1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:04,639 Man, am I glad that I am not doing the dating app thing? 2 00:00:05,639 --> 00:00:10,640 Man? That would be miserable. I've been looking at some articles and media 3 00:00:10,679 --> 00:00:18,519 about this, and it really is this gosh, this emptiness of endless choice, 4 00:00:19,760 --> 00:00:24,800 and this emptiness of fake relationships, and this emptiness of fake connections. 5 00:00:24,839 --> 00:00:28,839 And I know there's people who do this, and I'm friends of mine who 6 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:32,479 do this, and it is sort of sometimes out of a sense of desperation. 7 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:36,000 How do you find someone, particularly friends of mine who are my age, 8 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:40,439 doing this and I really feel for him. I want to talk about 9 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:45,280 this as well as the most surprising thing happened. It turns out that the 10 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:48,600 Bible has things to say about being a parent, and it turns out that's 11 00:00:48,719 --> 00:00:52,240 right. We'll get to that. We'll start with a little bit of a 12 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:56,119 political update. I don't know about you, but I am a little tired 13 00:00:56,679 --> 00:01:00,759 of the Biden dementia thing. But I do want you to see things. 14 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:06,439 It's a side by side comparison of how the figureheads people are presenting him versus 15 00:01:06,439 --> 00:01:11,040 how President Trump's being presented. I do find the juxtaposition a fascinating thing. 16 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:15,120 We'll get started with the help of Bulwark Capital Management Zach is another of his 17 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:19,799 free live webinars coming up, Got to Know Your Risk Radio dot com, 18 00:01:19,159 --> 00:01:25,400 and we'll get started as well. With the help of God Almighty. The 19 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:30,519 Todd Herman Show is one hundred percent disapproved by big pharma, technocrarats and tyrants 20 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:40,000 everywhere. Now from the high mountains of Free America, here's the Emerald City 21 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:53,519 exile cod Herman. Today is a day the Lord has made, and these 22 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:59,239 are the times to which God has decided we shall live. There is an 23 00:01:59,359 --> 00:02:06,400 absolutely the kind of funny anti Trump, A big ad for Biden. He's 24 00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:12,199 he's a guy goes out and gets it done. It's impressive. Oh, 25 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,240 by the way, if you're not watching the video service, you don't get 26 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:19,120 to see him put on his cool pilot operator shades. A lot of progress 27 00:02:19,759 --> 00:02:24,159 because of all of you. But there's more to do. Over and over 28 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:29,960 they count him out and over and over. Joe Biden delivers. He's been 29 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:34,599 doing it for fifty years. Yeah, he's been around. He has the 30 00:02:34,719 --> 00:02:38,879 experience. He's doing the work, straight backed and proud like his generations. 31 00:02:39,759 --> 00:02:46,000 Don't brad really rich, don't make excuses, don't be a smartass, just 32 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:50,439 make the tough decisions for the good of the country, and Joe Know's loss 33 00:02:50,879 --> 00:02:53,039 the kind of loss that burned a commitment in his soul to do whatever it 34 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:58,080 takes to protect the lives of all Americans. I've been in this fight for 35 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:04,120 a long time, but I'll never give Donald Trump never delivered for America. 36 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:08,039 He only spewed a chorus of deep division and crafted accessful of corruption to benefit 37 00:03:08,159 --> 00:03:16,400 only himself. I did one to buy eleven love. In just under three 38 00:03:16,479 --> 00:03:21,960 years, Joe Biden has delivered unlike any president in modern history. I mean 39 00:03:22,159 --> 00:03:30,039 master class in terms of delivering results and folks, we're just getting started the 40 00:03:30,039 --> 00:03:32,479 American Rescue Plan, which provide a relief his support directly to work a class 41 00:03:32,479 --> 00:03:37,960 family. We're investing in America and I rode great sports, airports, clean 42 00:03:38,039 --> 00:03:42,319 water, high speed internet. It's so much more. Children should have the 43 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:46,919 right to go to school. Love being shutting down in a war. Wall 44 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:52,400 Street didn't go the coutry the middle class go La Couttony and unions hit the 45 00:03:52,479 --> 00:03:57,599 middle class. You'd play some reduction act. Biggest investment in fighting climate change 46 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:00,439 anywhere in the history of the world. We can us present Biden to fight 47 00:04:00,479 --> 00:04:05,159 for t shaking your heads with silky a dictator to lead America for another four 48 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:12,159 years and finish the job, because we know Biden always delivers. Man, 49 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:16,000 this is probably a colleague to give me one thing, one that I can 50 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:23,120 go campaign on and say we did what. Of course, that's ship Roy 51 00:04:23,199 --> 00:04:28,240 pointing out that they didn't do one thing they could have done and would have 52 00:04:28,360 --> 00:04:33,480 done with a second president Trump term. It is a parallel universe in which 53 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:38,720 we live. It couldn't be more clear. Get to a second what President 54 00:04:38,759 --> 00:04:42,639 Trump is presenting, and it has to do with one of the topics I'm 55 00:04:42,639 --> 00:04:45,920 not allowed to talk about on YouTube. 