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If you're hearing this episode, then you are meant to be here. So
keep listening on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times,
baby Girl, we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling
our most empowered positive bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself.
On this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so we can fully
step into exactly who we came here to be. Can I get a name?
A men? Today we're talking about how to fully step into exactly who
we came here to be by unlocking our divine complet in our confidence. If
you will, we're gonna learn how to create validation from within, how to
shift ourselves onto our most confident timeline, and ultimately how to claim what has
always been ours, which is our confidence. I don't know if you know
this, but when you were born, you were born confidence and magnetic.
You. When you were in your little diaper, were screaming, crying.
You didn't care who was in the room. You were loud and proud that
means that confidence is our natural states and in security is a learned behavior.
Would you look at that? And here's the good news about that. If
in security or anything that deviates from confidence is a learned behavior, we can
unlearn that behavior and go back home to who we truly are, which is
a magnetic being. You were created to be confident, not to be so
scared and insecure. It's a waste of your own damn time. Who gets
served when you are insecure but the energy vampires of the world and Satan And
last time I checked, you were not playing for his team. Okay,
before we get into it, a couple of announcements. If you're not yet
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and this will help you step onto a most magnetic timeline, not even
a more magnetic timeline, a most magnetic timeline period, and it will really
help you release what's no longer serving you so you can fully accept in the
right people, opportunities and places that link to pre save will be in the
show notes and without further ado, let's get into today's episode. Let's first
talk about validation. The voice we hear the most is the one in our
own damn head. If you're constantly telling yourself that you're not good enough,
that nobody likes you, that you're not cute, guess what, You're gonna
believe that because your subconscious mind believes everything that you tell it. Your subconscious
mind is like a child. It is passive, It is a sponge,
and it will soak up everything you tell yourself. So first things first,
we have to shift the narrative we have on replay in our head, because
that narrative is like elevate or music. It is always on and it never
stops. It might be so unconscious to you, playing in the background of
everything that you do, that you don't even notice it anymore. So step
one is awareness. We have to start paying attention to the words, the
stories, the narratives that we are speaking in our own mind. Love correspondence
as above, so below. Your internal world will always be reflected back to
you in your external one. So if you're telling yourself insecure stories in here,
you're gonna see insecure timelines play out in your reality. If you are
telling yourself insecure narratives inside of you, you are going to feel that and
then experience that in every bar, every party, every room that you walk
into. That at one time was me. I would feel so uncomfortable,
so insecure, going to a party or a bar, and then I realized
this isn't serving me, and it's based on a lie. Because I was
born confident, I didn't care if I had a scream or cry or get
what I wanted. I wanted that bottle, and I threw bottles to get
a bottle. That's a real story. My sister told me, I literally
was just throwing bottles because I wanted more milk. I was so confident.
So if I am now insecure, that means I learned insecurity along the way,
and a lot of that was due to the stories I was telling myself,
well, I can't have that person, I can't have that opportunity.
Someone else is better. That's BS who even said that. That's all just
a limiting belief. And what's a belief but a practice thought? It's nothing,
it's nothing. It's chemicals connecting in your head. And if we want
to go down to another layer, okay, it's energy, awesome, cool.
It doesn't mean anything. It does not mean anything. I have told
the story before, but I'm gonna tell it again in case there's new listeners.
I was doing interminute fasting and it was about five PM, and I
hadn't eaten, and I went to the grocery store and I just bought everything.
I didn't look at labels. I didn't even know what I was buying.
I just started ripping open bags, eating in the grocery store, probably
eating in the car. When I got home, I looked at what I
bought, and I was like, Cci, what did you just do because
you would never eat this food. I don't remember if it was dairy or
gluten, or packaged chemicals that are supposed to look like food but are literally
not food. I don't know what that was all about, but I bought
so many things I would never even touch, and I realized, because I
was so hungry for food, I dropped my standards, I dropped my values,
I dropped my boundaries, and I just let anything into my cart because
I wasn't thinking clearly. When you are starving for confidence, validation, notoriety,
to be seen, heard, understood by others, because you're not giving
it to yourself, you will drop your boundaries, your standards, your value
system, and you're just gonna let anyone and everything in. And that's how
people end up on a runaway train that they did not mean to get onto.
