WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:12.279 This is pod Popular Podcast for the People, Great Love Debates. It's Great 2 00:00:12.640 --> 00:00:18.320 Love Debate, the Great Love Debate. It's a great loved to base. 3 00:00:18.920 --> 00:00:23.239 Hi again, everyone is Brian how We welcome to the Great Love Debate, 4 00:00:23.280 --> 00:00:27.879 the world's number one dating in relation podcast since twenty fifteen. I am coming 5 00:00:27.920 --> 00:00:32.520 here from the very fine studios of Pod Popular Podcasts for the People. I 6 00:00:32.560 --> 00:00:36.359 am back at the one in Boca Ratone, Florida. It's a lovely time 7 00:00:36.359 --> 00:00:41.640 of year, but as I record this, it's also scorpio season. As 8 00:00:41.640 --> 00:00:45.880 they say, I had a birthday, and the amount of oh you're a 9 00:00:45.920 --> 00:00:49.679 scorpio dwarfed the amount of happy birthdays. People really are bothered by it. 10 00:00:49.719 --> 00:00:52.560 I know we did a podcast on I made that a couple of years ago. 11 00:00:53.240 --> 00:00:56.759 She did. But people are like, Eh, there really is audible 12 00:00:56.840 --> 00:01:00.439 scorpio discrimination. I don't even know how to fight it. So I'm going 13 00:01:00.520 --> 00:01:04.519 to bring in my guest here. She's very antsy. A couple of years 14 00:01:04.519 --> 00:01:08.000 ago, we had somebody named Mark Wahlberg on this podcast. Not that Mark 15 00:01:08.040 --> 00:01:11.359 Wahlberg, the other one, Mark L. Wahlberg. He was the host 16 00:01:11.359 --> 00:01:15.280 of a show called Temptation Island, and he was a really interesting guest. 17 00:01:15.319 --> 00:01:19.239 You can google look through the archives of it. He was great. And 18 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:23.840 the thing that was surprised me about him was he really cared about his cast 19 00:01:23.280 --> 00:01:26.239 I found that fascinating. He really wanted them to be happy. He really 20 00:01:26.239 --> 00:01:30.120 wanted things to work out. He wasn't just trying to stir the pot. 21 00:01:30.400 --> 00:01:34.560 My guest here, however, did stir the pot, and she was lured 22 00:01:34.599 --> 00:01:38.599 into possibly stirred the pot. She was on the most recent season of Temptation 23 00:01:38.680 --> 00:01:44.120 Island, which is on What USA USA Network. Yeah, she's got a 24 00:01:44.120 --> 00:01:46.760 lot to say. I asked her for that. I asked her if there's 25 00:01:46.760 --> 00:01:49.599 anything she didn't want to talk about. She looked like I was nuts. 26 00:01:49.640 --> 00:01:53.840 The lovely Marjorie Garotcha, how are you good? Thanks for having me. 27 00:01:53.920 --> 00:01:56.640 I'm so excited to be here. And is a nice girl like you end 28 00:01:56.719 --> 00:02:00.439 up on Temptation Island? You know, I've actually I've always been casted for 29 00:02:00.519 --> 00:02:05.120 TV shows, and they're all unscripted. As much as people want to believe 30 00:02:05.159 --> 00:02:07.960 that they're scripted, they're not. So. I was on MTV when I 31 00:02:08.159 --> 00:02:10.840 was oh my god, this it's two thousand and fourteen. I was not 32 00:02:10.919 --> 00:02:16.159 fourteen, and it was two thousand and fourteen for a totally different like it 33 00:02:16.199 --> 00:02:19.759 almost like a dating show, but it was about me being like a virgin, 34 00:02:20.120 --> 00:02:23.240 embarrassing like a virgin, or literally a version. I was still a 35 00:02:23.280 --> 00:02:27.400 virgin in high school. Yeah, so ever since it, yeah thanks, 36 00:02:28.199 --> 00:02:32.680 so ever since that, I just connected with one of the girls that reached 37 00:02:32.680 --> 00:02:35.840 out to me and I stayed in touch with her. She actually did Big 38 00:02:35.879 --> 00:02:38.319 Brother. She's like my casting agent, I would say, because she would 39 00:02:38.319 --> 00:02:39.879 always reach out to me and be like, Hey, do you want to 40 00:02:39.879 --> 00:02:42.280 do the Bachelor? Hey, do you want to do this? Do you 41 00:02:42.319 --> 00:02:45.680 want to do that? So I've been casted for years and I've been flown 42 00:02:45.719 --> 00:02:50.280 out to La twice to do other shows that I didn't know the name of 43 00:02:50.319 --> 00:02:53.039 it at the time because sometimes they just don't release the names right. So 44 00:02:53.120 --> 00:02:58.240 it's been on my is, which is a challenge that you're like, would 45 00:02:58.240 --> 00:03:00.520 you like to do? And they they're kind of nebulous what it is. 46 00:03:00.560 --> 00:03:05.360 It's like a network dating It's usually always a dating show. And I was 47 00:03:05.400 --> 00:03:07.800 always in an on and off relationship with the same person, So anytime she 48 00:03:07.800 --> 00:03:09.680 would approach me like hey, are you singles? Do you want to go 49 00:03:09.680 --> 00:03:12.800 on a dating show. I'm like, hell, yeah, let me find 50 00:03:12.840 --> 00:03:15.639 my soulmate, you know, like on a dating show, because like this 51 00:03:15.680 --> 00:03:19.960 guy sucks or whatever. Our longtime producer of this podcast, the two time 52 00:03:20.000 --> 00:03:24.240 Emmy Award winning Keko. She is the reality television producer and she even casts 53 00:03:24.280 --> 00:03:28.240 shows a lot where she says, I'm trying to cast these people. I 54 00:03:28.240 --> 00:03:30.360 can't say the name of it and I can't say the network. Yeah, 55 00:03:30.360 --> 00:03:32.560 you're trying to get people to buy in and say, uh yeah, I 56 00:03:32.560 --> 00:03:37.840 want to do this Temptation Island. Though it