WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.399 --> 00:00:08.039 Hey, hey, I'm back. Oh, yes, with something for you. 2 00:00:09.359 --> 00:00:19.000 I'm talking to you for you to think about. Don't go through life 3 00:00:20.079 --> 00:00:28.079 worrying about who love you. You should care about loving yourself. Let me 4 00:00:28.160 --> 00:00:35.679 say it again. I hope you let this resonate deep inside of you because 5 00:00:35.799 --> 00:00:41.159 many people need to hear it. Don't go through life worrying about who loves 6 00:00:41.200 --> 00:00:55.840 you. You should care about loving yourself. I really believe that so many 7 00:00:55.880 --> 00:01:03.200 people have this problem. That's why you have people who are in love relationships. 8 00:01:03.640 --> 00:01:10.239 Romantic relationships, is what I'm saying. They'll take any and everything. 9 00:01:10.760 --> 00:01:17.000 They will take any and everything they get into them with the wrong people for 10 00:01:17.120 --> 00:01:25.519 the wrong reasons. I mean, people find themselves in bad situations. They 11 00:01:25.560 --> 00:01:34.000 put themselves in horrible situations. People have been murdered in their relationships, murdered 12 00:01:34.959 --> 00:01:45.280 because they chose to be in relationships with individuals who loved them the wrong way. 13 00:01:46.200 --> 00:01:52.159 They thought it was loved, but it really wasn't. That's why you 14 00:01:52.280 --> 00:01:57.560 gotta stop being overwhelmed with people. When I say overwhelmed, I mean like 15 00:01:57.719 --> 00:02:02.519 over the moon for them. You want them so bad, you care about 16 00:02:02.560 --> 00:02:09.879 them so much that you're over the moon for them. Hoping and praying that 17 00:02:09.919 --> 00:02:19.400 they love you, when you should be worrying about loving yourself and not really 18 00:02:20.120 --> 00:02:23.759 worrying because that's the wrong word. There's no benefit to worrying, but you 19 00:02:23.759 --> 00:02:31.680 should be caring about loving yourself. You have friendships. There are people who 20 00:02:31.759 --> 00:02:44.599 will do anything anything to have a friend, do stuff they know they don't 21 00:02:44.639 --> 00:02:52.919 like, just to have a friend. And half of the time that person 22 00:02:53.080 --> 00:02:59.479 is the last person that should ever be called a friend. They will stab 23 00:02:59.520 --> 00:03:05.560 you in the with a knife and then take another one out of somebody else 24 00:03:05.680 --> 00:03:12.159 back and stab you with that one too. So called friends, they're in 25 00:03:12.240 --> 00:03:15.919 your corner, but they're not on your side. They're looking at you acting 26 00:03:15.960 --> 00:03:20.879 like they love you so much the whole time. They want to take your 27 00:03:20.919 --> 00:03:25.840 place. They want what you have. And I'm not saying everyone is like 28 00:03:25.960 --> 00:03:30.439 that, but I'm saying to you, when you're worried so much about a 29 00:03:30.599 --> 00:03:38.919 person loving you, you should be caring about loving yourself. That would prevent 30 00:03:38.439 --> 00:03:46.680 so many issues people have in their lives. If you loved yourself, you 31 00:03:46.800 --> 00:03:58.840 get on your jobs and you try to put everything possible, everything possible, 32 00:03:59.199 --> 00:04:11.400 You try to put it right there for your supervisors and those who are leading 33 00:04:11.479 --> 00:04:16.519 you to see. Some of you go along with anything you find yourself in 34 00:04:16.600 --> 00:04:25.800 inapproper relationships, you find yourself being talked to, any kind of way, 35 00:04:27.360 --> 00:04:39.040 You find yourself in all types of bad predicaments because you went there with that 36 00:04:39.160 --> 00:04:46.519 individual because you wanted that person to care about you so much, and now 37 00:04:46.560 --> 00:04:53.399 they're taking advantage of you and using you. If you cared about yourself, 38 00:04:53.839 --> 00:05:00.160 if you loved yourself, you wouldn't be in the situation you're end many many, 39 00:05:00.319 --> 00:05:08.240 many, many people. That's why I tell you sometimes, and I've 40 00:05:08.279 --> 00:05:13.920 done an episode, the first person outside of God, outside of Jesus, 41 00:05:14.279 --> 00:05:23.040 the first person you should fall in love with is yourself, your self, 42 00:05:26.160 --> 00:05:32.600 yourself. If you truly learn how to love yourself, it would change your 43 00:05:32.800 --> 00:05:40.879 life completely. It would totally change your life if you learn to love yourself. 