I am statements might not 893 01:01:15.199 --> 01:01:19.679 work for you. I am beautiful, I have beautiful hair, I have 894 01:01:19.719 --> 01:01:22.239 beautiful skin, I have beautiful teeth. If you can't do that because you 895 01:01:22.239 --> 01:01:27.519 can't accept yourself, you could use a bridging affirmation of I am beginning to 896 01:01:27.639 --> 01:01:32.360 believe that I have beautiful skin or beautiful hair, or I am becoming that 897 01:01:32.559 --> 01:01:37.960 person who knows how to love herself. Every day, I am trying every 898 01:01:37.000 --> 01:01:40.320 day. I am showing up for myself every day. I am X Y 899 01:01:40.360 --> 01:01:45.559 and Z. Okay, you're inching up, You're trying, you're deciding that 900 01:01:45.760 --> 01:01:51.880 every day I am becoming somebody who's a little bit more optimistic than she was 901 01:01:52.039 --> 01:01:58.360 yesterday. Why because what's the alternative? What is the alternative for you to 902 01:01:58.400 --> 01:02:01.920 continue to think bad thoughts? No, you have to be so sick of 903 01:02:01.960 --> 01:02:07.079 your old self concept. You have to be so aware of how these thoughts 904 01:02:07.079 --> 01:02:09.639 are not serving you in any way. You got to be sick of it. 905 01:02:10.159 --> 01:02:13.719 And I think something that helps me in the moment when I go back 906 01:02:13.719 --> 01:02:16.960 to that negative belief is to remind myself in the moment when I have unfavorable 907 01:02:17.000 --> 01:02:22.280 thoughts, that's not my truth. That's not my nature. That's not your 908 01:02:22.280 --> 01:02:27.400 truth. That's not your nature. It's old beliefs. It is. You 909 01:02:27.440 --> 01:02:32.760 didn't come here to think not in your favor. You did not come to 910 01:02:34.039 --> 01:02:38.639 this earth to live a shitty life. You just didn't. You had people, 911 01:02:38.719 --> 01:02:43.320 places, and things in your life play out in your life. Okay, 912 01:02:43.719 --> 01:02:45.199 we don't have to ignore it. It happened, It is what it 913 01:02:45.239 --> 01:02:50.559 is. It might still be happening. But the way you look at those 914 01:02:50.599 --> 01:02:55.679 things will dictate what happens in your future. Why am I saying that because 915 01:02:55.840 --> 01:03:00.000 I think a lot of people can agree. There's probably been a lot of 916 01:03:00.000 --> 01:03:02.639 things that you actually have changed in your life if you think about it, 917 01:03:02.960 --> 01:03:07.159 and things did go a little bit differently depending on how you showed up. 918 01:03:07.199 --> 01:03:10.880 You don't have to be flawless. But also in my own life, did 919 01:03:10.920 --> 01:03:17.760 I change and get things in my life from stress and limiting beliefs? Yeah, 920 01:03:19.159 --> 01:03:22.599 like some things changed, but they didn't fully conform, they didn't fully 921 01:03:22.679 --> 01:03:29.159 changed. I still really struggled through them, Like I still lost weight sometimes 922 01:03:29.320 --> 01:03:32.239 or I still grew some muscle, but I hated myself in the process, 923 01:03:34.280 --> 01:03:38.000 and I reverted back anyways. So I'm not saying that you have to be 924 01:03:38.119 --> 01:03:40.519 perfect in order to change your life if you don't. Right, there's a 925 01:03:40.519 --> 01:03:45.239 lot of people who make a lot of money doing bad things, But wouldn't 926 01:03:45.280 --> 01:03:49.119 you want to be happy doing it. Wouldn't you want to stop having so 927 01:03:49.199 --> 01:03:52.239 much resistance. You can create a life where that doesn't have to be a 928 01:03:52.280 --> 01:03:55.840 thing, but it requires you to really do that work. And I really 929 01:03:55.880 --> 01:04:01.639 want this season of your life to be just that saturating, focusing every single 930 01:04:01.719 --> 01:04:06.840 day until it becomes strengthened. That's what I'm doing. That's what I continue 931 01:04:06.880 --> 01:04:11.960 to do, and when I get to something that's normalized in my life up 932 01:04:12.079 --> 01:04:15.559 level. And I guess this is for people who have a lot of learning 933 01:04:15.599 --> 01:04:19.119 beliefs around getting what they want in your life their life, you know, 934 01:04:19.440 --> 01:04:24.199 doing those bridging techniques and those affirmations and kind of being like okay, like 935 01:04:24.280 --> 