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Welcomed Round four of the Parenting Roundabout
podcast for the week of May twenty second.

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I'm Catherine Aleko and I'm here with
Nichol Heretics. Hello and Terry Morrow.

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Hello. As moms of teens and
young adults, we've survived those little

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kid days, yet we're still rethinking
the decisions we've made all through our kids'

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lives and worrying about what's going on
right now. Today's Thursday, which means

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it's time to give into our obsessing, and today we're obsessing about superhero skills

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and also our confidence in them.
Terry found this survey fromcare dot com that

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said that what was my Mind moms
are confident in themselves as seventy three percent

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feel they are the best mom in
the world. What best world in my

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family? Yeah, yeah, that's
about as far as I can go.

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That's pretty crazy. Yeah, good
for them. I mean, yeah,

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of moms are bleeping the surveyor oh
yeah they are just delusionalism sarcasm. Yeah

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sure, I'm the best mom.
Yeah awesome, Right, I mean think

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they're just I don't know, don't
mean good for them. You go with

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that self confidence, But that's right. I haven't met any I don't think

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I've met anybody who thinks they are
the best mom in the world. No.

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They may feel that they try the
hardest and that they fight the best,

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and they're you know, the best
at making do but not right the

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best. What did the best mom
in the world even be? Is there

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a single aprilative? Yeah? I
can't. I God, uses every kid

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needs exactly the same thing and I
can do it. Yeah, that's I

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know. Well. The other another
stat from this survey is that eight in

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ten moms believe they are the driving
force of their family and that the family

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would be lost without them. Yes, with those other two moms, yeah,

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I'm that one. I can buy
absolutely and with that goes and bear

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that weight on their shoulders every day. Nothing happens if I don't make it

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happen. So ten moms would like
a better night's sleep. Yes, then

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I mean this survey was there's more, um super hero traits of moms.

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Moms are confident in there and these
are the traits that they believe they have.

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I guess that that are super heroic
problem solving, nurturing, multitasking,

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organization and time management, and communication
skills. These are boring I would like

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more interesting superhero traits. Yeah,
regardless of what I would want my superhero

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trait to be, I have already
been told many many times what it is

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by my children, and that is
I am super annoying. You are good

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at worrying. I am good at
worrying. I'm good at complaining. I

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am good at singing when nobody wants
to hear me sing. I am good

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at so many things that are annoying. Annoying, Mom, you're the best

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helicopter that lifts me into places instead
of a cape. I can't fly by

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myself, but rotors grew out of
my back different places. Annoy I love

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it. Yeah. Wow, what
kind of superpowers do you guys think you

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have or would you like to have? I comfortable with annoying. Honestly mine

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would be. And this this started
when my kids were babies, but you

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know, I still maintain it.
It would be useful to this day to

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be able to make anyone fall asleep
and stay asleep until such time as I

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decide to wake them up. And
this could belding yourself, including myself,

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absolutely, you know, like when
they're babies and you're just pacing the floor

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for hours like just be like put
you down, you're sleeping now on a

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plane, in a car, like
when it's the night before some big thing.

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All of these are times when I
would I would deploy this skill,

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this this superhero ability. That's that's
what I want. That is brilliant.

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I would totally buy. I mean, who cares about flying or being invisible

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or a thing like that. See, the sleep thing could get you through

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those long, boring weights like you
were were children sleep picking up? Yeah,

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how much you Nicole? Would that
what I would want or that I

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have either one or both? Mm
hmmm. Well, like want right now

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would be the power to be like
with my children at the snap of my

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fingers, because they are so far
away from me. Um, and so

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far that you have to get a
passport. I know, I know,

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um what I what? Oh yeah, I think that right now that would

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be the big thing because when they
were younger, definitely the sleep thing was

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a big issue. And oh,
making meals. I want to be able

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to whip up a meal and just
have it in seconds, just like to

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go abracadabra boom something that vegetables Yeah, exactly exactly, So that would be

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Yeah, making food, it's a
big It was a big issue. It

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was a huge mountain to climb.
Do they mothers lives that as their superpower,

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being able to come up with something
for dinner every night? Yeah,

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well, organization, problem solving,
multitasking come into play. I mean,

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I think those are certainly portant skills
that most mothers have to Yes, but

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they're not as good as the instant
far annoying enough other people do those things

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for you. So I got my
children through work, you know, twelve

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years of special education each was with
my amazing powers to annoy. Just give

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it to her. Remarkably versatile you
can use to annoy children, partners,

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teachers, school administrators. I have
exercised them to my fullest possible extent,

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and yet I still have some left. According to my adult children, you're

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annoying, But I'm your annoying.
You're annoying. It's specific to you.

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It's tailor made. I'm an all
purpose annoy or. I can annoy other

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people if I wish, I can
turn it on and off like that.

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Yeah. Yeah, I don't know
what they were. All those things that

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I listed as superhero traits, you
know, the problem solving, all that

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they were asking moms whether they were
confident in those in those traits, and

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fifty two percent were confident in problem
solving, but only thirty six percent were

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confident in organization and time management,
which to me says, hey, they

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are doing too much. That is
why they cannot manage their time. They

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need help. They need someone else
to do some of this stuff. But

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are they experts in podcasting? Do
they have that superpower? Yeah? Like

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you doing? You able to talk
about their children endlessly? Can we come

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up with topics on on on a
dime and then stretch them out way,

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way, way, ask the time
when anybody would want to listen to it?

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Yeah? I mean this survey,
I don't know they they stretched it

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out. They're asking if they're confident
themselves, asking them if they have all

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these traits, and how confident they
are in all these traits and wow,

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yeah, they asked, are you
a good liar? Perhaps they should have

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to enjoy lying to surveyors. I
don't know that sent think they're the best

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mom in the world. Seems like
colossally wishful thinking. Yeah, it does

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pretty much like make everything else they're
saying rather suspect, like, well,

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how good can you actually be as
a mom. There's so much going on.

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So sure I'm probably the world's best, but we're all awful, maybe

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right, Or I see all these
other people with their brats, I'm better

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in them. Or maybe it's just
the one thousand people that they interviewed are

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just I guess so particularly overconfidence.
It's gonna say, just went down that

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list. Yeah, good on you
all, you moms who think you're so

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good, very impressive. We'll check
back with and we will enjoy it.

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Right, We'll check back with you
when your kids turn eighteen see if they

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engage in senior pranks, in which
case score is going down or maybe up.

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But there was So this friend of
mine started a Facebook page for the

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parents of my son's seeing your class, right, And so she's been posting

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on there regularly about you know,
what's going on, and plus you know,

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we get an email like approximately daily
from the administration about you know,

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important reminders, important dates, you
know, stuff you need to do.

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And then on the Facebook page,
this person posts, you know, don't

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don't miss this email that went out
today, you know, so these are

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you know, this information is widely
available, is what I'm saying. And

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on the day that was the last
day. The woman who founded the page

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posted like it's the last day bubble, and one of the comments was,

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oh I thought they still went next
Monday into I was like, oh my

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gosh, how have you missed this
information that has been delivered to you in

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multiple ways like ten, ten to
twenty times, and I'm sure your child

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knows that they don't have to go
to school. Oh my gosh. I

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couldn't believe it. I was like, Wow, that's that takes some skill

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right there too, just be blissfully
unaware of everything that's going on. So

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well, are we have we exhausted
our superhero trait of talking and blabbing?

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That's right for now, for now, for now till tomorrow. Yes,

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but that's it for round four.
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