WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.360 --> 00:01:46.799 I think it' s disconnected from our host. Looks like it' s 2 00:01:46.799 --> 00:01:53.680 ours. Thank you, hello, hello, we' re here. There 3 00:01:53.840 --> 00:01:59.159 ' s a frightful technical flaw, but good here. Welcome. I present 4 00:01:59.200 --> 00:02:04.000 to you all the people who are seeing us. These four personalities were already 5 00:02:04.040 --> 00:02:07.840 in what good question, they were with me in an interview and today they 6 00:02:07.919 --> 00:02:13.400 are here because the idea is to talk with you about this topic. I 7 00:02:13.599 --> 00:02:17.120 invite you to see, please, the interviews of each of them, because 8 00:02:17.120 --> 00:02:24.599 believe me they will be greatly surprised from Uruguay. There' s Tamara pro 9 00:02:24.919 --> 00:02:29.560 Son' s eleven o' clock in Uruguay and she' s here at 10 00:02:29.560 --> 00:02:31.439 the bottom of the canyon. She' s a woman who has a lot 11 00:02:31.479 --> 00:02:35.039 of work, but here she' s making the effort. Tamara welcome. 12 00:02:36.360 --> 00:02:39.400 Thank you, Luis, a pleasure with you and the rite of the Parelitas. 13 00:02:40.439 --> 00:02:46.360 Welcome accompany us and to him Cardoso, which for me is a privilege. 14 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:52.599 She is an exceptional woman, has an impressive way of sharing and commenting 15 00:02:52.639 --> 00:02:55.199 and helping so many people through many techniques and for me it is a pleasure 16 00:02:55.280 --> 00:03:00.719 in privilege. Now he how you are, not man, a dear pleasure 17 00:03:00.800 --> 00:03:04.680 as always to be with you. Thank you for the invitation once again and 18 00:03:04.800 --> 00:03:07.879 also a pleasure to meet these amazing people that we have on the bread today 19 00:03:07.960 --> 00:03:14.719 is amazing. Thank you, welcome. She accompanies me to the disbet resen 20 00:03:14.879 --> 00:03:19.800 dis Lisbeth is a businesswoman who truth has done things wonderfully. You don' 21 00:03:19.879 --> 00:03:23.560 t know how I admire you You know they' re not onions, but 22 00:03:23.680 --> 00:03:27.400 I really admire you I love you for everything you' ve done. We 23 00:03:27.479 --> 00:03:30.719 ' ll talk about your company too, but well, the important thing is 24 00:03:30.759 --> 00:03:32.240 that you' re here to talk about this. Welcome, Liz, yes, 25 00:03:32.400 --> 00:03:35.680 thank you very much, Luis, my allies. The truth is this 26 00:03:35.759 --> 00:03:38.520 is a pleasure today, to be here with all of you, with Tamar, 27 00:03:38.639 --> 00:03:40.599 with Yael, with Pepe shoulder the adolescence of all of you. And 28 00:03:40.719 --> 00:03:46.039 so it' s a rather interesting topic, no, and thank you very 29 00:03:46.199 --> 00:03:49.800 much for considering me. And so, here we are to share with all 30 00:03:49.919 --> 00:03:53.840 of you. Thank you very much, thank you very much to You and 31 00:03:53.000 --> 00:03:55.439 the gentleman of good knowledge, Pepe pres It is not a taste. We 32 00:03:55.520 --> 00:03:59.280 bring the same look. No, the truth is that we agreed today we 33 00:03:59.360 --> 00:04:00.960 said we' re going to go out with the same look. It' 34 00:04:01.000 --> 00:04:05.039 s a privilege for me, my dear Pepe, thank you for joining us 35 00:04:05.039 --> 00:04:08.080 how you are, my friend. All right, all right, but kitty, 36 00:04:08.280 --> 00:04:11.560 there' s something missing right there We' re pretty much there. 37 00:04:13.360 --> 00:04:15.399 Yeah, I' ve got, like, three more slaps than you, 38 00:04:15.680 --> 00:04:19.079 but, well, it doesn' t look like that, but don' 39 00:04:19.079 --> 00:04:23.040 t hear abel. Nice to share with you too. Thank you for the 40 00:04:23.680 --> 00:04:28.120 invitation and this one because I start this welcome we will give you. I 41 00:04:28.199 --> 00:04:31.920 want to ask you this. They' ve ever run into some toxic person. 42 00:04:32.600 --> 00:04:36.959 I would first like to define what a toxic person is, because today 43 00:04:38.079 --> 00:04:42.439 is very fashionable the toxic, the toxic, and it seems that we call 44 00:04:42.519 --> 00:04:46.759 everyone toxic because they think differently. However, the first question was thus raised 45 00:04:46.879 --> 00:04:51.920 in an economic vote. I want to ask you about the four of you, 46 00:04:53.639 --> 00:04:55.639 who' s run into some toxic person. It' s like that 47 00:04:55.639 --> 00:04:59.319 or not. That' s right, okay, one two, okay to 48 00:04:59.600 --> 00:05:04.879 him also size one. Not with any toxic people. No, but I 49 00:05:04.920 --> 00:05:11.240 think it has a little more to do with the definition. Okay, where 50 00:05:11.279 --> 00:05:15.720 are we putting the focus? Please, then, tell us what would be 51 00:05:16.439 --> 00:05:19.560 the difference of a toxic person. Please welcome, I think it would be 52 00:05:19.639 --> 00:05:25.360 very difficult to give you a definition of a toxic person, because the question 53 00:05:25.480 --> 00:05:30.519 is there are toxic people or it is our dynamics that are toxic. Okay. 54 00:05:31.040 --> 00:05:34.879 Okay. So, to open your mouth, you' re gone, 55 00:05:34.879 --> 00:05:40.199 too. That excuses what it does and totally unexpected. But what I want 56 00:05:40.240 --> 00:05:45.680 to ask you, I' ll go with you and him, then with 57 00:05:45.720 --> 00:05:46.600 LS and then with Pepe to see. This is very important. There are 58 00:05:47.319 --> 00:05:53.319 toxic people, or it' s the dynamics of people or our dynamics that 59 00:05:53.399 --> 00:05:57.680 make us perceive toxic people what your friend says, I think it' s 60 00:05:57.759 --> 00:06:02.199 all about perception. I also believe that there are more people with life stories 61 00:06:02.759 --> 00:06:09.360 that make us react in different ways to what we are living and what we 62 00:06:09.519 --> 00:06:13.800 are facing on a day- to- day basis. But it has a 63 00:06:13.879 --> 00:06:18.480 lot to do with how I perceive your attitude to some particular situation. Okay, 64 00:06:19.079 --> 00:06:23.839 ready. Yes, I totally agree with Jael, because much of what 65 00:06:23.920 --> 00:06:27.600 we are or how we look at the world is through our own history. 66 00:06:28.600 --> 00:06:32.399 No, and sometimes people are just, you know, not good or bad. 67 00:06:33.000 --> 00:06:36.519 It' s just and in that sense. We might be able to 68 00:06:36.519 --> 00:06:44.399 overjudge someone there. But we always do it from our own history. So 69 00:06:44.399 --> 00:06:48.040 that' s where this part also comes in, so what' s good 70 00:06:48.040 --> 00:06:50.839 or what' s bad. No. Sometimes things are and we are the 71 00:06:50.959 --> 00:06:55.879 ones that give a connotation to each one, because of the events that happens 72 00:06:56.000 --> 00:07:01.720 ok pepe you what you tell us good puts a little spicy and have two 73 00:07:01.800 --> 00:07:10.600 interesting points of view. I' m leaving from a free will decision. 74 00:07:11.360 --> 00:07:15.560 My first big will book decision is I want to be human and I want 75 00:07:15.600 --> 00:07:17.839 to be here on this planet. So, when you come to certain rules, 76 00:07:19.120 --> 00:07:23.160 there is the rule of good and evil and many situations and he and 77 00:07:23.240 --> 00:07:27.079 the free cold tells me well, because in the end it has to do 78 00:07:27.199 --> 00:07:30.720 with Here is something. Here is a path I have always imagined as a 79 00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:34.600 maze and we, five, can take the same path and each of us 80 00:07:34.639 --> 00:07:39.199 if we have a different place, turn left or right, decide to stay 81 00:07:39.279 --> 00:07:44.720 there because we are afraid or move on. And not here. It' 82 00:07:44.800 --> 00:07:46.600 s not here, it' s not going on. And each of those 83 00:07:46.639 --> 00:07:53.879 situations for others is going to generate those perceptions. But you can believe it. 84 00:07:54.079 --> 00:07:58.040 Yeah, I' d think there' s a good thing and I 85 00:07:58.079 --> 00:08:03.839 say good and bad decisions or better decisions. Possibly that would be the first 86 00:08:03.160 --> 00:08:07.600 part I would see. But here forgive me for interrupting you, my dear 87 00:08:07.600 --> 00:08:11.959 Pepe. I want to ask you something and I go with you, tamara 88 00:08:13.079 --> 00:08:16.560 lis and he and Pepe again to see is very romantic. What did you 89 00:08:16.600 --> 00:08:20.920 just say? I mean? It is our perception that is life in how 90 00:08:20.920 --> 00:08:24.759 we live. Life is very romantic. Yeah, but it hasn' t 91 00:08:24.959 --> 00:08:28.680 happened to them that there' s always Aunt Lupita at Christmas. We all 92 00:08:28.800 --> 00:08:33.639 have a lupita aunt who always is. And my little boy you haven' 93 00:08:33.639 --> 00:08:35.960 t married. And my little boy and what happened to the kids. And 94 00:08:37.000 --> 00:08:39.399 my little boy, you didn' t change your truck. We' ve 95 00:08:39.480 --> 00:08:45.399 always run into someone at work who' s insidious, gossipy, who sees 96 00:08:45.480 --> 00:08:48.879 everything as negative, who sees everything as bad, which is no longer your 97 00:08:50.080 --> 00:08:54.559 job development. It' s how you dress, it' s how you 98 00:08:54.559 --> 00:08:58.600 comb. It' s like you smell, that' s all, and 99 00:08:58.639 --> 00:09:03.159 they' re people who leave for