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Or hello. How welcome, how
pleased I am Luis Miguel Salgado It is

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what a good question and good as
we have already started this second season.

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I want to share that every Tuesday
we are broadcasting live from the Facebook page.

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This is a new initiative and also
to tell you that in this second

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season we have gone out on the
streets. We' re going out on

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the streets to ask different questions.
There are five new sections. One of

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them questions for adults and young people, if not for so many adults,

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about general culture. Elementary questions gets
very interesting. A second capsule. You

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can make money if you know.
Five questions. You can make money with

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us. A third, knowing about
your business, your brands, organization.

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A fourth is about talking about catchy
questions and, obviously, there will be

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prizes, promotions, discounts and many
things. What a good question, in

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addition to the interviews, we already
have more than a hundred interviews. What

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a good question with all kinds of
writers, singers, artists, actors,

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therapists, psychologists, psychologists and a
bunch of people that the truth is also

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interesting. I invite you to join
us today. Three people are here with

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me who surely one already know her
well, who is Francisco Legarreta Yeshi Cuevas

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and Saraí de Treviño. It'
s a pleasure to me, a privilege,

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because they' ve been with me
in the interviews, too. So

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I invite you to see your interviews. The interviews of these three guests are

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going to have a great time,
they are going to learn very interesting things

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and believe me that each of these
interviews are different, but the truth is

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that they are going to find exciting
answers. For me it is a pleasure

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and it is a privilege that accompanies
us on this night and also with us

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Marina, Marina is already here with
us. Welcome, Maria, Well Schres,

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very good night, Jeshi, how
are you Hello. Very good evening

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to all, very well to a
pleasure again to be able to share with

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you the invitation and I think that
with a very, very interesting subject that,

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if not at least ninety- five
percent has happened to you. If

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any of us have experienced it,
then already delighted. Welcome, Jeshi,

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and be there. What taste?
What a pleasure. She has a very

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interesting concept of queen frog. What
a pleasure that you' re here with

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us, how you' re there
you hear, because very much you don

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' t have to throw it chorg
that already came one of your episodes and

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it was extreme, so I think
we' re going to put you on.

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Let' s talk about interesting,
fun and also important things for people

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who are really, really welcome out
there, how you' re welcome,

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how you' re doing so well. Thank you very much. I'

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m happy to participate in one of
your programs and let' s see what

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happens. I' m super,
super intrigued, very interesting with today'

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s theme. I look like green
is because of the light, but I

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' m already going down the pancho
legarreta slap, don' t make yourself.

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It is because of the enchiladas that
you must see to live what taste,

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friends who accompany us in this wonderful
program that, as always our producer

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and all our State of fifty-
six collaborators, have us totally forced marches

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to reach you and your homes.
Thank you for giving us the trust.

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Gentlemen, you have ever been unfaithful, you have ever been with someone who

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has been unfaithful to you Have you
ever lived infidelity, either close to one

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way, in a relationship or far
away, that you have seen a friend,

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some friend, some hermano, some
sister who has been unfaithful or you

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have been unfaithful We would like all
the people who are seeing us to write

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us what their experience has been.
And good to open this topic. I

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would love to ask a question on
the table to see infidelity is the result

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of a problem in the relationship,
or it can even occur in solid relationships.

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Who wants to start. I'
d like you to start being there.

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Then Heje and then Marina, Pacho
le Garreto and you I send to

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the last wow you order ro.
But if there are about two, look

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definitely up here two because we'
re on Facebook. It' s not

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a word. Let' s just
say that man has the identity of textual

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time. It is true and continually
dange to hurt him at home. Obviously,

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I do the same as I somehow
abta. We may have to be,

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but we also believe that there may
be a tangen integral negronde. But

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the no- answers of the past
can lead to happy people who, not

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being your grandmother or there, weren' t thinking about your gaps. You

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' re living and I work the
bottom, there' s things like they

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come in like this, I think
I at least avoid the ok of the

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two jess and you think. I
think it' s good. To begin

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with, infidelity is that one of
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either pleasure, either at a given
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because it was cohabitation with another person
longer than with his partner. Not necessarily,

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infidelity occurs because one of the two
people has either stopped loving or at

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any given time have problems. Neither
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victim of infidelity is guilty. I
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an important point for people who have
suffered from infidelity is not our fault,

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it just occurred to our partner at
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not being us, ok ok son. You put two very interesting topics

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on it, one of them that
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not to blame and another that you
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because that enjoy don' t stain
it right now we talk about it.

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Marina, I' m going with
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' m very much in agreement with
Yadic right now. I think fidelity is,

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it' s not whether he left
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is the betrayal, the betrayal of
cohabitation with the other person and that is

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what hurts, because yes, it
does hurt, and I think it is

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important to also touch on that issue. What is it, what is it

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that hurts, no yes, if
knowing that the other person is with another

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human being and is doing things with
another human being or betraying some commitment that

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he had ok legorite pancho. I
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you as a therapist. Infidelity is
always related to the sexual subject, that

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is, there is only sexual infidelity
or what other type of infidelity there is.

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Or if sexual infidelity is the most
important in a relationship, not there,

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because it is a cluster of circumstances. But definitely the relationship I call

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it in the most purely technical language, genitality sex, because, then,

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sex we have in every cell of
the body. Rather it is the conjunction

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of the genitals or the putting into
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call that we are using our sexuality
when in reality, sexuality we use it

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in everything. So, again if
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yes, it is immersed in all
infidelity, because there are infidelities where genitals

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are not involved and in any case, there is sex at stake, either

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because they are homosexual infidelities in the
cases of those who have homosexual preferences or

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heterosexual infidelities, in those who have
heterosexual preferences or both for those who like

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it we call in the low world
the bicycle. The point is that infidelity

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occurs from the personal suffering of who
is dissatisfied or dissatisfied with himself and who

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seeks compensation for that suffering in another
person, from whom he said he was

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engaged or engaged. Okay I'
m going with you Sara there to see

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help us please just sexual infidelity,
or there are various types of infidelity.

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I have an idea out there that
I think there are several kinds of infidelity

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for me, but I don'
t know how to see you talk,

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from your point of view, please
and agree everything you know, enlighten us

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on this path. Yeah, there' s definitely a lot of infidelity.

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In fact, since you are,
to say the least, getting attention from

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someone and you get an adrenaline,
something you should only be having with your

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wife or husband, and you continue
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not the problem. Being drawn to
someone is not a sin. It'

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s what you do with that attraction
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re giving someone, a third party, into your relationship even if you don

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' t take it to something physical, because you' re getting from that

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person what would only look like to
get from your spouse or the person you

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' re in with the pact.
No, then, there' s definitely

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emotional infidelity, there' s infidelity. He also knows this question like ay,

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I don' t realize and I
flirt with you I stayed two three

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more seconds watching you and I received
that tasty adrenaline from the first moments with

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someone let' s say and that' s already infidelity. And we'

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re also going to what Francisco or
Pancho said. I don' t know

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how to tell you, but Francisco
Pancho, I agree there are so many

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svens. Thank you, thank you
in Mexico. In Mexico they tell Pancho

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Mae Ti son of I don'
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ugly they call him apancho, hey, hey, yeah, it' s

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true for a while I' m
just saying so let' s hear something

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Sarahi just said. It' s
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s a kind of emotional infidelity.
Jesshi, I' m going with you,

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but to see an important point.
We have an intellectual center, we

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have an emotional center, we have
a motor center with which we move,

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a sexual center, which is the
one that produces the most energy. And,

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obviously, each of the centers,
because this chemistry that Sarahi Yeshi says

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is handled differently. This all of
a sudden you turn someone over and they

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' re married or they' re
married, or even you' re married

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and they said something very important.
The attraction is not infidelity, but yes

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the toy, already when you start
with the toy already there, sonal is

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when you already squeeze the burra the
suit. I don' t know that

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' s what I said, but
that' s where I think that'

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s really it. Not all of
us can see the menu without at any

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given time giving ourselves to flirting or
giving the other side desire also to us.