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They're gone, replaced with the 84 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:46,600 pleasant smell of after a thunderstorm. Go to etenpuredeals dot com use code tod 85 00:06:46,639 --> 00:06:50,800 three to save two hundred dollars whole home savings, and then some or whole 86 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:55,720 home coverage, and then some edenpere deals dot com use code todd three. 87 00:06:56,920 --> 00:07:00,720 That was the way the Democrats are presenting Donald Trump, at least some are 88 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:04,680 presenting Joe Biden, at least some of them. This is how President Trump 89 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:10,040 is choosing to be presented in this case, talking about a topic we're not 90 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:13,040 to discuss on YouTube, but we can talk about it here. In recent 91 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:17,240 decades, there has been an unexplained and alarming growth in the prevalence of chronic 92 00:07:17,279 --> 00:07:23,519 illnesses and health problems, especially in children. We've seen a stunning rise in 93 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:30,800 autism autoimmune disorders, obesity, infertility, serious allergies, and respiratory challenges. 94 00:07:31,560 --> 00:07:36,360 It's time to ask what is going on? Is it the food that they 95 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:42,839 eat, the environment that we live in, the over prescription of certain medications. 96 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:47,040 Is it the toxins and chemicals that are present in our homes? Every 97 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:50,879 year, we spend hundreds of billions of dollars to treat these chronic problems, 98 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:56,560 rather than looking at what is causing them in the first place. Too often, 99 00:07:56,560 --> 00:08:00,519 our public health establishment is too close to big pharma, make a lot 100 00:08:00,519 --> 00:08:03,519 of money, Big Farmer, big corporations, and other special interests, and 101 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:09,920 does not want to ask the tough questions about what is happening to our children's 102 00:08:09,959 --> 00:08:15,519 health. If Big Farmer defrauds American patients and taxpayers, or puts profits above 103 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:20,800 people, they must be investigated and held accountable. When I'm back in the 104 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:26,560 White House, I will establish a special presidential Commission of independent minds who are 105 00:08:26,199 --> 00:08:31,759 not bought and paid for by Big Farmer, and I will charge them with 106 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:39,200 investigating what is causing the decades long increase in chronic illnesses. I understand Big 107 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:43,480 Farmer. I believe better than anybody else. I know where they're coming from. 108 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:48,879 And then I will ask them to publish recommendations for how every American child 109 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:54,000 can have a safe and healthy childhood. This is a conversation that is long 110 00:08:54,039 --> 00:09:00,600 overdue, and it's a conversation that American families deserve. American families have this 111 00:09:00,759 --> 00:09:05,039 conversation, and they must have a leader, a president who can do something 112 00:09:05,279 --> 00:09:09,840 about this problem. And I will do that. I hope that means that 113 00:09:09,919 --> 00:09:13,679 you won't be bringing Johnson and Johnson executives on stage anymore, where they got 114 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:16,200 booed because you did that, mister President. I hope this means that you 115 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:22,320 are suggesting that you might even welcome a conversation into the injections from warp speed 116 00:09:22,039 --> 00:09:26,679 the COVID shots. Now. In one way, President Trump here is maybe 117 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:30,399 attempting to get a little bit ahead of a Bobby Kennedy vote. This there's 118 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:33,480 going to be people who've gotten undertake what will turn out to be a protest 119 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:37,279 vote because the Democrats refuse to let Bobby Kennedy on stage. In fact that 120 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:41,320 the Commission does. He belongs on stage between Trump and Biden, but they're 121 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:43,519 not going to allow that. Neither of the parties are going to allow an 122 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:48,000 actual choice. They can't. So the case of President Trump's saying this, 123 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:54,919 and the juxtaposition between the two, Biden claiming to have gotten things done, 124 00:09:54,919 --> 00:09:58,360 the team claiming that he never fails, he always comes back, and President 125 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:05,759 Trump presenting this, which one is most relatable to the common voter climate change? 126 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:11,960 No Zelensky, no Biden. This tough guy standing with the straight back. 127 00:10:11,159 --> 00:10:16,840 No Biden is family man. Maybe to Democrats, President Trump is a 128 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:24,120 crensader against Big Pharma. Not really, except for this. Trump is the 129 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:30,759 perfect candidate to actually take that war on if he was properly motivated. If 130 00:10:30,840 --> 00:10:33,320 someone could get to him and say, do you understand what Pharma did to 131 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:37,799 you? Do you understand what they did your presidency? Do understand the trade 132 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:41,360 off they made when you accidentally put Tony Fauci in front, in charge of 133 00:10:41,399 --> 00:10:46,080 the country for just a little while it turned out to be about three years. 