44 00:05:41.120 --> 00:05:46.879 But some of you are so mean and bitter that you just you just 45 00:05:46.920 --> 00:05:56.639 can't focus on that. You're angry, and you shift the blame to everyone 46 00:05:56.680 --> 00:06:05.439 else other than yourself. Many people do this. Many people live this way 47 00:06:09.920 --> 00:06:16.439 because of that mindset. Your mindset make you look at things the wrong way, 48 00:06:16.639 --> 00:06:26.839 think about things the wrong way, feel things the wrong way. So 49 00:06:26.879 --> 00:06:41.360 many people if you go through life just focused on loving someone, you're gonna 50 00:06:41.560 --> 00:06:49.759 always, always, always, always find yourself in a bad situation sooner or 51 00:06:49.920 --> 00:07:00.759 later. Never fail because people see what you do to yourself. People see 52 00:07:00.759 --> 00:07:10.160 the desperation, People see the eagerness. You're just so eager. People see 53 00:07:10.199 --> 00:07:16.399 it. They see that you will do anything. They see that you will 54 00:07:16.439 --> 00:07:28.279 allow an accept anything. They see that you're so willing to go alone because 55 00:07:28.319 --> 00:07:31.879 you want that person or those people to love you so much when you should 56 00:07:31.920 --> 00:07:46.160 be caring about loving yourself. People fail themselves daily because they look outward for 57 00:07:46.360 --> 00:07:56.040 love when you need to be looking inward for love. You have to start 58 00:07:57.879 --> 00:08:01.240 dealing with yourself, dealing with what ails you, dealing with what causes you 59 00:08:01.319 --> 00:08:11.120 to think the way you think, because if your thoughts are distorted, you're 60 00:08:11.160 --> 00:08:22.079 gonna develop these negative feelings behind your distorted thoughts. I'm telling you you have 61 00:08:22.199 --> 00:08:26.600 to want to change for yourself and stop worrying about, oh, do we 62 00:08:26.800 --> 00:08:35.879 love me? Do she love me? Love yourself, that's what's gonna change 63 00:08:35.879 --> 00:08:43.559 your life. That's what's gonna change your world. Loving yourself. So many 64 00:08:43.600 --> 00:08:50.559 people don't because they're too fixated on other people loving them When most times, 65 00:08:50.559 --> 00:08:58.080 people don't care. They do not care. They really don't even want to 66 00:08:58.120 --> 00:09:09.799 have nothing to do with you because they don't appear. Yet. Many just 67 00:09:11.879 --> 00:09:20.879 been over backwards, trying to please and appease. It's very sad, but 68 00:09:20.840 --> 00:09:30.000 it is what people choose. People are choosing this, People are choosing misery. 69 00:09:30.200 --> 00:09:35.799 People are bringing self inflicted pain upon self because of those conditioned minds. 70 00:09:39.559 --> 00:09:48.200 You can never become the best version of yourself by remaining the same. It's 71 00:09:48.240 --> 00:10:00.279 not happening. Change must occur, it must. You can go through life 72 00:10:01.960 --> 00:10:05.679 saying this, saying that, doing this, doing that, but of change 73 00:10:05.759 --> 00:10:15.080 has not occurred. There's only one option. That is you remain the same. 74 00:10:16.440 --> 00:10:22.200 And no one should ever I mean, no one should ever, ever, 75 00:10:26.320 --> 00:10:33.120 ever feel like they just have to have someone, no matter what they 76 00:10:33.200 --> 00:10:37.799 go through or is put through, they got to have that. No one 77 00:10:37.799 --> 00:10:45.519 should ever feel like that about anyone. No one. Yet, many, 78 00:10:45.559 --> 00:10:50.440 many, many, many people do. All they want is that significant other. 