You have to start shifting the narrative within your own damn brain. You
have to start validating yourself on a daily basis. How do you do this?
Celebrate your big and little wins. I don't care if you graduated from
college or major dan bed, celebrate yourself. Good job, Ceci. Today
I went to yoga and it was one hundred and twenty eight degrees and that
was hard. And the girl next to me, who I might have a
budding new friendship. Her name was Sophia, and she's so pretty and cool.
She said, you did not stop once you did amazing, and then
the yoga instructor yelled at us for talking, but I was like, you
know what, thank you, and you're right. I have really put the
pedal to the metal today and I didn't stop once. I was focused.
I was engaged, and I barely got any sleep the night before, and
I still showed up for myself. So I celebrated myself internally. But I
would have forgotten to do that unless this beautiful angel Sofia would have said something.
And it made me feel so good. Okay, you're noticing, but
I'm noticing myself, and there's something to be said when you see yourself,
when you validate yourself. The thing is, no one knows how hard it
is to be you, and we're not gonna have a pity party for ourselves,
Jesus, but that's the truth. No one knows how hard it was
for you to wake up today and show up to work or show up to
school. No one knows how badly your heart's breaking. Nobody knows that you
have a loved one dying. Nobody knows that you're struggling with your own health.
No one knows that you're fighting with your family. No one knows that
your friends are bullying you. No one truly knows how hard it is to
show up as you every single day, but you know the one person who
does you. You know now there are multi dimensional beings, Hello Jesus,
Hello God, Hello, your spirit team who also know how hard it is
for you, and we're gonna get into them later. But the earthly person
who knows how hard it is for you to show up every single day is
you. So you gotta be celebrating yourself. You gotta be saying, oh
ghost cc yes, Bert, you did it. You did it, and
you're gonna do it again tomorrow and the next day and the next day.
I've said this before, but music really helps me get into a good mood.
It really helps pump me up. I will put on anything by Sabrina
Carpenter and I just I'm off to the races. I could do three trails
and then some find a song that makes you feel really happy and just so
in the moment and make it about love or happiness or joy. And you
know what's so funny. The other day I was doing a trail and I
was listening to Nonsense by Sabrina Carpenter, and this is a love song,
and while I was listening to this, I heard God's voice cut through to
me so clearly, and he said, I don't want you falling in love
with someone right now, ce see, I want you falling in love with
the process of creation, because this season of singleness is actually this season of
holiness. And I need you focus on what you can do with your life,
but this time with me by your side, because before you were leading
from your head, and now I need you to lead from your heart and
include me in all of your plans. And I'm gonna show you how different
life looks when you include me in every step that you take. And any
sign or message I get for myself, I know it is also a sign
and message for you because we're in alignment, and that's why you're listening to
this right now, So that message for me is also for you. Okay,
yeah, do what you've been doing, but this time include God.
Do it from your heart. Fall in love with the process of creating.
And what are we creating. We're creating thoughts of self validation, We're creating
thoughts of feeling good about ourselves. We're celebrating our big and little wins.
We're being impeccable with our word. When we say something, we do it.
If we say we're gonna show up, we will be there. If
we're saying that we're gonna do this, we're gonna do it. Because that
builds confidence, knowing that you can trust yourself to show up when you said
you're gonna show up. Even if you currently believe you're unlucky, insecure,
and ugly, it doesn't really matter because you believe that because you practice thinking
it, you can change your beliefs by interrupting and inserting new sentences, new
thought forms, new ideas, new scripts. When you have a negative thought
about yourself, I want you to interrupt it and say, no, no,
no, no, I'm not subscribing to that narrative anymore. And instead
I'm gonna validate myself for showing up, for doing the work that I needed
to get done, or at least trying to do my best when all else
fails. You're not the best in the class, you're not the best at
your work. Just try your best, because you really can't hate yourself for
trying your damn best. We are creating new thought forms, new sentences,
new narratives, and this time we're doing it with God by our side.
