WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.480 --> 00:00:10.119 Sure woo. What's up, beautiful people. It is your baby Mama's favorite 2 00:00:10.119 --> 00:00:14.359 Baby Mama, Stormy p. And this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and 3 00:00:14.519 --> 00:00:19.039 Zip the modern day female perspective. Damn Son, back at it again, 4 00:00:19.600 --> 00:00:22.920 Boom, back at it again. And this episode is brought to you by 5 00:00:23.399 --> 00:00:28.839 Hose Without Hoodies. It's a very special organization to me because I just decided 6 00:00:28.839 --> 00:00:33.200 I want to start it. That's right. I'm sorry. My own organization 7 00:00:33.359 --> 00:00:37.200 is going to be called Hose Without Hoodies, you know, because the humanitarian 8 00:00:37.280 --> 00:00:43.600 spirit in me. Okay. It continued to hear stories of these unfortunate women 9 00:00:43.880 --> 00:00:50.079 like myself who are single and have to go through another lonely cold season without 10 00:00:50.119 --> 00:00:53.200 hoodies, and I say, you know what, I gotta do something about 11 00:00:53.200 --> 00:00:57.679 this. Okay. I have to be the change, all right. Michael 12 00:00:57.759 --> 00:01:02.159 Jackson said, take a look at yourself and make the change, all right. 13 00:01:02.240 --> 00:01:06.120 So yeah, I'm starting a new organization. It's called Hose Without Hoodies, 14 00:01:06.200 --> 00:01:11.359 okay, And I actually am accepting donations. Fellas. Please let me 15 00:01:11.400 --> 00:01:14.879 know if you're in the Philadelphia area. I do do pickups or someone from 16 00:01:14.920 --> 00:01:18.319 the organization will pick it up. And ladies, if you would like to 17 00:01:18.359 --> 00:01:23.280 apply to said organization. Please send me an email inquiries at stormypea dot com. 18 00:01:23.640 --> 00:01:27.879 We will help you. Okay, I think that excuse me, it 19 00:01:27.920 --> 00:01:34.799 always excuse me so choked up? Oh my god. I think that this 20 00:01:34.959 --> 00:01:40.120 is a very serious situation affecting our community. Okay, and I have chosen 21 00:01:40.120 --> 00:01:44.840 to do something about it. So yeah, holds about hoodies, I care 22 00:01:48.040 --> 00:01:52.200 listen, man, all that foolishness aside. I got a few things I 23 00:01:52.200 --> 00:01:57.920 want to talk to you all about today, and it's certain things I feel 24 00:01:57.959 --> 00:02:00.400 like we just need to put to a stop and be real with ourselves. 25 00:02:00.480 --> 00:02:06.000 Okay. I know the lulu is the sululu, but at some point, 26 00:02:06.120 --> 00:02:08.719 ladies and gentlemen, we gotta be real with ourselves, be fucking for real. 27 00:02:09.240 --> 00:02:15.400 Okay, First, ladies, don't kill me, because I know you'all 28 00:02:15.439 --> 00:02:19.599 not gonna want to hear a lot of this next segment, but you need 29 00:02:19.639 --> 00:02:23.039 to hear it. Okay, Ladies, we gotta stop saying, you know, 30 00:02:23.919 --> 00:02:29.080 the dating pool is trash. You know, we want a man who 31 00:02:29.120 --> 00:02:32.400 makes six figures. We want a man who drives this type of car, 32 00:02:32.759 --> 00:02:37.840 has this type of house. Well, you know what, Those type of 33 00:02:37.879 --> 00:02:40.120 men usually aren't found in the hole in the wall bars that you like to 34 00:02:40.120 --> 00:02:44.439 go to every weekend. Yeah, I know, I know, I know, 35 00:02:44.840 --> 00:02:46.840 I know, I know. If that's the man you're looking for, 36 00:02:47.919 --> 00:02:52.120 I don't think he's gonna be found in a hole in the wall bar every 37 00:02:52.159 --> 00:02:57.000 weekend. And if that's what you like to do, I think we need 38 00:02:57.039 --> 00:03:04.360 to be fucking for real, Like, like, hey, the places you 39 00:03:04.479 --> 00:03:08.560 like to go, do they sell crab lags? Because those type of men 40 00:03:08.639 --> 00:03:14.960 usually don't go to those type of places. Those type of men usually don't 41 00:03:15.000 --> 00:03:17.039 go to those type of places. And I'm talking to majorities here. I 42 00:03:17.080 --> 00:03:21.680 know sometimes they might want to hang out with the guys, try something different, 43 00:03:21.919 --> 00:03:24.759 but I'm talking majorities here, they usually don't. Like, at what 44 00:03:25.000 --> 00:03:29.680 point do we be real with ourselves? And then another thing we have to 45 00:03:29.719 --> 00:03:35.159 consider is does your esthetic match that type of man the type of man that 46 00:03:35.199 --> 00:03:38.919 you're describing right, Like you know, mister him himself, mister him himself, 47 00:03:39.280 --> 00:03:44.919 the type of man that you're describing, right. Are they usually seen 48 00:03:45.000 --> 00:03:51.000 with women who have green hair? Are they usually seen with women who have 49 00:03:51.159 --> 00:03:59.319 chest tattoos? Are they usually seen with women who have dark skin with blue 50 00:03:59.319 --> 00:04:05.400 eyed contact and listen, hold on real fast though. This isn't me telling 51 00:04:05.439 --> 00:04:10.960 you to change your image, to change for a man. I would never 52 00:04:11.000 --> 00:04:13.199 tell you to change for a man. That's not what I'm saying at all. 53 00:04:13.960 --> 00:04:18.279 I'm telling you to be fucking for real. I'm telling you to make 54 00:04:18.360 --> 00:04:24.519 sure you are putting out what you're trying to attract. You're telling me that 55 00:04:25.000 --> 00:04:29.040 I keep running to the same type of man. They broke, they bummed, 56 00:04:29.240 --> 00:04:31.920 they don't got nothing going for themselves. You dress like you want that 57 00:04:31.959 --> 00:04:35.639 type of man. Like. I feel like the saying is always like, 58 00:04:35.680 --> 00:04:42.879 you know, dressed for the job you want, right, And I feel 59 00:04:42.920 --> 00:04:46.519 like I'm not saying it correctly because I definitely don't want to put the saying 60 00:04:46.600 --> 00:04:48.759 or the phrase out there, or the note out there that you have to 61 00:04:48.839 --> 00:04:51.240 change for a man. That's not it. I swear I'm not telling you 62 00:04:51.279 --> 00:04:56.720 to change for a man. All I'm saying is to dress and present for 63 00:04:56.839 --> 00:05:00.680 what you want to attract. Girl, like, if you want mister I've 64 00:05:00.680 --> 00:05:06.399 been to seventeen countries, dress and carry yourself like you're ready for mister I've 65 00:05:06.399 --> 00:05:11.759 been to seventeen countries. Because when you got fingernails all the way down here, 66 00:05:12.480 --> 00:05:15.959 HM, hmm. All I'm saying is the men that you be talking 67 00:05:16.000 --> 00:05:20.000 about when you see them out in public, or when you see a man 68 00:05:20.120 --> 00:05:25.160 like that out in public, who do you usually see them with? Who 69 00:05:25.160 --> 00:05:27.360 do you usually see on their arm? You better not say a white woman. 