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What if men go to their office
every day and find that they share

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more time with the person next door, who is possibly more dressed up than

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the one at home. Obviously there
is going to be a visual attraction,

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but at that moment, if you
allow yourself to remain like yourself, I

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can say hard with your feelings,
because of the one you see her and

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live with her and all there is
no subject. No. The problem is

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that when you already give her that
the flower and you are already sinuating it

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will be something, because at this
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the end of the day, as
I mentioned in the beginning, infidelity comes

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with the desire to do it now
in what good way you can do the

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strategy or the best simple and you
can simply stay honest with the person with

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whom you are, because part of
showing also love is with fidelity, not

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the respect to what the two had
left, of not breaking the bond of

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belonging faith to each other sexually.
Ok Jeschika tells us that then it is

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by decision, already when you decide. But other than that, you don

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' t just tell someone else.
Very interesting fact, when the one in

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the office is better arranged than the
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around, the one in the office
is well combed, perfumed, arranged and

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the one in the house goes with
flip flops and his shirt from America,

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which is frightening everywhere, because how
not now Madrina. Please, I want

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to ask you this issue of infidelity
and, of course, it is a

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betrayal, but there are traditions of
betrayal. It is not the same to

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give a rose that to go to
take a drag of those not or if

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it is the same, that is, there is little infidelity or infidelity of

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bigot. What do you think,
lack of treachery and feels ugly. But

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yes, I think there are levels
of betrayal, because one thing is ups,

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that is, I was snuck one
night and another thing is I already

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have another family. On the other
hand, no, no, but to

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see how I' m gossiped one
night before that, before I come back

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with you, I don' t
know the touch the a. I have

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a family. Let me, let
me, let me, interrupt you,

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right now, I' m still
with you. Thanks to Omar José Urbina.

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I want to see Sara there talking
about it. Thank you very much

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to Angel the godmother to czar there
is so accurate in her words. You

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' ve already brought Caesar Mesa Hello. I' m from Argentina and I

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share what you' re saying.
Breaking that trust does irreparable damage and the

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disappointment it causes is terrible. It
hurts so bad, Venus Lopez. Thank

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you. They are various types of
infidelity. Omar Olmos, we must not

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do what we do not want to
be done and van Osorio is in the

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house, my dear iván always and
van we send them a strong hug.

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You are, our follower, everywhere
we follow in some sense of the word.

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Good night, you' re here
You' re saying this about who

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we' re going about, about
the infidels. My dear iván hard and

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on the unbelievers, for there are
also unbelievers. Pancho legorreta nothing more.

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Infidelity occurs in men towards women,
or also between women and men. I

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know one that was my ex,
then I tell them you' re going.

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Pancho this recurring theme, therefore,
yes, friends, it turns out

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that although statistically, the man is
usually more unfaithful than the woman, because

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it happens only statistically, because in
practice infidelity occurs to exactly the same extent

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in men that there are women.
The thing is, women tend to be

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more discreet. That' s how
you think I am. So you'

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re saying that the good woman,
yes, the woman does, makes it

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better and quieter the man. We' re indiscreet, and we' re

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smug. Do not notice that I
lived in Fulanita and the truth is that

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it is not true at times.
Now be there I want to ask you.

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I understand that you are married and
that there are agreements in your marriage.

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In a marriage there are agreements.
There should be agreements between us,

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according to your experience and your marriage. How they make these agreements. They

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talk to you, they talk to
you openly, or they talk to you

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like that, you put limits,
or how do you do it? You

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do not fall into ventilating anyone,
neither your husband nor you, but who

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limits or how do you do it? My dear do there, because I

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think that, before setting limits or
putting the non- negotiable ones, what

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we call it, the most important
thing is to know who you are.

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Because knowing who you are, you
know what you value. Yes, knowing

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what you value is that you can
already establish something with someone else, that

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is, my limits. I lived
them in advance and then what happens that

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when we get to a relationship,
already rolling and I here you bring hearing

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aid also the producer. He'
s the one who connects everything to me.

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We talked about it from the beginning
that we wanted to make a team,

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which was a two- way relationship, an exclusive monogamous relationship, and

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when we got married, we made
this pact of it' s you and

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me. But I think one thing
that helps us a lot is that we

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are, we show ourselves how we
are with each other, that is,

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we are transparent. When I notice, to say, I have a specific

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type of man that I like and
Rolando long ago I' m going to

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try to be very quick, but
that he and my son of fourteen were

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seeing a pretty girl and Rolando said
I didn' t see her. I

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didn' t see her and I
love her if I just saw her.

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But Blanco, my husband is white
brown, like that from stress or daddy.

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You think in twelve years I'
m gonna think you' ve never

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turned around to see a woman.
I say what happens is that in twelve

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years I hadn' t seen him, because the truth is that if he

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does it he' s discreet,
but it was illogical for me to think

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no and turn and I said love. You think in twelve years. I

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' ve never seen a man,
no, but I mean, he dropped

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his life. And I say Daddy, what happens is that when I see

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something like that, I mean,
I see a man that attracts me,

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I turn around. That' s
what I do. For us you know

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our basis is biblical. So what
it says before sin runs away or not,

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resist it. But people can'
t handle this. No, I

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don' t trust me that much
and I do if I see something that

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I like, I turn around,
I mean, I don' t,

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I entertain him. No, then
this transparency. And then, when it

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happened to me and I told them
I told him, although he was surprised,

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I told him that the problem is
that you flirt a lot with the

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dirtbag and like Jershi said and a
long time ago. For me it'

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s what I' ve been saying
that I' m close to my life.

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I know what I want. It' s you and me. This

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is a pact, we' re
husbands, we have a family. Then

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whatever you need, pimp, tell
me, ask me, and what I

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need, I ask you, and
I ask you. We' re the

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only little time he can buy you
from. But we give ourselves up tastyly

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that I think it' s also
a problem of couple relationships that you don

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' t enjoy, but it'
s an intentional life. It' s

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what I' d say, we
intentionally live it. Those agreements. Let

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me, let me tell you and
congratulate you publicly, because I think it

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is also worth congratulating the effort,
the dedication of a couple who are trying

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to make things right. I love
Sara there because whenever I' ve listened

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to her, ever since I met
her, she' s always put her

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husband at the door. He'
s not hiding it. No. No,

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no, no, no, like
who says that, and being a

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character like he is there who knows
many people, who impact many people,

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has always put the place that belongs
to her husband. And I' m

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sure Rolando, my dear, Rolando, would like to say hello. I

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' m not sending you a hug
from here. Eche hears or with call

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exactly then already with that squeak there
you go mine back yeshie please. Tell

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us about it. There are infidelities
that look like they' re not infidelities,

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that is, when someone smiles at
you on the street that you have

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a partner, when someone comes up
and says hello how beautiful? Or when

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someone comes up, they say,
hey, you pass me your phone and

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you, like Mamarilla said, a
while ago, you know, you know,

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I' ll give the phone to
this stranger. These can be considered

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microinfidelities. Before you answer me and
I go with you, I want to

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thank all the people, Ahorita,
we read their comments that are participating.

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Thank you Ivan, thank you Claudio
Angel the Beltrán. Thank you, right

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now. We read it, Maximilian, what a pleasure, please write to

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us, if you have been unfaithful
or if you have ever been unfaithful to

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them, I go with you,
Oyeshi, micro infidelities. Whatsapp' s

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message, the smile, the like
on Facebook, that can be considered micro

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infidelity or has no chan. I
think so, because at the end of

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the day, it all starts with
intent. If you don' t think

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you like someone or who to flirt
with, then it just doesn' t

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matter. But if you already pass
the phone to someone to put the stickers

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and go up level, even if
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Of course there is an infidelity and
you, at a given time or you

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allow me to abhor you and you
don' t stop and you stay and

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talk and I invite you to have
coffee as a reason to meet a person

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who doesn' t even know where
it comes from and what your intentions are,

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unless you' re already considering that
person you might like or feel a

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click on the person. No.
I think that at one point the person

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who really wants to continue with that
pact with his partner, whether it'

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s free union, courtship marriage,
the best thing is just focusing on my

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partner in a matter of not giving
details that you' re around with the

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phone. You get your partner and
you have to pull him over. You

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get nervous the moment you' re
getting nervous because you already have that contact

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with this other person. You know
perfectly well what you' re doing the

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faithful that you' re doing if
you can hurt the person, even if

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it' s text. They told
me that, uh, they told me

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that. The truth is that I
lived it in my own flesh and you

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know there, in the unnamed non- marine. And I want to see

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you first of all, first of
all, I want us to vote this

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way with our hands raised economically.
Those of us who are here, of

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the five who are here raise your
hand, to whom you have ever been

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unfaithful in your life raise your hand. Yeah, you' re not here

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I don' t know There'
s a lot of them. I don

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' t come in here on the
screen. If mine were to be seen,

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I wouldn' t go in with
pure horn. It would be ninety

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percent horn. Now I don'
t want them to answer me. I

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don' t want them to answer
me either. You who are watching us

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don' t answer me. But
you have been unfaithful at some point.

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I can say yes. Okay,
I can say yes. Yeah. I

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did it in my youth a squirt
of years ago. No, and the

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truth is, when they did it
to her, it feels pretty ugly,

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not to me. I got caught
one day when I had a hair just

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like Jersey' s, just like
I did. They didn' t catch

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me being unfaithful, and with three
three all three they sent the mop that

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same night. Horrible, I can' t believe it. Pancho legarreta.