79 00:10:50.799 --> 00:11:01.399 When that significant other is not deserving, not deserving, but you will 80 00:11:01.519 --> 00:11:07.360 give everything, all of your time and energy, you focus it on that 81 00:11:07.600 --> 00:11:15.200 other person or those people or that group when they don't care about you like 82 00:11:15.279 --> 00:11:24.639 that. I mean it's reality. They are benefiting some type of way, 83 00:11:26.039 --> 00:11:31.600 or they will benefit some type of way. But you think it's old. 84 00:11:33.519 --> 00:11:45.519 This is it. They love me? Okay, people put themselves in this 85 00:11:45.679 --> 00:11:50.039 situation every day. But as I said, this thing called life is not 86 00:11:50.159 --> 00:11:56.000 that hard. But you just have to have the mind. You have to 87 00:11:56.039 --> 00:12:03.000 have the mindset to be able to sit, observe the truth, acknowledges, 88 00:12:03.559 --> 00:12:09.159 acknowledge it as the truth. You have to be willing to do that. 89 00:12:11.559 --> 00:12:16.960 Some people don't want the truth they say they do until you give it to 90 00:12:16.000 --> 00:12:26.000 them. It's a different story than I don't care how much you think a 91 00:12:26.080 --> 00:12:33.000 person love you. Most times it's not like how you think. That's why 92 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:35.960 you got to get to know yourself. That's why you have to learn to 93 00:12:37.159 --> 00:12:43.720 love yourself. Because it's a weird stuff going on in this world today. 94 00:12:43.240 --> 00:12:54.000 Weird people are not the same. You know why, because nowadays anything and 95 00:12:54.120 --> 00:13:03.120 everything goes, nothing is off limits, any and everything goes. So that's 96 00:13:03.159 --> 00:13:09.000 why we're seeing so much of things that we're seeing nowadays. People are doing 97 00:13:09.159 --> 00:13:20.519 so much more than what they used to Nowadays, it's everything is more open 98 00:13:20.679 --> 00:13:28.519 and more accepted, so people are doing all types of things but what they're 99 00:13:28.559 --> 00:13:37.320 not doing is dealing with self, dealing with that unhealed heart, unhealed mind. 100 00:13:39.000 --> 00:13:41.759 They're not dealing with that. They're not dealing with their past pains so 101 00:13:41.799 --> 00:13:50.799 they can live a life without dysfunction. Dysfunction is all they've ever known. 102 00:13:54.919 --> 00:14:05.080 So you are the person you know the old saying, you're the captain of 103 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:13.639 your ship. Yes, so many people's ship is at the bottom of the 104 00:14:13.679 --> 00:14:22.080 ocean. It sunk because of the power you give to people or the power 105 00:14:22.159 --> 00:14:35.480 you give to things to change your life for negative. You're doing all types 106 00:14:35.480 --> 00:14:43.679 of things for love. When it's not love, you get everything. But 107 00:14:43.840 --> 00:14:50.159 that so when you so worried about, oh, if he loved me, 108 00:14:50.279 --> 00:14:56.200 or if she loved me, or they loved me, that shouldn't be your 109 00:14:56.200 --> 00:15:01.799 focus. Your focus should be on you. Do you love yourself? Are 110 00:15:01.840 --> 00:15:07.440 you still an angry person? Are you still mad at the world? Are 111 00:15:07.519 --> 00:15:16.720 you still vindictive? Are you still bitter? Are you still a person who's 112 00:15:16.799 --> 00:15:26.919 full of spite? Because if you are, you haven't dealt with You're unresolved. 