134 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:50,159 If he was properly motivated in that way, I think President Trump would 135 00:10:50,159 --> 00:10:54,480 be the perfect guy to dismantle Big Pharma. And if he got right now 136 00:10:54,720 --> 00:10:58,559 made a decision to bring Bobby Kennedy into that role to run that commission a 137 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:05,159 VP. Bobby's not going to be president. That would be an extraordinary move. 138 00:11:05,799 --> 00:11:09,960 Put him in charge of the National Institute of Health and the CDC and 139 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:15,679 the FDA, and make him have one goal, and one goal ola to 140 00:11:15,759 --> 00:11:20,840 get pharma out, completely out, and to do away with any of the 141 00:11:20,919 --> 00:11:24,679 rules that allow these people to walk through this revolving door system of Washington, 142 00:11:24,759 --> 00:11:28,120 DC. That would make President Trump a father of a great idea. It 143 00:11:28,159 --> 00:11:33,200 would We recently sat down and had discussion with my friend Tim Krukshank. Tim 144 00:11:33,240 --> 00:11:37,080 is a medical provider. He was a physician's assistant. He was a medic 145 00:11:37,159 --> 00:11:41,360 attached to the seal teams. He was himself a seal and he lived life 146 00:11:41,399 --> 00:11:45,240 as a physician assistant. Afterwards, he heard me. In fact, he 147 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:48,399 sat right next to me in this same studio. But Tim and I recording, 148 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:52,600 and I talked to him about Native pathcroll, the omega threes I take, 149 00:11:54,159 --> 00:11:56,159 the only omega threes that have ever made it possible for me to not 150 00:11:56,440 --> 00:12:03,360 take iberprofen and I terred with him the ways that iberfrofin can harm you, 151 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:07,840 and he nodded everything I said. I said that inflammation is rampant in America. 152 00:12:07,879 --> 00:12:11,159 He nodded. I said, it's usually caused by sugar. Tim said 153 00:12:11,200 --> 00:12:15,879 absolutely. I told him that these iberprof and pills had been taking four at 154 00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:18,759 night, four in the morning, were likely to eventually destroy my liver, 155 00:12:18,919 --> 00:12:22,639 my kidneys, even my blood. And Tim said, yeah, that's all 156 00:12:22,639 --> 00:12:26,320 too common, right, he knows what he's talking about. When I talked 157 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:31,480 about the omega threes and how they're different. In Native pathcrill number one, 158 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:37,679 it's wild caught crustaceans. A krill is a crustacean. That form of omega 159 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:41,200 three is wildly more absorbable than fish based. I think it's about four hundred 160 00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:46,159 percent more, meaning it's that much more potent. It's not just quote just 161 00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:52,279 your liver. It helps with it also helps prevent immune problems. It's sixty 162 00:12:52,279 --> 00:12:58,399 percent more absorbable than vitamin C. My experience with this omega three from Native 163 00:12:58,399 --> 00:13:01,679 pathcrill is it's the only thing that's ever made it possible to fight inflammation. 164 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:09,039 So that I can stop iberprofen because guess what iberprofon causes inflammation? Ain't that 165 00:13:09,159 --> 00:13:13,600 just like pharma? Yeah, we'll mask the symptoms what we would create more 166 00:13:13,639 --> 00:13:18,159 of the symptoms. You can toss pharma out of your life as well. 167 00:13:18,279 --> 00:13:22,519 Go to native path krill that's with a k nativepathcrill dot com slash todd. 168 00:13:22,759 --> 00:13:26,799 And see what specials they have for you this week. Always when you buy 169 00:13:26,799 --> 00:13:31,120 more in advance, they always tend to give you better prices nativepathcrill dot com, 170 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:35,440 slash todd. The Bible tells us that God provides as common blessings common 171 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:39,840 blessings in the way of food and water, and of course health general health. 172 00:13:39,879 --> 00:13:45,159 We all have challenges. The Lord has also set up a system of 173 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:50,559 family governance, and we read about this in Ephesians chapter six, verses one 174 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:56,360 through four. Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is 175 00:13:56,440 --> 00:14:00,159 right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment, with 176 00:14:00,159 --> 00:14:03,360 the promise, so that it may go well with you and that you may 177 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:07,960 enjoy long life on earth. Fathers, do not exasperate your children. Instead 178 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:13,559 bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Fathers. It's 179 00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:18,039 addressed to fathers in the Bible. There are roles for mothers. It's addressed 180 00:14:18,039 --> 00:14:20,480 in the Bible. Mothers are honored in the Bible. This one specific thing 181 00:14:20,639 --> 00:14:26,720 is addressed to fathers. Surprising then that I can turn to an academic study. 