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Please, I want you to tell
me and help me, please, friend,

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to understand if there is some kind
of infidelity in which men are more

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tendentious than others, and if there
are infidelities in which women are more tendentious

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to others. There' s some
kind of way you can measure it.

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O. No. No, no, no. It is just what I

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commented earlier, that infidelity occurs equally
in men and women, just because of

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the prudence in which women are forced
to develop educationally is that it is difficult

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to identify their moments of impulse.
Irreminable for that attraction that told us sarahí

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that we feel the same men as
women. But the point is just to

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know the right men and women as
tsar there who, in the face of

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the commitment of exclusivity, decide to
flee temptation instead of being brave and see

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how far they are able to resist
it. It' s the worst of

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bullshit. Rather, by talking about
the same thing between fellow psychologists as between

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men and women, we agree that
the point is in transparency, as we

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conduct ourselves individually to recognize whether or
not we want an exclusive relationship and be

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as frank as to say well,
yes, I like you and like you

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to have a relationship of economic dedication, intellectual dedication, of life project,

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but in the sexual sphere, do
not count on me, because, if

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it is not with you, it
is with anyone. No ok, but

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then that and that would allow you
to maintain a relationship by fidelity, because

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you are faithful to yourself toward yourself. But then that would no longer be

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infidelity. Pancho, because if you
remember in which he hears we get along

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very well, or we all talk, we tell each other everything, but

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not sexual everyone who is free China, because that I think is valid.

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However, there would be no sexual
infidelity there at least not, because stable

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is clear. They are not exact, exact, exact and good agreements,

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the only, the only additional comment
I make is that they also point out

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very punctually. Marina Jeshi knows all
three agree on the subject of small,

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small slips, flirting, engaging in
sacred situations for the other or the other

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yes forgiveness, but she presents a
message. But in reality, the problem

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is not to be attentive, but
to be attentive with a subsequent intention,

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because it can be attentive to the
waiter, it can be attentive to the

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cashier and it is a strictly courtesy
relationship with the one who is caring for

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you. But it is not going
to happen from there, because when there

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is already a situation where you allow
that to base the simple attention to professional

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service, then there is already an
infidelity. Thank you, Pancho now here

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is an important point that I want
to comment that being there is this.

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No. This is kind of agreements, this kind of agreements that are made

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and that, obviously, there is
no way to verify them but to believe

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in the word, to place trust
in the person understanding Sara there that you

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will not not be unfaithful to me. You cannot be unfaithful to me,

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but you will be unfaithful to yourself
in the face of your commitment, in

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the face of your word, in
the face of your manhood or your investiture

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as a lady. You' re
not gonna behave so high or so low

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according to the promise you keep to
me, but first you keep to yourself.

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That' s right, before you
answer me, I want it very

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quickly. Thanks to all your comments. Excuse me If I go on some

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pimentel, it will be that all
physical infidelity precedes an emotional fidelity. Asks

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a goody question brought a hug to
everyone, especially Azaris. Good morning.

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Good is my Luis, My I
think I want to meet your ex everything

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you don' t know what and
compadreÁngel Pelán. A woman' s

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infidelity comes in hiding. Sometimes he' s just a friend. Yeah,

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women say he' s one friend
or he' s gay. They always

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go out with that. Claudio Borjón. The problem with couples is that each

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one expects to be loved and loved
as he needs and feels waiting for this

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to come. They see the couple
as a whole and pretend that it is

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already very good comment and for this
they beg to demand that the other be

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as they need. Seek, bless
that love that in the outside world,

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without knowing that that love we seek
is within us. When we already learn

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to love each other absolutely, unconditionally
it is easier to turn around and see

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the other as it is. Thank
you, Ivan, thank you, Greetings,

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Maximilian. Says Ivan. There are
men who try to make courtesies with

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the ladies and they have touched him
that even stalker they touch him. That

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' s also true and nothing to
see. I think the infidelity is that

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you' ve already started cooking what
you wanted but you don' t just

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go through a glass of water.
Thank you, Angel Beltrán, thank you

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for your vulnerability. Angel. I
was unfaithful because of the attention I received

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from the other person and because she
put me before others. Thank you for

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sharing and for being vulnerable. That
happens a long time after an infidelity.

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There' s no turning back.
Question Maximilian, or yes, you can

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resume the relationship, Ahorita, let' s talk about it. I sadly

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bear my jumentad in my youth.
Yeah, and I was worse than Iscariotenan.

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But, if it seems, my
brother Hi Jeshi, greetings, says

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Manuel wendy you would invite them start
with their own shortcomings. I' m

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coming with you my dear tar up
there please look. I think we must

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also know that we are unbelievers.
What I am going to say is a

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little controversial, but it is not
the same when we have a relationship full

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of shortcomings, where we do not
give ourselves a good deal, where we

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do not give ourselves a place,
although we say yes, because the word

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is not the same, that the
work is not and that there is infidelity.

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Hence the truth is that it is
logical and expected because there is disrespect,

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because there is no communication it achieves
then I believe that also as there

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is more at stake, infidelity would
have an even more serious impact, because

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there is a stronger, more solid
construction. No, I mean, you

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' re not talking about ay I
slipped around like they said, that I

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fell here without clothes, so that' s never gonna happen. Not if

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playing at a point in our life, to come to tell me something like

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this would be an absolute not because
of the kind of construction we have,

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right, so why I tell you
this, because people should not believe blindly,

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but in the fruits of people.
That' s one thing I can

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tell you Hi, I' m
Madonna, right and you' re not

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No Yes, I' m Madonna, no. This isn' t gonna

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be there, it' s not
because I can say a lot of things

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that, maybe I won' t
put the weight of my life on this.

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Then why do I say it?
Because yes, I trust in rolling,

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but I think trust should be taken
into account and this fails many people

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you want to give immediately for gaps
that you bring, that is, for

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attachments, But the ideal and this
is a recommendation that I always do is

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don' t tell people what they
expect from them. Let them act,

411
00:33:28.720 --> 00:33:32.519
let them be based on who they
are and how you know who they are

412
00:33:32.599 --> 00:33:37.359
then that' s when you know
at what level or where on your bus.

413
00:33:37.519 --> 00:33:39.839
These people can then go to the
construction that we have rolling. And

414
00:33:39.920 --> 00:33:45.119
it' s not because I want
to blindly believe in you, but because

415
00:33:45.240 --> 00:33:49.799
it was the steps that I was
checking, that he was taking and he

416
00:33:50.160 --> 00:33:52.519
with me, that gave rise to
this then an infidelity on a level of

417
00:33:52.599 --> 00:33:57.640
what we have built him and I, for my taste, is much more

418
00:33:57.680 --> 00:34:00.279
serious, or has far more consequences
than someone who is playing with his life,

419
00:34:00.480 --> 00:34:02.440
because I don' t deal with
mine. Not then I think it

420
00:34:02.519 --> 00:34:08.159
' s super interesting what Sarahi says. Indeed, check not when you find

421
00:34:08.320 --> 00:34:15.159
that the other person really sleeps with
her first, for he will surely do

422
00:34:15.199 --> 00:34:23.320
it with you, not when that
person, he is divided within. All

423
00:34:23.440 --> 00:34:29.000
right, all right. My coconut
tree is towering here. Let' s

424
00:34:29.000 --> 00:34:30.920
see I want you to go with
your code. No. No, yeah,

425
00:34:31.039 --> 00:34:34.280
no, no, no, you
have to have a different zip code.

426
00:34:34.679 --> 00:34:38.440
Then they live in or else they
hear. I want to ask them

427
00:34:38.519 --> 00:34:43.119
I want to be answered Marina,
I go with you, then j yes,

428
00:34:43.239 --> 00:34:45.960
legorreta calf and in the end,
Sarahi to see this question. I

429
00:34:45.960 --> 00:34:51.519
think it' s worth it if
we think about it correctly before we say

430
00:34:51.519 --> 00:34:58.239
anything. Then, then culture,
education, where the person lives flows into

431
00:34:58.360 --> 00:35:04.360
whether we are unfaithful or not.
I go with you, Marina, then,

432
00:35:04.480 --> 00:35:10.639
with you, Jesica Paco Legarrete and
there I think it does have a

433
00:35:10.800 --> 00:35:17.559
lot of influence, and a lot
of education that you were given about the

434
00:35:17.760 --> 00:35:21.519
values that you generate for your person. And I' ll give you an

435
00:35:21.519 --> 00:35:24.079
example. Many years ago, still
in matters of boyfriends, not formal couples,

436
00:35:24.519 --> 00:35:28.880
I had the opportunity to be unfaithful
and yet I stopped because one of

437
00:35:29.000 --> 00:35:35.199
the internal values that I formed was
the respect to what I was going to

438
00:35:35.840 --> 00:35:37.760
live, because they told me,
because it is that who will find out.

