WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:02.319 It is the Minnesota Goodbye. I'm going to give you a heads up right 2 00:00:02.359 --> 00:00:05.480 now. We're a little bit short on emails, so we'd love to hear 3 00:00:05.519 --> 00:00:08.000 your email. And I know sometimes like, well, you know, I 4 00:00:08.000 --> 00:00:10.800 don't really have anything to write about, or they already talked about dogs off 5 00:00:10.880 --> 00:00:14.160 leashes, so I don't know what to bring up. But if you have 6 00:00:14.240 --> 00:00:19.079 anything that's the heart and soul of the Minnesota Goodbye is you're the staff writers, 7 00:00:19.120 --> 00:00:22.359 so you get to come up with what we're going to talk about on 8 00:00:22.440 --> 00:00:25.519 the Minnesota Goodbye. And let me start off with this one, which we 9 00:00:25.559 --> 00:00:29.719 got just a couple of hours ago on Monday morning. It says, hey, 10 00:00:29.719 --> 00:00:33.039 there, Dave, Jenny, and Nubivant, you're all talking about the 11 00:00:33.039 --> 00:00:36.679 good old days this morning. In case she missed it, I read something 12 00:00:36.799 --> 00:00:42.399 from Rain Wilson, who played Dwight Shret on the Office, and briefly he 13 00:00:42.479 --> 00:00:46.119 said, when The Office was filming and in production, you know, it 14 00:00:46.200 --> 00:00:48.520 was great. We were the number one show. We had a great craft 15 00:00:48.600 --> 00:00:52.200 and crew and writers and whatever he said. But I was unhappy for a 16 00:00:52.200 --> 00:00:54.280 lot of it because I was like, I'm on this big TV show, 17 00:00:54.320 --> 00:00:57.359 but I'm not getting the big movie offers, So he spent a lot of 18 00:00:57.399 --> 00:01:02.719 time being bitter and unhappy instead of living in the moment and realizing these are 19 00:01:02.759 --> 00:01:04.159 the good old days. And now he looks back at the time on the 20 00:01:04.159 --> 00:01:08.359 office and he's like, man, those were the good old days. And 21 00:01:08.439 --> 00:01:11.799 it's kind of funny to see Dwight Shreut talking intelligently because you know, he's 22 00:01:11.840 --> 00:01:15.359 such a goofball, and when you see Rain Wilson, it's kind of hard 23 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:19.280 to not see him as Dwight Shrut. But we talked about what were your 24 00:01:19.519 --> 00:01:25.319 good old days? And remember that your good old days might be right now 25 00:01:25.879 --> 00:01:30.280 and you don't even realize it, but in ten years, when you have 26 00:01:30.359 --> 00:01:34.400 a different job and more responsibility, or your kids are grown or whatever, 27 00:01:36.000 --> 00:01:42.719 your good old days will be now likely. So she says, you were 28 00:01:42.760 --> 00:01:45.920 all talking about the good old days. This morning made me think of a 29 00:01:45.959 --> 00:01:49.480 line from the book and movie The Art of Racing in the Rain. And 30 00:01:49.560 --> 00:01:53.920 here's a line. It says, the racing driver cannot think about the future, 31 00:01:53.239 --> 00:01:57.959 does not dwell on the past, and must be fully in the present. 32 00:01:57.799 --> 00:02:00.680 Well that's true, I mean, think about it. They're not thinking 33 00:02:00.680 --> 00:02:07.079 about the future. They're thinking about where they are right now, totally true 34 00:02:07.159 --> 00:02:09.240 to me. You can't fix the past, and tomorrow is never a promise, 35 00:02:09.639 --> 00:02:15.000 but you are you get this moment right now. I have a seventeen 36 00:02:15.039 --> 00:02:19.800 year old and a six year old, and I'm enjoying every moment with them 37 00:02:19.840 --> 00:02:24.599 because i know they will not be seventeen and six forever. Thanks for everything 38 00:02:24.599 --> 00:02:30.319 you guys do on and off the air. All right is our signature sign 39 00:02:30.400 --> 00:02:32.360 off if you don't like to say dart Lick, and that is Nicole from 40 00:02:32.400 --> 00:02:37.080 Hayfield, Minnesota. One of my favorite names for a city in Minnesota, 41 00:02:37.360 --> 00:02:43.919 Hayfield, Minnesota. Why not count by