Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alisha
Cogan, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand
your minds and become more self aware so that you can glow up. It's
the best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? If you're
watching on YouTube, it's a new background and the background is giving what it
needs to give. Okay, we are here. I know whoever's listening audio
you can't see. Maybe this is your time to go watch the Globe Secrets
podcast handle on YouTube just for a moment, just so you can see what
the vibe is. We've got a new chair, We've got artwork, We've
got the YouTube plaque up here. We got a little chess going over here.
I am so happy with this space now. Listen, things are going
to change, probably, but let's quickly do a rundown, but we will
get into the episode because I'm not going to make this super super long.
So I'm sitting on this beautiful blue Togo dupe chair. I will have this
linked on my LTK because I found it on Wayfair, but I did get
it on Ali Baba because I couldn't find the baby blue that I wanted to,
but I found on Wayfair. Totally fine, I'll have it linked if
you want. It is so comfy. It is actually called a bean bag
chair, but it's not a bean bag, Like it is definitely harder than
a bean bag, but is so comfortable. I can like chill, I
have a pillow behind me. Oh my gosh, Like recording now is gonna
just be so fun and fresh for me. And then I have this Okay,
so it's like one half is well, it's a butterfly behind me,
but one half is like there's half of the butterfly's blue, and then one
half the butterfly is like a lighter blue with a white background, and then
a darker blue with a darker blue black background. That was really hard to
explain. I was gonna put these too, because they came separate in like
picture frames, but then they didn't fit in the fit picture frame, so
I was like, you know what, Honestly, I'm just gonna use tape
and put them up so you know it works. We got the YouTube plaque
from the main channel. This is so funny because obviously I don't have one
hundred k on the podcast channel, just my main channel. Well over that
now. But when I got this plaque, my YouTube name for my main
channel was the Glow Up Secrets, and I didn't have a podcast channel because
I only did audio. So this plaque says congratulations the Glow Up Secrets for
hitting one hundred k, and I was like, damn, Like I kind
of wanted to say my name. So when I hit one hundred k on
the podcast channel and I get another plaque, I'm just going to have it
say Alicia Gogan and then that way I have one for the pod and one
for one for my name, and then when I hit a million, we'll
just do the same thing. So love that for us. I also have
my little acrylic podcast art which everyone who listens to the audio will see my
podcast art. And this is this was actually from Tests. Shout out to
Tests. She is doing well right now, but not the best situation happened
to her over the weekend. But we're sending lots of love and prayers to
her. She is going to be just fine. I love you Tests,
and then I just I honestly, I picked up this candle because it matched
my podcast art pink, so we have blue, we have a little bit
of pink We're gonna add some more, but I'm so happy to be here
recording. My office is so clean now from all of the shit that was
everywhere in this place, and I just feel like at home now. I
haven't recorded in this room. If you guys don't know, I live in
a one bedroom plus den in Toronto, and my den is actually, honestly,
it's like a room. It has a window, it's beautiful, it's
big enough for honestly, you could have this as a room. And so
I wanted this to be in my office for the longest time, but I
really wanted to put some thought into it, and so I've been recording all
of my episodes out in the kitchen area. We're not the kitchen area,
but the living room slash kitchen area. It was working, but now we're
here. I'm so happy to be here. I hope you guys like everything.
Just better visuals for the pod. Things will probably move, but I
am so comfortable. That is the only thing that I wanted was to be
just more comfortable when I was recording. So anyways, we need to get
into it, and what we need to get into is when are you going
to stop hating on yourself? When are you going to decide that you are
good enough? When are you going to decide that you are hot enough?
Like this is the reason why I kind of came up with this, Well,
there's many reasons why I came up with this specific topic because I just
feel like, collectively everyone needs to always hear this. But I think maybe,
like I think this is probably when I came back from Nashville. I
had the best time in Nashville. I just I was just feeling myself for
the most part. Honestly, I have pretty good confidence with myself, and
it wasn't always like this. I didn't always think that I was pretty.