life who, instead of giving thanks, 100 00:09:03.519 --> 00:09:07.679 are giving themselves their complaints wherever they go. Those people can' t say 101 00:09:07.840 --> 00:09:11.799 you' re ay is maybe I' m getting it wrong. The person 102 00:09:11.320 --> 00:09:18.440 himself brings a very, very, very, very sick scroll. It won 103 00:09:20.360 --> 00:09:26.200 ' t be good. I think I agree with Yael' s position because 104 00:09:26.360 --> 00:09:31.000 we are a historical cut and assessment of toxicity. To me, the word 105 00:09:31.120 --> 00:09:35.840 toxicity doesn' t get me too much. I think that rather we act 106 00:09:37.879 --> 00:09:43.399 dysfunctionally and not so much good or bad can work or not work and the 107 00:09:43.480 --> 00:09:48.840 behavior of people, not toxic people, but toxic behaviors have to do with 108 00:09:48.919 --> 00:09:56.159 a historical cut and a situational cut. Because I' ve probably been all 109 00:09:56.200 --> 00:10:01.360 those things that you' ve said, too, Louis, at some point, 110 00:10:01.360 --> 00:10:03.799 maybe because of different circumstances. I' ve been the one who asked 111 00:10:03.919 --> 00:10:07.639 and the guys by when, the kids, when I asked about someone' 112 00:10:07.720 --> 00:10:13.360 s life or I' ve gotten very angry and I' ve been the 113 00:10:13.440 --> 00:10:16.200 negative person in a meeting, or I' ve been the gossip all of 114 00:10:16.200 --> 00:10:18.039 a sudden in a group of friends. But it also has to do with 115 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:24.320 evaluating the dynamics that led me to that place. Yes, it is true 116 00:10:24.440 --> 00:10:31.559 that there are people who act consciously for but not everyone we call toxic is 117 00:10:31.639 --> 00:10:37.879 toxic, and not all the behaviors we consider toxic are so toxic, but 118 00:10:37.919 --> 00:10:45.960 they account for a situation, for an act. Tamara says she' s 119 00:10:46.039 --> 00:10:50.519 sometimes aunt lupita. You have to be careful with the timbre I' m 120 00:10:50.519 --> 00:10:54.440 coming with you. Yeah, it has to, like Tamara, I agree, 121 00:10:54.600 --> 00:10:58.080 it' s not as toxic, because if we go to something toxic 122 00:10:58.200 --> 00:11:03.360 and it doesn' t even exist, that is, it doesn' t, 123 00:11:03.720 --> 00:11:07.440 or it' s toxic it can be a substance, for example, 124 00:11:09.360 --> 00:11:11.320 no, but I understand your point that you' re right there verdulero and 125 00:11:11.320 --> 00:11:15.039 you want to throw us out to fight. Okay perfect, let' s 126 00:11:15.120 --> 00:11:18.519 take it as a perfect toxic. I' m going to lend myself just 127 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:22.879 for this exercise. It' s going to be clear, and I' 128 00:11:22.879 --> 00:11:26.840 d call it unhappy people, people who aren' t being happy, who 129 00:11:26.000 --> 00:11:30.200 aren' t creating any more with their lives, and then, as you 130 00:11:30.279 --> 00:11:31.720 see them moving, they want to stop you in some way or another. 131 00:11:31.440 --> 00:11:33.840 There' s a very fatherly book and I remembered that I had it. 132 00:11:35.120 --> 00:11:37.600 In fact, it' s called toxic people. I don' t know 133 00:11:37.639 --> 00:11:43.799 if you know anyone. Okay Teas is really lame, because even he makes 134 00:11:45.000 --> 00:11:48.720 a classification of the types of toxic people using this term that I' m 135 00:11:48.840 --> 00:11:52.240 also hit by tamara. I agree, but he' s a pain in 136 00:11:52.679 --> 00:11:56.039 the ass because he tells you there' s the gas- smelling face, 137 00:11:56.039 --> 00:11:58.639 not what you tell him. Good morning and I' m like this all 138 00:11:58.759 --> 00:12:01.840 the time, not and I know that ja of everything and if it' 139 00:12:01.840 --> 00:12:05.559 s hot and it' s gone cold, tomos everything' s wrong And 140 00:12:05.600 --> 00:12:09.600 like Pepe said, yes, sometimes we have a lot of this connotation of 141 00:12:09.679 --> 00:12:13.320 good and bad, but I would call it more how convenient this is for 142 00:12:13.320 --> 00:12:18.440 me, that is, not so good or bad, but really being great 143 00:12:18.440 --> 00:12:20.879 this choice that I' m making right now. And watch why I run 144 00:12:22.000 --> 00:12:26.480 into toxic people. Why? Why? Why? If there' s a 145 00:12:26.559 --> 00:12:30.639 lot of people in my life, why do I end up hooking up with 146 00:12:30.720 --> 00:12:35.200 that kind of people and of course they exist, but they' re people 147 00:12:35.279 --> 00:12:39.600 who aren' t creating, they' re not moving and, like water, 148 00:12:39.919 --> 00:12:41.320 when we don' t flow, we stagnate and we can. Not 149 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:46.000 then, it' s like everything smells bad, because I see that the 150 00:12:46.120 --> 00:12:50.000 others follow their course and I' m still here in my poop lodge, 151 00:12:50.039 --> 00:12:54.840 not then, but then they do exist ready here. What' s interesting 152 00:12:54.879 --> 00:13:00.799 is that discovering xiste or not, or if it' s just pressure from 153 00:13:00.799 --> 00:13:07.840 us. It doesn' t exist, but it' s me who gives 154 00:13:07.919 --> 00:13:11.360 it the toxic label because then I could say you' re fucked, güey, 155 00:13:11.559 --> 00:13:15.559 I mean, I don' t call it toxic, we call it 156 00:13:15.600 --> 00:13:16.960 your fucking and you want me to be just as fucked up, that you 157 00:13:16.960 --> 00:13:20.559 ' re already really mad. If I go into your poop pool and go 158 00:13:20.639 --> 00:13:24.240 swimming with you, or they do, then the truth is that there is 159 00:13:24.279 --> 00:13:28.600 a fact that there are these kinds of people not all a little bit, 160 00:13:28.879 --> 00:13:33.600 who sometimes seem to be angry with reality or angry with life, and then 161 00:13:33.720 --> 00:13:41.639 they go around trying to make you less trying. Tamara said something very important 162 00:13:41.840 --> 00:13:46.519 about what we do for those people to finally get to us. There is 163 00:13:46.600 --> 00:13:50.879 no very important thing, too, that we can reflect on what we are 164 00:13:52.039 --> 00:13:56.240 doing, not also to attract these kinds of people who, instead of contributing 165 00:13:56.240 --> 00:14:01.000 to us, are cutting off part of what we too are, to be 166 00:14:01.120 --> 00:14:03.799 able to choose, to be able to say with what kind of person, 167 00:14:05.399 --> 00:14:07.039 because I want to live together, I want to share, to be able 168 00:14:07.039 --> 00:14:11.559 to reflect. That part also leads us to know which people do and which 169 00:14:11.639 --> 00:14:13.919 people add us up in our lives, because at the end of the day, 170 00:14:15.080 --> 00:14:18.360 as I tell you, people are. Yes, there are people who 171 00:14:18.559 --> 00:14:24.000 have this tendency to complain, to be displeased with people. But in that 172 00:14:24.080 --> 00:14:28.559 sense I choose how close I am to someone. So no, how can 173 00:14:28.639 --> 00:14:35.159 I put healthy limits for those people, because if they don' t share 174 00:14:35.360 --> 00:14:39.279 like this story with me, well, they say out there that they add 175 00:14:39.399 --> 00:14:43.200 that they subtract us. And that way, because we too put this barrier. 176 00:14:45.039 --> 00:14:46.480 Not because by the end of the day those people are gonna be, 177 00:14:46.559 --> 00:14:48.519 they' re gonna be, and they' re not gonna be. No. 178 00:14:48.159 --> 00:14:52.679 But it is up to us, too, to what we want and 179 00:14:52.799 --> 00:14:58.840 what we are willing to tolerate in the people around us. We just go 180 00:15:00.039 --> 00:15:05.879 Pepe we run into them on the way, they come out to meet us, 181 00:15:07.440 --> 00:15:11.159 we attract them or what happens, because sometimes it seems like it' 182 00:15:11.159 --> 00:15:13.919 s a joke. It' s a big front. It' s a 183 00:15:15.000 --> 00:15:18.600 lot like that, the joints are a lot and all of a sudden, 184 00:15:20.159 --> 00:15:24.320 if they fill your foot bag with pebbles, I wouldn' t think of 185 00:15:24.320 --> 00:15:28.440 two other important things. One, I think it all depends on perspectives. 186 00:15:28.080 --> 00:15:31.919 I mean, I' m remembering. It was recently in Mexico a concert 187 00:15:33.080 --> 00:15:37.639 with my son and then you say good every person I see today like this, 188 00:15:39.240 --> 00:15:43.919 but the place that everyone can be. Oh, good thing I got 189 00:15:45.000 --> 00:15:46.799 my little chaperone' cause it lets me see. Or how bad it' 190 00:15:46.919 --> 00:15:50.039 s for me to be the one who doesn' t let me see and 191 00:15:50.159 --> 00:15:52.840 it' s going to have to do with my position and the position of 192 00:15:52.840 --> 00:15:56.759 the others. So, from where I see it. That' s one 193 00:15:56.919 --> 00:16:02.240 and the second that I put here on the table and that will have to 194 00:16:03.279 --> 00:16:08.080 do with my how you know today at this moment is eight of a day, 195 00:16:08.080 --> 00:16:15.039 because there' s evidence. If YOU have evidence, it' s 196 00:16:15.120 --> 00:16:18.120 dark that the sun isn' t there. Then you learned that when there 197 00:16:18.240 --> 00:16:22.080 are no suns at night and when there are suns at day, right yes, 198 00:16:23.120 --> 00:16:27.759 then you recognize the night and the day, because you have something for 199 00:16:27.840 --> 00:16:33.559 which I want to go that if I place something toxic in YOU, it 200 00:16:33.679 --> 00:16:38.399 is because I already lived it, I already know it and surely I am 201 00:16:38.519 --> 00:16:44.480 also a little and I am simply recognizing something that I have to have a 202 00:16:44.480 --> 00:16:48.120 point of reference. So what, such that those people are also on my 203 00:16:48.240 --> 00:16:52.159 way to learning something and beyond something negative, is becoming like a teacher, 204 00:16:52.399 --> 00:16:59.559 a mirror or a learning situation. I tell you, it' s hard 205 00:16:59.639 --> 00:17:02.399 for me to get in the way of the fact that he' s a 206 00:17:02.399 --> 00:17:04.680 teacher. I don' t put you back, and now I' m 207 00:17:04.680 --> 00:17:07.960 coming with you. First, pepe then lis ya to him and then tamara. 