Hey, hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to
think about. I'm gonna step on some toes a little bit. So many
of you out there are staying in the wrong relationships with the wrong people.
And you know it. You know you're in a relationship with the wrong person.
Why are you staying in that relationship? Why you have to think about
it? Some of you are spending your time complaining about what's going on in
the relationship. He's doing this, she's doing that. But you are the
ones who have set the tone. You set the tone when you do nothing
about the things people do to you. You don't love the person, you
don't even want to be in a relationship. But you're staying because you have
insecurity. You staying because you're fearful of moving forward. You're staying because of
what other people going to say. All excuses. Some of you are using
the children as pawns, excuses because you don't want to face reality that you're
in a dad in relationship that you need to move on and away from.
I mean, I cannot tell you the many people that I have talked to
who are literally miserable in their current relationships, but they're staying they're staying because
we have a nice home. I have this, I have that, he
provides this or whatever. So what. That's why I always talk to you
all about having your own. If you have your own, you don't have
to worry about any of that. See, what people fail to realize is
their security. It's not yours. It's a figment of your imagination. You
think because your significant can other have this or that, it's yours. No,
it's theirs. Some of you find out the hard way too. I
just believe every adult who's capable, and if you have two legs, two
arms in your right mind, you're capable. I believe every every adult should
have their own, every woman, every man. That way, no one
can hold anything over your head, and you will not be insecure if it
don't work out because you have your own. That's what I believe. That's
just me, though. So many people are in miserable situations because they're in
relationships holding on to individuals that they don't want to be with. I've talked
about this several times on different episodes. You're just done. Some of you
never wanted to be with the person you went on with the relationship because of
other people whether children, parents, friends, whomever. Now you're in the
relationship, no connection at all. You're miserable, you're unhappy, but you're
still there. Please tell me why you do that to yourselves? Why.
I'll tell you why. I don't even know you. But normally it's excuses.
It's excuses. You're crippled by excuses. You're crippled by fear. So
you said old. The children are young, some of you your children in
college, some of you your children gone long gone. But you're still making
that as an excuse. Craziness for anybody to go through life with a man
or a woman that you don't want to be with. You have no connection
with that person. You're just worried about what other people are gonna say.
They're gonna they're talking about you right now. How about that they are talking
about you right now because they see your misery, they see there's no connection
between you and your significant other. They see that you're faking it, So
they're talking about you anyways, while you're so worried about what they're saying.
They're gonna talk about you period. They'll talking about you, even if your
relationship what's the greatest. They'll talk about you out of jealousy. People are
gonna talk, You're never gonna stop them. That's no reason to hold yourself
to a relationship that's loveless, no intimacy, nothing, and you're miserable.
You will be completely amazed the many, many, many people who are in
these types of relationships just faking it. Get out in the opening with other
people, pretending they're so happy in their miserbles, don't hold hands, don't
kiss though, nothing when they're behind closed doors. But they're faking in front
of people. For what, it has to be exhausting to keep living lies
full of faking and pretense. It has to be exhausting. All of the
energy and time people put into faking and pretending you could put into really making
a relationship work or being with someone that you really want to be with.
For people spend their lives wasting their lives on dead end relationship with the wrong
people. It does not make sense, but this is what people choose out
of their insecurities. You don't have your own. When you don't have your
own, that's the state of mind you're in. You're insecure. You don't
know how you're going to live, you don't know where you're going to live.
You don't have anything, so you would rather stay where you have something
versus starting over because you don't have anything. You put yourself in that situation.
Anytime you're totally dependent on someone else, anything may happen. Anything.
Some of you have dedicated your lives to individuals that you're not even married to.
You've been with them for years and years, and they die and leave
you with nothing. Some of you are married to them and they die and
leave you with nothing. Ridiculous, ridiculous. You live all of your life
that individuals. They died and left you with nothing, and you still have
to start over from the ground up. You were living with that person,
disconnected in that relationship. They died and you still died. They died,
Let me get it right. They died and you still end up with nothing
because whatever they had it went to someone else. That must feel terrible feeling.
But people definitely are living it. Definitely, I personally know a few
terrible. Then you have people who have been together years and years, not
married in the same thing. The significant other die left with nothing because somebody
else gets it because they left it to someone else. Crazy and you have
to know who you're with. You have to know what's going on in your
relationships. He was with the wrong person. And too many people are subjecting
themselves to these types of relationships totally unhappy. They're not growing, you're disconnected,
you live separate, but you're still there because of their security. It's
not yours. And I've said it a million times because this is what people
do. They get into relationships. Their wives treat them like crap, or
their husbands treat them like crap. Neither nor won't the other, but nobody
will do anything about it. Sometimes one person want the other, the other
person don't want that person. But sometimes neither persons, neither individual want the
other. That's just crazy, it's foolishness because you're so worried about what other
people gonna say. Honey, they're talking right now. They see through your
smoke screen, your camouflage, and I just think it's terrible, especially when
there's kids involved. Kids see what's going on. They see there's no kind
of affection between their parents. They see it, They hear the arguing,
they see the separation within the home. What do you think you're planting?