was on years and years ago, 57 00:03:38.080 --> 00:03:40.280 it took a hiatus, it's come back. Were you familiar with the 58 00:03:40.319 --> 00:03:46.520 show? I was, And actually I knew a kid the year before that 59 00:03:46.639 --> 00:03:51.120 win on that show. Oh so like he was a like we were just 60 00:03:51.159 --> 00:03:53.599 like friendly and he was kind of like approaching, meaning he's like, Hey, 61 00:03:53.680 --> 00:03:55.439 I'm going to go to Hawaii to film a TV show. I was 62 00:03:55.479 --> 00:03:59.719 like, okay, best of luck. And then one year later I got 63 00:03:59.719 --> 00:04:01.680 cast for that show and I was like, oh my god, you're not 64 00:04:01.719 --> 00:04:04.879 going to believe it. I was just casting for this show and I'm going 65 00:04:04.960 --> 00:04:08.879 to go And this is so wild because he's from the same area. As 66 00:04:09.000 --> 00:04:12.639 me. So the premise of that show is they have some couples who may 67 00:04:12.719 --> 00:04:15.759 or may not be in healthy relationships and they bring in some people to tempt 68 00:04:15.800 --> 00:04:21.800 them. Yeah, so you were a temp temptress? Is that determined? 69 00:04:23.600 --> 00:04:27.000 They call it tempty at temptee? Yeah, so okay, so you were 70 00:04:27.000 --> 00:04:30.800 a temptee and do you know what do they tell you, like, just 71 00:04:30.000 --> 00:04:34.639 go at it? And are you basically testing the stability of the relationship or 72 00:04:34.680 --> 00:04:38.000 you're like, I'm going to see if I can steal that guy? What 73 00:04:38.360 --> 00:04:44.279 is the mojo there? I'm pretty sure that's what they probably expect to happen. 74 00:04:44.319 --> 00:04:48.360 And everybody's like there's so many different personalities, so obviously during the casting 75 00:04:48.399 --> 00:04:51.759 process they probably look at that and like picked like the best girls with like 76 00:04:53.279 --> 00:04:56.759 who's like willing to go out there and get it. But like I was 77 00:04:56.800 --> 00:05:00.319 just like, if I like the person, I will do my part because 78 00:05:00.360 --> 00:05:02.839 I have been single for a really long time and I do want my soulmate. 79 00:05:02.879 --> 00:05:05.480 But like, once I got in there, I just felt like I 80 00:05:05.519 --> 00:05:10.040 had no connection with the boys, that that wasn't my m o. But 81 00:05:10.120 --> 00:05:13.519 if you do a connection, they're in a relationship. Yeah, there, 82 00:05:13.560 --> 00:05:15.680 well have you ever broken up somebody's relationship before? Have you ever stolen a 83 00:05:15.680 --> 00:05:21.839 guy before? Probably? I don't think so. I've been in drama with 84 00:05:21.959 --> 00:05:26.519 like ex girlfriends of like guys when like I've been down, the girlfriend has 85 00:05:26.560 --> 00:05:28.879 popped up and like been emotional and I'm like, what do you want me 86 00:05:28.920 --> 00:05:30.439 to do about it? But like, or you've been in a relationship and 87 00:05:30.519 --> 00:05:32.959 the right the girl comes around and you'll be like, this is my man, 88 00:05:33.000 --> 00:05:39.279 what are you doing? So don't the women by nature like get the 89 00:05:39.319 --> 00:05:43.120 fuck away from my dude. I'm totally like that. I would say I've 90 00:05:43.160 --> 00:05:46.319 definitely changed a lot. But like in college, when I was dating the 91 00:05:46.360 --> 00:05:48.399 guy I was dating and he was in a frat, the girl's in a 92 00:05:48.399 --> 00:05:50.839 sorority, and I went up there. There was like so much drama. 93 00:05:50.920 --> 00:05:54.160 The girl was like trying to say that they were a thing, and I'm 94 00:05:54.199 --> 00:05:57.120 like, girl, like he's my man or whatever. There was like the 95 00:05:57.160 --> 00:06:00.639 biggest drama. And I've had happened that before. But you know, it's 96 00:06:00.639 --> 00:06:03.800 always a challenge because you want to date somebody who other people desire you do 97 00:06:03.959 --> 00:06:08.120 that is the goal. You want somebody who is desirable to other people. 98 00:06:08.240 --> 00:06:10.920 You know, want somebody who'd be like, nobody wants that person. Well, 99 00:06:10.920 --> 00:06:12.720 I don't think of it that way. Well you got to be like, 100 00:06:12.759 --> 00:06:15.720 oh, everybody wants my man, but he's with me. I don't 101 00:06:15.759 --> 00:06:16.279 think of it that way. Well, how do you think of it? 102 00:06:16.319 --> 00:06:19.800 Then I just go from the person that I'm truly interested in. If you 103 00:06:19.879 --> 00:06:24.160 have like the things that I'm looking for, then I'm interested in you. 104 00:06:24.199 --> 00:06:26.319 If you don't, then you're a loser and I'm not interested in it. 105 00:06:26.360 --> 00:06:30.800 Oh. I agree with that. But some people can't handle the fact that 106 00:06:30.120 --> 00:06:33.399 other people might want their spouse, and I would been like, well, 107 00:06:33.399 --> 00:06:36.600 who wouldn't want them? They're awesome, you know, and that's a bound. 