Rochester, I believe, and I 42 00:02:43.919 --> 00:02:46.039 think that's really true. You don't have kids, Jenny, But I remember 43 00:02:46.120 --> 00:02:50.479 when Carson was about six or eight, I knew he was going to be 44 00:02:50.520 --> 00:02:54.000 my last kid, and I would try to take a mental snapshot and be 45 00:02:54.280 --> 00:02:58.919 right there in the moment. I remember one time, I think he was 46 00:02:58.960 --> 00:03:01.680 sitting on the kitchen counter and I was talking to him or working on legos 47 00:03:01.759 --> 00:03:04.919 or something with him, and I said, I'm going to try to remember 48 00:03:04.960 --> 00:03:10.159 this very moment forever, because right now it seems like you know he's going 49 00:03:10.240 --> 00:03:15.240 to be a kid forever, but I know he's not. So I tried 50 00:03:15.240 --> 00:03:19.159 to take a snapshot and I remember it, but I remember mostly just kind 51 00:03:19.199 --> 00:03:22.520 of like how cool it was to have a little boy around the house, 52 00:03:22.560 --> 00:03:25.000 you know. And I would tell myself, like, you've got a little 53 00:03:25.039 --> 00:03:29.520 boy, and even five years ago, not that long ago, I had 54 00:03:29.560 --> 00:03:32.479 a kid in high school. And now he's you know, grown and lives 55 00:03:32.479 --> 00:03:37.120 in la and he's going to Singapore with the Love Tour on Tuesday. He'll 56 00:03:37.159 --> 00:03:40.800 be gone for a week and he doesn't really need us. Fortunately, we 57 00:03:40.840 --> 00:03:45.319 have a good relationship and he wants to talk to us, and he wants 58 00:03:45.400 --> 00:03:49.360 to text and wants to FaceTime. But yeah, those were I mean when 59 00:03:49.360 --> 00:03:51.680 he was a little kid, when Alison was a little kid, those were 60 00:03:51.719 --> 00:03:53.319 the good old days. But I try to appreciate these for the good old 61 00:03:53.360 --> 00:03:58.199 days as well. I feel like there's a lot of instances in life where 62 00:03:58.240 --> 00:04:00.879 you can look back and be like the good old days. You know. 63 00:04:00.000 --> 00:04:03.360 There's not just like only when Carson was eight years old, were those the 64 00:04:03.360 --> 00:04:06.639 good old days? You know? I'm sure there's like so many different instances. 65 00:04:08.120 --> 00:04:12.879 What were your good old days, Jenny, I would say, I 66 00:04:12.960 --> 00:04:16.319 mean, I loved college. It was so fun. I loved being I 67 00:04:16.360 --> 00:04:20.560 feel like high school was like, h it was alright. It wasn't like 68 00:04:20.600 --> 00:04:25.439 my favorite, but I feel like elementary school when you're just naive and you 69 00:04:25.560 --> 00:04:29.120 just get to do whatever you want, and you know, you like my 70 00:04:29.360 --> 00:04:32.040 friends and I that lived on the block together, we'd be out till the 71 00:04:32.120 --> 00:04:35.959 street lights went on and played until we could until our parents were like, 72 00:04:35.959 --> 00:04:39.120 all right, time to come in, you know all that stuff. I'd 73 00:04:39.120 --> 00:04:42.360 feel like, those are some great moments in my life. And then just 74 00:04:42.639 --> 00:04:46.279 I don't know, I would say like my mid twenties were really fun. 75 00:04:46.480 --> 00:04:48.120 I got out there. I really put myself out there and did a lot 76 00:04:48.199 --> 00:04:51.920 of things, like i'd gotten out of a relationship, and I really just 77 00:04:51.959 --> 00:04:57.360 became very independent after that and made a lot of friends. Honestly, I 78 00:04:57.439 --> 00:05:00.800 just became extra social and I did a lot of things. And now I 79 00:05:00.879 --> 00:05:04.160 have plenty of friends from those years of just being pretty independent. You know, 80 00:05:04.199 --> 00:05:09.800 you mentioned your childhood, and I think everybody's childhood should be the good 81 00:05:09.800 --> 00:05:13.000 old days. But I'm going to guess there are people listening right now whose 82 00:05:13.120 --> 00:05:15.000 childhood was not the good old days. They were either like in a bad 83 00:05:15.040 --> 00:05:19.480 household or a very very dysfunctional family, or they had to take care of 84 00:05:19.519 --> 00:05:24.120 their mom because she was, you know, addicted to something or whatever. 