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Welcome to speed Round Sunday on the
Parenting Roundabout podcast, where we share a

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mini episode from our past for your
weekend listening pleasure. We'll be back tomorrow

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with a brand new episode. How
much input do your kids have on their

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decord choices in their bedrooms? Are
they acting out? You have total control

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over their choice? Or no choice
at all? So how do you how

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do your kids or I guess what
role do they play in what is inside

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their bedroom? In terms of I
guess color, betting, light fixtures,

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posters, Harry, how about your
kids? I don't know that I would

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describe either of my kids as having
decore particularly in our in our first house,

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you know, which we decorated their
rooms before we adopted them. Then

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we had colored walls, and we
had had a friend painted Calvin and Hobbs

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mural on my son's bedroom wall,
and my daughter had you know, I

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decorated things up for her, and
then we moved to this house. I

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guess they were old enough to kind
of decide for themselves and they didn't really

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care, so nothing really much got
done. My son's bedroom decor is you

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know, basically a hoarder's theme with
large plastic crates of old toys he hasn't

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touched in probably a decade, piled
up along the walls because he doesn't ever

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once get rid of anything covered with
dust. He used to collect car magazines,

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you know, like the free ones
you get from the grocery store.

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So there's bookcases with piles and piles
of dusty, yellowed car magazines. It's

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a disaster. It's horrible. And
I wasn't kidding when I said it's covered

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with so much dust that you just
it's become a decorating back over and I'm

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afraid of like removing anything because you
know, Jimmy Hoffa might be in there

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someplace. But it's bad. But
you know, he doesn't want to get

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rid of anything. He doesn't mind
it. He's not motivated to do anything.

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He has pictures on his wall of
an actress he liked, you know,

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fifteen years ago, that he doesn't
really care about now. But he

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just you know, he's a status
quo guy. I'll do it tomorrow,

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I'll change it tomorrow, I'll fix
it tomorrow, and tomorrow never comes.

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My daughter, we did decorate her
room up a little bit. I think

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when she when she turned eighteen or
twenty one. We got her some new

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furniture. We got her a TV, so she's got a little bit more

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and she's very organized. So she
keeps her stuff pretty neat. But it's

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not like something you'd see in a
pottery barn catalog or anything. It's just

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a room, you know, nothing
much and they don't really care. Particularly

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she cares, probably a little more
than him. She puts pictures of you

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know, friends and family members up
on the wall, and even the ones,

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the photos that don't quite belong to
her, she puts upon her wall.

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As I think I discussed before.
Believe that speed because yeah, so

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that's fine and I don't really care. It's not like my room is particularly

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a decorator showcase either. So did
you guys liked your kids? Are they

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into that? Do they want to
decorate? I mean I was somebody who

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wanted to decorate my room when I
was a kid. I was into it

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at different ages, different things is
what I wanted. I had a big

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canopy bed one for a while who
yellow fully stuff on it, and at

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one point I put the long curtains
so that I could hide behind it.

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So that was a thing, but
not my kids. Yeah, they're both

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have opinions. I mean, actually, my son he's been wanting so I

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as we were talking earlier about removing
the carpet that's in his room, and

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he's been looking forward to that.
He wants to get rid of it.

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And he has lots and lots of
ideas for what could happen next in that

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room, including he would really like
a Murphy bed so that he could have

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the entire floor free, and he
would paint a knee hockey you know,

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court or whatever rink on the floor. And he has lots and lots of

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ideas and opinions like that. Um. The thing is that, first of

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all, I'm not buying a Murphy
bed, and you can buy a Murphy

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bed, yeah can. But even
if even if I wanted to, Um,

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there is no wall in his room
that can accommodate a Murphy mad because

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um, he has like those eves
like the yeah, you know, the

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triangular right things that are you know, on two sides of a window.

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And so that's so the window side, you know, isn't wide enough.

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And then the two other walls have
the triangles. And then the fourth wall

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has a door which connects to my
daughter's room. So there's really and we

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like covered up that door, which
neither of them seems to want to do,

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which kind of surprises me. But
okay, um, so yeah,

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there's no place for all boys for
a mervy bed the bed or something,

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so we at least could have it
off to the side. Tom maybe,

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I mean he has a like a
captain's bed right now, so that it's

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got a trundle underneath it, but
it's kind of falling apart, so we

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have to replace it. But it
almost has to be like a day bed

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style because there's no good spot to
put the headboard because of the aforementioned crazy

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right layout of this room, you
know, and we, as a part

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of a separate project, we are
going to have some electrical work done.

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And her electrician said, well you
should if you want overhead lights in any

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of the upstairs room, you should
do you know, now your chance basically,

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so I have to get some light
fixtures, and I'm sort of thinking

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about, you know, do I
kind of give the kids like here's three

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from or do I send them out
there and say, okay, your budget

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is X and you know see what
you can sound mind reality TV show?

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Right, like go on interest get
busy. So that's kind of where where

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I am on this topic right now. Well, my son, the only

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thing he cared about was having his
band posters on the wall, you know,

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his rock band posters. Some were
a little bit inappropriate, and so

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I would get in there with my
black sharpie and some covering up. I'm

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sorry, but you know, if
the girl went from a thong to leggings

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as skin tight, right. You
know, I had a younger daughter at

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the time. I didn't need to
see this stuff, so I was a

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little concerned about that. I did
have him when he was younger, he

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had a themed room, but as
he got older, things were kind of

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you know, mixed and match.
But yeah, yes, he was very

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particular about his posters, so much
so that when he moved out, he

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lived on his own for two years, and then he moved in with his

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girlfriend, and my husband and I
had bets on how long the posters would

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last in the apartment he shared with
his girlfriend or shared with his girlfriend,

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and about a year they lasted,
and just a couple of weeks ago he

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came sulking home with his posters in
hand, all rolled up. Can you

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store these for me? Please?
She will let me have them on the

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wall anymore. We're back in my
house. So obviously she has a lot

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more control over his decord than what
I did. Yeah. My daughter,

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on the other hand, she could
care less. I'm the one that has

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to decorate it. I care more
than she does. Yeah, she could

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care less. As long as she's
got her lamp and her fan and her

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computer and and oh and chords to
charge her phone. That's all she cares

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about. That's important, Yes,
very important. Chords. Yes, that's

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all she wants is just outlets,
chords and a light. Well, that's

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easy. Yeah, so she doesn't
She could care less what goes on around

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her, that's yeah. So that's
the story of my kids.