439
00:35:39.920 --> 00:35:44.639
I don' t get the whole
sane, who' s going to

440
00:35:44.679 --> 00:35:50.559
find out, I said wait for
me to find out, I, okay,

441
00:35:50.840 --> 00:35:53.880
yeah, and then, when I
say I find out I' m

442
00:35:53.960 --> 00:35:59.840
just affecting myself with this conflict I' m going to bring, and that

443
00:36:00.159 --> 00:36:00.519
' s home education, the environment
you grow up in. I think yes,

444
00:36:00.679 --> 00:36:05.760
it has to do with what you
are inculcated in or what you are

445
00:36:05.920 --> 00:36:12.239
living in your perfect environment. Thank
you, Marina Jeschie It influences the geography

446
00:36:12.239 --> 00:36:15.679
where we live. Influence the zip
code, wait for me to open you

447
00:36:15.800 --> 00:36:20.840
microphone, forgive me I closed it
closed it is already open ahead. In

448
00:36:20.960 --> 00:36:25.199
fact, yes, of course it
does, because it has to do with

449
00:36:25.280 --> 00:36:30.599
your culture. There are also cultures
and there, to this day, in

450
00:36:30.679 --> 00:36:40.679
the 21st century, there are still
marriages of six wives and the male on

451
00:36:40.840 --> 00:36:44.880
other occasions, well, you have
to see what you see at home.

452
00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:53.400
There are families that are already established
for them who live. They have a

453
00:36:53.559 --> 00:37:00.880
whole family, but they occasionally also
have couples outside. So, if you

454
00:37:00.960 --> 00:37:05.719
think so, then you think what' s most normal, because that'

455
00:37:05.800 --> 00:37:09.360
s what you' re seeing at
home. It also has a lot to

456
00:37:09.599 --> 00:37:17.000
do with this and I don'
t want to leave as well as that,

457
00:37:17.440 --> 00:37:23.800
to the extent of what would allow
us to be a little bit innocent

458
00:37:23.880 --> 00:37:30.880
not to call it more ugly and
to say that it is often because of

459
00:37:31.079 --> 00:37:38.639
education or lack of education that the
populated men, because they are given as

460
00:37:39.119 --> 00:37:45.599
little animals and I say they are
given with each other and with those with

461
00:37:45.599 --> 00:37:46.360
whom they can and seriously, is
a whole subject. Not then, I

462
00:37:46.440 --> 00:37:51.079
think it also has to do with
the bases on which you were educated,

463
00:37:52.079 --> 00:37:58.159
which you are losing in these times. I' ve stressed it quite a

464
00:37:59.559 --> 00:38:01.639
few times and then, at the
end of the day, I think you

465
00:38:01.800 --> 00:38:07.199
have the education, that you have, that you have the zip code of

466
00:38:07.559 --> 00:38:09.719
what you have if in a moment
you' re going to start a relationship

467
00:38:09.719 --> 00:38:16.920
with that person. I totally agree
with Sara. So we have to let

468
00:38:17.440 --> 00:38:22.039
you see who that person is to
know if the person wants it or not

469
00:38:22.119 --> 00:38:25.320
in your life, because it'
s not like I' m telling you,

470
00:38:25.320 --> 00:38:30.079
hey. Yeah, I' m, I' m from African and

471
00:38:30.159 --> 00:38:32.880
in my culture you do allow yourself
to have so many wives. Yeah,

472
00:38:34.039 --> 00:38:36.599
but it' s not gonna interest
me,' cause I' m used

473
00:38:36.639 --> 00:38:45.920
to doing the. Madam not to
be the African of Whatsapp. The point

474
00:38:45.039 --> 00:38:49.800
is to know. I believe that
all the people who have cheated on us

475
00:38:49.880 --> 00:38:57.599
I include myself and not a few
times it has been because I did not

476
00:38:58.039 --> 00:39:02.519
know how to choose the right person. This was my subject. There I

477
00:39:02.639 --> 00:39:07.800
made a big tache because obviously well, this is giving you age and young,

478
00:39:08.119 --> 00:39:14.480
because I don' t know it
can be because he was the most

479
00:39:14.639 --> 00:39:19.159
handsome or then the cute and then
the lack of what those two didn'

480
00:39:19.320 --> 00:39:25.559
t give you with another and you' re having like that instead of knowing

481
00:39:25.679 --> 00:39:30.840
and giving you the chance to really
know their mistakes, because they looked like

482
00:39:32.039 --> 00:39:35.639
what they wanted me to, but
at a given moment, because they dropped

483
00:39:35.639 --> 00:39:40.199
the mask. No and this was
because it didn' t take time for

484
00:39:40.239 --> 00:39:45.400
me to say stop, I mean, before a relationship. First we start

485
00:39:45.519 --> 00:39:50.880
with a friendship and then we start
giving things away to know who you are

486
00:39:50.880 --> 00:39:52.320
clear to know the person. Now, in these times, Pancho Legarreta,

487
00:39:52.840 --> 00:39:58.119
where everything is fast, where you
know a person and you are already proposing

488
00:39:58.199 --> 00:40:00.440
marriage, because you have to be
very careful. I don' t want

489
00:40:00.519 --> 00:40:06.960
to ask you, Pancho Legarreta,
so you think it does, it depends

490
00:40:06.960 --> 00:40:10.320
on culture. You think in this
case those people have some kind of guarantee.

491
00:40:12.199 --> 00:40:15.320
Those people, for example, who
are in a religion, who are

492
00:40:15.400 --> 00:40:20.039
in a church, who are taking
therapy, who are in personal development courses,

493
00:40:20.599 --> 00:40:23.840
have a tendency to be more faithful
than there are no guarantees as to

494
00:40:23.960 --> 00:40:30.639
what you think. No, no, there isn' t, there isn

495
00:40:30.719 --> 00:40:36.800
' t. And yet you can, at least boast affinity in values,

496
00:40:38.960 --> 00:40:46.880
depending on where you meet your partner. So, if you know her in

497
00:40:47.039 --> 00:40:51.960
the congregation, if you know her
in the church, if you know her

498
00:40:51.960 --> 00:40:58.599
in the mosque, if you know
her in example, in Buddhas and Buddhas,

499
00:40:58.760 --> 00:41:00.480
you have to understand her. Buddhism
is not a Buddha. Buddhism is

500
00:41:00.679 --> 00:41:07.199
many Buddhas and can then be in
the temple of meditation or in the temple

501
00:41:07.480 --> 00:41:16.719
of some Buddha. Specifically, the
situation is. That may allow you to

502
00:41:17.079 --> 00:41:23.920
see me guess the value structure of
that person, but it doesn' t

503
00:41:24.039 --> 00:41:36.519
mean it' s a guarantee,
because, because I come from a Catholic

504
00:41:36.599 --> 00:41:44.119
Christian family that I could presume that
all my acquaintances I did in the temple

505
00:41:44.119 --> 00:41:47.239
had the same values. And today
four of them have passed through prison and

506
00:41:47.360 --> 00:41:58.440
twenty- seven have their marriages.
We have our marriages. Come to see

507
00:41:58.519 --> 00:42:06.320
Pancho, juancho, tell me quickly, unfaithful grandfather, unfaithful son, unfaithful

508
00:42:06.320 --> 00:42:13.199
grandson, not in any way what
in any fair way. In my family

509
00:42:13.320 --> 00:42:19.599
there are such situations where, at
some point the women left their marriage,

510
00:42:19.960 --> 00:42:25.599
at other times it was the men
and I, for example, have a

511
00:42:25.800 --> 00:42:34.960
couple of dads who are both faithful, as well as Saraiz and her husband,

512
00:42:35.159 --> 00:42:40.000
perfectly clear, totally dedicated. They
have fifty- eight years of marriage

513
00:42:40.760 --> 00:42:45.599
and those who are left with a
wonderful life. Many congratulations and greetings to

514
00:42:45.719 --> 00:42:49.559
your parents please, it' s
good that they' re not like my

515
00:42:49.599 --> 00:42:52.599
ex not what else it takes to
be there. I' ll go with

516
00:42:52.320 --> 00:42:57.239
you, I want extra before I
go with you. Thank you Manuel,

517
00:42:57.719 --> 00:43:00.280
Manuel Rodríguez for your comments. Wendy
like this and and deley start with Mario

518
00:43:00.360 --> 00:43:07.360
Alberto' s own shortcomings. The
key is to be reciprocal only to omar

519
00:43:07.360 --> 00:43:09.719
elmos. I think it' s
more than anything to have confidence in yourself,

520
00:43:10.000 --> 00:43:14.440
because we can' t be tormenting
ourselves to think that the other person

521
00:43:14.440 --> 00:43:16.119
will be doing it. Very good
comment, Miguel Castañeda. Good night.