113 00:15:28.320 --> 00:15:33.519 Do you still think every day about your bad past that was full of 114 00:15:33.559 --> 00:15:39.080 trauma? If you do, you haven't debt with you're unresolved. Many people 115 00:15:39.120 --> 00:15:48.480 haven't, and because of it, they're not living the lives that they could 116 00:15:48.600 --> 00:16:00.000 leave. They're not because they're still given power to their past. And it's 117 00:16:00.159 --> 00:16:07.879 terrible because you wasting all of that time worrying about somebody loving you when you 118 00:16:07.919 --> 00:16:14.879 should be loving yourself. That's who you should be, loving your self. 119 00:16:15.600 --> 00:16:19.919 And I've told you many times. When you learn to love yourself, honey, 120 00:16:21.080 --> 00:16:29.600 honey, honey, things change. The way you used to look at 121 00:16:29.679 --> 00:16:33.000 the world, at people, you see it differently. Now you see them 122 00:16:33.039 --> 00:16:41.799 differently. Now, it's just the way it is. When that mindset change, 123 00:16:41.600 --> 00:16:51.200 everything changes, everything changes, You see things differently, you see people 124 00:16:51.279 --> 00:17:02.600 differently, you see the world differently. I mean, people make life, 125 00:17:03.720 --> 00:17:11.240 living life so much harder than it should be. Then it has to be 126 00:17:11.240 --> 00:17:22.279 because people spend so much time trying to love others or word about it they 127 00:17:22.440 --> 00:17:30.240 love them, when you should be caring about loving yourself, When you should 128 00:17:30.319 --> 00:17:37.359 be caring about how you think of yourself, not what others think of you, 129 00:17:37.640 --> 00:17:47.599 because they're always going to have something to say always. But when you 130 00:17:47.680 --> 00:17:49.559 love yourself, no one can pull then, okay, dough on you. 131 00:17:49.880 --> 00:18:00.279 Because you love yourself, you can see the truth. You're not blind old. 132 00:18:00.640 --> 00:18:06.079 I talk about things a lot, and I hit on I revisit things 133 00:18:06.480 --> 00:18:11.920 a lot. But that's because of all the things that's going on in the 134 00:18:11.960 --> 00:18:18.240 world that clearly, clearly, clearly tells me people still looking outward when they 135 00:18:18.279 --> 00:18:25.279 need to look in need to look inward. If you don't want to be 136 00:18:25.279 --> 00:18:29.119 better, I sure can't make you better, no one else can. You 137 00:18:29.200 --> 00:18:36.039 have to want it for yourself. And I really hope and pray that people 138 00:18:36.759 --> 00:18:45.640 want to change. I do. I hope and pray because we're not getting 139 00:18:45.880 --> 00:18:51.319 any younger. Every day we're closer to death. And I'm not afraid to 140 00:18:51.359 --> 00:18:56.319 say it because it's the truth. Yet people want to remain the same. 141 00:19:00.960 --> 00:19:03.839 But it's your life. Live it how you feel you need to live it. 142 00:19:03.880 --> 00:19:07.519 But just remember one thing. When we close our eyes for the last 143 00:19:07.559 --> 00:19:14.720 time, there's no do overs. It's a done deal. It's a done 144 00:19:14.720 --> 00:19:19.279 deal. So if you go through your life worrying about who love you being 145 00:19:19.400 --> 00:19:27.640 loved and you have not dealt with your own unresolved, shame on you. 146 00:19:29.759 --> 00:19:34.880 Shame on you, because no one or nothing it's going to give you what 147 00:19:34.960 --> 00:19:41.720 you need. No one will be able to fulfill that void inside of you 148 00:19:44.039 --> 00:19:51.240 until you deal with what ails you so you can heal from it. So 149 00:19:51.359 --> 00:19:56.000 that's all I'm gonna say on this. I'm leaving it right there. I 150 00:19:56.200 --> 00:20:00.720 hope and I pray that you got something out of it. I truly do. 151 00:20:00.839 --> 00:20:04.920 Thank you for listening. So much. Much love to each and every 152 00:20:04.960 --> 00:20:12.839 one of you, from my heart to yours. Listen. I end every 153 00:20:12.880 --> 00:20:19.799 single episode the same, and I hope you do it. I truly, 154 00:20:19.880 --> 00:20:25.000 truly, truly hope you do it. Think on it.