I didn't always think that I had an amazing body. I didn't always think
that I was successful, Like definitely not. And obviously, like I've built
myself up to a point where, yes, it's very clear that it makes
sense why I would be confident in certain areas of my life because I've had
success in that sense in a way. But still, there was always always
always a level of me deciding that I was worthy and enough and hot enough
and pretty enough before let's say I was fully embodied in that or I really
knew that I just had to at some point in my life just stop picking
on everything about myself and just decide that I'm good enough. But like I
was saying, i came out from Nashville, I was just feeling so just
happy with myself and how far I've come and just you know, really feeling
myself. And I remember for one of the off topic episodes. What I
do for the off topic episodes, by the way, is I usually have
a lot of thoughts or just different things that come to me throughout the week,
or things that have happened, things that I just you know, there's
some wisdom in something. I'll write it in my notes app and then when
I'm ready to record, I will, you know, pick and choose some
of the things that I want to talk about. And one of the main
thoughts that I had when I came back from Nashville is like, when are
we going to collectively decide that we are hot? When are we going to
decide that we are good enough? Like? Are we not sick and tired?
Because I know that I was, But are you? I should just
say it because I'm gonna talk to you now. Are you not sick and
tired of waking up every single fucking day and looking at yourself and picking out
every flaw that you have, constantly complaining about all the things that you have
not accomplished, constantly going over and over and over all of the mistakes and
quotations mistakes that you have made, or the things that you haven't done,
or constantly comparing yourself to other people. When are you going to stop?
Like, let's just give it a moment. I'm just wondering when. Okay,
wait, I know when you're going to It's going to be when you
hit that new goal on the on the scale, or when your body changes,
or when you make x amount of money, or when you have this
amount of followers, or when he texts you back, or when he decides
to this, that and the third, or when you decide when you ever,
when you make the next move. This is da da da. I
am here to tell you this. And I'm almost going to be twenty eight,
Okay, So i feel like I'm getting really older and wiser at this
point, and like I'm not that old, but like I'm getting wiser.
Okay, if you are waiting for something outside of you to almost give you
that confirmation of yes, now I'm hot, Yes, now I'm worthy,
Yes, now I'm lovable. You will be waiting a very long time.
And this is a thing that I also don't want you to gas light yourself
on, is thinking, well, no, like when I've hit that goal,
I did feel hotter, or you know, when I find the guy
that really I think is really attractive. You know, now I do realize
that I'm a trying Okay, So there is obviously some things that you can
do in your life which will allow you to kind of decide that you're hotter,
you are worthy, or you are enough, or that you're lovable or
whatever. But at the end of the day, there's always going to be
something if you constantly are always waiting for that external validation. But I realized
that my story in my life was I was chasing the acknowledgment and love that
I didn't get from a parent that wasn't giving it to me. And then
I started to recreate that same type of chasing pattern with society, with friends,
with men, with everything in my life. And this is not to
always bring it back to the parents and blame and whatever. And obviously I've
really healed a lot, honestly from that relationship that I didn't necessarily have with
my father, But there's definitely something to say and see within your own story
because realistically, this waiting to decide that you are enough or lovable or valuable
or hot enough or whatever, this waiting usually has to do with something in
your own personal life that you've already kind of gone through. You know,
maybe you weren't good enough for your mom or your dad, or maybe you
didn't get enough acknowledgement from parents or friends around you. Maybe you were growing
up in environments where no one was really you know, uplifting you or pursuing
you or picking you, and that was that was me. I even in
my high school years. You know, I wasn't necessarily the most favorite type
of look or you know, I didn't have like all of the friends.
I was pretty likable, but like, you know, whatever it is.