The second thing to build confidence is you can change you don't like about your
life. I don't know why everyone's trying to convince us to just accept what
we don't like. And if you can't see this right now, but I'm
doing the robot. I don't like that. Okay, when I was thirty
plus pounds, I didn't like being that weight. I'm not just going to
accept it because someone's telling me that I should. That doesn't make any sense.
If you're not happy with something in your life, your health, your
body, your career, your friendships, your relationship. What news flash,
You can change it. No, you don't have to accept it. No,
you don't have to say like, oh, it's fine. It's not
fine. If you're not happy, God's not done, and you should not
be either. There's no reason you should be accepting parts of your life that
you're literally miserable in. You can change things that you don't like about your
life. This brings me to page one three in Show Up as Her Here
we Go. I've been the girl that hated herself and I am the girl
who loves herself. I'll give you a hint. One of these is way
more fun than the other. I love self love, but I was turned
off by the self love movement. I didn't understand how to just love myself.
Then I figured out that self love is not something that falls from the
sky and hits us on the head. It's a muscle we have to build
positive bitch tip. Just as we build up physical muscle, we must also
build up psychological self love muscles. We wouldn't go to the gym one time
and expect to have abs, So don't say one affirmation and expect to love
yourself. It's a process. We don't have to love every version of ourselves.
I do not love the version of me that was constantly binging, hating
herself self, sabotaging her relationship, and was depressed. If someone was treating
me the way that version treated myself, telling me terrible things about myself all
day, forcing me to shove down my emotions with food and hurting my relationships,
I would not like them at all. I don't have to love that
version of me, but I honor and respect the contrast she showed me because
she allowed me to clarify and love myself for who I am now. I
needed that older version of me to lead me to this updated version of me.
I don't love that version, but I think her. Instead of wasting
time trying to love the version of yourself that is hurting yourself, begin to
accept where you're at. Thank this version of you for showing you what you
do not want for yourself. Thank this version of you for getting you this
far. If you got yourself here, you can get yourself out of here
too. You have had the power all this time. Today you have become
conscious of it. Imagine all the things you can do now. I'm going
to skip to one twenty four and go down. To build ourselves up,
we must accept where we are at. I tried to pretend I didn't binge
eat. I tried the whole false positivity thing. I tried faking it till
you make it, And yeah, none of that helps. Being in denial
of parts of you will not allow you to release those parts. Pretending you
are happy with parts of yourself that you despise will not allow you to change
or release those parts either. We don't have to remain the same if we
do not love what's in front of us, and we don't have to love
what's in front of us to accept what is. We can't hate ourselves into
loving ourselves. We can't hate ourselves into being healthy. We can't hate ourselves
into success. We can, however, accept where we are at and decide
to go in a new, higher vibrational direction. Accept your current status,
whatever it may be. Accepting our current status doesn't mean we're stuck there.
It means we're opening ourselves up to new possibilities. By accepting what is in
front of you, you are shortening the gap between where you are right now
and where you wish to be. Look at the things you do not like
about yourself and ask yourself, are there actual steps I can take to change
this thing? If you don't like your body, ask yourself? Can I
drink more water? Can I go for more walks? Can I eat more
food? You have to be asking yourself what is an actionable step I can
take to change what I don't like? And do not tell me you tried
everything, because you know you didn't. No, you didn't. There's always
something else you can change. You might not be aware of it, but
there's always something else you can try to change your life. If you do
not like something about your weight, acne, style, job, lack of
coping mechanisms, Hello, that was me for a long time, relationship to
self or low self esteem. These are all things that can be changed.