70 00:05:27.399 --> 00:05:30.519 I beat your ass if you say a white woman, That's not what 71 00:05:30.560 --> 00:05:36.879 I mean. Damn. What I mean is, technically, even if you 72 00:05:36.879 --> 00:05:42.160 do see him with a white woman, sins don't have claws nine inches, 73 00:05:42.519 --> 00:05:46.040 okay, cinths don't have purple hair all right. So not even trying to 74 00:05:46.079 --> 00:05:49.079 be smart, but that goes across the board. Are you presenting for the 75 00:05:49.199 --> 00:05:53.800 type of man that you want? Yes or no? Yes or no? 76 00:05:54.079 --> 00:05:58.199 Are you going places that he's going to be at, Like, are you 77 00:05:58.439 --> 00:06:01.639 able to even meet the dress code for the type of places that he's going 78 00:06:01.720 --> 00:06:04.560 to be at? Just think about it. And that's not me saying that 79 00:06:04.600 --> 00:06:09.879 I'm for everybody, because I know I'm not right. Not everybody likes natural 80 00:06:09.920 --> 00:06:13.720 women. Not everybody likes you know, women who wear their natural hair, 81 00:06:13.879 --> 00:06:17.079 women who you know, minimum makeup, women who are comfortable with their natural 82 00:06:17.079 --> 00:06:21.560 body and don't want to bbl. Everybody's not for everybody, And I understand 83 00:06:21.560 --> 00:06:29.040 that all I'm saying is broaden your horizons. If you want to attract more 84 00:06:29.079 --> 00:06:31.600 things, If you feel like you're consistently getting the same type of man, 85 00:06:31.800 --> 00:06:35.800 you need to reevaluate and look at yourself and say, why do these type 86 00:06:35.800 --> 00:06:40.360 of men feel so comfortable playing in my face? Why do these type of 87 00:06:40.360 --> 00:06:44.360 men feel so comfortable approaching me? Why do they feel like I'm a good 88 00:06:44.439 --> 00:06:48.680 match for them? Let's start there, all right. Accountability is very important, 89 00:06:48.720 --> 00:06:55.600 ladies and gentlemen. Accountability is very important. Seven. What's wrong baby? 90 00:06:57.160 --> 00:07:01.839 What you do? Why he crying? Yeah? Man, accountability is 91 00:07:01.920 --> 00:07:06.240 very important. And because accountability is very important, there's some things that I 92 00:07:06.279 --> 00:07:10.800 want to discuss as well. I'm not perfect. Nobody walking this world is 93 00:07:11.079 --> 00:07:16.720 right, and I'm strong enough and I'm mature enough to admit my faults. 94 00:07:17.399 --> 00:07:24.360 One of them. Man, when we stop talking, I will delete every 95 00:07:24.399 --> 00:07:32.720 one of your news, but you ain't getting these hoodies back. And I 96 00:07:32.759 --> 00:07:36.680 would say it again, Okay, I would say it again. When we 97 00:07:36.720 --> 00:07:41.240 stop talking, I'll delete every one of your news, but baby, you 98 00:07:41.240 --> 00:07:46.720 ain't getting these hoodies back. That's it up, Okay, smell the smoke 99 00:07:46.959 --> 00:07:53.040 you're burnt. Okay, smell the smoke. You're burnt baby, Baby, 100 00:07:53.480 --> 00:07:56.319 and all of them ain't gonna make it to the holes without hoodies organization. 101 00:07:56.319 --> 00:07:58.920 I'ma be really shit if I like them. I'm keeping them, Okay, 102 00:07:59.800 --> 00:08:05.040 I want you to know, Okay, And I think that's honestly, when 103 00:08:05.040 --> 00:08:07.920 I think about it, that's very noble of for me, okay, because 104 00:08:09.279 --> 00:08:13.160 I could keep those videos are you walking around on soft? But no, 105 00:08:13.079 --> 00:08:16.199 I'm gonna be a grown up. I'm gonna be mature. I'm gonna be 106 00:08:16.199 --> 00:08:20.279 an adult. I'm gonna delete all that. Baby. I would never embarrass 107 00:08:20.319 --> 00:08:26.680 you like that. But the cost, because there's a cost, the price. 108 00:08:28.319 --> 00:08:30.800 The price is gonna beat them hoodies, baby, And and it don't 109 00:08:30.800 --> 00:08:33.639 stop at the hoodies. The price is gonna beat them hoodies, them T 110 00:08:33.720 --> 00:08:39.440 shirts, them boxers, them socks, all at all, at all of 111 00:08:39.480 --> 00:08:46.200 that all that is mine now, respectfully, right, And I'm gonna be 112 00:08:46.279 --> 00:08:54.080 real with you, and I'm gonna wear them around my new nigga. I 113 00:08:54.080 --> 00:08:58.440 don't wear around my new nigga, right, And it's dope because it's gonna 114 00:08:58.480 --> 00:09:03.000 be like both of y'all hooking me at the same time. It's gonna be 115 00:09:03.000 --> 00:09:11.320 like both of y'all hugging me at the same time. Listen, Okay, 116 00:09:11.120 --> 00:09:13.279 if you don't want to deal with that, then do what you got to 117 00:09:13.279 --> 00:09:16.519 do. Make sure you stick around. Because with that sentiment, if your 118 00:09:16.559 --> 00:09:20.600 nigga found out that that was your that was your extrass hootie. And since 119 00:09:20.600 --> 00:09:22.759 you feel like it's two niggas hugging at the same time, and he told 120 00:09:22.799 --> 00:09:24.720 you not to worry anymore, I'll respect what you saw. You know what, 121 00:09:24.919 --> 00:09:28.360 that's a very good point based off of how you feel, based how 122 00:09:28.440 --> 00:09:31.399 off of how I feel about two niggas hugging at the same time. Now, 123 00:09:31.480 --> 00:09:35.039 y'all know I enjoyed a feeling the two niggas hugging me at the same 124 00:09:35.080 --> 00:09:37.759 time. Right, Well, No, that came out crazy. Wow, 125 00:09:37.159 --> 00:09:45.679 No I don't. That came out crazy. No, I don't. But 126 00:09:46.159 --> 00:09:50.960 I will say to my future by if you don't want me to wear that 127 00:09:52.120 --> 00:09:58.720 old niggas stuff, give me some of your new stuff. If you don't, 128 00:09:58.879 --> 00:10:03.360 to my future, if you don't want me wearing his stuff, all 129 00:10:03.399 --> 00:10:05.480 you gotta do is give me some of your stuff and I throw it away. 130 00:10:05.600 --> 00:10:09.279 You gotta replace it. Give me some of your stuff. Replace it. 131 00:10:09.320 --> 00:10:11.440 Bab if you replace it, I won't wear it no more. That's 132 00:10:11.480 --> 00:10:16.320 it. I'm putting all of it in the donation. Then I'm not giving 133 00:10:16.320 --> 00:10:18.240 it back to him because yeah, regardless it's a dub, he's not giving 134 00:10:18.240 --> 00:10:22.480 it back like he's not getting anything back. But you know, yeah, 135 00:10:22.639 --> 00:10:26.480 I think that's reasonable. What do you think, Shad? Yeah? Good, 136 00:10:26.600 --> 00:10:28.720 Yeah, but we have to lose something for your past relationship. But 137 00:10:30.519 --> 00:10:33.039 well, I would, I would, I would. I wouldn't say it 138 00:10:33.120 --> 00:10:37.919 was losing Okay, it's giving something a new home. It is it because 139 00:10:39.039 --> 00:10:41.600 it was for you to fully move on from a nigga, I have to 140 00:10:41.639 --> 00:10:45.360 give you down my ship. Oh, I'm sorry. This has nothing to 141 00:10:45.399 --> 00:10:50.200 do with that nigga. Oh you think I'm keep him stuff because I said, 142 00:10:50.200 --> 00:10:52.799 well, that's not it. That's not it. I like comfy clothes 143 00:10:54.919 --> 00:10:58.200 and that was a thought on That's not it. Just like yeah, I 144 00:10:58.240 --> 00:11:01.559 just like comfy gold. It's like in case you know once again in future 145 00:11:01.600 --> 00:11:05.440 bad If you thought I was keeping his stuff because I still want him, 146 00:11:05.440 --> 00:11:09.080 that's not it. I just like comfy clothes. So yeah, that's it. 147 00:11:09.720 --> 00:11:11.120 I mean, like I said, I still think that's me being very 148 00:11:11.159 --> 00:11:16.279 noble. And if we're talking about replacing. If I'm throwing away three hoodies, 149 00:11:16.720 --> 00:11:22.240 baby, you gotta give me three hoodies. I'm throwing away two shirts, 150 00:11:22.399 --> 00:11:24.360 you gotta even me two shirts. If I'm throwing away four pairs of 151 00:11:24.360 --> 00:11:30.360 boxers, I need those who in my period or and they comfy, they 152 00:11:30.440 --> 00:11:33.000 feel good. You need to give me to it. You have to rent 153 00:11:33.039 --> 00:11:37.679 it, rent it. I mean like, I'm like reasonable, you want 154 00:11:37.720 --> 00:11:41.519 me to write you an invoice list so that you know you know what you 155 00:11:41.600 --> 00:11:46.600 need to be replacing, or like what I'm down for whatever. But yeah, 156 00:11:46.440 --> 00:11:48.279 long story short, whatever i'm throwing away, I'm gonna need you to 157 00:11:48.320 --> 00:11:54.240 get it back paid, get it back plus one plus two. No, 158 00:11:54.679 --> 00:11:56.440 not plus one or plus two. I'll be reasonable, Just just replace the 159 00:11:56.519 --> 00:12:00.799 same monetary amount. I don't know, but then you know, was swear 160 00:12:00.879 --> 00:12:09.440 to me. Men have this weird thing where they like to be pleasantly oblivious. 