But I realized that I was just like no matter what it was, whether
it was me being really young and shy, me in high school, me
in college, there was always this energy of waiting, waiting and on top
of that doing my very best to continue to try and get that approval from
other people. Like I was waiting for people to finally tell me that I
was pretty enough by working on myself and doing this, and then I would
show up or I'd post an Instagram photo and then I'm like waiting for the
likes and then I'm like, oh, okay, now I'm lovable. But
guess what, that's fleeting because the likes drop and then people are onto the
next thing, and you got to keep it up. You got to constantly
keep it up. And what I realized was, I am so sick and
tired of trying to keep it up. I'm so tired of trying to taste
people and convince people that I am lovable and that I am enough. And
the most wise thing that I I came to realize honestly in my life was
once you actually decide that you're hot enough, that you're lovable enough, that
you are just enough, that's when people start to decide that you are as
well. And it's weird to think because it's like we're always taught to just
you know, change yourself more for yourself, like wait around and like you
know these people like this, so just like be like that person more and
then you'll be loved. But realistically, there is so many people out in
this world that like so many different types of things. And this is not
about you conforming to what other people want and need. But the end of
the day, it's like to think that you can't be who you are and
be enough is it's just flawed thinking. So, how do you stop wasting
your twenties hating yourself? And honestly, this could be thirties, forties,
whatever age like even younger, right, how do you stop wasting your life
hating yourself? And this is the thing, it's like we're waiting for this
answer, like, Okay, Alicia's gonna give me this answer, and it's
going to be like, you know again, this external thing that she's gonna
give me that I can implement in my life. But the answer, really
and truly is you just have to decide. You just have to decide that
you are enough. And now, how do you decide that you are enough?
How do you decide that you can look into the mirror and be like,
I'm hot, I'm pretty, I'm successful, everything I've done is good
enough? Like whatever you have to tap into unconditional love. So this is
the thing. Most things in life are honestly on condition, especially love.
And you know, it's okay to have certain things on condition when it comes
to like relationships and just for yourself, right, it's kind of this,
like it's this energy of like discipline, the masculine energy, the expectation.
You know, Okay, well you need to be a good person, then
you'll get rewarded or like, you know, you need to show up this
way in a relationship and then you'll be able to be worthy kind of a
having a relationship. Like obviously, like as human beings, we should be
worthy of having things in our lives in general, like food and water and
love and this that. But obviously there's also like certain things on conditions,
like okay with women, like I'm not going to just date a bum who
does nothing with this life, who contributes no way financially, who doesn't treat
me right, who cheats on me, who does all these things, Like
obviously you have certain expectations. But honestly, what I've found is most of
society and relationships, whatever it is, jobs, like money, findances,
everything, it's all on condition. Everything is so conditional. If you do
one thing, you're done. If you make one mistake, oh my god,
it's the worst thing ever. And like that is just it's again it's
flawed thinking because we're human beings. Since we have to understand we are human
beings, we are going to mess up. We are human beings. We
have came on this earth with flaws, like physically flaws or honestly, you
don't even have to look at them as flaws. But I'm just saying that
as a word because we all kind of understand that. But realistically they're only
flaws because we say that they're flaws. There's and this is a crazy part,
right there are people who literally think your flaws are the most beautiful thing,
and then you think they're not because you've been raised around people who said
that that was a flaw, like things like that. But practicing unconditional love
with yourself will be the best thing you could possibly do to allow you to
just wake up and just put down the negativity, put down the self hate,
put down the old programming, and just say I am enough, I
am enough, I am enough. And I really do think the thing that
really helped me kind of just surrender into this unconditional love for myself and other
people is simply just realizing that I'm burning myself out trying to be this picture
perfect version of me. I went through so many cycles, and I'm going
to talk about this a lot in my book that's coming out in January.