85 00:05:24.199 --> 00:05:27.800 But I think that everybody's childhood should be the good old days. I think 86 00:05:27.800 --> 00:05:30.519 I look at any part of my life that I don't really have a bad 87 00:05:30.680 --> 00:05:34.959 period of my life. I didn't love living in Phoenix because I got fired 88 00:05:35.000 --> 00:05:38.639 twice out there and it was just hot all the time, and I didn't 89 00:05:38.680 --> 00:05:42.600 love living in Phoenix. But I look back at it now and isn't funny 90 00:05:42.600 --> 00:05:46.720 how our minds kind of filter out this stuff that really bugged us and we 91 00:05:46.800 --> 00:05:49.680 remember the fun, pleasant times. And I think the reason we filter out 92 00:05:49.680 --> 00:05:54.120 this stuff that bugged us is because we survived it. Yep, we survived, 93 00:05:54.160 --> 00:05:57.240 you know, like whatever your bad job was, or your bad relationship 94 00:05:57.360 --> 00:06:00.279 or you know, you're like maybe you broke your leg or whatever, and 95 00:06:00.319 --> 00:06:03.480 it was like a bad but you survived it, so your mind kind of 96 00:06:03.600 --> 00:06:08.879 blots it out because it's not important anymore. Exactly No, I think that's 97 00:06:08.920 --> 00:06:13.560 exactly right. And now you remember the good times because they still they still 98 00:06:13.560 --> 00:06:16.439 live on and they still make you happy. So I thought that was a 99 00:06:16.480 --> 00:06:23.079 really interesting thing that Dwight Shrewd said, and it's something to think about next 100 00:06:23.160 --> 00:06:28.480 one Dave Jenny Vaunt. I'm looking for some advice, says Taylor. I 101 00:06:28.519 --> 00:06:30.879 want to start by saying this is about Mother's Day, and I know it 102 00:06:30.879 --> 00:06:33.600 can be a difficult topic for some in case someone wants to skip through this, 103 00:06:33.759 --> 00:06:38.240 So if you don't want to hear about Mother's Day, there's your head's 104 00:06:38.319 --> 00:06:41.800 up. Taylor says, I have my first Mother's Day as a mother myself 105 00:06:41.879 --> 00:06:46.240 this year. My parents and my husband's parents live on the exact opposite sides 106 00:06:46.279 --> 00:06:49.600 of the cities, so it could be like maybe one lives in Plymouth and 107 00:06:49.639 --> 00:06:54.920 one lives in Woodbury, so it's difficult to see everyone in one day. 108 00:06:55.480 --> 00:06:59.480 In previous years, we've done the rounds for every holiday, which can get 109 00:06:59.519 --> 00:07:01.279 exhausting. You know, you go over to mom's house in the morning, 110 00:07:01.639 --> 00:07:05.079 and then you cross town and you drive the forty five minutes over to Woodbury 111 00:07:05.360 --> 00:07:10.240 and then you spend a couple of hours there and it's exhausting, but you 112 00:07:10.240 --> 00:07:14.519 know, it's what you do. This year for Mother's Day, I really 113 00:07:14.560 --> 00:07:17.519 want to spend time as our family and not have to drive all over the 114 00:07:17.519 --> 00:07:21.600 Twin Cities with our babies. On the other hand, I want our mothers 115 00:07:21.600 --> 00:07:27.519 to feel appreciated and loved. How do we celebrate them? And I get 116 00:07:27.519 --> 00:07:30.439 to take time to celebrate with my family. Thank you, Taylor. What 117 00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:33.079 do you got, Jenny? Well? I was going to ask you what 118 00:07:33.240 --> 00:07:38.199 Alison started doing once she had the girls, because does she still do something 119 00:07:38.279 --> 00:07:42.040 with you guys for those days and then also with just like her and her 120 00:07:42.240 --> 00:07:45.360 little family, or does she do do you guys do it all together? 