161 00:12:09.399 --> 00:12:13.399 Right, So when I said you know, oh, it's like y'are 162 00:12:13.440 --> 00:12:16.840 both holding me at the same time. Or when I said, oh, 163 00:12:16.840 --> 00:12:20.080 I'm gonna wear my old nigga stuff around my new nigga, right, a 164 00:12:20.120 --> 00:12:22.200 lot of the guys was like, oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, 165 00:12:22.279 --> 00:12:26.679 whoa, Right, But I know for a fact you've been around females who 166 00:12:26.720 --> 00:12:31.320 have on oversized male clothes. Baby, where you think they get those from? 167 00:12:33.960 --> 00:12:35.480 But where do you think they get those from? She ain't got no 168 00:12:35.559 --> 00:12:41.039 brothers, sweetie. She she ain't seen her dad in five years. Baby, 169 00:12:41.200 --> 00:12:43.840 she don't be with her boy cousins like that. Will you think she 170 00:12:43.879 --> 00:12:46.759 getting these clothes from? She don't got no fat friends. Where you think 171 00:12:46.840 --> 00:12:52.360 she getting these clothes from? State? Stop playing? Stop playing? Stay 172 00:12:54.000 --> 00:12:56.440 where you think she getting them from? I think that, baby, we 173 00:12:56.480 --> 00:12:58.759 don't want to know if we could be like our lives. And that's why 174 00:12:58.799 --> 00:13:03.360 I said pleasantly oblivious, don't y'all like not knowing it? But it don't 175 00:13:03.399 --> 00:13:07.840 stop at the close though, y'all like not knowing when women are talking to 176 00:13:07.879 --> 00:13:11.720 other people. Y'all like not knowing when women are going on other dates. 177 00:13:11.039 --> 00:13:16.240 Like y'all like being pleasantly oblivious. Right, So one time, I remember, 178 00:13:16.360 --> 00:13:20.519 uh, I was talking to this guy, but we're like off and 179 00:13:20.559 --> 00:13:24.440 oning and we're not consistent at all. Right, So at the time, 180 00:13:24.759 --> 00:13:30.279 you know, we like weren't having sex though, So we go out to 181 00:13:30.279 --> 00:13:31.720 eat and you know, like I said, I'm a gentleman. I pay 182 00:13:31.759 --> 00:13:35.840 from time to time. So I open my purse to pay and a condom 183 00:13:35.879 --> 00:13:39.519 falls out, and he gets an attitude, and I'm like, well, 184 00:13:39.559 --> 00:13:43.440 why do you have an attitude? He was like, because it's fine when 185 00:13:43.440 --> 00:13:46.120 I think you're not having sex, but when I see a condom in your 186 00:13:46.120 --> 00:13:48.440 purse, I know there's a possibility of you having sex. And I'm like, 187 00:13:48.559 --> 00:13:52.080 okay, well, you know I can have sex without condoms, right, 188 00:13:52.159 --> 00:13:54.480 or you know he can bring a condom, right. He's like, 189 00:13:54.559 --> 00:13:56.080 yeah, I know, but it's just now that I've seen it, I 190 00:13:56.159 --> 00:13:58.919 know it. And I'm like, first of all, I keep a condom 191 00:14:00.159 --> 00:14:03.679 all of my persons because safety is very important. Like you ain't gonna hit 192 00:14:03.720 --> 00:14:05.039 me with the you got a baby, I do, don't worry about it. 193 00:14:05.559 --> 00:14:09.840 Okay, So that's first thing. But the second thing is I'm still 194 00:14:09.879 --> 00:14:13.919 actively not having sex. It's just in case. And I would think that 195 00:14:13.960 --> 00:14:16.320 you would be happy that I would be prepared for just in case, but 196 00:14:16.519 --> 00:14:20.759 like, no, no, even shy and saying no, no, I 197 00:14:22.000 --> 00:14:24.679 understand your I understand your point, but we don't. We don't think things 198 00:14:24.679 --> 00:14:28.279 like that. Don't you get you having sex? With up. Yes, 199 00:14:28.519 --> 00:14:33.240 y'all, just like being pleasantly oblivious. See what niggas get emotional? You 200 00:14:33.279 --> 00:14:37.360 see what they do right active? You see what we turn into active? 201 00:14:37.639 --> 00:14:41.840 Yeah? You see the type of nonsense niggas doing. Yes, Yes, 202 00:14:43.279 --> 00:14:46.320 you understand why we don't want to know. It's easy. It don't make 203 00:14:46.360 --> 00:14:48.679 sense to me. I don't get it. I don't get it out of 204 00:14:48.679 --> 00:14:50.360 one bit. Not to me. Too much information turns the nigga into a 205 00:14:50.399 --> 00:15:00.000 bitch. Who y'all? Now, I would like to get into, uh, 206 00:15:00.200 --> 00:15:05.039 this week's do Better Okay? And I feel like this is a new 207 00:15:05.080 --> 00:15:09.840 segment that I just made up this week, and this is just where I 208 00:15:09.879 --> 00:15:13.960 want to give y'all a few little tips tricks so where you guys can do 209 00:15:13.000 --> 00:15:16.799 better okay, not just men, not just females, both of us, 210 00:15:16.960 --> 00:15:20.320 where we y'all can do better, right, But for this week's purposes, 211 00:15:22.519 --> 00:15:28.759 this week's do Better first goes out to the men, right, And this 212 00:15:28.799 --> 00:15:31.720 one, y'all, I feel like I've really been struggling with and I don't 213 00:15:31.720 --> 00:15:37.879 know if it's because I have been being so purposeful with my intentions, with 214 00:15:37.960 --> 00:15:43.679 my time and honestly, what my pusky I don't know if it's because I've 215 00:15:43.679 --> 00:15:46.919 been so purposeful that this has been getting under my skin so much. But 216 00:15:50.519 --> 00:15:56.519 for the love of cheese and crackers, for the love of everything good, 217 00:15:56.720 --> 00:16:02.759 okay, for the love of tyrone big ums. All right, don't say 218 00:16:02.799 --> 00:16:06.279 anything sexual to me until I say something sexual to you. I know, 219 00:16:06.639 --> 00:16:11.039 I know, I know, all right, I know how that sounds. 220 00:16:11.600 --> 00:16:15.639 Listen Kell, Yeah, pro tip. Don't say anything sexual to me until 221 00:16:15.639 --> 00:16:19.200 I say something sexual to you. All right. I don't care how fine 222 00:16:19.240 --> 00:16:22.480 you are. I don't care what you got going on, bebby. I 223 00:16:22.480 --> 00:16:25.879 don't want to hear it, all right. It makes me feel so uncomfortable, 224 00:16:25.879 --> 00:16:30.360 and I think it's because I'm very clear with what I'm looking for when 225 00:16:30.360 --> 00:16:33.200 I first started dating anyone were when I first started talking, Like, yo, 226 00:16:33.279 --> 00:16:34.000 what you're looking for? This is what I got going on? Right, 227 00:16:36.080 --> 00:16:41.879 Bro, When you say something sexual to me, it automatically gives me 228 00:16:41.919 --> 00:16:45.679 the ick. All right. It's like, bro, do you know how 229 00:16:45.679 --> 00:16:48.240 many people trying to have sex with me? Be different? Try to be 230 00:16:48.399 --> 00:16:52.440 my friend, nigga? Like, do you even know that I can do 231 00:16:52.480 --> 00:16:55.799 a car? Will? Do you even care? Like? Bro, do 232 00:16:55.879 --> 00:16:59.320 you know I love Wales? Talk to me about Wales, like you talking 233 00:16:59.399 --> 00:17:04.359 to me about an Orca increases your chances of getting Kouci way more than you 234 00:17:04.440 --> 00:17:08.519 giving me a sexual in you window. I don't care, Like or my 235 00:17:08.720 --> 00:17:15.640 mom, you talking to me about orcas increases your chances of being sexual with 236 00:17:15.680 --> 00:17:18.720 me than any sexual in the window that you're gonna try to like create in 237 00:17:18.720 --> 00:17:22.400 your mind right now. It's not gonna work. It's not gonna work. 238 00:17:22.720 --> 00:17:26.480 I don't care. From the bottom of my heart, I don't care, 239 00:17:26.559 --> 00:17:30.799 all right, y'all ever seen like all them reals going around like what's your 240 00:17:30.799 --> 00:17:33.920 favorite color red? What's the color you nipples? Like, that's really what 241 00:17:33.960 --> 00:17:37.480 they be doing out here, That's really what they be doing out here, 242 00:17:37.880 --> 00:17:45.359 like I And you know what's crazy. It's hard because I keep circling back 243 00:17:45.400 --> 00:17:51.000 to I can't blame the guys because they're only doing what has worked for them. 244 00:17:51.680 --> 00:17:55.240 Ladies. We gotta do better, ladies, we gotta do better. 