But I started to recognize how I was creating this shell of a human being
because I was so not unconditionally loving to myself. I told myself that I
needed to have a certain specific body type, and I had to look a
certain way in my mind. Hair and my face, and my personality and
my social media and my friendships and my relationships and my finances. They all
had to be so goddamn particular that the way in which I tried to attain
these things were so hard and so unrealistic that I kept falling off and going
into these cycles and binge eating and overspending because I was so stressed, and
then putting myself on this restrictive whatever it was to try and make up for
all of the mistakes quote unquote mistakes that I did. And I just kept
doing these cycles until I realized that is not the way that I'm going to
get anything in my life. I had to be okay with the fact that,
yes, right now, my body doesn't look perfectly perfect like the girls
on social media. I had to be okay with the fact that my skin,
Yeah, it wasn't the clearest, but I still was going to go
out and still pursue my dreams or whatever it was. I was still going
to go on dates. I was still going to do whatever I had to
be okay with the fact that, you know, my hair is not straight
like my friends, It's not straight. Can we get through this? Can
we just embrace this yet, because like at this point, me not embracing
it, me not being okay with the fact that I was different, led
me to straining my hair to the point where I was burning my hair off
because it just wasn't healthy form my hair type. Like, there's just certain
things that I kept doing in my life that I realized, like I am
literally creating a whole new version of me that is just not even healthy anymore
because I'm having these conditions on myself and how I think that I need to
show up in this world. And I just wasn't deciding that I was good
enough the way that I was, and like other things that I would do
when I was younger. I'm pretty sure if I can remember, I put
this in my book, But I would always wait till summer to live my
life, or like, the only thing that I would think about during winter
was getting my body ready for summer. And then when summer came, and
I never quote unquote had the perfect bikini body because I'd had these unrealistic expectations
about myself. I wouldn't go I wouldn't go to the beach. I would
hide my body. I would be so incredibly uncomfortable. I would be so
incredibly uncomfortable with the clothes that I was wearing. In high school, I
would wear these like big, huge sweaters. I would wear these long I
remember specifically, and I think I've talked about this before. I'm not too
sure, but I remember specifically. It was a hot ass day. It
was so goddamn hot middle of summer, and I was walking around with my
friends and I was wearing this like one of those windbreaker type of vibes.
So it wasn't like the hottest jacket in the world, but it was a
jacket, and it was long sleeves, and it was huge. But I
loved it because it was able to cover like my little muffin top that I
used to have when I would wear my jeans, which is so normal,
and I just but I hated it so much, so like anytime that I
would wear T shirts, I just didn't like how I had like a little
muffin top. So I would wear these big jackets so it can kind of
cover that. And so I was so incredibly insecure that I was walking in
the heat outside with my friends. I think I don't even I think I
was wearing shorts, but I was so hot, I was sweating. I
had probably had like armpit stains because I was so freaking hot, and I
just would not take off that jacket and just be so incredibly just free and
okay, because I was that insecure about something that, yes, in that
moment, it felt like the biggest hole, like the biggest deal in the
whole entire world, but it really was not, and it took away the
quality of my life. I was literally so uncomfortable to the point where of
course I wanted to go home quicker. I wanted to just stay in my
room and just go on Tumblr and just like scroll and you know, be
my little cocoon because it just didn't feel okay. And now, listen,
it doesn't mean that you can never change anything about yourself. When you were
unconnially loving and starting to accept yourself. But I mean in terms of okay,
being comfortable and just being happy in my own skin. I could have
easily just done that by taking off my jacket, but I just couldn't do
it. I just felt like it was like I like so many people would
see my body and they would hate it whatever. And the truth is the
goddamn truth of it all. It was just me. It was just me
looking at myself saying, you're not good enough. You have to wear this
jacket. You're not good enough. And listen what I want to say to
the people, especially in high school, because people in high school can be
rude. You might have people in your life who say, m you don't
look good enough or oh my god, she has this or that, but
that is their opinion, and you cannot live life for other people who,
by the way, do not give an f about you, because if they
cared about you, they wouldn't make you uncomfortable and say, oh my god,
look at your body. You couldn't wear that, you shouldn't wear that,
you should take you should wear your freaking hot ass jacket, and you
should be super uncomfortable in life. People care about you who don't say that
to you. People who care about you don't want you to be uncomfortable.