108 00:06:36.680 --> 00:06:40.279 Some people are just naturally jealous and some people aren't. I think it 109 00:06:40.319 --> 00:06:44.480 is validating when somebody wants my partner, you know. I think it's it's 110 00:06:44.519 --> 00:06:47.040 like, of course they do feel like a healthy jealousy, is what you're 111 00:06:47.079 --> 00:06:49.759 saying. Yeah, I think it's like like just validation. She's leaving with 112 00:06:49.800 --> 00:06:53.439 me. Yeah, she's my girl. I'm leaving with her, so good. 113 00:06:53.560 --> 00:06:56.600 I get that. But the purpose of that show these people going on. 114 00:06:56.839 --> 00:07:00.319 I don't question the people who are the temptees. I more questioned the 115 00:07:00.360 --> 00:07:02.399 people that are like, We're going to go on the show and see if 116 00:07:02.399 --> 00:07:05.959 some hotty can break us up. I would never bring my spouse on that 117 00:07:06.040 --> 00:07:10.879 show. I wouldn't either. I went there as a single, and I've 118 00:07:10.920 --> 00:07:13.600 even thought about it so many times, like should I go on this? 119 00:07:13.680 --> 00:07:15.959 There was a point where I was just going to back out because I'm like, 120 00:07:15.199 --> 00:07:18.959 how's this going to make me? Look? But I mean I went 121 00:07:19.199 --> 00:07:24.639 and yeah, where where do you film this show? We were in Hawaii? 122 00:07:25.040 --> 00:07:27.680 So literally an island. Yeah, we were literally on an ale. 123 00:07:27.800 --> 00:07:30.920 Do you know had you been to Hawaii before? No? Okay, well, 124 00:07:31.319 --> 00:07:33.879 South Florida, you know, go to Hawaii. The beaches are nice. 125 00:07:34.079 --> 00:07:36.079 Did they tell you ahead of time that you're going to go to Hawaii? 126 00:07:36.279 --> 00:07:40.040 Yeah, we already knew. So even when I was being casted for 127 00:07:40.079 --> 00:07:42.360 the show, I already knew what the show was right away and where it 128 00:07:42.360 --> 00:07:45.480 was going to be filmed. Do they tell you how long you're going to 129 00:07:45.519 --> 00:07:47.439 be gone? They said it could be potentially up to a month. So 130 00:07:47.439 --> 00:07:51.120 I pretty much packed like three bags for like a month. So they tell 131 00:07:51.160 --> 00:07:55.800 you how much clothes to bring. They actually it's a whole process. You 132 00:07:55.839 --> 00:07:59.160 have to take a photo of you wearing every single outfit you're going to bring 133 00:07:59.199 --> 00:08:01.040 for them to approve it and send it like in an email, and then 134 00:08:01.040 --> 00:08:03.759 they tell you what they want you to like bring, like you can't wear 135 00:08:03.800 --> 00:08:07.360 stuff with logos on it, Yeah, stuff like that. But they also 136 00:08:07.360 --> 00:08:09.759 want to know that you're going to look good because you have to be properly 137 00:08:09.920 --> 00:08:13.519 tempting, right, I assume so, and I guess aesthetics, you know, 138 00:08:13.519 --> 00:08:16.519 they want to make sure not everybody's like repeating these same colors and whatnot. 139 00:08:16.600 --> 00:08:18.160 Like even when they came to our room for our photo shoot, they 140 00:08:18.639 --> 00:08:22.879 like made me try on so many different clothes for our photo shoot to make 141 00:08:22.879 --> 00:08:26.680 sure the girls were all like now, is are you assigned a couple that 142 00:08:26.720 --> 00:08:30.519 you're supposed to break up? Or is it just a big pile? No, 143 00:08:30.800 --> 00:08:33.799 just a big pile. You just like see who you're interested in, 144 00:08:33.840 --> 00:08:37.759 and you just like go and mingle. And actually, for the first time 145 00:08:37.799 --> 00:08:43.159 in Temptation history, we got to mingle with the couples where like we met 146 00:08:43.200 --> 00:08:46.000 them and like everybody stayed in the same house and we got to talk to 147 00:08:46.039 --> 00:08:50.200 like the girlfriends the boyfriends, and it was just like not what everybody was 148 00:08:50.240 --> 00:08:54.279 expecting and how much alcohol is there. We're limited to like two or three 149 00:08:54.360 --> 00:08:58.120 drinks. Oh so they're not trying to get you wasted. No, Okay, 150 00:08:58.679 --> 00:09:01.960 I'm here with Marjorie. She's talking about Temptation Island. But I'm going 151 00:09:01.000 --> 00:09:03.519 to get into why I brought here here, but that I really want to 152 00:09:03.559 --> 00:09:07.360 talk about on all this, I will. I got to take a quick 153 00:09:07.360 --> 00:09:11.559 break because we have to pay for trips to Hawaii and other things around here. 154 00:09:11.159 --> 00:09:18.919 We will be back right after this, and we are back. So 155 00:09:18.960 --> 00:09:24.159 here's why I brought you in. It is a challenge in the business world. 156 00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:30.679 It is a challenge in the dating world to balance you want to stand 157 00:09:30.720 --> 00:09:35.000 out and you want to be noticed. On the other hand, you don't 158 00:09:35.039 --> 00:09:39.879 want the attention of people who either have no value to creep you out whatever. 159 00:09:39.039 --> 00:09:43.679 How do you balance your public life, your social media life, your 160 00:09:43.720 --> 00:09:50.039 reality TV life with attention and then doesn't that part of that freak you out 161 00:09:50.039 --> 00:09:52.879 and been like, I don't want anybody to notice. I want to be 162 00:09:52.960 --> 00:09:54.879 left alone. I don't want these guys to bother me. I don't want 163 00:09:54.919 --> 00:09:58.000 these fans because suddenly when you go on a reality show, it's not like 164 00:09:58.080 --> 00:10:00.799 you grow up being an actor and actress singing or your son of you. 165 00:10:01.000 --> 00:10:03.639 Suddenly you have a lot of haters. Yeah, you have a lot of 166 00:10:03.720 --> 00:10:07.000 jealous women. You have a lot of creepy dudes. How do you balance 167 00:10:07.039 --> 00:10:11.639 that with still I want to be out there and be public and keep that 168 00:10:11.159 --> 00:10:15.960 balance. How do you do that? Honestly, I don't know