245 00:17:55.440 --> 00:18:00.799 We gotta start checking this at the door, because it has become so calm 246 00:18:00.119 --> 00:18:03.920 that it's like, yeah, they just right at your neck with it. 247 00:18:03.960 --> 00:18:06.680 And I also want to say, ladies, I know some of y'all have 248 00:18:06.839 --> 00:18:12.599 been so insensitive that y'all have these men thinking, Oh, well, last 249 00:18:12.640 --> 00:18:18.400 girl I did that with she told me I was gay. The last girl 250 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:21.119 I didn't, you know, I waited till she said something, she told 251 00:18:21.200 --> 00:18:29.480 me I was since Stop that. Stop that. You stop that right now. 252 00:18:29.920 --> 00:18:36.119 It's giving trauma. It's giving trauma, okay, and you stop spilling 253 00:18:36.119 --> 00:18:40.319 that trauma on the other people. All right. If you think that any 254 00:18:40.400 --> 00:18:45.400 man who doesn't approach you in a sexual manner is you need to go talk 255 00:18:45.440 --> 00:18:48.839 to the lady. You messing it up all us out here, all right, 256 00:18:49.119 --> 00:18:52.039 you need to go talk to the lady. That's not okay, and 257 00:18:52.079 --> 00:18:56.599 it's not cool for me. For me, y'all, now that's just me. 258 00:18:57.200 --> 00:19:00.920 I'm gonna say it again. This is just for me. Please don't 259 00:19:00.920 --> 00:19:04.200 say nothing. Please don't say nothing sexual to me until I say something sexual 260 00:19:04.240 --> 00:19:08.000 to you. Okay, all these niggas out here trying to fuck me, 261 00:19:08.079 --> 00:19:15.200 be different. Be different. That's it that, there's there's no there's nothing 262 00:19:15.279 --> 00:19:18.240 else. Just be different. I don't I don't. I don't wanna hear 263 00:19:18.319 --> 00:19:23.079 that. Like, bro, ask me how many grapes I can eat in 264 00:19:23.119 --> 00:19:30.200 one setting? Okay? The whole bad don't let it beat them cotton candy 265 00:19:30.279 --> 00:19:34.720 jawins. I'm on it right, Like, be different, Okay, talk 266 00:19:34.759 --> 00:19:41.400 to me about something that doesn't lead to you mentioning your weakness, how large 267 00:19:41.400 --> 00:19:44.799 it is, how many bagshood the broke? Oh, what you do on 268 00:19:44.799 --> 00:19:48.319 the weekend. It's like, bro that's crazy. That's it, that's all 269 00:19:48.359 --> 00:19:51.960 you got. That's the best conversation you're able to give me, right now. 270 00:19:52.720 --> 00:19:56.400 That's the best conversation you're able to give me right now. Ugh? 271 00:19:56.880 --> 00:20:06.680 Ugh, gross what knew? It unlocked? New? It unlocked? Gross 272 00:20:06.759 --> 00:20:11.039 right now. But as I I want, y'all think I'm beating up on 273 00:20:11.119 --> 00:20:18.119 y'all too much, But but I gotta someone on the life said she's right, 274 00:20:18.480 --> 00:20:26.119 everybody is extra freaky, but no freaky qualifications. Baby, baby, 275 00:20:26.079 --> 00:20:30.559 you cooking with grease. Now you cook him with grease. Now you're talking 276 00:20:30.599 --> 00:20:34.079 to me. You're talking to my spirit and my soul, because that is 277 00:20:34.160 --> 00:20:38.119 the one everybody want to talk about how freaky they are, and start all 278 00:20:38.119 --> 00:20:45.119 this fly ship what you want? Never mind, never mind, never mind, 279 00:20:48.960 --> 00:20:53.599 Because I definitely was about to go. I definitely was about to go 280 00:20:53.799 --> 00:21:00.160 on a tangent long story short play with somebody else that's how we're gonna in 281 00:21:00.240 --> 00:21:07.039 that playing somebody else. All right? Oh man, y'all that made me 282 00:21:07.079 --> 00:21:11.119 sweat a little bit. I'm a neck, a little moist que q. 283 00:21:12.200 --> 00:21:15.279 Yeah, so tell us. I don't want your to think I'm coming down 284 00:21:15.279 --> 00:21:18.160 to our on y'all. But I got another one for y'all. I got 285 00:21:18.200 --> 00:21:22.759 another, got another place for y'all to do better right now. The first 286 00:21:22.759 --> 00:21:25.480 one I was little on the fence about. I might have been by myself. 287 00:21:26.160 --> 00:21:32.480 But this, Joe, right here, I think every woman who you're 288 00:21:32.599 --> 00:21:36.640 casually dating feels the same way. I'm not talking about nobody you in a 289 00:21:36.680 --> 00:21:41.200 relationship with. I'm talking about just someone you are dating. Every woman you 290 00:21:41.240 --> 00:21:45.279 are dating feels the same way about what I'm about to say. Every woman 291 00:21:45.359 --> 00:21:51.000 you are dating feels the same way. Baby. Please don't tell me you 292 00:21:51.039 --> 00:21:53.799 can't feel nothing with the kind of one. Don't do that. Don't do 293 00:21:53.880 --> 00:21:56.359 that. Don't do that. Okay, I don't care if it's true. 294 00:21:57.759 --> 00:22:02.440 Don't tell us. Do not tell a woman you can't feel nothing with the 295 00:22:02.519 --> 00:22:04.000 kindom one. We don't want to hear it. We don't want to hear 296 00:22:04.039 --> 00:22:07.160 it. I don't care if it's true. We don't want to hear it, 297 00:22:07.279 --> 00:22:10.000 because now in our minds it's like, damn, how many other girls 298 00:22:10.039 --> 00:22:11.519 he told us too? Damn when the last time you've been tested? Oh, 299 00:22:11.519 --> 00:22:14.960 he's just out here, rolled dog and everybody. It never ends well, 300 00:22:15.240 --> 00:22:18.960 it never ends well if we're not locked in. Don't tell me. 301 00:22:19.480 --> 00:22:22.200 Don't tell me you can't feel nothing with the condom one, because guess what, 302 00:22:22.240 --> 00:22:25.799 you're really about to not feel nothing because you ain't getting no koochie, 303 00:22:26.160 --> 00:22:30.279 and look at you just mess it up for yourself, all right. I 304 00:22:30.599 --> 00:22:33.880 do not know not one world where women hear that and be like, oh 305 00:22:33.880 --> 00:22:37.480 my god, moist, Oh my god, splash water falls. Never. 306 00:22:38.319 --> 00:22:42.079 Never. I do not know one universe in which you tell it to a 307 00:22:42.119 --> 00:22:45.759 woman and she's like, oh my god, splash water falls. Never. 308 00:22:47.480 --> 00:22:53.160 We don't want to hear that. Like if you tell me, oh, 309 00:22:53.319 --> 00:22:56.920 I can't feel nothing with the condom on, in my mind, I'm like, 310 00:22:57.799 --> 00:23:03.559 how many women did this work on previously? How many women did you 311 00:23:03.640 --> 00:23:07.440 tell this too? Because your sound is so comfortable to me. You didn't 312 00:23:07.480 --> 00:23:11.160 you didn't, you didn't stutter, you didn't quiver in your voice. Cadence 313 00:23:11.200 --> 00:23:15.839 didn't change. You said that with your test, big dog? How many 314 00:23:15.920 --> 00:23:23.119 women you done said this too? And then and then it's like when you 315 00:23:23.160 --> 00:23:27.000 tell me that, what do you expect me to say? What do you? 316 00:23:27.079 --> 00:23:30.920 What do you expect us? You know what? Damn? I ain't 317 00:23:30.960 --> 00:23:32.839 know that. Go ahead and take that off. I don't even know why 318 00:23:32.839 --> 00:23:34.559 I was shipping, big dog. I don't even know. I don't even 319 00:23:34.599 --> 00:23:37.960 know why I was. Don't even take that off. I don't about it. 320 00:23:38.079 --> 00:23:42.240 Like, what do y'all want us to say when you say that? 321 00:23:42.480 --> 00:23:48.359 Right now? Once again? Am I sitting here saying that the sensation that 322 00:23:48.440 --> 00:23:52.880 you have when you're wearing protection and when you aren't in the same No, 323 00:23:52.240 --> 00:23:56.559 I'm not a fool. I know it's different. But I also know that 324 00:23:56.200 --> 00:24:00.799 if we're just dating, we're just linking, we're hooking up, and we're 325 00:24:00.839 --> 00:24:07.960 already raw dogging. What's left when we get in a relationship. I don't 326 00:24:07.960 --> 00:24:17.599 say antal dog, I guess that's it. But stuff, don't don't do 327 00:24:17.640 --> 00:24:22.920 it, don't do it, please don't, please don't. But I'm saying, 328 00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:26.880 like this microwave society that we live in, where we don't want to 329 00:24:26.880 --> 00:24:30.039 wait for nothing and we just want everything right out the gate, like this 330 00:24:30.160 --> 00:24:34.680 is a part of what's ruining us because now we're in this relationship and it's 331 00:24:34.720 --> 00:24:38.480 like, where do we go from here adding another person what we might have 332 00:24:38.559 --> 00:24:45.480 already done now while we was dating, Like we can't let everything be accessible 333 00:24:45.480 --> 00:24:48.000 to us right away because we have nothing to look for to talk in stage 334 00:24:48.000 --> 00:24:52.319 and trying to take your time in the actual stage that matters is yeah, 335 00:24:52.519 --> 00:24:56.400 yeah, yeah, I have like a preconceived notion of that person now that 336 00:24:56.400 --> 00:25:00.400 you can't get out of your head because it's exactly and you know what's crazy. 