A lot of action on the Minnesota Goodbye and let's get starting. If you
have a shout out to Sarah. Sarah wrote a very very long email that
I'm going to respond to in person, but basically it was all about current
thoughts and theories on every person on KATIEWB. And she didn't ask. She
says, here is what I think is going to happen on the morning show.
Here is what I think happened with Drake, Here is what I think
happened with this, Here is what I think happened with the afternoon show.
And it's really interesting that there's Taylor Swift commentaries and theories and conspiracies, but
then there's a bunch about us. And I will tell you this one,
Sarah. You got a lot of it right, but you got some of
it completely wrong. And I think the interesting thing is you were very,
very observant, and that's really flattering. It's kind of like really being into
the Twins and knowing everybody's you know er and knowing everybody's like whatever and average,
and and I think that's really flattering. But I will say, at
the same time, I can never verify some of what you're asking. Yeah,
but thank you for making a big deep dive Sarah that we're gonna move
on to other things, Let's start off with this one. Hey, guys,
Melissa here, thanks for reading my email yesterday. We talked about how
she listens in Boston, and I'm like, Melissa, write me back and
let me know why it is you listen to our show when there are so
many big market radio shows in Boston and New York and Baltimore. You asked
why your show instead of any Boston shows around here? And honestly, I
think because it's not over the top. You guys talk about your lives and
the show is funny but not obnoxious. Not to throw shade at any other
radio stations. But when I found iHeartRadio twelve years ago, I listened to
a couple of shows that I won't name, she names them. They're big,
huge shows, and I just found it tacky. Your bits and segments
have a nice flow, It's easy to listen to, and you just keep
it light. Most importantly, you make it feel like a family or old
friends. I think that's true. Well, and I think that's what we
kind of aim for, right Like we don't very deliberately. Yeah, I
mean sometimes crazy shit happens in our lives. So we might be over the
top about something and exaggerate things, but for the most part, like we're
very real about the stuff that goes on. And then I mean, we
never know what might happen with someone who emails us in about a crazy story
that happened to them, Like that could be over the top of it,
but it's not. It's like their real life. Yeah, So I really,
I really appreciate that, and I think it is deliberate and I think
that I've like helped realize what you know, our show used to be silly
and obnoxious. We do a lot of silly, obnoxious things and whatever,
and now it's more about real life. But we try to make the a
real life story is not always entertaining. The thing about real life is a
lot of the time it's mundane, boring, groundhog day. You get up,
you go to work, you come home, you have dinner, you
take your kid down to the park, you come home, you watch TV,
and you start all over again the next day. But I think we
work in the stuff, for example, Jenny's skintag, which is not uncommon,
but it's just like real side note, I can name about as many
Minnesota towns as I can name Massachusetts, which is a weird flex, but
I love it. Okay, my brother and I are hopefully going to be
planning a trip to the State Fair this year, and I'm way too excited.
Feel free to share the best places to stay for lower costs. Dart
Lick, dart Lick. Melissa, who I don't think has ever been in
Minnesota. I fucking love that. That is so cool. You're not the
first person. There's Jennifer in Texas. There was one Jill in New Jersey
who had never been here. About twelve years ago. She came out here
and she listened to our show over all the shows in New Jersey and New
York, and she preferred our show. She came out. We took her
on Booty Cruise, We took her to get a juicy Lucy. We took
her to Nick Universe. And then there's David and his wife Lisa. They
live in Detroit. Yeah, they came here just to say and meet us
and go to the State Fair. And there's been other ones too. Catherine,
I want to say, she lives in Atlanta. She remember everyone's names.
There was one woman then maybe you already named her. Maybe that was
her. She came to Star Party, she came to start. Okay,
that was gonna say, because I remember a woman from Atlanta coming to Star
Party, but I couldn't remember her name versus she was so nice and I
just loved it. So yeah, come out, Melissa, bring your husband
and or your brother. I'm sorry, and I don't really have any recommendation
dations on. Just stay at a chain hotel. You know what. Yeah,
there's stay a chain hotel. There's great bus systems to the State Fair,
So don't find the need to stay right by the state Fair. That's
actually probably like the worst idea to do during State Fair time because that would
just get annoying. Just find somewhere that like is probably close to a bus
system and then take yeah, because they have shuttle buses from all the suburbs
that come into Yeah, that'd be cool. Absolutely when you get here,
one hundred percent come up and say, Hi, that is super cool.