Begin to get curious about how you can change what you do not like,
and do research. Make a list of actionable steps you can take. If
the current version of you is ensure what to change, ask the version of
you who already has what it is you currently desire. There are limitless versions
of you in this quantum field. This means that even if the version you
embody now doesn't have something you desire, there is a version of you out
there that does. If you want something another version of you has simply ask
that version out loud what they did to get those results? Ask what does
a version of me that has blank do to achieve those results? I ask
what does a version of me that has my desired body due to achieve those
results? That version of me had knew cute workout clothes, She felt graydon
worked out six times a week, drank more water, stop letting herself negatively
spiral about her body, practice gratitude, daily, meditated, did yoga,
bless her food for consumption, and addressed her inner child's wounds. I recommend
taking about ten minutes to sit quietly and get connected with yourself. Asking is
great, but being able to hear the response is another story. You must
be connected to yourself to hear the next steps. Once you receive answer,
you can start doing that thing. Trust yourself. The answers are within you,
you just need to ask for them to come to the surface. Instead
of complaining about what you hate, begin to turn your attention to what you
would love and become inquisitive about how you can get there. Positive bitch tip
Complaining about where you are will never get you to where you want to be.
Set your eyes upon a positive place so you can move towards that,
and remember, if you keep doing what you've always been doing, you will
repeatedly manifest the same results. Let's say you can't change what it is that
is bothering you and you feel it's giving you lower confidence. Let's say when
you walk into your job there are coworkers who are jealous of you, and
so they send negativity. Instead of seeing this as oh, I'm the weakling,
I have to be quiet. I want you to shift your perception because
actually, if people people are picking on you, it's because they see your
light. You have so much power that they are threatened, and therefore they're
trying to bring you down to their level. And by the way, have
you forgotten about alchemy? Have you forgotten about energy transmutation. When people are
sending you hate, jealousy, they're sending their limiting beliefs. You can take
that energy and use it as fuel to stay an extra hour at work and
get the job done, to do the workout, to give yourself extra self
care, to go for a walk, to start the side hustle. You
can use the negative energy people are sending you because at the end of the
day, energy is energy and you can use it to your advantage as fuel.
Do not get mad, get everything you have ever wanted. And more
so, if you can't change the people in your workplace, you can change
your perception of them. Another thing you can do is change the meaning you
give to something. Cindy Crawford, when she was first starting out model,
everyone told her remove your mold, remove your mole, remove your mole,
and she refused. She was like, no, no, no, no,
this mole is from my lineage. This mole is beautiful to me,
and therefore I'm going to rocket and actually that is really what made her so
famous is her mole. Same thing with that model Winnie, I believe her
name is. She has videlago and she was on America's Next Top Model.
She could have grown up being insecure about her skin being two different tones.
She could have grown up and let the bullies get to her head. But
she said, no, this makes me beautiful, this makes me different,
This makes me a super star. If you can't change something about yourself,
most likely you can change your perception or change the meaning you're giving to it.
One of these things you can change to work in your favor and build
your confidence. Now, the next thing you're gonna want to do if you
want to become confident is hang out with yourself. How do you get to
know someone, You need to spend time with them. You might not feel
confident sharing your political beliefs, your religious beliefs, how you see the world,
because you don't know any of those answers, because you don't spend enough
time with just yourself. I spend most of my time with me, myself
and God. I am so sure about how I see myself. I am
so sure of my beliefs. I will be open if something changes my mind.
Of course, I'm not a stone, but I am so sure about
how I see myself, how I see the world, how I see God
that when I walk into your room, I'm confident. I read my Bible,
I read my books, all the self help books. I wrote my
own damn book. I'm confident about how I see myself in the world because
I spend so much time alone. I'm confident about myself and how I see
the world because ninety percent of the time I'm working on me. I'm doing
yoga, I'm broadening my brain. I just signed up for a two week
meditation class that just end and learned a new process to connect with myself and
the other side. Because I'm committed to energetic excellence, I'm constantly working with
a shaman, with a healer, with somebody, constantly broadening. Well,
maybe what if this is true, or that's true, or this conspiracy theory.
I am confident about myself and my beliefs because I do the research and
I spend time with me. Spending time with others is great and it's lovely,
but that should not be at the cost of you spending time with yourself.