208 00:17:08.720 --> 00:17:12.400 I' m going with you on this subject. How we can otherwise 209 00:17:12.680 --> 00:17:18.960 not only identify, but actually how we can or what factors contribute to whether 210 00:17:19.119 --> 00:17:23.319 a person is toxic or not. I' m going for every example. 211 00:17:23.440 --> 00:17:26.640 Pepe will give it back to you. I' m going to the concert. 212 00:17:26.240 --> 00:17:30.640 In front of me is a person who is complaining. There' s 213 00:17:32.000 --> 00:17:34.480 a lot of people going to start raining, but they' re going to 214 00:17:34.559 --> 00:17:36.799 be late for the band and you' re listening to it. You' 215 00:17:36.839 --> 00:17:41.079 re formed with your son at the concert the happiest and this person doesn' 216 00:17:41.160 --> 00:17:44.279 t, but surely this one won' t play. They' re going 217 00:17:44.400 --> 00:17:45.680 to cancel the concert, they' re starting to come in. It' 218 00:17:45.839 --> 00:17:48.920 s just that he fights with the ticket guy, so you say he hears 219 00:17:49.039 --> 00:17:53.960 what a bad vibe brother this is, I come in super good vibes with 220 00:17:55.039 --> 00:17:57.839 my son and this one comes from toxic. What factors contribute to saying that 221 00:17:57.920 --> 00:18:02.400 a person is toxic or not. I' m going with you, Pepe 222 00:18:02.559 --> 00:18:04.680 Ellis, and him and Tamara, and before I go over with Tamara, 223 00:18:06.119 --> 00:18:07.279 I' m going to ask you another question, because I was with double 224 00:18:07.279 --> 00:18:10.920 intent. Tamara there, you go, right now, I say come on, 225 00:18:11.920 --> 00:18:17.680 Pepe I think it has to do with what influences or removes or affects 226 00:18:17.799 --> 00:18:19.720 the environment, in this case me and my son, for example. That 227 00:18:19.720 --> 00:18:22.920 ' s what I' d say. If it' s if I' 228 00:18:22.960 --> 00:18:26.160 m going to give you that term of toxic, non- toxic. It 229 00:18:26.200 --> 00:18:27.839 will have to do with what it contributes, what it does not contribute to, 230 00:18:27.960 --> 00:18:32.440 and what you care about, you can say that it contributes to being 231 00:18:32.559 --> 00:18:40.480 a toxic person or not. Let' s just say josa, conflictive complaining, 232 00:18:40.799 --> 00:18:42.880 of course, and in the end, I think something interesting is that 233 00:18:42.960 --> 00:18:45.640 she' s going to shoot a decision from me, that is, the 234 00:18:45.720 --> 00:18:49.119 first thing I would do would be to try and slink it further away from 235 00:18:49.119 --> 00:18:51.880 the place where that person is. Not, for example, that is said 236 00:18:51.960 --> 00:18:55.000 easy in the line of a concert, because you let it pass for the 237 00:18:55.000 --> 00:18:57.799 person. So my dad' s when she' s the aunt and I 238 00:18:59.799 --> 00:19:03.559 aim at that or not, and that' s the idea more or less. 239 00:19:03.680 --> 00:19:06.920 We go around because I' m going to ask you just for the 240 00:19:07.079 --> 00:19:11.519 next round is and what happens when they' re our family, when they 241 00:19:11.599 --> 00:19:12.759 ' re my boss, when they' re my son. Not that I 242 00:19:12.839 --> 00:19:17.640 come super healthy and my son is the one who' s ready to go 243 00:19:18.640 --> 00:19:23.039 with you how it is that we have, well, I think something very 244 00:19:23.119 --> 00:19:26.799 important or good when some situation happens. That' s how you manage your 245 00:19:26.920 --> 00:19:33.240 emotions, too. Not since maybe something' s going on, there' 246 00:19:33.319 --> 00:19:36.839 s something external. What do I do, No, what do I do, 247 00:19:37.400 --> 00:19:40.759 what fate to be me, because at the end of the day it 248 00:19:40.839 --> 00:19:42.200 is a decision that yes, maybe we make it based on our history. 249 00:19:42.480 --> 00:19:48.799 But it' s a decision to be as they say at the concert and 250 00:19:48.839 --> 00:19:52.920 have a good attitude or a bad attitude. In the end this part, 251 00:19:53.400 --> 00:20:00.519 maybe the tone thing might be the environment. It can all be a few 252 00:20:00.599 --> 00:20:03.680 situations, but at the end of the day you decide, you don' 253 00:20:03.680 --> 00:20:07.480 t decide. And maybe I feel like people who tend to be more toxic 254 00:20:07.599 --> 00:20:11.839 or have a more negative side, because maybe they don' t make our 255 00:20:12.160 --> 00:20:18.680 best choices in attitude, in behavior But, well, maybe it depends a 256 00:20:18.759 --> 00:20:22.480 lot on each other' s perception, but I think we all decide in 257 00:20:22.519 --> 00:20:30.559 the end what emotion to take and what attitudes to take to things. What 258 00:20:30.640 --> 00:20:34.319 certain healthy limits would be no longer to him, that is, you walk 259 00:20:34.400 --> 00:20:37.759 away, as Pepe says no, this change of channel, change of conversation. 260 00:20:38.119 --> 00:20:41.400 But there are times I tell you, there are many. Yeah, 261 00:20:41.160 --> 00:20:45.839 look, I' ve learned a lot, because in my family we see 262 00:20:45.920 --> 00:20:49.799 a lot and I' ve been a big cannon too. And the truth 263 00:20:49.839 --> 00:20:52.839 is that I have realized that toxic people as you are calling them today, 264 00:20:53.359 --> 00:20:57.680 are people who have to jitis, acute, who are envious, give constructive 265 00:20:57.799 --> 00:21:07.839 criticism, but have not built anything. Those who seek this problem for every 266 00:21:08.000 --> 00:21:14.160 solution, those you want to teach them. I was listening out there to 267 00:21:14.240 --> 00:21:18.880 a rill that people say there are bee people and fly people, that tell 268 00:21:18.960 --> 00:21:22.559 you the bee, but it' s that honey is very rich. And 269 00:21:22.640 --> 00:21:25.799 the fly says no. It' s just that, well, the stern 270 00:21:25.799 --> 00:21:27.599 looks good. No, then the bee says no, but look. I 271 00:21:27.680 --> 00:21:33.599 ' m telling you honey and honey and not my ecosystem. It' s 272 00:21:33.680 --> 00:21:37.039 full of this, because again we come from a story and if I don 273 00:21:37.640 --> 00:21:41.400 ' t know it, it' s not going to be normal, so 274 00:21:41.400 --> 00:21:45.440 to speak. For me it' s going to be even awkward to have 275 00:21:45.599 --> 00:21:48.640 these people who say that vibrating high and all this stuff and itchy, explains 276 00:21:48.759 --> 00:21:52.000 why they say ay your world of rainbows and colors and toxic positivism. It 277 00:21:52.079 --> 00:21:56.599 has touched me a lot that it is very different to be an optimistic person, 278 00:21:56.160 --> 00:21:57.880 to be positive toxic. But, well, that' s another song. 279 00:21:59.319 --> 00:22:06.279 They' re people who don' t have empathy for others that when 280 00:22:06.480 --> 00:22:11.160 they tell you something, they tell you that for harm and they don' 281 00:22:11.119 --> 00:22:15.240 t do it for being, that is, for really having a constructive criticism, 282 00:22:17.000 --> 00:22:18.079 but for hurting you like the one in the ear. You fattened a 283 00:22:18.200 --> 00:22:22.559 jet hears for when the children, because if you are already old, not 284 00:22:23.160 --> 00:22:29.000 then suddenly you say who asked you something, that was so necessary that comment 285 00:22:29.079 --> 00:22:34.319 of my body or of my life. You don' t know, but 286 00:22:34.319 --> 00:22:41.920 that' s so much, there' s so much lack of love in 287 00:22:41.920 --> 00:22:47.359 themselves and so much lack of acceptance that they can' t actually see anything 288 00:22:47.359 --> 00:22:49.519 great nice in someone else. So that' s where it comes from and 289 00:22:51.160 --> 00:22:53.799 Lisbetti and I tell you that I' m on this side and that I 290 00:22:53.880 --> 00:22:57.440 can watch you if I hook up with you, I' m right about 291 00:22:57.440 --> 00:23:00.079 something and Pepe said something very important. The person you most dislike is the 292 00:23:00.240 --> 00:23:04.519 one who looks the most like you in the dark. Ah and that brings 293 00:23:04.640 --> 00:23:07.799 me out a lot of Commission. The truth is, I don' t 294 00:23:07.799 --> 00:23:10.720 think so. I don' t think so because there are critical distances. 