The people that I care about, I want them to be as comfortable as
possible. You want to wear an outfit that doesn't look the exact same as
mine, and we have completely different styles, but you feel comfortable in that.
Let's go out anyways. I don't care. I want to be around
people who are comfortable around me, and I want to be comfortable around myself.
Gone to the days where I'm surrounding myself with people, places, things,
everything where I am not allowed to be myself. But this is the
thing. It always starts from within, because at the end of the day,
yes, you might have people out here being like, ooh, you
can't wear that, or you look ugly in that, or this girl's hot
and you're not hot. This girl's hot, or this is the beauty standard,
or this is I don't care. You have to decide. And the
best part about you saying I don't care. I'm gonna do what I want
to do because I am comfortable and like this makes me comfortable. Is people
have one of two options. They will conform and look at you and accept
you and be like, oh, Okay, well that's how she wants to
dress or whatever. That's great, Okay, I'm gonna let her be like
that because you know, she wants to dress like this or whatever. And
on top of that, they're gonna find something so incredibly sexy and amazing and
beautiful about you because you decided to stand in your worth or number two,
they're gonna fall off and they're gonna say I don't like that, and you're
gonna go, I don't care. This is me and I'm living my life
for myself, and they will go and you will find other people who vibe
with you, and that is just that. So why is it that we
are choosing an option, a third but honestly very invalid option of saying,
Okay, well, I'm just gonna I'm gonna just keep conforming. I'm just
gonna keep conforming to what this person likes. And then I'm gonna meet this
person over here and they're gonna like this thing about the way that women dress,
or you know, they want their friends to wear this color or that
style or talk like this or be interested in that thing. So I'm just
gonna do that. And then when that's not gonna be enough because these people
don't fucking like you or really care about you in the first place. I'm
gonna go over here and I'm gonna try this thing. When is enough enough?
When are you going to decide that that is enough? When are you
going to decide that you are tired? Are you tired? I don't know
about you, but I am super tired from that, like genuinely. I
mean, you know, it's been a long time since I've really gave that
much of a about what other people think about me. But I was so
incredibly tired of the thoughts that ran through my head but how I needed to
look and be in order for people to like me. I honestly just think
that, you know, like how people talk about the Roman empires, like
how men always think about the Roman Empire. And there was this girl who
said on TikTok, my Roman Empire is being skinny. How she like always
thinks about being skinny every single day, like it consumes her, like you
know, the clothes she would wear if she was skinny, or the things
that she would do if she was skinny. I used to also be like
that as well. Sorry, my camera heated up, but what I was
saying about the Roman Empire was that was so me in high school. Every
single day I would just think about what would life would be like if I
was skinny, or I had this body, or I had this that and
third and again. This is not to mean that we can never have goals
in our lives and you can never want to change. But changing from a
place of self hate never got me anywhere. My whole entire fucking book is
about that, Okay, And honestly, this is what happened for me.
I realized that I was so burnt out by having, let's say, being
skinny my Roman Empire, and I decided that I no longer wanted it to
be my Roman Empire. Aka, I no longer wanted to like think about
it all the time and have even when I had like a really unhealthy relationship
with food, I was so done thinking about food all of the time.
I was like, can I just have a normal life? But I had
to decide. I had to decide, you know what, I'm going to
stop caring so much about my appearance right now. I'm going to stop caring
about, you know, if I'm this skinny or if this guy's gonna like
me or if I'm going to be this popular or like have this many likes
or this that I had to stop caring so much about that. I had
to drop that. I had to decide that I was good enough. And
then what happened was this, Once I decided I was able to actually pick
up healthy behaviors in my life. I healed my relationship with food. I
healed my relationship with my body image. I got the fittest, the healthiest
I've ever been, my mental health on fucking ten. I healed my relationship
with food. And none of those things are my Roman Empire anymore. None
of those things consume my day to day seriously, even when it comes to
relationships, and like men, honestly, like, there ain't no Roman Empire
man in my head constantly taking up fucking space in my head rent free.
