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This is Later with Lee Matthews,
The Lee Matthews Podcast. More what you

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hear Weekday Afternoon's on the Drive.
You know doctor Phil c McGraw from not

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only his best selling books, but
also his hit television show Doctor Phil.

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He's got a new creation out that
is as timely as as if taken from

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today's headlines. It's called We Got
Issues, How you Can Stand Strong for

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America's soul and sanity. Greetings,
Doctor Phil. Well, hello, it's

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so good to talk to you.
I love Tulsa and Oklahoma City. I've

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lived in both cities. A fantastic
I didn't know that, but you got

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to reattach my ground where our doctor
Phil, where we seem to be living

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in an age where right is wrong, up is down, left is right,

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and everybody just gets to do whatever
they want to do when they want

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to do it. Well, boy, I couldn't have said it better.

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You are so right. And that's
what I mean when I say we've got

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issues. I think that we've got
certain factions in this country right now.

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I call it the tyranny of the
friends that's pushing narratives that have lost all

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contact, no common sense whatsoever.
When you've got people that are just rewriting

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history, rewriting science, rewriting biology, rewriting everything that we know to be

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verifiably factually true. Then you've got
somebody, as my grandmother used to say,

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you've quit preaching and gone to meddling. Now you're meddling with the very

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facts of life. And it's time
that we stet up and say, look,

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enough's enough and too much is too
much. We're going to start being

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heard instead of just letting you dominate
the narrative in the conversation. And you

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know, I think it started with
the proliferation of the Internet, because you

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might have some guys or whatever with
some kind of wacky theory or something,

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and if they were hanging around the
barn up in Kansas or something, you'd

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go with eight or ten of them. They maybe go out in the woods

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and talk about it. But now
you get on the Internet, it gets

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oxygen and it can spread and spread
and spread, and people want to belong

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to something, and so they jump
on the bandwagon, and before you know

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it, you got a bunch of
people running around talking nonsense. Where you're

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talking to doctor Phil this new book, we've got issues, How you can

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stand strong for America's soul and sanity
and doctor phil this isn't about politics.

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This is about culture, isn't it. It's not at all about politics.

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And that's for two reasons. Number
one, I don't know enough about politics

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to talk about politics. And number
two, it is about it begins with

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family. I think every culture has
a backbone in the family unit. And

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I think the family in America is
under attack. Some of it is unintended

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content sequences of like technology, and
some of it is by design, where

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people are trying to rewrite how things
work and break down the family unit,

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and that is so wrong. Church
membership right now, for example, has

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dropped below fifty percent for the first
time in our country's history, and I

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think that is damaging the family.
I think the fact that everybody is on

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their phone, everybody's head down looking
at a screen instead of looking at each

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other. You'll see a family together
out to dinner, befour of them around

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a table, and three of the
four are on their phone instead of actually

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engaging and talking to each other.
And this can't continue on. We had

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I think the biggest change in society
since the Industrial Revolution, and I know

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there have been like four industrial revolutions
that have occurred, the mechanization, and

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then you go on all the way
through technology. But I think this is

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the biggest change. We used to
be like ninety five percent agricultural, now

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we're one percent because everything got mechanized. This is the biggest change since then.

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And a year after smartphones dropped,
we saw the biggest spike in depression,

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anxiety, loneliness, suicidality among our
young people since records were being kept,

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and it's just continued to get worse
because they're not living their lives.

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They're watching other people live their lives, and they're comparing themselves, and those

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lives they're comparing to are fictions,
they're not reality, and by comparison,

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they're going to lose every time.
And I tell parents all the time,

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you're not going to be the only
voice in your child's ear, so you

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better make sure you are the best
voice in your child's ear, because they're

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getting bombarded from so many different angles. Now. I don't have a dog

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in that fight, doctor Phil.
I don't. My wife and I are

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childless, but I can't imagine having
to deal with that in this day and

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age. One of the things we
try to do is an exercises. At

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the end of the day, we
put the phones down and try to talk

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about how our days were without interruption
for a good forty five minutes, maybe

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an hour, even before we sit
down to dinner, just to communicate.