121 00:07:46.199 --> 00:07:48.959 We are I think we're really good at compromising on this one. I think 122 00:07:49.040 --> 00:07:53.600 it was Easter. It was this past year where it was the first year 123 00:07:53.639 --> 00:07:58.199 it was just Susan and I on Easter in forever because it was either Carson 124 00:07:58.279 --> 00:08:01.800 was there or they were still kids, or Alison and the kids came over 125 00:08:01.839 --> 00:08:05.399 with Justin and we had Easter dinner. This time, they went to Justin's 126 00:08:05.399 --> 00:08:11.600 mom and dad's and we were alone on Easter and we were fine with it. 127 00:08:11.600 --> 00:08:15.000 It was a little bit lonely and we missed it, but you got 128 00:08:15.000 --> 00:08:18.279 to respect the fact that sometimes your kids want to do their own thing. 129 00:08:18.680 --> 00:08:20.439 And I think that if Alison said, you know what, I love you, 130 00:08:20.519 --> 00:08:26.240 mom. I really want to have Mother's Day with just our family. 131 00:08:26.120 --> 00:08:31.959 That is absolutely understandable. But I think here is my suggestion for you, 132 00:08:31.039 --> 00:08:35.720 Taylor, do Mother's Day for yourself on Mother's Day, and then do a 133 00:08:35.759 --> 00:08:41.279 Mother's Day light with your mom and your husband's mom on a couple of different 134 00:08:41.320 --> 00:08:45.320 days, Like you know, maybe take them out to Golden Corral on the 135 00:08:45.360 --> 00:08:48.240 Saturday before or the Saturday after, you take them to Red Lobster or Benny 136 00:08:48.279 --> 00:08:52.440 Hannah, whatever, or you just go over and like hang out. Yeah, 137 00:08:52.480 --> 00:08:54.399 I think that's fair. I think a lot of people start doing that 138 00:08:54.440 --> 00:08:56.039 once they have kids of their own. They do spend it with just like 139 00:08:56.080 --> 00:08:58.600 their family, but then they try to do something with their moms if they 140 00:08:58.639 --> 00:09:03.200 have a good relationship with them on a different day. Yeah, and I 141 00:09:03.240 --> 00:09:05.600 think that moms and dad's you know, if your mom is he's really going 142 00:09:05.679 --> 00:09:09.799 to feel hurt and make you feel guilty. Well, I think that's probably 143 00:09:09.840 --> 00:09:16.080 on her and I know Susan would feel a little bit sad if Alison said, 144 00:09:16.159 --> 00:09:18.200 yeah, you know what, it's Mother's Day. We want to do 145 00:09:18.279 --> 00:09:22.639 it on our own. We got two kids where our own family. We 146 00:09:22.679 --> 00:09:26.759 want to do our own Mother's Day that's fine. You should get to experience 147 00:09:26.799 --> 00:09:31.600 your own mother's day. I think any mom would understand that. M Yeah, 148 00:09:33.480 --> 00:09:35.639 Okay, a couple of more. Let me scroll down a little bit. 149 00:09:35.720 --> 00:09:37.720 Like I said, we're a little light on emails. We're going to 150 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:41.960 go back to some that we did not get to before. I don't think, 151 00:09:43.240 --> 00:09:46.879 Hannah writes in Okay, you know what's funny. I called the State 152 00:09:46.919 --> 00:09:48.919 Farm office in my small town. Somebody said Hello, this is Jake from 153 00:09:48.960 --> 00:09:52.279 State Farm. How can I help you? And I didn't say anything because 154 00:09:52.279 --> 00:09:56.759 I thought it was automated, and then he said hello. Turns out the 155 00:09:56.759 --> 00:10:00.440 owner's son is Jake. He's in his thirties, so well before Jake from 156 00:10:00.440 --> 00:10:03.159 State Farm thing. It just makes me laugh to even think about it. 157 00:10:03.440 --> 00:10:11.559 Happy Friday from Hannah. That's funny. Totally random email. But the Jake 158 00:10:11.600 --> 00:10:16.440 from State Farm thing is such a classic. You remember the commercial that originally 159 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:22.360 started it where the wife comes downstairs in the middle of the night and her 160 00:10:22.440 --> 00:10:26.039 husband's on the phone and she's like, who are you talking to? Yes, 161 00:10:26.720 --> 00:10:30.840 and he's like, it's Jake from State Farm, and so she grabs 162 00:10:30.879 --> 00:10:33.879 the phone and she's like, hello, Jake from State Farm. And it 163 00:10:33.960 --> 00:10:37.799 shows this kid like sitting in a darkened cube kind of in the middle of 164 00:10:37.840 --> 00:10:41.120 the night, answering phone calls and she's like, what are you wearing, 165 00:10:41.519 --> 00:10:46.159 Jake from State Farm and he's like, uh, khakis. And it was 166 00:10:46.240 --> 00:10:50.000 like the commercial's got to be ten or fifteen years old, but classic. 