That is Sarah's So I'm gonna skip past that one. Let's try this one.
I never understood, says Hannah. Why on TV shows they wake up,
brush their teeth and then eat breakfast. I've always brushed my teeth right
before leaving the house because then it's fresh. Why would you leave with breakfast
on your teeth when you don't have to. I do the same with my
kids. Also, all these party emails have me terrified about throwing my kids
a friend birthday party. Ever, we've been talking about people not showing up
for birthday parties or whatever. We live in a town where there's a bunch
of called workers, private school teachers, private college school professors, and all
of those teachers have gone to the same college. A lot of them know
each other. Also, a lot of people don't move and have lived here
their whole lives and have kids the same age and their life long besties.
So we have people who all went to college together or work together and lifelong
friends. And then me, newbie in town. I got a couple of
friends in town, but not many. What if no one comes to my
baby's birthday parties because they don't know me? Well? New fear unlocked.
I don't think I could handle seeing my kids hurting like that. I'd have
no advice for you. I think it's a genuine concern. But I also
think I used to tell Alison, don't live your life based on the fearful
thing that might happen. Alison when she was younger. I can't remember specifics,
but it'd be like, dad, what if we go to y Elliston
Park and we get eaten by a bear or a dad? What if we
go to the mall and our carget stolen? And I remember I told Alison,
I said, you can't lay in bed all day wearing a helmet.
There's no life if you lay in bed all day wearing a helmet. So
Hannah, I would say, fuck it. You throw that motherfucking party,
and you tell people that they should come, and you get RSVPs and you
say, you know what, I want to make sure you're coming because this
is important to me. And if you get you know, I mean a
half a dozen kids to come to the party, that's a win. You
get four kids. I think the average for me was about three kids that
came to my birthday parties, and that was a win that looked good.
I don't remember ever having big birthday parties, to be honest. I just
think we did sleepovers so and it was like fine if two people came or
like eight people came, because I think just sleepovers are a lot in general,
and we had a small house so we didn't have a ton of room
anyways. Yeah, but so I guess I just like don't remember the amount
of people that would come. But I would say I feel like as a
parent, and maybe I don't know this because I'm not a parent. Aren't
you able to gauge like the friendships you have with people and know if people
are going to show up if your kid's too young where you don't really rely
on the kids being reliable to come. It's like the parent because I just
feel like we read an email recently where someone was throwing a birthday party for
a two year old, and at that point, the kids aren't showing up
for the two year old. It's the parent's responsibilities to show up for that
kid's birthday in my opinion, But then nobody showed up, So like I
was wondering what would what was the disconnect there and not having anyone show up.
I'm going to guess it was probably like, Okay, if I said,
Okay, Jenny, it's Susan's birthday. She's gonna be celebrating next Sunday
afternoon. Come by, We're going to barbecue out of the deck and you're
a good friend, but you might have something that you can't come for,
or you might have something come up last minute. It's like, Okay,
Jenny says she's gonna come, Fallon says she's gonna comes. Fallon's birthday tomorrow.
By the way, I think she's forty tomorrow. She is forty tomorrow.
And you know, like Colt's gonna come, and Rich is gonna come.
And so I've got all these people that are friends and I know that
they would come if they could. But then I might get a phone call
that afternoon that says, oh, we are watching a dog and the dog
got you know, like got loose, and now we got to go find
the dog. Or Rich might say, yeah, Mandy doesn't feel good.
She's got a sinus infection. And so we might go from eight people coming
down to two people, right, And that happened one time I had a
party at my house and I remember somebody who worked on the show. They
they texted me like an hour before the party started said they weren't coming,
and it was like, I know, I know they made an excuse.
I know it was because their boyfriend was, you know, kind of a
dickhead and he didn't want to come, so they didn't go. So but
I say, go ahead and do it, and yeah, try to gauge
it. Another one on Brianna just got married back in October, and on
this one I agree with Dave and Vaunt. So we had a discussion yesterday.
Somebody wrote in and we read it on the air. They said,
I went to a wedding. I just got a very generic note that said
thanks for the gift, thanks for coming, signed bride and groom, and
it was like very generic, no like thanks for the blanket set, thanks
for the air fryer. It was very generic, like they rushed it.