295 00:23:10.799 --> 00:23:14.759 If there are ways of different this madra, what about the parents, what 296 00:23:14.880 --> 00:23:18.720 about the children, with the brothers, with the boss. I mean, 297 00:23:19.079 --> 00:23:23.519 it' s not like you have a bad interpretation of your boss, that 298 00:23:23.720 --> 00:23:26.640 everyone sees him, but your job, I mean, there are things you 299 00:23:26.640 --> 00:23:30.559 say. I' m probably wrong, but there are things in the sayings 300 00:23:30.559 --> 00:23:33.039 don' t smudge. This one' s crazy, not good. I 301 00:23:33.039 --> 00:23:40.799 think it' s important that point of inflection and awareness that if I have 302 00:23:40.880 --> 00:23:44.319 a toxic partner, if I have a toxic child, if I have a 303 00:23:44.440 --> 00:23:48.640 toxic boss, there' s a factor that' s repeating that I' 304 00:23:48.759 --> 00:23:52.480 m a show and not that the other is always the toxic one, but 305 00:23:52.559 --> 00:23:56.519 that I' m being part of that dynamic and in what has to do 306 00:23:56.640 --> 00:23:59.759 with relational psychology, there' s talk of someone who sustains the other' 307 00:23:59.759 --> 00:24:04.559 s behavior. So how important it is to be able to recognize within all 308 00:24:04.759 --> 00:24:12.359 these nuances of toxicity where I' m being involved and I' m sustaining 309 00:24:12.359 --> 00:24:17.000 each other' s behavior. And how good it would be to be able 310 00:24:18.079 --> 00:24:23.920 to run out of those spaces and why not even down the curtain of some 311 00:24:25.000 --> 00:24:30.000 relationships, be it work and even family, simply because, as Pepe said, 312 00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:30.920 I' m going to paraphrase it there. It doesn' t make 313 00:24:30.920 --> 00:24:33.240 me feel good, it doesn' t bring me well- being. You 314 00:24:33.279 --> 00:24:37.240 should also be very aware that the body reacts to these types of people and 315 00:24:40.039 --> 00:24:44.559 the body changes the central nervous system. He' s the first to make 316 00:24:44.680 --> 00:24:47.680 a reading of what' s happening to us. And it' s these 317 00:24:47.720 --> 00:24:52.920 people who say ay I don' t feel comfortable with or set limits, 318 00:24:53.119 --> 00:24:59.759 which is a huge task, It' s very difficult, but it' 319 00:25:00.160 --> 00:25:03.920 s a learning to be able to get rid of those happen to get this 320 00:25:03.920 --> 00:25:07.599 kind of behavior that nothing is benefiting us. It says tamada pepe that set 321 00:25:07.599 --> 00:25:15.240 limits, lower curtains, not take distance. Definitely. In certain people it 322 00:25:15.319 --> 00:25:19.039 ' s easier, no, but in family, in a couple it' 323 00:25:19.240 --> 00:25:23.519 s suddenly very complicated and I think that' s also a lot of self 324 00:25:23.519 --> 00:25:29.160 - love. What do you think, but you want to say I don 325 00:25:29.279 --> 00:25:32.079 ' t want before I tell you this, this thing that itches you I 326 00:25:32.079 --> 00:25:36.400 want to share something. I think there is a perception of linear time that 327 00:25:36.440 --> 00:25:41.079 is true on our planet, in our human perception, but in the same 328 00:25:41.119 --> 00:25:45.200 way something that is on it. They' re talking about cold and heat. 329 00:25:45.680 --> 00:25:48.279 We' re talking about temperatures. True, moreover, as in our 330 00:25:48.359 --> 00:25:52.480 human perception they are as far away, so far is the heat and so 331 00:25:52.519 --> 00:25:56.720 far is the cold. Right, yeah, yeah, nothing but what they 332 00:25:56.759 --> 00:26:00.359 say is that it' s circular. What we see and understand is that 333 00:26:00.440 --> 00:26:07.640 the universe is circular. So you heard what this one says if you get 334 00:26:07.720 --> 00:26:11.519 hit by your chat, no, no, no, it' s too 335 00:26:11.519 --> 00:26:15.279 close. I mean, if you see it circularly, the cold and the 336 00:26:15.359 --> 00:26:19.200 heat are like this. Just one turned to the other. So we' 337 00:26:19.240 --> 00:26:23.480 re used to saying here I' m zero horrified and it' s even 338 00:26:23.519 --> 00:26:26.839 warm enough to a hundred hundred and fifty. It is, but truly in 339 00:26:26.960 --> 00:26:30.720 this cycle. I turn and back here and you are, because that' 340 00:26:30.799 --> 00:26:33.200 s why they say that from the love of hate there' s a glass, 341 00:26:33.559 --> 00:26:37.599 because instead of looking at the frent and turning it all around, I 342 00:26:37.680 --> 00:26:38.680 just have to turn around and it' s here in my side behind me. 343 00:26:41.200 --> 00:26:44.680 What happens is that we' re so used to it that we lose 344 00:26:44.759 --> 00:26:48.599 sight of it, that it' s behind me and that' s where 345 00:26:48.720 --> 00:26:52.759 I jal I think I was commenting on this topic because it' s that 346 00:26:52.759 --> 00:26:52.759 we' re, it' s not like, a little distance away. 347 00:26:53.400 --> 00:26:56.640 That' s why we don' t seem to see it, but at 348 00:26:56.720 --> 00:26:59.839 the same time it' s so attached to me and it' s part 349 00:26:59.839 --> 00:27:03.720 of me. What they mean is that then we all have some toxic or 350 00:27:03.000 --> 00:27:08.599 all in another way. Yeah, what does that say that we all have 351 00:27:08.680 --> 00:27:14.039 something toxic by vote. So cheap. Okay, wow. I also want 352 00:27:14.079 --> 00:27:15.079 to ask you guys what you' re seeing us and you' re listening 353 00:27:15.079 --> 00:27:18.880 to us. You think you' ve run into some toxic. You' 354 00:27:18.960 --> 00:27:23.039 re toxic, you' re toxic. No, and also here interesting this, 355 00:27:25.119 --> 00:27:30.079 how we can recognize that we are falling into a manipulation of a person 356 00:27:30.200 --> 00:27:36.920 like this or how it is that we are now going to turn it, 357 00:27:37.240 --> 00:27:42.400 We settle to blame the other person by calling it toxic conflict, when we 358 00:27:42.559 --> 00:27:45.799 are the ones who generate that. There are many people who literally over there 359 00:27:45.880 --> 00:27:52.559 are up to a sentence, I go with you, pick up later and 360 00:27:52.559 --> 00:27:57.000 he lis and take this one. There' s a phrase out there that 361 00:27:57.240 --> 00:28:03.559 literally says no. That there are people who react to what we did and 362 00:28:03.680 --> 00:28:07.680 blame themselves not, I mean, you say hey, don' t hang 363 00:28:07.680 --> 00:28:10.799 on. He' s not going that way. Don' t think what 364 00:28:10.799 --> 00:28:12.880 you think. I would think it has to do with the issue of manipulating 365 00:28:14.000 --> 00:28:18.799 and influencing or giving an opinion or a point of view. I think it 366 00:28:18.880 --> 00:28:23.519 has to do with the person' s intention. If it' s my 367 00:28:23.559 --> 00:28:29.200 intention to just see me, which is a no longer selfish one, in 368 00:28:29.279 --> 00:28:33.319 a selfish way, no, then I' m manipulating. If what I 369 00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:37.440 have to do has to do with a common good, where today there is 370 00:28:37.440 --> 00:28:41.440 something here to vary look, it is not well armed. Let' s 371 00:28:41.519 --> 00:28:45.799 do something different, change our positions, do whatever it is and then, 372 00:28:47.440 --> 00:28:52.519 even if my opinion is different from yours, my intention is to consummate for 373 00:28:52.559 --> 00:28:56.799 the common good, then I would not necessarily be toxic. For me, 374 00:28:56.880 --> 00:29:02.960 the toxicity would have to do with just seeing me You do have to watch 375 00:29:03.039 --> 00:29:07.160 you kick your ass, pepe and he lie to live together is what he 376 00:29:07.160 --> 00:29:11.680 wants to tell us. Pepe, I mean, take it milder. No, 377 00:29:11.440 --> 00:29:15.680 not me when I was before. Pepe, no, no, Dale, 378 00:29:15.039 --> 00:29:18.359 Dale, Dale, don' t mean I think he' s looking. 379 00:29:18.559 --> 00:29:22.640 We are so used to this part of the farce as well, not 380 00:29:22.680 --> 00:29:26.319 even on social media. All of a sudden I' m a lot of 381 00:29:26.400 --> 00:29:30.160 myself in therapy with people who say it' s scary for me to come 382 00:29:30.240 --> 00:29:33.920 to my party and see that I don' t look as cool as in 383 00:29:33.920 --> 00:29:37.519 the pictures. Not then, I mean. We' re always in a 384 00:29:37.519 --> 00:29:41.119 mask. You know, at work. We' re a person with the 385 00:29:41.240 --> 00:29:45.680 family, we' re another person because, that is, why it' 386 00:29:45.759 --> 00:29:47.640 s so necessary and that' s where the toxicity falls. For me, 387 00:29:48.640 --> 00:29:52.799 why do I have to disguise myself as other people or other identities according to 388 00:29:52.839 --> 00:29:57.480 where I am. Because when you' re an authentic person, you can 389 00:29:57.519 --> 00:30:03.400 show yourself just as you are, because you really have this ability to be 390 00:30:03.400 --> 00:30:07.759 vulnerable. And we all have buttons, buttons that if they push them, 391 00:30:07.799 --> 00:30:12.559 they hurt us and that if we push them with the people that we say 392 00:30:12.680 --> 00:30:17.279 we love, we hurt and we know where and we know where to do 393 00:30:17.279 --> 00:30:18.000 it and how to do it. But because sometimes I gain my ego and 394 00:30:18.079 --> 00:30:22.839 get angry, I do that by reaction, because since you pressed a button 395 00:30:22.920 --> 00:30:26.400 on me, it' s not like Jesus Christ I turn the other cheek. 