337 00:25:00.839 --> 00:25:03.400 I really think that's the hardest part for me dating right now. We're 338 00:25:03.440 --> 00:25:07.920 living in a society where everything is so instant. I only have to take 339 00:25:07.920 --> 00:25:12.200 you on one or two dates before we have sex, and some men don't 340 00:25:12.240 --> 00:25:15.319 even have to take women on dates. I can meet you at a happy 341 00:25:15.319 --> 00:25:18.920 hour and we're doing it later on that night, And it's hard for women 342 00:25:18.960 --> 00:25:22.000 like myself, who's like, You're like no, like I want a date, 343 00:25:22.039 --> 00:25:22.759 I want to be courted, like I want to talk, I want 344 00:25:22.759 --> 00:25:26.200 to get to know you, because most of these men out here, it's 345 00:25:26.200 --> 00:25:29.880 like yo, I don't gotta do that for these other bitches. So like 346 00:25:30.039 --> 00:25:32.400 I gotta do it for you, you know what I mean. I really 347 00:25:32.400 --> 00:25:34.279 think that is the hardest part about dating. And people always be like, 348 00:25:34.599 --> 00:25:37.400 oh, you be talking all let's cap on the internet while you still single, 349 00:25:38.640 --> 00:25:42.319 because niggas don't usually have to wait. So it's like, why would 350 00:25:42.319 --> 00:25:45.880 I wait for you? You know, I don't have to wait, you 351 00:25:45.880 --> 00:25:48.799 know, to talk to you a few times on the phone before we go 352 00:25:48.839 --> 00:25:52.440 out for a date. Girl, you want to see me tonight or not? 353 00:25:52.799 --> 00:25:56.440 No, I don't what the fuck I'm good, you know what I 354 00:25:56.480 --> 00:26:00.920 mean? Like, I don't know, I don't know. It's like I 355 00:26:00.960 --> 00:26:03.480 said, I really think, I really think that's the hardest part about dating. 356 00:26:03.559 --> 00:26:07.759 Right now. I really can't wait until we get out of this microwave 357 00:26:07.839 --> 00:26:11.640 society, the sense of entitlement, the sense of it, you know what, 358 00:26:12.680 --> 00:26:15.519 ladies. Now I'm gonna have to get y'all ass real quick. This 359 00:26:15.599 --> 00:26:18.839 is where I'm gonna have to come down on y'all, ladies, because these 360 00:26:18.920 --> 00:26:25.279 men are only doing what works for them, right. So at some point 361 00:26:26.240 --> 00:26:32.359 we gotta acknowledge, I hate to say it, we are the problem. 362 00:26:32.559 --> 00:26:34.200 I know, I know, I know, I know, I know, 363 00:26:34.559 --> 00:26:37.640 I know, I know. I'm not gonna lie. A little bit of 364 00:26:37.680 --> 00:26:41.839 throw up came up in the back, like when I said it, I 365 00:26:41.839 --> 00:26:45.440 don't think it's a collaborative problem. I'm gonna say. I'm gonna tell you 366 00:26:45.480 --> 00:26:49.400 why. Men are only doing what we allow. Men are only doing what 367 00:26:49.559 --> 00:26:53.880 is working for them. So if they don't have to show us respect to 368 00:26:53.960 --> 00:26:59.680 get sex, guess who's not gonna show respect to get sex. If they 369 00:26:59.720 --> 00:27:03.759 don't have to take us on fancy dates to get sex, or if they 370 00:27:03.799 --> 00:27:10.759 don't have to invest in communicating, or if they don't have to apply pressure, 371 00:27:11.359 --> 00:27:14.319 why would they do it? No, think about it. I would't 372 00:27:14.359 --> 00:27:18.000 y'all to really think about it. If you are a person who doesn't have 373 00:27:18.079 --> 00:27:22.799 to go the extra mile, how many of them do you know are actually 374 00:27:22.839 --> 00:27:26.839 going to go three? But that's the thing I'm talking about, like the 375 00:27:26.880 --> 00:27:30.200 simple fact that doing that type of stuff is wrong, and you know it's 376 00:27:30.200 --> 00:27:34.319 wrong. Like regardless of if women give us sex, because we're doing the 377 00:27:34.359 --> 00:27:37.880 wrong thing, the fact that we're still doing wrong things. So if I'm 378 00:27:37.920 --> 00:27:41.640 going to a girl and purposely going to her after sex when I know that 379 00:27:41.680 --> 00:27:45.920 she wants a relationship, I'm still wrong. It's just simple fact that you're 380 00:27:45.000 --> 00:27:49.480 now enabling enabling my wrong behavior, which I'm fully aware of that is wrong. 381 00:27:49.559 --> 00:27:55.160 Like niggas can't say that when you cheat on your girlfriend that you don't 382 00:27:55.160 --> 00:27:56.200 know what's wrong. You know it's wrong. So at the end of the 383 00:27:56.279 --> 00:27:59.880 day, because she takes you back or nothing, it doesn't negate the fact 384 00:27:59.880 --> 00:28:02.279 that you're wrong. Yeah, another nigga in the fact that we're still men 385 00:28:02.319 --> 00:28:03.480 and we still have a you have to hit the mark. We hit the 386 00:28:03.519 --> 00:28:06.599 mark. That's what men do. But then of the day, if you're 387 00:28:06.640 --> 00:28:08.079 wrong, nigga, you wrong. So, like I said, that's why 388 00:28:08.079 --> 00:28:11.359 I think it's a collaborative effort because it's like, if you niggas know that 389 00:28:11.359 --> 00:28:15.799 it's wrong, and we know that women are going to are weak for the 390 00:28:15.839 --> 00:28:18.400 words that we're going to say, and we're still getting them draws, then 391 00:28:18.519 --> 00:28:22.799 it makes me even worse that you're doing it. I think that when I 392 00:28:22.880 --> 00:28:26.920 was growing up, my mom always told me you can't control how other people 393 00:28:26.000 --> 00:28:33.440 treat you. You can only control what you allow here. So I think 394 00:28:33.480 --> 00:28:37.640 that if we set the bar of this is what it takes to get our 395 00:28:37.680 --> 00:28:41.880 body, this is what it takes to get a child out of us. 396 00:28:41.039 --> 00:28:45.279 This is what it takes to get a home, a wife, whatever out 397 00:28:45.319 --> 00:28:48.880 of us, things will start changing. And like if on a grand scale 398 00:28:48.920 --> 00:28:53.000 we're all like, yo, we're not taking that functionit no more. And 399 00:28:53.119 --> 00:28:56.960 honestly fellas the same token for y'all. If y'all be like, yo, 400 00:28:56.680 --> 00:29:00.599 we're not taking that function no more. We're not taking y'allut there no more? 401 00:29:02.200 --> 00:29:04.079 Guess who going? You know, stop getting saved in her phone as 402 00:29:04.119 --> 00:29:08.559 food date. I think all of us really need to take a little bit 403 00:29:08.559 --> 00:29:12.279 of accountability. That's a lot, girl, I know, I know, 404 00:29:12.720 --> 00:29:15.359 I know. I want us all to be I want us all to be 405 00:29:15.400 --> 00:29:18.000 better. I want us all to be better. Shut up, shot, 406 00:29:18.039 --> 00:29:22.200 you get on my nerves. All that aside, I really want to focus 407 00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:27.359 on what I don't think we should bring into twenty twenty four. We're entering 408 00:29:27.400 --> 00:29:30.880 the last quarter. I feel like we really need to wrap a lot of 409 00:29:30.920 --> 00:29:33.279 this shit up. Okay, a lot of it is really getting under my 410 00:29:33.319 --> 00:29:37.519 skin. I'm sick of hearing about it. I've given up all right now. 411 00:29:37.680 --> 00:29:41.079 For the record, is Sunday, October twenty second, seven o four. 412 00:29:41.279 --> 00:29:45.519 So I don't know what might happen by the time this drop Okay, 413 00:29:45.200 --> 00:29:49.400 I would hope nothing. So everything is still you know, makes sense. 