01:04:27.880 no worries, like things are changing slowly, things will change, you know, 936 01:04:28.400 --> 01:04:32.239 whatever it is. The more you create that reality, you'll see more 937 01:04:32.280 --> 01:04:38.800 evidence, and you'll have a little bit more confidence to kind of be a 938 01:04:38.880 --> 01:04:44.000 little bit more choosy with what gets to happen in your life. You'll have 939 01:04:44.079 --> 01:04:47.400 a little bit more confidence. You'll be like, actually, no, I 940 01:04:47.440 --> 01:04:54.920 don't want that at all, or actually know I'm perfect instead of I'm just 941 01:04:54.960 --> 01:04:58.360 good enough. Trust me. You can do that. You can really do 942 01:04:58.440 --> 01:05:01.880 that, but sometimes you have to like work yourself up. So to sum 943 01:05:01.920 --> 01:05:10.360 everything up your three step formula, thinking about the identity that you want to 944 01:05:10.400 --> 01:05:14.800 live in the mindsets the girl of your dreams. How does she actually think 945 01:05:14.800 --> 01:05:16.280 and move through this world? What does she think about the things that you 946 01:05:16.320 --> 01:05:19.239 are trying to get in your life? Okay, think about that, write 947 01:05:19.280 --> 01:05:24.519 it down and think about that every single day, which is step two saturation, 948 01:05:25.280 --> 01:05:30.760 morning routine, afternoon routine, night routine. Flipping your damn thoughts as 949 01:05:30.760 --> 01:05:33.280 many times as you need to saturnate in your mind with podcasts, episodes, 950 01:05:33.559 --> 01:05:38.360 YouTube videos, good conversations, go out into the world. Whatever you need 951 01:05:38.400 --> 01:05:41.000 to do. Even if that's too much and it's too like, you don't 952 01:05:41.079 --> 01:05:44.400 need to do that, go get your mind off of it. Then whatever 953 01:05:44.400 --> 01:05:48.239 you need to do. But the most important thing is thinking in your favor. 954 01:05:49.159 --> 01:05:53.519 Okay, So whatever it is, think in your favor as much as 955 01:05:53.559 --> 01:05:55.920 you possibly can. You do not need to be perfect and be loving to 956 01:05:55.960 --> 01:06:01.000 yourself. And step three is really watching yourself on honestly, just take inspired 957 01:06:01.239 --> 01:06:06.000 aligned action, but just being aware of when you're taking action with whatever it 958 01:06:06.039 --> 01:06:09.039 is that you're doing in your life. Is this coming from a place of 959 01:06:09.079 --> 01:06:14.880 self love? Is this coming from a place of natural discipline and motivation? 960 01:06:15.119 --> 01:06:20.000 Thinking about the dad who is trying to get a son to be exquisite at 961 01:06:20.039 --> 01:06:25.320 what he does. You want to instill belief in yourself. You want to 962 01:06:25.360 --> 01:06:30.199 tell yourself you can do it. No problem. We had a bad day, 963 01:06:30.239 --> 01:06:33.679 No problem, We're not having the okay, no problem. My glutes 964 01:06:33.719 --> 01:06:36.239 are not where I want them to be yet, no problem. There's still 965 01:06:36.320 --> 01:06:41.159 beautiful. Now you want to talk to yourself like that, I promise you 966 01:06:41.199 --> 01:06:45.199 it will make everything ten times easier. And when things are easier in your 967 01:06:45.239 --> 01:06:47.000 mind, it will be easier for you to take the action, and then 968 01:06:47.400 --> 01:06:53.039 you will get your thing faster. Okay, So I hope you guys enjoy 969 01:06:53.119 --> 01:06:59.960 today's episode. If you enjoyed the episode on Spotify, I would kindly ask 970 01:07:00.079 --> 01:07:04.400 if you guys could give me a review preferably five stars if you think deserve 971 01:07:04.559 --> 01:07:08.519 five stars. And if you want to leave a little comment too, you 972 01:07:08.559 --> 01:07:12.079 can leave a comment or like a review or whatever. You can do that 973 01:07:12.119 --> 01:07:14.840 on Apple podcasts as well. Of course, if you're watching on YouTube, 974 01:07:15.000 --> 01:07:18.800 just comment down alone let me know what you want to see next. There's 975 01:07:19.199 --> 01:07:23.320 a few fun episodes that I'm coming out with next, but I would love 976 01:07:23.360 --> 01:07:27.480 to hear your guys' feedback for this episode. And I hope you guys enjoy 977 01:07:27.719 --> 01:07:30.280 your week and I'll see you next week. Bye.