It's the Minnesota Goodbye Jenny and vont here again today, last time this week,
and then Dave's coming back tomorrow. We will jump right back into this
kind of a follow up email from yesterday when we were talking about the girl
who goes on a trip with a bunch of friends and one of the friends
is just not it and they're on a trip. So this person responded and
said, I feel I can follow up on this as it's out a little
harsh when I read it back. I just wanted to clarify a few things
because I do love my friend and she is a good person. It just
seems we've let her get away with too many things over the years where she
doesn't see how she's taking advantage of us for being nice or helpful. We
really did have a great time despite her negativity on this particular trip. We
usually do have really fun trips. I just started to recognize a pattern.
It's a group of five of us, so splitting up can be a bit
awkward. We've definitely done it in the past, like when some people want
to stay out and others want to go home, but it was a little
hard in this scenario. I think I will take your advice, though,
and maybe not travel with her for a bit, or maybe a confrontation is
due. I know we all feel the same way. I just want to
do it gently because she is a good person and we usually have fun when
we're together. I don't want to catch her off guard because I truly think
she is unaware of how she is making others feel. I think my biggest
concern is that our really good friend is getting married and her bachelorette party is
this summer. I'm just worried that this friend will make it about her the
way she seems to do, whether intentional or not. I'm also concerned that
I am at my last straw and I don't want to snap and ruin the
party. I'm usually pretty relaxed, so I probably have better self control than
I'm giving myself credit for. Lol. Anyways, feel free to read or
not, and thanks for your suggestions. Yeah, I mean I've I've been
in scenarios before where I've stood up to friends who were kind of upsetting the
rest of the party at a bachelorette party, and I don't if you snap
a little bit, I'm sure you're speaking for the entire group, and that's
just how it'll be, so I wouldn't feel bad if that happens. Yeah,
but I think you get in a weird situation when you do that,
because, like you think you're you're trying to do the right thing for your
friend, but at the same time, it's easy for your friend, like
the Bachelor it, to look at you and be like, oh, black,
why are you causing drama? Which sucks right because it puts you in
away position. You're trying to stand up for them, but then you're addressing
whatever issue is going on. So it's like, damned if you do,
damned if you don't. Yeah, I guess if you want to follow up
with us and let us know if any drama happens at this bachelorette party,
feel free to send us an email. We will love to hear, of
course. Yeah, right, it's troublesome. Friend catched an update in two
months, al right. Next one, Hello David Jennifer, And this person
says your full name, but I won't say it because I know you don't
like for people to say it your actual full name, not is my fake
full name. We got to start the other day, just pause for two
seconds. The other day we said this on the said that on this podcast,
and then Zach Dylan found me later and then said that to me,
and I was like, have I said this to you before? Yeah?
It was interesting. Is my full name? That's what we teld people.
Okay, well it says yes, hello, David, Jennifer and Vontavius.
You can use my name to follow up on Naughty Tuesday and Tony's suggestion about
how to do butt stuff in the end. Yeah. Right. Many years
ago, my boyfriend kept hounding me about doing I'm gonna say butt stuff,
but you know the word that they're probably they're using the A word. It
feels weird to say that. I'll be honest, even though it's the Minnesota
Bye, I don't like it at all. So I suggested using my friend
on him. I told him, if he doesn't like it, he can
never friend. No, using my friend aka her little buddy that keeps her
warm at night. Yes, yeah, okay, I didn't hear in nanimant
Okay, So I told him if he doesn't like it, he can never
ask me again. So once everything was placed, he started screaming, I
don't like it. He said, we need to go crazy. He said
it's screwed. I don't like it. I don't like it. Ah wow,
did he ask me again? Of course he did. But it is
the memory, permanent ingrain in my brain. Oh my gosh, this this
comes from Megan. She said, I would love a staff writer sticker.
Megan, you absolutely get a staff writer sticker. I'm going to send you
more friends with sticker. Oh my god, that is so funny, Megan.
I feel like that's a running joke a lot of times with women,
and it's like, well, if you do it to me, I get
to do it to you. Andrew and I Okay, I recently found out.
Have you ever heard of the term being goosed? Does it mean?
It's like putting a finger up but but not sexually, kind of like when
you're just like walking past someone you like, stick your finger up their butt
like they're in shorts or whatever their closer on. So I learned of it
because I was watching Below Deck. Shout out anyone who watches that show,
it's great. And they were goosing each other, and so Andrew and I
do things like that to each other. And you know, he he used
to do things. He do it to me, and then finally I started
doing it to him, and I said, will you do it to me?