myself, 169 00:10:16.039 --> 00:10:20.279 Like sometimes I just I have deactivated my Instagram before. I won't do it 170 00:10:20.360 --> 00:10:24.799 now because I have so many things that I want to like work on and 171 00:10:24.919 --> 00:10:28.960 like I aspire to be so much more. But it is hard because if 172 00:10:30.000 --> 00:10:33.320 you see someone out like first I used to get seen now and people would 173 00:10:33.320 --> 00:10:35.200 be like, oh, you're an influencer, Marge, you're an Instagram Like 174 00:10:35.200 --> 00:10:37.039 I don't consider myself an influencer, So I think that was always really like 175 00:10:37.080 --> 00:10:41.399 weird and awkward because guys always have something bad to say about that, like 176 00:10:41.440 --> 00:10:46.759 something negative, when I don't even thinking anything negative. But I don't know. 177 00:10:46.840 --> 00:10:50.200 It is tough. I don't really know. We're all trying to influence. 178 00:10:50.240 --> 00:10:54.159 If you're a realtor with a with a sign on a bus bench, 179 00:10:54.240 --> 00:10:58.360 or you're a personal injury attorney with a Billboard on ninety five. You're trying 180 00:10:58.399 --> 00:11:03.279 to stand out, be the the that person, the influencer in your industry, 181 00:11:03.320 --> 00:11:07.799 in your personal life. You're also trying to sort of cast a big 182 00:11:07.840 --> 00:11:11.080 net, capture the notice of people, and then sort of shuffle through it 183 00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:13.639 and been like these are the ones I want, these are the discard pile. 184 00:11:13.759 --> 00:11:16.919 Yeah, totally. That's a challenge. Yeah, it's really tough, 185 00:11:18.080 --> 00:11:20.559 and you don't want to make anyone feel like they're like you're like better than 186 00:11:20.559 --> 00:11:24.879 them. No, you know, but I've come a long way with like 187 00:11:24.960 --> 00:11:28.360 just like relationship and friendships that like if you aren't adding, like filling my 188 00:11:28.440 --> 00:11:30.960 cup, then I don't want you around me. And it's not because of 189 00:11:31.000 --> 00:11:33.159 like you're not at the same wavelength I am, as far as like status, 190 00:11:33.200 --> 00:11:37.240 like I've been on TV and you haven't. It's just I need to, 191 00:11:37.440 --> 00:11:39.879 like I don't know state of myself sometimes. So when you were in 192 00:11:39.960 --> 00:11:43.320 high school, were in high school around here, Yes, I grew up 193 00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:52.440 here, Carefield Beach right down the street, and you had some notoriety in 194 00:11:52.519 --> 00:11:54.440 high school. How did the high school people react to that, I mean, 195 00:11:56.840 --> 00:12:00.919 she's not a virgin. Well, honestly, it was like I was 196 00:12:00.960 --> 00:12:03.320 always like well known and popular. I don't know why, like in middle 197 00:12:03.320 --> 00:12:05.759 school and in high school, and a lot of the girls, like especially 198 00:12:05.799 --> 00:12:09.120 the cheerleaders, they did not like me for whatever reason. But like I 199 00:12:09.200 --> 00:12:13.080 was that girl that always like put herself together, always did my makeup for 200 00:12:13.159 --> 00:12:16.480 school, and you could never say one negative thing about me other than like 201 00:12:18.120 --> 00:12:20.600 hate me for whatever, for my physical because I was a virgin. I 202 00:12:20.639 --> 00:12:24.399 didn't sleep around with anybody, I didn't get with anybody, but I was 203 00:12:24.440 --> 00:12:28.120 hated for no reason. Yeah, no, I get that too. So 204 00:12:28.120 --> 00:12:33.480 does it bother you more, either online or in real life? Comments from 205 00:12:33.519 --> 00:12:41.639 women or comments from men, Like what's worse the haters or the creepers? 206 00:12:41.440 --> 00:12:46.279 I mean they both, they're both bad, I think men. I think 207 00:12:46.519 --> 00:12:50.879 men to talk like shit about girls is just so weird, Like you're a 208 00:12:50.919 --> 00:12:54.080 man, like stay in your lane. They talk about what they can't get. 209 00:12:54.399 --> 00:12:58.720 Yeah, there's always like she's a bitch, she's lesbian. I think 210 00:12:58.720 --> 00:13:01.480 that's really weird. They need to come up with the reason why you're not 211 00:13:01.600 --> 00:13:03.720 interested in that. Yeah, because girls are catty and envious. But like 212 00:13:03.759 --> 00:13:07.600 for a man to say something because none of my I confide in my male 213 00:13:07.679 --> 00:13:11.759 friends because they're not envious and they're men, they're not women. So for 214 00:13:11.840 --> 00:13:15.759 a man to say negative things about me, which I've had said before with 215 00:13:15.840 --> 00:13:18.799 like other articles about me online, like I think it's super weird. How 216 00:13:18.799 --> 00:13:26.080 do you not respond? Or do you respond? I don't respond? Ever, 217 00:13:26.240 --> 00:13:30.679 did you No? I've learned of my attorneys to not respond, but 218 00:13:31.679 --> 00:13:33.720 you must have at some point You'll be like, I, it's really hard 219 00:13:33.759 --> 00:13:37.559 to keep your mouth shut. Oh T Did's so hard because I'm so straightforward 220 00:13:37.600 --> 00:13:41.120 and I'm like very confrontational, so like I like to check people and put 221 00:13:41.120 --> 00:13:46.200 them in their place. But you know, sometimes silence is like the best 222 00:13:46.200 --> 00:13:48.679 way to go. Is the reality show that you thought about doing or got 223 00:13:48.679 --> 00:13:50.440 asked to do and you didn't do it, and you're like, shit, 224 00:13:50.519 --> 00:13:58.279 I should have done amazing race after the reality show, Like when I got 225 00:13:58.320 --> 00:14:01.399 eliminated first, I was like, uh, I kind of regret going, 226 00:14:01.519 --> 00:14:05.519 but also I don't regret it because I had such a great experience and I 227 00:14:05.519 --> 00:14:09.360 would like to do another show, like another dating show. Are you eliminating? 