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Welcome to Round three, the Parenting
Roundabout podcast for the week of June fifth.

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I'm Nicole Ertics. I'm here with
Catherine Heleco Hello, and Terry Morrow.

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Hello. We're moms of teens and
young adults and when it comes to

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parenting, we've been there, done
that, bought the T shirt. But

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we're still waiting for that day when
we'll reach the finish line and have no

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further need to lay down in a
dark room A little bit rack over our

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eyes wearing about something or other.
Wednesday has complaint they hear on Parenting Roundabout,

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and today we are complaining about school
or otherwise quote unquote official photos.

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So, Catherine, this sounds like
this is your story, so you take

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it away. Well, So,
as we talked about on Monday, my

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son just graduated from high school.
And you know, they have an official

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photographer who stands next to the principle
and takes a picture of each kid as

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they shake the principal's hand. Yeah, after they grab their empty folder.

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And I have it's it's been you
know, a week and a half or

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something, and I have gotten like
five emails so far from the photography studio

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with increasing you know, alarmist subject
lines, and today's the one I got

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today was Owen's graduation images could be
lost in the digital age. Oh you

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guys, if I don't buy them, write this minute, no dark web.

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That's right. Technology is changing rapidly. How long will your digital's digital

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pictures be compatible? Your grandparents never
had this problem, a photograph blast forever.

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Oh wow, they are insisting that
I buy the the physical copy otherwise,

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you know, we might never we
might, you know, forget that

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he graduated and he shook the principal's
hand. Really wow, few generations shall

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curse you. That's right, that's
right. So it just it just makes

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me think of like, you know, the school pictures, the sports team

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pictures. You know, that's where
they try to sell you, sell them

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to you, and you know,
with increasing desperation in terms of how badly

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you want or need to have this
item, Like did you always did you

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buy the school pictures that they took
every year? Decide? I did,

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and I have them in all envelopes
in a drawer. They fill up one

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drawer every now and then. I
need a picture from way back when and

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I can go get it. Yeah, I didn't always buy the official school

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pictures because sometimes they're terrible. Yeah, they used to take them at my

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kids daycare as well. Yeah,
I have several multiple times a year.

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And we have a hilarious one from
when my daughter was like around three and

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my son was probably you know,
six months old or something, and she

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she must have you know, spilled
something or whatever. She had to change

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half of her clothes, so she
has the most mismatched outfit. And then,

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of course, so her pants and
her top clash with each other like

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extremely and then they also clashed with
whatever my son was marrying. And they

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have them seated so that he's like
sort of almost like sitting on her lap,

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but they're both kind of facing each
other, so you can see her

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whole outfit and it's and at the
time, I'm sure I was just like,

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oh my gosh, this is ridiculous, But now I think it's it's

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so funny. So oh yeah,
I enjoy having childhood right there. I

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at one time made a project of
doing various photo collections for the wall of

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the school pictures. You know they
have the ones with the openings like five

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or six, Ok, you can
get the frame. Yeah, so I

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did I did a you know a
couple of like long strips where I could

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do them younger to older, and
then there were some big square ones that

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I put a bunch of miscellaneous pictures
on. Felt very good about myself.

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This is what you're supposed to do
with these pictures, and I am doing

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it. And we had, you
know, school pictures, and we also

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had camp pictures, and we had
preschool pictures, and we had softball special

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needs softball league pictures. We had
all sorts of pictures. So I have

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displayed a fairer assortment of them.
Yeah, and they're still hanging up.

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They're getting faded in the sun,
but still reminding me of my children's younger

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days and of the days when I
was organized to pull off a project like

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that. Yeah, nowadays it would
be, you know, five dust covered

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frames sitting on the dining room table
and a whole bunch of pictures and envelopes

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next to them. I'm gonna do
that this weekend. I'll do it.

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Don't move those I hate theirs,
but I'm gonna do it. They are

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they're they're sitting there for a reason. You can't move them. Yeah,

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there are some of those old photos
are just there's a few of them were

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just so cute, and I'm so
happy to be able to look at them

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every time I like come in the
door because they're in our entry stairs.

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Right. Oh, there's this one. I think there is a church photo.

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So see this. Everybody does it. But they had a thing where

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you could come and have a family
picture taken. It was either no,

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this one was it? The elementary
school did it. The PTA at the

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elementary school did it. And the
photographer was really good. And my son

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was kind of wiggly and hard to
control at that time, but he had

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this thing that was like sort of
like a yo yo. Accept it went

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straightforward, so it was like maybe
a little rubber animal on a rubb on

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a long rubber band, and he
would just pop it out towards Andy and

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back pop it out. So of
course, and he had this look on

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his face. Wow, what's that? It was the best picture ever.

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He had such a bright and attentive
look on his face for once, So

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kudos to that guy. You know, I don't know why more photographers don't

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do that, because if you're just
standing behind a camera going everybody's smile,

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you're not gonna get your pictures of
kids. Did they do this in Canada,

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Nicle. Um, I mean we
just don't have like the the number

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of teams and activities. So I
mean we do you know, like the

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preschool graduation and the soccer and the
hockey of course gotta have hockey team pictures.