I said, I think that's rude. Vont agreed, so it's not necessarily
an old thing. And I'm surprised at Jenny, who's one of the nicest
people in the world and very considerate, said fuck thank you notes. And
I think that's a quote you did. You said, fuck fuck appreciation,
Jenny, I said, fuck handwritten thank you not. I said, f
that you have other things to worry about in life. I think and thank
you note is all that is necessary after a wedding. If it's handwritten or
typed out, cool who cares. That's my thought on it. Okay,
they said we got generic thank you cards and hand wrote personalized messages in the
cards, then we stamped and address the cards. We actually did the same
thing with our Christmas cards. We also went to a wedding two weeks after
ours, and we did not get a thank you card. Also, on
the topic of wedding gifts, we have specifically for money to plan a honeymoon,
not gifts. We're planning a trip for Germany for our first anniversary.
We did not want more stuff. We're in our thirties, we don't need
more gifts. Is it tacky to ask for money for your wedding gift?
There's a subject no judging, but I thought it was tacky. I thought
I heard etiquette wise, that's tacky. See, and I've heard both ways
lately, because I also have heard like how do you ask that? And
so I think I saw it on a meme recently and it was people commenting
how you should phrase it on the wedding invite of not asking for gifts but
asking for money, and it was like, you don't have to bring me
a gift, no worries, but if you feel so obliged to give me
something. You can donate to a honeymoon trip in the future or something.
But it was like you're saying at the beginning, like you don't have to
give me a gift, but if you do, choose to just give us
money. So that was like one way to go about it. But I
don't know. I don't think it's tacky either, because I'm also in my
thirties now, and if Andrew and I got married, I don't need a
bunch of shit. I just will thinks or an air frier. Yeah,
I would just rather have some cash for like what they're doing, the trip
to Germany or whatever they said. Let's talk about that next week on the
show. Maybe Monday, we can bring that up on the actual show.
Yeah, about whether it's okay to bring it to ask for money. Side
note around weddings, but circling to people not coming back to birthday parties.
I did not have a shower or bachelorette party in fear of people not showing
up. I did not want gifts, but smaller events with friends and family
would have been nice. I also agree with Jenny, it's parenting that allows
kids to not show up to parties. My dad enforced that if you say
you're gonna go do something, you gotta do it. I even had to
miss a fit family member's wedding because I r s vp'd to a birthday party
before I knew about the wedding. Oh wow. But on Christmas cards,
I'm with Jenny and fallon just the Merry Christmas with photos. See. I
don't like that. I think it's impersonal. I think it's like it's basically
saying you're not really worth the time for me to spend a lot of time
on your Christmas card. But I write, you know, like Merry Christmas,
love David, Susan or hope to see you this summer or something like
that. It was weird in my card this year said Merry Christmas, Jenny
and Adam, and I was like, who's that Adam, Adam, I'm
just kidding. You wrote you wrote answer in it? Yes, I was
just messing. I was like, seriously, No. Also, while I'm
here, how long till we find out when vant or Bailey are permanent fixtures
of the show. I don't know. Thank you love list of the podcast
each day. I have no plans to ever stop listening, even through the
change. The change can be jarring sometimes. Ps Fallon is doing amazing on
her show. I miss her in the mornings, but Colt and her also
do great. That's the thing. Hopefully the change is like going through a
storm. Jenny is kind of like going through a storm. The storm kind
of comes out of nowhere, and it sucks, and the waves are rough
and the wind is blowing and there's hail. Yeah, but then you don't
storm right and then on the other side of the storm things are better and
hopefully the storm stops. So you know, I've weathered a lot of storms,
and I've always been confident in myself that you know what, I know
what to do. It might take longer than I want, but I know
what to do. So I think that's just I was telling Susan last night.
I said, I forget even how it came up. But when I
was twenty one years old, I was talking about vont and I said,
Vaunt is so sharp. He's twenty two years old. He's got you know,
the world is his oyster because he's so sharp and he's so ambitious.
And I said, when I was twenty one, I got hired to do
a morning show in Las Vegas. I had never done mornings before. It
was a big radio station KL you see, in a decent sized market,
and they hired me. And I said, I look back on that twenty
one year old kid me, I don't know how I did it. I
should not have been able to be successful because I had never done it.