182 00:14:26,399 --> 00:14:33,200 This pointed to by a black academic guy named Anthony Bradley. It says 183 00:14:35,000 --> 00:14:39,679 data black fathers and father figures serve as assets, are sources of family based 184 00:14:39,679 --> 00:14:43,159 social capital and helping their sons to avoid violence and remain safe. But this 185 00:14:43,279 --> 00:14:48,240 is not what the social justice churches, nonprofits ministries provide for low income kids. 186 00:14:48,480 --> 00:14:50,879 And here, in fact is this study is naon and hadden on the 187 00:14:50,879 --> 00:14:58,480 screen. It's from the Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology headline Remain calm, negotiate 188 00:14:58,559 --> 00:15:03,440 or defer, but by all means call me father son communications to keep some 189 00:15:03,679 --> 00:15:09,480 safe from violence, involvement and victimization. Four authors, one lead, three 190 00:15:09,559 --> 00:15:16,360 assistant authors in a peer reviewed study in the abstract states. And let's compare 191 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:18,960 this to the word of God. The role of fathers in the lives of 192 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:24,519 young men have been export extensively in the literature Alian Green, Grinnis, Davis, 193 00:15:24,559 --> 00:15:28,960 Clark, Crypt Kupped, Koli, and Midereros. However, black fathers, 194 00:15:28,519 --> 00:15:33,320 particularly those are boys who limited verse circumstances, are often perceived as being 195 00:15:33,559 --> 00:15:37,759 uninvolved or without direct influence on the day to day functioning of their sons. 196 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:43,919 As black boys attempt to navigate stressful encounters associated with community violence and encounters with 197 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:50,399 law enforcement. Adequate social capitals should be considered as it relates to the acquisition 198 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:56,879 of skills needed to remain safe and well being. Additionally, spatial disadvantages would 199 00:15:56,919 --> 00:16:02,240 often contribute to the reproduction of human capital f failures and losses. Confines these 200 00:16:02,279 --> 00:16:08,799 youth within largely contiguous, impoverished neighborhoods and positions byoc is more votable to possible 201 00:16:08,799 --> 00:16:15,559 seduction and or victimization via interpersonal gang community violence. It also increases the likelihood 202 00:16:15,679 --> 00:16:19,600 they will be victims of racial profiling by law enforcement. Black fathers and father 203 00:16:19,679 --> 00:16:25,399 figures are routinely viewed as perpetrators to the violence that their sons may experience within 204 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:30,159 their neighborhoods. However, fathers that are present are not recognized as assets or 205 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:33,879 resources to aid their sons in being safe and remaining well being. A pause 206 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:41,360 for a moment, there were some Republican politicians who made the point that black 207 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:45,799 fathers should be encouraged to stay home. They made the point that the same 208 00:16:47,039 --> 00:16:52,279 party, as attempting to force Joe Biden down the throats again of Black Americans, 209 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:56,240 had done everything they could to divorce black fathers from the homes. When 210 00:16:56,320 --> 00:17:02,159 white Republican politicians make this point, it's racist. We live in a culture 211 00:17:02,279 --> 00:17:06,359 that detigrates fathers. After all, they're just useless people who don't know how 212 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:08,920 to run a laundry machine, or if they do, they end up destroying 213 00:17:08,960 --> 00:17:12,720 it. They can't cook, they can't give their daughter's advice. They certainly 214 00:17:12,759 --> 00:17:17,480 can't help their daughters pick out her dress or brush their hair. And their 215 00:17:17,519 --> 00:17:21,440 sons, I mean, it's just toxic masculinity. Sons need their mamas to 216 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:25,119 teach them how to be men. That's not what the Bible says. Back 217 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:30,920 to this report, qualitative pilot findings emerging from seventy two father Son Diades and 218 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:37,480 the Fathers and Sons Communications Study suggests the black fathers and father figures service assets 219 00:17:37,559 --> 00:17:41,279 or sources of family based social capital and helping their sons to avoid violence and 220 00:17:41,319 --> 00:17:48,920 remain safe. They do so by having difficult conversations related to the pervasive threat 221 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:55,720 of violence at the hands of their fellow neighborhood and community residents. Pause the 222 00:17:55,839 --> 00:18:00,279 number one cause of death of young black men is young black men, to 223 00:18:00,319 --> 00:18:03,640 the report, reassuring their sons that they're loved and as fathers or father figures, 224 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:08,440 they're available to help them successfully triumph over such threats to their safety and 225 00:18:08,480 --> 00:18:15,519 by offering key strategies to navigate the nuanced distinction in responding to tense and potentially 226 00:18:15,680 --> 00:18:19,799 violent interactions with gangs and community violence perpetrators, police, and other law enforcement 227 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:25,960 figures. Since black fathers, who of themselves grown up under adverse circumstances have 228 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:30,839 likely experienced gang in community violence, police harassment and detention, and are racially 229 00:18:30,880 --> 00:18:34,599 motivated violence, they may function as an asset and protective factor for boy's safety 230 00:18:34,599 --> 00:18:38,680 and well being, in which way sons identifies trustworthy source of information on which 231 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:45,039 to rely and it closes out in the little beginning of this The abstract fathers 232 00:18:45,079 --> 00:18:49,720 and father figures of black boys who face high rist circumstances provide unique insight into 233 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:53,960 the experience of being a male living and surviving in the same or similar context. 