396 00:30:26.480 --> 00:30:30.079 No, no, I tapachurro stronger yours, because what' s hurting 397 00:30:30.160 --> 00:30:34.799 me. And that' s where Lisbert was telling us, it' s 398 00:30:34.880 --> 00:30:38.400 not clear what my decision is about. I mean, you already hurt me 399 00:30:38.480 --> 00:30:42.880 and I know you' re toxic again in quotes. I know you have 400 00:30:42.960 --> 00:30:47.119 a subject, I know you have a story, but because then I go 401 00:30:47.200 --> 00:30:49.480 back, just like you are where I go with you and I go back 402 00:30:49.480 --> 00:30:52.799 to my sentence. The one you most like Gordo is the one you most 403 00:30:52.880 --> 00:30:56.799 like, because it detonates in You that discomfort. For me, that' 404 00:30:56.839 --> 00:31:00.720 s toxicity. Why I' m feeling so bad when this person acts in 405 00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:06.519 a certain way. OK. I don' t know if you, some 406 00:31:06.599 --> 00:31:11.440 of you, are playing some sport or some sport, but I remember when 407 00:31:11.559 --> 00:31:14.960 I was playing football many years ago, not this one. When I played 408 00:31:15.119 --> 00:31:18.599 with a very good team, I even went up to your level, but 409 00:31:18.720 --> 00:31:22.119 when you play with a very bad team, you become very clumsy like you 410 00:31:22.200 --> 00:31:27.000 kind of lower the very ugly level I want to move him into this when 411 00:31:27.119 --> 00:31:32.720 you run into a toxic person or when a person conflicts with a person you 412 00:31:32.839 --> 00:31:34.519 suddenly become half clumsy already is doing the same thing. There are people who 413 00:31:34.640 --> 00:31:37.000 say this read. That' s who I am. So, it' 414 00:31:37.000 --> 00:31:40.920 s me, I' m very honest, I' m very, very, 415 00:31:40.920 --> 00:31:44.480 very open. I say things the way I think about them and that 416 00:31:44.960 --> 00:31:49.400 justifies being aggressive, hurting, hurting. That' s part of a toxicity. 417 00:31:49.559 --> 00:31:55.359 Or not, so I say, let' s go again to this 418 00:31:55.480 --> 00:31:57.400 part as the term. But then, I say, at the end of 419 00:32:00.079 --> 00:32:02.640 the day people show themselves as they are. You don' t say, 420 00:32:04.119 --> 00:32:07.400 there are even cynical people who could fall into their zero form or their way 421 00:32:07.400 --> 00:32:12.240 of acting. But, well, that' s where this part depends a 422 00:32:12.240 --> 00:32:15.319 lot. As I was saying, not what falls into you, what it 423 00:32:15.559 --> 00:32:21.799 is in you to do for the best of these kinds of people, because 424 00:32:21.960 --> 00:32:27.359 keeping them at bay and it may be that they are quite, quite strong 425 00:32:27.440 --> 00:32:30.880 behaviors, as you said well. Maybe this other part of us, too, 426 00:32:30.640 --> 00:32:36.160 not if you get a little check on things, it' s because 427 00:32:36.400 --> 00:32:38.160 there' s something else in you. No, and I do agree with 428 00:32:38.240 --> 00:32:43.440 this part that maybe life teachers are these kinds of people who even show up. 429 00:32:45.799 --> 00:32:52.480 Such because sometimes we need to learn in the other, also not see 430 00:32:52.519 --> 00:32:55.680 ourselves through the other. Many times it makes sense to us in ourselves. 431 00:32:57.000 --> 00:33:01.119 Not seeing the best of others has happened to me. Some things happen also 432 00:33:01.200 --> 00:33:07.400 makes sense, because in this sense for me or for other people. Then, 433 00:33:07.920 --> 00:33:10.240 yes, there will always be people showing up with this flag. So 434 00:33:10.279 --> 00:33:14.759 I am if you like me well, but also, but then, well, 435 00:33:15.079 --> 00:33:17.359 there comes this part of us that yes, sum, that adds us 436 00:33:17.359 --> 00:33:22.480 up. And so, with permission not the people who are like that, 437 00:33:22.599 --> 00:33:24.240 if they do not go with our way of being, with our values, 438 00:33:24.839 --> 00:33:30.200 with our beliefs, then good to give them now yes that turn to the 439 00:33:30.240 --> 00:33:34.119 leaf, as they say. Out there, you said, a little while 440 00:33:34.119 --> 00:33:37.039 ago, thank you, lis said bad, a little while ago to lower 441 00:33:37.039 --> 00:33:40.319 curtains, to set limits. You can change a person. Yes, you 442 00:33:40.400 --> 00:33:47.720 can change a person with a constant negativity with one you can one like that 443 00:33:47.839 --> 00:33:52.319 person who has that relationship with a toxic person, change the other person, 444 00:33:53.759 --> 00:34:00.599 influence his decisions, try to motivate her to make a little different. You 445 00:34:00.680 --> 00:34:05.119 ' re the worst person in the world to help that other one, because 446 00:34:05.200 --> 00:34:09.480 you' re just as toxic. Well, I don' t want to 447 00:34:09.480 --> 00:34:17.599 discourage you, Luis, but I think we have to give up all hope 448 00:34:17.599 --> 00:34:24.000 of wanting to change each other or. Changes are always personal. And now 449 00:34:24.960 --> 00:34:30.119 there he said I don' t remember. He' s not Lisbet anymore. 450 00:34:30.760 --> 00:34:39.000 Take a good look at interpersonal relationships to make us more aware of who 451 00:34:39.079 --> 00:34:44.760 we are. Yeah, there' s a learning. Yeah, there' 452 00:34:44.800 --> 00:34:50.800 s a learning, learning how I come by selecting relationships, how I come 453 00:34:50.880 --> 00:34:53.719 by selecting the people around me. Obviously there are situations that are a little 454 00:34:53.840 --> 00:35:00.440 more inevitable, such as family issues, the subject of work, but we 455 00:35:00.519 --> 00:35:07.519 come to learn and be more aware of ourselves. Only we ourselves can change 456 00:35:07.639 --> 00:35:12.519 and make a review of what my toxic behaviors are, what are my where 457 00:35:12.599 --> 00:35:17.679 I am engaging in toxic behaviors from another and how I can run. But 458 00:35:17.719 --> 00:35:27.840 you have to give up all hopes of being superheroes and wanting to save the 459 00:35:27.920 --> 00:35:30.320 other sounds so fatherly and so beautiful. Pepe is what he says, but 460 00:35:30.320 --> 00:35:34.960 it' s very romantic and it' s romantic and I think it' 461 00:35:34.960 --> 00:35:40.039 s functional. So it' s easier to say the problem, because it 462 00:35:40.199 --> 00:35:42.880 ' s not in you, but it' s in me. Okay what 463 00:35:43.039 --> 00:35:45.920 I see, what I perceive, what I understand, and then I' 464 00:35:46.000 --> 00:35:51.840 ll have to change certain things to stop seeing the toxic as toxic, because 465 00:35:52.719 --> 00:35:59.320 there are toxic. Pepe, you know they were thinking of something right now 466 00:36:00.239 --> 00:36:00.719 I' m sorry I' m going to what you' re talking about. 467 00:36:00.840 --> 00:36:05.440 I can take this subject from the person who says I am like that. 468 00:36:06.559 --> 00:36:12.320 You know what, right now I declare that I am suddenly someone I 469 00:36:12.440 --> 00:36:15.800 say because I am, I am like this, says Pepe there have been 470 00:36:15.880 --> 00:36:20.679 times when I touch the certain button on me and I say forgive me and 471 00:36:20.679 --> 00:36:22.239 let me go. Don' t mean it' s me and don' 472 00:36:22.280 --> 00:36:27.679 t ask me to change, and from that point on, I' ll 473 00:36:27.760 --> 00:36:30.400 get on from the other one I was talking about. Tamara this one. 474 00:36:30.880 --> 00:36:35.320 I think I' m like this, not forever, not for every case, 475 00:36:36.440 --> 00:36:38.840 but I think it' s going to depend on a degree of maturity 476 00:36:39.000 --> 00:36:43.800 that I have regarding what I' m living with that person. I mean, 477 00:36:43.960 --> 00:36:45.480 I' m going to go to couples, I mean, hey, 478 00:36:45.880 --> 00:36:51.800 there' s something one couple after another after another. The other one happens 479 00:36:51.920 --> 00:36:57.679 to me something similar and then what is the constant in that, because I 480 00:36:58.400 --> 00:37:01.039 do not treat them. So yes, it has to do with something that 481 00:37:01.159 --> 00:37:07.400 I see that either I haven' t decided to see or I haven' 482 00:37:07.559 --> 00:37:10.519 t wanted to work or it just keeps hurting me. I haven' t 483 00:37:10.599 --> 00:37:15.199 found what the reason is, whatever it is, and then I' m 484 00:37:15.320 --> 00:37:21.320 the one who has to change and for me it' s come to evolve 485 00:37:21.320 --> 00:37:23.440 and that shoots me. It shows me a degree in my life or a 486 00:37:23.559 --> 00:37:29.800 specific subject that I have not yet achieved by calling it a master' s 487 00:37:29.880 --> 00:37:34.280 degree or a neutral way to handle it. At least then that' s 488 00:37:34.400 --> 00:37:37.599 where he shoots the second part of what we talked about, which is what 489 00:37:37.719 --> 00:37:40.280 he' s going to take In the end, it doesn' t have 490 00:37:40.280 --> 00:37:42.760 to do with what I get to do and what changes others. It has 491 00:37:42.800 --> 00:37:46.519 to do with what I see of myself. Yeah, but here' s 492 00:37:46.639 --> 00:37:54.639 a hot topic, and here' s an interesting topic. Perhaps the term 493 00:37:54.840 --> 00:38:00.880 toxic is not well applied for a person who is conflictive, for a person 494 00:38:01.000 --> 00:38:06.679 who is negative, for a person we are talking about two different things. 