522
00:43:16.360 --> 00:43:19.880
Good night, Miguel, you'
re late, man. Everyone here is

523
00:43:19.880 --> 00:43:24.440
very concerned asking where Miguel is.
What happened to Miguel? What happened?

524
00:43:24.599 --> 00:43:30.800
Surely, he' s sucking There' s in a corner Call him No

525
00:43:30.800 --> 00:43:34.039
Luis Enrique, greetings from Ecuador.
How pleased Luis Enrique, from Ecuador,

526
00:43:34.199 --> 00:43:37.320
Greetings to the entire community of Ecuador. I' ve always thought. Ivan

527
00:43:37.400 --> 00:43:43.760
says fidelity begins by neglecting the couple. It' s like Adam who neglected

528
00:43:43.760 --> 00:43:46.119
Eve, and it' s because
of her now we have to wear clothes

529
00:43:46.280 --> 00:43:51.719
and work to eat Ay Mendi,
Guadam that boy Adam, so good,

530
00:43:51.719 --> 00:43:54.360
says Angel. My mother taught me
values and respect. Although my environment was

531
00:43:54.440 --> 00:44:00.159
difficult, I stayed with single dad, but I feel that for the first

532
00:44:00.239 --> 00:44:01.360
time I believe or a part of
me, since I had not been unfaithful

533
00:44:01.400 --> 00:44:06.000
in any of my previous relationships and
I did not realize the gaps that I

534
00:44:06.039 --> 00:44:09.280
had until I arrived with a godmother
to sara there and saw my major mistakes

535
00:44:09.400 --> 00:44:15.000
not knowing, for not knowing,
to have filters dare there. I want

536
00:44:15.280 --> 00:44:17.320
to ask you the question of the
five hundred thousand and this is the part.

537
00:44:17.400 --> 00:44:24.079
It is possible for you to forgive
and rebuild trust after an infidelity.

538
00:44:29.119 --> 00:44:35.280
If you put me in trouble,
oh look, if possible, if possible,

539
00:44:35.719 --> 00:44:39.000
but there are two factors that I
would always tell you look. If

540
00:44:39.079 --> 00:44:44.639
these two things aren' t there, there' s no way before both.

541
00:44:44.719 --> 00:44:47.800
I' ll tell you fast enough. It must be understood that we

542
00:44:47.880 --> 00:44:53.679
all limp something and we all have
gaps and ways, that is, legitimate

543
00:44:53.800 --> 00:44:59.400
needs that we fill in illegitimate ways. Call yourself food, call yourself videos

544
00:44:59.519 --> 00:45:05.679
that feed us from being called infidelity, call yourself gossip, call yourself rude,

545
00:45:06.119 --> 00:45:07.760
or take revenge for treating people badly
to make you feel good. With

546
00:45:07.840 --> 00:45:13.079
the same truth to you. Then
we all have proclivities and those we have

547
00:45:13.079 --> 00:45:15.360
to learn to deal with. So, having said this, when you understand

548
00:45:15.440 --> 00:45:21.119
that you are in front of another
human being, who also suffers, who

549
00:45:22.159 --> 00:45:24.400
also suffers and understands that you are
not perfect, it is the only,

550
00:45:24.880 --> 00:45:28.639
only way to be able to even
conceive of this. Ok because staying in

551
00:45:28.679 --> 00:45:34.239
marriage or in a couple after an
infidelity saying you forgive and turning one hell

552
00:45:34.280 --> 00:45:38.079
' s life to the other is
not right. No one takes advantage of

553
00:45:38.199 --> 00:45:44.480
it, but the two things I
say to people so they could consider it.

554
00:45:44.880 --> 00:45:46.159
But then it' s an eight- step course we have. That

555
00:45:46.239 --> 00:45:52.400
would be the first thing on the
part of both of us. There must

556
00:45:52.400 --> 00:45:55.920
be will on the part of both
of us, because many times the infidel

557
00:45:57.000 --> 00:46:00.440
what you say oh man how we
advance this, that is, you broke

558
00:46:00.599 --> 00:46:04.480
my whole life what you' re
talking about. I mean, there'

559
00:46:04.639 --> 00:46:07.000
s remorse because they got it,
but there' s no genuine regret.

560
00:46:07.599 --> 00:46:14.559
I am explaining this issue where I
realized that I broke something and that I

561
00:46:14.760 --> 00:46:20.360
am willing to go through the process
of restoring it, then there must be

562
00:46:20.840 --> 00:46:23.400
will on the part of both of
us. Yeah, and then, in

563
00:46:23.519 --> 00:46:25.480
those steps that later, if you
want, we' ll talk about it.

564
00:46:27.239 --> 00:46:30.639
I think you have to be able
before you say yes, to evaluate

565
00:46:32.760 --> 00:46:37.639
the damage why, because many times
you say you forgive, but you don

566
00:46:37.679 --> 00:46:43.639
' t know what you' re
forgiving, because in the fear of losing

567
00:46:43.760 --> 00:46:44.960
the fast bond you try not that
you and I are going to make it.

568
00:46:45.039 --> 00:46:49.360
But then you hear the person because
you didn' t evaluate everything that

569
00:46:49.559 --> 00:46:54.559
broke and the levels and depth he
had. If by being completely accurate about

570
00:46:54.760 --> 00:46:59.599
what it is that you are forgiving. It' s the only way it

571
00:46:59.760 --> 00:47:04.039
' s really and heartily given.
And the truth I have found that that

572
00:47:04.159 --> 00:47:07.639
can strengthen a couple, because many
times they live in the couple as very

573
00:47:07.760 --> 00:47:12.559
superficially, very well I expect this
from you but we never communicate. And

574
00:47:12.719 --> 00:47:16.599
an infidelity. When these two factors
exist and the pair is reconnected, sometimes

575
00:47:16.639 --> 00:47:21.719
it is the first time that they
are shown completely as they are because they

576
00:47:21.800 --> 00:47:24.800
are already raw. Then they have
to be very specific couples, very specific

577
00:47:25.239 --> 00:47:29.960
people and a specific heart. It' s also nothing else because I don

578
00:47:30.039 --> 00:47:31.760
' t want to lose her.
That doesn' t really work for anyone.

579
00:47:32.159 --> 00:47:36.679
That is, my opinion, a
specific heart. Please remind us of

580
00:47:36.719 --> 00:47:39.599
your social networks very quickly. It' s there where we can find you.

581
00:47:39.760 --> 00:47:45.039
Please find us literal in all networks, like Rana to Reina, and

582
00:47:45.199 --> 00:47:50.000
if you want to contact us for
sessions, etc, in Rana Reina,

583
00:47:50.199 --> 00:47:55.880
with Rana to Reina. There you
can find Sarai Francisco Legarreta, I go

584
00:47:55.920 --> 00:47:59.840
with you what are your social networks
and right now, I ask you the

585
00:47:59.840 --> 00:48:07.079
following question. Pancho Legarreta on Facebook
and Instagram. Great, jesshie your social

586
00:48:07.119 --> 00:48:13.960
networks. Oh wait for me Jeshee, let me open you microphone sit down,

587
00:48:14.159 --> 00:48:15.320
I close it I am the tulpable. Excuse me now, yes,

588
00:48:15.639 --> 00:48:22.480
you can speak Nata Brampes. I' m also on all social networks like

589
00:48:22.480 --> 00:48:29.800
Jessicas, like Jesse Cuevas, so
just like tick Top, Facebook, on

590
00:48:30.920 --> 00:48:36.039
Instagram, it' s YouTube,
this one everywhere. Jeshica Cuevas has a

591
00:48:36.119 --> 00:48:42.039
testimony of a kidnapping that she lived
and did the book. I highly recommend

592
00:48:42.079 --> 00:48:46.360
the book, because it doesn'
t just tell her story. It is

593
00:48:46.440 --> 00:48:52.480
not a story truly forgive me for
telling it this way according to your book

594
00:48:52.480 --> 00:48:55.920
and what happened to you. It' s a really interesting story. But

595
00:48:57.679 --> 00:49:01.880
he lived an issue even with a
very close person, that is, how

596
00:49:01.960 --> 00:49:06.320
amazing that the closest people are the
ones who can sometimes do us the most

597
00:49:06.320 --> 00:49:08.880
harm. I highly recommend you.
Look for Jeshica, buy your book.