What seeds you think you're planting in your children. Oh, you're teaching them
something because they see what's going on. They hear what's going on, So
you're teaching them something and it's not good. I just wanted to talk about
this because so many people in this world are in the charade, just playing
games, acting as if they have the best relationship ever when it's the worst.
It really is. You are limiting your own life. You're limiting your
own happiness because you're never gonna gain happiness because you're unhappy inside. You're in
a relationship where you're unhappy. You're in a dead in relationship and you know
it. You're yearning desperately for love, you're yearning desperately for some attention,
but you're holding yourself to that relationship because of your insecurities. And let me
say this, I want to make a point to say this. Not all
the time, is it because you have insecurities as far as you don't have
anything. Sometimes people have things, but they have other insecurities. It's secure
about being alone, it's secure about starting over. It doesn't matter what the
insecurities are. If they're holding you where you don't want to be, that's
a problem. But this is what people are doing to themselves all over the
world staying with the wrong person, knowing it's the wrong person. You're getting
absolutely nothing out of the relationship other than headache and heartache. How is that
benefiting you? Please tell me how it is benefiting you. It does not
benefit you. It does not benefit your children, because, let me tell
you, a good parent, it's going to be a parent, whether they're
in the home or out of the home. A good parent. So you
can't use that as an excuse. I know plenty who are parenting separate,
but they're doing an awesome job. So don't use that as an excuse.
Do not use that as an excuse to say, what's the wrong person?
I had friends who are married for forty some years. Forty some years misseraball
couldn't stand one another. I just I can only shake my head because it's
ridiculous. It really is. I know because I lived it for a short
period with someone that I didn't want to be with, someone that I totally
lost respect for and everything because of the things that he was doing. Then
finally I was like, oh no, I'm out of here. Never look
back. So I know people are doing that. People have been together for
years and years and years, and then you have individuals looking on the outside
looking in and they're like, oh, they have a great relationship. They've
been together twenty years, thirty years, forty years, fifty years, sixty
years. I don't mean that they're happy. Just because people have been together
a long time does not mean that they're happy. Most are not. They
just don't want to do anything different. They just don't want to start over.
They just don't want to be by themselves. It does not mean they're
happy. Most of them are not wasting time and energy, denying themselves the
ability to possibly be with someone who loves them, and they someone that they
love. But you'll never get that opportunity if you're spending your life with someone
who isn't meant for you, the wrong person. But again, this is
what people are subjecting themselves to all over the world. It's your life.
You live at how you want to. But I think it's terrible that people
do it. Just unhappy. There's no affection at home, there's no communication,
nothing, just roommates literally, because a lot of people are living separate
in the home, just companions. Matter of fact, some you can't even
classify as companions because they don't want anything to do with each other. Companions
normally are having some type of relationship, but a lot of people are living
under the same room, totally disconnected, no type of communication, miserable,
desperately yearning for love and attention. Some are even getting it by from someone
else. That's not right, it's not You have to be earnest about it.
If you're doing something else side of your relationship, you're wrong. You're
dead wrong. Especially if you're married, you're wrong. And just because you
subjecting yourself to the misery, that don't make going outside of your marriage right.
Because you can do you can do yourself a great favor. You can
do the right thing for yourself, but you choose not to. Everyone married.
God didn't put together. That's a fact. That's a fact. Everyone
together. God did not put together. Most people put themselves together. And
that's why there's no foundations. That's why there's no connection in a lot of
relationship. That's why they're such bickering and argument, so much chaos and drama.
Because God is not in it. Jesus is not in it, never
was from the beginning. Foundations are not laid from the beginning, so people
really just become whom they have always been in their relationship, separate because there
was no foundation from the beginning. All the little things that you thought were
so cute you hate now. You know the old saying what used to make
you smile and laugh, now the very thing is making you cry. It's
because people subject themselves to this pain and misery, because most people live their
lives for other people. What they're gonna say, what they're gonna do.
They're saying it now. They're talking about you right now, and let me
reenterate. That is why I say you need to get your own. If
you have your own, you don't have to worry about someone taking it from
you. Well, we're not together, so I want this and I want
that back. You don't have to worry about it when you have your own.
I'm just saying, you live how you want to live. I'm just
putting it out there. Life is too short. Let me tell you.
People are leaving this world left and right, left and right. Just recently,
I know several people died within the same week. Different people from different
families died within the same week. People are getting up out of here every
day. We're all closer to death. So Why are you living your life
in misery, living your life with someone you don't want to be with,
someone who don't want to be with you. That's it. I'm not gonna
go continue to beat this. I'm leaving it right there. I hope you
got enough out of it. Please share this episode. Thank you for listening.
Much love to each every one of you. Remember it's your life.
You create the monsters in your life. You teach people how to treat you,
and they will teach you exactly how you allow. Whatever you open yourself
up to is exactly what you will get. Please share this episode. I
end every episode the very same, and I hope and I pray that you
do it. You need to do it. Thank go on it