495 00:38:06.920 --> 00:38:10.039 One thing is the toxic, because I see it this way, and another 496 00:38:10.119 --> 00:38:15.159 thing is that person who is negative, who is conflictive, who I don 497 00:38:15.840 --> 00:38:21.079 ' t know you have relatives, so everything looks bad, everyone sees it 498 00:38:21.079 --> 00:38:23.320 dangerous, everyone sees it and says hey it' s not possible. Life 499 00:38:23.440 --> 00:38:28.360 ' s not that, it' s not that now. It doesn' 500 00:38:28.400 --> 00:38:31.960 t mean they' re toxic, but they think different, they have another 501 00:38:32.039 --> 00:38:37.000 perception that doesn' t suit me that for me it' s not healthy, 502 00:38:38.000 --> 00:38:39.440 and then I keep a critical distance enough to take care of myself. 503 00:38:39.920 --> 00:38:45.079 To me, take care of my thoughts and my feelings, because over time, 504 00:38:45.559 --> 00:38:47.159 that gets contagious, not for a while, you' re already on 505 00:38:47.280 --> 00:38:51.880 the plane will fall when you say hey we' re going on vacation, 506 00:38:52.280 --> 00:38:54.199 not lis what you think. Yeah, I totally agree. I think this 507 00:38:55.199 --> 00:39:00.599 part is very important. Well, they' re already talking to you at 508 00:39:00.599 --> 00:39:02.480 the best of what happened to me, not what we were saying a little 509 00:39:02.480 --> 00:39:07.360 bit. This part of the constant is you. At the end of the 510 00:39:07.440 --> 00:39:13.679 day, the constant is you and in my case, I was able to 511 00:39:13.760 --> 00:39:17.880 return which were like those wounds as a child, at what time you fit 512 00:39:17.960 --> 00:39:22.360 with a person as I said wind sea in which times you also sustain such 513 00:39:22.400 --> 00:39:28.639 behavior and one thing that helped me a lot is to be able to have 514 00:39:28.760 --> 00:39:30.760 approached specialists who could support me in the matter. The power to have developed 515 00:39:30.800 --> 00:39:36.920 a healthy self- esteem, including having. Now they call them support groups, 516 00:39:37.400 --> 00:39:43.199 people who can also support you in this process. And yes, I 517 00:39:43.280 --> 00:39:45.480 mean, I realized that the one who had the problem, because it was 518 00:39:45.519 --> 00:39:50.880 me not, and from there I could change my environment, from there I 519 00:39:50.960 --> 00:39:54.679 could change this reality. From there I was able to change and put these 520 00:39:54.760 --> 00:39:59.880 healthy limits that sometimes I tell you, not sometimes when we are not used 521 00:40:00.000 --> 00:40:02.000 to it, because we fall the blame, it falls to us that he 522 00:40:02.079 --> 00:40:07.000 son is that how I' m going to tell him this, how I 523 00:40:07.000 --> 00:40:08.320 ' m going to put a stop to people. And I really liked this 524 00:40:08.440 --> 00:40:13.039 part of not being able, not being able to put a stop. Then, 525 00:40:13.159 --> 00:40:16.239 when I did this, with the fear many times of losing people. 526 00:40:17.079 --> 00:40:21.480 But I realized that no, instead of losing people, the truth was if 527 00:40:21.559 --> 00:40:24.800 they were adding up more people who were going on this road with me as 528 00:40:24.800 --> 00:40:28.400 well. No, and it was, then, a whole process. I 529 00:40:28.480 --> 00:40:32.400 also realized that it was part of that circle that, therefore, brought nothing 530 00:40:32.519 --> 00:40:37.679 good to my life, people who, therefore, with my values and my 531 00:40:37.719 --> 00:40:42.400 way of being smoked us. But it was from work, from the inside 532 00:40:42.639 --> 00:40:47.880 of me that I realized what those wounds were that kept stinging me and I 533 00:40:47.880 --> 00:40:50.760 kept reacting. No, and it' s a never- ending story. 534 00:40:51.320 --> 00:40:54.920 Then he' s already very interesting and thanks to them forgive me for interrupting 535 00:40:54.960 --> 00:41:00.760 you already. I want to ask you why imagine you already ok is saying 536 00:41:00.760 --> 00:41:07.000 it. I worked on myself, no, and then I developed more self 537 00:41:07.079 --> 00:41:08.480 - esteem, etcetera, etcetera. No, and then I don' t, 538 00:41:08.760 --> 00:41:13.719 but then you become seemingly toxic to other people because you can' t 539 00:41:13.800 --> 00:41:16.559 tell them anything anymore, because I' ve already had a limit. Oh, 540 00:41:17.440 --> 00:41:22.760 she' s already feeling the lighted one, and even that' s 541 00:41:22.760 --> 00:41:23.960 where the roll comes from. What you just said a while ago is positive 542 00:41:24.119 --> 00:41:29.920 toxicity where it' s taking you. There are people who say you don 543 00:41:30.079 --> 00:41:36.199 ' t, but there are people who say get up applaud, jump energy 544 00:41:36.239 --> 00:41:39.039 like that of this girl of regil no to life you live like that, 545 00:41:39.199 --> 00:41:42.920 uh what joy And at half an hour you cross one and you already left 546 00:41:43.000 --> 00:41:46.119 no, I mean, it doesn' t make you toxic. Also that 547 00:41:46.199 --> 00:41:51.719 roll of falling into the end of now I' m the super healthy, 548 00:41:52.239 --> 00:41:57.679 the super- centered. Of course, I' ve always talked about it 549 00:41:57.679 --> 00:42:01.000 with you. The human being is a construct and just as we build, 550 00:42:01.239 --> 00:42:07.039 we have to rebuild every day from what no longer works for us and keep 551 00:42:07.119 --> 00:42:12.719 in mind that we have this wonderful superpower to choose from. But when I 552 00:42:12.800 --> 00:42:19.320 come up with the toxic or the way you said conflictive, the one who 553 00:42:19.480 --> 00:42:23.440 doesn' t like it and all this stuff, who' s more toxic 554 00:42:23.559 --> 00:42:28.679 than who, he or that person who already is so says I' m 555 00:42:28.800 --> 00:42:32.199 like that, leave me alone or I' ll pass it by judging him 556 00:42:32.280 --> 00:42:37.079 and then I say like you' re not, like I want you to 557 00:42:37.079 --> 00:42:40.599 be then, I don' t love you, then I don' t 558 00:42:42.559 --> 00:42:46.719 accept you, then get out of my life then, and who' s 559 00:42:46.800 --> 00:42:51.519 the manipulator then, and who' s the one who' s toxic, 560 00:42:51.880 --> 00:42:54.760 then, because then I also am like that and how I want you to 561 00:42:54.760 --> 00:42:54.760 be like I say then, if you' re not, you don' 562 00:42:54.760 --> 00:42:54.760 t fit into any world, don' t put yourself in that attitude. 563 00:42:54.880 --> 00:43:00.519 We' re not here sucking quietly, either, so you can get that 564 00:43:00.519 --> 00:43:02.960 way in that attitude. Listen, it' s very easy, man, 565 00:43:04.320 --> 00:43:08.000 it' s very easy to fall into this thing that he makes or does, 566 00:43:08.679 --> 00:43:12.119 because let him do it, because he doesn' t want to change. 567 00:43:12.360 --> 00:43:15.840 Okay, I already know myself, I said to lice, I already 568 00:43:15.920 --> 00:43:19.119 know myself. I already went to therapy. I' m already changing and 569 00:43:19.199 --> 00:43:22.679 I have no negotiables in my life. And if one negotiable in my life 570 00:43:22.920 --> 00:43:25.800 is violence and I' m enduring a violent, then to whom I' 571 00:43:25.880 --> 00:43:30.400 m being unfaithful. First to me, ok, then I need, as 572 00:43:30.400 --> 00:43:36.480 you say, I' ll also take this part of relational psychology that does 573 00:43:36.559 --> 00:43:40.679 tell us why I' m accepting this if I' m not supposed to 574 00:43:40.800 --> 00:43:45.320 want it in my life, because in the potential that I have in my 575 00:43:45.480 --> 00:43:51.239 mind, such a little person should be such, and then my squeaks are 576 00:43:51.360 --> 00:43:53.840 true and I' m the best therapist and with my love and it' 577 00:43:53.840 --> 00:43:55.559 s going to change and never happen. And then I get angry with him, 578 00:43:55.840 --> 00:43:58.800 with her, with the world, and with me, because it didn 579 00:43:58.800 --> 00:44:00.400 ' t happen. I' m all fucked up now. And what you 580 00:44:00.599 --> 00:44:05.000 say comes along, you wear out, you kiss, you feel super bad. 581 00:44:05.679 --> 00:44:08.159 And that' s when these thousand terms come in that you' re 582 00:44:08.239 --> 00:44:13.960 a narcissist and you crushed me and made me, yes, but I told 583 00:44:14.039 --> 00:44:19.039 you a thousand times that I' m crazy, I told you a thousand 584 00:44:19.159 --> 00:44:20.400 times that I' m a dog and yet you insisted on changing me. 585 00:44:20.800 --> 00:44:28.159 Then who' s more toxic than who. Wow tamara how we can do 586 00:44:28.320 --> 00:44:35.760 it to change that toxicity of us that is believed to be sorry, what 587 00:44:36.760 --> 00:44:39.199 can be done well, I think they mentioned things that are super important, 588 00:44:39.719 --> 00:44:47.559 which is to do personal review, learn to get to know each other, 589 00:44:47.760 --> 00:44:52.400 learn to take distance and just as we go to the gym, we take 590 00:44:52.440 --> 00:44:55.440 care and decide to eat healthy, also to be able to choose the people 591 00:44:55.440 --> 00:44:58.400 with whom we are something he already mentioned. Now it took me to rethink 592 00:44:58.519 --> 00:45:04.599 a little sometimes. So whoever I consider to be toxic is not so toxic, 593 00:45:04.920 --> 00:45:12.079 but incompatible with me, so I think this word also has such a 594 00:45:12.199 --> 00:45:16.239 great social weight and we stigmatize people very much by saying your behavior is toxic. 