I just I don't do that. But you know why, It's because I
decided, you know what, I'm gonna be good enough. I'm gonna decide
to unconditionally love myself. I'm gonna decide that yes I have flaws, and
yes my body's not where I want it to be, and yes I made
certain mistakes in my life or yes I'm there's gonna be somebody that's always gonna
be prettier than me, or skinnier than me, than hotter than me,
have nicer hair than me, better skin than me, cooler than me,
younger than me, fresher than me. Who gets a fuck. And I'm
still good, I'm still good enough, I'm still hot, I'm still beautiful,
I'm still x y and z okay. I decided that. And what
happened was my actions that came from me deciding I was enough made me glow
up even more. I ended up embracing more of my natural beauty. I
ended up embracing my hear, embracing my body, embracing my style, embracing
my own uniqueness, you know, started going for what I actually wanted in
my life instead of trying to do everything that everyone else was doing. And
even when it came to you know, like even like jobs or how do
you make money that I decided to be a contract creator. I decided to
do all these things in my life because I decided that I was good enough,
you know. And this is another thing when it comes to just even
you know, I could even bring into content creation. People are always asking
like they're trying to find the answer of like, well, how did you
start it? How did you do it? And I need tips? I
decided, I decided I was good enough. I decided that what I'm saying
on this podcast right now was good enough for someone else to hear. I
decided, am I perfect? No? Could somebody say it better than I
could? Probably is somebody prettier than me that could probably say it in more
an eloquent way, and they're more successful and they have more followers. Yes.
Does that mean I'm going to not live my life? No, and
you shouldn't either. You should not let what other people are doing or not
doing really fucking affect how you move through life, honestly, And I just
I think with so many crazy things that are going on in the world right
now, and on top of that, in my own personal life, there's
been so many weird things that have been happening to people, And of course,
because I'm getting older, I just don't I'm not really interested in wasting
more of my time and my energy waking up and deciding that I'm not good
enough, looking in the mirror and nitpicking all my flaws, or just telling
myself I'm not good enough. It feels so much better to sit here and
be like, Yep, I'm enough, Yep, this outfit looks amazing on
me, Yep, my hair looks amazing, Yep, my skin is fucking
amazing. Or yep, my smile is great, or Yep. Everything that
I said in this relationship or everything that I'm doing in this relationship is good
enough. I don't have to change anything. I don't have to go back
and think about all the ways it should have been different or Nope, I'm
good enough. It is honestly freeing, and it's a practice. And I
think that there's many factors that play into the reason why it's hard for us
to just be like, I'm enough. And this is actually what I want
to talk about in next week's episode. The pressure to be pretty, the
pressure to be perfect, the pressure that we have in our own lives that
constantly have us going from Okay, I'm gonna accept myself and love myself and
then three seconds later, oh fuck, I need to change my whole entire
life. Because you know what, it's not just all in your head,
right, It's there's so many things that happen around us. Social media,
the people that you've grown up around. Obviously there's things that I've talked about
in this episode, but I want to give you some tips in that episode
of like how to practically kind of get in this tunnel vision of no longer
letting the pressures of society make you feel like you're good you're not good enough,
And there will always be there will always, always always be pressures,
but there's definitely ways in which that you can navigate those pressures of everyone else's
opinions and everyone else's you know, lens in which they look through the world.
But today I just wanted to send this message, however long this episode
is going to be, just to make you think, I just want you
to sit on this question, and I just want you to just like really
like take it in. Like when is it that I'm going to stop hating
myself? Like when when is it in my brain? When the plan was
to stop this when I'm twenty eight years old, when I'm twenty five,
when i'm twenty three, when i'm forty. Maybe I'll stop when i have
kids. Maybe i'll once that guy marries me, then I'll stop hating on
myself. Then I'll stop second guessing myself. Then I'll stop comparing myself.