And he's like, yeah, but I don't like it, And I
was like, I don't like it either, So if you're gonna do it
to me, I'm gonna do it right back to you. Like I don't
like not to get deep into it, but I don't like that stuff.
Yeah you don't like butt stuff? Yeah, sure, Yeah, I'm not
a butt guy. I'm yeah, some people are not. Some people love
it though. All right, we will move on to the next email.
I'm not a butt guy. Hey, vont and Jenny. Random question I
was thinking about last night. Does your partner act like they love you more
when they're drinking? I was thinking how long it's been since my husband and
I heavily drank. We have a five year old, twin three year olds,
and I'm seventeen weeks with number four. Damn, you are busy girl,
so pretty busy, she says, And of course I can't drink.
Whenever my husband does drink, I am reminding how obsessed he is with me.
I don't love being sober when he's drunk, But man, do I
feel like one loved and sexy mama when he is drinking. He loves to
dance with me, and the way he looks at me like there's literally no
one else around. It makes me swoon, even though I do when he's
sober. Of course, it's just amplified when he's drinking. Lool goodness.
I love that man. That comes from Hannah. I think you were a
husband. Yep. I think your husband should stopped drinking because that's the reason,
because he loves you more when he's drunk. That's why you keep having
kids. Yeah, that's why you're pregnant with number four right now. But
no, I feel like when you're drunk, there's definitely an added vulnerability,
Like if I'm being honest, I don't know how honest I could be on
this Minnesota, you could be super honest. Okay, Drunk sex is great.
Ooh that's a young mindset, is it. Yeah? Because that used
to be me too. I used to be like all about it, and
now I'm like, no, sober sex is five thousand times better. I
mean, there's definitely things with like females that's different than men. Probably well,
no, females and men and men. Females and males, they both
experience different things that can and hinder them in the bedroom when it comes to
alcohol, like what's it called, Oh my gosh, whiskey dick. I
don't like whiskey, so I don't even Okay, well, no, it's
just it's a general term used as like guys can't get a boner basically if
they've drank too much, so it's called whiskey dick is the girls and vice
versa. Girls. I don't want to get too graphic, but they can't
quite it's not as not as much, yes, okay, thank you.
I couldn't figure out what fucking word I was gonna stay there for girls when
they drank too much. Sometimes that's the case for them. So I used
to be the same though, when I was like in college, in my
early twenties whatever I was all about, like drunk sex is great, And
now that I've graduated from my drinking days, I'm not really that into it.
I'm into going home past no eating something and then passing out if I'm
drinking. That's interesting. I've never I've only been high once in my life,
and so I've never had high sex, but drunk sex. It may
be because I'm so young. Maybe I'll outgrow it. Yeah, I've heard
that high sex is really a different level too, Like that's really good.
Yeah, I've never done it. I've had a significant other tell me that
before, and it low key bottoming me because I was like, but it
wasn't with me. Oh, you're like sitting here telling me you want to
do this because you had a good time doing it with somebody else. I
was just like, you're okay. So you're one of those people that you
never want to hear about your your current relationships past. It's weird, right,
So my last relationship before before I listen my current girlfriend. I can
remember where I was. I was, I was on vacation in Virginia,
I had I was in a hotel room with family, and I remember texting
my significant other at the time. We had a conversation about all those things
because I was like, I wanted to all this stuff up front. That
way, I in my head, I can be like I have to do
better than this. Maybe not a great mentality to have, but I don't
know, there's a part of me that wants to know. Yeah, the
way I can be like, I'm going to be better than that bitch.
But also there's a part of me that's so insecure. Yeah, I'm so
do you ever go and creep on your like, would you creep on Alexa's
ex boyfriends? Or sorry, why did I say Alexa Alyssa's ex boyfriend's instagram
or something? Would you do something like that? Yeah? I argued with
her a couple of months ago because her sisters follow him and he didn't have
an Instagram when her and I got together, so they followed him after her
and I've been together, and I was just like, why the fuck are
they following him? But what the fuck is going on there? And she
was like, I don't know, I don't follow him, And I was
like, I don't care. Why are your sisters following him? Definitely people
on that bitch? Yeah family new dude. Oh yeah, so you'll look
at and then okay, I go down the whole track history. Yup.
Yeah see, And I'm not that person. I like to live in a
world where I would like to call it pre social media. So I like
to live in a world of I guess, not knowing those kinds of things.