167 00:10:52.279 --> 00:10:58.039 Okay, and next one and this is probably going to be the last one. 168 00:10:58.120 --> 00:11:00.799 But there is something that I was gonna bring up with you that you 169 00:11:00.879 --> 00:11:03.639 found out is illegal, and I thought this is really unusual and totally random 170 00:11:03.879 --> 00:11:07.840 and perfect for the Minnesota Goodbye. And it involves a word propagating, Jenny, 171 00:11:09.000 --> 00:11:11.120 if you will. Yes, my mother taught me about something called where 172 00:11:11.120 --> 00:11:16.879 you can't It is illegal to propagate some plants, which basically means certain kinds 173 00:11:16.919 --> 00:11:18.840 of plants that you buy from a store, you can't split them up to 174 00:11:18.919 --> 00:11:22.320 then develop your own plants where it would like grow a ton more because then 175 00:11:22.320 --> 00:11:26.399 you're taking away from the store's profits. And there probably is a lot more 176 00:11:26.399 --> 00:11:30.320 to it than what I'm explaining, because she went into very big detail, 177 00:11:30.360 --> 00:11:31.759 but that's what I took out of it, and I just thought that was 178 00:11:31.799 --> 00:11:37.759 so strange that it's illegal to split up a plant is basically what it comes 179 00:11:37.759 --> 00:11:41.480 down to, certain plants, not everything. That is the weirdest thing to 180 00:11:41.480 --> 00:11:43.840 me, because you would think that if you buy, I don't know, 181 00:11:43.960 --> 00:11:48.559 a Christmas cactus is a classic one where somebody will take a Christmas cactus and 182 00:11:48.559 --> 00:11:52.000 cut off a little clipping and then give it to their daughter or their mom 183 00:11:52.320 --> 00:11:54.720 and then they can regrow it. We had one that we got from my 184 00:11:54.759 --> 00:11:58.639 grandma that lived for like forty or fifty years. It was crazy. And 185 00:12:00.279 --> 00:12:03.919 is it illegal or is it just something that the flower industry doesn't want you 186 00:12:05.000 --> 00:12:07.559 to do. No, I'm pretty sure it's illegal, but only like not 187 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:09.879 with every kind of flower. There are certain ones, Like I want to 188 00:12:09.960 --> 00:12:13.000 say, she was talking specifically about a hosta when she was describing that to 189 00:12:13.120 --> 00:12:16.320 us, So she was giving us a bunch of plans to use in our 190 00:12:16.399 --> 00:12:20.679 yard. She's a landscaper, so that's why we got into this conversation and 191 00:12:20.720 --> 00:12:24.720 didn't just come out of nowhere. But yeah, it's certain, it's specific 192 00:12:24.799 --> 00:12:28.720 ones. Okay, that's just interesting to me. It's kind of like, 193 00:12:30.279 --> 00:12:33.159 I don't know, I'll do it anyway. I mean, I pay for 194 00:12:33.200 --> 00:12:35.399 the damn plan if I want to propagate the plan, I'm going to do 195 00:12:35.440 --> 00:12:37.799 it. You're probably never going to get caught, is what it comes down 196 00:12:37.840 --> 00:12:41.840 to. Like, it's just something that you're supposed to abide by. We 197 00:12:41.879 --> 00:12:45.000 do kind of got to wrap it up here though. Okay, well then 198 00:12:45.039 --> 00:12:46.919 let's wrap it up and that'll do it for the Minnesota Goodbye for this time. 199 00:12:48.879 --> 00:12:52.279 Short on emails means a shorter podcast. So if you want to write 200 00:12:52.320 --> 00:12:54.320 in, you know, about anything we brought up, if you want to 201 00:12:54.399 --> 00:12:58.639 use the word propagate or bring up something completely new, we are here for 202 00:13:00.080 --> 00:13:05.000 those emails to Ryan Show at KDWB dot com and seriously, thank you for 203 00:13:05.039 --> 00:13:07.399 listening to the Minnesota Goodbye.