I didn't know what I was doing. But I didn't know. I didn't
know what I was doing, so I just did a lot of stuff and
it worked and I was no or voted Las Vegas's most popular DJ after being
there less than a year. Then I moved away, and even after I
moved away, I won Las Vegas's most popular DJ. I'm not saying it
to brag, maybe a little bit, but like, I don't know if
I could do that today. I don't know how I did it. And
I think one of the reasons is I didn't know that I shouldn't have been
successful, you know what I mean. That's I was going to say that
was like a good thing to be like naive about, because I think a
lot of people put so much pressure on perfection when they're trying something new and
then that it causes them to not to do what not to do whatever that
new thing is because they want perfection, and you just went into it like
head first and did what you did and clearly did well. I did everything.
I tried everything, and it stuck and it worked. And then after
I was there for fifteen months, the company said, oh, well,
let's get you out of Las Vegas and movie you to glamorous Columbus, so
high, beautiful, and it worked really well there too. I mean,
it's always worked. I've gotten fired twice too. Radio stations I worked at
in Phoenix it did not work, and that was where I first realized,
oh, it's not always guaranteed that this will work. So I don't even
know how we got onto that, honestly, not sure how that came out
here anymore. Let's see. Chow writes in regular contributor, Hey Gang,
I liked the podcast be about twenty five minutes. That's just enough time for
me to drive into work, Jenny. For cell phone, especially some newer
phones that still might need bugs worked out, I find that doing a factory
reset helps. That works for my phone and my wife's phone. But if
with a factory reset, then you're taking off all the data that's on your
phone as that's what your factory reset, taking off everything. There are certain
things, and I've actually completely deleted the Instagram app, which like deletes all
your drafts if you have drafts, like reels drafts or something like that.
So I've deleted the app itself before and then re downloaded it, and that
didn't help either, So you know, I just deal with it. I'm
used to like technology not always working in my favor, so it is always
I think we all are. It's kind of like techno, Well it doesn't
work. Why doesn't it work? Because it's technology, Kara writes in and
she says, I know Dave and Jenny care for dogs and love care for
dogs. I thought of you after something happened to me today. I wanted
to get your thoughts on walking my dog home from the park on a street
with no sidewalks that I don't normally go on, because ironically I saw a
loose dog wandering in the street on our normal route. As I passed a
house, two big dogs starting barking at us from inside, which scared me,
to be honest, thinking it could be a loose dog, but we
kept walking by just past the house. The lady there called out to me.
I didn't hear her because, so she shouted back, can you keep
your dog off people's lawns please? I was completely taken aback and meekly said
okay, and I just kept walking. My dog was extra curious because it
was a new street and I was distracted by the barking dogs. But I'm
certain she was in the grass no more than a few feet into her yard.
My dog does have a thirteen foot retractable leash, but I don't let
her wander that far into yards. Is it normal to expect dogs not to
cross the plane of the curb into your yard. I would never be offended
by that, unless the dog was pooping and they didn't pick it up.
I'm a very sensitive person, also currently pregnant and hormonal, so I felt
so bad. I cried all the way home anyway, wondering if what she
said was normal or reasonable. I will say, Kara, no, no,
you are welcome to walk your dog across my lawn. I don't care.
You're more than welcome. Dogs can walk onto my lawn for three feet.
I wouldn't like your dog to like wander on my lawn, and certainly,
if you're poops on my lawn. You gotta pick it up. But
my dog has walked along. I've walked on roads with no sidewalks. Josie
will poop on the lawn. Well, you pick it up, and if
they get mad, you go, I'm sorry, it's a dog. There's
no sidewalks. What am I supposed to do? Walk in just the street?
I mean, I guess I could, But I'm gonna say Kara my
opinion, she was a bitchy. You did nothing wrong. I agree completely.
And also, even when there are sidewalks, dogs poop in people's yards
and you clean it up, So I don't think that that's that big of
a deal. But no, that person's in the wrong. We don't have
many there's a lot of places that don't have sidewalks in Saint Louis Park.