598
00:49:09.199 --> 00:49:13.280
They won' t regret it.
It' s a fabulous story and,

599
00:49:14.119 --> 00:49:15.960
apart from shockingly, it' s
going to leave them a good message.

600
00:49:16.119 --> 00:49:22.800
How we found you. To you
of course, I am full with MX

601
00:49:22.800 --> 00:49:28.719
on Facebook, I am like a
full life system. Those are my forms,

602
00:49:28.800 --> 00:49:32.800
my social networks. OK. Now
ask everyone. I want you to

603
00:49:32.840 --> 00:49:37.000
answer me in such a way,
immediately economic, as a vote, as

604
00:49:37.079 --> 00:49:39.599
we did a while ago. Let
me know that we are the Senate of

605
00:49:39.639 --> 00:49:43.880
the Mexican Republic here, but we
do work here. There are five of

606
00:49:43.920 --> 00:49:46.000
us here, at least if all
five of us work. OK. I

607
00:49:46.119 --> 00:49:52.599
said that. Please tell me you
believe that the one who believes here of

608
00:49:52.960 --> 00:50:00.639
the five that we are that social
networks came to facilitate infidelity. Yes or

609
00:50:00.679 --> 00:50:06.880
no, totally ok out of the
five four pacho the wagon says no.

610
00:50:07.199 --> 00:50:12.440
I think they did come to make
it easier to be unfaithful. My reason

611
00:50:12.480 --> 00:50:15.360
is I' ll have later asked
and told them. I' m going

612
00:50:15.800 --> 00:50:17.719
with you Sara there to see you
give us your point of view on this.

613
00:50:17.800 --> 00:50:24.880
Why do you think they make it
easier for social networks to infidelity,

614
00:50:25.239 --> 00:50:30.119
because it' s this microfidelity or
microinfidelity that they were talking about that I

615
00:50:30.159 --> 00:50:37.360
' m reconnecting with my friend in
high school, well, yes, but

616
00:50:37.480 --> 00:50:43.079
yes, I mean, because it
gives you these microinfidelities, as they say,

617
00:50:43.760 --> 00:50:46.599
because I' m reconnecting, but
for what, that is, people

618
00:50:46.719 --> 00:50:47.440
who were twenty- thirty years old
not to see them, for what then

619
00:50:47.440 --> 00:50:51.519
it does. And I also think
it really affects the relationship in general,

620
00:50:52.440 --> 00:50:55.119
because it takes away this gallantry.
It' s this courtship' s father

621
00:50:55.239 --> 00:51:00.719
thing, because they already send you
one day and already as easy as the

622
00:51:00.719 --> 00:51:05.760
flirting already started. Infidelity has already
begun and before a minimum, it was

623
00:51:05.840 --> 00:51:07.639
necessary to go out and give him
a little more money to be unfaithful.

624
00:51:07.639 --> 00:51:12.119
And now you' re already liting
Thans, which means you get in the

625
00:51:12.280 --> 00:51:15.360
right way and you' re done. Okay, Marina, tell us your

626
00:51:15.400 --> 00:51:22.360
point of view. I think so. Obviously it makes it easier because you

627
00:51:22.480 --> 00:51:29.199
have much more access to the hand
and you can also kind of have more

628
00:51:29.360 --> 00:51:31.039
options, you know and you can
also hide it much easier. It'

629
00:51:31.159 --> 00:51:35.480
s not just like a good ay
where I' m going to look for

630
00:51:35.480 --> 00:51:37.360
it. You' ve got your
own house. She' s got pacha

631
00:51:37.360 --> 00:51:42.559
screaming at her. Marina says you
can hide it easily. Let him hide

632
00:51:42.639 --> 00:51:45.400
something he shouldn' t hide.
Yeah, it' s kind of dangerous,

633
00:51:46.360 --> 00:51:50.800
no, but what do you think
is better than Jesshi first to tell

634
00:51:50.920 --> 00:51:54.119
us his point of view. Let' s see, Jesshi, let'

635
00:51:54.199 --> 00:51:57.320
s go with you again the microphone. I don' t know what'

636
00:51:57.320 --> 00:52:02.440
s wrong with you. Already there
is ok because I am also totally in

637
00:52:02.519 --> 00:52:09.320
favor of that the social networks have
come not only to increase, but they

638
00:52:12.800 --> 00:52:20.039
facilitate it in questions that already there
are many pages and this you listen to

639
00:52:20.199 --> 00:52:25.360
with friends in order of pages where
you are seeing that the girl takes off

640
00:52:25.440 --> 00:52:30.159
her shoe, that I do not
know what, both if you are from

641
00:52:30.239 --> 00:52:36.679
behind And as it is, there
are many pages or you go on Facebook

642
00:52:36.880 --> 00:52:39.840
and suddenly, if you entered a
real estate group, in my case or

643
00:52:39.960 --> 00:52:46.760
in a group of whatever, it
is not missing that you find the link

644
00:52:46.880 --> 00:52:54.159
of some girl who is wanting to
give his services or of boys because right

645
00:52:54.159 --> 00:52:58.039
now those who are also very much
of boga. It' s the kids

646
00:52:58.199 --> 00:53:02.440
who send you the betrothal that'
s what' s about the kid and

647
00:53:02.440 --> 00:53:07.079
the kid dances there. It does
everything through the screen, then nothing else

648
00:53:07.920 --> 00:53:13.079
is that you meet the ex two
months ago or five years ago, or

649
00:53:13.159 --> 00:53:16.480
that suddenly a new friend, because
he' s from some other country.

650
00:53:21.000 --> 00:53:25.079
It makes you interesting and you start
filtering with that person, maybe without bad

651
00:53:25.159 --> 00:53:30.239
intentions, but you end up with
that good what you talked to him,

652
00:53:30.559 --> 00:53:34.880
you didn' t talk about it
with the couple and you felt more comfortable.

653
00:53:35.920 --> 00:53:39.000
But at the end of the day, I feel that, as we

654
00:53:39.079 --> 00:53:43.440
said from the beginning, not everything
has to do with intent. If you,

655
00:53:43.480 --> 00:53:45.320
at a time when you' re
watching the screen, you' re

656
00:53:45.320 --> 00:53:50.360
not interested. You turn it around, it' s okay. Infidelity is

657
00:53:50.480 --> 00:53:57.280
an intention, It is the intention
to continue to give you satisfaction, because,

658
00:53:57.360 --> 00:54:01.800
at the end of the day,
being unfaithful is for a selfish satisfaction,

659
00:54:02.920 --> 00:54:07.519
without thinking about what is thinking,
feeling your partner. Thank you,

660
00:54:07.960 --> 00:54:14.320
Jeshi, Pacho lagarreta Platícanos, please, and also here an important subject that

661
00:54:14.519 --> 00:54:19.079
you touched on earlier then the open
relationships. Let' s say you saw

662
00:54:19.679 --> 00:54:28.400
the UFF anti- infidelity solution,
because there are plenty of solutions, but

663
00:54:29.159 --> 00:54:35.159
the open relationship is not in itself
the generalized solution to infidelities. It is

664
00:54:35.480 --> 00:54:38.280
only an alternative, depending on the
type of relationship. You told us,

665
00:54:38.559 --> 00:54:45.280
sarahí that you formulated with your partner. I am reading very interesting comments from

666
00:54:46.079 --> 00:54:54.599
the audience' s listeners, but
above all I am reflecting on the contributions

667
00:54:54.719 --> 00:55:02.800
made to us by Marina, Jeshee
and Saraí, because it seems that the

668
00:55:02.920 --> 00:55:12.840
tendency of social networks to bring human
interaction closer impacts on infidelity when or infidelity

669
00:55:12.920 --> 00:55:19.960
has simply been there. And the
closeness caused by social networks, because it

670
00:55:20.039 --> 00:55:25.000
is only closeness. You decide if
you already know if it puts infidelity or

671
00:55:25.039 --> 00:55:32.679
simply makes friendship. Hey, pacho
in five seconds. You have five seconds.