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Oh yeah, but we just don't
have the the number of kids for

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it. It seems like it just
yeah, we didn't have all the photos

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that you get here and the little
buttons and the stickers and the it's not

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that over the top. Um.
We did get well, you know you

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do the class photos right, like
school photos. We had that yeah yeah,

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yeah, that individual no yeah,
yeah, yeah, we have an

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individual yeah, but like you know, just for in terms of community photos

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like and stuff, did not just
school yeah yeah. And with the sports

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ones, they always are trying to
sell you like you know, you can

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get it printed on a so that
it's like standing up like a three you

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know, yeah, like a like
a figurine, or you can get on

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a water bottle or a mouse pack
or whatever. Like yeah, these schools

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ones, they're always coming up with
some queta. But we don't have Interestingly,

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we don't have the um like the
senior photos like in Canada, they

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don't do senior photos or even uh, the college graduation photos. Like I

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don't know if you noticed. I
think I posted some pictures a while back,

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but um o, our college graduation
photos are very formal, like the

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cap down. Whereas here, at
least in southern California, you know,

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the girls are in these tiny little
white dresses and heels and they got their

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you know, sashes, and we
don't do sashes, and you know,

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and they're like at their university and
they're kicking up their heel or I don't

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know, all kinds of like poses. Yeah, my niece did did this.

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Yeah, so we don't. We
don't have that to that extent.

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I mean maybe, but it's not
like a thing. Um so yeah,

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it's a little bit more low key. Yeah, but we don't. I

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don't know. I have to ask
my daughter if she's received her her graduation

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photos, you know, yeah from
they should be official photographer, the official

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Apparently there was three options for photo
on stage, so hopefully we'll get something

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good out of it. Yeah.
The ones I have that you know,

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could be lost to time if I
don't order them are like a handshaking one

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and then like one with a plane
background of him in the cap and gown

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holding up the diploma, and then
another one from like in the gym during

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the But it's but it's like a
portrait. I don't know, he's just

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like walking past. I don't know. But the other thing is that,

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you know, when I was growing
up, the biggest thing about the end

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of the school year was the yearbook. Yeah, you know, everybody could

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sign it and the whole thing.
Yeah, and at my kids school,

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you go pick up the yearbook like
in August. Ah. Yeah, so

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they don't. They don't do the
signature. I mean unless like you happen

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to be picking it up at the
same time as your friend, Like,

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so they don't. They don't get
it at the end of the year.

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No, they get it out like
the beginning of the next year. Well

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that's weird, isn't that weird?
Yeah, you should at least have a

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pickup party so that people will go
there and then you can get things signed.

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But right, I mean they do
have everybody picking it up, but

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it's like a two day yeah window, it's not all at the same time.

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So yeah, I think that's it
seems odd to bed. Yeah.

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The good news about that for my
kid this year is that they're building a

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brand new high school and they're going
to open it in the fall, and

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that's where they're going to be handing
out the yearbook. So and then what

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if you're not if you're a senior
and you don't go back. Yeah,

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I mean you just have to go
get it, or your mom has to

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go get it or whatever, and
you just keep it at home. And

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I guess you're just getting it for
the pictures. That's sad. It is.

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It's strange. I don't get it. Yeah. I worked on the

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junior high year book for a few
years and there was one year when due

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to a printer's error, the binding
was bad on it. So when the

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kids all got there year books at
the end of school, they were falling

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apart. So, you know,
we called the printer and they said they

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would make it good and that they
would have them like later in the summer

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or at the beginning of the next
year the kids could get them. And

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all the moms were like, this
is no good. They won't be ready

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to get them signed. Oh my
goodness. And it was like a tragedy.

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This seems like they just they're just
going to take that possibility out of

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there and just say nope, nope, nope, not doing that. You'll

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be glad later you have a Christine
beautiful book not marred by a bunch of

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people. You know. I remember, I mean I remember as a kid

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looking at my parents high school yearbooks
and reading all the stuff that they had,

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right that people have mind, Yeah, I am mine. Somewhere we

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did. We did a yearbook one
year out of the four that I was

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there, because we literally had maybe
seventy five people in our graduating Yeah,

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it didn't happen. Yeah. Yeah. My husband just pulled his out from

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from his high school and I think
there were eighty eighty eight in his class

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or something. Yeah, so yeah, yeah, his little Catholic high school.

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My class was very large. Yeah
so it's my seven hundred something like

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that. Oh my husband that thing
maybe seven fifty in the class after us

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was eight hundred and that was Holy
Cow. And then yeah, so ours

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was not indoors. It was on
the football field. Then they got a

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new high school. I mean yeah, at some point they opened up another

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high school. Yeah, but even
here they do. The classes at my

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kids high school are about that size, and they do they do it on

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the football field with the chairs arranged
into the numbers of the year. Have

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you ever that, I don't know, Instagram reel or TikTok or whatever,

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of the valedictorian who's up on the
stage and thanking her teachers. It's in

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a football field. Why, yeah. But it was almost like, you

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know, I want to thank you
for coming to class drunk every day,

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because I mean the value of um, you know, drinking in moderation and

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to the you know, to the
front desk lady, the administration, you

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know, thank you for being you
know, rumpy with me every time I

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went to the office to ask for
help. How to have you know,

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good communication skills? Did a big
hook come out at some point? Whisker?

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Well, I did get to the
end of it. So who knows

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suddenly went out difficulties? Wow?
Oh, I wonder it went viral on

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TikTok. Yeah it's not good.
Well, he's got a future in comedy

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writing anyway. Yeah. Do you
think her parents bought the official pictures a

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day they will always remember, yes, proud of their daughter. All right,

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well, I think we've we've exhausted
that, so we'll say that's it

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