When I've like ended things with guys that I've dated briefly and stuff a
lot of times, if well, I didn't really end anything bad with anyone
I've dated briefly, but for the most part I wasn't going on and creeping
any of their stuff anymore. It just was like, I don't we're not
doing anything together anymore. I don't need to look at any of this stuff,
you know, And it gave me a lot of peace of mind not
going back and creeping. Now, is that because you also wouldn't want somebody
to go back and look at you. No, I don't really care if
you want to go back and look at my past. I don't. I
literally don't care. But also I don't have pretty much anything social media wise.
I mean, obviously now in my current relationship, I have a ton
about us right, but outside of that, there's really not much. I
mean, my Instagram posts from when I first got Instagram were the most granious
pictures of like cats and like food and stuff. Yes, it was so
ridiculous if you go if you scrolled all the way back on my Instagram,
which would go back pretty far. It's just the pictures I have on there
are ridiculous. But yeah, if you want to send an email in about
whether you're down to creep on xes, have your ex creep on you whatever,
feel free to We just have one more email we'll get into and it
is from Don. It says, good morning. I'm new to the Twin
Cities and would love to hear of any favorite challenging hikes with some elevation stairs
are natural elevation, and within one to two hours of the Twin Cities ideally.
I'm gonna be honest, Don, there's not a ton of hikes around
here that have a lot of elevation that are within one to two hours of
the Twin Cities. There is Afton State Park there. I'm trying to think
what would be within one to two hours. I mean, if you're willing
to go up to deLuce. There's a couple places up there that are good,
like Jay Cook State Park is up there. There's white Water State Park.
Interstate State Park in Taylor's Falls is really beautiful. But once again,
a lot of these aren't a ton of elevation or stairs. So yeah,
I don't know if that helps you out or not. Van, do you
have any suggestions. I don't know, you don't know anything. Okay,
I was taking notes as you were talking on There's did I say this Willow
River already Willow River is one of them. If I didn't say that there's
a wild river as well. Yeah, I would just search state parks around
here, but not a ton of them have many stairs and or natural elevation,
so you'll just you might have to travel a little bit further away from
the Twin Cities enable in order to find something like that. And then she
has another question, any favorite jazz spots? Thank you guys, Love you
guys, tont I'm going to assume you might not have an answer to that,
but do you yapot love to know about that? Okay, Well,
big I love live music. So there's a new spot that opened in the
North Loop just within the last year. It's called Berlin. I believe it's
a live music bar. I think they do a lot of jazz. It's
not specifically jazz, but I've heard that there's jazz there, you know,
if it's like a just on the weekends or they have like yeah, it's
mostly I think like Thursday through Thursday through Sunday, maybe Saturday. And then
I also believe there's the Dakota Jazz Club. Maybe it's just Dakota, so
the Dakota also that's in downtown. Let me double check though, Yeah,
that's in downtown as well. That has music too. There's probably something more
out in like the suburb area that you can go to. But I'll be
honest, I don't know anything past the twin like the Minneapolis region. So
if anyone asks suggestions for jazz places too, feel free to email those in
because don't I don't know anything besides those two places. How do we want
to end this off before Dave comes back tomorrow? This is probably the last
Minnesota Goodbye that I'm on. I'm not just gonna say not ever. Well,
we don't know. Yeah, I guess that's true. I don't know,
I v aunt. Is there anything you want people to know about you
that they might not know already, because you know, you are still fairly
new to hanging out with us on the show. Yeah, my social Security
number is one two three, No, No, nothing I can think of.
I'm just thinking, like, maybe we should start a rumor. If
you're listening to the Minnesota Goodbye tomorrow when Dave comes back text us at five
three nine one, let's just give him something to confuse Dave. Yeah,
it'll be like Dave socks stink. I don't know. We need you to
think of like, like a that is an awful idea. Well, we
got to think of something better. If we're gonna tell them to text him
it, I don't know because I don't want to like it's got to be
like obviously stupid, right because I was gonna say, I don't want it
to be mean. Text your best pickup line to Dave and he's yeah,
I like that, Okay, Yes, so text in during the show tomorrow
morning five three nine two one, Katie w B one, you can text
in your best pickup line and be like, Dave, did you hurt?
Yeah, did it hurt when you fell from heaven or whatever? Like something
like that, which is the only corny PickUpLine I could think of at the
moment, and then send any emails into Ryanshow at KADIWB dot com. Thanks
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