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And finally, amusingly enough, I
just bought a new car and dealing with

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the salesman. I didn't bring my
phone with me on purpose, and they

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wanted to do all of the negotiating
with texts. They would go back to

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the sales manager and then text me
an offer, and then I wanted me

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to text it back. They wanted
to text me a form to fill out

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for all the credit checks they do
on you. And I said, I

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didn't bring my phone. We're going
to have to talk one on one about

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this, you know, like we
used to. But they don't know how

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to do that. Yeah, they
don't want to look you in the eye.

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It's easier to lie on text,
yes, just to look you in

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the eyeline. So what to do
about this, this cultural problem? Doctor

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Phil? Well, you know,
I hate people that criticize and complain but

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then don't have an alternative. And
this is a very prescriptive book, you

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know, I set forth for example. Ten principles for a healthy society,

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and I'll give you a few examples. You know. Number one is you've

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got to be who you are on
purpose, and that means you've got to

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consciously decide what's important to you,
what you want to invest in, where

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you want to put your time,
what your values are, because you have

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to live with intention. And right
now, we have too many people that

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are just kind of going with the
flow, just kind of whatever you wake

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up and whatever the world serves you
up that day, that's what you're going

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to react to. And we can't
do that anymore. We've got people that

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are attacking the core of our country. And I also talk in there about

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the fact that we need to we
need to choose which voices we listen to.

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And you don't give attention to a
voice just because it's the loudest.

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You can't do that. Just because
somebody's yelling the loudest doesn't mean they deserve

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the most attention. We've got to
choose who we listen to, who we

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pay attention to. And you've got
to decide that you're going to support a

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meritocracy in this country. Look,
this country was built on hard work and

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talent and people bringing something that was
added value. But now our colleges and

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universities are teaching a quality of outcome, not a quality of opportunity Lee,

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They're teaching a quality of outcome where
everybody winds up the same, whether you

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work hard or you don't, whether
you get an education or you don't,

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whether you work hard at your job
or you don't, everybody comes out the

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same. That does work. That's
called Marxism, that's called socialism. It's

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been tried, it didn't work.
We've got several hundred thousand corpses to prove

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it. But yet all of a
sudden, that's the news, that's the

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new thought of the day. So
we're going to pretend that everybody comes out

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the same. Doesn't work that way. So I talk about these things that

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are very prescriptive, but it involves
people saying, Hey, I'm proud of

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this country, I'm proud to be
an American, and I'm going to fight

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for our country. And you cannot
not choose. Not choosing is a choice.

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You got to decide where you come
down on these issues, and you've

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got to push back on the things
that you consider important. Philip C.

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McGrath PhD. Doctor Phil. You
know him his new books, We've Got

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Issues, and it is out everywhere
you get books, How you Can Stand

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Strong for America's Soul and Sanity?
Real quick, doctor Phil. I know

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you've got a new television project in
the works. April second. We're launching

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Merritt Street Media. And that name
was not chosen at random, as you

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can guess from what I've been saying. And we'll launch on April second,

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and you won't be able to get
out of the way of it. We

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will be on every cable system,
we will be on streamers, we will

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be on terrestrial television. Everywhere you
can get a television signal, you will

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find Merritt Street Media and my show
will be the anchor in primetime. We're

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going to have four hours of news
every day where we just report the facts

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and let people decide what they think
about it. Lots of different programming options

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there throughout twenty four hours, seven
days a week, and I think people

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are going to find this is a
destination network that you can turn on in

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the morning and just leave on all
day. We've Got Issues, as the

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book, Doctor Phil, How you
Can Stand Strong for America's Soul insanity.

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Thank you for joining us, Hey, thanks for letting me talk to you.

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I love Tulsa and Oklahoma City.
Thanks for listening to Later with Lee

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Matthews, the Lee Matthews Podcast,
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