And it's really funny, because the more you spend time with yourself,
the more you're gonna recognize how cool your own energy is. Now that I'm
single and I have more time to not text anyone and just really spend time
with me, I'm like, ooh, this is fine. I enjoy being
in my own energy. I enjoy being with myself. It feels good to
rest and dwell within the confines of CC's energy, and it makes me even
more confident. But I wasn't confident when I didn't know myself, when I
felt purposeless and I didn't know what my mission was, and I didn't know
who I wanted to be, and I didn't know what I wanted to do,
and I didn't know what I thought. I was not confident because I
didn't have thoughts on my own. I didn't have conclusions of my own.
I didn't even think for myself. And if we're not thinking for ourselves,
the devil will think for us. So you need to wake up and start
working on you. Sign up for a class, learn something new, read
a book, do something that your inner child would have loved to do.
You cannot rely on how people view you to be your source of how you
view yourself. If you want to be confident, you cannot rely on the
projections, the opinions, the ideas of others if you want to see yourself
clearly, because those people have limiting beliefs, they may have moderating spirits,
they might have a bunch of junk up in their trunk. You cannot rely
on how people see you, especially the people you grew up with, if
you want to see yourself for who you truly are. Because a lot of
us, as we were children, we created a mask of who we thought
we had to be in order to get love. And as we grow up,
as we go to college, a lot of us are able to remove
this mask, but a lot of us aren't. And if we're gonna rely
on the people who knew us to tell us who we are, now,
we're in for a world of trouble. Baby girl. Something really interesting happens
in the Bible. Jesus was actually unable to perform a lot of miracles in
his hometown of Nazareth, literally because people lacked faith in him. They knew
him as a carpenter, they knew him as this little dude. They didn't
see him as this prophet. They didn't see him as Jesus Christ. They
just knew him as Jesus the carpenter. In Mark six' five, Jesus
says, only in his hometown, among his relatives, and in his own
house is a prophet without honor. The point is the people that lived in
jesus Us his hometown, they couldn't see him for his truth. They could
only see him as a past version of himself. They couldn't see his vision.
They couldn't understand his power, just like the people from your past don't
understand your vision, your power, and the truth of who you are.
So if they want to make fun of you for posting, let them make
fun of you. If they want to make fun of you for going out
on a limb and trying, let them make fun of you, because you
know who will be successful in the end, you because you were plugged into
you. You were plugged into your vision, and you gave energy and thought
to it. God gave you you the vision, you the understanding of that
vision. He placed it in your heart, not theirs. This has nothing
to do with them. There's no doubt in my mind that when I was
posting videos at first, I'm sure all the girls that used to be friends
with one hundred percent. Probably had a group chat and were making fun of
me. Go right ahead, because I have my own business now, I
have a podcast. I was invited to be a part of an iHeartRadio panel
in Las Vegas. I have a published book. Make fun of me,
Uh, send me the energy, I'll use it as fuel. Thank you,
thank you. I'm living my dream purpose. I'm confident in myself.
I feel on fire on fuel. I'm ready to go, and I'm also
just getting started. So if people from my hometown or people from your hometown
can't see what you truly have to offer, who cares. They're not meant
to and they don't have to. It does not matter how they see you,
and you can't rely on their vision to unlock your purpose. If you
want to understand who it is you are, I highly recommend I invite you
to start connecting to God. And I just saw two O two. So
you're on the right path and you're understanding your relationship to this energetic electromagnetic field
that we reside in. But it's time you start tapping into that divine source
creator. Through having a relationship to God, I was able to see myself
clearly, I was able to find myself for who I truly am. I
was able to see myself from God's perspective rather than the perspective of my peers,
who had a bunch of limiting beliefs and was not a true reflection of
my worth and my value. I literally told God, God, if I'm
so great, show me show me it in my reality, show me it
in my progress, show me it in my wins, show me it in
the people I attract, show me it in myself. Let me see it,
let me feel it, Let me feel it. And I know God
does not make any mistakes. So you're here and I'm here. It's because
we're both meant to be here. I know that every room I walk into
I'm not there by accident, because I'm always at the right place in the
right time, as are you. So that literally means that every room I
walk into, I'm walking in there like God sent me there because he did.
I don't need your invite I don't need your validation, I don't need
your opinion because this is not about you. This is between me and God.