228 00:14:09.440 --> 00:14:11.519 Is do they have an exclusive for a certain amount of time? Like 229 00:14:11.559 --> 00:14:13.600 you can't go do the Bachelor for like a year. Yeah, it's like 230 00:14:13.679 --> 00:14:18.879 six months. We have a contract until after the air date, so you're 231 00:14:18.919 --> 00:14:22.279 home free. Maybe that was June. Yeah, yeah, okay, it's 232 00:14:22.320 --> 00:14:26.799 almost you're almost home free by the time they start testing again. What did 233 00:14:26.840 --> 00:14:33.759 you what was different about the reality TV experience than you expected? Did you 234 00:14:33.759 --> 00:14:35.159 get used to having all the cameras around? What was what was like, 235 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:41.240 Oh, this is kind of not what I was expecting, honestly because I've 236 00:14:41.240 --> 00:14:45.759 been on reality TV before, but they came here to film me in my 237 00:14:45.960 --> 00:14:48.960 life. It was different than because I got to live in a villa this 238 00:14:48.039 --> 00:14:54.240 time with people. But I guess just really the fact that like they don't 239 00:14:54.240 --> 00:14:56.919 pressure you to do anything or say anything like my producers or like in and 240 00:14:56.960 --> 00:15:00.320 out, just like chatting with us, making sure we're all good, and 241 00:15:00.399 --> 00:15:03.799 like you just go on and live your life. And the camera people they're 242 00:15:03.840 --> 00:15:09.039 only there really at night for the parties and it's like three men and the 243 00:15:09.039 --> 00:15:11.759 rest is just like cameras all around the house that it's like filming you are 244 00:15:11.759 --> 00:15:13.039 you miked the whole time, You're micd the whole time, so we're in 245 00:15:13.080 --> 00:15:18.519 the mic pack. So you literally wake up, you get COVID tested and 246 00:15:18.559 --> 00:15:20.399 then you go into the room and stay hi to your person. It's the 247 00:15:20.440 --> 00:15:22.840 guy in the morning of the girl. I really forgot their name. And 248 00:15:22.840 --> 00:15:26.080 then they just mic you up. And then you go into the kitchen. 249 00:15:26.159 --> 00:15:30.120 You live your life like there's nobody filming you, like going behind you miked 250 00:15:30.200 --> 00:15:31.679 up, miked up, that's the first thing you have to do before you 251 00:15:31.759 --> 00:15:35.720 get inside the house. Huh, COVID testing. So you did this, 252 00:15:35.799 --> 00:15:39.639 you film this during it was still COVID going on. Well, I don't 253 00:15:39.639 --> 00:15:41.480 know if it was still really COVID. I don't know what Hawaii's regulations were 254 00:15:41.600 --> 00:15:45.639 them, but I guess they just wanted to make sure like no one had 255 00:15:45.679 --> 00:15:48.159 COVID. So we had to get COVID tested every single day because we filmed 256 00:15:48.200 --> 00:15:50.840 last year in two thousand and twenty two. Yeah, right, so October 257 00:15:50.840 --> 00:15:54.200 I still doing that then, Jesus, it's crazy. Yeah, Bobby rules 258 00:15:54.240 --> 00:16:00.080 on it. Then that you forget about the mics and the totally forget. 259 00:16:00.360 --> 00:16:06.360 Did you totally forget? Because you'll be like talking like about somebody or like 260 00:16:06.559 --> 00:16:07.000 and next thing you know, you're like, oh my god, they can 261 00:16:07.039 --> 00:16:08.240 hear me. You're like, oh, oh my god, I have to 262 00:16:08.279 --> 00:16:11.639 go pee, and then I'm like, hey, sorry, I'm saying this 263 00:16:11.679 --> 00:16:15.120 out. The mic is on you all all the time. When you go 264 00:16:15.159 --> 00:16:18.240 pee, it's on you, Like we got three cameras on us. Now 265 00:16:18.279 --> 00:16:23.480 I almost forgot that exactly. You just forget So you didn't obviously find love 266 00:16:23.639 --> 00:16:27.559 on this? Yeah, and did you? What did you learn about yourself? 267 00:16:27.600 --> 00:16:33.039 Though you're able to survive a flight to Hawaii? I feel like I 268 00:16:33.159 --> 00:16:37.039 learned that I truly have come a really long way because I have been in 269 00:16:37.080 --> 00:16:41.679 a back and forth relationship with my ex boyfriend for like, legit four or 270 00:16:41.720 --> 00:16:44.399 five years. That like when I put my foot down last year in August, 271 00:16:45.279 --> 00:16:48.559 the show was presented to me in September, I filmed in October and 272 00:16:48.759 --> 00:16:53.919 being around those couples and just seeing everybody's like reactions, and they were so 273 00:16:55.080 --> 00:16:57.840 reactive that I'm like, Wow, I'm not like you guys, actually, 274 00:16:57.879 --> 00:17:02.399 like I've not in a bad way, but like the whole toxic relationship, 275 00:17:02.440 --> 00:17:03.759 I'm like, wow, I'm so glad. That's like, but you weren't 276 00:17:03.880 --> 00:17:07.319 right, so you want to I have been there, right, so I've 277 00:17:07.440 --> 00:17:11.240 realized that, like, wow, I have evolved so much being here, 278 00:17:11.400 --> 00:17:12.720 like seeing the outsiders. I was like, oh my god, I really 279 00:17:12.720 --> 00:17:15.640 have really come a long way. So it became like almost like a friend 280 00:17:15.680 --> 00:17:19.079 to the boys, like for them to confide in what was the most toxic 281 00:17:19.119 --> 00:17:25.079 thing about your toxic relationship? I feel like just gaslighting and just like not 282 00:17:25.160 --> 00:17:26.960 really supportive. It just like one day wanted to be with me and one 283 00:17:27.039 --> 00:17:30.319 day we didn't want to be with me. But it was like on for 284 00:17:30.480 --> 00:17:33.799 five years. That's a long that's a lot of days on, a lot 285 00:17:33.839 --> 00:17:37.400 of days off. It's a long. That's five years in your twenties too, 286 00:17:37.920 --> 00:17:41.160 right, that's a valuable time lash, yeah, one hundred percent. 