234 00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:59,920 Findings from their study offer a new perspective on how black father's involvements can 235 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:03,759 at tributes to the social development of black boys, particularly behavioral adjustments and coping 236 00:19:03,759 --> 00:19:10,240 strategies in the face of biased and or adverse adversarial encounters with peers, community 237 00:19:10,279 --> 00:19:15,519 residents, and law enforcement personnel. Let's boil this down. It's a huge 238 00:19:15,559 --> 00:19:22,240 academic paper. It's a study of studies. It's a meta study. Kids 239 00:19:22,279 --> 00:19:27,480 need their dads. Boys in particular need fathers. The Bible told us that 240 00:19:29,079 --> 00:19:33,440 without a study, fathers, do not exasperate your children. Instead bring them 241 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:38,279 up in the training and instruction of the Lord. It's very common for studies 242 00:19:38,279 --> 00:19:41,519 to end up coming back to the word of God. The Big Bang theory 243 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:47,359 is the word of God. God's signing. His work in our DNA comes 244 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:49,720 back very much to the word of God. He counted our heads, and 245 00:19:49,720 --> 00:19:52,480 our heads are on ahead of the beginning. He knew us from the beginning. 246 00:19:53,319 --> 00:19:57,359 He knit us together in the womb. It always tends to come back 247 00:19:57,400 --> 00:20:00,599 to the word of God, and so will be. I think with the 248 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:03,559 online dating thing, I mean online bating has been around, but not in 249 00:20:03,559 --> 00:20:08,160 this environment, not in the swipe left, swipe right environment, not in 250 00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:15,599 an environment where neuroscientists help design the dating apps. Do you think the dating 251 00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:19,599 apps are actually designed to get you married? Wouldn't that be like pharma being 252 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:26,920 designed to get you healthy, wouldn't it? The Bible doesn't give dating advice. 253 00:20:26,359 --> 00:20:30,000 I look through it because we're going to talk about dating apps. The 254 00:20:30,039 --> 00:20:33,720 Bible gives human advice don't lie, don't steal, don't come it, treat 255 00:20:33,759 --> 00:20:38,000 others kindly. It talks about the biblical definition of love. It discusses the 256 00:20:38,039 --> 00:20:41,880 fruits of the spirit. These are ways you can know if people are in 257 00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:45,039 the spirit. There are ways you can make a decision to love as a 258 00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:48,960 choice. One of the things it does not give, though, is where 259 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:53,119 to go meet a date, probably because in that day that was unnecessary. 260 00:20:53,559 --> 00:20:57,480 People lived in small communities. There were arranged marriages, which sometimes work out 261 00:20:57,480 --> 00:21:00,680 better than you would think. I wouldn't want one, but sometimes they work 262 00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:06,079 out better than you think. In the dating app world, we're to believe 263 00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:10,160 that these apps are created to get you married or to put you into a 264 00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:14,799 happy relationship. Do you think that's true in the world of the endless scroll? 265 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:18,279 I don't. The Wall Street Journal has done a discussion on how these 266 00:21:18,319 --> 00:21:23,279 apps work. This gentleman says it creates a disparity. The dating apps create 267 00:21:23,279 --> 00:21:27,799 a terrible dynamic for men where a small number of men get all of the 268 00:21:27,839 --> 00:21:33,160 invitations, and that means they can become jerks, They can be rude, 269 00:21:33,279 --> 00:21:37,279 they can date multiple women, and then the women feel men are jerks. 270 00:21:37,559 --> 00:21:41,160 But you've got most of the men are getting no bites, they're getting no 271 00:21:41,319 --> 00:21:44,799 dates, and they feel women are jerks. All they want is you know, 272 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,359 X, Y and Z. So I think the dating apps are one 273 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,440 of the reasons driving the sexes apart. Again, this is just for heterosexual 274 00:21:49,519 --> 00:21:52,960 dating, just driving the sexes apart, making it more difficult to date, 275 00:21:53,039 --> 00:21:56,559 to court, to fall in love, to marry, to have children. 276 00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:59,680 So I think we're going to look back on this and say the dating apps 277 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:03,079 had all the unintended consequences that are really messing up the romantic lives of gen 278 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:07,960 Z. So he talks about the small number of men and expanding on that. 279 00:22:07,279 --> 00:22:11,720 Sure, there's the classic good looks whatever that means. Whatever that is, 280 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:15,559 dark, handsome, tall, big chin, I don't know whatever that 281 00:22:15,599 --> 00:22:19,279 means. But then there's also men who spend a lot of time testing their 282 00:22:19,319 --> 00:22:23,759 come onlines. Oh I'm sorry, they're descriptions, they're photos, they're pictures. 283 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:29,440 They test what works because their goal is not necessarily to get married. 