Actually, so how you view me none of my business, none of
my concern. I'm on planet Earth on a mission, and the only way
to figure out that mission is to spend time with yourself and scream at God.
I gotta be honest. That's what I did. I scream and cried
at God every single day until it was revealed. And then I didn't have
a mental breakdown, but a breakthrough, and then here we are. You
did not fall out of God's back pocket. You're not here by mistake.
God is very intentional with his creations. He created the mountains and the skies
and the birds and the bees, and then he said, you know what
else? This Earth needs uh? You? You? This Earth needs you.
So you have a purpose in your heart. And it doesn't matter if
it's I'm going to be a kindergarten teacher. It doesn't matter if I'm going
to be a first responder. It doesn't matter if it's I'm gonna be an
influencer. It doesn't matter if it's I'm gonna be a mom, It doesn't
matter if it's I'm gonna be a superstar. It does not matter how big
or small you perceive your purpose. Your purpose is important on this planet and
we need you here because if your energy was sent here, it's because we
need your energy here. Dolores Cannon, a famous hypnotherapist, said there were
lines and lines and lines of souls trying to get to planet Earth at this
time, but you got here, So I'm not gonna let you mess this
up. You got yourself here. What are you gonna do now that you're
here? And I know, ooh, you do not come this fall or
just get this far. I don't even know what accent that was, but
I do know that you're meant to be here, and that's what truly matters.
And I know this sounds preachy, but what do you want me to
do? Why? To you? Should I pretend like I don't have a
relationship with God? Should I pretend that I didn't unlock a new level of
confidence when I started connecting to God instead of stupid, useless gossip and content.
Should I pretend well, I'm not going to This is my truth.
So if you don't like it, then click off. But if you want
to learn how to become your most confident self, if you want to see
yourself for who you truly are, who God intended you to be, before
the programming, before the mask, before everyone convinced you that you weren't anything,
then you better start tapping in. That means meditation, That means prayer,
that means nature, that means just sitting by the water. It can
even mean reading. But it means separating yourself from everyone who's just trying to
tolerate you instead of celebrate you. It means separating yourself from the people who
can't see you and turn it to the God who created you. So yeah,
it's preachy, but it's also my truth, and I want you to
experience the unconditional confidence that I feel every single time I step into a room.
When I step into a bar, I tell myself, my fun is
my responsibility. God sent his daughter here, and I'm ready to go.
I don't need Brod at the bar to give me a compliment. I don't
need someone to dance with me. I don't need someone to like me.
Why Because I like me because I can see myself through God's eyes and God
loves me. Jesus loves me, so I don't need you to love me.
And Jesus saves us from the bare minimum. I mean, the man
died on a cruss for us. So yeah, if you want me to
go out with you, you can pay for dinner period. I love you
so much and that's why I'm never gonna lie to you. And this is
my truth. This is my story, take it or leave it. All
I can ever do is tell you what I've experienced and what I know to
be true. This was a prayer that I saw literally while I was filming
this episode, So I'm gonna pray over all of us, and you can
always replay this and say yourself, but it's from power of angelic healing.
That's the page, and it's from Archangel Michael, and it's on self respect.
Dear God and angels, thank you for helping me and all of my
positive bitches see ourselves as you see us through the eyes of love. Thank
you for honoring and respecting us. Please guide us to do the same for
ourselves, and grant us the courage to speak on our own behalf. We
ask for your protection in all of our relationships, so that we are surrounded
by kind and loving people. This is what I mean by asking your spirit
team to help you. They're always there, They're ready to help you.
Ask them, and they will send you resources. A random video, you'll
find, a random prayer card, you'll find someone just comes up to you
and is like, oh my God, you have the best energy. They
will send material content, people, places, and opportunities that are reflective of
your true inherent worth rather than your beliefs of insecurity being reflected back to you.
So start asking to see that instead. I love you so much.
We are decentering our insecurities and we are centering God instead, because God makes
no mistakes when he put us on this planet. Okay, as always,
the sparkle in me honors the sparkle in you. I hope this podcast resonated
with you and maybe taught you something new. If you know that someone might
need to hear this, send this episode to them. Give them this uplifting
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