287 00:17:41.799 --> 00:17:45.039 And you know you it's what's the point, what's the point of going with 288 00:17:45.079 --> 00:17:48.480 that back and forth? Like just end it and move on with your life. 289 00:17:48.559 --> 00:17:51.599 Right, But then they're like they don't want you, but they don't 290 00:17:51.599 --> 00:17:53.319 want anybody else to have you. And then you get into that exact question 291 00:17:53.599 --> 00:17:56.920 exactly, and then they are because you are very public and they're watching you 292 00:17:56.960 --> 00:18:00.880 on your social media and then they're like, oh, she looks good. 293 00:18:00.039 --> 00:18:03.240 That wasn't my access situation. I would feel like, but I mean he's 294 00:18:03.240 --> 00:18:07.160 irrelevant anyways, I forget he exists. Thankfully after five years of back and 295 00:18:07.200 --> 00:18:11.839 forth. It's terrible. Now you're forgettable after five years and back and forth. 296 00:18:11.920 --> 00:18:15.440 Should have been it's all long overdue. When you wake up in the 297 00:18:15.480 --> 00:18:18.519 morning, do you have you plotted out your social media posts for the day? 298 00:18:18.680 --> 00:18:22.160 No? Are you going to give them the OOTD? Are you going 299 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:23.880 to like? Have you? Or is it just oh, this is going 300 00:18:23.920 --> 00:18:27.359 to make good content? What is the thought process for my social media posting? 301 00:18:27.440 --> 00:18:30.960 Yeah, honestly, I've changed my social media posting too. I used 302 00:18:30.960 --> 00:18:34.839 to love like working with brands and just like collaborating, but now I don't 303 00:18:34.880 --> 00:18:37.319 want to do that, so I'm being really low key on social media. 304 00:18:37.440 --> 00:18:41.880 Now you're a brand, right, So now I'm starting my own brand. 305 00:18:41.920 --> 00:18:44.920 I'm starting I'm launching a bikini line, so I want to focus on that. 306 00:18:45.039 --> 00:18:48.000 And I just don't want to be posting the same content that I was 307 00:18:48.039 --> 00:18:51.880 posting before because that's just irrelevant. And I've evolved so much so I don't 308 00:18:51.880 --> 00:18:55.920 plan anything out every single days. And so how does one launch a bikini 309 00:18:56.000 --> 00:18:57.599 line? Because me and McKay in the other room, we're probably not launching 310 00:18:57.640 --> 00:19:00.759 are you like? This is what I want to war? And this doesn't 311 00:19:00.799 --> 00:19:03.240 exist or it's pretty much what I look good in in this No, because 312 00:19:03.240 --> 00:19:07.119 you're Brazilian by descent, is that accurate? Correct? Yeah? The Brazilians 313 00:19:07.119 --> 00:19:11.039 are the queens of the bikini. We are and we love the beach. 314 00:19:11.160 --> 00:19:14.000 We love literally the beach, so I love it here too. I'm always 315 00:19:14.000 --> 00:19:17.400 in a bikini, but yeah, pretty much when I'm creating something that's like 316 00:19:17.519 --> 00:19:21.839 versatile, so it's you can be worn like day or night. And it's 317 00:19:21.839 --> 00:19:25.799 not just bikinis, it's beach where too. It's your work bikini. Pretty 318 00:19:25.880 --> 00:19:29.039 much going to the office, we need in office bikini. Weear like Lulu 319 00:19:29.079 --> 00:19:34.240 Lemon made workout Woman Workout where functional and fun exactly. You're on it all 320 00:19:34.319 --> 00:19:37.400 right, this is your first time on this podcast. We play something called 321 00:19:37.519 --> 00:19:41.640 worst date or first date, So you either have to give us the absolute 322 00:19:41.680 --> 00:19:45.799 worst date you've ever been on or the best first date you've ever been on, 323 00:19:45.880 --> 00:19:52.319 your choice, and we hope we're gonna have to think about this because 324 00:19:52.319 --> 00:19:53.559 I don't give people the time of day. I haven't been on a day 325 00:19:53.559 --> 00:19:56.240 in a while, I know, but you've been dating a long time, 326 00:19:56.400 --> 00:20:00.440 so it's like, what was the worst date you've ever been on, or 327 00:20:00.480 --> 00:20:02.880 really the greatest first day you've ever ready. Your choice doesn't have to be 328 00:20:02.920 --> 00:20:07.960 bad. It could be good or bad. Honestly, I would say the 329 00:20:08.000 --> 00:20:11.759 best day that I've ever went on was when one of my friends came down 330 00:20:11.960 --> 00:20:17.640 into town and we actually went We had like a private tour in Miami with 331 00:20:17.839 --> 00:20:21.519 like all of the animals and we got to hand feed one of the savannah 332 00:20:21.519 --> 00:20:23.200 cats. So that was it. Like a zoo. It was a zoo. 333 00:20:23.279 --> 00:20:27.880 Yeah, I forgot