284 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:32,839 Their goal is to have a date. So they get better and better at 285 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:36,960 it because after all, they're getting reps, they're getting clicks, and as 286 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:40,240 they get more clicks, they can refine this down. They're just doing digital 287 00:22:40,279 --> 00:22:44,839 marketing. It's just creating a digital marketing funnel. So they turned it into 288 00:22:44,839 --> 00:22:49,200 a job. My job is a body count, My device is an app. 289 00:22:51,319 --> 00:22:53,000 I'm not saying there aren't women who do this. I'm sure there are 290 00:22:53,039 --> 00:22:57,240 women who do this. But the men who are doing this end up dominating 291 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:02,279 the demand psycho in the apps. And yes, then this happens that the 292 00:23:02,279 --> 00:23:03,640 women meet them and go, oh my gosh, the man of my dreams. 293 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:07,640 And then he ghosts me, turns the app off. I never hear 294 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:11,880 from him again. It blocks me. That's one dynamic, But there's also 295 00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:15,200 this dynamic, the lack of organics. Now, if you think again in 296 00:23:15,279 --> 00:23:21,440 biblical times, I can't imagine why the book doesn't give dating advice. It 297 00:23:21,519 --> 00:23:26,000 gives discernment advice. Who are you looking for? Well, of course you 298 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:30,160 can go to the Psalm nineteen woman. That's a absolutely well, let's say, 299 00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:34,119 aspirational goal of what a woman should be, aspirational in that few can 300 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:37,880 ever reach it, if any. But that's one guide. But you also 301 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:41,759 look at the nature of biblical love. It's not boastful it's not proud, 302 00:23:42,319 --> 00:23:47,920 it's not self seeking or self serving. It's not angry or jealous. You 303 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:52,240 look at the fruit of the spirit. It's peaceful, it's tolerant, it's 304 00:23:52,319 --> 00:23:59,799 joyful, it's not prideful. It gives people time, It listens. Paraphrasing 305 00:23:59,839 --> 00:24:03,920 it bit. But if you take the Bible for these examples then and put 306 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:11,480 yourself back into an organic circumstance, you do not have the tyranny of endless 307 00:24:11,559 --> 00:24:14,720 choice, which we'll talk about in the moment, or the emptiness of endless 308 00:24:14,799 --> 00:24:19,599 choice. You have something else. You have observation in the real world. 309 00:24:19,799 --> 00:24:25,880 You have an opportunity to see how others treat their communities. You have an 310 00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:30,960 opportunity to observe a person around folks who can't do anything for them or in 311 00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:34,920 times of stress, community stress, or otherwise across a long period of time. 312 00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:40,359 You have an opportunity to watch people grow, change and see what doesn't 313 00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:45,079 change, what says at their core. See, the dating app doesn't provide 314 00:24:45,079 --> 00:24:48,839 any that it can't it's not its design. It's design is money. And 315 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:56,359 look, I'm a capitalist, but I'm a capitalist who believes that capitalism absent 316 00:24:56,680 --> 00:25:00,599 faith, absent God is just like anything else that absent God, it cannot 317 00:25:00,599 --> 00:25:04,920 return good and lasting fruits. So I think of the biblical times, and 318 00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:08,880 I know that this is an ideal of being in a village and noticing this 319 00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:15,279 woman over here. She's awfully kind to sojourners. I've seen her give of 320 00:25:15,319 --> 00:25:19,480 her own hand to people in need. I see her laugh sometimes. I 321 00:25:19,519 --> 00:25:26,799 see her reach out to people. She's dignified, She's always dignified. I 322 00:25:26,839 --> 00:25:30,000 see her with her elderly mother. I see her helping her, but with 323 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:33,880 a sense of joy, not duty. I see her father, She respects 324 00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:37,359 him. He told her not to do a thing, and she looked like 325 00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:41,720 she disagreed, but then she agreed. She didn't do the thing. And 326 00:25:41,759 --> 00:25:45,839 you're watching from afar and you're observing. You're taking in characteristics that dating apps 327 00:25:45,839 --> 00:25:49,759 are not designed to show, because, after all, the job is a 328 00:25:49,759 --> 00:25:55,880 clique, not a sense of compassion, not a sense of interest or curiosity 329 00:25:56,000 --> 00:26:00,880 or joy. That has to come organically. It cannot come through an Okay, 330 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,440 you can meet a person, you can then develop those things, but 331 00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:07,759 what did you meet based upon a clique a description. Yes, you can 332 00:26:07,759 --> 00:26:10,920 have phone conversations and texts. My friends who do this. I have two 333 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:14,680 friends my age who use dating apps because they're one his wife has died, 334 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:21,519 the other's divorced. They have this experience phone calls, but after the entire 335 00:26:21,599 --> 00:26:26,039 template was set by an app. Now this is a different view. It's 336 00:26:26,079 --> 00:26:30,319 a different view emotionally and from a term of where this guy seems to think 337 00:26:30,319 --> 00:26:33,200 about dating and he seems to be a participant in it, and he admits 338 00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:37,680 to being a little bit addicted to that. We'll get to that the second. 