So we're doing what she said quite often when we walk dogs. Okay,
more email from the Minnesota Goodbye. We're gonna wrap things up here in a
second. We're about eighteen minutes right now, and we'll just kind of see
what happens here we go. Good Morning Morning show, says Molly. I
get a story from a recent flight. I'm in the middle seat and in
the row in front of me was a man, and being that I was
in the middle seat, I could see him texting over his phone, so
I was nozy and started reading his text and became very sexual, talking about
female anatomy and having sex in a car. I'll spare you the details,
but that wasn't the crazy part. The crazy part was at the top where
the contact shows it was listed as Fred as a male's name, so he
immediately deleted the text just as we're about to take off. So I'm pretty
sure he was texting his side piece on the plane that he saves in his
phone as Fred. Mollie, you are a gossipy, nosy person and I
love you for it. I'm impressed with your vision. I would not be
able to see that far in front of me, and I would be a
little bit dumb. I don't know. I've stumped as far as to like
lean one side to the left or to the right to actually be able to
see that. But that is pretty impressive. Maybe she was fine spirit where
you're basically sitting on each other's laps because it's so close, it might have
been so thank you, Mollie, appreciate that. Hey, Dave, Jenny
and Crewe. First time emailer, but I've been listening for over ten years.
I know I joined the club late. I'm a transplant from southern Minnesota
and where KDWB doesn't come in. I still have to put you on iHeart
when I go home to get my morning show fixed. Thank you. I
remember a couple of times, probably a couple of years ago, you guys
did weird jobs. I work for a cemetery and we're in one of our
two big pre planning months, offering seminars to help people understand how important pre
planning is and how to plan for that season of life. We get mostly
grandmas and grandpa's, but I want people to understand that isn't your just your
mom, your dad, or your grandma norma. Young people pass away every
day, and these are typically the people that never even thought about what they
wanted themselves. Well, of course not, that's totally understandable. I made
a career change away from a corporate job with Caterpillar because I wasn't feeling like
I was getting putting good into the world, and I realized that was a
core value of mine. My twenty six year old husband passed away in twenty
seventeen, so sad, leaving behind a whole family, including his four year
old son. I work with families because I know how important our funeral director
in churches were in our journey through hell. That's where I felt called.
My husband had done some important financial planning that really saved us, but he
didn't really have any plans for what we should do for him in case the
worst happen. I work with families now because I get it. I know
how impossible and hard all of this is, and having somebody who gets it
is so comforting when you are going through it. If a job was ever
home to me, this is it. I was just wondering if you might
want to do another weird job segment for cemetery work and pre planning. I
get it, loving this job is weird. But isn't that kind of the
person you want helping you through these weird conversations? This is Elizabeth, And
I gotta tell you, Elizabeth, I admire you because that's exactly what I
think anybody would want, is somebody who is truly empathetic when that happens.
And I'm going to guess most funeral directors or people who work with Cemeteries have
lost someone and they're probably very professional and empathetic, but you are doing this
because you've been through it yourself. I really admire that. It's kind of
like somebody like you hear about kids who like they're ten years old and they
survive cancer and they want to grow up and help kids that have cancer.
Yeah. I like that. Also. We are called the Catholic Cemeteries,
and we operate under the umbrella of the Catholic Church, but we are no
means exclusively Catholic. One of my favorite things about this job is learning about
all the different cultures in their various traditions. We've buried recently in African traditions,
Jewish, and some Asian. We believe everybody should have a beautiful,
well kept resting place. We don't impose the Catholic faith onto any of our
families. We meet you exactly where you are at that moment in time and
do our best to honor these traditions to the best of our abilities. Wow,
Elizabeth, I'm really impressed, and I'm going to give you a plug
called Catholic Cemeteries because it sounds like you, guys, your heart's really in
the right place. I'm not going to name any names, but I knew
somebody who worked at a cemetery. They don't anymore, and they would with
certain The cemetery I don't think had much to do with it, but the
funeral directors in certain situations, I'll say, would pump this family full of
bullshit like, oh, well, you don't want this cheap casket, you
want this one, and you also want this, and you also want this,
and you want the service with this, because they were all about making
money. And when a family's grieving, you know you want to do the
best for them. You don't want to go, well, give me the
cheap one, give me the cheap one. You want to give them the
best one. So that is it. We got to cut it short.
Minnesota, Goodbye, out o time. Ryan Show at kadiwb dot com