the wild I forgot the name of the zoo somewhere 334 00:20:27.920 --> 00:20:32.200 in Miami, but it was like two years ago, Miami Zoo. I 335 00:20:32.200 --> 00:20:33.480 don't know if there is, but it was like a private tour, like 336 00:20:33.640 --> 00:20:37.960 just us to the entire zoo. Oh really yeah, it was really cool 337 00:20:37.039 --> 00:20:40.160 how they set that up. That's a really good date. How they set 338 00:20:40.200 --> 00:20:44.400 that up. I mean he just did it helps that men, it's private 339 00:20:44.400 --> 00:20:48.759 tours. Good for him. Yeah, men like animal. If a man 340 00:20:48.839 --> 00:20:51.960 likes an animal, women tend to like that. Oh I love me a 341 00:20:52.000 --> 00:20:55.559 man that loves animals and a man that's like a golden retriever pretty much like 342 00:20:55.599 --> 00:21:03.880 personality so loyal. Yeah, like sweet those men those when to fetch not 343 00:21:03.960 --> 00:21:06.599 so much like I need you to be like, you know, a man 344 00:21:06.640 --> 00:21:10.839 in like not be too emotional. But yeah, I haven't been to that 345 00:21:10.880 --> 00:21:12.640 many zoos, but I think I always think zoos are kind of mean. 346 00:21:14.160 --> 00:21:15.839 No, totally, but a lot of the people who work at the zoos 347 00:21:15.839 --> 00:21:19.880 say they don't know anything else, and they are treated most zoos so well. 348 00:21:21.079 --> 00:21:22.759 For sure. I asked all the questions because I'm a huge animal lover, 349 00:21:22.839 --> 00:21:25.640 so when I was there, were asked. I was asking them like 350 00:21:25.680 --> 00:21:26.759 all the questions like do you guys take care of them? Do you guys 351 00:21:26.839 --> 00:21:30.039 like feed them daily? Do you guys do this? And they really do. 352 00:21:30.119 --> 00:21:32.759 They do take care of the animals, of course, because I went 353 00:21:32.799 --> 00:21:37.079 to the aquarium in Atlanta, which is like the biggest aquarium in the world, 354 00:21:37.519 --> 00:21:40.480 and they have this giant tank and there's a shark in there, and 355 00:21:40.519 --> 00:21:42.680 I go, how come the shark isn't just eating all the fish? Yeah, 356 00:21:42.680 --> 00:21:45.839 because you figure that's all sharks really want to do is eat there's fish 357 00:21:45.880 --> 00:21:48.599 all over the place, they're swimming around. Why don't they eat other things? 358 00:21:49.000 --> 00:21:52.480 And they said that, first of all, they keep them well fed, 359 00:21:52.519 --> 00:21:55.759 so they don't want to eat off cycle and they basically said, sharks 360 00:21:55.759 --> 00:21:59.119 are incredibly lazy and they don't want to chase anything, so they only want 361 00:21:59.160 --> 00:22:02.599 like wounded things and dead things and and all that kind of stuff. I 362 00:22:02.599 --> 00:22:04.240 was like, oh, fun fact, Yeah that makes sense. I was 363 00:22:04.279 --> 00:22:07.319 curious, all right, this was fun plug. And first of all, 364 00:22:07.319 --> 00:22:10.799 what happened to that guy in the second? Is the second date after the 365 00:22:10.880 --> 00:22:15.400 after the zoo? Yeah, we spent like topic No, we actually spent 366 00:22:15.480 --> 00:22:17.799 like the whole weekend together. But this was like two years ago. We're 367 00:22:17.839 --> 00:22:22.200 just like really good friends. Now he doesn't want to hear that. That's 368 00:22:22.200 --> 00:22:23.559 so sad, like getting friend zone. Yeah, he got friends, so 369 00:22:23.640 --> 00:22:26.400 he took you to the zoo. I feel like I'm the weekend and now 370 00:22:26.400 --> 00:22:32.119 he's at friend zoning. Yeah, like pardon me, I can't commit like 371 00:22:32.160 --> 00:22:34.920 I want to. And then I'm afraid too because of like I just feel 372 00:22:34.920 --> 00:22:37.000 like I have so much other things I need to focus on. But then 373 00:22:37.039 --> 00:22:40.720 I do want to, like thanks for the kids, I got to focus 374 00:22:40.759 --> 00:22:44.119 next, and then uh no, not going to be the father of my 375 00:22:44.160 --> 00:22:45.680 babies? Like what is that conversation? No, Like, how do you 376 00:22:45.720 --> 00:22:48.759 friend zone them? You know? Like I was totally into it, Like 377 00:22:48.799 --> 00:22:52.039 while we spent time together and then like you know, bunts went on and 378 00:22:52.079 --> 00:22:55.480 we just didn't talk and we didn't talk for a year. And now I'm 379 00:22:55.519 --> 00:22:59.839 like not interested in that way, but I can take you to the zoo. 380 00:23:00.079 --> 00:23:02.720 Let's go back to the zoo. Yeah, but you know, things 381 00:23:02.839 --> 00:23:07.400 change. Oh, I'm interested in other people now because now you want to 382 00:23:07.400 --> 00:23:11.440 have babies. Yeah, Okay, that's a different point too. You date, 383 00:23:11.559 --> 00:23:17.039 You can't waste five years when that's your focus. Yeah, I mean, 384 00:23:18.039 --> 00:23:21.079 yeah, I don't. I not always say that I wanted to have 385 00:23:21.160 --> 00:23:25.240 kids when I was like really young, and I did, like I TMI, 386 00:23:25.559 --> 00:23:26.759 but I did get pregnant when I was twenty three with my ex. 387 00:23:26.799 --> 00:23:30.160 So I feel like that affected me for like two years and I'm past that 388 00:23:30.279 --> 00:23:33.519 now. But like all my friends have kids, all of them are engaged 389 00:23:33.519 --> 00:23:36.279 in all them, you know, just have their life. Well you're to 390 00:23:36.319 --> 00:23:38.200 wait five years till they're all getting divorced and they all hate the kids, 391 00:23:38.319 --> 00:23:41.759 right. I get it. If you dodged a bullet, it's not perfect, 392 00:23:41.799 --> 00:23:45.559 and I don't stress about it anymore. I used to stress about it. 393 00:23:45.599 --> 00:23:48.279 But I also am not just going to entertain you if you're just going 394 00:23:48.319 --> 00:23:49.920 to waste my time if we're not on the same wavelength. Can you be 395 00:23:51.000 --> 00:23:53.559 asked out by somebody in target? I can somebody just go up to you 396 00:23:53.599 --> 00:23:56.440 and be like, hey, I saw you in the band aids section. 