339 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:40,759 Another thing that happened when we had Tim Krukshankir, my dear friend, 340 00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:44,680 Navy Seal, founder of bone Frog Coffee, is I talked with him about 341 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:51,039 what healthcare has become. He's deeply disappointed in the healthcare his dear wife, 342 00:26:51,079 --> 00:26:55,519 Liz received the United States before she died. He told me he believes Liz 343 00:26:55,640 --> 00:27:00,880 died from complications from the treatment of cancer, from cancer itself. I tend 344 00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:07,720 to think he's right. There's enormous potential southern or south of the United States 345 00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:12,519 for treating problems that you may have been told might kill you. My friends 346 00:27:12,519 --> 00:27:19,359 at renew Dot Healthcare, they have helped people with catastrophic neurological injuries being paralyzed 347 00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:26,759 hemispherically or otherwise, sometimes things that are eventually life ending. There's also just 348 00:27:26,839 --> 00:27:30,240 the pain. So often in our country, given how we sit and travel 349 00:27:30,279 --> 00:27:33,920 and drive and pack ourselves in the little spaces, people end up with all 350 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:37,880 sorts of conditions that are coming not from the arm themselves, or the hand 351 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:41,960 themselves, or the risk themselves, but from the lower lumbar area. You 352 00:27:42,039 --> 00:27:45,000 might have been told, Hey, you're going to have to back surgery, 353 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:48,680 maybe in fact a discret placement. Can I just ask you to pause? 354 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:53,160 What does it cost you to go to renew dot Healthcare and get a second 355 00:27:53,160 --> 00:28:00,400 opinion. They use ethically gathered stem cells from placentas and umbilical cords, and 356 00:28:00,839 --> 00:28:03,400 they never touched the other type. In my case, I use a strain 357 00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:08,519 of their cells that are from people who never ever were exposed to the modified 358 00:28:08,599 --> 00:28:15,799 urn injections. These stem cells are so potent that there they take the very 359 00:28:15,839 --> 00:28:18,279 best of those stem cells and they culture them so that in my shoulder. 360 00:28:18,319 --> 00:28:22,039 The last time I was down there, they inserted forty six million stem cells 361 00:28:22,039 --> 00:28:27,480 into my shoulder. Recently twelve million into my ankle. Those cells have massive 362 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:34,039 potential power. They're building cells they create babies. But these cells have no 363 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:41,400 assigned role. They will build whatever they're told to build by where they're inserted 364 00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:45,119 in your body, whether it's arthritis or neurological issue, lower lumbar pain, 365 00:28:45,319 --> 00:28:48,920 hip pain, any of this stuff. It costs you absolutely nothing to get 366 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:52,160 a second opinion from renew If they can help you, they'll tell you. 367 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,720 If they can't, they'll be honest. It's renewed dot Healthcare. Please do 368 00:28:56,960 --> 00:29:02,480 mention that you listen and are watch the podcast. It's renewed dot Healthcare. 369 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:07,279 This is a different take, not an academic take, not a reporter's take. 370 00:29:07,359 --> 00:29:11,759 It's a participants take. And in this case, I think about the 371 00:29:11,799 --> 00:29:15,799 emptiness of endless choice. I think that there's more single people than there ever 372 00:29:15,839 --> 00:29:18,440 has been in history. And I also think it's easier if you were single 373 00:29:18,599 --> 00:29:23,279 in your late thirties or your forties in nineteen ninety you're sitting at home in 374 00:29:23,319 --> 00:29:27,720 an apartment alone, and for you to find that you have to go to 375 00:29:27,799 --> 00:29:33,200 a bar, and it was harder but also made you, one say, 376 00:29:33,279 --> 00:29:37,759 settle. People at that point were not allowed to be as picky or you 377 00:29:37,799 --> 00:29:42,279 were just like, this is compatible enough. Now there's no settling. There 378 00:29:42,359 --> 00:29:48,279 is no settling for anyone. There's always a better option, something better. 379 00:29:48,359 --> 00:29:51,799 Yeah, And it's so hard to get away from that that I've come to 380 00:29:51,839 --> 00:29:56,720 the realization that do I enjoy being single? Yes? I think you also 381 00:29:56,759 --> 00:29:59,480 get very good at it. Even when you go on a date and it's 382 00:29:59,519 --> 00:30:03,559 satisfied and you have fun, you still go on then app just to see 383 00:30:04,079 --> 00:30:10,960 if maybe there's a chance that there's someone just a little extra more compatible for 384 00:30:11,039 --> 00:30:14,720 you. Man, I can go on a date and I can have one 385 00:30:14,759 --> 00:30:17,400 of the best dates, and you'll still go. But let me look what 386 00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:21,599 you can be, So you can be you know what if I brunette, 387 00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:25,440 yeah, yeah, or you know what, maybe I could find exactly what 388 00:30:25,519 --> 00:30:30,200 I had tonight, but she does eat sushi whatever. You can be so 389 00:30:30,359 --> 00:30:33,440 specific with how picky you want to be. And the fact that you can 390 00:30:33,519 --> 00:30:37,920 be that picky makes me think that we're going to evolve to a point where 391 00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:41,759 we are just building a robot that looks and does what we want it to 392 00:30:41,799 --> 00:30:48,480 do. Evolve. That would be devolving. And I just found this, 393 00:30:48,799 --> 00:30:51,559 It's just occurred to me. It's just listening to that man speak and it 394 00:30:51,599 --> 00:30:55,240 