414 00:29:49.440 --> 00:29:55.039 But things I don't want to bring into twenty twenty four. Hell, I 415 00:29:55.079 --> 00:29:56.400 don't even want to bring them into the last quarter. But we're already here, 416 00:29:56.680 --> 00:30:02.799 okay, number one, y'all. I don't want to hear no more 417 00:30:02.839 --> 00:30:07.359 about Willing Jada. I don't I do want here no more about Will and 418 00:30:07.480 --> 00:30:11.839 Jada. I've had enough, all right, I'm getting off this train, 419 00:30:11.279 --> 00:30:15.599 and mostly because I don't like what y'all doing the uncle will Okay, keep 420 00:30:15.640 --> 00:30:22.839 my uncle name out your fucking mouth. Okay, I've had enough. I 421 00:30:22.880 --> 00:30:26.519 really don't like how you're trying to tarnish my man's saga. Okay, this 422 00:30:26.599 --> 00:30:32.319 man is a national hero, all right, vigoratively and literally, y'all. 423 00:30:32.359 --> 00:30:36.799 Niggas ain't never seen it, dependentation, y'all don't remember how he put his 424 00:30:36.920 --> 00:30:41.440 life on the line to get on that alien ship and travel to the motherboard 425 00:30:41.480 --> 00:30:47.240 and save us. Okay, not only did he punch Chris Rock, he 426 00:30:47.359 --> 00:30:51.519 also punched the alien. All right, When are we gonna put some respect 427 00:30:51.599 --> 00:30:55.559 on my uncle's name? All tree of y'all? Okay, I hate it 428 00:30:55.640 --> 00:31:02.039 here now I can't really Jux aside, though, jokes aside, Right, 429 00:31:03.480 --> 00:31:07.960 I hear you yelling at him, and the mic jokes aside, Right, 430 00:31:07.880 --> 00:31:12.000 sorry, y'all seven is not behaving, so you probably hear shod yelling at 431 00:31:12.079 --> 00:31:18.200 him, whatever the case may be. Jokes aside, Right, A few 432 00:31:18.359 --> 00:31:22.240 hot takes on this whole Will and Jada think O number one. I feel 433 00:31:22.240 --> 00:31:26.160 like all this juicy stuff that she dropping from her book, I feel like 434 00:31:26.240 --> 00:31:32.119 this is all going to total up to about six pages of her a thousand 435 00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:36.279 page book. Like, I think she's just dropping all this stuff to get 436 00:31:36.319 --> 00:31:40.400 us interested in the book so that we'll buy it. Kudos to her publicist 437 00:31:40.400 --> 00:31:44.400 team, Like whoever her publicist is, they've been working over time. It's 438 00:31:44.400 --> 00:31:47.559 like, Yo, drop everything that people will wanna hear, right cause I 439 00:31:47.559 --> 00:31:49.400 ain't gonna hold you. Will Smith came out with a book in twenty twenty 440 00:31:49.400 --> 00:31:52.440 one. He had none of this shit in here, Okay, none of 441 00:31:52.480 --> 00:31:59.920 it? Right? So I also feel like it's it's funny to go back 442 00:32:00.039 --> 00:32:04.000 and look at the thing she says in her book versus the way they like 443 00:32:05.079 --> 00:32:07.079 unraveled in real life, for example, like the Oscar slab. Right, 444 00:32:07.799 --> 00:32:10.359 when you go back and look at the footage of the slab. She does 445 00:32:10.480 --> 00:32:15.480 like roll her eyes and it's visibly irritated when Will Smith calls her his wife, 446 00:32:15.119 --> 00:32:22.160 So like the whole narrative that they've been separated since twenty seventeen. It's 447 00:32:22.279 --> 00:32:25.279 kind of giving, it's kind of making sense, right, I don't know. 448 00:32:25.799 --> 00:32:29.559 I also think it's funny that on her book tour, now I don't 449 00:32:29.559 --> 00:32:30.319 know if this is real. This is just what I saw and like something 450 00:32:30.359 --> 00:32:37.000 somebody posted online on her book tour, I didn't see Philadelphia as a stop. 451 00:32:37.680 --> 00:32:43.319 I think that's funny. Hell yeah, like you know, uncle Will 452 00:32:43.480 --> 00:32:45.240 Cousins from West Philly, Finna roll up and be like, what's up? 453 00:32:45.279 --> 00:32:52.640 What's good? Yeah, Like Philadelphia is a major market. Any major tour 454 00:32:52.759 --> 00:32:58.319 that does a nationwide tour, they have to stop in Philadelphia, Like it 455 00:32:58.359 --> 00:33:01.319 has to be a stop. The fact that you're not coming. It's given 456 00:33:01.440 --> 00:33:05.799 very much, you know better. And I hate that with Jada. You 457 00:33:05.839 --> 00:33:09.680 know, I loved everything she was doing with Red Table Talk, and I 458 00:33:09.720 --> 00:33:14.839 really I think we all fell in love with this Will and Jada fantasy and 459 00:33:15.240 --> 00:33:20.319 above everything. My only takeaway is that since all this hands dropped, they've 460 00:33:20.319 --> 00:33:22.519 been very clear on we're working in our marriage, and I think that's where 461 00:33:22.519 --> 00:33:25.559 we just need to leave it a and lead them in twenty twenty three. 462 00:33:27.000 --> 00:33:30.039 I don't want to take them into twenty twenty four. All right. Another 463 00:33:30.079 --> 00:33:38.160 thing that I don't want to take into twenty twenty four, Dog, I 464 00:33:38.200 --> 00:33:44.240 have never not wanted to be in a threesome so bad. I don't care 465 00:33:44.640 --> 00:33:49.240 about Blueface, Krishan and Jaden. I don't care, all right, and 466 00:33:49.240 --> 00:33:52.640 I'm not gonna hold you. I just learned Jayden's name today. I've been 467 00:33:52.640 --> 00:33:58.480 calling her Stewie because she looks like Stee Griffan. Jayden, that's his first 468 00:33:58.519 --> 00:34:04.000 baby mine. See, you didn't know it either. So they had a 469 00:34:04.000 --> 00:34:09.199 threesome. Sean, what what I'll be doing? Like stuff? I'll be 470 00:34:09.199 --> 00:34:15.400 living Blueface Krashan in his first rade. Mom. They've been in this honestly, 471 00:34:15.440 --> 00:34:16.920 to me, feels like an entanglement with all three of them. They 472 00:34:17.039 --> 00:34:22.559 just been swapping juices and swapping profanities and swapping insults and swapping hands, and 473 00:34:22.639 --> 00:34:25.480 I'm just sick of it. I want to get off this train. Like 474 00:34:25.800 --> 00:34:30.280 right before we started recording, I saw that blue Face proposed to Jaydon, 475 00:34:30.880 --> 00:34:34.880 and it's like dog. I don't care how many rings you give this woman. 476 00:34:35.000 --> 00:34:37.480 I don't care how big of a ring this you give this woman. 477 00:34:37.159 --> 00:34:42.719 Can't nobody tell me you don't love Krashan, You'll be acting the fuck out. 478 00:34:42.960 --> 00:34:46.440 You act like a toddler. You throw tantrums like a toddler when it 479 00:34:46.480 --> 00:34:53.280 comes to Krishan not giving you attention and honestly to jayden right and this is 480 00:34:53.280 --> 00:34:59.280 like woman and woman like, if you really think that man loves you, 481 00:34:59.280 --> 00:35:01.159 you need to go talk to the lady. You really need to go talk 482 00:35:01.199 --> 00:35:06.039 to the lady seriously, because a man that loves you wouldn't treat you like 483 00:35:06.079 --> 00:35:07.920 that. You ain't see him in Kashan Bead a few days ago, sis 484 00:35:08.360 --> 00:35:12.280 like, and I don't even try to keep up with this shit like it 485 00:35:12.320 --> 00:35:15.559 is forced upon me, like between Will and Jada, Blue Face and Krashan, 486 00:35:15.679 --> 00:35:20.840 like it is forced upon me, you know what I mean? And 487 00:35:20.880 --> 00:35:24.239 the only thing I really got from this is men being your kids' lives, 488 00:35:24.559 --> 00:35:30.400 all right, Men being your kids' lives. I won't say especially your daughters, 489 00:35:30.800 --> 00:35:35.760 because the way all three of them is acting, it's given very much. 490 00:35:35.800 --> 00:35:38.760 I ain't had no dad growing up, Blue Face especially Okay, it's 491 00:35:38.800 --> 00:35:43.559 given