397 00:23:56.640 --> 00:24:02.920 You want to go out? Have to do a whole process. I mean, 398 00:24:03.440 --> 00:24:08.039 I don't know, you're really sweet. I'm like, it's not you, 399 00:24:08.119 --> 00:24:11.240 it's me. I'm focused on myself right now, right, But if 400 00:24:11.240 --> 00:24:14.400 you're focus on yourself, then five years go by, I know, no, 401 00:24:15.240 --> 00:24:18.279 and it's not easy to date a girl who's focused on herself. And 402 00:24:18.799 --> 00:24:21.640 same thing with men. Men always use that line. I feel like, 403 00:24:21.799 --> 00:24:25.319 not necessarily with me based on my career. They do all that well because 404 00:24:25.359 --> 00:24:27.200 you just don't want anyone to take away from like what you're doing, what 405 00:24:27.240 --> 00:24:30.839 you want to like achieve in life, you know, because I feel like 406 00:24:30.839 --> 00:24:33.440 when I was in my relationship, it was like that he was never supportive. 407 00:24:33.480 --> 00:24:37.319 He was always just kind of making like rude comments. So if you're 408 00:24:37.359 --> 00:24:38.960 going to have someone that's not a support system, then what's the point. 409 00:24:40.200 --> 00:24:41.839 Totally agree, you should be able to do both. You should be able 410 00:24:41.880 --> 00:24:45.599 to build your empires with the support of each other. Right, you should 411 00:24:45.599 --> 00:24:48.240 be able to do that. If you're going to entertain anybody, whether you're 412 00:24:48.319 --> 00:24:52.319 like friends with benefits like having sex with them, I think it needs to 413 00:24:52.359 --> 00:24:55.400 be someone that it's a lease up to your standards, where like you could 414 00:24:55.440 --> 00:24:59.119 potentially have a future with because if you guys aren't on the same wavelength, 415 00:24:59.160 --> 00:25:02.799 you're like, you're a big YouTuber and she's not doing anything, Like how 416 00:25:02.799 --> 00:25:04.559 do you guys even relate? And you don't want anybody to hold you back. 417 00:25:06.200 --> 00:25:07.559 No, somebody's going to hold you back there. They're not going to 418 00:25:07.559 --> 00:25:11.839 need somebody to boost you up and encourage you one hundred percent. We have 419 00:25:11.839 --> 00:25:14.680 to be in the same that's hard to find career because people are going to 420 00:25:14.720 --> 00:25:15.920 be like, well if she gets you know, I've known a lot of 421 00:25:15.920 --> 00:25:21.480 girls who dated guys in bands, and they always admit to me they're secretly 422 00:25:21.559 --> 00:25:23.640 rooting for them to fail because they know if they become big stars, they're 423 00:25:23.640 --> 00:25:27.640 probably gone. That's you can't have that in a relationship. That is like 424 00:25:27.759 --> 00:25:30.079 terrible, I think, I know, but it's true. They're like, 425 00:25:30.279 --> 00:25:33.920 they get their record deal, they're going to go on tour, and they're 426 00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:37.039 going to leave me. Wow, Yeah, that's crazy. But so they 427 00:25:37.039 --> 00:25:38.920 admit it. They're like, yeah, I kind of want them to be 428 00:25:40.119 --> 00:25:41.759 just enough to pay the bills, but not enough to be a star. 429 00:25:42.279 --> 00:25:47.440 Crazy. Just so many people are like envious and it's wild they are. 430 00:25:47.480 --> 00:25:49.359 You can't be envious of your spouse, No, you really can't. And 431 00:25:49.440 --> 00:25:55.119 if she's somebody or he's somebody who gets the spotlight or wants the spotlight or 432 00:25:55.160 --> 00:25:57.759 it's part of who they are, you have to jine that spotlight. That's 433 00:25:57.799 --> 00:26:00.559 part of the deal, right. I did one guy that was super supportive 434 00:26:00.559 --> 00:26:06.160 about that, like never questioned me. And then and he was younger than 435 00:26:06.799 --> 00:26:08.240 what I like my accent, and I was just like, wow, it's 436 00:26:08.240 --> 00:26:11.680 so wild how some people are just so different. Like some people are really 437 00:26:11.680 --> 00:26:15.559 secure, Like it all comes down to, like insecurity, it's tough to 438 00:26:15.559 --> 00:26:18.119 get guys in their twenties, thirties, I guess any age to settle down, 439 00:26:18.279 --> 00:26:22.640 any age I get it to get off the ride. It's hard up 440 00:26:22.720 --> 00:26:26.599 until forties. And it's just yeah, stupid bastards, all right, tell 441 00:26:26.599 --> 00:26:30.839 everybody where they can find you, stock you and send you hateful messages. 442 00:26:32.440 --> 00:26:37.880 Marjorie Garacho m A r j ri E and yeah on Instagram you spelled the 443 00:26:37.920 --> 00:26:41.759 Marjorie. You can spelled the garacha. That's the hard part really, because 444 00:26:41.759 --> 00:26:44.200 as soon as you type in Marjori, it's the only Marjorie that pops up. 445 00:26:44.680 --> 00:26:48.039 That's true. Yeah, it's just Marjorie. 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