went found the Bible verse Jeremiah, Chapter seventeen, verse nine. The heart 395 00:30:55,279 --> 00:30:57,799 is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick. Who could understand it? 396 00:31:00,079 --> 00:31:02,799 He's speaking there of his heart, isn't he? Or is he speaking of 397 00:31:02,839 --> 00:31:06,400 other body parts? For all? He likes being dating, and sometimes dates 398 00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:10,079 are satisfy. I'm not his judge, God is, but I can discern 399 00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:15,279 some things. You know what's probably really addictive, falling in love or into 400 00:31:15,279 --> 00:31:21,920 infatuation, or curiosity or anticipation. Why would I say probably? I'm thinking 401 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:26,359 about the endorphins released, you know, that anticipation of a thing, the 402 00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:30,799 dopamine, the serotonin, the others that come to play. I bet that's 403 00:31:30,799 --> 00:31:34,920 addictive, particularly if it never reaches Frucian, Particularly if you never have to 404 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:40,279 have a fight. You can just have a fantasy. Maybe that fantasy lasts 405 00:31:40,279 --> 00:31:44,079 two or three weeks. This woman is perfect for two or three weeks, 406 00:31:44,799 --> 00:31:48,160 and then there's some signs of strength. In fact, she wanted to have 407 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:52,000 a serious discussion. I'm let into that. I like being single. I 408 00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:55,480 think it's probably addictive. So you need a new person. Are we going 409 00:31:55,559 --> 00:31:57,200 to go to bed? Are we gonna have sex? If some what's it 410 00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:00,440 going to be like afterwards, what it's going to be like. I bet 411 00:32:00,519 --> 00:32:06,960 that's addictive because the human heart is deceitful above all things. The flesh wants 412 00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:12,319 what the flesh wants. The emptiness of endless choice is this. I go 413 00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,319 back to that scenario in that village, imagining this man in biblical times has 414 00:32:15,359 --> 00:32:20,720 observed this kind woman. She's an attractive woman to him. She's respectful of 415 00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,160 her parents, she's kind to people around her, she's hardworking, she's diligent, 416 00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:30,359 she is dignified, and they have a conversation. In that first two 417 00:32:30,359 --> 00:32:34,039 to three week period. It might be the same thing. My gosh, 418 00:32:34,039 --> 00:32:37,480 this could be the one. I have this anticipation I'm falling in love. 419 00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:44,480 It's an addictive feeling and then comes reality, because reality always comes. Maybe 420 00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:47,440 she's respectful to her father because he's not always nice. Maybe she's got some 421 00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:52,759 issues. Well so to you. At that point, you are now entering 422 00:32:52,759 --> 00:32:59,640 into something very real. It is this, Can two imperfect people create something 423 00:33:00,119 --> 00:33:06,240 that's excellent or serviceable, or satisfying or long lasting? Sometimes all of those, 424 00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:09,960 sometimes none? And can you stick with that? Now that's the challenge. 425 00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:15,000 That's something that cannot happen in an online dating world. I don't think 426 00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:21,359 it's designed to happen. Would it surprise you if the neurologists and brain sciences 427 00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:24,960 will help design these apps are helping to design something that makes you want to 428 00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:30,000 come back for more? Isn't that what that man just described? A cycle? 429 00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:32,400 I'm bored here, I'll go back to here. So what do you 430 00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:37,240 end up with? You end up with manchild? After all? I like 431 00:33:37,319 --> 00:33:42,559 being single. Now you can be single and not be a manchild or a 432 00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:47,759 girl woman. But when your pursuit is simply the great feeling of will it 433 00:33:47,839 --> 00:33:52,960 happen? Is it happening? What will it be like? The anticipation, 434 00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:57,319 the falling in love without the ever having the risk of being hurt, or 435 00:33:57,359 --> 00:34:04,440 actually needing to in fact negotiate peace with someone you love. Well, then 436 00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:07,320 I think you belong in dating world on April. After all, it appears 437 00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:13,559 to me to own you. Lord. Thank you for reminding us. None 438 00:34:13,599 --> 00:34:16,840 of us ever reach are your true level. We can't. We can seek 439 00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:22,400 perfection and maybe achieve excellence, but what we're really about is trying to become 440 00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:25,760 more like you, or we should be about. Thank you for struggle for 441 00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:30,119 opportunities to win our faith or to practice our faith, and for reminders of 442 00:34:30,159 --> 00:34:36,360 what the role of fathers is in the roles of their kids, particularly their 443 00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,880 sons. As we talked about earlier, this is the Todd Hermershew. Please 444 00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:42,480 go, be well, be strong, be kind, and please make every 445 00:34:42,519 --> 00:34:44,719 effort to walk in the light of Christ.