When I get one hundred K in the bank account, then that's when I'll
think that I've made it. Or when my body i'm ten pounds lighter,
that's when I'll accept what I see in the mirror. Come on, and
again, this is not to mean that you can't work on yourself and glow
up and change yourself and whatever. But I will tell you this, it
is going to be so much easier for you to lose that ten pounds,
or it's going to be so easier for you to have more confidence in relationships.
It's going to be so much easier for you to hit that hundred k
financial goal of yours when you first decide, you know what, I'm actually
okay right now without it, Because what will happen is the actions in which
you take from a place of self love will get you there quicker. It
will be sustainable. You will pick up healthy eating behaviors, healthy movement behaviors,
healthy work schedules, and you know, productivity, all of these things
in which these things will become a part of your normal natural way of life,
and you will you'll get everything that you need instead of only using healthy
behaviors to a means to an end. This is not what we should be
doing. We should just be eating healthy just to get the lose the ten
pounds. We should eat healthy because it's something we should do forever. We
shouldn't only wake up and just be productive just so you can get an end
goal. We should learn how to be productive so we have more time to
live our lives to get things done in a more efficient way. And this
doesn't mean you always have to be productive, but like a lot of the
things that we are really trying to do are things that we should just already
have been doing throughout our lives. And why we're trying to pick these things
up is to have that end goal, in which we would have already had
the end goal if these just were normal parts of our lives. But we
only use these healthy behaviors and habits just for the end goal. And it
doesn't mean you can't obviously use some of these things as a way to get
to your end goal. But it's like, okay, then what do you
do when you get to the end goal? You just drop the healthy eating.
People always say oh no, no, no, like once I hit
the once I lose ten pounds, I'll be happier, happier, and I'll
be healthier. This doesn't mean that you won't be happy and healthy when you
hit that goal. But what people don't understand is because you didn't use the
healthy behavior in a way of like a normal, consistent thing in your life,
you kind of looked at it as like this is like a punishment,
or oh, I just have to do three more days of this, two
more days of this, one more day of this, and then I can
be free. That's not, in my personal opinion, how you should be
living, because it's like you should just be eating healthy because it's a normal
thing and doesn't mean that you always have to eat healthy. I don't know.
It's just something I've been thinking about. So I just want you to
think about this. When is it that you're gonna be done, When you're
gonna stop hitting yourself and listen, I'll tell you this. If you're younger
than me, I hope that I can save you some years of self hate
by just reminding you that you just actually are gonna have to decide at some
point, so you might as well decide now. And it's a journey.
Of course, doesn't mean you can't work on yourself. But I'm telling you
you're gonna get not only you're gonna get your goals quicker, but you're just
gonna free up so much time and space in your mind and your life to
actually experience life outside of having being skinny be your fucking Roman empire, or
you know, waiting for summer and then you're gonna live your life, or
like waiting for a god to text back and then you're gonna have a happy
day. You're gonna have like this great day. Now I can go and
like work on myself because he texts me back. Oh my fucking god.
Well, can we please stop with that? Anyways? I think that's gonna
be it for today's episode. It is ranted forever because it just really wants
you to decide, and there's no waiting. There's no waiting. You think
it's such an illusion for you to think that there's just there's gonna be this
time and then you can decide that you're gonna just be. You can be
happy now, you can be okay with yourself. Now, you can accept
yourself. Now, please do that, do that for me. If you
can't do it for yourself, to do it for me, but then that's
a kind of a contradiction because you should really be doing it for yourself.
But anyways, I hope you guys enjoyed. Next week we're gonna be talking
about the pressure to be perfect, and I'll definitely continue to talk about this
and more practical ticks that I have implemented in my life to kind of keep
myself in that tunnel vision to really be able to love and accept myself.
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