672
00:55:32.760 --> 00:55:37.239
Just tell us your capsules you have. Please, what good question,

673
00:55:37.559 --> 00:55:42.360
oh friends, you' re going
to love, what good question? The

674
00:55:42.480 --> 00:55:49.800
capsules that we have of personal development, those of general culture, those of

675
00:55:49.880 --> 00:55:58.239
grasping me lost and, of course, those of simple approach to the people

676
00:55:58.360 --> 00:56:01.280
that we find in the street.
We' ll be going to your city

677
00:56:01.480 --> 00:56:05.039
We' ll be going to your
country. If you see us, say

678
00:56:05.119 --> 00:56:07.400
hello because we' re dating and
they really don' t know how funny

679
00:56:07.400 --> 00:56:10.639
we' re getting. And the
people who have recognized us, too,

680
00:56:12.320 --> 00:56:16.880
have become very interesting about what good
question. I want to invite you to

681
00:56:17.039 --> 00:56:22.639
see Yeshi' s interview with Pancho
legarreta of being there, what a good

682
00:56:22.639 --> 00:56:25.760
question. There are very interesting things
about each of them. Stay with me,

683
00:56:25.960 --> 00:56:29.599
it' s worth a lot.
We' ll be talking to Marina

684
00:56:29.599 --> 00:56:34.559
soon. Thank you for following us
here on this fan page. I hope

685
00:56:34.599 --> 00:56:37.159
they follow us. Please, it' s going to be interesting. Every

686
00:56:37.280 --> 00:56:40.800
Tuesday is a new theme and every
Tuesday we will be talking to new guests.

687
00:56:40.880 --> 00:56:44.840
So follow us. Get out there
I' m coming with you.

688
00:56:45.480 --> 00:56:49.280
I want you to tell us,
please, and give us some advice.

689
00:56:49.440 --> 00:56:51.360
Let' s go with the straight
line, let' s go to the

690
00:56:51.360 --> 00:56:53.960
straight end. Please tell us three
recommendations, each of you three recommendations.

691
00:56:55.800 --> 00:57:00.719
That' s where you can give
us concrete precision so we don' t

692
00:57:00.760 --> 00:57:07.639
fall into infidelity, in the couple. M you know yourself so that you

693
00:57:07.679 --> 00:57:09.400
know where you' re taking it
is the most important thing. You know

694
00:57:09.519 --> 00:57:17.360
what. Where you don' t
get through, not another round. That

695
00:57:17.480 --> 00:57:21.679
' s what' s tremendous.
I knew what was coming for us to

696
00:57:21.719 --> 00:57:29.000
do. I knew it. I
know myself. I learn to explain clearly

697
00:57:29.320 --> 00:57:35.559
who to live, who I am
and to explain who I am ok and

698
00:57:35.800 --> 00:57:39.840
I only relate to people that I
don' t try to force my narrative,

699
00:57:40.599 --> 00:57:44.039
but walk in the same way as
I walk. I do, I

700
00:57:44.079 --> 00:57:46.800
mean, because the rest, you
can' t control anything else. But

701
00:57:46.840 --> 00:57:50.840
if you know yourself and you know
how to express what you need, you

702
00:57:50.880 --> 00:57:55.199
will not win these mental games,
therefore, and you do not lie to

703
00:57:55.239 --> 00:58:00.840
yourself that someone enters into a narrative
that is not true and you only relate

704
00:58:00.960 --> 00:58:04.440
to people on that same level or
consciousness or viberation. Whatever you call it

705
00:58:04.559 --> 00:58:07.039
or values, no, and therefore
value the same thing as me, and

706
00:58:07.159 --> 00:58:10.119
that would be the answer, in
my case, the recommendation. Stop fooling

707
00:58:10.159 --> 00:58:15.480
yourself guys, great, great,
very good, very good. Thank you.

708
00:58:15.559 --> 00:58:17.239
Let' s go with the comments. I' m going with you

709
00:58:17.320 --> 00:58:22.880
or Yeshi very briefly. Please,
I' ll even open your microphone.

710
00:58:22.960 --> 00:58:27.800
So, okay, I thought you
were talking about it alphúblico already. Okay.

711
00:58:27.960 --> 00:58:32.719
For me all three would be honesty, Honesty with oneself more than with

712
00:58:32.840 --> 00:58:38.199
the person with whom you are going
to make a promise of fidelity, Not

713
00:58:39.679 --> 00:58:46.239
knowing wants that if you simply and
simply are a person addicted to sex,

714
00:58:46.679 --> 00:58:52.119
because there is also that between men
and women, no more men, because

715
00:58:52.280 --> 00:58:57.719
not to commit fully, no and
tell the couple with me this part do

716
00:58:57.800 --> 00:59:07.920
not count it. It would be
yes to reaching agreements before committing to something

717
00:59:08.079 --> 00:59:14.360
greater. But or that they had
the romance, they already had the affection

718
00:59:14.519 --> 00:59:17.039
and they plan to take the next
step. Yeah, like touching the point

719
00:59:17.159 --> 00:59:24.880
of how far they think they commit
to what fidelity is. And thirdly,

720
00:59:25.559 --> 00:59:35.840
I think that we personally always have
to have as our world, where that

721
00:59:36.159 --> 00:59:43.000
world, as well as this beautiful
baby, being there mentions and does not

722
00:59:43.039 --> 00:59:49.159
hide from her partner that this world
is two when you commit to being with

723
00:59:49.280 --> 00:59:53.280
that person and does not mean not
having a social life, and does not

724
00:59:53.440 --> 00:59:58.360
mean not being with family or friends, but what respect is, not above

725
00:59:58.360 --> 01:00:05.639
all saying we are for each other. If I have a temptation or if

726
01:00:05.760 --> 01:00:12.599
I have any desire, if I
want to, I don' t know

727
01:00:12.719 --> 01:00:15.840
how to experience something new, because
it' s best to come with your

728
01:00:16.039 --> 01:00:21.840
partner, because you know that you
have everything clean, all right with her

729
01:00:21.840 --> 01:00:22.480
as well as to get another infection
from the outside. No, then I

730
01:00:22.599 --> 01:00:27.480
think you have that' s the
truth. So that' s honesty,

731
01:00:28.679 --> 01:00:31.880
agreements and loyalty for many. Thank
you. Thank you, Jes, and

732
01:00:31.960 --> 01:00:34.800
I' m coming with you,
Marina Corazón. They were telling me that

733
01:00:34.920 --> 01:00:42.280
my second name and temptation so far
I understand. I' m coming with

734
01:00:42.280 --> 01:00:46.360
you, Mariña Mira. I think
it' s also getting to formalize with

735
01:00:46.400 --> 01:00:51.960
a couple. You have to get
to formalize without putting expectations to the other

736
01:00:51.960 --> 01:00:54.960
person, without putting it on the
table, because then one forms expectations about

737
01:00:55.039 --> 01:00:58.320
the other person and you really don' t know what that is. Person

738
01:00:58.840 --> 01:01:01.000
expects from the relationship. One two, as they said, of that respect,

739
01:01:01.440 --> 01:01:06.840
but first I respect yourself, yourself
and three, knowing what you'

740
01:01:07.840 --> 01:01:16.519
re waiting for from the relationship.
In itself, how far I want to

741
01:01:16.559 --> 01:01:21.719
go and this is where I want
to formalize so I can know what I

742
01:01:21.719 --> 01:01:24.559
' m going to compromise. Thank
you very much for the reason. Garreta

743
01:01:24.559 --> 01:01:30.159
' s pancho. Please, three
very quickly, honesty, with yourself,

744
01:01:30.280 --> 01:01:40.079
with yourself telling the truth that is
not the same as honesty, taking care

745
01:01:40.159 --> 01:01:52.159
that you don' t say truth
ok and tenderness, tenderness at all times.

746
01:01:52.519 --> 01:01:58.239
Gentlemen, Pancho Leerta just said something. Stop giving truths, not just

747
01:01:58.639 --> 01:02:02.320
about your partner. Nobody. You' re not your partner' s dad,

748
01:02:02.800 --> 01:02:06.840
you' re not the coach,
you' re not the tutor,

749
01:02:06.840 --> 01:02:09.079
you' re not responsible. But
stop walking. It' s because I

750
01:02:09.199 --> 01:02:13.639
love you that I tell the truth
to you that you don' t know,

751
01:02:13.800 --> 01:02:15.039
don' t know and with jobs
you know you. I do not

752
01:02:15.119 --> 01:02:19.960
wish that you knew yourself well,
so that then yes, now the hour,

753
01:02:20.800 --> 01:02:25.559
for you also provoke me and so
do not hear me. Says Osorio

754
01:02:25.679 --> 01:02:29.960
Ivan, my wife is Baby Ponjita. That' s what he says to

755
01:02:29.960 --> 01:02:31.880
his wife. I love it.
It does not say that when man truly

756
01:02:31.960 --> 01:02:36.599
has his well- understood values and
education. That' s how a model

757
01:02:36.599 --> 01:02:40.039
passes it. He' s never
gonna walk around with dogs, no,

758
01:02:40.599 --> 01:02:44.039
and this one and the one with
the broom is even looking to score.