595 00:45:16.840 --> 00:45:22.719 You' re a toxic, when suddenly there' s no compatibility, 596 00:45:22.920 --> 00:45:27.199 and it' s just that your behavior doesn' t go with me and 597 00:45:27.280 --> 00:45:28.719 it' s not wrong to tell the other one there' s no place 598 00:45:28.719 --> 00:45:34.760 for you in my life. Not bad. I think we also have a 599 00:45:34.920 --> 00:45:43.440 long way to go to get through that discomfort that comes from the placement of 600 00:45:43.440 --> 00:45:47.519 the limit, from holding, not holding, but from wanting to manage the 601 00:45:47.639 --> 00:45:55.559 emotions of the other, because what I told him on my limit makes him 602 00:45:55.639 --> 00:46:01.599 feel bad or to manage the limits to another the discomfort of my limit. 603 00:46:02.079 --> 00:46:07.679 That' s a very almighty place. I mean, I can barely manage 604 00:46:07.719 --> 00:46:09.559 my emotions and I can' t pretend to manage someone else' s emotions. 605 00:46:12.519 --> 00:46:15.159 I' ve got enough work for mine. What I can do to 606 00:46:15.239 --> 00:46:20.719 take care of myself is set a limit that is not diffuse, that gives 607 00:46:20.719 --> 00:46:24.239 a job. It is a most beautiful job, this being able to place 608 00:46:24.360 --> 00:46:28.679 loving and compassionate limits for me and for the other, but that are not 609 00:46:29.039 --> 00:46:32.639 diffuse, not that they do not bring trap ok and the limit is not 610 00:46:34.079 --> 00:46:37.320 for the other, because the limit is for you, it is for limits. 611 00:46:37.360 --> 00:46:45.519 For me, the limit tells me what I have to do. Tell 612 00:46:45.559 --> 00:46:50.039 me again that I didn' t hear you, that it has to be 613 00:46:50.679 --> 00:46:54.679 a loving, firm, loving, flexible limit. It would also not be 614 00:46:54.760 --> 00:46:59.159 a limit, that would be a negotiable, it would be a negotiable limit. 615 00:47:00.719 --> 00:47:06.199 There are non- negotiable limits and non- negotiable limits. Where maybe 616 00:47:06.280 --> 00:47:10.639 ok we can find a midpoint, where we can reach a space that we 617 00:47:10.719 --> 00:47:15.840 are both comfortable, but there are issues that are non- negotiable, as 618 00:47:15.920 --> 00:47:20.320 he said and to him I will never relate in an interpersonal relationship of any 619 00:47:20.440 --> 00:47:24.639 style where I have to go through some situation of violence. Now and the 620 00:47:24.800 --> 00:47:29.599 other one' s gonna break the limit, what' s it gonna work 621 00:47:29.599 --> 00:47:31.840 for? For me to go the limit is for me, it' s 622 00:47:31.880 --> 00:47:42.400 not for the other. Now tell me something pepe why it sounds so beautiful 623 00:47:42.559 --> 00:47:45.760 and it' s all a titanic job, I mean, it' s 624 00:47:45.760 --> 00:47:49.280 hard. It' s hard. I already understand with this that we are 625 00:47:49.320 --> 00:47:53.360 talking, that we have talked up to this moment, that then the measurement 626 00:47:53.360 --> 00:47:58.760 is made by me. It can' t be that I put a glass 627 00:47:58.920 --> 00:48:02.280 or a tile or a huge one of what I can allow or not, 628 00:48:02.960 --> 00:48:09.360 but the limit then I put it I why sometimes it costs us so much 629 00:48:09.599 --> 00:48:15.159 work and it' s so easy to point out the other and blame the 630 00:48:15.159 --> 00:48:16.239 other and make the other one responsible. How first, I think that the 631 00:48:16.320 --> 00:48:24.280 first thing, that what marks it before is before working any limit, that 632 00:48:24.840 --> 00:48:30.239 are the beliefs that we have, which are learned are blowjobs, not in 633 00:48:30.400 --> 00:48:35.960 other words, those are not mine, they are someone else' s. 634 00:48:36.639 --> 00:48:38.199 Then they tell me you don' t have to be good and you have 635 00:48:38.199 --> 00:48:45.280 to wait. I remember referring to this that speaking of couple relationships, it 636 00:48:45.280 --> 00:48:52.000 will be like this my first wife remembers, as well as I mean, 637 00:48:52.159 --> 00:48:55.440 it passed and did and so it passed over me of me and nothing happened. 638 00:48:57.440 --> 00:49:00.639 And one of the things that I learned and that with one couple and 639 00:49:00.760 --> 00:49:04.039 another and whatever it was suddenly was saying up here don' t wait for 640 00:49:04.039 --> 00:49:07.280 me. I don' t mean this I' m willing to do. 641 00:49:07.400 --> 00:49:12.159 I' m not willing and I think someone around here told me I think 642 00:49:12.280 --> 00:49:15.599 it was tamara, it' s gonna have to do with us being, 643 00:49:15.800 --> 00:49:20.639 I mean, my limits being valid for you and you' re willing and 644 00:49:20.639 --> 00:49:24.920 comfortable. In this case it was a couple with me living together with those 645 00:49:25.480 --> 00:49:32.039 limits and that my situation of me putting a limit up here doesn' t 646 00:49:32.119 --> 00:49:36.440 affect what you' re expecting from a relationship. Then there, all of 647 00:49:36.440 --> 00:49:39.920 a sudden, I can be the poison for putting a no. When someone 648 00:49:40.039 --> 00:49:45.280 wants more, for example, closeness or more what I am willing to live 649 00:49:45.000 --> 00:49:50.119 to, then it will simply have to do with these limits that are saying 650 00:49:50.280 --> 00:49:53.320 tamara because they are mine, I mean, it is the signal that is 651 00:49:53.559 --> 00:49:59.920 my what to take me side, it is my what to decide here I 652 00:50:00.559 --> 00:50:05.280 have to put a stop to it is not me to tell you don' 653 00:50:05.360 --> 00:50:06.440 t make yourself there that already you. I said get over there and I 654 00:50:06.559 --> 00:50:07.679 ' ll get you. No, I mean, I' m not going 655 00:50:07.679 --> 00:50:14.719 back any more. I think that' s where you stand on this case. 656 00:50:15.039 --> 00:50:21.239 Evidently, this is learning over the years and with the damage, or 657 00:50:22.159 --> 00:50:27.199 there is an easier way to learn it ready sonjole, for in my case 658 00:50:27.280 --> 00:50:31.239 it was with the damage the truth, that is, I had no other 659 00:50:31.280 --> 00:50:36.280 way but with the damage to learn it and yes, as it says, 660 00:50:36.719 --> 00:50:40.719 the best pepe sometimes we go holding certain things and suddenly we turn and say 661 00:50:40.760 --> 00:50:44.400 ah gee no. It wasn' t that way, I mean, there 662 00:50:44.519 --> 00:50:47.039 ' s no reason to go on holding on to the best, this thing 663 00:50:47.079 --> 00:50:50.239 for me today, because it doesn' t make sense anymore. Not we 664 00:50:50.320 --> 00:50:54.079 are changing, our truth is changing. We are beings that are evolving and 665 00:50:54.159 --> 00:50:59.519 maybe, something that five years ago seemed normal to me. Today is no 666 00:50:59.599 --> 00:51:05.159 longer the case. No, and putting these limits helps us to have a 667 00:51:05.239 --> 00:51:10.079 better relationship with ourselves, because it is part of us in order to establish 668 00:51:10.199 --> 00:51:15.599 a better coexistence, because with people and now there are also different types of 669 00:51:15.599 --> 00:51:22.880 limits. There are also the physical limits, also emotional limits that justly help 670 00:51:22.119 --> 00:51:28.199 us, in this sense, to put a barrier as we are considering it. 671 00:51:30.000 --> 00:51:31.920 I am also one of the people who, perhaps my non- negotiable, 672 00:51:32.000 --> 00:51:37.400 could be some situations of violence. And to that extent, because I 673 00:51:37.480 --> 00:51:42.440 have been building, unfortunately, at the best of bad experiences, I have 674 00:51:43.039 --> 00:51:49.679 learned a lot, unfortunately, but fortunately for me, because today I am 675 00:51:49.800 --> 00:51:55.000 a reconstructed person, a person who values very much the closeness of people and, 676 00:51:55.320 --> 00:52:00.599 well, maybe you recognize the best in different areas. Always a portrait 677 00:52:00.400 --> 00:52:05.400 of having this closeness with people and all that experience has given me, well, 678 00:52:05.679 --> 00:52:10.480 maybe not good relationships or maybe others do. But over the years, 679 00:52:10.800 --> 00:52:16.840 I' ve been learning. Okay, he' s already here What I 680 00:52:16.840 --> 00:52:22.559 want to ask you. The boundaries change as time passes. The non- 681 00:52:22.239 --> 00:52:29.280 negotiable and the negotiable change or are firm and fixed from here to eternity. 682 00:52:30.760 --> 00:52:34.039 I think they can change. I think they can change, because in the 683 00:52:34.119 --> 00:52:37.719 end, as list says, I think wisdom is the daughter of experience. 