very much. I ain't had no daddy around when I was growing up. 492 00:35:43.840 --> 00:35:47.400 That's why Wold and out give. It's giving, it's given right, 493 00:35:47.960 --> 00:35:52.559 it's given. It's giving very much. I ain't had no daddy around when 494 00:35:52.599 --> 00:35:54.679 I was growing up. Like, I am done. I want to get 495 00:35:54.719 --> 00:36:00.519 off this train. Like Fellas, please be in your kids' lives. I've 496 00:36:00.559 --> 00:36:07.159 seen daddy issues produce savages and simps, and this has never been a more 497 00:36:07.199 --> 00:36:15.480 clear example like being your kids' lives just to do God damn, like y'all 498 00:36:15.480 --> 00:36:20.440 be draining me, draining me. I mean, I feel for all the 499 00:36:20.519 --> 00:36:25.480 kids involved. I really hope that they get the attention that they need from 500 00:36:27.079 --> 00:36:31.760 quote unquote the parents that they have. But yeah, that's just another thing 501 00:36:31.840 --> 00:36:36.039 that I don't when to bring into twenty and twenty four. So yeah, 502 00:36:36.119 --> 00:36:39.599 never gonna get to the edible portion of the show. So the edible portion 503 00:36:39.880 --> 00:36:44.920 is when I read questions, comments, stories that you got send in. 504 00:36:45.360 --> 00:36:49.400 I usually put a prompt up on the day that we record, but if 505 00:36:49.440 --> 00:36:52.119 the prompt is too short, or if you have something you want to tell 506 00:36:52.159 --> 00:36:54.039 me and I didn't put the prompt up that day, all you have to 507 00:36:54.079 --> 00:37:00.920 do is DM me or you can email it to inquiries at stormy p ea 508 00:37:00.400 --> 00:37:07.320 dot com. All right, so let's get to some of today's questions. 509 00:37:07.320 --> 00:37:13.239 But first time we get a little dranky drink. Oh shut up, shot, 510 00:37:15.519 --> 00:37:16.639 it's hot and I feel like my hair is trying to freeze up on 511 00:37:16.679 --> 00:37:20.840 me. I feel like this whole episode. If you're watching on YouTube, 512 00:37:20.840 --> 00:37:24.840 you like DM girls stopped touching it here I can't. Okay, So the 513 00:37:24.880 --> 00:37:34.199 first question, what is the hardest lesson you had to learn? I don't 514 00:37:34.199 --> 00:37:37.119 know if you meant like this year or whatever, but the hardest lesson I 515 00:37:37.119 --> 00:37:43.000 had to learn is that these men aren't wasting my time. I am, 516 00:37:44.199 --> 00:37:47.000 and I'm gonna say it again. The hardest lesson I had to learn is 517 00:37:47.039 --> 00:37:53.000 that these men didn't waste my time. I did. And the reason I 518 00:37:53.000 --> 00:37:58.960 say that is because when I look back, any person who I ever felt 519 00:37:59.000 --> 00:38:02.960 like wasted my time, I already knew from the beginning that they weren't my 520 00:38:04.039 --> 00:38:08.480 person. Like, if that makes sense, like I already knew or they 521 00:38:08.599 --> 00:38:13.840 already told me. I don't want a relationship, I don't want more kids. 522 00:38:14.199 --> 00:38:17.159 My work ethic is trash. Okay, I don't take care of my 523 00:38:17.239 --> 00:38:23.840 kids, Like I already knew that these people didn't possess the qualities that my 524 00:38:24.000 --> 00:38:29.760 husband was going to So it's like, instead of listening to that, I 525 00:38:29.880 --> 00:38:32.920 just want to give them another chance. And I play it myself. I 526 00:38:34.039 --> 00:38:37.000 wasted my own time. I kept conversing with them, I kept giving them 527 00:38:37.000 --> 00:38:39.840 access to me. Sometimes I even gave them my body. And it's like, 528 00:38:39.920 --> 00:38:45.239 Yo, these people didn't waste my time. I did. And once 529 00:38:45.360 --> 00:38:51.400 you start enforcing your standards, your boundaries, and you really pay attention to 530 00:38:51.440 --> 00:38:54.280 stuff, pay attention to red flags, like you'll realize like, yo, 531 00:38:54.360 --> 00:39:02.960 these people aren't wasting my time. I am like, I will never look 532 00:39:04.039 --> 00:39:08.400 at a I don't think I'll ever look at a situation like somebody wasting my 533 00:39:08.400 --> 00:39:15.880 time again, because it's the accountability baby, Like that's the I even like 534 00:39:16.480 --> 00:39:21.280 looking back on people who I thought wasting my time. It's not one person 535 00:39:21.320 --> 00:39:23.679 who I can point out and be like, damn, if it was a 536 00:39:23.679 --> 00:39:27.599 snake, it would have bit me. No, I can point out each 537 00:39:27.679 --> 00:39:31.360 time when I saw that they weren't the one for me, and whether it 538 00:39:31.440 --> 00:39:37.880 be loneliness, whether it be desperation, whether it be boredness, like I 539 00:39:37.920 --> 00:39:42.559 still chose to give them play. Somebody told me that the people that I 540 00:39:42.559 --> 00:39:47.440 had in my life died particularly didn't want is a reflection of myself to mouth. 541 00:39:47.760 --> 00:39:51.719 Yeah, and in some shape or form, is a reflection of a 542 00:39:51.760 --> 00:39:53.639 bad habit, the way I feel about myself. How much respect I have 543 00:39:53.719 --> 00:39:59.000 for myself? Would I think I'm worth? Yeah? I agree. Man, 544 00:39:59.159 --> 00:40:00.960 if you keep running the people that are wasting your time, at some 545 00:40:01.039 --> 00:40:04.440 point you have to look at it like it's a reflection on yourself. Like 546 00:40:04.440 --> 00:40:08.559 should I said, Like what are you doing? The life says appreciate that 547 00:40:08.599 --> 00:40:14.280 accountability. Most people know it's a waste. You do like you know it's 548 00:40:14.360 --> 00:40:27.000 a waste, but you you feel like you you know. I think that 549 00:40:27.280 --> 00:40:30.800 we have these people who waste our time, or these seat fillers seat fillers 550 00:40:30.880 --> 00:40:35.440 as I like to call them. We do this because we're bored. We 551 00:40:35.519 --> 00:40:38.039 don't want to be by ourselves. Now, I'm not telling you it's gonna 552 00:40:38.039 --> 00:40:40.719 be easy. I'm not telling you it's gonna be fun. But I am 553 00:40:40.719 --> 00:40:44.880 gonna tell you're gonna protect your peace, and if that's what you want, 554 00:40:44.920 --> 00:40:50.880 you gotta stop wasting your time. That's it. That's it. The next 555 00:40:50.920 --> 00:41:02.320 one, What is your biggest flex. I think my biggest flex is that 556 00:41:04.800 --> 00:41:10.079 I have daddy issues, but my son doesn't. Like I think that's one 557 00:41:10.079 --> 00:41:16.039 of the things I'm really fucking proud of. Yeah, generational curses broke in 558 00:41:16.039 --> 00:41:19.840 my nigga, like because I'm not gonna hold you. Even My mom had 559 00:41:19.920 --> 00:41:22.599 daddy issues, and she had a very involved father, but he was one 560 00:41:22.599 --> 00:41:30.079 of those strong and silent types, which is very damaging. Okay, But 561 00:41:30.400 --> 00:41:32.960 I really like the fact that when I was growing up, I couldn't call 562 00:41:34.000 --> 00:41:36.599 my dad at the drop of a dime. I couldn't count on my dad 563 00:41:36.639 --> 00:41:40.920 for shit. He wasn't at any of my major accomplishments, Like I could 564 00:41:40.960 --> 00:41:49.159 not rely on him. But my son, my son has Probably I may 565 00:41:49.199 --> 00:41:52.280 be a little biased, but he got like the best dad in the world. 