759
01:02:45.000 --> 01:02:57.519
Goody brought up God who helped me
recognize my anger and from there the story

760
01:02:57.639 --> 01:03:00.079
changed. Angel should last an hour
longer. This live is very good.

761
01:03:00.159 --> 01:03:04.639
Thank you very much, Angel.
Bring your relationships to fruition. Angel just

762
01:03:04.719 --> 01:03:08.639
said a jewel. Gentlemen, you
know what it' s called with this.

763
01:03:09.239 --> 01:03:15.079
With this stop putting and romanticizing that
love comes from the heart and fights.

764
01:03:15.199 --> 01:03:20.639
No. No. No. The
one who truly loves uses this because

765
01:03:20.800 --> 01:03:25.280
even to love one has to know, respect the person and leave him free

766
01:03:27.039 --> 01:03:30.360
to make his decisions. What a
taste or more greetings to all many excellent

767
01:03:30.440 --> 01:03:35.840
blessings from Veracruz invite us to a
coffee omar no more like this. There

768
01:03:36.000 --> 01:03:38.519
are greetings, send us, coffee
or send us. Something to hear.

769
01:03:38.880 --> 01:03:43.519
I want to thank you all.
Thanks to figs, but I' d

770
01:03:43.719 --> 01:03:45.920
love to, please, before we
say goodbye. I would very much like

771
01:03:46.039 --> 01:03:52.079
you to tell me this part of
the pain and reflecting a little bit,

772
01:03:52.920 --> 01:03:59.599
the pain of infidelity can heal.
I' d love to hear from you

773
01:03:59.639 --> 01:04:02.159
and an end message. Please.
I' m going with you first,

774
01:04:02.480 --> 01:04:06.360
Jeshi, very briefly. Jeshi,
marinate, pancho igarrete and we close with

775
01:04:06.360 --> 01:04:10.519
gold brooch with Sarahi. It has
been a pleasure for me, a privilege

776
01:04:10.599 --> 01:04:13.599
for you to join us. I
insist on following us because it' s

777
01:04:13.880 --> 01:04:15.199
going to be good and you can
win even wool with us here. What

778
01:04:15.239 --> 01:04:19.760
a good question, Jeshee, you
can heal an infidelity, yes or no.

779
01:04:20.480 --> 01:04:26.159
Of course I do. It'
s all from resilience and, above

780
01:04:26.280 --> 01:04:30.400
all, self- respect, not
at the moment that you' re standing

781
01:04:30.599 --> 01:04:38.079
well and that you know that everything
was either conceptual, either way, but

782
01:04:38.199 --> 01:04:42.360
that you gave the best of yourself
that you did reserve to what was the

783
01:04:42.480 --> 01:04:45.599
relationship as a couple. I think
that simply and simply we have to accept

784
01:04:45.639 --> 01:04:55.800
that there are men or people who
do not know how to respect what it

785
01:04:55.880 --> 01:04:58.199
is to do things right, there
are no women as well. There are

786
01:04:58.239 --> 01:05:01.400
women, too. You create me
chip s g ras two dated. I

787
01:05:01.440 --> 01:05:04.599
' m coming with you, Marina. Thank you. I think you can,

788
01:05:04.840 --> 01:05:08.760
you can heal. It' s
a job of its own. You

789
01:05:08.840 --> 01:05:12.920
have to do your part of decorating
yourself, because the pain you' re

790
01:05:12.920 --> 01:05:15.840
feeling, and that has to be
totally independent of what the other person does

791
01:05:15.960 --> 01:05:19.199
or doesn' t do, because
it' s an internal job, but

792
01:05:19.239 --> 01:05:26.639
I think you can handle it at
some point. OK, thank you,

793
01:05:27.519 --> 01:05:30.920
Lagarreta male Marina. Please, Well, we say in psychology that the grave

794
01:05:31.039 --> 01:05:35.760
of infidelity is not infidelity, per
se genitality sex, but lies accompanied.

795
01:05:39.360 --> 01:05:45.039
To come to that, then what
implies greater effort is forgiveness of lies.

796
01:05:47.639 --> 01:05:53.760
And, of course you can forgive
the lies nothing more than there is nothing

797
01:05:53.920 --> 01:05:59.840
that the other person can do to
forgive the affected person or the affected person

798
01:06:00.079 --> 01:06:03.000
to the lie, but just,
as Marina said, it is a job

799
01:06:03.159 --> 01:06:10.360
that begins with the one who lives
the pain and thanks, Sancho. Forgive

800
01:06:10.400 --> 01:06:13.199
me, Marina You were gonna say
something. Oh, no, OK,

801
01:06:13.800 --> 01:06:16.119
make sure you signal us because they' re not obscene, because I do

802
01:06:16.400 --> 01:06:20.079
get that on me Yeah, yeah, no. That' s why I

803
01:06:20.079 --> 01:06:24.320
do answer, I know. So
how am I supposed to hear what a

804
01:06:24.360 --> 01:06:26.800
good question you just asked us?
Now what good question did you just ask

805
01:06:26.920 --> 01:06:30.280
us? Jenner González says the question
is how to take the ego off.

806
01:06:30.719 --> 01:06:34.639
Good to the next show. We
won' t invite you to stay and

807
01:06:34.800 --> 01:06:39.480
talk about the ego anymore. It
can' t be on the next show

808
01:06:39.960 --> 01:06:44.079
for you to join us and be
here. Angel Beltrán tells us good to

809
01:06:44.280 --> 01:06:47.239
omar elmos effectively, of course you
can heal if there is love and great

810
01:06:47.280 --> 01:06:51.840
repentance, of course, when you
really ask forgiveness with repentance, can you

811
01:06:51.960 --> 01:06:58.559
heal? Sanar saysÁngel Beltrán from
himself, if possible. It costs because

812
01:06:58.679 --> 01:07:00.480
you have high and low, but
ro Ns was not built in one day,

813
01:07:00.719 --> 01:07:04.119
and it is a constant work in
many areas of our life. Thank

814
01:07:04.119 --> 01:07:08.400
you, Angel, thank you all
for your comments. I' m going

815
01:07:08.400 --> 01:07:11.960
with you there. But before I
go with you, I am of the

816
01:07:12.599 --> 01:07:16.039
idea and forgive me all those who
say and think otherwise. I am of

817
01:07:16.079 --> 01:07:21.480
the idea that infidelity is not forgiven, because it is a decision. And

818
01:07:21.599 --> 01:07:27.639
when someone decides to hurt you knowing
he' s gonna hurt you, knowing

819
01:07:27.760 --> 01:07:31.079
he' s gonna hurt you,
knowing he' s gonna break the pacts,

820
01:07:31.119 --> 01:07:33.280
knowing he' s gonna abuse you, that' s not forgiving.

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You can never forgive a mistake.
But when someone does something intentional against you,

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he wants you to stay away as
soon as possible, because those people

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don' t change. Whoever lies
to himself, who betrays himself is a

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miserable one who does not deserve forgiveness. Excuse me, I have to say,

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and this one goes with dedications.
I' ll be right there I

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' ll leave you the microphone.
Hey, hi. This to me,

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indeed look is that the problem is
not infidelity. Not all relationships were well

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before infidelity. Then rescue something that
wasn' t worth entering, not true,

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but you can heal your heart after
an infidelity. Yes, but I

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agree a lot with Jeshie. It
has to be from resilience, that is,

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not letting the pain win, and
we have to be intentional in turning

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ashes into flowers, that is,
that what the tree has in bloom lives

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from what it has buried. It' s not a poem. Out there

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aha then I think the intention that
nothing in this life breaks us and live

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the fullness and part of it on
the way is going to be to forgive.

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Even if you don' t reconcile
the relationship, I think it'

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s very important that we see it
in your case. I hope you'

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ll forgive her. I don'
t expect you to make up with her

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just to leave this issue behind and
talk about other things and not the unnameable

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one. I hope that I find
that not fifty- six years ago,

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they didn' t lose anymore.
Let me tell you your things. Sara

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over there. Thank you, many
blessings, many thanks, a hug and

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all of Jeshee. Thank you,
blessings to you, too, Marina.

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Thank you so much for accepting you
are welcome Pancho Lagarreta. As always I

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am Luis Miguel Salvado. For me
it is a pleasure and a privilege to

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join us in what good question and
we see each other and listen to each

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other in a forthcoming program. Thank
you indeed all and it has been a

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pleasure and a privilege to connect with
you. Welcome. Be everyone for the

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next show and see this in replay. Share what you keep commenting on.

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Son, you get good blessings for
everyone, good bye that go very well

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blessings. Thank you, bye S,