684 00:52:39.239 --> 00:52:44.800 There' s no more, I mean, you need to have this relationship 685 00:52:45.239 --> 00:52:47.480 with people so you can say good. But then, if I have a 686 00:52:47.559 --> 00:52:52.400 non- negotiable limit and myself. I' m unfaithful to myself and I 687 00:52:52.559 --> 00:52:55.960 break it for still there. Then I' ll go back to the same 688 00:52:55.960 --> 00:53:01.239 thing. My context is showing me what I do to myself all the time, 689 00:53:01.840 --> 00:53:07.239 because it' s all about me, because I love myself through others 690 00:53:07.320 --> 00:53:12.079 and if someone treats me badly and I resent all of me, mauser with 691 00:53:12.079 --> 00:53:15.119 forgiveness of you and I say ay, it' s not that I' 692 00:53:15.199 --> 00:53:19.519 m super good, good, good, good, and then I don' 693 00:53:19.519 --> 00:53:22.559 t answer it, because what the other one will be when I want to 694 00:53:23.639 --> 00:53:28.320 or regret it, he' s going to insult me again, because I 695 00:53:29.239 --> 00:53:32.880 haven' t put one up here and then of course he changed, because 696 00:53:32.960 --> 00:53:37.159 to the other I' m going to say already the express heard exploded and 697 00:53:37.159 --> 00:53:37.760 I won' t put a limit on it anymore. I' m gonna 698 00:53:37.840 --> 00:53:42.519 slap him and tell me what' s wrong with you, why you react 699 00:53:42.599 --> 00:53:45.239 that way. La la la, but she doesn' t start to think 700 00:53:45.360 --> 00:53:51.719 the sixteen times that I provoked because I didn' t tell her how I 701 00:53:51.800 --> 00:53:52.599 felt about how she made me feel about the insult she made me. I 702 00:53:52.679 --> 00:53:55.199 don' t know if I understand. Yes, of course, of course, 703 00:53:57.880 --> 00:54:01.639 experience is the service of the daughter of the tamara experience, that is, 704 00:54:02.360 --> 00:54:07.480 we necessarily need to experience. We cannot learn from others. I mean, 705 00:54:07.519 --> 00:54:08.760 I can' t learn standing up, but I can' t learn 706 00:54:08.760 --> 00:54:13.400 him anymore. I' m going to give you a sentence that moves me 707 00:54:13.480 --> 00:54:16.639 a lot that says and I don' t know who it says. If 708 00:54:19.960 --> 00:54:23.840 the wounds are shown the caresses too. And it seems to me that while 709 00:54:23.920 --> 00:54:29.840 there is a lot of learning in pain, there is also in good relationships, 710 00:54:30.000 --> 00:54:35.039 in people who are not toxic, in people who accept our non- 711 00:54:35.559 --> 00:54:37.639 negotiable limits with Thanks for taking care of you. Okay, I' m 712 00:54:37.639 --> 00:54:39.599 getting it. You can' t handle this, but what else. Yes, 713 00:54:39.719 --> 00:54:45.880 that they have, that they want to stay and that they want to 714 00:54:45.920 --> 00:54:50.440 generate bonds of all classes, that are nice, that are nice to live, 715 00:54:50.639 --> 00:54:54.880 not that they have no difficulties, because that doesn' t exist anymore, 716 00:54:54.880 --> 00:54:58.239 since they no longer exist. There are highs and lows, there are 717 00:54:58.360 --> 00:55:01.280 complexities in all interpersonal relationships. But yes, I think we can learn from 718 00:55:01.400 --> 00:55:07.280 both places and certainly wisdom comes with this time and with the years. We 719 00:55:07.360 --> 00:55:10.280 ' re going to do it a little bit better, says a friend always 720 00:55:10.400 --> 00:55:15.280 or in every situation we' re going to do it a little bit better 721 00:55:15.880 --> 00:55:17.719 because because we put into play that previous learning and we improve it and suddenly 722 00:55:17.800 --> 00:55:22.679 we realize that yes, yes, I go this way, because last time 723 00:55:22.800 --> 00:55:22.960 I did this and it didn' t work out so much and we renew 724 00:55:22.960 --> 00:55:30.639 resources. So it' s cumulative learning and that' s extraordinary. I 725 00:55:30.679 --> 00:55:36.159 have to connect the computer, but I would love to as long as I 726 00:55:36.159 --> 00:55:39.719 have this technical problem that, please, Pepe reminds us what you do with 727 00:55:39.719 --> 00:55:44.239 your social media read. He' ll already take how we can find ourselves 728 00:55:44.320 --> 00:55:45.400 in what I fast. I' m going here with this. This goes 729 00:55:45.480 --> 00:55:47.880 forward with my creed. Thanks, because I have dedicated myself to the development 730 00:55:47.920 --> 00:55:53.000 in hand and organizational through different services, conferences, workshops, Team Mildings. 731 00:55:54.239 --> 00:56:00.320 I am writing a book dedicated to integration, particularly here, of the kind 732 00:56:00.400 --> 00:56:05.159 of work I call cho to us find me on any social network. Look 733 00:56:05.320 --> 00:56:09.800 for PP three, just like that Thank you. Pepe forward I make it 734 00:56:09.880 --> 00:56:13.280 clear to you that a server to Resends. I have a brand name called 735 00:56:13.360 --> 00:56:20.440 Somerick. They are shops in which we market mostly cosmetics, accessories accessories for 736 00:56:20.440 --> 00:56:24.199 lady. In the State of Querétaro. We have nine branches today and, 737 00:56:24.320 --> 00:56:28.960 well, it' s part of what I do. We can also be 738 00:56:29.000 --> 00:56:32.400 found on our social networks, such as Sumeric, on Instagram and my personal 739 00:56:32.400 --> 00:56:40.199 networks, such as Resendis. Well, I' m Jael Cardoso, a 740 00:56:40.360 --> 00:56:45.679 psychotherapist gestad, I' m also a master coach in human development and, 741 00:56:45.039 --> 00:56:51.159 well, an apprentice of life. They also find me on Facebook as Jael 742 00:56:51.239 --> 00:56:59.280 Cardoso and on Instagram as Jael Carlos. I' m Tamara. They find 743 00:56:59.400 --> 00:57:05.719 me on Instagram as a licensed pro camera I am a clinical psychologist with a 744 00:57:05.800 --> 00:57:10.519 specialization in families and couples and non monogamous formations and my epic mologist. I 745 00:57:10.880 --> 00:57:15.599 really want to thank you very much for the opportunity to talk to you. 746 00:57:15.840 --> 00:57:21.199 I also want to tell everyone who' s watching us, they' re 747 00:57:21.320 --> 00:57:22.840 listening to us, they' re going to see this repeat. They' 748 00:57:22.840 --> 00:57:27.519 re going to hear this replay. Contact Tamara, Yael, Lisbet, Pepe. 749 00:57:29.360 --> 00:57:34.000 I am convinced that there is a different way of living and thinking and 750 00:57:34.159 --> 00:57:37.079 that is why I have created this concept of what a good question, because 751 00:57:37.079 --> 00:57:43.400 the idea is to positively impact all these questions, many of them with a 752 00:57:43.440 --> 00:57:47.400 stubbornness, maybe and putting myself as a devil' s advocate, but the 753 00:57:47.559 --> 00:57:52.559 idea is just that you listen to the experts who live a normal life like 754 00:57:52.639 --> 00:57:58.719 yours and mine who have problems, what go through difficulties, what go through 755 00:57:58.920 --> 00:58:02.679 sorrows, but who have tools to be able to live differently. So I 756 00:58:02.800 --> 00:58:07.440 ' m asking you to come closer. Don' t fight battles alone, 757 00:58:07.599 --> 00:58:12.920 don' t fight alone. Who taught us that. The superheroes, because 758 00:58:12.960 --> 00:58:17.039 they have lied not because of a Mexican superhero, at least chespirito, not 759 00:58:17.360 --> 00:58:23.559 the colored Chapulín was a superhero Torpe stumbled, he was afraid, but he 760 00:58:23.760 --> 00:58:29.480 always went ahead because he always leaned on other people. Then I want to 761 00:58:29.519 --> 00:58:34.599 thank you infinitely for your participation. Lisbeth, thank you really and he tamara 762 00:58:35.320 --> 00:58:38.840 Pepe are a blessing in my life. Thank you for agreeing, thank you 763 00:58:38.840 --> 00:58:44.760 for adding up. I am sure we will do many things together, but 764 00:58:44.920 --> 00:58:47.199 inevitably tell you that it is a pleasure, a privilege for me to coincide 765 00:58:47.280 --> 00:58:52.000 in this life with you. I learn the admirers know it' s not 766 00:58:52.000 --> 00:58:57.159 onion. I hope they make me the appropriate deposit. Some are late with 767 00:58:57.239 --> 00:59:01.400 payments, but thank you for really making me say goodbye with one last sentence. 768 00:59:02.360 --> 00:59:07.519 Now let me start with the gentleman not Pepe. Then Tamara Yael and 769 00:59:07.679 --> 00:59:15.320 finally lis So go ahead my dear Pepe comes to mind a phrase. I 770 00:59:15.440 --> 00:59:21.559 don' t know how to paraphrase that says the world changes without my eyes 771 00:59:21.559 --> 00:59:25.159 changing. Okay, all right. Thank you very much, my Pepe. 772 00:59:25.320 --> 00:59:32.599 Thank you. Please, yes, I' m sorry, I didn' 773 00:59:32.599 --> 00:59:37.280 t hear. I' m going to say goodbye with a phrase that' 774 00:59:37.280 --> 00:59:40.719 s not mine. Randy also said in reference to this whole theme of today, 775 00:59:40.920 --> 00:59:46.280 of not allowing anyone to walk through our mind with partner feet. Oh 776 00:59:46.639 --> 00:59:51.599 wow, that' s great. Lis then, well, there' s 777 00:59:51.639 --> 00:59:53.159 one phrase that I really like, which is this part of the truth. 778 00:59:53.239 --> 01:00:00.559 It' s dynamic. It would not be father to be able to sit 779 01:00:00.679 --> 01:00:05.480 down and reflect on what my truth is today, what my truth was and 780 01:00:05.559 --> 01:00:07.360 to continue to grow and to continue to evolve in this life that is very 781 01:00:07.360 --> 01:00:09.480 sad. Thank you very much, Isl forward. Please, well, I 782 01:00:09.519 --> 01:00:14.239 ' d like to close with this sentence that is mine. I always tell 783 01:00:15.199 --> 01:00:19.840 them we all have something to say that someone needs to hear you never shut 784 01:00:19.880 --> 01:00:22.400 up because you don' t know how many lives you can save. Wow. 785 01:00:22.599 --> 01:00:25.440 Thank you very much, thank you, truly blessings for all. I 786 01:00:25.519 --> 01:00:30.880 want to remind you to see the chapters of what good question are we in 787 01:00:30.880 --> 01:00:34.960 the second season? Starting the second season, there are many surprises and all 788 01:00:35.079 --> 01:00:40.239 of you really tell them that in this sense we can do things differently. 789 01:00:40.320 --> 01:00:45.360 Boys, I bless you. Thank you, thank you very much, we 790 01:00:45.400 --> 01:00:46.400 all see each other and listen to each other in a next chapter. See 791 01:00:46.480 --> 01:01:05.920 you soon. Thank you, s u s o n