566 00:41:52.039 --> 00:41:55.239 And I'm not even with this man, and I have no desires to 567 00:41:55.239 --> 00:42:02.360 be with this man. Like I just know I let the right one. 568 00:42:05.679 --> 00:42:10.400 All I'm saying is, lit's say, if you haven't dad problems, I 569 00:42:10.400 --> 00:42:14.639 feel bad for you, son. I got ninety nine problems, but a 570 00:42:14.679 --> 00:42:19.800 baby daddy ain't one. What's up? Like, I I don't know. 571 00:42:21.039 --> 00:42:24.599 Like I love the fact that he's a great father, he's a great partner, 572 00:42:25.119 --> 00:42:30.639 and we both were able to put ourselves on our feelings and our feelings 573 00:42:30.639 --> 00:42:31.440 for each other to the side and be like, yo, he's the most 574 00:42:31.480 --> 00:42:37.000 important. Like I really do think that is my biggest flex. You can 575 00:42:37.039 --> 00:42:39.119 say whatever you want about me, but you never gonna be able to say 576 00:42:39.119 --> 00:42:42.760 anything about my son in the way he is with his father, And I 577 00:42:42.800 --> 00:42:45.320 really do think that's my biggest flex. Like, that's the one thing that 578 00:42:45.360 --> 00:42:47.039 I am most proud of, like that I've accomplished thus far. And I 579 00:42:47.079 --> 00:42:51.199 don't even know if that would be considered an accomplishment. I just know that 580 00:42:51.480 --> 00:42:55.360 is like what I'm definitely most proud of. I don't care how many awards 581 00:42:55.360 --> 00:43:00.679 I win. I don't care how many you know, mhmm, yeah, 582 00:43:00.679 --> 00:43:04.400 I don't care how many awards I win. I don't care how much money 583 00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:07.079 I make. Like, my son is always gonna be good, and I 584 00:43:07.079 --> 00:43:08.960 love that for him. I love that he's going to be able to experience 585 00:43:09.000 --> 00:43:12.719 things that I never could. I really do love that for him. So 586 00:43:12.800 --> 00:43:17.880 yeah, that's it. This one, isn't it edible? We gonna switch 587 00:43:17.920 --> 00:43:22.880 gears real fast. That's enough of that. Simply shit, somebody send us 588 00:43:22.880 --> 00:43:34.039 to my baby father so I don't gotta buy him nothing for Power's Day. 589 00:43:35.840 --> 00:43:38.079 So this wasn't edible. But this is a question that I had for y'all, 590 00:43:38.519 --> 00:43:45.840 and I want y'all to think about it. Right, What would you 591 00:43:45.920 --> 00:43:53.559 do if you had a game night and your girlfriend couldn't read? No? 592 00:43:53.679 --> 00:43:59.239 Seriously, like, what would you do if you had a game night and 593 00:43:59.320 --> 00:44:02.679 the person you can read? Like and all your friends are there, everybody 594 00:44:02.800 --> 00:44:07.280 been drinking, we all live. What would you do if you had a 595 00:44:07.360 --> 00:44:14.920 game night and the person you couldn't read? I'm talking about like full finger 596 00:44:15.239 --> 00:44:19.960 under all the words, right, I'm talking about like they picked a card 597 00:44:20.039 --> 00:44:34.840 up and they sound like old boy from South Park. What would you do? 598 00:44:35.039 --> 00:44:40.719 Baby? What would you do? What would you do? You sound 599 00:44:40.840 --> 00:44:51.480 like old boy from traffic Thunder? You made me? What do you gotta 600 00:44:51.599 --> 00:44:55.119 do? I'm not gonna hold you all. I would feel betrayed. The 601 00:44:55.119 --> 00:44:59.719 whole night is over. The whole night is over, because how did I 602 00:44:59.840 --> 00:45:02.360 know this that you could read before we got here? Once again, I'm 603 00:45:02.360 --> 00:45:07.199 missing red flags. I missed some major red flags. Okay, Damn, 604 00:45:07.239 --> 00:45:09.639 I ain't never noticed that he used to talk to text all the time. 605 00:45:09.840 --> 00:45:15.800 Shit shit, all right. I never noticed that my man always want to 606 00:45:15.880 --> 00:45:22.159 use voice notes. I never noticed, like, what would you do? 607 00:45:22.239 --> 00:45:24.199 I'm not gonna lie. I'd be like Dave Chappelle, I just flip all 608 00:45:24.199 --> 00:45:30.440 the shit over, run scatter. I don't know. I don't know. 609 00:45:30.079 --> 00:45:39.159 What would you do? Live says, act like they had too much to 610 00:45:39.239 --> 00:45:44.599 drink and send him to the corner to sleep it off. No, because 611 00:45:44.599 --> 00:45:47.320 what if they're like, I'm not sleepy. I don't want to sleep. 612 00:45:49.719 --> 00:45:52.880 No, they don't say I'm not sleepy. They say I'm good. But 613 00:45:52.000 --> 00:45:57.000 I'm good. I'm not even drunk. I ain't even drunk. I'm not 614 00:45:57.079 --> 00:46:02.159 drunk. I ain't even drunk drunken. But what if they're not drunk though? 615 00:46:02.760 --> 00:46:08.360 What if they are like barely buzzed and they can't read. You can't 616 00:46:08.360 --> 00:46:10.679 even be like, yo, bro, go sleep it off, Yo, 617 00:46:10.760 --> 00:46:16.239 bro, go sleep it off. I'm not drunk. What happens. I'm 618 00:46:16.280 --> 00:46:22.400 not gonna lie. I'm not. I don't feel bad. I wouldn't feel 619 00:46:22.400 --> 00:46:27.599 bad for them not knowing how to read out loud. I would feel bad 620 00:46:27.599 --> 00:46:31.480 for them because my friends about to grind them up. Okay, my friends 621 00:46:31.519 --> 00:46:36.559 are about to eat you alive in person, and then they're gonna try around 622 00:46:36.559 --> 00:46:43.199 to eat me alive in the groove chats group chat. Worse because it got 623 00:46:43.239 --> 00:46:52.559 gifts. I know my friends. My friends wouldn't say nothing. You just 624 00:46:52.599 --> 00:46:57.039 hear all of our phones going off ding ding ding ding p ding ding ding 625 00:46:57.119 --> 00:47:02.719 ding, and it's all just different gifts of real bad, real bad, 626 00:47:02.920 --> 00:47:06.920 real bad. So yeah, that's that's something I want you to think about. 627 00:47:07.960 --> 00:47:12.960 Listen, man, so quick recrap, quick recap. Uh uh, 628 00:47:13.599 --> 00:47:21.840 I don't even jock a quick recap Number one. Make sure you guys support 629 00:47:21.920 --> 00:47:24.840 my new organization, Hose Without Hoodies. Okay, ladies. If you would 630 00:47:24.880 --> 00:47:31.199 like to join our list, please email inquiries at stormypea dot com. Fellas, 631 00:47:31.199 --> 00:47:35.119 if you would like to donate, please let me know. I can 632 00:47:35.159 --> 00:47:37.400 give you the po box. Please spread it with a little bit of cologne. 633 00:47:37.440 --> 00:47:40.280 Make it fancy all right, sleeping in a day or two, make 634 00:47:40.360 --> 00:47:45.880 us feel loved all right. Holds without Hoodies, let's get it next. 635 00:47:45.440 --> 00:47:51.280 If you're saying to yourself, you can't find a good man who makes six 636 00:47:51.360 --> 00:47:53.400 figures and drives this type of car and lives in this type of house, 637 00:47:53.519 --> 00:47:59.000 also act yourself. Do you think that type of man would be at the 638 00:47:59.039 --> 00:48:01.280 hole in the wall bar that you go to every weekend? No, well, 639 00:48:01.320 --> 00:48:06.440 then change your attitude, change your atmosphere. Okay, And you also 640 00:48:06.519 --> 00:48:09.119 have to ask yourself, like, Yo, if I was this man's mom, 641 00:48:10.400 --> 00:48:15.800 would I want him dating a girl like you? Think about it? 642 00:48:15.960 --> 00:48:21.280 Think about it, not even net. If you were this man's mom, 643 00:48:22.000 --> 00:48:27.079 would you want him dating a girl like you? Like? Would you yes? 644 00:48:27.159 --> 00:48:32.400 Or no? Think about it? Next when we break up, I 645 00:48:32.400 --> 00:48:38.239 will delete all your nudes, but you ain't getting these clothes back. Next 646 00:48:38.320 --> 00:48:42.360 thing, Please stop telling women you can't feel anything with the condom on. 647 00:48:43.920 --> 00:48:45.880 It's a non starter. It's going to do you more harm than good. 648 00:48:47.400 --> 00:48:51.920 Please don't say anything sexual to me until I say something sexual to you. 649 00:48:52.079 --> 00:48:57.280 Things I don't want to bring into twenty twenty four Will and Jada, Blue 650 00:48:57.280 --> 00:49:00.000 Face, Krashan and Jayden. I don't want to do any of it. 651 00:49:00.119 --> 00:49:04.599 What would you do if you had a game night and your partner couldn't read 652 00:49:04.599 --> 00:49:09.440 out loud? Just let that maridate follow me on the gram at Stormy p 653 00:49:09.760 --> 00:49:15.280 p e A at Chocolate Chip and sip and yeah, man, if you 654 00:49:15.360 --> 00:49:20.719 don't remember anything, else Remember it's holes out there without hoodies. I love 655 00:49:20.760 --> 00:49:22.760 you, guys, and I see you next week. Piece U